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Ok so help me out guys. I had a social (and possibly more) arranged for tonight and the guy in question put a status up looking to arrange a social tonight! This place makes me question my sanity sometimes haha x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nah that's fair, if you arranged something and hes looking to arrange something else, it's a but dismissive but happens , same happened to me a little while ago but hoping to still talk to the person |
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over a year ago
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"Ok so help me out guys. I had a social (and possibly more) arranged for tonight and the guy in question put a status up looking to arrange a social tonight! This place makes me question my sanity sometimes haha x"
I had two cancel on me a couple of weeks ago
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Unfortunately it’s the way fab works sometimes, ages ago we had a meet planned then for no reason they pulled out. Following day the Cheeky bugger asked to meet again as the one they blew us out for fell through, apparently it’s called hedging your bets, we told him to jog on!! |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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Could be a valid reason.
He forgot - though a bit shitty still.
Maybe you got the dates wrong? Possible!
Question and double check, judge how he responds.
If neither of those things are the reason then fuck them, and not in the good way. |
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All of the above.
OP one question as not clear, has he cancelled your social tonight ? If not it could be he’s just put the wrong date in the meet invitation
Or he could be edging his bets, not right, thinking maybe you aren’t showing tonight.... have you been in communication with each other today ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have you thought in asking him in why
rather than moan on here "
Shes asking if its weird to be annoyed, not why he might have `-` I'm sure shes thought of that or asked him by now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Has he forgot ? Seems odd
We were literally in the middle of finalizing times etc this morning haha x"
Then he's not worth it.
Meet someone else instead. |
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over a year ago
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"Has he forgot ? Seems odd
We were literally in the middle of finalizing times etc this morning haha x"
Well unfortunately he’s edging his bets. I’d be blocking him and not meeting. I’d even just send him a massage saying “ sorry I can’t make this evening I don’t fancy a 3some  |
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"Has he forgot ? Seems odd
We were literally in the middle of finalizing times etc this morning haha x
Well unfortunately he’s edging his bets. I’d be blocking him and not meeting. I’d even just send him a massage saying “ sorry I can’t make this evening I don’t fancy a 3some "
or I would just say "sorry, mate but I've had a better offer"  |
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"Could be a valid reason.
He forgot - though a bit shitty still.
Maybe you got the dates wrong? Possible!
Question and double check, judge how he responds.
If neither of those things are the reason then fuck them, and not in the good way. "
We were messaging this morning and through the day to finalise times etc so it's not that he's forgotten. He hasn't responded since I mentioned it lol.
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"Has he forgot ? Seems odd
We were literally in the middle of finalizing times etc this morning haha x
Well unfortunately he’s edging his bets. I’d be blocking him and not meeting. I’d even just send him a massage saying “ sorry I can’t make this evening I don’t fancy a 3some
or I would just say "sorry, mate but I've had a better offer" "
Childish I know but  |
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"Has he forgot ? Seems odd
We were literally in the middle of finalizing times etc this morning haha x
Well unfortunately he’s edging his bets. I’d be blocking him and not meeting. I’d even just send him a massage saying “ sorry I can’t make this evening I don’t fancy a 3some
or I would just say "sorry, mate but I've had a better offer"
Childish I know but "
Sorry I meant  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Could be a valid reason.
He forgot - though a bit shitty still.
Maybe you got the dates wrong? Possible!
Question and double check, judge how he responds.
If neither of those things are the reason then fuck them, and not in the good way.
We were messaging this morning and through the day to finalise times etc so it's not that he's forgotten. He hasn't responded since I mentioned it lol.
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There's your answer. No response is an answer, too.
Forget him. |
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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol. "
Stick a meet up and block him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Same happened to me a few weeks ago.
Someone asked me to take him to a local club then a couple of days before he put a status up asking if someone would take him to a club that same night.
I questioned him about it and he just said he thought the other club was a better fit.
Hadn’t told me though |
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol. "
Just block and move on, if you’ve asked him and he’s not replied or explained (only given explanation I can think of is 2 socials in one evening) but given you said it could of been more I do think he was keeping his options open. I’m sorry but I’d never be someone’s second option.
You deserve better. X |
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"I would bloody raging and message to ask what he is playing at. You deserve an explaination
‘Raging’ really? Slightly OTT reaction??  "
Not at all, raging would be totally justified. Had he planned to stand the poor girl up if he got a better offer?. |
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol. "
It's rude, and a dick move. "Oh it's just fab" shouldn't be an excuse for people to act like other people are disposable. None of us are, so don't question your reaction, OP.
Block and move on.
Mrs TMN x |
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him "
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"All of the above.
OP one question as not clear, has he cancelled your social tonight ? If not it could be he’s just put the wrong date in the meet invitation
Or he could be edging his bets, not right, thinking maybe you aren’t showing tonight.... have you been in communication with each other today ? "
Sorry completely missed your comment. He hasn't cancelled and still wants me to go over, I have declined. We have been in contact a few times today, he's put 3 meets up for the 3 days he's in the area. I wouldn't mind at all if he'd cancelled x |
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him "
Why? Do 2 wrongs make a right? This sort of thing happens all the time on fab, unfortunately if you aren’t thick skinned to deal with it then maybe this isn’t the place for you ? Harsh but true |
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him
Why? Do 2 wrongs make a right? This sort of thing happens all the time on fab, unfortunately if you aren’t thick skinned to deal with it then maybe this isn’t the place for you ? Harsh but true "
I have to disagree. I have morals and I’d never do this to someone in real life or fab. It shows what type of person you are if you’d do the same |
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him
Why? Do 2 wrongs make a right? This sort of thing happens all the time on fab, unfortunately if you aren’t thick skinned to deal with it then maybe this isn’t the place for you ? Harsh but true "
So you think it is ok?. People have feelings and it only happens if folk let them away with it. I would ask for an explaination and tell him how i felt and maybe next time he would think twice before messing someone around. |
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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him
Why? Do 2 wrongs make a right? This sort of thing happens all the time on fab, unfortunately if you aren’t thick skinned to deal with it then maybe this isn’t the place for you ? Harsh but true "
There is nothing wrong about it. She was looking forward to tonight. He has been a dick. He deserves to be blocked. She deserves a night out still. It's really that simple. |
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him
Why? Do 2 wrongs make a right? This sort of thing happens all the time on fab, unfortunately if you aren’t thick skinned to deal with it then maybe this isn’t the place for you ? Harsh but true
So you think it is ok?. People have feelings and it only happens if folk let them away with it. I would ask for an explaination and tell him how i felt and maybe next time he would think twice before messing someone around."
I don’t agree with what he has done, but I do accept it is all part of what happens on here |
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him
Why? Do 2 wrongs make a right? This sort of thing happens all the time on fab, unfortunately if you aren’t thick skinned to deal with it then maybe this isn’t the place for you ? Harsh but true
So you think it is ok?. People have feelings and it only happens if folk let them away with it. I would ask for an explaination and tell him how i felt and maybe next time he would think twice before messing someone around.
I don’t agree with what he has done, but I do accept it is all part of what happens on here "
Well i don't and will never accept anyone treating me like an idiot. |
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him
Why? Do 2 wrongs make a right? This sort of thing happens all the time on fab, unfortunately if you aren’t thick skinned to deal with it then maybe this isn’t the place for you ? Harsh but true
So you think it is ok?. People have feelings and it only happens if folk let them away with it. I would ask for an explaination and tell him how i felt and maybe next time he would think twice before messing someone around.
I don’t agree with what he has done, but I do accept it is all part of what happens on here "
Well I’ve never had it happen to me, nor have I ever done it to someone and I’ve been in here on and off 8 years. Maybe Dicks behave like that. But I don’t meet dicks. Maybe your meeting the wrong people |
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him
Why? Do 2 wrongs make a right? This sort of thing happens all the time on fab, unfortunately if you aren’t thick skinned to deal with it then maybe this isn’t the place for you ? Harsh but true
I have to disagree. I have morals and I’d never do this to someone in real life or fab. It shows what type of person you are if you’d do the same "
I wouldn’t do the same, but I am not naive enough to think it doesn’t happen all the time, I am willing to bet we have all done something similar ?? |
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him
Why? Do 2 wrongs make a right? This sort of thing happens all the time on fab, unfortunately if you aren’t thick skinned to deal with it then maybe this isn’t the place for you ? Harsh but true
So you think it is ok?. People have feelings and it only happens if folk let them away with it. I would ask for an explaination and tell him how i felt and maybe next time he would think twice before messing someone around.
I don’t agree with what he has done, but I do accept it is all part of what happens on here
Well I’ve never had it happen to me, nor have I ever done it to someone and I’ve been in here on and off 8 years. Maybe Dicks behave like that. But I don’t meet dicks. Maybe your meeting the wrong people "
The fact you think it has never happened to you means you are very naive . |
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him
Why? Do 2 wrongs make a right? This sort of thing happens all the time on fab, unfortunately if you aren’t thick skinned to deal with it then maybe this isn’t the place for you ? Harsh but true
So you think it is ok?. People have feelings and it only happens if folk let them away with it. I would ask for an explaination and tell him how i felt and maybe next time he would think twice before messing someone around.
I don’t agree with what he has done, but I do accept it is all part of what happens on here
Well I’ve never had it happen to me, nor have I ever done it to someone and I’ve been in here on and off 8 years. Maybe Dicks behave like that. But I don’t meet dicks. Maybe your meeting the wrong people
The fact you think it has never happened to you means you are very naive . "
No , i can assure you it’s never happened to me. Every meet I’ve arranged has stuck to his word. |
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Happened to us last month we’d arrange to meet a couple in town at 1:30 then the night before they put on their status meet tomorrow at 2pm we can accommodate! Lol glad we noticed status update before we went to the pub to wait for people that were obviously not going to turn up!
My usual response is to sigh and say ‘that’s fab for you’ don’t worry they’re always some lovely genuine people around the corner! |
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him
Why? Do 2 wrongs make a right? This sort of thing happens all the time on fab, unfortunately if you aren’t thick skinned to deal with it then maybe this isn’t the place for you ? Harsh but true
So you think it is ok?. People have feelings and it only happens if folk let them away with it. I would ask for an explaination and tell him how i felt and maybe next time he would think twice before messing someone around.
I don’t agree with what he has done, but I do accept it is all part of what happens on here
Well i don't and will never accept anyone treating me like an idiot."
You only have one side of the story, if this was a man making the same complaint he would be castigated |
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
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I wouldn’t do the same, but I am not naive enough to think it doesn’t happen all the time, I am willing to bet we have all done something similar ??"
Erm no. Not to friends, family, colleagues or random strangers on the internet.
The reason.....I'm respectful and not a knobber. |
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him
Why? Do 2 wrongs make a right? This sort of thing happens all the time on fab, unfortunately if you aren’t thick skinned to deal with it then maybe this isn’t the place for you ? Harsh but true
So you think it is ok?. People have feelings and it only happens if folk let them away with it. I would ask for an explaination and tell him how i felt and maybe next time he would think twice before messing someone around.
I don’t agree with what he has done, but I do accept it is all part of what happens on here
Well I’ve never had it happen to me, nor have I ever done it to someone and I’ve been in here on and off 8 years. Maybe Dicks behave like that. But I don’t meet dicks. Maybe your meeting the wrong people
The fact you think it has never happened to you means you are very naive .
No , i can assure you it’s never happened to me. Every meet I’ve arranged has stuck to his word. "
And are you certain that every meet you have had hadn’t tried to arrange something ‘better’ but couldn’t ? Fab is a strange place, no meet is guaranteed until it happens, I have heard all sorts of excuses |
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I wouldn’t do the same, but I am not naive enough to think it doesn’t happen all the time, I am willing to bet we have all done something similar ??
Erm no. Not to friends, family, colleagues or random strangers on the internet.
The reason.....I'm respectful and not a knobber."
Ok, you are paragon of virtue |
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him
Why? Do 2 wrongs make a right? This sort of thing happens all the time on fab, unfortunately if you aren’t thick skinned to deal with it then maybe this isn’t the place for you ? Harsh but true
So you think it is ok?. People have feelings and it only happens if folk let them away with it. I would ask for an explaination and tell him how i felt and maybe next time he would think twice before messing someone around.
I don’t agree with what he has done, but I do accept it is all part of what happens on here
Well I’ve never had it happen to me, nor have I ever done it to someone and I’ve been in here on and off 8 years. Maybe Dicks behave like that. But I don’t meet dicks. Maybe your meeting the wrong people
The fact you think it has never happened to you means you are very naive .
No , i can assure you it’s never happened to me. Every meet I’ve arranged has stuck to his word.
And are you certain that every meet you have had hadn’t tried to arrange something ‘better’ but couldn’t ? Fab is a strange place, no meet is guaranteed until it happens, I have heard all sorts of excuses "
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him
Why? Do 2 wrongs make a right? This sort of thing happens all the time on fab, unfortunately if you aren’t thick skinned to deal with it then maybe this isn’t the place for you ? Harsh but true
So you think it is ok?. People have feelings and it only happens if folk let them away with it. I would ask for an explaination and tell him how i felt and maybe next time he would think twice before messing someone around.
I don’t agree with what he has done, but I do accept it is all part of what happens on here
Well i don't and will never accept anyone treating me like an idiot.
You only have one side of the story, if this was a man making the same complaint he would be castigated "
Not at all. Nobody should be treated like this whether you are male or female. |
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I'd expect someone to communicate with me before planning something else. An arrangement is sacrosanct, with respect and common courtesy dictating that you just do not do this. I'd message to request confirmation of what he's doing but I'd potentially not be interested in someone who's unreliable and never with anyone lacking respect.
Perhaps it's fortunate that you are forewarned. |
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him
Why? Do 2 wrongs make a right? This sort of thing happens all the time on fab, unfortunately if you aren’t thick skinned to deal with it then maybe this isn’t the place for you ? Harsh but true
So you think it is ok?. People have feelings and it only happens if folk let them away with it. I would ask for an explaination and tell him how i felt and maybe next time he would think twice before messing someone around.
I don’t agree with what he has done, but I do accept it is all part of what happens on here
Well i don't and will never accept anyone treating me like an idiot.
You only have one side of the story, if this was a man making the same complaint he would be castigated
Not at all. Nobody should be treated like this whether you are male or female."
I agree, but it happens all the time, no point in letting it get to you . All is fair in love, war and fab |
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him
Why? Do 2 wrongs make a right? This sort of thing happens all the time on fab, unfortunately if you aren’t thick skinned to deal with it then maybe this isn’t the place for you ? Harsh but true
So you think it is ok?. People have feelings and it only happens if folk let them away with it. I would ask for an explaination and tell him how i felt and maybe next time he would think twice before messing someone around.
I don’t agree with what he has done, but I do accept it is all part of what happens on here
Well i don't and will never accept anyone treating me like an idiot.
You only have one side of the story, if this was a man making the same complaint he would be castigated
Not at all. Nobody should be treated like this whether you are male or female.
I agree, but it happens all the time, no point in letting it get to you . All is fair in love, war and fab "
You say “ it happens all the time” to whom ? Never to me |
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"Ok so help me out guys. I had a social (and possibly more) arranged for tonight and the guy in question put a status up looking to arrange a social tonight! This place makes me question my sanity sometimes haha x"
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him
Why? Do 2 wrongs make a right? This sort of thing happens all the time on fab, unfortunately if you aren’t thick skinned to deal with it then maybe this isn’t the place for you ? Harsh but true
So you think it is ok?. People have feelings and it only happens if folk let them away with it. I would ask for an explaination and tell him how i felt and maybe next time he would think twice before messing someone around.
I don’t agree with what he has done, but I do accept it is all part of what happens on here
Well I’ve never had it happen to me, nor have I ever done it to someone and I’ve been in here on and off 8 years. Maybe Dicks behave like that. But I don’t meet dicks. Maybe your meeting the wrong people
The fact you think it has never happened to you means you are very naive .
No , i can assure you it’s never happened to me. Every meet I’ve arranged has stuck to his word.
And are you certain that every meet you have had hadn’t tried to arrange something ‘better’ but couldn’t ? Fab is a strange place, no meet is guaranteed until it happens, I have heard all sorts of excuses
Yes , OMG what’s up with you!! "
You carry on believing what you want? If you think that every meet you have had suddenly stopped looking for an alternative on the basis that you have arranged a meet with them is either naive or arrogant ? |
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him
Why? Do 2 wrongs make a right? This sort of thing happens all the time on fab, unfortunately if you aren’t thick skinned to deal with it then maybe this isn’t the place for you ? Harsh but true
So you think it is ok?. People have feelings and it only happens if folk let them away with it. I would ask for an explaination and tell him how i felt and maybe next time he would think twice before messing someone around.
I don’t agree with what he has done, but I do accept it is all part of what happens on here
Well i don't and will never accept anyone treating me like an idiot.
You only have one side of the story, if this was a man making the same complaint he would be castigated
Not at all. Nobody should be treated like this whether you are male or female.
I agree, but it happens all the time, no point in letting it get to you . All is fair in love, war and fab
You say “ it happens all the time” to whom ? Never to me "
The same scenario as the OP may never have happened, but I can assure you something similar will have . |
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him
Why? Do 2 wrongs make a right? This sort of thing happens all the time on fab, unfortunately if you aren’t thick skinned to deal with it then maybe this isn’t the place for you ? Harsh but true
So you think it is ok?. People have feelings and it only happens if folk let them away with it. I would ask for an explaination and tell him how i felt and maybe next time he would think twice before messing someone around.
I don’t agree with what he has done, but I do accept it is all part of what happens on here
Well i don't and will never accept anyone treating me like an idiot.
You only have one side of the story, if this was a man making the same complaint he would be castigated
Not at all. Nobody should be treated like this whether you are male or female.
I agree, but it happens all the time, no point in letting it get to you . All is fair in love, war and fab "
It upsets me to think that others treat folk this way but it upsets me more when people just accept it. |
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him
Why? Do 2 wrongs make a right? This sort of thing happens all the time on fab, unfortunately if you aren’t thick skinned to deal with it then maybe this isn’t the place for you ? Harsh but true
So you think it is ok?. People have feelings and it only happens if folk let them away with it. I would ask for an explaination and tell him how i felt and maybe next time he would think twice before messing someone around.
I don’t agree with what he has done, but I do accept it is all part of what happens on here
Well i don't and will never accept anyone treating me like an idiot.
You only have one side of the story, if this was a man making the same complaint he would be castigated "
I don’t think this is a male vs female discussion. The gender isn’t the issue, the behaviour is. |
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him
Why? Do 2 wrongs make a right? This sort of thing happens all the time on fab, unfortunately if you aren’t thick skinned to deal with it then maybe this isn’t the place for you ? Harsh but true
So you think it is ok?. People have feelings and it only happens if folk let them away with it. I would ask for an explaination and tell him how i felt and maybe next time he would think twice before messing someone around.
I don’t agree with what he has done, but I do accept it is all part of what happens on here
Well I’ve never had it happen to me, nor have I ever done it to someone and I’ve been in here on and off 8 years. Maybe Dicks behave like that. But I don’t meet dicks. Maybe your meeting the wrong people
The fact you think it has never happened to you means you are very naive .
No , i can assure you it’s never happened to me. Every meet I’ve arranged has stuck to his word.
And are you certain that every meet you have had hadn’t tried to arrange something ‘better’ but couldn’t ? Fab is a strange place, no meet is guaranteed until it happens, I have heard all sorts of excuses
Yes , OMG what’s up with you!!
You carry on believing what you want? If you think that every meet you have had suddenly stopped looking for an alternative on the basis that you have arranged a meet with them is either naive or arrogant ? "
I’m sorry but every meet I’ve met have been honest and genuine. I pick carefully. Maybe in your world this is a usual occurrence, but not in mine. |
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over a year ago
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him
Why? Do 2 wrongs make a right? This sort of thing happens all the time on fab, unfortunately if you aren’t thick skinned to deal with it then maybe this isn’t the place for you ? Harsh but true
So you think it is ok?. People have feelings and it only happens if folk let them away with it. I would ask for an explaination and tell him how i felt and maybe next time he would think twice before messing someone around.
I don’t agree with what he has done, but I do accept it is all part of what happens on here
Well i don't and will never accept anyone treating me like an idiot.
You only have one side of the story, if this was a man making the same complaint he would be castigated
Not at all. Nobody should be treated like this whether you are male or female.
I agree, but it happens all the time, no point in letting it get to you . All is fair in love, war and fab
It upsets me to think that others treat folk this way but it upsets me more when people just accept it."
You have 2 options, accept it ? Or get angry and upset about it? Neither option will change anything |
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By *uicy jonesMan
over a year ago
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You have every right to be annoyed !!!!
Firstly if he decided he doesn't want to meet you he should've messaged you and said sorry but I've change my mind , Secondly he should never of put a meet up without even letting you know !!!! He needs to grow self a pair !!! And it will totally be his loss not meeting you Xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dicks everywhere
I wonder how many people prefer the chase / tease?
I've also found that my view of 'agreed to meet' is not always the same as the other party  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him
Why? Do 2 wrongs make a right? This sort of thing happens all the time on fab, unfortunately if you aren’t thick skinned to deal with it then maybe this isn’t the place for you ? Harsh but true
So you think it is ok?. People have feelings and it only happens if folk let them away with it. I would ask for an explaination and tell him how i felt and maybe next time he would think twice before messing someone around.
I don’t agree with what he has done, but I do accept it is all part of what happens on here
Well i don't and will never accept anyone treating me like an idiot.
You only have one side of the story, if this was a man making the same complaint he would be castigated
Not at all. Nobody should be treated like this whether you are male or female.
I agree, but it happens all the time, no point in letting it get to you . All is fair in love, war and fab
You say “ it happens all the time” to whom ? Never to me
The same scenario as the OP may never have happened, but I can assure you something similar will have . "
This is just your opinion and mindset, maybe that’s usual for you and you think nothing of it. But it’s not right and most genuine people would never do something so blatantly underhand |
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over a year ago
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him
Why? Do 2 wrongs make a right? This sort of thing happens all the time on fab, unfortunately if you aren’t thick skinned to deal with it then maybe this isn’t the place for you ? Harsh but true
So you think it is ok?. People have feelings and it only happens if folk let them away with it. I would ask for an explaination and tell him how i felt and maybe next time he would think twice before messing someone around.
I don’t agree with what he has done, but I do accept it is all part of what happens on here
Well I’ve never had it happen to me, nor have I ever done it to someone and I’ve been in here on and off 8 years. Maybe Dicks behave like that. But I don’t meet dicks. Maybe your meeting the wrong people
The fact you think it has never happened to you means you are very naive .
No , i can assure you it’s never happened to me. Every meet I’ve arranged has stuck to his word.
And are you certain that every meet you have had hadn’t tried to arrange something ‘better’ but couldn’t ? Fab is a strange place, no meet is guaranteed until it happens, I have heard all sorts of excuses
Yes , OMG what’s up with you!!
You carry on believing what you want? If you think that every meet you have had suddenly stopped looking for an alternative on the basis that you have arranged a meet with them is either naive or arrogant ?
I’m sorry but every meet I’ve met have been honest and genuine. I pick carefully. Maybe in your world this is a usual occurrence, but not in mine. "
Ok, then fab is obviously the perfect place for you . I accept your experiences are different to mine, I guess you accept mine aswell |
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him
Why? Do 2 wrongs make a right? This sort of thing happens all the time on fab, unfortunately if you aren’t thick skinned to deal with it then maybe this isn’t the place for you ? Harsh but true
So you think it is ok?. People have feelings and it only happens if folk let them away with it. I would ask for an explaination and tell him how i felt and maybe next time he would think twice before messing someone around.
I don’t agree with what he has done, but I do accept it is all part of what happens on here
Well I’ve never had it happen to me, nor have I ever done it to someone and I’ve been in here on and off 8 years. Maybe Dicks behave like that. But I don’t meet dicks. Maybe your meeting the wrong people
The fact you think it has never happened to you means you are very naive .
No , i can assure you it’s never happened to me. Every meet I’ve arranged has stuck to his word.
And are you certain that every meet you have had hadn’t tried to arrange something ‘better’ but couldn’t ? Fab is a strange place, no meet is guaranteed until it happens, I have heard all sorts of excuses
Yes , OMG what’s up with you!!
You carry on believing what you want? If you think that every meet you have had suddenly stopped looking for an alternative on the basis that you have arranged a meet with them is either naive or arrogant ?
I’m sorry but every meet I’ve met have been honest and genuine. I pick carefully. Maybe in your world this is a usual occurrence, but not in mine.
Ok, then fab is obviously the perfect place for you . I accept your experiences are different to mine, I guess you accept mine aswell "
Yes fab is the perfect place for me right now in my life, is it not yours as you are here also? I just choose wisely and I’m not just after “sex” a quick fuck. |
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over a year ago
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"Dicks everywhere
I wonder how many people prefer the chase / tease?
I've also found that my view of 'agreed to meet' is not always the same as the other party "
Exactly, in my experience an agreement to meet means very little, I have been blocked on the day of meet without explanation I have heard every excuse in the book . People change their minds , it happens all the time, most don’t give a reason , move on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him
Why? Do 2 wrongs make a right? This sort of thing happens all the time on fab, unfortunately if you aren’t thick skinned to deal with it then maybe this isn’t the place for you ? Harsh but true
So you think it is ok?. People have feelings and it only happens if folk let them away with it. I would ask for an explaination and tell him how i felt and maybe next time he would think twice before messing someone around.
I don’t agree with what he has done, but I do accept it is all part of what happens on here
Well I’ve never had it happen to me, nor have I ever done it to someone and I’ve been in here on and off 8 years. Maybe Dicks behave like that. But I don’t meet dicks. Maybe your meeting the wrong people
The fact you think it has never happened to you means you are very naive .
No , i can assure you it’s never happened to me. Every meet I’ve arranged has stuck to his word.
And are you certain that every meet you have had hadn’t tried to arrange something ‘better’ but couldn’t ? Fab is a strange place, no meet is guaranteed until it happens, I have heard all sorts of excuses
Yes , OMG what’s up with you!!
You carry on believing what you want? If you think that every meet you have had suddenly stopped looking for an alternative on the basis that you have arranged a meet with them is either naive or arrogant ?
I’m sorry but every meet I’ve met have been honest and genuine. I pick carefully. Maybe in your world this is a usual occurrence, but not in mine.
Ok, then fab is obviously the perfect place for you . I accept your experiences are different to mine, I guess you accept mine aswell
Yes fab is the perfect place for me right now in my life, is it not yours as you are here also? I just choose wisely and I’m not just after “sex” a quick fuck. "
I like fab, but I know the pitfalls, it certainly isnt my only social outlet . Are you suggesting that you can’t use the site for just ‘sex’ or a quick fuck? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him
Why? Do 2 wrongs make a right? This sort of thing happens all the time on fab, unfortunately if you aren’t thick skinned to deal with it then maybe this isn’t the place for you ? Harsh but true
So you think it is ok?. People have feelings and it only happens if folk let them away with it. I would ask for an explaination and tell him how i felt and maybe next time he would think twice before messing someone around.
I don’t agree with what he has done, but I do accept it is all part of what happens on here
Well I’ve never had it happen to me, nor have I ever done it to someone and I’ve been in here on and off 8 years. Maybe Dicks behave like that. But I don’t meet dicks. Maybe your meeting the wrong people
The fact you think it has never happened to you means you are very naive .
No , i can assure you it’s never happened to me. Every meet I’ve arranged has stuck to his word.
And are you certain that every meet you have had hadn’t tried to arrange something ‘better’ but couldn’t ? Fab is a strange place, no meet is guaranteed until it happens, I have heard all sorts of excuses
Yes , OMG what’s up with you!!
You carry on believing what you want? If you think that every meet you have had suddenly stopped looking for an alternative on the basis that you have arranged a meet with them is either naive or arrogant ?
I’m sorry but every meet I’ve met have been honest and genuine. I pick carefully. Maybe in your world this is a usual occurrence, but not in mine.
Ok, then fab is obviously the perfect place for you . I accept your experiences are different to mine, I guess you accept mine aswell
Yes fab is the perfect place for me right now in my life, is it not yours as you are here also? I just choose wisely and I’m not just after “sex” a quick fuck.
I like fab, but I know the pitfalls, it certainly isnt my only social outlet . Are you suggesting that you can’t use the site for just ‘sex’ or a quick fuck? "
No not at all. I’m saying if you were like some men do then maybe what your saying could be true, but I personally don’t, so therefore I don’t behave like so, and my meets have been the same. It shows lack or respect, maybe your ok with that. I’m not. |
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"Dicks everywhere
I wonder how many people prefer the chase / tease?
I've also found that my view of 'agreed to meet' is not always the same as the other party
Exactly, in my experience an agreement to meet means very little, I have been blocked on the day of meet without explanation I have heard every excuse in the book . People change their minds , it happens all the time, most don’t give a reason , move on "
I have never had this experience and think it unacceptable behaviour!
We all have the right to change our minds but what about common decency!
A heads up surely should be a given. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him
Why? Do 2 wrongs make a right? This sort of thing happens all the time on fab, unfortunately if you aren’t thick skinned to deal with it then maybe this isn’t the place for you ? Harsh but true
So you think it is ok?. People have feelings and it only happens if folk let them away with it. I would ask for an explaination and tell him how i felt and maybe next time he would think twice before messing someone around.
I don’t agree with what he has done, but I do accept it is all part of what happens on here
Well I’ve never had it happen to me, nor have I ever done it to someone and I’ve been in here on and off 8 years. Maybe Dicks behave like that. But I don’t meet dicks. Maybe your meeting the wrong people
The fact you think it has never happened to you means you are very naive .
No , i can assure you it’s never happened to me. Every meet I’ve arranged has stuck to his word.
And are you certain that every meet you have had hadn’t tried to arrange something ‘better’ but couldn’t ? Fab is a strange place, no meet is guaranteed until it happens, I have heard all sorts of excuses
Yes , OMG what’s up with you!!
You carry on believing what you want? If you think that every meet you have had suddenly stopped looking for an alternative on the basis that you have arranged a meet with them is either naive or arrogant ?
I’m sorry but every meet I’ve met have been honest and genuine. I pick carefully. Maybe in your world this is a usual occurrence, but not in mine.
Ok, then fab is obviously the perfect place for you . I accept your experiences are different to mine, I guess you accept mine aswell
Yes fab is the perfect place for me right now in my life, is it not yours as you are here also? I just choose wisely and I’m not just after “sex” a quick fuck.
I like fab, but I know the pitfalls, it certainly isnt my only social outlet . Are you suggesting that you can’t use the site for just ‘sex’ or a quick fuck?
No not at all. I’m saying if you were like some men do then maybe what your saying could be true, but I personally don’t, so therefore I don’t behave like so, and my meets have been the same. It shows lack or respect, maybe your ok with that. I’m not. "
I accept it for what it is . There was a similar thread stated by a man recently and he was shot down in flames, told to stop moaning, told that he wasn’t owed anything, told that people can change their minds and he doesn’t deserve a reason? So I guess some people are ok with that type of behaviour |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dicks everywhere
I wonder how many people prefer the chase / tease?
I've also found that my view of 'agreed to meet' is not always the same as the other party
Exactly, in my experience an agreement to meet means very little, I have been blocked on the day of meet without explanation I have heard every excuse in the book . People change their minds , it happens all the time, most don’t give a reason , move on
I have never had this experience and think it unacceptable behaviour!
We all have the right to change our minds but what about common decency!
A heads up surely should be a given."
Exactly! Anyway OP, I hope you have a lovely evening what ever you decide to do. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him
Why? Do 2 wrongs make a right? This sort of thing happens all the time on fab, unfortunately if you aren’t thick skinned to deal with it then maybe this isn’t the place for you ? Harsh but true
So you think it is ok?. People have feelings and it only happens if folk let them away with it. I would ask for an explaination and tell him how i felt and maybe next time he would think twice before messing someone around.
I don’t agree with what he has done, but I do accept it is all part of what happens on here
Well I’ve never had it happen to me, nor have I ever done it to someone and I’ve been in here on and off 8 years. Maybe Dicks behave like that. But I don’t meet dicks. Maybe your meeting the wrong people
The fact you think it has never happened to you means you are very naive .
No , i can assure you it’s never happened to me. Every meet I’ve arranged has stuck to his word.
And are you certain that every meet you have had hadn’t tried to arrange something ‘better’ but couldn’t ? Fab is a strange place, no meet is guaranteed until it happens, I have heard all sorts of excuses
Yes , OMG what’s up with you!!
You carry on believing what you want? If you think that every meet you have had suddenly stopped looking for an alternative on the basis that you have arranged a meet with them is either naive or arrogant ?
I’m sorry but every meet I’ve met have been honest and genuine. I pick carefully. Maybe in your world this is a usual occurrence, but not in mine.
Ok, then fab is obviously the perfect place for you . I accept your experiences are different to mine, I guess you accept mine aswell
Yes fab is the perfect place for me right now in my life, is it not yours as you are here also? I just choose wisely and I’m not just after “sex” a quick fuck.
I like fab, but I know the pitfalls, it certainly isnt my only social outlet . Are you suggesting that you can’t use the site for just ‘sex’ or a quick fuck?
No not at all. I’m saying if you were like some men do then maybe what your saying could be true, but I personally don’t, so therefore I don’t behave like so, and my meets have been the same. It shows lack or respect, maybe your ok with that. I’m not.
I accept it for what it is . There was a similar thread stated by a man recently and he was shot down in flames, told to stop moaning, told that he wasn’t owed anything, told that people can change their minds and he doesn’t deserve a reason? So I guess some people are ok with that type of behaviour "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dicks everywhere
I wonder how many people prefer the chase / tease?
I've also found that my view of 'agreed to meet' is not always the same as the other party
Exactly, in my experience an agreement to meet means very little, I have been blocked on the day of meet without explanation I have heard every excuse in the book . People change their minds , it happens all the time, most don’t give a reason , move on
I have never had this experience and think it unacceptable behaviour!
We all have the right to change our minds but what about common decency!
A heads up surely should be a given."
I agree, maybe single females and couples get treated with more respect then single men. I am certain that nearly every single man on fab has experienced something similar or worse than the OP |
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him
Why? Do 2 wrongs make a right? This sort of thing happens all the time on fab, unfortunately if you aren’t thick skinned to deal with it then maybe this isn’t the place for you ? Harsh but true
So you think it is ok?. People have feelings and it only happens if folk let them away with it. I would ask for an explaination and tell him how i felt and maybe next time he would think twice before messing someone around.
I don’t agree with what he has done, but I do accept it is all part of what happens on here
Well I’ve never had it happen to me, nor have I ever done it to someone and I’ve been in here on and off 8 years. Maybe Dicks behave like that. But I don’t meet dicks. Maybe your meeting the wrong people
The fact you think it has never happened to you means you are very naive .
No , i can assure you it’s never happened to me. Every meet I’ve arranged has stuck to his word.
And are you certain that every meet you have had hadn’t tried to arrange something ‘better’ but couldn’t ? Fab is a strange place, no meet is guaranteed until it happens, I have heard all sorts of excuses
Yes , OMG what’s up with you!!
You carry on believing what you want? If you think that every meet you have had suddenly stopped looking for an alternative on the basis that you have arranged a meet with them is either naive or arrogant ?
I’m sorry but every meet I’ve met have been honest and genuine. I pick carefully. Maybe in your world this is a usual occurrence, but not in mine.
Ok, then fab is obviously the perfect place for you . I accept your experiences are different to mine, I guess you accept mine aswell
Yes fab is the perfect place for me right now in my life, is it not yours as you are here also? I just choose wisely and I’m not just after “sex” a quick fuck.
I like fab, but I know the pitfalls, it certainly isnt my only social outlet . Are you suggesting that you can’t use the site for just ‘sex’ or a quick fuck?
No not at all. I’m saying if you were like some men do then maybe what your saying could be true, but I personally don’t, so therefore I don’t behave like so, and my meets have been the same. It shows lack or respect, maybe your ok with that. I’m not.
I accept it for what it is . There was a similar thread stated by a man recently and he was shot down in flames, told to stop moaning, told that he wasn’t owed anything, told that people can change their minds and he doesn’t deserve a reason? So I guess some people are ok with that type of behaviour
Do you have a link ?"
No, I will have a look and try and find it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him
Why? Do 2 wrongs make a right? This sort of thing happens all the time on fab, unfortunately if you aren’t thick skinned to deal with it then maybe this isn’t the place for you ? Harsh but true
So you think it is ok?. People have feelings and it only happens if folk let them away with it. I would ask for an explaination and tell him how i felt and maybe next time he would think twice before messing someone around.
I don’t agree with what he has done, but I do accept it is all part of what happens on here
Well I’ve never had it happen to me, nor have I ever done it to someone and I’ve been in here on and off 8 years. Maybe Dicks behave like that. But I don’t meet dicks. Maybe your meeting the wrong people
The fact you think it has never happened to you means you are very naive .
No , i can assure you it’s never happened to me. Every meet I’ve arranged has stuck to his word.
And are you certain that every meet you have had hadn’t tried to arrange something ‘better’ but couldn’t ? Fab is a strange place, no meet is guaranteed until it happens, I have heard all sorts of excuses
Yes , OMG what’s up with you!!
You carry on believing what you want? If you think that every meet you have had suddenly stopped looking for an alternative on the basis that you have arranged a meet with them is either naive or arrogant ?
I’m sorry but every meet I’ve met have been honest and genuine. I pick carefully. Maybe in your world this is a usual occurrence, but not in mine.
Ok, then fab is obviously the perfect place for you . I accept your experiences are different to mine, I guess you accept mine aswell
Yes fab is the perfect place for me right now in my life, is it not yours as you are here also? I just choose wisely and I’m not just after “sex” a quick fuck.
I like fab, but I know the pitfalls, it certainly isnt my only social outlet . Are you suggesting that you can’t use the site for just ‘sex’ or a quick fuck?
No not at all. I’m saying if you were like some men do then maybe what your saying could be true, but I personally don’t, so therefore I don’t behave like so, and my meets have been the same. It shows lack or respect, maybe your ok with that. I’m not.
I accept it for what it is . There was a similar thread stated by a man recently and he was shot down in flames, told to stop moaning, told that he wasn’t owed anything, told that people can change their minds and he doesn’t deserve a reason? So I guess some people are ok with that type of behaviour
Do you have a link ?
No, I will have a look and try and find it "
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By *ixen500Couple
over a year ago
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"Ok so help me out guys. I had a social (and possibly more) arranged for tonight and the guy in question put a status up looking to arrange a social tonight! This place makes me question my sanity sometimes haha x"
Cheeky devil ! Yes id be annoyed |
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"Ok so help me out guys. I had a social (and possibly more) arranged for tonight and the guy in question put a status up looking to arrange a social tonight! This place makes me question my sanity sometimes haha x"
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Thats a bit annoying actually but how about planning a steamy night of passionate sex with someone, picturing exactly what they’re going to wear & how your bodies will clash in the moments of ecstasy only for her to delete your ‘how about a fuck message’ you’d hoped would make it all happen!
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"I wouldn't mind if he'd changed his mind, but I just thought it was underhanded and a dick move but then I completely questioned myself and my reaction lol.
Stick a meet up and block him
Why? Do 2 wrongs make a right? This sort of thing happens all the time on fab, unfortunately if you aren’t thick skinned to deal with it then maybe this isn’t the place for you ? Harsh but true
So you think it is ok?. People have feelings and it only happens if folk let them away with it. I would ask for an explaination and tell him how i felt and maybe next time he would think twice before messing someone around.
I don’t agree with what he has done, but I do accept it is all part of what happens on here
Well I’ve never had it happen to me, nor have I ever done it to someone and I’ve been in here on and off 8 years. Maybe Dicks behave like that. But I don’t meet dicks. Maybe your meeting the wrong people
The fact you think it has never happened to you means you are very naive .
No , i can assure you it’s never happened to me. Every meet I’ve arranged has stuck to his word.
And are you certain that every meet you have had hadn’t tried to arrange something ‘better’ but couldn’t ? Fab is a strange place, no meet is guaranteed until it happens, I have heard all sorts of excuses
Yes , OMG what’s up with you!!
You carry on believing what you want? If you think that every meet you have had suddenly stopped looking for an alternative on the basis that you have arranged a meet with them is either naive or arrogant ?
I’m sorry but every meet I’ve met have been honest and genuine. I pick carefully. Maybe in your world this is a usual occurrence, but not in mine.
Ok, then fab is obviously the perfect place for you . I accept your experiences are different to mine, I guess you accept mine aswell
Yes fab is the perfect place for me right now in my life, is it not yours as you are here also? I just choose wisely and I’m not just after “sex” a quick fuck.
I like fab, but I know the pitfalls, it certainly isnt my only social outlet . Are you suggesting that you can’t use the site for just ‘sex’ or a quick fuck?
No not at all. I’m saying if you were like some men do then maybe what your saying could be true, but I personally don’t, so therefore I don’t behave like so, and my meets have been the same. It shows lack or respect, maybe your ok with that. I’m not.
I accept it for what it is . There was a similar thread stated by a man recently and he was shot down in flames, told to stop moaning, told that he wasn’t owed anything, told that people can change their minds and he doesn’t deserve a reason? So I guess some people are ok with that type of behaviour "
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"Dicks everywhere
I wonder how many people prefer the chase / tease?
I've also found that my view of 'agreed to meet' is not always the same as the other party
Exactly, in my experience an agreement to meet means very little, I have been blocked on the day of meet without explanation I have heard every excuse in the book . People change their minds , it happens all the time, most don’t give a reason , move on
I have never had this experience and think it unacceptable behaviour!
We all have the right to change our minds but what about common decency!
A heads up surely should be a given.
I agree, maybe single females and couples get treated with more respect then single men. I am certain that nearly every single man on fab has experienced something similar or worse than the OP "
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"Dicks everywhere
I wonder how many people prefer the chase / tease?
I've also found that my view of 'agreed to meet' is not always the same as the other party
Exactly, in my experience an agreement to meet means very little, I have been blocked on the day of meet without explanation I have heard every excuse in the book . People change their minds , it happens all the time, most don’t give a reason , move on
I have never had this experience and think it unacceptable behaviour!
We all have the right to change our minds but what about common decency!
A heads up surely should be a given.
I agree, maybe single females and couples get treated with more respect then single men. I am certain that nearly every single man on fab has experienced something similar or worse than the OP
Who ever does it male or female is out of order!
It's not cool "
Obviously, but it happens, probably about 100 times a day, the rules of good manners and respect are often missing on here |
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"Dicks everywhere
I wonder how many people prefer the chase / tease?
I've also found that my view of 'agreed to meet' is not always the same as the other party
Exactly, in my experience an agreement to meet means very little, I have been blocked on the day of meet without explanation I have heard every excuse in the book . People change their minds , it happens all the time, most don’t give a reason , move on
I have never had this experience and think it unacceptable behaviour!
We all have the right to change our minds but what about common decency!
A heads up surely should be a given.
I agree, maybe single females and couples get treated with more respect then single men. I am certain that nearly every single man on fab has experienced something similar or worse than the OP
Who ever does it male or female is out of order!
It's not cool
Obviously, but it happens, probably about 100 times a day, the rules of good manners and respect are often missing on here "
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"He’s just keeping he’s options open. After all ain’t this site all about the best offer. Or does that just apply to the women  "
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"He’s just keeping he’s options open. After all ain’t this site all about the best offer. Or does that just apply to the women
I’m a woman and I don’t look for “ better offers” define better offers. I have respect for people, If I arranged a meet I’d certainly never look for someone else. Why would I?"
Because it’s for nsa. You have to speculate to accumulate |
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"He’s just keeping he’s options open. After all ain’t this site all about the best offer. Or does that just apply to the women
I’m a woman and I don’t look for “ better offers” define better offers. I have respect for people, If I arranged a meet I’d certainly never look for someone else. Why would I?
Because it’s for nsa. You have to speculate to accumulate "
No no no. I’m sorry but I’m not a dick and people I meet aren’t dicks. What a horrible way to think |
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"He’s just keeping he’s options open. After all ain’t this site all about the best offer. Or does that just apply to the women
I’m a woman and I don’t look for “ better offers” define better offers. I have respect for people, If I arranged a meet I’d certainly never look for someone else. Why would I?
Because it’s for nsa. You have to speculate to accumulate
No no no. I’m sorry but I’m not a dick and people I meet aren’t dicks. What a horrible way to think "
I agree. Sadly 90% of women think this way on fab. Obviously the ones away from the forums |
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"He’s just keeping he’s options open. After all ain’t this site all about the best offer. Or does that just apply to the women
I’m a woman and I don’t look for “ better offers” define better offers. I have respect for people, If I arranged a meet I’d certainly never look for someone else. Why would I?
Because it’s for nsa. You have to speculate to accumulate "
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"He’s just keeping he’s options open. After all ain’t this site all about the best offer. Or does that just apply to the women
I’m a woman and I don’t look for “ better offers” define better offers. I have respect for people, If I arranged a meet I’d certainly never look for someone else. Why would I?
Because it’s for nsa. You have to speculate to accumulate
That's cold!"
That’s my experience of women. And very cold |
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"He’s just keeping he’s options open. After all ain’t this site all about the best offer. Or does that just apply to the women
I’m a woman and I don’t look for “ better offers” define better offers. I have respect for people, If I arranged a meet I’d certainly never look for someone else. Why would I?
Because it’s for nsa. You have to speculate to accumulate
No no no. I’m sorry but I’m not a dick and people I meet aren’t dicks. What a horrible way to think "
Why is it a horrible way to think, just because you use the site different to another person doesn’t make you right and them wrong . This is a sex/swinging site? People use it for a variety of reasons and you aren’t really in a position to criticise them . |
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"He’s just keeping he’s options open. After all ain’t this site all about the best offer. Or does that just apply to the women
I’m a woman and I don’t look for “ better offers” define better offers. I have respect for people, If I arranged a meet I’d certainly never look for someone else. Why would I?
Because it’s for nsa. You have to speculate to accumulate
That's cold!
That’s my experience of women. And very cold "
Well I’m sorry but you sound a little bitter. Not all men/woman are the same. Maybe change your approach or attitude |
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"He’s just keeping he’s options open. After all ain’t this site all about the best offer. Or does that just apply to the women
I’m a woman and I don’t look for “ better offers” define better offers. I have respect for people, If I arranged a meet I’d certainly never look for someone else. Why would I?
Because it’s for nsa. You have to speculate to accumulate
No no no. I’m sorry but I’m not a dick and people I meet aren’t dicks. What a horrible way to think
Why is it a horrible way to think, just because you use the site different to another person doesn’t make you right and them wrong . This is a sex/swinging site? People use it for a variety of reasons and you aren’t really in a position to criticise them . "
I’m not criticising anyone, I’m simply saying don’t be a dick |
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"All of the above.
OP one question as not clear, has he cancelled your social tonight ? If not it could be he’s just put the wrong date in the meet invitation
Or he could be edging his bets, not right, thinking maybe you aren’t showing tonight.... have you been in communication with each other today ?
Sorry completely missed your comment. He hasn't cancelled and still wants me to go over, I have declined. We have been in contact a few times today, he's put 3 meets up for the 3 days he's in the area. I wouldn't mind at all if he'd cancelled x"
OP I think from your response, deep down you weren’t too bothered by this meet at all.
We don’t know what’s been said between you and him, that’s your business. If I had this happen to me, I would question it, based on that response I might have given them the benefit of doubt, if it is someone I have invested some time getting to know before they were in my area for a couple of days
We cannot say what is right or wrong as don’t have both sides of what’s happened |
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"He’s just keeping he’s options open. After all ain’t this site all about the best offer. Or does that just apply to the women
I’m a woman and I don’t look for “ better offers” define better offers. I have respect for people, If I arranged a meet I’d certainly never look for someone else. Why would I?
Because it’s for nsa. You have to speculate to accumulate
That's cold!
That’s my experience of women. And very cold
Well I’m sorry but you sound a little bitter. Not all men/woman are the same. Maybe change your approach or attitude "
Not bitter at all. It’s a sex site. I’m not looking for marriage . Just mutual respect and courtesy which I’ve had off my meets. But many others have a different attitude and approach to me. And I only meet women so obviously it’s gonna apply to some of them
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"He’s just keeping he’s options open. After all ain’t this site all about the best offer. Or does that just apply to the women
I’m a woman and I don’t look for “ better offers” define better offers. I have respect for people, If I arranged a meet I’d certainly never look for someone else. Why would I?
Because it’s for nsa. You have to speculate to accumulate
No no no. I’m sorry but I’m not a dick and people I meet aren’t dicks. What a horrible way to think
Why is it a horrible way to think, just because you use the site different to another person doesn’t make you right and them wrong . This is a sex/swinging site? People use it for a variety of reasons and you aren’t really in a position to criticise them . "
Did you find that thread ? |
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"He’s just keeping he’s options open. After all ain’t this site all about the best offer. Or does that just apply to the women
I’m a woman and I don’t look for “ better offers” define better offers. I have respect for people, If I arranged a meet I’d certainly never look for someone else. Why would I?
Because it’s for nsa. You have to speculate to accumulate
No no no. I’m sorry but I’m not a dick and people I meet aren’t dicks. What a horrible way to think
Why is it a horrible way to think, just because you use the site different to another person doesn’t make you right and them wrong . This is a sex/swinging site? People use it for a variety of reasons and you aren’t really in a position to criticise them .
I’m not criticising anyone, I’m simply saying don’t be a dick"
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"He’s just keeping he’s options open. After all ain’t this site all about the best offer. Or does that just apply to the women
I’m a woman and I don’t look for “ better offers” define better offers. I have respect for people, If I arranged a meet I’d certainly never look for someone else. Why would I?
Because it’s for nsa. You have to speculate to accumulate
No no no. I’m sorry but I’m not a dick and people I meet aren’t dicks. What a horrible way to think
Why is it a horrible way to think, just because you use the site different to another person doesn’t make you right and them wrong . This is a sex/swinging site? People use it for a variety of reasons and you aren’t really in a position to criticise them .
Did you find that thread ?"
No, but I know it exists, because I wrote it on my old profile |
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"He’s just keeping he’s options open. After all ain’t this site all about the best offer. Or does that just apply to the women
I’m a woman and I don’t look for “ better offers” define better offers. I have respect for people, If I arranged a meet I’d certainly never look for someone else. Why would I?
Because it’s for nsa. You have to speculate to accumulate
That's cold!
That’s my experience of women. And very cold
Well I’m sorry but you sound a little bitter. Not all men/woman are the same. Maybe change your approach or attitude
Not bitter at all. It’s a sex site. I’m not looking for marriage . Just mutual respect and courtesy which I’ve had off my meets. But many others have a different attitude and approach to me. And I only meet women so obviously it’s gonna apply to some of them
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Yes mutual respect and courtesy, he obviously wasn’t being respectful, he’s arranged a meet with the Op, then advertised a meet on here for the same evening. That’s not respectful, |
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"He’s just keeping he’s options open. After all ain’t this site all about the best offer. Or does that just apply to the women
I’m a woman and I don’t look for “ better offers” define better offers. I have respect for people, If I arranged a meet I’d certainly never look for someone else. Why would I?
Because it’s for nsa. You have to speculate to accumulate
No no no. I’m sorry but I’m not a dick and people I meet aren’t dicks. What a horrible way to think
Why is it a horrible way to think, just because you use the site different to another person doesn’t make you right and them wrong . This is a sex/swinging site? People use it for a variety of reasons and you aren’t really in a position to criticise them .
Did you find that thread ?
No, but I know it exists, because I wrote it on my old profile "
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"He’s just keeping he’s options open. After all ain’t this site all about the best offer. Or does that just apply to the women
I’m a woman and I don’t look for “ better offers” define better offers. I have respect for people, If I arranged a meet I’d certainly never look for someone else. Why would I?
Because it’s for nsa. You have to speculate to accumulate
That's cold!
That’s my experience of women. And very cold
Well I’m sorry but you sound a little bitter. Not all men/woman are the same. Maybe change your approach or attitude
Not bitter at all. It’s a sex site. I’m not looking for marriage . Just mutual respect and courtesy which I’ve had off my meets. But many others have a different attitude and approach to me. And I only meet women so obviously it’s gonna apply to some of them
Yes mutual respect and courtesy, he obviously wasn’t being respectful, he’s arranged a meet with the Op, then advertised a meet on here for the same evening. That’s not respectful,"
He might be horny and want 2 meets in a evening. |
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"He’s just keeping he’s options open. After all ain’t this site all about the best offer. Or does that just apply to the women
I’m a woman and I don’t look for “ better offers” define better offers. I have respect for people, If I arranged a meet I’d certainly never look for someone else. Why would I?
Because it’s for nsa. You have to speculate to accumulate
No no no. I’m sorry but I’m not a dick and people I meet aren’t dicks. What a horrible way to think
Why is it a horrible way to think, just because you use the site different to another person doesn’t make you right and them wrong . This is a sex/swinging site? People use it for a variety of reasons and you aren’t really in a position to criticise them .
I’m not criticising anyone, I’m simply saying don’t be a dick
So saying I need to change my approach or I’m bitter is not criticism "
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"He’s just keeping he’s options open. After all ain’t this site all about the best offer. Or does that just apply to the women
I’m a woman and I don’t look for “ better offers” define better offers. I have respect for people, If I arranged a meet I’d certainly never look for someone else. Why would I?
Because it’s for nsa. You have to speculate to accumulate
No no no. I’m sorry but I’m not a dick and people I meet aren’t dicks. What a horrible way to think
Why is it a horrible way to think, just because you use the site different to another person doesn’t make you right and them wrong . This is a sex/swinging site? People use it for a variety of reasons and you aren’t really in a position to criticise them .
I’m not criticising anyone, I’m simply saying don’t be a dick
So saying I need to change my approach or I’m bitter is not criticism
No not when you said woman are “cold”"
Ive not said women are cold 
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"He’s just keeping he’s options open. After all ain’t this site all about the best offer. Or does that just apply to the women
I’m a woman and I don’t look for “ better offers” define better offers. I have respect for people, If I arranged a meet I’d certainly never look for someone else. Why would I?
Because it’s for nsa. You have to speculate to accumulate
That's cold!
That’s my experience of women. And very cold "
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I would block and move on if he cant show common decency then he just isnt worth you overthinking his reasons mindfucking yourself about it wont do you any good onwards and upwards  |
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"He’s just keeping he’s options open. After all ain’t this site all about the best offer. Or does that just apply to the women
I’m a woman and I don’t look for “ better offers” define better offers. I have respect for people, If I arranged a meet I’d certainly never look for someone else. Why would I?
Because it’s for nsa. You have to speculate to accumulate
That's cold!
That’s my experience of women. And very cold
Did you not?"
I was replying to the person that said that behaviour was...cold. And I agreed |
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"He’s just keeping he’s options open. After all ain’t this site all about the best offer. Or does that just apply to the women
I’m a woman and I don’t look for “ better offers” define better offers. I have respect for people, If I arranged a meet I’d certainly never look for someone else. Why would I?
Because it’s for nsa. You have to speculate to accumulate
That's cold!
That’s my experience of women. And very cold
Did you not?
I was replying to the person that said that behaviour was...cold. And I agreed "
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First of all block and move on
I did have a similar case when someone cancelled on me last min- I did say well if you don’t mind I will advertise for someone else
At least I asked - nowadays mainly for to clubs however I am looking for something next week
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I wouldn’t do the same, but I am not naive enough to think it doesn’t happen all the time, I am willing to bet we have all done something similar ??
Erm no. Not to friends, family, colleagues or random strangers on the internet.
The reason.....I'm respectful and not a knobber.
Ok, you are paragon of virtue "
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"Ok so help me out guys. I had a social (and possibly more) arranged for tonight and the guy in question put a status up looking to arrange a social tonight! This place makes me question my sanity sometimes haha x"
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Are they really worth your anger OP?
It changes nothing and the only person your anger hurts is you....
Btw I do think it's a crap way to behave to another, but then little surprises me any more on here... |
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I'm in a similar situation. I put a meet for today up and git chatting with a guy that I'd really love to hook up with. Unfortunately, mutually, we agreed today wasnt "the day" after all (time restraints and my back pain) but have settled on tomorrow. Now, I haven't removed the meet (dont even know if you can, I expect that they automatically come off the system at the end of the 24 hrs period they are placed in) but twice today hes messaged to say I'm arranging a meet. I think the system updates my activity each time I log on so keeps bringing the meet back up as i certainly havent reposted! |
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It is bad etiquette and behaviour and very cold but I have to agree that from my own experience due to the Male/female ratio I have had some BS reasons for last minute cancellations but never pulled the same myself.
I have had two interesting reactions from social meets today though, both now blocked me, one because I had the audacity not to do a verification in a timely manner today after meeting yesterday and the second because apparently I hadn’t disclosed other planned meets (which I don’t believe is the case as I have always planned on more and with others) so she felt “lied to”.
I know people will say “it’s Fab” but seriously, it’s not a parallel universe is it ? Where has common courtesy/respect/patience gone these days? Some people really need to have a word with themselves (unless maybe I just attract the crazies?) |
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