I'd rather go out in a blaze of glory after a thoroughly enjoyable time, rather than continue into extreme old age - I wouldn't want to get to the point where there was any kind of burden on other people of services to care of me, or a marked deterioration in quality of life. |
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It is only a good thing of you're in reasonable health.
My mum frequently tells me she's been kept alive too long. Quality of life game state of mind are two important factors in life and of they aren't present it can make things difficult |
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By *ostafunMan
over a year ago
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"It is only a good thing of you're in reasonable health.
My mum frequently tells me she's been kept alive too long. Quality of life game state of mind are two important factors in life and of they aren't present it can make things difficult"
My nan used to say the same to me. |
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"It is only a good thing of you're in reasonable health.
My mum frequently tells me she's been kept alive too long. Quality of life game state of mind are two important factors in life and of they aren't present it can make things difficultMy nan used to say the same to me."
It's sad isn't it.
The reality of very long life is quite different to the sky diving 100 year olds you see on the local news. It's often a world of blister pack medication, carers, loss of independence, a shrinking world and a sense of hopelessness. My mum sometimes asks what indignity she has to suffer next. Neither of my parents want to die but they both think they've gone past their time and find their lives less tolerable than they once were.
The only answer in my opinion is to drastically increase the care available for the elderly. Ensure the same carers can visit at the same time every day, ensure they have friends, good food, a clean warm house and are as fit as possible. Make sure medical attention is on hand and that they are as independent as possible with some purpose to their life. That will never happen |
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By *hMyGawd OP Couple
over a year ago
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I saw a dual purpose care home / creche in the news once.
The care staff looked after the elderly and toddlers togeter. The elderly enjoyed the company of the toddlers and vice versa.
That seemed nice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It is only a good thing of you're in reasonable health.
My mum frequently tells me she's been kept alive too long. Quality of life game state of mind are two important factors in life and of they aren't present it can make things difficult"
I absolutely agree.
I have worked with elderly people - most of them in their late 80's 90's and even a couple of centurion.
And most of them are unwell mentally and physically.
The will to live is strong - but what is the point if you dont know who you are or recognize the people you love anymore.
Or wake up every day in pain.
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My nan is almost 90 and just excisting. Nothing to look forward to. Isn't able to walk. Just sits there and stares into space. I wouldn't want to get like that |
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People (who visit them twice a year) often tell me that my parents have a good quality of life and independence. They don't see the reality and when I try to explain their frustrations say things like "what can you expect at their age?" . I think that about sums it up, what *can* you expect? Also how wide is the gap between what very old people expect and what we're prepared for them to endure? |
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