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over a year ago
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Anyone a sexuality expert? I'm baffled as to whether I'm gay, bi, or just f**ked up. I've been a secret crossdresser and knicker sniffer since my early teens but always considered myself to be straight. I was with my gf/ex for 6 years, but 4 years into the relationship she discovered my secrets. She never confronted me about them instead assumed I was gay as our sex life had dwindled and began having sex with guys on "girls night outs". Being a panty sniffer I regularly had a pair of her knickers under my nose whenever she was out this led to me finding out about her infidelity's. When I confronted her about it she was open and honest and explained her reasons (my little hobbies). We have stayed together be it sort of on and off and 12 months ago she and her now regular lover put the idea to me I might be gay or bi as I showed no interest in penetrative sex with her. So feeling slightly confused I had my first bi experience. Moving forward to the present I'm now confused I still love women and enjoy giving oral to them but not penetrative sex, whilst I love giving oral to men and taking penetrative sex from them. When I get aroused with gf I crave her dirty knickers, giving her oral and mostly cock. We are now happy in our little set up but I can't work out my sexuality. Any ideas.
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I'd say bisexual - you're still attracted to women sexually, even though you often only want to do certain sex acts with them. But you also want certain sex acts with men.
Tbh I would spend less time worrying about your sexuality and more exploring your submissive side.
If you read the forums there are a few regulars with interests in bdsm and fetish. Perhaps ask for advice in sites and clubs where you can discuss, explore, experiment and enjoy in a safe and supportive environment.
Good luck. |
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"I'd say bisexual - you're still attracted to women sexually, even though you often only want to do certain sex acts with them. But you also want certain sex acts with men.
Tbh I would spend less time worrying about your sexuality and more exploring your submissive side.
If you read the forums there are a few regulars with interests in bdsm and fetish. Perhaps ask for advice in sites and clubs where you can discuss, explore, experiment and enjoy in a safe and supportive environment.
Good luck."
sounds about where its at to me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'd say bisexual - you're still attracted to women sexually, even though you often only want to do certain sex acts with them. But you also want certain sex acts with men.
Tbh I would spend less time worrying about your sexuality and more exploring your submissive side.
If you read the forums there are a few regulars with interests in bdsm and fetish. Perhaps ask for advice in sites and clubs where you can discuss, explore, experiment and enjoy in a safe and supportive environment.
Good luck."
Thanks for the advice, I'm in doubt as to what I want in my sex life and my relationships but I think its the fact our set up is our secret and I'm concerned what others may think
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"I'd say bisexual - you're still attracted to women sexually, even though you often only want to do certain sex acts with them. But you also want certain sex acts with men.
Tbh I would spend less time worrying about your sexuality and more exploring your submissive side.
If you read the forums there are a few regulars with interests in bdsm and fetish. Perhaps ask for advice in sites and clubs where you can discuss, explore, experiment and enjoy in a safe and supportive environment.
Good luck.
Thanks for the advice, I'm in doubt as to what I want in my sex life and my relationships but I think its the fact our set up is our secret and I'm concerned what others may think
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We all have secrets and most of us keep our private lives...private.
You really can't live your life worrying what others might think.
While you're worrying others are out shagging...the choice really is yours! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You're buggered if your g/f suddenly declares she's going commando.   "
lol luckily gf finds it flattering and arousing that I love to sniff and wear her dirty underwear. Also it was a relief for her as she no longer has to worry about concealing any evidence of playing away |
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maybe you are one of these guys that likes the idea of his missus being done by someone else and getting the chance to clean it up afterwards.
maybe ask her if you can help out next time she and her lover are doing anything.
must say, they must be absolutely loving the situation lol |
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"maybe you are one of these guys that likes the idea of his missus being done by someone else and getting the chance to clean it up afterwards.
maybe ask her if you can help out next time she and her lover are doing anything.
must say, they must be absolutely loving the situation lol"
got that t-shirt
When I first found out about her cheating the thought of her with other guys sickened me. Now I'm more than happy with it she's happier with her sex life he's over the moon. I've not done anything sexual with him but he does get turned on seeing me enjoy his cum via gf, she enjoys not having the mopping up to do lol |
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This is an environment where what society considers to be unusual sexual behaviour barely raises a meh.
Though the forums can sometimes be harsh to the unwary or attention seekers, it can also be supportive and offer answers.
If its a genuine issue then don't be afraid to put it out here. You will get all kinds of opinions from those that feel moved to reply, but it is a free forum. You might also get some scathing, sarcastic and downright mad replies.
Laugh at the silliness, and the pure undiluted wit, let the judgemental or disapproving slide off (cos those are the people you wouldn't get on with in person anyway) and scoop up the pure gold for the treasure it is and take it with you.
some will share some of your kinks, perhaps you'll meet a few who share all. But we're all here because the normals consider our proclivities to be odd.
Don't be ashamed of who you are, and certainly don't feel that you have to apologise on here. And don't be shy of asking for advice/suggestions from other forumites - the worst we can say is no. |
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"This is an environment where what society considers to be unusual sexual behaviour barely raises a meh.
Though the forums can sometimes be harsh to the unwary or attention seekers, it can also be supportive and offer answers.
If its a genuine issue then don't be afraid to put it out here. You will get all kinds of opinions from those that feel moved to reply, but it is a free forum. You might also get some scathing, sarcastic and downright mad replies.
Laugh at the silliness, and the pure undiluted wit, let the judgemental or disapproving slide off (cos those are the people you wouldn't get on with in person anyway) and scoop up the pure gold for the treasure it is and take it with you.
some will share some of your kinks, perhaps you'll meet a few who share all. But we're all here because the normals consider our proclivities to be odd.
Don't be ashamed of who you are, and certainly don't feel that you have to apologise on here. And don't be shy of asking for advice/suggestions from other forumites - the worst we can say is no."
As for labeling, people are so intricately different from each other, in their uniqueness, that - speaking as a Psychologist - we only use them as many of us can't cope with too much complexity. People change, their self-awareness and needs change, and labels typically limit, rather than open people up. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This is an environment where what society considers to be unusual sexual behaviour barely raises a meh.
Though the forums can sometimes be harsh to the unwary or attention seekers, it can also be supportive and offer answers.
If its a genuine issue then don't be afraid to put it out here. You will get all kinds of opinions from those that feel moved to reply, but it is a free forum. You might also get some scathing, sarcastic and downright mad replies.
Laugh at the silliness, and the pure undiluted wit, let the judgemental or disapproving slide off (cos those are the people you wouldn't get on with in person anyway) and scoop up the pure gold for the treasure it is and take it with you.
some will share some of your kinks, perhaps you'll meet a few who share all. But we're all here because the normals consider our proclivities to be odd.
Don't be ashamed of who you are, and certainly don't feel that you have to apologise on here. And don't be shy of asking for advice/suggestions from other forumites - the worst we can say is no.
As for labeling, people are so intricately different from each other, in their uniqueness, that - speaking as a Psychologist - we only use them as many of us can't cope with too much complexity. People change, their self-awareness and needs change, and labels typically limit, rather than open people up."
I see what your saying. Right now I think my label reads " bisexual female trapped in mans body" |
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"This is an environment where what society considers to be unusual sexual behaviour barely raises a meh.
Though the forums can sometimes be harsh to the unwary or attention seekers, it can also be supportive and offer answers.
If its a genuine issue then don't be afraid to put it out here. You will get all kinds of opinions from those that feel moved to reply, but it is a free forum. You might also get some scathing, sarcastic and downright mad replies.
Laugh at the silliness, and the pure undiluted wit, let the judgemental or disapproving slide off (cos those are the people you wouldn't get on with in person anyway) and scoop up the pure gold for the treasure it is and take it with you.
some will share some of your kinks, perhaps you'll meet a few who share all. But we're all here because the normals consider our proclivities to be odd.
Don't be ashamed of who you are, and certainly don't feel that you have to apologise on here. And don't be shy of asking for advice/suggestions from other forumites - the worst we can say is no.
As for labeling, people are so intricately different from each other, in their uniqueness, that - speaking as a Psychologist - we only use them as many of us can't cope with too much complexity. People change, their self-awareness and needs change, and labels typically limit, rather than open people up. I see what your saying. Right now I think my label reads " bisexual female trapped in mans body" "
no, i dont think it does, because even though you cross dress, and play with men, you dont come across as hating yourself or the form into which you were born.
you have yet to state you hate yourself as a man, but much rather have no interest in a 'ormal' relationship, which in this day and age is more than fine.
your lives are yours (you and your OH) sp what interest should it be of other peoples?
you will find people that will happily help you here, fella.
just be truthful to yourself.
the poster was saying there is no need to look for a label for, past a label of sexuality, you are who youare, no more, no less, just enjoy it |
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