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All data has meaning. Sometimes that meaning isn't immediately obvious.
I usually take a note of it and assess for myself.
Sometimes it's true, sometimes it contains truth, sometimes it tells you much more about the one spreading the gossip. Sometimes something else entirely.
I try to take each person as I find them, and consider context of those I know, but might hold back if I've heard red flags I consider reliable. |
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over a year ago
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"All data has meaning. Sometimes that meaning isn't immediately obvious.
I usually take a note of it and assess for myself.
Sometimes it's true, sometimes it contains truth, sometimes it tells you much more about the one spreading the gossip. Sometimes something else entirely.
I try to take each person as I find them, and consider context of those I know, but might hold back if I've heard red flags I consider reliable."
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By *mana OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Why, what've you heard?  "
Loads. But probably 98% is false.
I just happen to be one of the subjects now.
So.... if anyone would like to know anything, please ask me directly  gossip is for teenagers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why, what've you heard?
Loads. But probably 98% is false.
I just happen to be one of the subjects now.
So.... if anyone would like to know anything, please ask me directly gossip is for teenagers "
Ooooo
That’ll give me a rest then 
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"Why, what've you heard?
Loads. But probably 98% is false.
I just happen to be one of the subjects now.
So.... if anyone would like to know anything, please ask me directly gossip is for teenagers "
I would like to know if I could introduce you to my ferret?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why, what've you heard?
Loads. But probably 98% is false.
I just happen to be one of the subjects now.
So.... if anyone would like to know anything, please ask me directly gossip is for teenagers "
Don’t let it get to you. I hate gossip. I’ve been a subject but I refuse to give my side to anything as it’s none of anyone’s business. People will think what they think, doesn’t really bother me as the people I care about know me. There’s a lot of it on here. I tend to take no notice. x |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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What do you do OP?
I tend to ignore it generally. I'm rather cynical when it comes to it and question why the person telling me is doing so and the validity in what they are saying. Especially third party gossip. It's bloody wank and I can't stand that. I've heard absurd things about me before that have little resemblance to what's gone on, I'd much rather people ask me directly if they want to know something (that's what I tend to do!). Sometimes I'd listen - if a close friend has evidence of something or someone is telling me something but not in a spiteful way. Humans are fallible and sometimes say "Oh x said this about y" as a conversation topic. We've all done it at some point.
It's a difficult one because there are always at least two versions of a story - knowing all sides allow you to get an accurate reading of what occured by meshing them together but the chance to do that doesn't happen often. |
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By *mana OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Why, what've you heard?
Loads. But probably 98% is false.
I just happen to be one of the subjects now.
So.... if anyone would like to know anything, please ask me directly gossip is for teenagers
Don’t let it get to you. I hate gossip. I’ve been a subject but I refuse to give my side to anything as it’s none of anyone’s business. People will think what they think, doesn’t really bother me as the people I care about know me. There’s a lot of it on here. I tend to take no notice. x "
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Meh! I have enough drama in my life without inviting others into it!
And if it's about me, my view is that if they're talking about me then they're leaving everyone else alone. I really couldn't care less. |
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"All data has meaning. Sometimes that meaning isn't immediately obvious.
I usually take a note of it and assess for myself.
Sometimes it's true, sometimes it contains truth, sometimes it tells you much more about the one spreading the gossip. Sometimes something else entirely.
I try to take each person as I find them, and consider context of those I know, but might hold back if I've heard red flags I consider reliable."
I agree. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm really not interested in the gossip on here and I don't particularly like people who like to discuss personal information about others. It's not nice.
If it were to be about me, then I would probably turn to a trusted friend for support or even consider speaking to the person spreading the gossip. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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Everything I hear I take with a major pinch of salt. Every story has more than one version and I accept very little at face value.
I'm accustomed to it and have frequently been the subject of it.
Doesn't bother me either way. If it's negative and people believe it while knowing nothing of me I see it as individuals not worth knowing in the first place. |
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Keeping things in the back of my mind has served me well, though. I never use it for sport, just to protect myself. But sometimes things add up, the evidence becomes overwhelming enough, etc, and my perspective changes. |
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Some content needs calling out and putting straight. But often in these circles that leads to the victim looking like the idiot. There’s a fine line but like others have said, sometimes you have to just wait for the truth to be realised. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't know of any gossip going on, on here.. But in reality I usually take no heed of it.
I have friends who come to me and gossip about others and it just goes over my head.
I don't tell them much because if someone talks to you about people, they will talk to others about you. |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
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"All data has meaning. Sometimes that meaning isn't immediately obvious.
I usually take a note of it and assess for myself.
Sometimes it's true, sometimes it contains truth, sometimes it tells you much more about the one spreading the gossip. Sometimes something else entirely.
I try to take each person as I find them, and consider context of those I know, but might hold back if I've heard red flags I consider reliable."
Pretty much this
I have been subject of some ridiculous gossip of late and anyone choosing to believe it simply doesn't know me |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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See that pinch of salt over there? I don't even touch it - I hear my fair share, and often wish I didn't but I tend to judge for myself rather than rely on strangers on an internet site...
...yes there may be times that in forming my opinion I realise what I have been told is correct, or that something I am told further validates my own already formed opinion - but at face value I pay it no heed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd add that a lot of the gossip I see doing the rounds here is borne out of petty jealousies and back biting, neither of which I have any time for at all"
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"You should always listen.
Gossip is not always malicious.
Gossip is actually a social co-hesion.
I always listen. Doesn't mean I always believe or that I always act on it. "
Yes. Sociologically, gossip has plenty of purposes. It's about working out what's happening in this specific instance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Take it head on and set people straight.
Sometimes you'll find gossip started with something innocent then snowballed "
You can't take it head on when it's all done behind your back. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"All data has meaning. Sometimes that meaning isn't immediately obvious.
I usually take a note of it and assess for myself.
Sometimes it's true, sometimes it contains truth, sometimes it tells you much more about the one spreading the gossip. Sometimes something else entirely.
I try to take each person as I find them, and consider context of those I know, but might hold back if I've heard red flags I consider reliable."
I can relate to this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Take it head on and set people straight.
Sometimes you'll find gossip started with something innocent then snowballed
You can't take it head on when it's all done behind your back. "
That's where you are wrong my friend. Find out who's saying it and tackle them, then move down chain until you get to the source |
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"Take it head on and set people straight.
Sometimes you'll find gossip started with something innocent then snowballed
You can't take it head on when it's all done behind your back.
That's where you are wrong my friend. Find out who's saying it and tackle them, then move down chain until you get to the source "
If it's behind your back how do you know about it to start going down the chain ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Take it head on and set people straight.
Sometimes you'll find gossip started with something innocent then snowballed
You can't take it head on when it's all done behind your back.
That's where you are wrong my friend. Find out who's saying it and tackle them, then move down chain until you get to the source "
If you can be arsed! |
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I get that people don't like to admit that they get involved in gossip...either listening or passing on, because that admission wouldn't really be socially desirable.
But gossip has many different positive functions for us as a species |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All data has meaning. Sometimes that meaning isn't immediately obvious.
I usually take a note of it and assess for myself.
Sometimes it's true, sometimes it contains truth, sometimes it tells you much more about the one spreading the gossip. Sometimes something else entirely.
I try to take each person as I find them, and consider context of those I know, but might hold back if I've heard red flags I consider reliable."
I agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We never hear any gossip!?!
Jo.Xx
I never hear any fab gossip, sometimes I'll see comments and suddenly twig that everyone knows something I don't 
Yep.
All the time. 
Jo.Xx "
I didn't even know we were talking about on here when I answered, thought it was just in life generally.
Even more so then I can't imagine any circumstance where I would even be offered gossip about anyone on here. I'd be bored to tears if my Fab chats became about what other people were up to. That's quite odd. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Gossip is just people trying to get involved in other people’s lives because they haven’t got one of their own exciting enough to talk about.
Easier just to ignore and crack on with whatever you’re doing |
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"I'd add that a lot of the gossip I see doing the rounds here is borne out of petty jealousies and back biting, neither of which I have any time for at all"
This ^ plus it’s rare I hear gossip, but if I do it’s none of my business and doesn’t affect me or change my opinion of someone until I’ve made up my own mind.
If someone I know tells me something about me, and if they ask a direct correct question they’ll get the truth. Other than that, everyone else can rock while I’ll keep laughing at the pettiness of the playground |
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"I get that people don't like to admit that they get involved in gossip...either listening or passing on, because that admission wouldn't really be socially desirable.
But gossip has many different positive functions for us as a species "
Didn't you know the forum is full of people who are whiter than white with no negative traits... other than those that just make them adorable? |
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By *mana OP Woman
over a year ago
Basingstoke |
"All information is friendly - either to you as the receiver or interpreter or as from the perspective from the sender - it’s what you do with the information - it’s an opinion "
No information is neither, its just information.
Gossip isnt information. Its not facts. |
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"Take it head on and set people straight."
This.
I never hear any gossip on here. But I've been the subject of gossip in real life and on social media. I've always dealt with it by being upfront about whatever people are gossiping about. That way, the control is with me rather than wondering what other people are saying, who knows etc etc - reality is, most people probably aren't talking about you even though it feels like that.
Mrs TMN x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get that people don't like to admit that they get involved in gossip...either listening or passing on, because that admission wouldn't really be socially desirable.
But gossip has many different positive functions for us as a species
Didn't you know the forum is full of people who are whiter than white with no negative traits... other than those that just make them adorable? "
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I get that people don't like to admit that they get involved in gossip...either listening or passing on, because that admission wouldn't really be socially desirable.
But gossip has many different positive functions for us as a species
Didn't you know the forum is full of people who are whiter than white with no negative traits... other than those that just make them adorable? "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get that people don't like to admit that they get involved in gossip...either listening or passing on, because that admission wouldn't really be socially desirable.
But gossip has many different positive functions for us as a species
Didn't you know the forum is full of people who are whiter than white with no negative traits... other than those that just make them adorable? "
I don't think that's necessarily the case here though. I genuinely am surprised hearing people get into that, not because I'm particularly nice or naive, but because I'm having fun and would have assumed that's what most other people were focused on too. |
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By *mana OP Woman
over a year ago
Basingstoke |
"Well OP you began a thread to invite opinion - if not why start the thread - just stand infrint of Mirror and agree with yiurself - friendly information incoming haha"
I'm sorry if you cant disagree and debate the issue as an adult |
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By *awz29Couple
over a year ago
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Gossip is either based in fact or not that’s why it’s gossip - but if it’s about you as an individual I’m sure you’d rather know than not whether neg or not so you may act or not upon it - hence the information itself is friendly - just my two pence worth - take it or leave it it’s just my opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get that people don't like to admit that they get involved in gossip...either listening or passing on, because that admission wouldn't really be socially desirable.
But gossip has many different positive functions for us as a species
Didn't you know the forum is full of people who are whiter than white with no negative traits... other than those that just make them adorable?
I don't think that's necessarily the case here though. I genuinely am surprised hearing people get into that, not because I'm particularly nice or naive, but because I'm having fun and would have assumed that's what most other people were focused on too. "
Oh I wouldn't know about on here. I only interact with those I want to fuck and the last thing up for discussion is other people! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get that people don't like to admit that they get involved in gossip...either listening or passing on, because that admission wouldn't really be socially desirable.
But gossip has many different positive functions for us as a species
Didn't you know the forum is full of people who are whiter than white with no negative traits... other than those that just make them adorable?
I don't think that's necessarily the case here though. I genuinely am surprised hearing people get into that, not because I'm particularly nice or naive, but because I'm having fun and would have assumed that's what most other people were focused on too. "
Gossip can be fun too
Especially when trying to get to the bottom of it.
It puzzles me that people think so negatively about it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Take it head on and set people straight.
Sometimes you'll find gossip started with something innocent then snowballed
You can't take it head on when it's all done behind your back.
That's where you are wrong my friend. Find out who's saying it and tackle them, then move down chain until you get to the source "
And how do you do that when no one will talk to you about it? When you only find out it's even happening second-hand? If you're shut out of the conversation about yourself, you can't even get to the bottom of what's being said, let alone defend yourself. |
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"I get that people don't like to admit that they get involved in gossip...either listening or passing on, because that admission wouldn't really be socially desirable.
But gossip has many different positive functions for us as a species
Didn't you know the forum is full of people who are whiter than white with no negative traits... other than those that just make them adorable?
I don't think that's necessarily the case here though. I genuinely am surprised hearing people get into that, not because I'm particularly nice or naive, but because I'm having fun and would have assumed that's what most other people were focused on too.
Oh I wouldn't know about on here. I only interact with those I want to fuck and the last thing up for discussion is other people! "
Exactly ! That's what I'm saying too. That's how I'm surprised gossip even takes hold on here. My chats are to make plans or with people I find funny, I'd just think anyone who bitched about someone from the forum to me was a weirdo. |
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"I think you may sit in front of your mirror with the opinion you started with surprise surprise - off to another forum - wonder what I’ll talk (gossip) about haha"
What the fuck you going on about? |
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"I think you may sit in front of your mirror with the opinion you started with surprise surprise - off to another forum - wonder what I’ll talk (gossip) about haha
What the fuck you going on about?"
Glad it wasn’t just me! |
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By *awz29Couple
over a year ago
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I only gave an opinion end of - didn’t need it quoted back at me by the OP with the “wrong” statement - defended my statement as my opinion - OP decided to refer to childishness/ non adult posts when all I had done was post an opinion as invited by the original thread begun by OP. I found it amusing that OP thought it ok to attempt to sign off with a back handed compliment which happened to be a thread I was previously reading. So I expressed that opinion also - now it appears the opinion police are back out so whatevs - peace out |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"I only gave an opinion end of - didn’t need it quoted back at me by the OP with the “wrong” statement - defended my statement as my opinion - OP decided to refer to childishness/ non adult posts when all I had done was post an opinion as invited by the original thread begun by OP. I found it amusing that OP thought it ok to attempt to sign off with a back handed compliment which happened to be a thread I was previously reading. So I expressed that opinion also - now it appears the opinion police are back out so whatevs - peace out"
I think it was more that your post on this thread doesn't really make sense, not that you can't have an opinion. I don't understand what you meant, certainly. |
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I tend to avoid gossip, but if I get dragged into it. I will try and accept that ones persons side will vary a lot from the other. I'm like many I'll store the information in the back of my head just in case I see similar behaviour occuring again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why, what've you heard?
Loads. But probably 98% is false.
I just happen to be one of the subjects now.
So.... if anyone would like to know anything, please ask me directly gossip is for teenagers "
Bollox to them. Sad and low
I always think that while they are talking about you they are leaving someone else alone
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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I'd much rather hear about you, your stories, your experience from your perspective than anything regurgitated about somebody else.
But we all love a good tale .. as long as it's not at someone else's expense.
About me..say what you like. I trust the right people come my way in life not because of what they have heard but because of a little whisper on the wind that brought them to my door  |
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"Do you ignore it?
Do you react to it?
Does it depend on what the content is?
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There is always someone who has your interests at heart and will tell you. There are also those that initiate it, with malice intention or not. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"I only gave an opinion end of - didn’t need it quoted back at me by the OP with the “wrong” statement - defended my statement as my opinion - OP decided to refer to childishness/ non adult posts when all I had done was post an opinion as invited by the original thread begun by OP. I found it amusing that OP thought it ok to attempt to sign off with a back handed compliment which happened to be a thread I was previously reading. So I expressed that opinion also - now it appears the opinion police are back out so whatevs - peace out
I think it was more that your post on this thread doesn't really make sense, not that you can't have an opinion. I don't understand what you meant, certainly. "
Indeed |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I only gave an opinion end of - didn’t need it quoted back at me by the OP with the “wrong” statement - defended my statement as my opinion - OP decided to refer to childishness/ non adult posts when all I had done was post an opinion as invited by the original thread begun by OP. I found it amusing that OP thought it ok to attempt to sign off with a back handed compliment which happened to be a thread I was previously reading. So I expressed that opinion also - now it appears the opinion police are back out so whatevs - peace out
I think it was more that your post on this thread doesn't really make sense, not that you can't have an opinion. I don't understand what you meant, certainly. "
I agree. , his/her post made no sense. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I love it (not much) when that person in the office says ‘oi, you wanna hear about what thing did with thingy’ & you’re like ‘no’ then they start telling you anyway |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"I'd much rather hear about you, your stories, your experience from your perspective than anything regurgitated about somebody else.
But we all love a good tale .. as long as it's not at someone else's expense.
About me..say what you like. I trust the right people come my way in life not because of what they have heard but because of a little whisper on the wind that brought them to my door "
What a lovely perspective |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
Whitley Bay |
"I'd much rather hear about you, your stories, your experience from your perspective than anything regurgitated about somebody else.
But we all love a good tale .. as long as it's not at someone else's expense.
About me..say what you like. I trust the right people come my way in life not because of what they have heard but because of a little whisper on the wind that brought them to my door
What a lovely perspective "
I've learnt the hard way.. its a much more peaceful one than getting caught up in the little stories. Still, sometimes we need those tangles to propel us to a better perspective!
Btw.. I heard you pick your nose and eat it  |
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