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25% of Brits make social plans with no intention to go
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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The Independant reported this research:
More than a quarter (26 per cent) of Brits admit to saying yes to a social invitation despite having absolutely no intention of attending, according to a new study.
As a result around one third of social plans that are made actually never happen.
And don't we know it folks!
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By (user no longer on site)
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The best type of plans are cancelled plans apparently.
I think it's knowing you could go out and that you have options - rather than sitting in on a Saturday night without being invited out.
Or something like that  |
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I always turn up if I arrange something, and if I can't make it I let people know. Ghosting is bad enough with dating, never mind established friends doing it because they can't be arsed turning up for something. |
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I can understand this figure but it doesn't mean one friend lets another down.
I see notes going up in work advertising socials. Everyone goes ooo meeeeee and puts their name down. Then slowly the names come off , the excuses come in and some just don't turn up even if they buy tickets.
One of the reasons is they are shit at verbalising their REAL feelings. No one wants to be seen as a pooper or labelled as mean or unsociable........ so they put their name down cos it's easier to say yes. .......
I say , no thanks not for me, if I don't want to go ...... some people take it personally .....  |
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"This totally gets on my tits. If I say I'm going to something I go to it unless I tell the person from day one that I'm unsure. "
Im going to see a 'friend' in two weeks cos I didn't come up with a reason to not to quick enough.
I've put her off for ages now.
I do like her. Can't stand long with her though.
So ........ what am I going to do to STOP her asking me over.
I groan when she calls on the phone. |
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"This totally gets on my tits. If I say I'm going to something I go to it unless I tell the person from day one that I'm unsure.
Im going to see a 'friend' in two weeks cos I didn't come up with a reason to not to quick enough.
I've put her off for ages now.
I do like her. Can't stand long with her though.
So ........ what am I going to do to STOP her asking me over.
I groan when she calls on the phone."
Speaking as someone who is in the position of your friend at the moment I'd say she's probably realising slowly how you feel and will soon solve the problem for you.
It takes a little while for it to sink in |
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"This totally gets on my tits. If I say I'm going to something I go to it unless I tell the person from day one that I'm unsure.
Im going to see a 'friend' in two weeks cos I didn't come up with a reason to not to quick enough.
I've put her off for ages now.
I do like her. Can't stand long with her though.
So ........ what am I going to do to STOP her asking me over.
I groan when she calls on the phone."
Go once more but leave a massive log in her toilet that won’t flush, she won’t ask you again. |
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I think its prob a higher figure, i’ve arranged to go to an ex-colleagues leaving drinks next Friday but if one of my fancies on here was to tell me she was free that night, well...you know  |
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"This totally gets on my tits. If I say I'm going to something I go to it unless I tell the person from day one that I'm unsure.
Im going to see a 'friend' in two weeks cos I didn't come up with a reason to not to quick enough.
I've put her off for ages now.
I do like her. Can't stand long with her though.
So ........ what am I going to do to STOP her asking me over.
I groan when she calls on the phone.
Speaking as someone who is in the position of your friend at the moment I'd say she's probably realising slowly how you feel and will soon solve the problem for you.
It takes a little while for it to sink in "
Nooooooo I can't hurt her. She can be good fun.... just moans too much |
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"This totally gets on my tits. If I say I'm going to something I go to it unless I tell the person from day one that I'm unsure.
Im going to see a 'friend' in two weeks cos I didn't come up with a reason to not to quick enough.
I've put her off for ages now.
I do like her. Can't stand long with her though.
So ........ what am I going to do to STOP her asking me over.
I groan when she calls on the phone.
Speaking as someone who is in the position of your friend at the moment I'd say she's probably realising slowly how you feel and will soon solve the problem for you.
It takes a little while for it to sink in
Nooooooo I can't hurt her. She can be good fun.... just moans too much"
Ah right. I think my friend likes me but prefers the company of her newish man friend. There are only so many cancellations of lunch "because it's raining" that I'll tolerate though. |
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"This totally gets on my tits. If I say I'm going to something I go to it unless I tell the person from day one that I'm unsure.
Im going to see a 'friend' in two weeks cos I didn't come up with a reason to not to quick enough.
I've put her off for ages now.
I do like her. Can't stand long with her though.
So ........ what am I going to do to STOP her asking me over.
I groan when she calls on the phone."
..don't answer the phone..
..You know that one friend that rings up to complain..we all have friends like this & we always answer the phone don't we? (yes we do)  |
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"This totally gets on my tits. If I say I'm going to something I go to it unless I tell the person from day one that I'm unsure.
Im going to see a 'friend' in two weeks cos I didn't come up with a reason to not to quick enough.
I've put her off for ages now.
I do like her. Can't stand long with her though.
So ........ what am I going to do to STOP her asking me over.
I groan when she calls on the phone.
..don't answer the phone..
..You know that one friend that rings up to complain..we all have friends like this & we always answer the phone don't we? (yes we do) "
I can't find it within me to be the cruel ........ yet. |
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"This totally gets on my tits. If I say I'm going to something I go to it unless I tell the person from day one that I'm unsure.
Im going to see a 'friend' in two weeks cos I didn't come up with a reason to not to quick enough.
I've put her off for ages now.
I do like her. Can't stand long with her though.
So ........ what am I going to do to STOP her asking me over.
I groan when she calls on the phone.
Speaking as someone who is in the position of your friend at the moment I'd say she's probably realising slowly how you feel and will soon solve the problem for you.
It takes a little while for it to sink in
Nooooooo I can't hurt her. She can be good fun.... just moans too much
Ah right. I think my friend likes me but prefers the company of her newish man friend. There are only so many cancellations of lunch "because it's raining" that I'll tolerate though."
Ahhhhhh well this is ALSO happening to her because her other friend is now with Barry the Butcher and he won't let her out ........ bloody pensioners. |
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"This totally gets on my tits. If I say I'm going to something I go to it unless I tell the person from day one that I'm unsure.
Im going to see a 'friend' in two weeks cos I didn't come up with a reason to not to quick enough.
I've put her off for ages now.
I do like her. Can't stand long with her though.
So ........ what am I going to do to STOP her asking me over.
I groan when she calls on the phone.
Speaking as someone who is in the position of your friend at the moment I'd say she's probably realising slowly how you feel and will soon solve the problem for you.
It takes a little while for it to sink in
Nooooooo I can't hurt her. She can be good fun.... just moans too much
Ah right. I think my friend likes me but prefers the company of her newish man friend. There are only so many cancellations of lunch "because it's raining" that I'll tolerate though.
Ahhhhhh well this is ALSO happening to her because her other friend is now with Barry the Butcher and he won't let her out ........ bloody pensioners."
You see this is the sort of thing we could discuss on our over 60s thread.
Why doesn't my friend take my calls?
Why won't my friends boyfriend let her go out?
It's almost (almost) as if we're real people even though we're old  |
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"The Independant reported this research:
More than a quarter (26 per cent) of Brits admit to saying yes to a social invitation despite having absolutely no intention of attending, according to a new study.
As a result around one third of social plans that are made actually never happen.
And don't we know it folks!
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I'm the opposite ( of course)
I very rarely accept or make social plans unless I'm nigh on certain I can or will make it |
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