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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do not say anything at all. Gunna have a rant as I have not been on Fab long. But met some nice guys and had some amazing chats with people and hoping to meet many more and join some socials and clubs.
But I have been witness and verbally attacked on more than one occasion in forums. I’m no Fab expert but I am human and I kind of feel that if you have an opinion on someone that you think might not come across well don’t type it out for that person and the world to see.
I’m thick skinned and can take a lot but in light of someone taking their life in the public eye due to people typing their opinions on her maybe we should all have a little think before you hit send on that keyboard.
I am a positive person and always try to see the good and I will continue to voice that in the forum despite the sometimes spiteful comments.
So point I’m getting at is please be kind with your words people xx  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can’t see the point why people do it, going to get you nowhere and depending on what’s said it could prove upsetting for those who receive it.
Also find some on here think they’re way above everyone else, just by reading their status it seems they think they are better than the rest of us. |
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"Do not say anything at all. Gunna have a rant as I have not been on Fab long. But met some nice guys and had some amazing chats with people and hoping to meet many more and join some socials and clubs.
But I have been witness and verbally attacked on more than one occasion in forums. I’m no Fab expert but I am human and I kind of feel that if you have an opinion on someone that you think might not come across well don’t type it out for that person and the world to see.
I’m thick skinned and can take a lot but in light of someone taking their life in the public eye due to people typing their opinions on her maybe we should all have a little think before you hit send on that keyboard.
I am a positive person and always try to see the good and I will continue to voice that in the forum despite the sometimes spiteful comments.
So point I’m getting at is please be kind with your words people xx "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Can’t see the point why people do it, going to get you nowhere and depending on what’s said it could prove upsetting for those who receive it.
Also find some on here think they’re way above everyone else, just by reading their status it seems they think they are better than the rest of us. "
It’s funny because no one is better than anyone. We are all human. And on this site we only tell people a bit about ourselves. So why people think they have the right to judge someone and say nasty things is beyond me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is why I never get to know anyone on this site.
I've always stayed away from the drama and bitchiness and other peoples issues about people... Jeez!
I'm here to swing and enjoy sex... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s shocking how many don’t think before they say or hit the send button. I’ve had my fair share of comments messages made to me but lucky I’m thick skinned but it could be that one comment that can push someone to do something to themselves. I was brought up if ain’t got anything nice to say don’t say yes entitled to your say but have a think of it’s long term affect on someone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do not say anything at all. Gunna have a rant as I have not been on Fab long. But met some nice guys and had some amazing chats with people and hoping to meet many more and join some socials and clubs.
But I have been witness and verbally attacked on more than one occasion in forums. I’m no Fab expert but I am human and I kind of feel that if you have an opinion on someone that you think might not come across well don’t type it out for that person and the world to see.
I’m thick skinned and can take a lot but in light of someone taking their life in the public eye due to people typing their opinions on her maybe we should all have a little think before you hit send on that keyboard.
I am a positive person and always try to see the good and I will continue to voice that in the forum despite the sometimes spiteful comments.
So point I’m getting at is please be kind with your words people xx "
Very nice boobs 
Some kind words x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do not say anything at all. Gunna have a rant as I have not been on Fab long. But met some nice guys and had some amazing chats with people and hoping to meet many more and join some socials and clubs.
But I have been witness and verbally attacked on more than one occasion in forums. I’m no Fab expert but I am human and I kind of feel that if you have an opinion on someone that you think might not come across well don’t type it out for that person and the world to see.
I’m thick skinned and can take a lot but in light of someone taking their life in the public eye due to people typing their opinions on her maybe we should all have a little think before you hit send on that keyboard.
I am a positive person and always try to see the good and I will continue to voice that in the forum despite the sometimes spiteful comments.
So point I’m getting at is please be kind with your words people xx
Very nice boobs
Some kind words x"
Great words xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people thrive on being nasty. After the weekend you’d think everyone would stop and think of the consequences of their words or actions. Sad times x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Also find some on here think they’re way above everyone else, just by reading their status it seems they think they are better than the rest of us. "
Exactly this, does our nut in!  |
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Fab is like other forms of social media and as such you get people who feel far braver to say things they wouldn’t say in person. These tend to be so insecure in themselves that they use abuse as a way to feel better about themselves ... once they are recognised as that then they are slightly easier to avoid. However their words can be very effective... and I’m going to generalise bit the majority are sad men |
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"Some people thrive on being nasty. After the weekend you’d think everyone would stop and think of the consequences of their words or actions. Sad times x "
Agree 100%.....!! Be friendly be kind... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do not say anything at all. Gunna have a rant as I have not been on Fab long. But met some nice guys and had some amazing chats with people and hoping to meet many more and join some socials and clubs.
But I have been witness and verbally attacked on more than one occasion in forums. I’m no Fab expert but I am human and I kind of feel that if you have an opinion on someone that you think might not come across well don’t type it out for that person and the world to see.
I’m thick skinned and can take a lot but in light of someone taking their life in the public eye due to people typing their opinions on her maybe we should all have a little think before you hit send on that keyboard.
I am a positive person and always try to see the good and I will continue to voice that in the forum despite the sometimes spiteful comments.
So point I’m getting at is please be kind with your words people xx "
forums unfortunately are about the diversity of opinion some people are very serious and although they think they debate well..... dont........ but carry on until it gets to the argumentative side, some are just very confrontational, some enjoy a laugh and some don't, i agree though if your opinion is logged in a negative way then maybe in some instances best to not contribute    |
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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago
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And then there are the lovely people on here. Today alone I have witnessed and been active in supporting another forum user. There are some amazing people on here. Don't let the numpties be as memorable as the gems |
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"Do not say anything at all. Gunna have a rant as I have not been on Fab long. But met some nice guys and had some amazing chats with people and hoping to meet many more and join some socials and clubs.
But I have been witness and verbally attacked on more than one occasion in forums. I’m no Fab expert but I am human and I kind of feel that if you have an opinion on someone that you think might not come across well don’t type it out for that person and the world to see.
I’m thick skinned and can take a lot but in light of someone taking their life in the public eye due to people typing their opinions on her maybe we should all have a little think before you hit send on that keyboard.
I am a positive person and always try to see the good and I will continue to voice that in the forum despite the sometimes spiteful comments.
So point I’m getting at is please be kind with your words people xx forums unfortunately are about the diversity of opinion some people are very serious and although they think they debate well..... dont........ but carry on until it gets to the argumentative side, some are just very confrontational, some enjoy a laugh and some don't, i agree though if your opinion is logged in a negative way then maybe in some instances best to not contribute "
I agree with most of that but not the word unfortunately.
Thank God everyone is different with different ideas.
There's never any need for deliberate harm or nastiness though. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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"This is why I never get to know anyone on this site.
I've always stayed away from the drama and bitchiness and other peoples issues about people... Jeez!
I'm here to swing and enjoy sex... "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do not say anything at all. Gunna have a rant as I have not been on Fab long. But met some nice guys and had some amazing chats with people and hoping to meet many more and join some socials and clubs.
But I have been witness and verbally attacked on more than one occasion in forums. I’m no Fab expert but I am human and I kind of feel that if you have an opinion on someone that you think might not come across well don’t type it out for that person and the world to see.
I’m thick skinned and can take a lot but in light of someone taking their life in the public eye due to people typing their opinions on her maybe we should all have a little think before you hit send on that keyboard.
I am a positive person and always try to see the good and I will continue to voice that in the forum despite the sometimes spiteful comments.
So point I’m getting at is please be kind with your words people xx forums unfortunately are about the diversity of opinion some people are very serious and although they think they debate well..... dont........ but carry on until it gets to the argumentative side, some are just very confrontational, some enjoy a laugh and some don't, i agree though if your opinion is logged in a negative way then maybe in some instances best to not contribute
I agree with most of that but not the word unfortunately.
Thank God everyone is different with different ideas.
There's never any need for deliberate harm or nastiness though. "
Agreed...
I say debate not argumentative!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Here here OP!
There is always someone on here that finds it amusing to slag off others, one starts then the rest join in, mass bullying if you will!
I don’t stick up for anyone anymore, I have stuck up for someone in the past when all her ‘friends’ didn’t stand up to the bullying yet I got the bad name.
And that continues today with some nasty nasty comments.... it’s quite ironic seeing postings on here.
That’s my rant for the day....
Be kind to yourself today xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sadly I think it's par for the course on a site like this, everybody wants to give the impression of being strong and dominant so they can get the biggest collection of potential partners.
Personally when I see someone doing it they go straight on block but I doubt that will bother them at all. |
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By *rjimMan
over a year ago
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Unfortunately, these days just having an opposite opinion to someone is regarded as argumentative.
Or in fact just stating an obvious truth is tantamount to heresy.... in some circles.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Agreed op
Over the many years on here I’ve seen some people practically tear a person apart on here, for no reason whatsoever.
I’m quite forthright, however, I’m not mean.
Be mindful of what you say to others who have sheep’s clothing. Be mindful that you can trust the person you are conversing with.
Unfortunately, not everyone is your friend, even when they say they are. On here - in the ‘real’ world - be mindful.
There’s irony everywhere - even in some of these posts that have been so prolific recently.
I’ll leave that out there for those who don’t practice what they preach. |
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"Unfortunately, these days just having an opposite opinion to someone is regarded as argumentative.
Or in fact just stating an obvious truth is tantamount to heresy.... in some circles.
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That does happen as does some taking sideways swipes under the guise of good will , love and peace. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Two years ago I was subjected to bullying on here. The veiled catty remarks, the posting directly underneath me and the constant little digs made me very upset. I've been catfished, ghosted, had my pics stolen and put on different sites, used for fake profiles etc. It all takes its toll. I don't trust anybody on here, won't join kik groups etc because some people just can't help themselves. I admit I'm not perfect but I'm not rude or aggressive to people, I was taught to have manners.
With all the doom and gloom going on in this world, the Forums, although for debate, should be fun. Treat everyone with the respect you want them to give you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Agreed op
Over the many years on here I’ve seen some people practically tear a person apart on here, for no reason whatsoever.
I’m quite forthright, however, I’m not mean.
Be mindful of what you say to others who have sheep’s clothing. Be mindful that you can trust the person you are conversing with.
Unfortunately, not everyone is your friend, even when they say they are. On here - in the ‘real’ world - be mindful.
There’s irony everywhere - even in some of these posts that have been so prolific recently.
I’ll leave that out there for those who don’t practice what they preach. "
Much more eloquently put than my piece |
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"Do not say anything at all. Gunna have a rant as I have not been on Fab long. But met some nice guys and had some amazing chats with people and hoping to meet many more and join some socials and clubs.
But I have been witness and verbally attacked on more than one occasion in forums. I’m no Fab expert but I am human and I kind of feel that if you have an opinion on someone that you think might not come across well don’t type it out for that person and the world to see.
I’m thick skinned and can take a lot but in light of someone taking their life in the public eye due to people typing their opinions on her maybe we should all have a little think before you hit send on that keyboard.
I am a positive person and always try to see the good and I will continue to voice that in the forum despite the sometimes spiteful comments.
So point I’m getting at is please be kind with your words people xx "
Totally agree, but got trolled on s post on Sunday for saying similar |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Agreed op
Over the many years on here I’ve seen some people practically tear a person apart on here, for no reason whatsoever.
I’m quite forthright, however, I’m not mean.
Be mindful of what you say to others who have sheep’s clothing. Be mindful that you can trust the person you are conversing with.
Unfortunately, not everyone is your friend, even when they say they are. On here - in the ‘real’ world - be mindful.
There’s irony everywhere - even in some of these posts that have been so prolific recently.
I’ll leave that out there for those who don’t practice what they preach.
Much more eloquently put than my piece "
Yours was very well put  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's only pity for humans that find warmth in being cold to other humans.
A block works pretty well too, I guess...
Also, stay cool, OP. "
Blocks don’t work in the forums though, that’s where the majority of the bullying occurs! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's only pity for humans that find warmth in being cold to other humans.
A block works pretty well too, I guess...
Also, stay cool, OP.
Blocks don’t work in the forums though, that’s where the majority of the bullying occurs!"
But the bkocks should work, you shouldn't have to rub shoulders with people you've blocked, I can't think of many media sites we're this happens? It's wrong. |
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"There's only pity for humans that find warmth in being cold to other humans.
A block works pretty well too, I guess...
Also, stay cool, OP.
Blocks don’t work in the forums though, that’s where the majority of the bullying occurs!
But the bkocks should work, you shouldn't have to rub shoulders with people you've blocked, I can't think of many media sites we're this happens? It's wrong. "
Blocks only stop direct contact rather.
They don't stop a person responding to a post.
I simply try not to get dragged into things and to disagree politely. If I think someone is being nasty, report them.
Sadly there will always be bullies. If I feel unfairly treated, I ignore, report and block as I see fit.
It's much easier to be horrible online than face to face.  |
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"I appreciate all the comments. I shall continue to be positive and nice in such a cruel world xx"
Don't let the idiots spoil it. Sometimes a day or two offline is good for a soul.
Most of us are nice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do not say anything at all. Gunna have a rant as I have not been on Fab long. But met some nice guys and had some amazing chats with people and hoping to meet many more and join some socials and clubs.
But I have been witness and verbally attacked on more than one occasion in forums. I’m no Fab expert but I am human and I kind of feel that if you have an opinion on someone that you think might not come across well don’t type it out for that person and the world to see.
I’m thick skinned and can take a lot but in light of someone taking their life in the public eye due to people typing their opinions on her maybe we should all have a little think before you hit send on that keyboard.
I am a positive person and always try to see the good and I will continue to voice that in the forum despite the sometimes spiteful comments.
So point I’m getting at is please be kind with your words people xx "
Spot on. #BeKind in all you say or do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do not say anything at all. Gunna have a rant as I have not been on Fab long. But met some nice guys and had some amazing chats with people and hoping to meet many more and join some socials and clubs.
But I have been witness and verbally attacked on more than one occasion in forums. I’m no Fab expert but I am human and I kind of feel that if you have an opinion on someone that you think might not come across well don’t type it out for that person and the world to see.
I’m thick skinned and can take a lot but in light of someone taking their life in the public eye due to people typing their opinions on her maybe we should all have a little think before you hit send on that keyboard.
I am a positive person and always try to see the good and I will continue to voice that in the forum despite the sometimes spiteful comments.
So point I’m getting at is please be kind with your words people xx
Very nice boobs
Some kind words x
Great words xx"
Come chat kitty I’m near you and lots more nice things to say x |
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By *B69Woman
over a year ago
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"Also find some on here think they’re way above everyone else, just by reading their status it seems they think they are better than the rest of us.
Exactly this, does our nut in! "
It’s the attention they crave and when they don’t get it they still comment on it, never ending cycle sadly, best just to leave them to it, there are more deserving people on here to give our time and support to |
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"Also find some on here think they’re way above everyone else, just by reading their status it seems they think they are better than the rest of us.
Exactly this, does our nut in!
It’s the attention they crave and when they don’t get it they still comment on it, never ending cycle sadly, best just to leave them to it, there are more deserving people on here to give our time and support to "
Can none of you see the irony in your words? |
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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago
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"Also find some on here think they’re way above everyone else, just by reading their status it seems they think they are better than the rest of us.
Exactly this, does our nut in!
It’s the attention they crave and when they don’t get it they still comment on it, never ending cycle sadly, best just to leave them to it, there are more deserving people on here to give our time and support to
Can none of you see the irony in your words? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Also find some on here think they’re way above everyone else, just by reading their status it seems they think they are better than the rest of us.
Exactly this, does our nut in!
It’s the attention they crave and when they don’t get it they still comment on it, never ending cycle sadly, best just to leave them to it, there are more deserving people on here to give our time and support to
Can none of you see the irony in your words? "
Nope, care to explain? |
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"Stopped sticking up for people on here as it just gets you banned too even though you report it, crazy!"
If you think you've been banned unfairly contact Admin and ask them to review.
Sticking up for people doesn't mean you can break forum rules to do it though |
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"Also find some on here think they’re way above everyone else, just by reading their status it seems they think they are better than the rest of us.
Exactly this, does our nut in!
It’s the attention they crave and when they don’t get it they still comment on it, never ending cycle sadly, best just to leave them to it, there are more deserving people on here to give our time and support to
Can none of you see the irony in your words?
Nope, care to explain? "
The thread is titled "say something nice". |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Stopped sticking up for people on here as it just gets you banned too even though you report it, crazy!
If you think you've been banned unfairly contact Admin and ask them to review.
Sticking up for people doesn't mean you can break forum rules to do it though "
We did and was ignored by Admin. |
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"Stopped sticking up for people on here as it just gets you banned too even though you report it, crazy!
If you think you've been banned unfairly contact Admin and ask them to review.
Sticking up for people doesn't mean you can break forum rules to do it though
We did and was ignored by Admin. "
If you don't receive a response it normally means they uphold the original decision |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"Stopped sticking up for people on here as it just gets you banned too even though you report it, crazy!
If you think you've been banned unfairly contact Admin and ask them to review.
Sticking up for people doesn't mean you can break forum rules to do it though "
I got given a holiday because I said that a certain member "from what I'd heard you're not a nice person".  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Also find some on here think they’re way above everyone else, just by reading their status it seems they think they are better than the rest of us.
Exactly this, does our nut in!
It’s the attention they crave and when they don’t get it they still comment on it, never ending cycle sadly, best just to leave them to it, there are more deserving people on here to give our time and support to
Can none of you see the irony in your words?
Nope, care to explain?
The thread is titled "say something nice". "
I did say something nice, I agreed and backed up what someone was saying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Stopped sticking up for people on here as it just gets you banned too even though you report it, crazy!
If you think you've been banned unfairly contact Admin and ask them to review.
Sticking up for people doesn't mean you can break forum rules to do it though
We did and was ignored by Admin.
If you don't receive a response it normally means they uphold the original decision "
Yes, but doesn't mean its correct when it was defending sobe one being bullied |
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"Stopped sticking up for people on here as it just gets you banned too even though you report it, crazy!
If you think you've been banned unfairly contact Admin and ask them to review.
Sticking up for people doesn't mean you can break forum rules to do it though
We did and was ignored by Admin.
If you don't receive a response it normally means they uphold the original decision
Yes, but doesn't mean its correct when it was defending sobe one being bullied "
Disputing a moderators decision on the forum is against forum rules too.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you can’t say anything nice do not say anything at all."
I had never heard this phase, or equivalent, before I started learning English. I'm not sure that I agree with it. It seems to be an attempt at stifling speech. The closest where I'm from is translated to "If you must speak, speak honestly". I think that may be why I come across as a bit blunt to Westerners |
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"Stopped sticking up for people on here as it just gets you banned too even though you report it, crazy!
If you think you've been banned unfairly contact Admin and ask them to review.
Sticking up for people doesn't mean you can break forum rules to do it though
We did and was ignored by Admin. "
Sadly it seems that people can be as racist, homophobic or transphobic as they like and get away with it, but if you call them out on it or defend the people its aimed at then it will infact be you that gets sent to the naughty step and not the perpetrators.
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""If you can’t say anything nice do not say anything at all."
I had never heard this phase, or equivalent, before I started learning English. I'm not sure that I agree with it. It seems to be an attempt at stifling speech. The closest where I'm from is translated to "If you must speak, speak honestly". I think that may be why I come across as a bit blunt to Westerners "
Westerners ? Where are you from ?
The phrase : ' if you can't say anything nice - don't say anything at all' isn't or wasn't used as portrayed here.
It was generally used by parents and teachers to get children to think before they say hurtful things.
I find it a bit peculiar when used against adults who should be able to temper their own moods and censor their own speech and be able to speak honestly when asked an opinion.
There's a chasm of difference between 'honesty' and lack of tact. One is often used as an excuse for the other.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Reading this thread reminds me of one of Caroline Flacks' tweets" In a world you can be anything you want to be, be kind".
It costs nothing and makes the world a nicer place for all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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""If you can’t say anything nice do not say anything at all."
I had never heard this phase, or equivalent, before I started learning English. I'm not sure that I agree with it. It seems to be an attempt at stifling speech. The closest where I'm from is translated to "If you must speak, speak honestly". I think that may be why I come across as a bit blunt to Westerners
Westerners ? Where are you from ?
The phrase : ' if you can't say anything nice - don't say anything at all' isn't or wasn't used as portrayed here.
It was generally used by parents and teachers to get children to think before they say hurtful things.
I find it a bit peculiar when used against adults who should be able to temper their own moods and censor their own speech and be able to speak honestly when asked an opinion.
There's a chasm of difference between 'honesty' and lack of tact. One is often used as an excuse for the other.
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Oh, ok - thanks for that explanation And in answer to your - "Where are you from?", my birth mother was Japanese/Burmese, my birth Father was Nigerian and my adoptive parents are Israeli Jews, so I was born in the USA, moved to Japan when I was 2 then to Israel when I was 18. A year ago I bought a place in Colorado, USA. So I'm kind of from many places |
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"I am actually jealous for the first time in a long time.
Well envious.......
Thanks for sharing bongo.
You are welcome, but jealous of what?"
Sorry, envious of what? |
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I think there is a massive element that people can say what they want because they hide behind their keyboard. How many of these awful people would say this to your face.
I too have been subjected to nasty comments and name calling just because I politely declined their interest.
It's so much easier to be nice. X |
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"your mixed race your cultural experiences and travel ......
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To be honest, being mixed-race can be a burden depending on where in the world I'm working - I get quite a bit of racism around the Middle East but apart from that, my life is all I knew until I met my extended Japanese family. I rather envy their sense of belonging to a community/Nationality. I also envy my Israeli family's history and traditions because I know so little about mine. |
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"your mixed race your cultural experiences and travel ......
To be honest, being mixed-race can be a burden depending on where in the world I'm working - I get quite a bit of racism around the Middle East but apart from that, my life is all I knew until I met my extended Japanese family. I rather envy their sense of belonging to a community/Nationality. I also envy my Israeli family's history and traditions because I know so little about mine."
-I'm a mixture of a lot of things too.
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There are a glorious degree of keyboard warriors online.
Dont get me wrong though, anonimity can provide the confidence of expression... but it can also work the other way.
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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""If you can’t say anything nice do not say anything at all."
I had never heard this phase, or equivalent, before I started learning English. I'm not sure that I agree with it. It seems to be an attempt at stifling speech. The closest where I'm from is translated to "If you must speak, speak honestly". I think that may be why I come across as a bit blunt to Westerners
Westerners ? Where are you from ?
The phrase : ' if you can't say anything nice - don't say anything at all' isn't or wasn't used as portrayed here.
It was generally used by parents and teachers to get children to think before they say hurtful things.
I find it a bit peculiar when used against adults who should be able to temper their own moods and censor their own speech and be able to speak honestly when asked an opinion.
There's a chasm of difference between 'honesty' and lack of tact. One is often used as an excuse for the other.
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Yes! I could not agree with this anymore. It is amazingly accurate.
In fact the way it gets used these days is in fact overused and as you say strangely used.
Even more so now that people can take offense to anything you say, it's best to say what is honest, but worded not to avoid causing offense but to just be polite, courteous.
Ive said it before, it matters very little what you say but the intent of it, and the way it is said that should make a difference. |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"your mixed race your cultural experiences and travel ......
To be honest, being mixed-race can be a burden depending on where in the world I'm working - I get quite a bit of racism around the Middle East but apart from that, my life is all I knew until I met my extended Japanese family. I rather envy their sense of belonging to a community/Nationality. I also envy my Israeli family's history and traditions because I know so little about mine.
-I'm a mixture of a lot of things too.
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""If you can’t say anything nice do not say anything at all."
I had never heard this phase, or equivalent, before I started learning English. I'm not sure that I agree with it. It seems to be an attempt at stifling speech. The closest where I'm from is translated to "If you must speak, speak honestly". I think that may be why I come across as a bit blunt to Westerners
Westerners ? Where are you from ?
The phrase : ' if you can't say anything nice - don't say anything at all' isn't or wasn't used as portrayed here.
It was generally used by parents and teachers to get children to think before they say hurtful things.
I find it a bit peculiar when used against adults who should be able to temper their own moods and censor their own speech and be able to speak honestly when asked an opinion.
There's a chasm of difference between 'honesty' and lack of tact. One is often used as an excuse for the other.
Yes! I could not agree with this anymore. It is amazingly accurate.
In fact the way it gets used these days is in fact overused and as you say strangely used.
Even more so now that people can take offense to anything you say, it's best to say what is honest, but worded not to avoid causing offense but to just be polite, courteous.
Ive said it before, it matters very little what you say but the intent of it, and the way it is said that should make a difference."
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"your mixed race your cultural experiences and travel ......
To be honest, being mixed-race can be a burden depending on where in the world I'm working - I get quite a bit of racism around the Middle East but apart from that, my life is all I knew until I met my extended Japanese family. I rather envy their sense of belonging to a community/Nationality. I also envy my Israeli family's history and traditions because I know so little about mine.
-I'm a mixture of a lot of things too.
Would be interested to know "
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over a year ago
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"your mixed race your cultural experiences and travel ......
To be honest, being mixed-race can be a burden depending on where in the world I'm working - I get quite a bit of racism around the Middle East but apart from that, my life is all I knew until I met my extended Japanese family. I rather envy their sense of belonging to a community/Nationality. I also envy my Israeli family's history and traditions because I know so little about mine.
-I'm a mixture of a lot of things too.
Would be interested to know
My apologies to hijack the thread, but how is Molly cat?"
Hello
She's better now. She had blood in her urine again, but it cleared up with her medication. I think it is stress related, as the vet said. There's this massive cat come in the garden at night
and she sees it through the patio doors, she throws herself against the doors. So we keep her out of those rooms at night.  |
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"your mixed race your cultural experiences and travel ......
To be honest, being mixed-race can be a burden depending on where in the world I'm working - I get quite a bit of racism around the Middle East but apart from that, my life is all I knew until I met my extended Japanese family. I rather envy their sense of belonging to a community/Nationality. I also envy my Israeli family's history and traditions because I know so little about mine.
-I'm a mixture of a lot of things too.
Would be interested to know
My apologies to hijack the thread, but how is Molly cat?
Hello
She's better now. She had blood in her urine again, but it cleared up with her medication. I think it is stress related, as the vet said. There's this massive cat come in the garden at night
and she sees it through the patio doors, she throws herself against the doors. So we keep her out of those rooms at night. "
I am glad to hear she is better Is it worth temporarily putting some paper or card at the bottom of the patio doors? Molly won't be able to see the intruder, and the intruder might get bored of not seeing anything interesting and stay away? |
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""If you can’t say anything nice do not say anything at all."
I had never heard this phase, or equivalent, before I started learning English. I'm not sure that I agree with it. It seems to be an attempt at stifling speech. The closest where I'm from is translated to "If you must speak, speak honestly". I think that may be why I come across as a bit blunt to Westerners "
I am not talking about the OP but some on here label anybody with an alternative view as argumentative. Some seem to go into meltdown over anything outside their cosy bubble. If they are snowflakes then the collective term on fab is that there is a whole blizzard of them.
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"your mixed race your cultural experiences and travel ......
To be honest, being mixed-race can be a burden depending on where in the world I'm working - I get quite a bit of racism around the Middle East but apart from that, my life is all I knew until I met my extended Japanese family. I rather envy their sense of belonging to a community/Nationality. I also envy my Israeli family's history and traditions because I know so little about mine.
-I'm a mixture of a lot of things too.
Would be interested to know
My apologies to hijack the thread, but how is Molly cat?
Hello
She's better now. She had blood in her urine again, but it cleared up with her medication. I think it is stress related, as the vet said. There's this massive cat come in the garden at night
and she sees it through the patio doors, she throws herself against the doors. So we keep her out of those rooms at night.
I am glad to hear she is better Is it worth temporarily putting some paper or card at the bottom of the patio doors? Molly won't be able to see the intruder, and the intruder might get bored of not seeing anything interesting and stay away?"
Hey that's a good idea , I don't like shutting her out of rooms. Do cats get separation anxiety, she's hates us going out
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""If you can’t say anything nice do not say anything at all."
I had never heard this phase, or equivalent, before I started learning English. I'm not sure that I agree with it. It seems to be an attempt at stifling speech. The closest where I'm from is translated to "If you must speak, speak honestly". I think that may be why I come across as a bit blunt to Westerners
I am not talking about the OP but some on here label anybody with an alternative view as argumentative. Some seem to go into meltdown over anything outside their cosy bubble. If they are snowflakes then the collective term on fab is that there is a whole blizzard of them.
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You're going to get that anywhere, unfortunately |
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""If you can’t say anything nice do not say anything at all."
I had never heard this phase, or equivalent, before I started learning English. I'm not sure that I agree with it. It seems to be an attempt at stifling speech. The closest where I'm from is translated to "If you must speak, speak honestly". I think that may be why I come across as a bit blunt to Westerners
I am not talking about the OP but some on here label anybody with an alternative view as argumentative. Some seem to go into meltdown over anything outside their cosy bubble. If they are snowflakes then the collective term on fab is that there is a whole blizzard of them.
"
I can empathise with the "cosy bubble" though - the world is a big, and mostly, I have to say - an inhospitable place. I am hoping to achieve a cosy bubble myself when I finish working. I do not think I will ever stop speaking honestly though |
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"your mixed race your cultural experiences and travel ......
To be honest, being mixed-race can be a burden depending on where in the world I'm working - I get quite a bit of racism around the Middle East but apart from that, my life is all I knew until I met my extended Japanese family. I rather envy their sense of belonging to a community/Nationality. I also envy my Israeli family's history and traditions because I know so little about mine.
-I'm a mixture of a lot of things too.
Would be interested to know
My apologies to hijack the thread, but how is Molly cat?
Hello
She's better now. She had blood in her urine again, but it cleared up with her medication. I think it is stress related, as the vet said. There's this massive cat come in the garden at night
and she sees it through the patio doors, she throws herself against the doors. So we keep her out of those rooms at night.
I am glad to hear she is better Is it worth temporarily putting some paper or card at the bottom of the patio doors? Molly won't be able to see the intruder, and the intruder might get bored of not seeing anything interesting and stay away?
Hey that's a good idea , I don't like shutting her out of rooms. Do cats get separation anxiety, she's hates us going out
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I think they do to an extent. When I got home I was wearing 6 cats for a week. Do you ever leave music or TV on when you go out? |
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"your mixed race your cultural experiences and travel ......
To be honest, being mixed-race can be a burden depending on where in the world I'm working - I get quite a bit of racism around the Middle East but apart from that, my life is all I knew until I met my extended Japanese family. I rather envy their sense of belonging to a community/Nationality. I also envy my Israeli family's history and traditions because I know so little about mine.
-I'm a mixture of a lot of things too.
Would be interested to know
My apologies to hijack the thread, but how is Molly cat?
Hello
She's better now. She had blood in her urine again, but it cleared up with her medication. I think it is stress related, as the vet said. There's this massive cat come in the garden at night
and she sees it through the patio doors, she throws herself against the doors. So we keep her out of those rooms at night.
I am glad to hear she is better Is it worth temporarily putting some paper or card at the bottom of the patio doors? Molly won't be able to see the intruder, and the intruder might get bored of not seeing anything interesting and stay away?
Hey that's a good idea , I don't like shutting her out of rooms. Do cats get separation anxiety, she's hates us going out
I think they do to an extent. When I got home I was wearing 6 cats for a week. Do you ever leave music or TV on when you go out?"
Haha I can imagine! I haven't but that's an idea. I put my coat on and she lays on my boots to try and stop me putting them on |
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""If you can’t say anything nice do not say anything at all."
I had never heard this phase, or equivalent, before I started learning English. I'm not sure that I agree with it. It seems to be an attempt at stifling speech. The closest where I'm from is translated to "If you must speak, speak honestly". I think that may be why I come across as a bit blunt to Westerners
I am not talking about the OP but some on here label anybody with an alternative view as argumentative. Some seem to go into meltdown over anything outside their cosy bubble. If they are snowflakes then the collective term on fab is that there is a whole blizzard of them.
I can empathise with the "cosy bubble" though - the world is a big, and mostly, I have to say - an inhospitable place. I am hoping to achieve a cosy bubble myself when I finish working. I do not think I will ever stop speaking honestly though "
Oh I definitely think you should be honest in life but there are ways of saying things. The reason I say “if you have nothing nice to say don’t say anything at all” is not because I don’t think people should not be honest or voice their own opinions. But I do think people should think before they put into words comments that could potentially hurt someone’s feelings. I’m talking nasty/ unacceptable name calling just because you don’t agree with an opinion or belittling people. |
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""If you can’t say anything nice do not say anything at all."
I had never heard this phase, or equivalent, before I started learning English. I'm not sure that I agree with it. It seems to be an attempt at stifling speech. The closest where I'm from is translated to "If you must speak, speak honestly". I think that may be why I come across as a bit blunt to Westerners
I am not talking about the OP but some on here label anybody with an alternative view as argumentative. Some seem to go into meltdown over anything outside their cosy bubble. If they are snowflakes then the collective term on fab is that there is a whole blizzard of them.
I can empathise with the "cosy bubble" though - the world is a big, and mostly, I have to say - an inhospitable place. I am hoping to achieve a cosy bubble myself when I finish working. I do not think I will ever stop speaking honestly though "
Cosy bubbles are.....cosy
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""If you can’t say anything nice do not say anything at all."
I had never heard this phase, or equivalent, before I started learning English. I'm not sure that I agree with it. It seems to be an attempt at stifling speech. The closest where I'm from is translated to "If you must speak, speak honestly". I think that may be why I come across as a bit blunt to Westerners
I am not talking about the OP but some on here label anybody with an alternative view as argumentative. Some seem to go into meltdown over anything outside their cosy bubble. If they are snowflakes then the collective term on fab is that there is a whole blizzard of them.
I can empathise with the "cosy bubble" though - the world is a big, and mostly, I have to say - an inhospitable place. I am hoping to achieve a cosy bubble myself when I finish working. I do not think I will ever stop speaking honestly though
Oh I definitely think you should be honest in life but there are ways of saying things. The reason I say “if you have nothing nice to say don’t say anything at all” is not because I don’t think people should not be honest or voice their own opinions. But I do think people should think before they put into words comments that could potentially hurt someone’s feelings. I’m talking nasty/ unacceptable name calling just because you don’t agree with an opinion or belittling people. "
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Had the same on here, I just think it's their problem rather than mine . The amount of nice people on the forums, far outweighs the nasties |
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""If you can’t say anything nice do not say anything at all."
I had never heard this phase, or equivalent, before I started learning English. I'm not sure that I agree with it. It seems to be an attempt at stifling speech. The closest where I'm from is translated to "If you must speak, speak honestly". I think that may be why I come across as a bit blunt to Westerners
Westerners ? Where are you from ?
The phrase : ' if you can't say anything nice - don't say anything at all' isn't or wasn't used as portrayed here.
It was generally used by parents and teachers to get children to think before they say hurtful things.
I find it a bit peculiar when used against adults who should be able to temper their own moods and censor their own speech and be able to speak honestly when asked an opinion.
There's a chasm of difference between 'honesty' and lack of tact. One is often used as an excuse for the other.
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"your mixed race your cultural experiences and travel ......
To be honest, being mixed-race can be a burden depending on where in the world I'm working - I get quite a bit of racism around the Middle East but apart from that, my life is all I knew until I met my extended Japanese family. I rather envy their sense of belonging to a community/Nationality. I also envy my Israeli family's history and traditions because I know so little about mine.
-I'm a mixture of a lot of things too.
Would be interested to know
My apologies to hijack the thread, but how is Molly cat?
Hello
She's better now. She had blood in her urine again, but it cleared up with her medication. I think it is stress related, as the vet said. There's this massive cat come in the garden at night
and she sees it through the patio doors, she throws herself against the doors. So we keep her out of those rooms at night.
I am glad to hear she is better Is it worth temporarily putting some paper or card at the bottom of the patio doors? Molly won't be able to see the intruder, and the intruder might get bored of not seeing anything interesting and stay away?
Hey that's a good idea , I don't like shutting her out of rooms. Do cats get separation anxiety, she's hates us going out
I think they do to an extent. When I got home I was wearing 6 cats for a week. Do you ever leave music or TV on when you go out?
Haha I can imagine! I haven't but that's an idea. I put my coat on and she lays on my boots to try and stop me putting them on "
At least she doesn't leave little "gifts" in your boots
About 8 months ago when I left on my travels my suitcase started to move on the seat beside me. Nkosi (the Father cat) had sneaked in without me noticing. I had to drive 30 km to take him home |
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""If you can’t say anything nice do not say anything at all."
I had never heard this phase, or equivalent, before I started learning English. I'm not sure that I agree with it. It seems to be an attempt at stifling speech. The closest where I'm from is translated to "If you must speak, speak honestly". I think that may be why I come across as a bit blunt to Westerners
I am not talking about the OP but some on here label anybody with an alternative view as argumentative. Some seem to go into meltdown over anything outside their cosy bubble. If they are snowflakes then the collective term on fab is that there is a whole blizzard of them.
I can empathise with the "cosy bubble" though - the world is a big, and mostly, I have to say - an inhospitable place. I am hoping to achieve a cosy bubble myself when I finish working. I do not think I will ever stop speaking honestly though
Oh I definitely think you should be honest in life but there are ways of saying things. The reason I say “if you have nothing nice to say don’t say anything at all” is not because I don’t think people should not be honest or voice their own opinions. But I do think people should think before they put into words comments that could potentially hurt someone’s feelings. I’m talking nasty/ unacceptable name calling just because you don’t agree with an opinion or belittling people. ,
Had the same on here, I just think it's their problem rather than mine . The amount of nice people on the forums, far outweighs the nasties "
I do agree with you that the nice fat outweighs the nasty! But I was just venting this morning as had a bad weekend with it, which continued into today!!! I feel better for getting it all off my chest!! |
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By *amissCouple
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"your mixed race your cultural experiences and travel ......
To be honest, being mixed-race can be a burden depending on where in the world I'm working - I get quite a bit of racism around the Middle East but apart from that, my life is all I knew until I met my extended Japanese family. I rather envy their sense of belonging to a community/Nationality. I also envy my Israeli family's history and traditions because I know so little about mine.
-I'm a mixture of a lot of things too.
Would be interested to know
My apologies to hijack the thread, but how is Molly cat?
Hello
She's better now. She had blood in her urine again, but it cleared up with her medication. I think it is stress related, as the vet said. There's this massive cat come in the garden at night
and she sees it through the patio doors, she throws herself against the doors. So we keep her out of those rooms at night.
I am glad to hear she is better Is it worth temporarily putting some paper or card at the bottom of the patio doors? Molly won't be able to see the intruder, and the intruder might get bored of not seeing anything interesting and stay away?
Hey that's a good idea , I don't like shutting her out of rooms. Do cats get separation anxiety, she's hates us going out
I think they do to an extent. When I got home I was wearing 6 cats for a week. Do you ever leave music or TV on when you go out?
Haha I can imagine! I haven't but that's an idea. I put my coat on and she lays on my boots to try and stop me putting them on
At least she doesn't leave little "gifts" in your boots
About 8 months ago when I left on my travels my suitcase started to move on the seat beside me. Nkosi (the Father cat) had sneaked in without me noticing. I had to drive 30 km to take him home "
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""If you can’t say anything nice do not say anything at all."
I had never heard this phase, or equivalent, before I started learning English. I'm not sure that I agree with it. It seems to be an attempt at stifling speech. The closest where I'm from is translated to "If you must speak, speak honestly". I think that may be why I come across as a bit blunt to Westerners
I am not talking about the OP but some on here label anybody with an alternative view as argumentative. Some seem to go into meltdown over anything outside their cosy bubble. If they are snowflakes then the collective term on fab is that there is a whole blizzard of them.
I can empathise with the "cosy bubble" though - the world is a big, and mostly, I have to say - an inhospitable place. I am hoping to achieve a cosy bubble myself when I finish working. I do not think I will ever stop speaking honestly though
Oh I definitely think you should be honest in life but there are ways of saying things. The reason I say “if you have nothing nice to say don’t say anything at all” is not because I don’t think people should not be honest or voice their own opinions. But I do think people should think before they put into words comments that could potentially hurt someone’s feelings. I’m talking nasty/ unacceptable name calling just because you don’t agree with an opinion or belittling people. ,
Had the same on here, I just think it's their problem rather than mine . The amount of nice people on the forums, far outweighs the nasties
I do agree with you that the nice fat outweighs the nasty! But I was just venting this morning as had a bad weekend with it, which continued into today!!! I feel better for getting it all off my chest!! "
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""If you can’t say anything nice do not say anything at all."
I had never heard this phase, or equivalent, before I started learning English. I'm not sure that I agree with it. It seems to be an attempt at stifling speech. The closest where I'm from is translated to "If you must speak, speak honestly". I think that may be why I come across as a bit blunt to Westerners
I am not talking about the OP but some on here label anybody with an alternative view as argumentative. Some seem to go into meltdown over anything outside their cosy bubble. If they are snowflakes then the collective term on fab is that there is a whole blizzard of them.
I can empathise with the "cosy bubble" though - the world is a big, and mostly, I have to say - an inhospitable place. I am hoping to achieve a cosy bubble myself when I finish working. I do not think I will ever stop speaking honestly though
Oh I definitely think you should be honest in life but there are ways of saying things. The reason I say “if you have nothing nice to say don’t say anything at all” is not because I don’t think people should not be honest or voice their own opinions. But I do think people should think before they put into words comments that could potentially hurt someone’s feelings. I’m talking nasty/ unacceptable name calling just because you don’t agree with an opinion or belittling people. "
I agree. I find it difficult to read nuances in English conversations though. If I say "that's a nice tie", that's what I mean. By adding an inflection to the spoken sentence, it can make it sarcastic. I struggle with that. |
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""If you can’t say anything nice do not say anything at all."
I had never heard this phase, or equivalent, before I started learning English. I'm not sure that I agree with it. It seems to be an attempt at stifling speech. The closest where I'm from is translated to "If you must speak, speak honestly". I think that may be why I come across as a bit blunt to Westerners
I am not talking about the OP but some on here label anybody with an alternative view as argumentative. Some seem to go into meltdown over anything outside their cosy bubble. If they are snowflakes then the collective term on fab is that there is a whole blizzard of them.
I can empathise with the "cosy bubble" though - the world is a big, and mostly, I have to say - an inhospitable place. I am hoping to achieve a cosy bubble myself when I finish working. I do not think I will ever stop speaking honestly though
Oh I definitely think you should be honest in life but there are ways of saying things. The reason I say “if you have nothing nice to say don’t say anything at all” is not because I don’t think people should not be honest or voice their own opinions. But I do think people should think before they put into words comments that could potentially hurt someone’s feelings. I’m talking nasty/ unacceptable name calling just because you don’t agree with an opinion or belittling people. ,
Had the same on here, I just think it's their problem rather than mine . The amount of nice people on the forums, far outweighs the nasties
I do agree with you that the nice fat outweighs the nasty! But I was just venting this morning as had a bad weekend with it, which continued into today!!! I feel better for getting it all off my chest!! "
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""If you can’t say anything nice do not say anything at all."
I had never heard this phase, or equivalent, before I started learning English. I'm not sure that I agree with it. It seems to be an attempt at stifling speech. The closest where I'm from is translated to "If you must speak, speak honestly". I think that may be why I come across as a bit blunt to Westerners
I am not talking about the OP but some on here label anybody with an alternative view as argumentative. Some seem to go into meltdown over anything outside their cosy bubble. If they are snowflakes then the collective term on fab is that there is a whole blizzard of them.
I can empathise with the "cosy bubble" though - the world is a big, and mostly, I have to say - an inhospitable place. I am hoping to achieve a cosy bubble myself when I finish working. I do not think I will ever stop speaking honestly though
Oh I definitely think you should be honest in life but there are ways of saying things. The reason I say “if you have nothing nice to say don’t say anything at all” is not because I don’t think people should not be honest or voice their own opinions. But I do think people should think before they put into words comments that could potentially hurt someone’s feelings. I’m talking nasty/ unacceptable name calling just because you don’t agree with an opinion or belittling people. ,
Had the same on here, I just think it's their problem rather than mine . The amount of nice people on the forums, far outweighs the nasties
I do agree with you that the nice fat outweighs the nasty! But I was just venting this morning as had a bad weekend with it, which continued into today!!! I feel better for getting it all off my chest!!
Anything else you want to get off your gorgeous chest Kitty "
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""If you can’t say anything nice do not say anything at all."
I had never heard this phase, or equivalent, before I started learning English. I'm not sure that I agree with it. It seems to be an attempt at stifling speech. The closest where I'm from is translated to "If you must speak, speak honestly". I think that may be why I come across as a bit blunt to Westerners
I am not talking about the OP but some on here label anybody with an alternative view as argumentative. Some seem to go into meltdown over anything outside their cosy bubble. If they are snowflakes then the collective term on fab is that there is a whole blizzard of them.
I can empathise with the "cosy bubble" though - the world is a big, and mostly, I have to say - an inhospitable place. I am hoping to achieve a cosy bubble myself when I finish working. I do not think I will ever stop speaking honestly though
Oh I definitely think you should be honest in life but there are ways of saying things. The reason I say “if you have nothing nice to say don’t say anything at all” is not because I don’t think people should not be honest or voice their own opinions. But I do think people should think before they put into words comments that could potentially hurt someone’s feelings. I’m talking nasty/ unacceptable name calling just because you don’t agree with an opinion or belittling people. ,
Had the same on here, I just think it's their problem rather than mine . The amount of nice people on the forums, far outweighs the nasties
I do agree with you that the nice fat outweighs the nasty! But I was just venting this morning as had a bad weekend with it, which continued into today!!! I feel better for getting it all off my chest!! ,
Well I'm glad you feel better now, my lovely, just remember they are sad people, with nothing better to do x"
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""If you can’t say anything nice do not say anything at all."
I had never heard this phase, or equivalent, before I started learning English. I'm not sure that I agree with it. It seems to be an attempt at stifling speech. The closest where I'm from is translated to "If you must speak, speak honestly". I think that may be why I come across as a bit blunt to Westerners
I am not talking about the OP but some on here label anybody with an alternative view as argumentative. Some seem to go into meltdown over anything outside their cosy bubble. If they are snowflakes then the collective term on fab is that there is a whole blizzard of them.
I can empathise with the "cosy bubble" though - the world is a big, and mostly, I have to say - an inhospitable place. I am hoping to achieve a cosy bubble myself when I finish working. I do not think I will ever stop speaking honestly though
Oh I definitely think you should be honest in life but there are ways of saying things. The reason I say “if you have nothing nice to say don’t say anything at all” is not because I don’t think people should not be honest or voice their own opinions. But I do think people should think before they put into words comments that could potentially hurt someone’s feelings. I’m talking nasty/ unacceptable name calling just because you don’t agree with an opinion or belittling people. ,
Had the same on here, I just think it's their problem rather than mine . The amount of nice people on the forums, far outweighs the nasties
I do agree with you that the nice fat outweighs the nasty! But I was just venting this morning as had a bad weekend with it, which continued into today!!! I feel better for getting it all off my chest!! ,
Well I'm glad you feel better now, my lovely, just remember they are sad people, with nothing better to do x
Kisses to you xx"
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"I appreciate all the comments. I shall continue to be positive and nice in such a cruel world xx
Don't let the idiots spoil it. Sometimes a day or two offline is good for a soul.
Most of us are nice "
Yes at last someone types this...
Take a break from the content and switch off!
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I’ve been on here a few times but never really used the forums. Like any Social Media I guess it’s open to abuse. I had a message recently slagging me off for my user name. From a grown man. I’ve been called a time waster because I can’t do spontaneous meets, so much so that I’ve had to explain why on my profile.
Unfortunately modern technology and society has made a platform for everyone to say what they want, under the guise of “speaking their mind”. The old saying about sticks and stones never prepared us for cyber bullying. Often anonymous people who simply want to bring others down. I totally agree OP, #BeKind |
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"I’ve been on here a few times but never really used the forums. Like any Social Media I guess it’s open to abuse. I had a message recently slagging me off for my user name. From a grown man. I’ve been called a time waster because I can’t do spontaneous meets, so much so that I’ve had to explain why on my profile.
Unfortunately modern technology and society has made a platform for everyone to say what they want, under the guise of “speaking their mind”. The old saying about sticks and stones never prepared us for cyber bullying. Often anonymous people who simply want to bring others down. I totally agree OP, #BeKind "
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"I’ve been on here a few times but never really used the forums. Like any Social Media I guess it’s open to abuse. I had a message recently slagging me off for my user name. From a grown man. I’ve been called a time waster because I can’t do spontaneous meets, so much so that I’ve had to explain why on my profile.
Unfortunately modern technology and society has made a platform for everyone to say what they want, under the guise of “speaking their mind”. The old saying about sticks and stones never prepared us for cyber bullying. Often anonymous people who simply want to bring others down. I totally agree OP, #BeKind
I think it’s a great username!! "
Thank you, but this is a new one. A kinder person gave me a reason to chance the old one, in a more adult way. He didn’t even call me a w****r lol. It’s all supposed to be a play on the PAN thing lol |
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"your mixed race your cultural experiences and travel ......
To be honest, being mixed-race can be a burden depending on where in the world I'm working - I get quite a bit of racism around the Middle East but apart from that, my life is all I knew until I met my extended Japanese family. I rather envy their sense of belonging to a community/Nationality. I also envy my Israeli family's history and traditions because I know so little about mine.
-I'm a mixture of a lot of things too.
Would be interested to know "
Russian & Indian & a small amount of Mongolian.
I get people on here looking for mixed race guys that think I'm half black, but as far as I know I have no African ancestry..but I've never done one of those extensive DNA tests..
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"your mixed race your cultural experiences and travel ......
To be honest, being mixed-race can be a burden depending on where in the world I'm working - I get quite a bit of racism around the Middle East but apart from that, my life is all I knew until I met my extended Japanese family. I rather envy their sense of belonging to a community/Nationality. I also envy my Israeli family's history and traditions because I know so little about mine.
-I'm a mixture of a lot of things too.
Would be interested to know
Russian & Indian & a small amount of Mongolian.
I get people on here looking for mixed race guys that think I'm half black, but as far as I know I have no African ancestry..but I've never done one of those extensive DNA tests..
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Very interesting! Thank you for sharing that. I am quite dark skinned, not sure where that comes from, albeit my Dad is too. A dentist from many years ago thought I may be of Egyptian descent, he can tell by the gums?!
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"your mixed race your cultural experiences and travel ......
To be honest, being mixed-race can be a burden depending on where in the world I'm working - I get quite a bit of racism around the Middle East but apart from that, my life is all I knew until I met my extended Japanese family. I rather envy their sense of belonging to a community/Nationality. I also envy my Israeli family's history and traditions because I know so little about mine.
-I'm a mixture of a lot of things too.
Would be interested to know
Russian & Indian & a small amount of Mongolian.
I get people on here looking for mixed race guys that think I'm half black, but as far as I know I have no African ancestry..but I've never done one of those extensive DNA tests..
Very interesting! Thank you for sharing that. I am quite dark skinned, not sure where that comes from, albeit my Dad is too. A dentist from many years ago thought I may be of Egyptian descent, he can tell by the gums?!
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"Do not say anything at all. Gunna have a rant as I have not been on Fab long. But met some nice guys and had some amazing chats with people and hoping to meet many more and join some socials and clubs.
But I have been witness and verbally attacked on more than one occasion in forums. I’m no Fab expert but I am human and I kind of feel that if you have an opinion on someone that you think might not come across well don’t type it out for that person and the world to see.
I’m thick skinned and can take a lot but in light of someone taking their life in the public eye due to people typing their opinions on her maybe we should all have a little think before you hit send on that keyboard.
I am a positive person and always try to see the good and I will continue to voice that in the forum despite the sometimes spiteful comments.
So point I’m getting at is please be kind with your words people xx "
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"your mixed race your cultural experiences and travel ......
To be honest, being mixed-race can be a burden depending on where in the world I'm working - I get quite a bit of racism around the Middle East but apart from that, my life is all I knew until I met my extended Japanese family. I rather envy their sense of belonging to a community/Nationality. I also envy my Israeli family's history and traditions because I know so little about mine.
-I'm a mixture of a lot of things too.
Would be interested to know
Russian & Indian & a small amount of Mongolian.
I get people on here looking for mixed race guys that think I'm half black, but as far as I know I have no African ancestry..but I've never done one of those extensive DNA tests..
Very interesting! Thank you for sharing that. I am quite dark skinned, not sure where that comes from, albeit my Dad is too. A dentist from many years ago thought I may be of Egyptian descent, he can tell by the gums?!
omg can you play squash "
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"your mixed race your cultural experiences and travel ......
To be honest, being mixed-race can be a burden depending on where in the world I'm working - I get quite a bit of racism around the Middle East but apart from that, my life is all I knew until I met my extended Japanese family. I rather envy their sense of belonging to a community/Nationality. I also envy my Israeli family's history and traditions because I know so little about mine.
-I'm a mixture of a lot of things too.
Would be interested to know
Russian & Indian & a small amount of Mongolian.
I get people on here looking for mixed race guys that think I'm half black, but as far as I know I have no African ancestry..but I've never done one of those extensive DNA tests..
Very interesting! Thank you for sharing that. I am quite dark skinned, not sure where that comes from, albeit my Dad is too. A dentist from many years ago thought I may be of Egyptian descent, he can tell by the gums?!
omg can you play squash ,
Only if I fall on you! "
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"your mixed race your cultural experiences and travel ......
To be honest, being mixed-race can be a burden depending on where in the world I'm working - I get quite a bit of racism around the Middle East but apart from that, my life is all I knew until I met my extended Japanese family. I rather envy their sense of belonging to a community/Nationality. I also envy my Israeli family's history and traditions because I know so little about mine.
-I'm a mixture of a lot of things too.
Would be interested to know
Russian & Indian & a small amount of Mongolian.
I get people on here looking for mixed race guys that think I'm half black, but as far as I know I have no African ancestry..but I've never done one of those extensive DNA tests..
Very interesting! Thank you for sharing that. I am quite dark skinned, not sure where that comes from, albeit my Dad is too. A dentist from many years ago thought I may be of Egyptian descent, he can tell by the gums?!
omg can you play squash ,
Only if I fall on you! god i read that as youve fell for me "
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"Do not say anything at all. Gunna have a rant as I have not been on Fab long. But met some nice guys and had some amazing chats with people and hoping to meet many more and join some socials and clubs.
But I have been witness and verbally attacked on more than one occasion in forums. I’m no Fab expert but I am human and I kind of feel that if you have an opinion on someone that you think might not come across well don’t type it out for that person and the world to see.
I’m thick skinned and can take a lot but in light of someone taking their life in the public eye due to people typing their opinions on her maybe we should all have a little think before you hit send on that keyboard.
I am a positive person and always try to see the good and I will continue to voice that in the forum despite the sometimes spiteful comments.
So point I’m getting at is please be kind with your words people xx "
Totally agree |
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"Do not say anything at all. Gunna have a rant as I have not been on Fab long. But met some nice guys and had some amazing chats with people and hoping to meet many more and join some socials and clubs.
But I have been witness and verbally attacked on more than one occasion in forums. I’m no Fab expert but I am human and I kind of feel that if you have an opinion on someone that you think might not come across well don’t type it out for that person and the world to see.
I’m thick skinned and can take a lot but in light of someone taking their life in the public eye due to people typing their opinions on her maybe we should all have a little think before you hit send on that keyboard.
I am a positive person and always try to see the good and I will continue to voice that in the forum despite the sometimes spiteful comments.
So point I’m getting at is please be kind with your words people xx
Totally agree "
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