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over a year ago
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"I get this and they always want me to do the hard work organising it. If I'm not good enough on my own then I'm not interested "
Right?! I really thought I’d be enough! |
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
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Many of us are having a rather disappointing February... 
I’d like to compliment you on your photos. The green lingerie set is absolutely beautiful, as are you. 
It is horrible feeling used. I’ve felt like that lately.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get this and they always want me to do the hard work organising it. If I'm not good enough on my own then I'm not interested
Right?! I really thought I’d be enough!"
You are enough x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Many of us are having a rather disappointing February...
I’d like to compliment you on your photos. The green lingerie set is absolutely beautiful, as are you.
It is horrible feeling used. I’ve felt like that lately. "
Thank you x
I probably need to stop doing this. Or maybe just stop talking to people, full stop! That would remove the problem  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get this and they always want me to do the hard work organising it. If I'm not good enough on my own then I'm not interested
Right?! I really thought I’d be enough!"
Don't think like that, you are enough!
Some guys attitude to fab is like kids in a sweet shop, over excited and the thought that ladies on Fab may be more open to suggestion and they feel they are more likely to get their fantasy fulfilled... |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I think the trouble is OP *some* (and I'm ashamed to say it is mostly men) see the "sex site" sign and think it means it's a place to live out all their wildest fantasies and that all the usual values of consideration and respect etc go out the window with it.
Now of course it's possible to fulfill fantasies here, but it has to happen mutually and not as a one sided thing, or it will lead to bad feelings and disappointment and worse.
Sorry you've apparently been led a merry dance though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Coz now you're "a shoe in" he wants to push a bit more and see what it who else you can bring to the table.
I had this a few times when I've agreed to meet and the next question out of their mouths was "have you got any mates that wanna come too?"
Fuck off ya giblet, you've just blown ya chances instead of your beans
Sorry this has happened. Makes ya feel like shite.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I feel like I need to scream. Life is hard enough right now, without that falling apart too"
Then scream, just do it into a pillow so the neighbours don't call the po-po.
Give em an inch and they'll take a mile  not just men mind you.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Say yeah ok then bring along the most handsome, ripped and donkey dicked dude you can find. I’m assuming he was asking for another woman to join?
Had you already met and invested some time in him? A lot of guys will tell you they want more but really they’re just kissing your cheek to finger your arse.
Sorry you feel shit though, I’ve had times like that and it makes you want to say fuck it I won’t meet anyone then. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I feel like I need to scream. Life is hard enough right now, without that falling apart too
Oh I'm really sorry its affected you so much. X"
Ah it’s ok really. I’ll be fine in a bit, I’m being self indulgent! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Coz now you're "a shoe in" he wants to push a bit more and see what it who else you can bring to the table.
I had this a few times when I've agreed to meet and the next question out of their mouths was "have you got any mates that wanna come too?"
Fuck off ya giblet, you've just blown ya chances instead of your beans
Sorry this has happened. Makes ya feel like shite.
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Thank you - ‘fuck off ya giblet’ - has helped a lot |
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By *B69Woman
over a year ago
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I’ve had this before OP and I replied only if your willing to have a MMF first, amazing how they don’t want to share then.
There are many gentlemen on here who would love you to be their no 1  |
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over a year ago
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"I’ve had this before OP and I replied only if your willing to have a MMF first, amazing how they don’t want to share then.
There are many gentlemen on here who would love you to be their no 1 "
The only threesome I've ever had was MMF...oh and a husband watching |
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over a year ago
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Firstly I'd have to ask if you've had meets with him already. If you have then he MAY see it as a chance to live out fantasies and it's not necessarily a case of you "not being enough", just that one of the most popular male fantasies is unsurprisingly "two women". Also unsurprisingly "two men" features pretty high up the list of a lot of women's top fantasies too.
If that were one of yours then you COULD always say that "Yes you have a friend who would probably like to join in, but you'd have to ask HIM." Then gauge his reaction. If it's positive then where you would go from here exploration wise is entirely up to you. If it's negative then put simply, fuck him off. Everything should be about give and take and if he's not prepared to make concessions here then why should you?
If however you haven't even met the guy yet at all, then it's a case of Ditch straight away, Bon Appetit Bin! He's a chancer who couldn't care less about satisfying anyone or anything other than his own nutsack. Also as an aside, can you imagine even trying to recruit another lady? She would invariably ask "What's he like then?" And I don't believe a sheepish "Well, don't know really, I haven't clapped eyes on him in the flesh yet..." would cut the mustard really, do you think?
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"I’ve had this before OP and I replied only if your willing to have a MMF first, amazing how they don’t want to share then.
There are many gentlemen on here who would love you to be their no 1 "
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As a man in a relationship with a partner who is willing to explore, I know how tempting it is to push boundaries too hard. I have learned that if I ever see my partner as a gateway to get something I want that's more for me than her then I'm doing something very wrong and I consciously avoid that. It is very easy to get driven by hormones.
I have learned how wonderful it is when things happen organically - the right place, the right time, the right people, and it just happens without pre-planning or pushing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Coz now you're "a shoe in" he wants to push a bit more and see what it who else you can bring to the table.
I had this a few times when I've agreed to meet and the next question out of their mouths was "have you got any mates that wanna come too?"
Fuck off ya giblet, you've just blown ya chances instead of your beans
Sorry this has happened. Makes ya feel like shite.
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Thank you - ‘fuck off ya giblet’ - has helped a lot "
You're very welcome. Got plenty more terms of "endearment" *cough cough* where that came from if you ever need to find the right words but can't quite spit them out
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As a man in a relationship with a partner who is willing to explore, I know how tempting it is to push boundaries too hard. I have learned that if I ever see my partner as a gateway to get something I want that's more for me than her then I'm doing something very wrong and I consciously avoid that. It is very easy to get driven by hormones.
I have learned how wonderful it is when things happen organically - the right place, the right time, the right people, and it just happens without pre-planning or pushing. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As a man in a relationship with a partner who is willing to explore, I know how tempting it is to push boundaries too hard. I have learned that if I ever see my partner as a gateway to get something I want that's more for me than her then I'm doing something very wrong and I consciously avoid that. It is very easy to get driven by hormones.
I have learned how wonderful it is when things happen organically - the right place, the right time, the right people, and it just happens without pre-planning or pushing. "
That’s lovely x |
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over a year ago
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Someday someone will love every inch of you – the fading sunset behind your eyes, the moonlight that dances through your hair, the sadness nestled in the creases of your palms.
They are going to kiss all the parts you have kept hidden away and tell you how beautiful it all is. Someday someone is going to say,
‘I love all of you, not just the parts that make sense, not just the parts you have shown me. I love the parts of you that I don’t yet understand, the parts that weigh on your shoulders, the parts I only notice when I steal glances at you in silence.’
You will need to believe them, to believe that fairytales were not written for princesses in glass slippers, that they were written for women who have collected all the pieces of a broken heart and can’t stand to put it together again.
But most of all, you will need to believe that they were written for you.
Someday someone will come to you with a happily ever after promise and slide it over your finger. Someday you’ll realize you are not the lucky one, you are the deserving one. Someday you are going to take someone’s breath away.
Someday you will realize just how stunning you really are, and you will fall to you knees. Just like you’ve made me, so many times before.
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"Why, when I finally get one who doesn’t just want a one off, does he want to use me to engineer a threesome?
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I feel your pain. I've had this a few times, I've learnt not to take offense and put it down to experience. Though it is annoying, had one meet change a private 1on1 meet into a club visit without consulting me beforehand too. That was a fun conversation I wasn't expecting to have and kind of killed the mood for me. |
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"Someday someone will love every inch of you – the fading sunset behind your eyes, the moonlight that dances through your hair, the sadness nestled in the creases of your palms.
They are going to kiss all the parts you have kept hidden away and tell you how beautiful it all is. Someday someone is going to say,
‘I love all of you, not just the parts that make sense, not just the parts you have shown me. I love the parts of you that I don’t yet understand, the parts that weigh on your shoulders, the parts I only notice when I steal glances at you in silence.’
You will need to believe them, to believe that fairytales were not written for princesses in glass slippers, that they were written for women who have collected all the pieces of a broken heart and can’t stand to put it together again.
But most of all, you will need to believe that they were written for you.
Someday someone will come to you with a happily ever after promise and slide it over your finger. Someday you’ll realize you are not the lucky one, you are the deserving one. Someday you are going to take someone’s breath away.
Someday you will realize just how stunning you really are, and you will fall to you knees. Just like you’ve made me, so many times before.
-Tyler Kent White"
Wow. That’s a beautiful quote. Thank you.
God I hope so. Right now, that kind of thing happening to me feels a long long way off x |
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"Someday someone will love every inch of you – the fading sunset behind your eyes, the moonlight that dances through your hair, the sadness nestled in the creases of your palms.
They are going to kiss all the parts you have kept hidden away and tell you how beautiful it all is. Someday someone is going to say,
‘I love all of you, not just the parts that make sense, not just the parts you have shown me. I love the parts of you that I don’t yet understand, the parts that weigh on your shoulders, the parts I only notice when I steal glances at you in silence.’
You will need to believe them, to believe that fairytales were not written for princesses in glass slippers, that they were written for women who have collected all the pieces of a broken heart and can’t stand to put it together again.
But most of all, you will need to believe that they were written for you.
Someday someone will come to you with a happily ever after promise and slide it over your finger. Someday you’ll realize you are not the lucky one, you are the deserving one. Someday you are going to take someone’s breath away.
Someday you will realize just how stunning you really are, and you will fall to you knees. Just like you’ve made me, so many times before.
-Tyler Kent White
Wow. That’s a beautiful quote. Thank you.
God I hope so. Right now, that kind of thing happening to me feels a long long way off x"
It alway feels a long way off yet It never is, it could happen tomorrow...never lose hope x |
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There's a fairly common dehumanised perspective that is around now towards others here. You're the item on amazon fab Prime/Screwfix to give order for their needs to be serviced. I'm a bit brash and call it out. |
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over a year ago
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"There's a fairly common dehumanised perspective that is around now towards others here. You're the item on amazon fab Prime/Screwfix to give order for their needs to be serviced. I'm a bit brash and call it out. "
It is brash, but it really does feel like that.
Redhead? Tick
Redhead plus one other? Better tick that off |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why, when I finally get one who doesn’t just want a one off, does he want to use me to engineer a threesome?
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It's a shit self confidence destroying thing to go through. I'm with you. I had the same not so long ago. I think some think that by making you feel you're not enough you'll somehow strive to be perfection and do everything they want in order to keep them. It rarely works. I feel you. It's bloody shitty. You are beautiful. You deserve better, don't let the fucker get you down. There are some really nice worthy ones on here. Kick him to the curb and hold your head up high that he didn't get round you because you're stronger than he anticipated. His fail. His loss. |
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"Someday someone will love every inch of you – the fading sunset behind your eyes, the moonlight that dances through your hair, the sadness nestled in the creases of your palms.
They are going to kiss all the parts you have kept hidden away and tell you how beautiful it all is. Someday someone is going to say,
‘I love all of you, not just the parts that make sense, not just the parts you have shown me. I love the parts of you that I don’t yet understand, the parts that weigh on your shoulders, the parts I only notice when I steal glances at you in silence.’
You will need to believe them, to believe that fairytales were not written for princesses in glass slippers, that they were written for women who have collected all the pieces of a broken heart and can’t stand to put it together again.
But most of all, you will need to believe that they were written for you.
Someday someone will come to you with a happily ever after promise and slide it over your finger. Someday you’ll realize you are not the lucky one, you are the deserving one. Someday you are going to take someone’s breath away.
Someday you will realize just how stunning you really are, and you will fall to you knees. Just like you’ve made me, so many times before.
-Tyler Kent White"
Gorgeous comment! |
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"I feel like I need to scream. Life is hard enough right now, without that falling apart too"
You’re stunning and seem to be extremely down to earth just concentrate on doing you. It’s ok not to be ok. In life it’s important to take time for you, reflect and digest things - once done everything becomes a lot simpler.
Reaching out to the various numbers/ websites that offer support - speaking it through is a great way to normalise certain feelings as people may have been there before and if not they can still listen. xx |
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Some men get very excited and carried away with themselves and sometimes think with their cock instead of their brain..
Perhaps he thought it would be something you would enjoy too, eho knows.
Some men sometimes think because a woman is on here that she will be up for anything. Wrong. |
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"I get this and they always want me to do the hard work organising it. If I'm not good enough on my own then I'm not interested
Right?! I really thought I’d be enough!
Don't think like that, you are enough!
Some guys attitude to fab is like kids in a sweet shop, over excited and the thought that ladies on Fab may be more open to suggestion and they feel they are more likely to get their fantasy fulfilled... "
Meeting up with red for danger would fulfill at least part of my fantasy
the other part would be filled entirely with her never wish I was 8 years older before so much  |
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over a year ago
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"Thanks for indulging me, everyone x"
I'd love the chance to indulge you with some pleasant conversation madam, if you feel the inclination to reciprocate the invitation, I would welcome a message to begin correspondence   |
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"Why, when I finally get one who doesn’t just want a one off, does he want to use me to engineer a threesome?
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Define ‘engineer’. If you’re getting undue pressure then that’s not on. No one should have to deal with that. I’ve been on both sides, accused of pressuring (post activity I might add) and also having done things I didn’t want to for my partner as I knew it was something she wanted to do/ take part in.
You say you ‘finally get one that doesn’t want just a one off’, to me that sounds like you are looking for a longer term relationship. If that’s the case, is a swinging site (by its very definition aimed at group activity) the place to seek that? I’ve never understood the single people on here who don’t want that. Stick to Tinder or the likes. Probably a better hit rate too.
Is it possible that he’s doing it because he thinks you want to? Being on here and your veri being as part of that very scenario that you’re feeling pressured into he maybe thinks it’s as much what you want as what he does.
Think I’d need to hear the guys perspective before casting any judgement here. Going against the grain of popularity as that does.
The bit on someone’s post about when things just happen organically and without planning I do have to agree with. That’s when this place comes into its own. Only had a few meets like that and they were all superb and the excitement intense because there was no planning. It was as it was happening in the moment.
Peace x |
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"Why, when I finally get one who doesn’t just want a one off, does he want to use me to engineer a threesome?
Define ‘engineer’. If you’re getting undue pressure then that’s not on. No one should have to deal with that. I’ve been on both sides, accused of pressuring (post activity I might add) and also having done things I didn’t want to for my partner as I knew it was something she wanted to do/ take part in.
You say you ‘finally get one that doesn’t want just a one off’, to me that sounds like you are looking for a longer term relationship. If that’s the case, is a swinging site (by its very definition aimed at group activity) the place to seek that? I’ve never understood the single people on here who don’t want that. Stick to Tinder or the likes. Probably a better hit rate too.
Is it possible that he’s doing it because he thinks you want to? Being on here and your veri being as part of that very scenario that you’re feeling pressured into he maybe thinks it’s as much what you want as what he does.
Think I’d need to hear the guys perspective before casting any judgement here. Going against the grain of popularity as that does.
The bit on someone’s post about when things just happen organically and without planning I do have to agree with. That’s when this place comes into its own. Only had a few meets like that and they were all superb and the excitement intense because there was no planning. It was as it was happening in the moment.
Peace x"
Ok firstly lots of profiles state they want more than a one off and that's absolutely fine.
Secondly the OP did not say she was wanting a relationship and even if she does, that's more than possible.
And finally this sort of thing happens a fair bit, so no reason to doubt the OP.
Many times i have been chatting to a "single" woman for weeks then we arrange to met, then the "oh my boyfriend will be there for my safety" with no previous mention of any partner. Iv also been asked a few times if "I have a friend".
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It’s a swinger site. I’d expect that - I do expect that. It’s the raison d’etre of a swinging site. More than two people. If it’s not it’s a dating site. It’s not FabDaters. |
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"It’s a swinger site. I’d expect that - I do expect that. It’s the raison d’etre of a swinging site. More than two people. If it’s not it’s a dating site. It’s not FabDaters. "
It's whatever you want it to be actually.
People are free to use this site and run their profile as they choose.
Many happy relationships have come from meeting on this site. |
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"Why, when I finally get one who doesn’t just want a one off, does he want to use me to engineer a threesome?
Define ‘engineer’. If you’re getting undue pressure then that’s not on. No one should have to deal with that. I’ve been on both sides, accused of pressuring (post activity I might add) and also having done things I didn’t want to for my partner as I knew it was something she wanted to do/ take part in.
You say you ‘finally get one that doesn’t want just a one off’, to me that sounds like you are looking for a longer term relationship. If that’s the case, is a swinging site (by its very definition aimed at group activity) the place to seek that? I’ve never understood the single people on here who don’t want that. Stick to Tinder or the likes. Probably a better hit rate too.
Is it possible that he’s doing it because he thinks you want to? Being on here and your veri being as part of that very scenario that you’re feeling pressured into he maybe thinks it’s as much what you want as what he does.
Think I’d need to hear the guys perspective before casting any judgement here. Going against the grain of popularity as that does.
The bit on someone’s post about when things just happen organically and without planning I do have to agree with. That’s when this place comes into its own. Only had a few meets like that and they were all superb and the excitement intense because there was no planning. It was as it was happening in the moment.
Peace x
Ok firstly lots of profiles state they want more than a one off and that's absolutely fine.
Secondly the OP did not say she was wanting a relationship and even if she does, that's more than possible.
And finally this sort of thing happens a fair bit, so no reason to doubt the OP.
Many times i have been chatting to a "single" woman for weeks then we arrange to met, then the "oh my boyfriend will be there for my safety" with no previous mention of any partner. Iv also been asked a few times if "I have a friend".
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"Why, when I finally get one who doesn’t just want a one off, does he want to use me to engineer a threesome?
Define ‘engineer’. If you’re getting undue pressure then that’s not on. No one should have to deal with that. I’ve been on both sides, accused of pressuring (post activity I might add) and also having done things I didn’t want to for my partner as I knew it was something she wanted to do/ take part in.
You say you ‘finally get one that doesn’t want just a one off’, to me that sounds like you are looking for a longer term relationship. If that’s the case, is a swinging site (by its very definition aimed at group activity) the place to seek that? I’ve never understood the single people on here who don’t want that. Stick to Tinder or the likes. Probably a better hit rate too.
Is it possible that he’s doing it because he thinks you want to? Being on here and your veri being as part of that very scenario that you’re feeling pressured into he maybe thinks it’s as much what you want as what he does.
Think I’d need to hear the guys perspective before casting any judgement here. Going against the grain of popularity as that does.
The bit on someone’s post about when things just happen organically and without planning I do have to agree with. That’s when this place comes into its own. Only had a few meets like that and they were all superb and the excitement intense because there was no planning. It was as it was happening in the moment.
Peace x
Ok firstly lots of profiles state they want more than a one off and that's absolutely fine.
Secondly the OP did not say she was wanting a relationship and even if she does, that's more than possible.
And finally this sort of thing happens a fair bit, so no reason to doubt the OP.
Many times i have been chatting to a "single" woman for weeks then we arrange to met, then the "oh my boyfriend will be there for my safety" with no previous mention of any partner. Iv also been asked a few times if "I have a friend".
My bf won't be there for my protection don't worry "
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"Why, when I finally get one who doesn’t just want a one off, does he want to use me to engineer a threesome?
Define ‘engineer’. If you’re getting undue pressure then that’s not on. No one should have to deal with that. I’ve been on both sides, accused of pressuring (post activity I might add) and also having done things I didn’t want to for my partner as I knew it was something she wanted to do/ take part in.
You say you ‘finally get one that doesn’t want just a one off’, to me that sounds like you are looking for a longer term relationship. If that’s the case, is a swinging site (by its very definition aimed at group activity) the place to seek that? I’ve never understood the single people on here who don’t want that. Stick to Tinder or the likes. Probably a better hit rate too.
Is it possible that he’s doing it because he thinks you want to? Being on here and your veri being as part of that very scenario that you’re feeling pressured into he maybe thinks it’s as much what you want as what he does.
Think I’d need to hear the guys perspective before casting any judgement here. Going against the grain of popularity as that does.
The bit on someone’s post about when things just happen organically and without planning I do have to agree with. That’s when this place comes into its own. Only had a few meets like that and they were all superb and the excitement intense because there was no planning. It was as it was happening in the moment.
Peace x
Ok firstly lots of profiles state they want more than a one off and that's absolutely fine.
Secondly the OP did not say she was wanting a relationship and even if she does, that's more than possible.
And finally this sort of thing happens a fair bit, so no reason to doubt the OP.
Many times i have been chatting to a "single" woman for weeks then we arrange to met, then the "oh my boyfriend will be there for my safety" with no previous mention of any partner. Iv also been asked a few times if "I have a friend".
My bf won't be there for my protection don't worry
No but mine will be "
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"Why, when I finally get one who doesn’t just want a one off, does he want to use me to engineer a threesome?
Define ‘engineer’. If you’re getting undue pressure then that’s not on. No one should have to deal with that. I’ve been on both sides, accused of pressuring (post activity I might add) and also having done things I didn’t want to for my partner as I knew it was something she wanted to do/ take part in.
You say you ‘finally get one that doesn’t want just a one off’, to me that sounds like you are looking for a longer term relationship. If that’s the case, is a swinging site (by its very definition aimed at group activity) the place to seek that? I’ve never understood the single people on here who don’t want that. Stick to Tinder or the likes. Probably a better hit rate too.
Is it possible that he’s doing it because he thinks you want to? Being on here and your veri being as part of that very scenario that you’re feeling pressured into he maybe thinks it’s as much what you want as what he does.
Think I’d need to hear the guys perspective before casting any judgement here. Going against the grain of popularity as that does.
The bit on someone’s post about when things just happen organically and without planning I do have to agree with. That’s when this place comes into its own. Only had a few meets like that and they were all superb and the excitement intense because there was no planning. It was as it was happening in the moment.
Peace x
Ok firstly lots of profiles state they want more than a one off and that's absolutely fine.
Secondly the OP did not say she was wanting a relationship and even if she does, that's more than possible.
And finally this sort of thing happens a fair bit, so no reason to doubt the OP.
Many times i have been chatting to a "single" woman for weeks then we arrange to met, then the "oh my boyfriend will be there for my safety" with no previous mention of any partner. Iv also been asked a few times if "I have a friend".
My bf won't be there for my protection don't worry
No but mine will be
He can even join in "
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Lots and lots of people are just pain fucking rude behind a keyboard. Not many guys would ask a stanger In a pub or street for a 3some . It's the nature of on line swinging. This lifestyle was around long before the network and it probably had the same issues for single woman and guys . It's more geared towards the swinging couples . Saying that , being a couple in this lifestyle has it problems too . |
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over a year ago
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"Why, when I finally get one who doesn’t just want a one off, does he want to use me to engineer a threesome?
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I just looked at ur profile. Is he insane? Look at you. His loss trust me on that |
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Problem is they watch too much porn and all think that the guy in the movie is them.
In reality, if it were put in front of them, they would go into a panic.
It’s where fantasy and reality should stay apart.
The old expression wanting their cake springs to mind. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok - I met him. More than once. We talked, a lot. Daily, all day, and spoke on the phone. I was clear from the outset about what I wanted, and kept talking about what I wanted, which I have achieved through this site on more than one occasion.
Unfortunately I think the hard truth is that I am probably closer to wanting a relationship than I’d like, which is hard to admit. And I am not looking for that from this site. Just a shame that every time I delete all this off and date, it gets so far... and everything in me resists. |
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"Ok - I met him. More than once. We talked, a lot. Daily, all day, and spoke on the phone. I was clear from the outset about what I wanted, and kept talking about what I wanted, which I have achieved through this site on more than one occasion.
Unfortunately I think the hard truth is that I am probably closer to wanting a relationship than I’d like, which is hard to admit. And I am not looking for that from this site. Just a shame that every time I delete all this off and date, it gets so far... and everything in me resists. "
All of that explains why you took it hard; you had already invested a fair amount of emotional time with him. I feel for you.
I guess you’ve got some choices now: tell him he’s made a mistake with that which has made you extremely pissed off, or tell yourself that it’s better to find out now than a week later when you’d feel even more used.
Hope you can get the result you want |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why, when I finally get one who doesn’t just want a one off, does he want to use me to engineer a threesome?
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Always happens to me. It is a dampening experience.
Thing is though it would be fun down the line, but don't use me just so you have one girl to find another for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why, when I finally get one who doesn’t just want a one off, does he want to use me to engineer a threesome?
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To us men it’s the next logical step, meet girl fuck girl get another girl fuck them both together then take them out for pasta.
On a serious note, I’ve actually found lately that it doesn’t matter how honest people in lust are with eachother sometimes you just hear what you want to hear and purposely misinterpret the things that don’t fit your agenda.
Then suddenly everything becomes clear and someone gets hurt.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Why, when I finally get one who doesn’t just want a one off, does he want to use me to engineer a threesome?
To us men it’s the next logical step, meet girl fuck girl get another girl fuck them both together then take them out for pasta.
On a serious note, I’ve actually found lately that it doesn’t matter how honest people in lust are with eachother sometimes you just hear what you want to hear and purposely misinterpret the things that don’t fit your agenda.
Then suddenly everything becomes clear and someone gets hurt.
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Is it just people in lust? Maybe that’s just everyone. Maybe we all just hear what we want to hear  |
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"Why, when I finally get one who doesn’t just want a one off, does he want to use me to engineer a threesome?
To us men it’s the next logical step, meet girl fuck girl get another girl fuck them both together then take them out for pasta.
On a serious note, I’ve actually found lately that it doesn’t matter how honest people in lust are with eachother sometimes you just hear what you want to hear and purposely misinterpret the things that don’t fit your agenda.
Then suddenly everything becomes clear and someone gets hurt.
Is it just people in lust? Maybe that’s just everyone. Maybe we all just hear what we want to hear "
some might say thats part and parcel of being here on this internet domain, some might say its typical man, some might say try me I'm different, some might say this is a sex site what do you expect |
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It's always nice to find someone special who you just fit with. This site has so much variety, and people change what they are looking for over time as well.
Keep looking OP your someone is probably out there somewhere. |
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"Ok - I met him. More than once. We talked, a lot. Daily, all day, and spoke on the phone. I was clear from the outset about what I wanted, and kept talking about what I wanted, which I have achieved through this site on more than one occasion.
Unfortunately I think the hard truth is that I am probably closer to wanting a relationship than I’d like, which is hard to admit. And I am not looking for that from this site. Just a shame that every time I delete all this off and date, it gets so far... and everything in me resists. "
.It sounds to us like you actually really like him. Why not meey up for a coffee and a chat and explain how he has made you feel. Also explain what you have just said here. You may actually find what you are looking for in this guy. Sounds like you obviously got along well with each other until this happened.
Good luck OP. |
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"Why, when I finally get one who doesn’t just want a one off, does he want to use me to engineer a threesome?
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I get this quite often. After the initial meet, I'm then asked if I have any hot Fem friends. It makes me feel like shit as I feel I'm being used as a platform to better things. I don't stay friends with them. |
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"Why, when I finally get one who doesn’t just want a one off, does he want to use me to engineer a threesome?
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Yeah I've had that one, had to check the back of my jacket to see if it had "PIMP" on it.
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Been there.
You did the right thing. They use women to attract other women. Just like the 'couples' profiles that say you are talking to the wife.
If you'd have wanted it then it'd be okay to be the sprat.
Shake it off |
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"Why, when I finally get one who doesn’t just want a one off, does he want to use me to engineer a threesome?
I get this quite often. After the initial meet, I'm then asked if I have any hot Fem friends. It makes me feel like shit as I feel I'm being used as a platform to better things. I don't stay friends with them. "
I'm old enough to chuckle at this now but the stupid gits think that every internet woman has hot hot bi mates gagging to do him ...... and all intenet woman shag their mates... |
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By *iss KissWoman
over a year ago
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Just say no thanks.
Don't think any less of yourself. He wants to try a threesome. So he asked. Sounds like he's a bit lazy if he wants you to sort it out. I wouldn't be offended though. Unless he's like your boyfriend and it's something you've already talked about where you said no. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I’m not sure how I’ve managed to offend with this thread - I didn’t realise I needed to reply to every person who comments, individually? I thought my thank you to everyone, higher up, would be enough. |
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"I’m not sure how I’ve managed to offend with this thread - I didn’t realise I needed to reply to every person who comments, individually? I thought my thank you to everyone, higher up, would be enough. "
You haven't offended anyone who doesn't want to be offended. Trust me. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I’m not sure how I’ve managed to offend with this thread - I didn’t realise I needed to reply to every person who comments, individually? I thought my thank you to everyone, higher up, would be enough. "
You didn't reply to me - am I offended? Am I heck as like - that's how threads work |
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"I’m not sure how I’ve managed to offend with this thread - I didn’t realise I needed to reply to every person who comments, individually? I thought my thank you to everyone, higher up, would be enough.
You haven't offended anyone who doesn't want to be offended. Trust me."
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By (user no longer on site)
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The best and worst things about People is the fact they are People. It's a shame some men act like dicks, I just hope it doesn't sour you towards the lifestyle. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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Haven't read all the comments so dont know if this has been suggested.
Tell him a threesome is on. Then line up a 6ft 4, built like a brick shit house bi guy and when the chap who requested it turns up tell him you'd like to watch the other two parties have fun first.
Then sit back and enjoy a glass of wine and the view.
If he runs? Have fun with the other guy.
Winner, winner!
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