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Friends with benefits.. is it real?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm yet to find a man who can fuck me good and be a friend too. I'm either left unsatisfied or got a man falling in love with me. Anyone else have this problem? |
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By *uke OzadeMan
over a year ago
Ho Chi Minge City |
"I'm yet to find a man who can fuck me good and be a friend too. I'm either left unsatisfied or got a man falling in love with me. Anyone else have this problem? "
I had one in the village next to you for four years so yes it’s possible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had long term non fab friends with benefits for 26 years and yes it definitely exists but the difference is mainly friends first and foremost ... and that means no difference to any other friendship. I personally wouldn't do a fab type fwb prefer to know those as bwf ( benefits with friends ) as it's purely built on sex first which means that it's more likely to end quicker or be replaced in my opinion. |
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By *eonnieCouple
over a year ago
Worsley |
I don’t see why not. I had a FWB that I met regularly, we had lovely nights in and it only ended 1.5 year later because he met someone who he wanted to have a “normal” relationship with and didn’t want to cheat on her. I was happy for him and appreciated the honesty, actually we are still friends. It can happen! |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
Whitley Bay |
It's real. But it depends on your approach and the set up.
I'm polyamorous so each connection requires something different. The thing that makes it work is that everything is open to discussion, flux, ownership of feelings. Love can be part of it or not .. But it doesn't mean it has to be a problem. Unless there is a demand for exclusivity or an imposition of expectation which isn't reciprocated.
Sex brings intimacy. How you choose to deal with it is the key. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Problem is sex increases feelings
I don't understand why this is a problem? I want my intimate fwb's to have feelings for me. Like in a friendship .. we care "
because that is what OP is moaning about |
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It can be fraught with involvement but it's totally possible, if you strictly watch for any signs and end it straight away, even though your will miss it and the ease it brings to your life.
Don't expect people to remain the same, whether over months or years. Subtle shifts can nudge someone to a different perspective to yours. I've enjoyed the pleasure of a few men for a few years. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"U must be lucky.. this is a crazy minefield out here being a single women x "
Try being a man on here. At least you have a wider pool to pick from. Both longish term fwb that I had, many years ago now, ended up wanting more than sex and pleasant company. Most people on here are either in or looking for a more committed relationship. It's just a sexually liberated dating site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No coz I fell for him too 
Awww I think that's lovely! I hope it works out for you x"
Thanks. Been nearly a year so all good. Still
Only FWB relationship though. That’s all either of us wants. Doesn’t mean you can’t have feelings. Works for us  x |
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By *ostafunMan
over a year ago
near ipswich |
"I'm yet to find a man who can fuck me good and be a friend too. I'm either left unsatisfied or got a man falling in love with me. Anyone else have this problem? "
Yeah had a great swinger fwb a few years ago and both got alot out of it,it can work.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm yet to find a man who can fuck me good and be a friend too. I'm either left unsatisfied or got a man falling in love with me. Anyone else have this problem? "
you just can't have it all  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It all depends on your expectations in my opinion
Brutal honesty and rigid boundaries
And then find someone who agrees and shares your sexual appetite "
This  . Although it can take a while! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was definitely lead up the garden path with this and say I have had Fuck buddies and not friends with benefits. I’m not sure that they really exist in my world! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been seeing mine for 3 and a half years, lived together for almost 2...can satisfy me extremely easily, we are great friends, we fuck other people, when we fancy it, sometimes separately, sometimes together and he doesn't want to be my boyfriend... Happy days!  Good luck in your quest OP! |
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"Been seeing mine for 3 and a half years, lived together for almost 2...can satisfy me extremely easily, we are great friends, we fuck other people, when we fancy it, sometimes separately, sometimes together and he doesn't want to be my boyfriend... Happy days! Good luck in your quest OP! "
Hell yeah |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been seeing mine for 3 and a half years, lived together for almost 2...can satisfy me extremely easily, we are great friends, we fuck other people, when we fancy it, sometimes separately, sometimes together and he doesn't want to be my boyfriend... Happy days! Good luck in your quest OP! "
That sounds perfect |
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"Been seeing mine for 3 and a half years, lived together for almost 2...can satisfy me extremely easily, we are great friends, we fuck other people, when we fancy it, sometimes separately, sometimes together and he doesn't want to be my boyfriend... Happy days! Good luck in your quest OP! "
That's brill
I wouldn't live with any of mine though, but we do go away on holidays together |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been seeing mine for 3 and a half years, lived together for almost 2...can satisfy me extremely easily, we are great friends, we fuck other people, when we fancy it, sometimes separately, sometimes together and he doesn't want to be my boyfriend... Happy days! Good luck in your quest OP!
That's brill
I wouldn't live with any of mine though, but we do go away on holidays together "
Tbh, we saw eachother that often we thought paying 2 lots of rent was pointless lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm yet to find a man who can fuck me good and be a friend too. I'm either left unsatisfied or got a man falling in love with me. Anyone else have this problem? "
Absolute not. What’s your secret for getting the men to fall in love with you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Friends with benefits or fuck buddy.
I would really love one but because I don't drive and also family and work commitments he would have to be very local and be able to accommodate.
So not as easy as people think even for a female.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can be great at times but if one person starts to get attached it can become really difficult to walk away and crush someones feelings."
That's why you chose very carefully... And be totally honest, always |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
A former fwb has got in contact with me this week.I get the impression she wants to rekindle what we had.Not sure if I should go back or not as I felt she wanted more than fwb.I guess with lockdown and social distancing I have plenty of time to think about what I want to do |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah it never matters how clear I am from the outset, it always ends up that they fee it is manifested into something more romantic "
Yeah unfortunately many don't get the difference between emotional attachment and falling in love... Hence so many crappy relationships ... Like I said, choose carefully lol... I chose someone I knew would never want to be with me romantically but would still love me enough for the sex to be great... There still needs to be a certain amount of loving eachother, for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm yet to find a man who can fuck me good and be a friend too. I'm either left unsatisfied or got a man falling in love with me. Anyone else have this problem? "
I have this problem with women. |
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By *amesB66Man
over a year ago
St Peter Port |
It's entirely possible..I had wonderful weekly meetings with a beautiful friend for a couple of years. She's now happily engaged, but we still meet weekly for a platonic coffee and chin wag.
One of my closest friends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm yet to find a man who can fuck me good and be a friend too. I'm either left unsatisfied or got a man falling in love with me. Anyone else have this problem? "
If you find him, be sure to let us know what your secret was |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think its a bit of an illusion and works a lot less of the time than it would seem, hence all the people looking and not finding or not holding onto. It seems a bit of a half measure for at least one half of the fwb that they take just for the good bits. That is my massively cynical take on it, I also think it can work, but takes brutal honesty at all times from both sides, with a tinge of heartache thrown in with all the good bits.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is. I have/had one and we're still friends. Unfortunately I can get rather fixated on them... they're the only one who I would happily trust with nudes and doing the do.
Beginning to move on and try finding things but it's not easy when your walls are on a par with those great ones of China *and* made of barbed-wire Kevlar **and** you believe in others proving their worth.
Previous attempts at FWBs only cared about the benefits and didn't want to Actually Be Friends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Rather a strange thing.....apparently.
Yet in the world outside fab, and even sometimes inside fab sex and emotions of all sorts often go together.
Why wouldn't they we are all human after all.... aren't we. |
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By *urvySub87Woman
over a year ago
Near Wellingborough |
My problem is that I fall very easily which is why I prefer fb's to fwb's. When I get a fwb I try not to keep it going for too long but when the sex is amazing it's pretty difficult to stop and say goodbye |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would love to have the opportunity to be a fwb for someone... I generally get on better with females and have a high sex drive and love to please.
Think as long as everything is clear between what both parties are looking for then it really shouldn't be an issue |
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By *mcouple2Couple
over a year ago
Warrington |
"I'm yet to find a man who can fuck me good and be a friend too. I'm either left unsatisfied or got a man falling in love with me. Anyone else have this problem? "
That's the male version of a unicorn x |
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"I'm yet to find a man who can fuck me good and be a friend too. I'm either left unsatisfied or got a man falling in love with me. Anyone else have this problem? "
Yes it is. Met mine through work 3 years ago. We are great friends and have great sex. She and I live independent busy lives. Sometimes we just meet up for coffee or with other friends socialising and then other times, we may call each other up and fuck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm yet to find a man who can fuck me good and be a friend too. I'm either left unsatisfied or got a man falling in love with me. Anyone else have this problem? "
With a body like that who wouldn’t fall in love |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had a few fwb's in the past. I love to have a laugh, deep conversations, drink get smashed & fuck. I'm still friends with them too just off their booty call list |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've had a few fwb's in the past. I love to have a laugh, deep conversations, drink get smashed & fuck. I'm still friends with them too just off their booty call list "
You’re amazing wow |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've had a few fwb's in the past. I love to have a laugh, deep conversations, drink get smashed & fuck. I'm still friends with them too just off their booty call list
You’re amazing wow"
Aww thank you  x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been there before. Lay the ground rules early on. Both agree but after a few meets, things change! Feelings become apparent and it gets harder to walk away. Someone always ends up getting hurt somewhere down the line. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm yet to find a man who can fuck me good and be a friend too. I'm either left unsatisfied or got a man falling in love with me. Anyone else have this problem? "
I’ve had FwBs.....feelings came into it with a couple of them (from their side, not mine). Another was a married swinger, so that worked out fine.
It’s about finding someone with the same ideals in that respect, or someone who is playing with consent. It’s not easy, but it is possible. |
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By *athan 123Man
over a year ago
rochdale oldham border |
"I'm yet to find a man who can fuck me good and be a friend too. I'm either left unsatisfied or got a man falling in love with me. Anyone else have this problem? "
I’d be your friend and promise not to fall for you as long as I can fuck you lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm yet to find a man who can fuck me good and be a friend too. I'm either left unsatisfied or got a man falling in love with me. Anyone else have this problem? "
I'm very friendly  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think at one point I would have struggled with a FWB relationship as I'm a big softie who was trusting and caring and developed feelings for people easily. Yet since losing my best friend and soul mate it's not a problem sex and friendship even combined could not come close to what we had I couldn't and wiukdbt want to get that sort of connection with anyone ever again. She still has my heart and always will. But for now my body can still being fun to someone and u can still be a good friend so FWB I'd easy for me |
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