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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.
(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)
So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?
And also, who else is a none swinger? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.
(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)
So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?
And also, who else is a none swinger?"
So basically you’re using this as naked tinder? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.
(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)
So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?
And also, who else is a none swinger?
So basically you’re using this as naked tinder?"
If you shouldn’t be on here neither should I!
I use it as I see fit. |
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We're non swingers. We're soft swing, I don't like receiving oral, neither of us will kiss casual partners passionately and a person's looks are important to us.
I think we should all be here if we want to, after all nobody has to meet us.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think everyone’s got there own reasons for being on here as the site has evolved..
Personally long term I’m looking for everything the OP has said he isn’t but until then I’m happy to hang around and see what goes  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.
(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)
So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?
And also, who else is a none swinger?
So basically you’re using this as naked tinder?"
Yes pretty much |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
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The swinging lifestyle has evolved quite alot over the years ,old school traditional swingers will say you shouldn't be here others will say crack on and do your own thing .. I class us (wife here also with solo profile and we have cpls profile) as swingers but we also meet separately with singles which some would say isn't swinging ..so I say crack on and do your thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.
(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)
So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?
And also, who else is a none swinger?"
Me. I could have written that. (Apart from the relationship bit). I’m often asked why am i on here. Why not? Found what I wanted a couple of times in the past. I think being totally honest in what you want is the key, it shouldn’t bother anyone. Surely they’d just move on, as most people probably do after reading my profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a swinger, I attend clubs with my wife and enjoy the social side of meeting people as much as the play part. I think everybody has a right to use the site and the scene as they see fit, and try to get what they want from it.  |
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We dislike the term swinger and do not class ourselves as such. What we like is sharing our sexual life with others. That may be laughing and joking in a bar, or having fun in a bed.
But it's when we feel in the right mood |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples"
I haven't decided what I am yet. So far I've just used the site like you, however I am open to all of the above. Aspiring swinger? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We dislike the term swinger and do not class ourselves as such. What we like is sharing our sexual life with others. That may be laughing and joking in a bar, or having fun in a bed.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’d say I AM one.
It doesn’t bother me that ‘non-swingers are here and don’t want to partake in it as a lifestyle (events/clubs etc) but it’s the ones that come on thinking it’s instashag and then start to complain about those of us ladies who aren’t interested in 1-2-1 meeting. Calling us ‘timewasters’ and ‘spoiling the site’ when they’ve been here a month. For example I get a lot of inboxes calling me ‘pathetic’ for organising my socials and ‘do I know it’s a sex site?) grrrrr!! |
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"I’d say I AM one.
It doesn’t bother me that ‘non-swingers are here and don’t want to partake in it as a lifestyle (events/clubs etc) but it’s the ones that come on thinking it’s instashag and then start to complain about those of us ladies who aren’t interested in 1-2-1 meeting. Calling us ‘timewasters’ and ‘spoiling the site’ when they’ve been here a month. For example I get a lot of inboxes calling me ‘pathetic’ for organising my socials and ‘do I know it’s a sex site?) grrrrr!!"
That was me btw.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By that rationale I shouldn't be on here either. There are certain aspects of swinging I cannot get my head round or want to do at the moment. There are some parts that send me into a panic and have me questioning whether I'm not just cut out for swinging, but whether I'm suited to be in a relationship at all. My big thing is separate meets, just the thought frightens the absolute shit out of me, messages and flirting from single women who don't do couples meets and only want B have my head spinning and me feeling like I *should* be ok with it, I *should* feel differently, I'm *a rubbish girlfriend* coz I panic about it even though nothing has happened yet and B isn't wanting to meet alone yet. I feel like I'm letting him down and I'm not good enough coz I'm not cool with it and get in a mess over it.
Flirting, banter and messages from couples doesn't phase me in the slightest but when it's from singles who want to meet him and him want to get naked with them, well, I just feel like I'm in the way and a complete pain in the arse cock block even though he's not said so and has assured me I'm not, and that I'm the most important.
My thought process doesn't go down the "every couple is different and allowed to play by their own rules" path, which is ridiculous coz when it comes to other couples I'm so unbelievably understanding and wanting to learn their dynamic and full on respect it, yet when it's me, my brain argues with me, telling me I *should* feel a certain way and "I'm a fucking useless idiot, not good enough to be loved" because I don't
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ah who cares. We all get something from the site otherwise we wouldn't persevere.
If there is an elite swinging Fab task force I'd be out on my ear."
naaaa youre part of the infabstructure |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are non swinging i would say . As we are firmly in the Bdsm side of life , we dont have " sex " in a traditional sense . Thats not to say we wouldnt meet someone / couple if they can understand our dynamic . We just find it really difficult to find others whom have our same viewpoint ..However we are a very open minded couple , and would fight for the right , for everyone to do their own thing .
Surprising as it may seem , we met each other on this site , so we have an affection for it enormously so .
We are on the other site that is all about " fet " and enjoy it for what it is and what it stands for .It would seem though that " Bdsm " as an internet based medium , is in danger of disapearing up its own ass , due to its current self assesment .. We find this place perhaps a bit more forgiving , certainly more " fun " and slightly less protective of itself ..if that makes any sense ...It is Monday after all
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"By that rationale I shouldn't be on here either. There are certain aspects of swinging I cannot get my head round or want to do at the moment. There are some parts that send me into a panic and have me questioning whether I'm not just cut out for swinging, but whether I'm suited to be in a relationship at all. My big thing is separate meets, just the thought frightens the absolute shit out of me, messages and flirting from single women who don't do couples meets and only want B have my head spinning and me feeling like I *should* be ok with it, I *should* feel differently, I'm *a rubbish girlfriend* coz I panic about it even though nothing has happened yet and B isn't wanting to meet alone yet. I feel like I'm letting him down and I'm not good enough coz I'm not cool with it and get in a mess over it.
Flirting, banter and messages from couples doesn't phase me in the slightest but when it's from singles who want to meet him and him want to get naked with them, well, I just feel like I'm in the way and a complete pain in the arse cock block even though he's not said so and has assured me I'm not, and that I'm the most important.
My thought process doesn't go down the "every couple is different and allowed to play by their own rules" path, which is ridiculous coz when it comes to other couples I'm so unbelievably understanding and wanting to learn their dynamic and full on respect it, yet when it's me, my brain argues with me, telling me I *should* feel a certain way and "I'm a fucking useless idiot, not good enough to be loved" because I don't
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I hear you P and understand where you're coming from.
You know the score, you go at your pace and anybody who don't understand that, aren't worth meeting anyway. 
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By *r laidbackMan
over a year ago
London & New Brighton |
If your a non swinger thats kool as long as your not judgemental on those that are!!! this is a site for swingers and your coming into their world, so for whatever your reasons for coming here, being it to dip your toe into unknown waters or maybe looking for that person that can take step with you into a deeper sexual waters? Whever your thing is just understand that all fish swim in the ocean, the big with the small and if this oceans not for you then go look for a pond lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fill your boots. You dont harm anyone, and those pursuing what they believe to be "swinging" to the letter, dont have to engage with you.
This site is for anyone and it's no one elses business how you use it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Each to their own! No judging from me, just be clear about what you want so no one gets hurt. I met and fell for a guy that allegedly wanted the same things as me.. definitely didn’t. Couldn’t cope with my need for debauchery! O well. I just love talking to likeminded people. That’s why I won’t be disappearing for anyone |
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PoF I think you are fun to have around, so are welcome to stay
I am an infrequent swinger but I am happy for others to use the site in their own way.
The variety of different people makes the forum interesting |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"PoF I think you are fun to have around, so are welcome to stay
I am an infrequent swinger but I am happy for others to use the site in their own way.
The variety of different people makes the forum interesting "
Oh you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to get annoyed by the non swingers tbh but it does not bother me anymore.
I figured this is just a sex site now and swingers and singles are part of that.
Me however, I am a swinger, I love clubs, I play with couples, and actively wanting a swinging partner...maybe more....but definitely not monogomy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.
(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)
So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?
And also, who else is a none swinger?"
In my view no. Same way swingers would probably be frowned upon on the likes of Match or Tinder. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Provided you're clear in your intentions and what you want, then go for it however it pleases you!
If it winds people up that you're not doing fab like they think you should, I'd regard that as a bonus! |
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No I’m not. My needs have changed over the years and I’m very clear on what I’m looking for at any given time. I love that people are here for a multitude of reasons. As long as people are open with each other it works well  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"By that rationale I shouldn't be on here either. There are certain aspects of swinging I cannot get my head round or want to do at the moment. There are some parts that send me into a panic and have me questioning whether I'm not just cut out for swinging, but whether I'm suited to be in a relationship at all. My big thing is separate meets, just the thought frightens the absolute shit out of me, messages and flirting from single women who don't do couples meets and only want B have my head spinning and me feeling like I *should* be ok with it, I *should* feel differently, I'm *a rubbish girlfriend* coz I panic about it even though nothing has happened yet and B isn't wanting to meet alone yet. I feel like I'm letting him down and I'm not good enough coz I'm not cool with it and get in a mess over it.
Flirting, banter and messages from couples doesn't phase me in the slightest but when it's from singles who want to meet him and him want to get naked with them, well, I just feel like I'm in the way and a complete pain in the arse cock block even though he's not said so and has assured me I'm not, and that I'm the most important.
My thought process doesn't go down the "every couple is different and allowed to play by their own rules" path, which is ridiculous coz when it comes to other couples I'm so unbelievably understanding and wanting to learn their dynamic and full on respect it, yet when it's me, my brain argues with me, telling me I *should* feel a certain way and "I'm a fucking useless idiot, not good enough to be loved" because I don't
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Totally understand this, I (her) can feel like that sometimes too. X |
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By *erdyWoman
over a year ago
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"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.
(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)
So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?
And also, who else is a none swinger?
So basically you’re using this as naked tinder?
If you shouldn’t be on here neither should I!
I use it as I see fit. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.
(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)
So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?
And also, who else is a none swinger?"
I am not an elephant... or a swinger.
It’s my opinion that we have just as much right as any hardened swinger to be a part of the fabswingers website.
Especially as our presence here only enhances the overall experience of the other m_mbers.
Thank you. |
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"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.
(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)
So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?
And also, who else is a none swinger?"
You’re hot so stay!!
However, how does one even define a swinger these days? |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
south east |
"I heard people get laid on here so I joined 
Do they 
Apparently 
Got some making up to do ..fancy helping me out 
If only you ticked my boxes "
Story of my life can't blame a man for trying |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I heard people get laid on here so I joined
Do they
Apparently
Got some making up to do ..fancy helping me out
If only you ticked my boxes
Story of my life can't blame a man for trying "
Don't blame ya |
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"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.
(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)
So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?
And also, who else is a none swinger?"
Im guessing you find it hard to commit to someone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.
(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)
So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?
And also, who else is a none swinger?
Im guessing you find it hard to commit to someone. "
He’s pretty committed to bullying me |
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"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.
(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)
So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?
And also, who else is a none swinger?
Im guessing you find it hard to commit to someone.
He’s pretty committed to bullying me"
Probably angry he fancies you and you don't want to meet him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.
(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)
So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?
And also, who else is a none swinger?
Im guessing you find it hard to commit to someone.
He’s pretty committed to bullying me
Probably angry he fancies you and you don't want to meet him. "
I’m meeting him in May (hopefully) |
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"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.
(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)
So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?
And also, who else is a none swinger?
Im guessing you find it hard to commit to someone.
He’s pretty committed to bullying me
Probably angry he fancies you and you don't want to meet him.
I’m meeting him in May (hopefully)"
So he's looking for a regular fwb, and not interested in couples but he's meeting you.... well, something smells like BS. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.
(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)
So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?
And also, who else is a none swinger?
Im guessing you find it hard to commit to someone.
He’s pretty committed to bullying me
Probably angry he fancies you and you don't want to meet him.
I’m meeting him in May (hopefully)
So he's looking for a regular fwb, and not interested in couples but he's meeting you.... well, something smells like BS."
Oooooor it smells like friends meeting for food |
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"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.
(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)
So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?
And also, who else is a none swinger?
Im guessing you find it hard to commit to someone.
He’s pretty committed to bullying me
Probably angry he fancies you and you don't want to meet him.
I’m meeting him in May (hopefully)
So he's looking for a regular fwb, and not interested in couples but he's meeting you.... well, something smells like BS."
Clem take your head from up your arse and the smell should improve dramatically |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
Over the years I've heard many say singles can never be swingers, largely based on some old world nostalgic opinion that swinging is only for couples. Fuck that. That's simply wife swapping. Swinging is a broad definition that means whatever you want it to. So yes OP - you have as much right to be here as any.
There are no rules as far as I know that determine who is and who isn't a swinger, what they must do and when they cease to be a swinger even if not active.
Crack on.
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"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.
(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)
So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?
And also, who else is a none swinger?
Im guessing you find it hard to commit to someone.
He’s pretty committed to bullying me
Probably angry he fancies you and you don't want to meet him.
I’m meeting him in May (hopefully)
So he's looking for a regular fwb, and not interested in couples but he's meeting you.... well, something smells like BS.
Oooooor it smells like friends meeting for food "
As long as it doesn't end up smelling of cooked rabbit, you'll be fine... |
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I’m not a swinger. I think there’s a place for everyone on Fab. The term swinger reaches far and wide so I’ve discovered. I like the diversity. I was looking for NSA regular meets and ended up in a relationship. I haven’t met since and I have no desire to because I’m not a swinger |
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"I’m not a swinger. I think there’s a place for everyone on Fab. The term swinger reaches far and wide so I’ve discovered. I like the diversity. I was looking for NSA regular meets and ended up in a relationship. I haven’t met since and I have no desire to because I’m not a swinger "
You're in good company. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.
(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)
So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?
And also, who else is a none swinger?
Im guessing you find it hard to commit to someone. "
I dont find it hard to commit at all. Just dont want to at this point in my life |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.
(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)
So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?
And also, who else is a none swinger?
Im guessing you find it hard to commit to someone.
He’s pretty committed to bullying me
Probably angry he fancies you and you don't want to meet him.
I’m meeting him in May (hopefully)
So he's looking for a regular fwb, and not interested in couples but he's meeting you.... well, something smells like BS."
Probably your opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.
(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)
So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?
And also, who else is a none swinger?
Im guessing you find it hard to commit to someone.
He’s pretty committed to bullying me
Probably angry he fancies you and you don't want to meet him.
I’m meeting him in May (hopefully)
So he's looking for a regular fwb, and not interested in couples but he's meeting you.... well, something smells like BS.
Probably your opinion "
I thought that said onion |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.
(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)
So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?
And also, who else is a none swinger?
You’re hot so stay!!
However, how does one even define a swinger these days?"
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"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.
(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)
So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?
And also, who else is a none swinger?
Im guessing you find it hard to commit to someone.
He’s pretty committed to bullying me
Probably angry he fancies you and you don't want to meet him.
I’m meeting him in May (hopefully)
So he's looking for a regular fwb, and not interested in couples but he's meeting you.... well, something smells like BS.
Probably your opinion
I thought that said onion "
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"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.
(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)
So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?
And also, who else is a none swinger?
You’re hot so stay!!
However, how does one even define a swinger these days?
Why do people assume I'm leaving "
Because you’re like a yo-yo |
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"I’ve had food with PoF before. He was working down here and we went to Harvester, no fuckery just as friends.
Yup, friendzoned!"
You’re a good friend though. I appreciate you and your advice. |
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"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.
(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)
So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?
And also, who else is a none swinger?
You’re hot so stay!!
However, how does one even define a swinger these days?
Why do people assume I'm leaving
Because you’re like a yo-yo "
Speaking of yo-yos
Where’s lord of orgasms? I go on a wee break and he ain’t here no more |
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"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.
(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)
So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?
And also, who else is a none swinger?
You’re hot so stay!!
However, how does one even define a swinger these days?
Why do people assume I'm leaving
Because you’re like a yo-yo
Speaking of yo-yos
Where’s lord of orgasms? I go on a wee break and he ain’t here no more"
Hes taking a permanent sabbatical |
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"I’ve had food with PoF before. He was working down here and we went to Harvester, no fuckery just as friends.
Yup, friendzoned!
You’re a good friend though. I appreciate you and your advice. "
You're a sweetheart |
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"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.
(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)
So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?
And also, who else is a none swinger?
You’re hot so stay!!
However, how does one even define a swinger these days?
Why do people assume I'm leaving
Because you’re like a yo-yo
Speaking of yo-yos
Where’s lord of orgasms? I go on a wee break and he ain’t here no more"
Getting his tinky winky wet? |
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Im not a swinger. I wrote this on my profile when I first joined fab and some people were like "why are you here then?"
I've seen some threads defining swinging as a couples thing. |
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I dunno, I think the clue is in the name of the site: FABSWINGERS.
It's not fabsingles, it's not fabfriends, it's not fabslookingforapartner etc
If you're not a swinger may I suggest PoF or something similar?
Surprisingly, this is a site designed primarily for people who like to meet people with a view to have sex with them. As a happy side consequence, people find friends, partners etc but it's NOT the purpose of this site is it? The purpose is for people to meet people who share the same desire to fuck, regardless of gender, preferences etc. |
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"I’ve had food with PoF before. He was working down here and we went to Harvester, no fuckery just as friends.
Yup, friendzoned!
You’re a good friend though. I appreciate you and your advice.
You're a sweetheart "
you too |
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"I dunno, I think the clue is in the name of the site: FABSWINGERS.
It's not fabsingles, it's not fabfriends, it's not fabslookingforapartner etc
If you're not a swinger may I suggest PoF or something similar?
Surprisingly, this is a site designed primarily for people who like to meet people with a view to have sex with them. As a happy side consequence, people find friends, partners etc but it's NOT the purpose of this site is it? The purpose is for people to meet people who share the same desire to fuck, regardless of gender, preferences etc. "
I can’t tell if you’re serious or not
I thought you were right up until the last sentence. |
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"I dunno, I think the clue is in the name of the site: FABSWINGERS.
It's not fabsingles, it's not fabfriends, it's not fabslookingforapartner etc
If you're not a swinger may I suggest PoF or something similar?
Surprisingly, this is a site designed primarily for people who like to meet people with a view to have sex with them. As a happy side consequence, people find friends, partners etc but it's NOT the purpose of this site is it? The purpose is for people to meet people who share the same desire to fuck, regardless of gender, preferences etc. "
Says you’re looking for singles though so why shouldn’t single people be here?
IF I was in a relationship then I could probably have cold sex for the thrill and the sake of it but as I’m not at the moment I like to at least have a bit of a connection to someone before I can shag them. That being said I don’t understand the whole having a loving relationship yet needing to shag extra people, whenever I’ve been in a relationship I’ve never thought hmm what would make this better, I know both of us going out and shagging other people. |
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"I dunno, I think the clue is in the name of the site: FABSWINGERS.
It's not fabsingles, it's not fabfriends, it's not fabslookingforapartner etc
If you're not a swinger may I suggest PoF or something similar?
Surprisingly, this is a site designed primarily for people who like to meet people with a view to have sex with them. As a happy side consequence, people find friends, partners etc but it's NOT the purpose of this site is it? The purpose is for people to meet people who share the same desire to fuck, regardless of gender, preferences etc.
Says you’re looking for singles though so why shouldn’t single people be here?
IF I was in a relationship then I could probably have cold sex for the thrill and the sake of it but as I’m not at the moment I like to at least have a bit of a connection to someone before I can shag them. That being said I don’t understand the whole having a loving relationship yet needing to shag extra people, whenever I’ve been in a relationship I’ve never thought hmm what would make this better, I know both of us going out and shagging other people. "
I’ve never understood that either. |
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"I dunno, I think the clue is in the name of the site: FABSWINGERS.
It's not fabsingles, it's not fabfriends, it's not fabslookingforapartner etc
If you're not a swinger may I suggest PoF or something similar?
Surprisingly, this is a site designed primarily for people who like to meet people with a view to have sex with them. As a happy side consequence, people find friends, partners etc but it's NOT the purpose of this site is it? The purpose is for people to meet people who share the same desire to fuck, regardless of gender, preferences etc. "
Strange that as I’ve spoken to more none swingers than swingers on this site. More by far! |
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"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.
(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)
So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?
And also, who else is a none swinger?
You’re hot so stay!!
However, how does one even define a swinger these days?
Why do people assume I'm leaving
Because you’re like a yo-yo "
More like the Hokey Cokey... |
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"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.
(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)
So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?
And also, who else is a none swinger?"
I swing so that’s why I’m here |
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"I dunno, I think the clue is in the name of the site: FABSWINGERS.
It's not fabsingles, it's not fabfriends, it's not fabslookingforapartner etc
If you're not a swinger may I suggest PoF or something similar?
Surprisingly, this is a site designed primarily for people who like to meet people with a view to have sex with them. As a happy side consequence, people find friends, partners etc but it's NOT the purpose of this site is it? The purpose is for people to meet people who share the same desire to fuck, regardless of gender, preferences etc. "
So as a swinger, would you rather people like me arent on here |
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"I dunno, I think the clue is in the name of the site: FABSWINGERS.
It's not fabsingles, it's not fabfriends, it's not fabslookingforapartner etc
If you're not a swinger may I suggest PoF or something similar?
Surprisingly, this is a site designed primarily for people who like to meet people with a view to have sex with them. As a happy side consequence, people find friends, partners etc but it's NOT the purpose of this site is it? The purpose is for people to meet people who share the same desire to fuck, regardless of gender, preferences etc.
Says you’re looking for singles though so why shouldn’t single people be here?
IF I was in a relationship then I could probably have cold sex for the thrill and the sake of it but as I’m not at the moment I like to at least have a bit of a connection to someone before I can shag them. That being said I don’t understand the whole having a loving relationship yet needing to shag extra people, whenever I’ve been in a relationship I’ve never thought hmm what would make this better, I know both of us going out and shagging other people. "
It's not needing to shag other people. It's exploring together
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"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.
(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)
So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?
And also, who else is a none swinger?"
Doesn't bother us, and why should it? Everyone, even self-professed swingers, uses fab in their own way. It makes absolutely no odds to us
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"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.
(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)
So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?
And also, who else is a none swinger?"
Doesn't bother us, and why should it? Everyone, even self-professed swingers, uses fab in their own way. It makes absolutely no odds to us
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"I like to at least have a bit of a connection to someone before I can shag them. "
So do we. Who said anything about having cold, mechanical sex?
"That being said I don’t understand the whole having a loving relationship yet needing to shag extra people, whenever I’ve been in a relationship I’ve never thought hmm what would make this better, I know both of us going out and shagging other people. "
Then you really don't understand this site, the ethos of this site, the purpose of this site. Your pics would find just as much fandom of PoF where you stand a better chance of finding a loving relationship than fabs.
We have a very good sex life with ourselves, we are in very loving relationship, we've been together 26 years and have NEVER had an argument. However, even as a loving couple, we appreciate that we both can fancy other people, find them attractive etc but because we trust each other, because we understand each other, because we love each other we respect that desire for others. We don't want a relationship with them and because we're swingers we don't need to hide that desire or have affairs to realise or express that desire etc. We simply go out, find people we fancy and who fancy us, have sex with them and sate that desire. It's made us stronger, more trusting, more open as a couple.
And yes, we also look for singles and are very happy about it. Sometimes just one cock isn't enough |
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I use this site when I’m single so I can properly date guys in the real world without diving into bed with them. I’m not naive to think I’ll find love on this site. I know guys only want sex and would never see me as girlfriend material because I’m on what is essentially a sex site. |
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"I like to at least have a bit of a connection to someone before I can shag them.
So do we. Who said anything about having cold, mechanical sex?
That being said I don’t understand the whole having a loving relationship yet needing to shag extra people, whenever I’ve been in a relationship I’ve never thought hmm what would make this better, I know both of us going out and shagging other people.
Then you really don't understand this site, the ethos of this site, the purpose of this site. Your pics would find just as much fandom of PoF where you stand a better chance of finding a loving relationship than fabs.
We have a very good sex life with ourselves, we are in very loving relationship, we've been together 26 years and have NEVER had an argument. However, even as a loving couple, we appreciate that we both can fancy other people, find them attractive etc but because we trust each other, because we understand each other, because we love each other we respect that desire for others. We don't want a relationship with them and because we're swingers we don't need to hide that desire or have affairs to realise or express that desire etc. We simply go out, find people we fancy and who fancy us, have sex with them and sate that desire. It's made us stronger, more trusting, more open as a couple.
And yes, we also look for singles and are very happy about it. Sometimes just one cock isn't enough "
Sex and relationships can and in my opinion should be separate.. everyone has desires. It’s naive to think you’ll never want anyone else. Embracing that as a couple and having a boss ass relationship, (with agreed) boundaries but lots of open conversation around sex with others - that’s hot. What I’m hoping for someday. Good for you guys xx |
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"I like to at least have a bit of a connection to someone before I can shag them.
So do we. Who said anything about having cold, mechanical sex?
That being said I don’t understand the whole having a loving relationship yet needing to shag extra people, whenever I’ve been in a relationship I’ve never thought hmm what would make this better, I know both of us going out and shagging other people.
Then you really don't understand this site, the ethos of this site, the purpose of this site. Your pics would find just as much fandom of PoF where you stand a better chance of finding a loving relationship than fabs.
We have a very good sex life with ourselves, we are in very loving relationship, we've been together 26 years and have NEVER had an argument. However, even as a loving couple, we appreciate that we both can fancy other people, find them attractive etc but because we trust each other, because we understand each other, because we love each other we respect that desire for others. We don't want a relationship with them and because we're swingers we don't need to hide that desire or have affairs to realise or express that desire etc. We simply go out, find people we fancy and who fancy us, have sex with them and sate that desire. It's made us stronger, more trusting, more open as a couple.
And yes, we also look for singles and are very happy about it. Sometimes just one cock isn't enough "
Do you always meet together?
You've been together 26 years, congrats, how long did it take for you to reach this place in your relationship?
I know I'm putting pressure on myself to be cool with things that I'm not, to be "the perfect partner"
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I dont class myself as a swinger as im very perticular about who and why i want to meet.
Hence why i dont have sexual pictures and i certainly have no interest in seeing others naked pictures as it does nothing for me and isnt who i am.
Im not looking for commitment and i feel safe no one is likely to get strong feelings involved on here. I do enjoy far more than vanilla sex too and thats easily found on here.
Its hard to find someone who fits what im looking for but when i have it was worth it. |
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"I like to at least have a bit of a connection to someone before I can shag them.
So do we. Who said anything about having cold, mechanical sex?
That being said I don’t understand the whole having a loving relationship yet needing to shag extra people, whenever I’ve been in a relationship I’ve never thought hmm what would make this better, I know both of us going out and shagging other people.
Then you really don't understand this site, the ethos of this site, the purpose of this site. Your pics would find just as much fandom of PoF where you stand a better chance of finding a loving relationship than fabs.
We have a very good sex life with ourselves, we are in very loving relationship, we've been together 26 years and have NEVER had an argument. However, even as a loving couple, we appreciate that we both can fancy other people, find them attractive etc but because we trust each other, because we understand each other, because we love each other we respect that desire for others. We don't want a relationship with them and because we're swingers we don't need to hide that desire or have affairs to realise or express that desire etc. We simply go out, find people we fancy and who fancy us, have sex with them and sate that desire. It's made us stronger, more trusting, more open as a couple.
And yes, we also look for singles and are very happy about it. Sometimes just one cock isn't enough
Sex and relationships can and in my opinion should be separate.. everyone has desires. It’s naive to think you’ll never want anyone else. Embracing that as a couple and having a boss ass relationship, (with agreed) boundaries but lots of open conversation around sex with others - that’s hot. What I’m hoping for someday. Good for you guys xx"
It is naive to think others dont want to stay loyal to one person just because you dont. We are all different and if i fell in love, i would have no interest in anyone else. But im not just going to fall in love with just anyone cos i feel i have to be in a relationship like many, they would have to satisfy me fully and me them.
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"I like to at least have a bit of a connection to someone before I can shag them.
So do we. Who said anything about having cold, mechanical sex?
That being said I don’t understand the whole having a loving relationship yet needing to shag extra people, whenever I’ve been in a relationship I’ve never thought hmm what would make this better, I know both of us going out and shagging other people.
Then you really don't understand this site, the ethos of this site, the purpose of this site. Your pics would find just as much fandom of PoF where you stand a better chance of finding a loving relationship than fabs.
We have a very good sex life with ourselves, we are in very loving relationship, we've been together 26 years and have NEVER had an argument. However, even as a loving couple, we appreciate that we both can fancy other people, find them attractive etc but because we trust each other, because we understand each other, because we love each other we respect that desire for others. We don't want a relationship with them and because we're swingers we don't need to hide that desire or have affairs to realise or express that desire etc. We simply go out, find people we fancy and who fancy us, have sex with them and sate that desire. It's made us stronger, more trusting, more open as a couple.
And yes, we also look for singles and are very happy about it. Sometimes just one cock isn't enough "
They do understand the concept of the site theyre just saying its not their thing.
The site can be used for whatever reason someone wants, theres no rules saying you must do this or that |
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"I like to at least have a bit of a connection to someone before I can shag them.
So do we. Who said anything about having cold, mechanical sex?
That being said I don’t understand the whole having a loving relationship yet needing to shag extra people, whenever I’ve been in a relationship I’ve never thought hmm what would make this better, I know both of us going out and shagging other people.
Then you really don't understand this site, the ethos of this site, the purpose of this site. Your pics would find just as much fandom of PoF where you stand a better chance of finding a loving relationship than fabs.
We have a very good sex life with ourselves, we are in very loving relationship, we've been together 26 years and have NEVER had an argument. However, even as a loving couple, we appreciate that we both can fancy other people, find them attractive etc but because we trust each other, because we understand each other, because we love each other we respect that desire for others. We don't want a relationship with them and because we're swingers we don't need to hide that desire or have affairs to realise or express that desire etc. We simply go out, find people we fancy and who fancy us, have sex with them and sate that desire. It's made us stronger, more trusting, more open as a couple.
And yes, we also look for singles and are very happy about it. Sometimes just one cock isn't enough
Do you always meet together?
You've been together 26 years, congrats, how long did it take for you to reach this place in your relationship?
I know I'm putting pressure on myself to be cool with things that I'm not, to be "the perfect partner"
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"I like to at least have a bit of a connection to someone before I can shag them.
So do we. Who said anything about having cold, mechanical sex?
That being said I don’t understand the whole having a loving relationship yet needing to shag extra people, whenever I’ve been in a relationship I’ve never thought hmm what would make this better, I know both of us going out and shagging other people.
Then you really don't understand this site, the ethos of this site, the purpose of this site. Your pics would find just as much fandom of PoF where you stand a better chance of finding a loving relationship than fabs.
We have a very good sex life with ourselves, we are in very loving relationship, we've been together 26 years and have NEVER had an argument. However, even as a loving couple, we appreciate that we both can fancy other people, find them attractive etc but because we trust each other, because we understand each other, because we love each other we respect that desire for others. We don't want a relationship with them and because we're swingers we don't need to hide that desire or have affairs to realise or express that desire etc. We simply go out, find people we fancy and who fancy us, have sex with them and sate that desire. It's made us stronger, more trusting, more open as a couple.
And yes, we also look for singles and are very happy about it. Sometimes just one cock isn't enough
They do understand the concept of the site theyre just saying its not their thing.
The site can be used for whatever reason someone wants, theres no rules saying you must do this or that"
There may not be any "rules" but the clue is in the title as to the main purpose of this site. Why come on a swingers site then post that you do not agree with swinging lol |
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