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over a year ago
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Not to overthink
I need to be more ‘fuck it’ but I’m more ‘ what could it mean?’
Maybe I’m just one of life’s great, good looking thinkers ?? A bit like Patrick Moore
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"Not to overthink
I need to be more ‘fuck it’ but I’m more ‘ what could it mean?’
Maybe I’m just one of life’s great, good looking thinkers ?? A bit like Patrick Moore
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You think Patrick Moore’s good looking  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The ‘eyes of the wise’ ...... we all have a tendency to overthink at times but enjoy the journey along the way  "
Oh I’ll use that .... ‘the eyes of the wise’
I will |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not to overthink
I need to be more ‘fuck it’ but I’m more ‘ what could it mean?’
Maybe I’m just one of life’s great, good looking thinkers ?? A bit like Patrick Moore
You think Patrick Moore’s good looking "
You still STILL don’t get me at - at all  |
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"Not to overthink
I need to be more ‘fuck it’ but I’m more ‘ what could it mean?’
Maybe I’m just one of life’s great, good looking thinkers ?? A bit like Patrick Moore
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Somebody who’s opinion I really value told me I think too much. She told me the lesson I need to learn is just to let go. It made so much sense, but it seems so hard to do. I think I need a guide to help me learn how to do it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's difficult to not over think sometimes, it's like a protective barrier that's not always easy to let down. Try to let it down every now and then and see how it goes. Baby steps  |
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"Not to overthink
I need to be more ‘fuck it’ but I’m more ‘ what could it mean?’
Maybe I’m just one of life’s great, good looking thinkers ?? A bit like Patrick Moore
You think Patrick Moore’s good looking
You still STILL don’t get me at - at all "
He wears size 58” chest pants |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not to overthink
I need to be more ‘fuck it’ but I’m more ‘ what could it mean?’
Maybe I’m just one of life’s great, good looking thinkers ?? A bit like Patrick Moore
Somebody who’s opinion I really value told me I think too much. She told me the lesson I need to learn is just to let go. It made so much sense, but it seems so hard to do. I think I need a guide to help me learn how to do it. "
It’s a natural human emotion from being someone people who care - I guess |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's difficult to not over think sometimes, it's like a protective barrier that's not always easy to let down. Try to let it down every now and then and see how it goes. Baby steps "
Ahh the old ‘barrier’ I keep being told I have one
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not to overthink
I need to be more ‘fuck it’ but I’m more ‘ what could it mean?’
Maybe I’m just one of life’s great, good looking thinkers ?? A bit like Patrick Moore
You think Patrick Moore’s good looking
You still STILL don’t get me at - at all
He wears size 58” chest pants "
You just don’t get how hysterical I am |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Aww Floro, you and me both. I'm trying to embrace my natural instincts and not get too caught up in my anxious overthinking but at times it's tough. "
It is tough ... it’s only when I care though (obviously )
I need to become emotionless but my heart is too big |
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By *anny77Man
over a year ago
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"Not to overthink
I need to be more ‘fuck it’ but I’m more ‘ what could it mean?’
Maybe I’m just one of life’s great, good looking thinkers ?? A bit like Patrick Moore
You think Patrick Moore’s good looking
You still STILL don’t get me at - at all
He wears size 58” chest pants "
He doesn’t not!
He’s dead |
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"It's difficult to not over think sometimes, it's like a protective barrier that's not always easy to let down. Try to let it down every now and then and see how it goes. Baby steps "
This. Led by the hand. One lil’ step at a time... |
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"Not to overthink
I need to be more ‘fuck it’ but I’m more ‘ what could it mean?’
Maybe I’m just one of life’s great, good looking thinkers ?? A bit like Patrick Moore
You think Patrick Moore’s good looking
You still STILL don’t get me at - at all
He wears size 58” chest pants
You just don’t get how hysterical I am"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not to overthink
I need to be more ‘fuck it’ but I’m more ‘ what could it mean?’
Maybe I’m just one of life’s great, good looking thinkers ?? A bit like Patrick Moore
You think Patrick Moore’s good looking
You still STILL don’t get me at - at all
He wears size 58” chest pants
He doesn’t not!
He’s dead "
Thanks for that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's difficult to not over think sometimes, it's like a protective barrier that's not always easy to let down. Try to let it down every now and then and see how it goes. Baby steps
This. Led by the hand. One lil’ step at a time..."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not to overthink
I need to be more ‘fuck it’ but I’m more ‘ what could it mean?’
Maybe I’m just one of life’s great, good looking thinkers ?? A bit like Patrick Moore
You think Patrick Moore’s good looking
You still STILL don’t get me at - at all
He wears size 58” chest pants
You just don’t get how hysterical I am
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I knew you didn’t appreciate me |
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"Not to overthink
I need to be more ‘fuck it’ but I’m more ‘ what could it mean?’
Maybe I’m just one of life’s great, good looking thinkers ?? A bit like Patrick Moore
You think Patrick Moore’s good looking
You still STILL don’t get me at - at all
He wears size 58” chest pants
You just don’t get how hysterical I am
I knew you didn’t appreciate me"
Read the first line of your op, OP  |
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"It's difficult to not over think sometimes, it's like a protective barrier that's not always easy to let down. Try to let it down every now and then and see how it goes. Baby steps "
It's definitely a control thing. Maybe if I overanalyse every possible iteration it won't all go tits up! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not to overthink
I need to be more ‘fuck it’ but I’m more ‘ what could it mean?’
Maybe I’m just one of life’s great, good looking thinkers ?? A bit like Patrick Moore
You think Patrick Moore’s good looking
You still STILL don’t get me at - at all
He wears size 58” chest pants
You just don’t get how hysterical I am
I knew you didn’t appreciate me
Read the first line of your op, OP "
And there we have the proof  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's difficult to not over think sometimes, it's like a protective barrier that's not always easy to let down. Try to let it down every now and then and see how it goes. Baby steps
It's definitely a control thing. Maybe if I overanalyse every possible iteration it won't all go tits up!"
This! Although I have a habit of talking myself out if things too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's difficult to not over think sometimes, it's like a protective barrier that's not always easy to let down. Try to let it down every now and then and see how it goes. Baby steps
It's definitely a control thing. Maybe if I overanalyse every possible iteration it won't all go tits up!"
This too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's difficult to not over think sometimes, it's like a protective barrier that's not always easy to let down. Try to let it down every now and then and see how it goes. Baby steps
It's definitely a control thing. Maybe if I overanalyse every possible iteration it won't all go tits up!
This! Although I have a habit of talking myself out if things too"
Me too x |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"It's difficult to not over think sometimes, it's like a protective barrier that's not always easy to let down. Try to let it down every now and then and see how it goes. Baby steps
It's definitely a control thing. Maybe if I overanalyse every possible iteration it won't all go tits up!
This! Although I have a habit of talking myself out if things too"
I do that. Even if it is messaging someone I have this odd internal monologue of "no,it's been too long, they don't want to talk to you etc"  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's difficult to not over think sometimes, it's like a protective barrier that's not always easy to let down. Try to let it down every now and then and see how it goes. Baby steps
It's definitely a control thing. Maybe if I overanalyse every possible iteration it won't all go tits up!
This! Although I have a habit of talking myself out if things too
I do that. Even if it is messaging someone I have this odd internal monologue of "no,it's been too long, they don't want to talk to you etc" "
Yes! Exactly that! |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"It's difficult to not over think sometimes, it's like a protective barrier that's not always easy to let down. Try to let it down every now and then and see how it goes. Baby steps
It's definitely a control thing. Maybe if I overanalyse every possible iteration it won't all go tits up!
This! Although I have a habit of talking myself out if things too
I do that. Even if it is messaging someone I have this odd internal monologue of "no,it's been too long, they don't want to talk to you etc" "
I do exactly that as well, "if they wanted to talk they'd message me" and they're probably sat thinking the exact same thing  |
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"It's difficult to not over think sometimes, it's like a protective barrier that's not always easy to let down. Try to let it down every now and then and see how it goes. Baby steps
It's definitely a control thing. Maybe if I overanalyse every possible iteration it won't all go tits up!
This! Although I have a habit of talking myself out if things too"
All the damn time. Stupid fucking brain. I worry then also not do the thing. Lose lose. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's difficult to not over think sometimes, it's like a protective barrier that's not always easy to let down. Try to let it down every now and then and see how it goes. Baby steps
It's definitely a control thing. Maybe if I overanalyse every possible iteration it won't all go tits up!
This! Although I have a habit of talking myself out if things too
I do that. Even if it is messaging someone I have this odd internal monologue of "no,it's been too long, they don't want to talk to you etc" "
What are we like ....
I have a constant background commentary going on |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's difficult to not over think sometimes, it's like a protective barrier that's not always easy to let down. Try to let it down every now and then and see how it goes. Baby steps
It's definitely a control thing. Maybe if I overanalyse every possible iteration it won't all go tits up!
This! Although I have a habit of talking myself out if things too
I do that. Even if it is messaging someone I have this odd internal monologue of "no,it's been too long, they don't want to talk to you etc"
I do exactly that as well, "if they wanted to talk they'd message me" and they're probably sat thinking the exact same thing "
I do this ... all the time |
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"It's difficult to not over think sometimes, it's like a protective barrier that's not always easy to let down. Try to let it down every now and then and see how it goes. Baby steps
It's definitely a control thing. Maybe if I overanalyse every possible iteration it won't all go tits up!
This! Although I have a habit of talking myself out if things too
I do that. Even if it is messaging someone I have this odd internal monologue of "no,it's been too long, they don't want to talk to you etc" "
I’m kind of the opposite. I think way too much, get this urge to express everything I’ve over thought, send a message, regret it, try to delete it (which I discovered only removes it from your sent box) and then end up fucking everything up even more. I need to learn to keep all my vulnerabilities to myself, and yet at the same time think less... it’s like keeping barriers but not having them at the same time... if that makes any sense at all  |
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"I know it's no fun for any of us but reading these is lovely because it's nice to know I'm not the only one who does this stuff
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I used to have crippling anxiety to go with it. The kid sibling overthinking is a pain in my arse too |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"It's difficult to not over think sometimes, it's like a protective barrier that's not always easy to let down. Try to let it down every now and then and see how it goes. Baby steps
It's definitely a control thing. Maybe if I overanalyse every possible iteration it won't all go tits up!
This! Although I have a habit of talking myself out if things too
I do that. Even if it is messaging someone I have this odd internal monologue of "no,it's been too long, they don't want to talk to you etc"
I’m kind of the opposite. I think way too much, get this urge to express everything I’ve over thought, send a message, regret it, try to delete it (which I discovered only removes it from your sent box) and then end up fucking everything up even more. I need to learn to keep all my vulnerabilities to myself, and yet at the same time think less... it’s like keeping barriers but not having them at the same time... if that makes any sense at all "
It makes perfect sense. Don't keep your all of your vulnerabilities to yourself though. They are part of what makes you the brilliant man you are. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's difficult to not over think sometimes, it's like a protective barrier that's not always easy to let down. Try to let it down every now and then and see how it goes. Baby steps
It's definitely a control thing. Maybe if I overanalyse every possible iteration it won't all go tits up!
This! Although I have a habit of talking myself out if things too
I do that. Even if it is messaging someone I have this odd internal monologue of "no,it's been too long, they don't want to talk to you etc"
I’m kind of the opposite. I think way too much, get this urge to express everything I’ve over thought, send a message, regret it, try to delete it (which I discovered only removes it from your sent box) and then end up fucking everything up even more. I need to learn to keep all my vulnerabilities to myself, and yet at the same time think less... it’s like keeping barriers but not having them at the same time... if that makes any sense at all "
Makes perfect sense, I hear you xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know it's no fun for any of us but reading these is lovely because it's nice to know I'm not the only one who does this stuff
I used to have crippling anxiety to go with it. The kid sibling overthinking is a pain in my arse too"
Yeah the anxiety is no fun, can I ask how you stopped it taking over your life? |
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"I know it's no fun for any of us but reading these is lovely because it's nice to know I'm not the only one who does this stuff
I used to have crippling anxiety to go with it. The kid sibling overthinking is a pain in my arse too
Yeah the anxiety is no fun, can I ask how you stopped it taking over your life? "
Therapy. Intensive, painful, drawn out therapy. In conjunction with antidepressants, a lot of fucking hard work, and mindfulness meditation.
And there's still always more work to be done, because no I haven't been through enough |
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By *manaWoman
over a year ago
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"I know it's no fun for any of us but reading these is lovely because it's nice to know I'm not the only one who does this stuff
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Agreed  it is the worst but these threads make me feel more human xx |
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"I know it's no fun for any of us but reading these is lovely because it's nice to know I'm not the only one who does this stuff
Agreed it is the worst but these threads make me feel more human xx"
Absolutely. We're not all perfectly well adjusted etc. Shit happens, we're frail and messy and we do the best we can.
Sometimes people on here act like normal emotions are weakness. While they need to be carefully managed in this context... No. We all have our feelings, our wounding, our trauma, and our interactions reflect that. We manage as best we can.
Those who have less shit to wade through are luckier, not stronger. |
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"I know it's no fun for any of us but reading these is lovely because it's nice to know I'm not the only one who does this stuff
I used to have crippling anxiety to go with it. The kid sibling overthinking is a pain in my arse too
Yeah the anxiety is no fun, can I ask how you stopped it taking over your life?
Therapy. Intensive, painful, drawn out therapy. In conjunction with antidepressants, a lot of fucking hard work, and mindfulness meditation.
And there's still always more work to be done, because no I haven't been through enough "
Ah it's that T word. I've been running away from that word almost half of my life.
Well you are amazing and strong so no matter what life throws at you, keep kicking arse xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know it's no fun for any of us but reading these is lovely because it's nice to know I'm not the only one who does this stuff
Agreed it is the worst but these threads make me feel more human xx"
Me too xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Talking about it is half the battle"
It is although I think sometimes that's the hardest part. Depends how easy people find it to open up I suppose. With all the stigma round mental health, it can feel like your admitting to murder sometimes by just telling someone you're not okay |
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"I know it's no fun for any of us but reading these is lovely because it's nice to know I'm not the only one who does this stuff
I used to have crippling anxiety to go with it. The kid sibling overthinking is a pain in my arse too
Yeah the anxiety is no fun, can I ask how you stopped it taking over your life?
Therapy. Intensive, painful, drawn out therapy. In conjunction with antidepressants, a lot of fucking hard work, and mindfulness meditation.
And there's still always more work to be done, because no I haven't been through enough
Ah it's that T word. I've been running away from that word almost half of my life.
Well you are amazing and strong so no matter what life throws at you, keep kicking arse xx"
I tackled it and escaped last year. Apparently I now suffer ordinary unhappiness. Result!
Unfortunately the pitfalls of a traumatic childhood never entirely leave you |
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"Overthinking is never something i've engaged in often. When I make a decision and decide to run with something, it's usually with determination and conviction."
Then you’re very lucky |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I know it's no fun for any of us but reading these is lovely because it's nice to know I'm not the only one who does this stuff
I used to have crippling anxiety to go with it. The kid sibling overthinking is a pain in my arse too
Yeah the anxiety is no fun, can I ask how you stopped it taking over your life?
Therapy. Intensive, painful, drawn out therapy. In conjunction with antidepressants, a lot of fucking hard work, and mindfulness meditation.
And there's still always more work to be done, because no I haven't been through enough
Ah it's that T word. I've been running away from that word almost half of my life.
Well you are amazing and strong so no matter what life throws at you, keep kicking arse xx
I tackled it and escaped last year. Apparently I now suffer ordinary unhappiness. Result!
Unfortunately the pitfalls of a traumatic childhood never entirely leave you"
They don’t leave you, but you can heal x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not to overthink
I need to be more ‘fuck it’ but I’m more ‘ what could it mean?’
Maybe I’m just one of life’s great, good looking thinkers ?? A bit like Patrick Moore
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Patrick Moore was not attractive |
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"Talking about it is half the battle
It is although I think sometimes that's the hardest part. Depends how easy people find it to open up I suppose. With all the stigma round mental health, it can feel like your admitting to murder sometimes by just telling someone you're not okay"
Definitely. And then it depends on how you talk. Do you open yourself up as weak? Can you get the help you need? Sometimes that's just dialogue and even that can be too much to ask from some.
Ultimately I find I need the support to root out the problem, process it with kindness, and both acknowledge my feelings but also find the volume switch and turn it down. Particularly when people inadvertently trigger* you.
* Set off a powerful negative psychological spiral, not boo hoo offended snowflakes |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Not to overthink
I need to be more ‘fuck it’ but I’m more ‘ what could it mean?’
Maybe I’m just one of life’s great, good looking thinkers ?? A bit like Patrick Moore
Patrick Moore was not attractive "
Smooth |
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"Talking about it is half the battle
It is although I think sometimes that's the hardest part. Depends how easy people find it to open up I suppose. With all the stigma round mental health, it can feel like your admitting to murder sometimes by just telling someone you're not okay"
Its always the hard part else we wouldn't be over thinkers
But if we find that one person to confide in and shoot the shit professional or a friend it can be life changing and you learn you're not then only one suffering through the same thing.
We all take different paths to get to where we want to be just some have longer walks than others. |
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"I know it's no fun for any of us but reading these is lovely because it's nice to know I'm not the only one who does this stuff
I used to have crippling anxiety to go with it. The kid sibling overthinking is a pain in my arse too
Yeah the anxiety is no fun, can I ask how you stopped it taking over your life?
Therapy. Intensive, painful, drawn out therapy. In conjunction with antidepressants, a lot of fucking hard work, and mindfulness meditation.
And there's still always more work to be done, because no I haven't been through enough
Ah it's that T word. I've been running away from that word almost half of my life.
Well you are amazing and strong so no matter what life throws at you, keep kicking arse xx
I tackled it and escaped last year. Apparently I now suffer ordinary unhappiness. Result!
Unfortunately the pitfalls of a traumatic childhood never entirely leave you
They don’t leave you, but you can heal x"
I've done most of that. But I still have vulnerability that pops up at odd times, and it's sometimes a mammoth task dealing with it. It's not like, course of therapy, all better. Sometimes I'm thrown back in the deep end of these stupid unproductive emotions (insert Swing's old therapist here. "These emotions have an important function and are here to protect you, even if they're no longer contextually appropriate". Yeah but blah blah I want them to fuck off ) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’m very guilty of overthinking everything. Except for the stuff I’m supposed to think hard about. I under think that "
Guess we’re all human after all |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I know it's no fun for any of us but reading these is lovely because it's nice to know I'm not the only one who does this stuff
I used to have crippling anxiety to go with it. The kid sibling overthinking is a pain in my arse too
Yeah the anxiety is no fun, can I ask how you stopped it taking over your life?
Therapy. Intensive, painful, drawn out therapy. In conjunction with antidepressants, a lot of fucking hard work, and mindfulness meditation.
And there's still always more work to be done, because no I haven't been through enough
Ah it's that T word. I've been running away from that word almost half of my life.
Well you are amazing and strong so no matter what life throws at you, keep kicking arse xx
I tackled it and escaped last year. Apparently I now suffer ordinary unhappiness. Result!
Unfortunately the pitfalls of a traumatic childhood never entirely leave you
They don’t leave you, but you can heal x
I've done most of that. But I still have vulnerability that pops up at odd times, and it's sometimes a mammoth task dealing with it. It's not like, course of therapy, all better. Sometimes I'm thrown back in the deep end of these stupid unproductive emotions (insert Swing's old therapist here. "These emotions have an important function and are here to protect you, even if they're no longer contextually appropriate". Yeah but blah blah I want them to fuck off )"
I get that .... huge love |
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"Overthinking is never something i've engaged in often. When I make a decision and decide to run with something, it's usually with determination and conviction.
Then you’re very lucky "
Extremely lucky. |
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"This shit makes you stronger if it doesn't maim or cripple you
Choose your street xxx "
Definitely.
But first, oh shit, handle the emotional storm. Throw away leftover detritus after it subsides, then choose street. |
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"This shit makes you stronger if it doesn't maim or cripple you
True, it cripples first though. Still waiting for the stronger part"
I'm afraid that takes processing, in therapy or on your own.
So many think therapy is a cup of tea and a bit of a cry. It's more like, being guided towards the thing that scares the shit out of you, working around the edges of having the shit scared out of you, but not being allowed to collapse entirely. It's exhausting, demoralising hard work that builds over time.
I recommend it, but it sucks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This shit makes you stronger if it doesn't maim or cripple you
True, it cripples first though. Still waiting for the stronger part
I'm afraid that takes processing, in therapy or on your own.
So many think therapy is a cup of tea and a bit of a cry. It's more like, being guided towards the thing that scares the shit out of you, working around the edges of having the shit scared out of you, but not being allowed to collapse entirely. It's exhausting, demoralising hard work that builds over time.
I recommend it, but it sucks."
I can only imagine, mainly because I've avoided it at all costs. Not healthy I should imagine but I got used to dealing with things in my own way. The idea of going through everything again absolutely terrifies me. |
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"This shit makes you stronger if it doesn't maim or cripple you
True, it cripples first though. Still waiting for the stronger part
I'm afraid that takes processing, in therapy or on your own.
So many think therapy is a cup of tea and a bit of a cry. It's more like, being guided towards the thing that scares the shit out of you, working around the edges of having the shit scared out of you, but not being allowed to collapse entirely. It's exhausting, demoralising hard work that builds over time.
I recommend it, but it sucks.
I can only imagine, mainly because I've avoided it at all costs. Not healthy I should imagine but I got used to dealing with things in my own way. The idea of going through everything again absolutely terrifies me. "
I found that most of my energy was tied up in repressing my shit. Letting it go has been incredibly painful (and only partially successful. Some scars run deep). But I have a lot more resources to be me now. To become my best self. To be resilient. |
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"And where's the line between processing and overthinking? *shrug* "
Processing is weighing up both sides and deconstructing it all
Overthinking is dependent on the negative aspect only.
Very fine line though |
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"And where's the line between processing and overthinking? *shrug*
Processing is weighing up both sides and deconstructing it all
Overthinking is dependent on the negative aspect only.
Very fine line though "
I was being partly tongue in cheek, but yes.
It's hard to see in the throes of God knows what |
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"And where's the line between processing and overthinking? *shrug*
Processing is weighing up both sides and deconstructing it all
Overthinking is dependent on the negative aspect only.
Very fine line though
I was being partly tongue in cheek, but yes.
It's hard to see in the throes of God knows what"
Ohh sorry felt like I was mansplaining and noticed your tongue in cheek.
Runs off overthinking ahhh |
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"And where's the line between processing and overthinking? *shrug*
Processing is weighing up both sides and deconstructing it all
Overthinking is dependent on the negative aspect only.
Very fine line though
I was being partly tongue in cheek, but yes.
It's hard to see in the throes of God knows what
Ohh sorry felt like I was mansplaining and noticed your tongue in cheek.
Runs off overthinking ahhh"
Haha |
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My biggest problem was accepting there was something wrong, for too long I just didn’t want to address it. You go to work like nothing is happening pretending everything is fine, then once you’re alone, those thoughts come flooding back. All I can suggest is find someone too confide in it does help. Eventually. |
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"It's difficult to not over think sometimes, it's like a protective barrier that's not always easy to let down. Try to let it down every now and then and see how it goes. Baby steps
Ahh the old ‘barrier’ I keep being told I have one
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The only way I let my barrier down is by not thinking about things said or done, what they mean etc, it eats you up trying to figure it out. Now I just go with the flow, enjoy it and don’t think |
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"Not to overthink
I need to be more ‘fuck it’ but I’m more ‘ what could it mean?’
Maybe I’m just one of life’s great, good looking thinkers ?? A bit like Patrick Moore
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I'm sooooooo "fuck it"
When it comes to the housework. Most else I'm a ticking time bomb of questioning motives, intentions, all of the why? validations
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"Not to overthink
I need to be more ‘fuck it’ but I’m more ‘ what could it mean?’
Maybe I’m just one of life’s great, good looking thinkers ?? A bit like Patrick Moore
I'm sooooooo "fuck it"
When it comes to the housework. Most else I'm a ticking time bomb of questioning motives, intentions, all of the why? validations
P"
Sister? |
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By *uicy jonesMan
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"Not to overthink
I need to be more ‘fuck it’ but I’m more ‘ what could it mean?’
Maybe I’m just one of life’s great, good looking thinkers ?? A bit like Patrick Moore
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Likewise , when ever I buy a new car or something , for days I doubt what I've done !!! Even though it always works out okay lol |
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