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over a year ago
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"What do you find most interesting about yourselfs when fully letting go with a good dom what knows exactly what he is doing. "
When I find one I'll let you know.  |
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over a year ago
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"What do you find most interesting about yourselfs when fully letting go with a good dom what knows exactly what he is doing.
When I find one I'll let you know. "
Haha! This!^^^
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"What do you find most interesting about yourselfs when fully letting go with a good dom what knows exactly what he is doing.
When I find one I'll let you know.
Haha! This!^^^
Peach x"
So so much this ^^ |
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I am not a woman, however from the one woman I played regularly with and who had submissive tendencies; it was all based around the connection we had. I doubt you will find many women on here shouting out that they’re submissive and to be honest it would probably be a little dangerous to do so. If you meet without knowing someone well enough, then how do you know what their version of being dominant is? Probably a better question for another popular site which revolves more around the fet life. |
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"What do you find most interesting about yourselfs when fully letting go with a good dom what knows exactly what he is doing. "
I think think is a very interesting question, and one I’m still pondering.
I read an interesting article about it:
A D/s relationship, in its truest form, is all about the submissive. It’s all about her wants, her needs, her fantasies. Some of her desires may be conscious, but others may be locked within her subconscious. A Dom’s job is to build a bond so strong with her that she feels safe enough, connected enough with him, to unleash her creativity and to explore her innermost self. Through submission, she actually becomes empowered because she connects with her body, heart, and mind in much deeper ways.” (Moore, 2016)
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"What do you find most interesting about yourselfs when fully letting go with a good dom what knows exactly what he is doing.
I think think is a very interesting question, and one I’m still pondering.
I read an interesting article about it:
A D/s relationship, in its truest form, is all about the submissive. It’s all about her wants, her needs, her fantasies. Some of her desires may be conscious, but others may be locked within her subconscious. A Dom’s job is to build a bond so strong with her that she feels safe enough, connected enough with him, to unleash her creativity and to explore her innermost self. Through submission, she actually becomes empowered because she connects with her body, heart, and mind in much deeper ways.” (Moore, 2016)
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That’s very true are you potentially looking for that 100% compatibility |
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By (user no longer on site)
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A D/s relationship, in its truest form, is all about the submissive. It’s all about her wants, her needs, her fantasies. Some of her desires may be conscious, but others may be locked within her subconscious. A Dom’s job is to build a bond so strong with her that she feels safe enough, connected enough with him, to unleash her creativity and to explore her innermost self. Through submission, she actually becomes empowered because she connects with her body, heart, and mind in much deeper ways.” (Moore, 2016)
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Even with a strong trusting bond and deep understanding of the dynamic, it still may not work! As individuals we all have our own desires and needs, these aren't necessarily going to be fulfilled by the person you have the deepest connection with. Much as I feel submissive towards Fuzz our impact play is solely based on trust and knowing each other, we don't have the D/s dynamic.
One Dom, an experienced guy who lived the lifestyle, gave me a taster of his skills. I didn't know him but what he did with words and a few face slaps was unreal! I was on my knees! That was just one evening! I felt his natural dominance and his verbal skills and I trusted him!
There are so many factors in finding a Dom or sub. Time and patience is key!
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"What do you find most interesting about yourselfs when fully letting go with a good dom what knows exactly what he is doing.
I think think is a very interesting question, and one I’m still pondering.
I read an interesting article about it:
A D/s relationship, in its truest form, is all about the submissive. It’s all about her wants, her needs, her fantasies. Some of her desires may be conscious, but others may be locked within her subconscious. A Dom’s job is to build a bond so strong with her that she feels safe enough, connected enough with him, to unleash her creativity and to explore her innermost self. Through submission, she actually becomes empowered because she connects with her body, heart, and mind in much deeper ways.” (Moore, 2016)
That’s very true are you potentially looking for that 100% compatibility "
Like trying to find the elusive 'Mr Right' in the vanilla world. Finding that compatibility in this scene is almost the same if not harder. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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*sigh*
Another wannabe dom.
I wish the 50 shades never existed, it seems a game to many now, and it is not, it is very dangerous to put yourself blindly in the hands of a stranger, espescially if handcuffs, blindfolds and rope are envolved!! 
1 dom I had in 6 years, and more offers than I can care to count. |
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"What do you find most interesting about yourselfs when fully letting go with a good dom what knows exactly what he is doing. "
Fully letting go is something you do, not something somebody else does for you. They might help create the environment or circumstance but you actually make it happen.
Part of fully letting go allows you to be lost in the immediate moment, when we're genuinely in the moment we do not analyse we just experience.
I suggest that if someone can define in a post what they find most interesting about themselves at that moment then they probably hadn't fully let go. |
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"What do you find most interesting about yourselfs when fully letting go with a good dom what knows exactly what he is doing.
Fully letting go is something you do, not something somebody else does for you. They might help create the environment or circumstance but you actually make it happen.
Part of fully letting go allows you to be lost in the immediate moment, when we're genuinely in the moment we do not analyse we just experience.
I suggest that if someone can define in a post what they find most interesting about themselves at that moment then they probably hadn't fully let go."
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Speaking from the perspective of a submissive man (we exist too ) it is very much about the chemistry and connection, and other qualities such as trust, respect, matched wavelengths etc, but also very much about "feeling" submissive to someone - which I can't explain fully, it's an instinctive sense as much as anything. Find that and you find your inner submissive and allow it to be taken and nurtured and enhanced.
It's also very much a two way thing for me, a dominant has to be as much a part of, and gain something, from the experience as a submissive does - much is made of the submissive being the one in control really, but for me it's shared equally and so should the journey.
But to come back to my point, without that "sense" of submission I mentioned it becomes nothing more than transactional "kink play" - and there is nothing wrong with that at all, and it can be pleasurable, but I think there's a marked difference between that and complete submission. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My perspective is that D/s relationship is a ying and yang flow.
In many ways the sub is in control because with her inner consent there is no relationship. The Dom and the sub feed off each other.....each empowers the othe other. |
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"Speaking from the perspective of a submissive man (we exist too ) it is very much about the chemistry and connection, and other qualities such as trust, respect, matched wavelengths etc, but also very much about "feeling" submissive to someone - which I can't explain fully, it's an instinctive sense as much as anything. Find that and you find your inner submissive and allow it to be taken and nurtured and enhanced.
It's also very much a two way thing for me, a dominant has to be as much a part of, and gain something, from the experience as a submissive does - much is made of the submissive being the one in control really, but for me it's shared equally and so should the journey.
But to come back to my point, without that "sense" of submission I mentioned it becomes nothing more than transactional "kink play" - and there is nothing wrong with that at all, and it can be pleasurable, but I think there's a marked difference between that and complete submission."
Thank you Gman! Yes! That 'feeling' you get, the gnawing need to submit deep in your conscious. You can't explain why, it's just there!
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By *urvySub87Woman
over a year ago
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From reading this thread I feel like I've hit the elusive jackpot. I never knew that I could trust someone or feel so connected to a person after such a short time. It's the chance to forget the usual daily pain that I'm in. It's being in control while handing over control. It's hard to explain but that's the best I can do. |
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Part of fully letting go allows you to be lost in the immediate moment, when we're genuinely in the moment we do not analyse we just experience.
I suggest that if someone can define in a post what they find most interesting about themselves at that moment then they probably hadn't fully let go."
It's a bit like the sixties apparently "If you can remember it you weren't really there"
The reason people seeking partners to take them there obsess about trust is that there they have so little conscious capacity you need to be able to trust your partner to do the right thing.
I am not btw talking of the endorphin high of subspace here. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"From reading this thread I feel like I've hit the elusive jackpot. I never knew that I could trust someone or feel so connected to a person after such a short time. It's the chance to forget the usual daily pain that I'm in. It's being in control while handing over control. It's hard to explain but that's the best I can do."
Makes perfect sense to me - and there's no timescale on it either - sometimes you just "know", a wise person once said to me "you often find things when you stop looking" and it's very true, they can pop up when you least expect them to. Pleased that you've found it and long may that continue |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Part of fully letting go allows you to be lost in the immediate moment, when we're genuinely in the moment we do not analyse we just experience.
I suggest that if someone can define in a post what they find most interesting about themselves at that moment then they probably hadn't fully let go.
It's a bit like the sixties apparently "If you can remember it you weren't really there"
The reason people seeking partners to take them there obsess about trust is that there they have so little conscious capacity you need to be able to trust your partner to do the right thing.
I am not btw talking of the endorphin high of subspace here."
An excellent point |
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"What do you find most interesting about yourselfs when fully letting go with a good dom what knows exactly what he is doing.
I think think is a very interesting question, and one I’m still pondering.
I read an interesting article about it:
A D/s relationship, in its truest form, is all about the submissive. It’s all about her wants, her needs, her fantasies. Some of her desires may be conscious, but others may be locked within her subconscious. A Dom’s job is to build a bond so strong with her that she feels safe enough, connected enough with him, to unleash her creativity and to explore her innermost self. Through submission, she actually becomes empowered because she connects with her body, heart, and mind in much deeper ways.” (Moore, 2016)
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This, absolutely. I am forever devoted to my incredible Master and feel so lucky to have found perfection  |
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"Speaking from the perspective of a submissive man (we exist too ) it is very much about the chemistry and connection, and other qualities such as trust, respect, matched wavelengths etc, but also very much about "feeling" submissive to someone - which I can't explain fully, it's an instinctive sense as much as anything. Find that and you find your inner submissive and allow it to be taken and nurtured and enhanced.
It's also very much a two way thing for me, a dominant has to be as much a part of, and gain something, from the experience as a submissive does - much is made of the submissive being the one in control really, but for me it's shared equally and so should the journey.
But to come back to my point, without that "sense" of submission I mentioned it becomes nothing more than transactional "kink play" - and there is nothing wrong with that at all, and it can be pleasurable, but I think there's a marked difference between that and complete submission."
Love this GM. |
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".... without that "sense" of submission I mentioned it becomes nothing more than transactional "kink play" - and there is nothing wrong with that at all, and it can be pleasurable, but I think there's a marked difference between that and complete submission."
It seems a mistake commonly made here
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"What do you find most interesting about yourselfs when fully letting go with a good dom what knows exactly what he is doing.
I think think is a very interesting question, and one I’m still pondering.
I read an interesting article about it:
A D/s relationship, in its truest form, is all about the submissive. It’s all about her wants, her needs, her fantasies. Some of her desires may be conscious, but others may be locked within her subconscious. A Dom’s job is to build a bond so strong with her that she feels safe enough, connected enough with him, to unleash her creativity and to explore her innermost self. Through submission, she actually becomes empowered because she connects with her body, heart, and mind in much deeper ways.” (Moore, 2016)
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I don't believe that it's all about the submissive. I think it's about 2 people unleashing both their wants and desires. I wouldn't feel comfortable submitting to anyone who didn't have the same drive as I had. I wouldn't feel their heart was in it. When I'm submissive I have no control of the situation, for that to happen I need to know and trust that my Dom is as invested in the scene as I am. And this is why Dom's can suffer from drop too, both parties are emotionally involved in the scene.
But back to the OP I can't really explain or describe the actual ins and outs of my submission. Though I can say it brings me inner peace that I can't achieve in other ways
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