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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm silly, immature an generally a happy fun guy
Except Sunday morning.
I dont know why but for some reason I generally wake up and think the world can go fuck itself those days. I'm grouchy, grumpy n miserable for about an hour, then I'm snap, my normal self.
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Travelling |
Realist and neutral. As much as possible at least. I believe in a balance and being overly one or the other is potentially unhealthy.
I certainly have moments of both positivity and negativity though. |
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Life is a bitch sometimes and sometimes I stare it down and other times, well, I need to take 5 to get it together.
On the whole I love life, am glad to be here and the positives and negatives equal the whole experience for me. Make us who we are.
I'm told I'm a positive soul. I'm not sure where that positivity comes from... I'm just glad it does. I have found I can laugh at the most inopportune time but that gets me and mine through the tough times and embrace the good ones
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I used to be completely positive, take life in it's stride and see everything as half full - various things over the years have tempered that a little but I still try to look at things as positively as I can but every now and then a little negativity creeps in and calls for a head wobble or two |
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"I used to be completely positive, take life in it's stride and see everything as half full - various things over the years have tempered that a little but I still try to look at things as positively as I can but every now and then a little negativity creeps in and calls for a head wobble or two"
Ah the head wobble, I know it well |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I used to be completely positive, take life in it's stride and see everything as half full - various things over the years have tempered that a little but I still try to look at things as positively as I can but every now and then a little negativity creeps in and calls for a head wobble or two
Ah the head wobble, I know it well "
Fortunately I have someone that gives very good head wobbles when they're called for....she's exquisite at giving them |
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"I used to be completely positive, take life in it's stride and see everything as half full - various things over the years have tempered that a little but I still try to look at things as positively as I can but every now and then a little negativity creeps in and calls for a head wobble or two
Ah the head wobble, I know it well
Fortunately I have someone that gives very good head wobbles when they're called for....she's exquisite at giving them"
If I had the same then maybe I'd have a few more wobbles..lucky you  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I used to be completely positive, take life in it's stride and see everything as half full - various things over the years have tempered that a little but I still try to look at things as positively as I can but every now and then a little negativity creeps in and calls for a head wobble or two
Ah the head wobble, I know it well
Fortunately I have someone that gives very good head wobbles when they're called for....she's exquisite at giving them
If I had the same then maybe I'd have a few more wobbles..lucky you "
Ha ha this a purely platonic head wobbler - can definitely recommend her if ever you need it  |
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Having left the drainage behind that used to drag me into negativity, I’m now 100% positive.
It’s rare anyone saw my negativity, as I was (and still am) the one that picked them up and finding positivity for them to get them through the day.
Life is in front of me oh what shall it bring |
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"Having left the drainage behind that used to drag me into negativity, I’m now 100% positive.
It’s rare anyone saw my negativity, as I was (and still am) the one that picked them up and finding positivity for them to get them through the day.
Life is in front of me oh what shall it bring "
Looking towards the future is exciting..I hope it brings you much x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm in the middle.
B thinks I'm a negative ninnie, I'm not, I simply know that others don't always behave in a way that you'd expect.
I don't look for the good in people any more the way I used to, been stung too many times but I do search for the positives in situations
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"I used to be completely positive, take life in it's stride and see everything as half full - various things over the years have tempered that a little but I still try to look at things as positively as I can but every now and then a little negativity creeps in and calls for a head wobble or two
Ah the head wobble, I know it well
Fortunately I have someone that gives very good head wobbles when they're called for....she's exquisite at giving them
If I had the same then maybe I'd have a few more wobbles..lucky you
Ha ha this a purely platonic head wobbler - can definitely recommend her if ever you need it "
An exquisite head wobbler sounds good to me |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I used to be completely positive, take life in it's stride and see everything as half full - various things over the years have tempered that a little but I still try to look at things as positively as I can but every now and then a little negativity creeps in and calls for a head wobble or two
Ah the head wobble, I know it well
Fortunately I have someone that gives very good head wobbles when they're called for....she's exquisite at giving them
If I had the same then maybe I'd have a few more wobbles..lucky you
Ha ha this a purely platonic head wobbler - can definitely recommend her if ever you need it
An exquisite head wobbler sounds good to me "
Oh she is and right on cue up she pops |
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"I'm in the middle.
B thinks I'm a negative ninnie, I'm not, I simply know that others don't always behave in a way that you'd expect.
I don't look for the good in people any more the way I used to, been stung too many times but I do search for the positives in situations
P"
Hey P...positively great to see you x |
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"Having left the drainage behind that used to drag me into negativity, I’m now 100% positive.
It’s rare anyone saw my negativity, as I was (and still am) the one that picked them up and finding positivity for them to get them through the day.
Life is in front of me oh what shall it bring
Looking towards the future is exciting..I hope it brings you much x"
Thanks Annabelle right now I’m enjoying doing absolutely nothing, because I can. Need to get my thinking on cap soon mind and figure out what I want to do or win the lottery  |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
Whitley Bay |
Hmmm I think I'm positive and realistic.
I used the hate the saying 'all is well', but now I am learning the meaning of this. I, like most of us by the time we get to my age, have experienced and witnessed nessed some pretty full on life events. Although they can feel awful, I have noticed that even in (and sometimes especially) the worst times there is beauty and love and we still have access to joy and connection. Im learning to shift my judgement of difficult feelings as being bad, negative, wrong or impossible. I'm constantly in awe of this human experience. Suffering is a part of life and brings gifts if we choose to accept them. We always still have choice even with the things we did not choose.
I guess I'm pretty positive. But not in the jolly, stick a smile on and pretend everything is fine way .. in the embracing all that comes with a big breath and oodles of trust. It's not easy. It's a dance.. with both the positive and the negative. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I used to be completely positive, take life in it's stride and see everything as half full - various things over the years have tempered that a little but I still try to look at things as positively as I can but every now and then a little negativity creeps in and calls for a head wobble or two
Ah the head wobble, I know it well
Fortunately I have someone that gives very good head wobbles when they're called for....she's exquisite at giving them
If I had the same then maybe I'd have a few more wobbles..lucky you
Ha ha this a purely platonic head wobbler - can definitely recommend her if ever you need it
An exquisite head wobbler sounds good to me "
The exquisite wobbler of heads herself is touched by such a sentiment bless her...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Got cptsd.. So depends if been triggered whether I'm positive or negative.. Used to be positively happy
I don't know anything about this but I hope it's not to bad for you x"
Aww thanks.
Complex Post traumatic stress
Learn to deal with it so takes more effort for positivity but then is more real than fake. |
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"Having left the drainage behind that used to drag me into negativity, I’m now 100% positive.
It’s rare anyone saw my negativity, as I was (and still am) the one that picked them up and finding positivity for them to get them through the day.
Life is in front of me oh what shall it bring
Looking towards the future is exciting..I hope it brings you much x
Thanks Annabelle right now I’m enjoying doing absolutely nothing, because I can. Need to get my thinking on cap soon mind and figure out what I want to do or win the lottery "
That sounds great..doing nothing because you can. It's necessary sometimes to take a breather and see where the land lies. Good kuck with the lottery also |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"I used to be completely positive, take life in it's stride and see everything as half full - various things over the years have tempered that a little but I still try to look at things as positively as I can but every now and then a little negativity creeps in and calls for a head wobble or two
Ah the head wobble, I know it well
Fortunately I have someone that gives very good head wobbles when they're called for....she's exquisite at giving them
If I had the same then maybe I'd have a few more wobbles..lucky you
Ha ha this a purely platonic head wobbler - can definitely recommend her if ever you need it
An exquisite head wobbler sounds good to me
The exquisite wobbler of heads herself is touched by such a sentiment bless her...
B"
And so she should be - her head wobbling skills are unparalleled and much appreciated |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
Whitley Bay |
"I'm in the middle.
B thinks I'm a negative ninnie, I'm not, I simply know that others don't always behave in a way that you'd expect.
I don't look for the good in people any more the way I used to, been stung too many times but I do search for the positives in situations
P"
Sounds like good work to me. Boundaried and mindful. You know yourself and your capacity. Have learnt some stuff but still open to the positives. |
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"Got cptsd.. So depends if been triggered whether I'm positive or negative.. Used to be positively happy
I don't know anything about this but I hope it's not to bad for you x
Aww thanks.
Complex Post traumatic stress
Learn to deal with it so takes more effort for positivity but then is more real than fake. "
That sounds hard work...but so worth it. I'd take real over fake any day xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to be completely positive, take life in it's stride and see everything as half full - various things over the years have tempered that a little but I still try to look at things as positively as I can but every now and then a little negativity creeps in and calls for a head wobble or two
Ah the head wobble, I know it well
Fortunately I have someone that gives very good head wobbles when they're called for....she's exquisite at giving them
If I had the same then maybe I'd have a few more wobbles..lucky you
Ha ha this a purely platonic head wobbler - can definitely recommend her if ever you need it
An exquisite head wobbler sounds good to me
Oh she is and right on cue up she pops"
My spidey sense was tingling!
It wasn't, I'm telling fibs, but I'm glad I popped in here, I'm all glowy n shit now
Thank you, I'm picturing you as one of those little buggers that sits on the dashboard with the tiny little body and the big wobbly head
And damn straight I'll tell ya when a wobble is called for, I ain't having one of my mates all flapping over nowt or if you're being a spanner I'll tell ya you're being a spanner. I care don't I, that's why I do it.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm in the middle.
B thinks I'm a negative ninnie, I'm not, I simply know that others don't always behave in a way that you'd expect.
I don't look for the good in people any more the way I used to, been stung too many times but I do search for the positives in situations
P
Hey P...positively great to see you x "
You too sweet cheeks
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm in the middle.
B thinks I'm a negative ninnie, I'm not, I simply know that others don't always behave in a way that you'd expect.
I don't look for the good in people any more the way I used to, been stung too many times but I do search for the positives in situations
P
Sounds like good work to me. Boundaried and mindful. You know yourself and your capacity. Have learnt some stuff but still open to the positives. "
I'll take that
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"I used to be completely positive, take life in it's stride and see everything as half full - various things over the years have tempered that a little but I still try to look at things as positively as I can but every now and then a little negativity creeps in and calls for a head wobble or two
Ah the head wobble, I know it well
Fortunately I have someone that gives very good head wobbles when they're called for....she's exquisite at giving them
If I had the same then maybe I'd have a few more wobbles..lucky you
Ha ha this a purely platonic head wobbler - can definitely recommend her if ever you need it
An exquisite head wobbler sounds good to me
Oh she is and right on cue up she pops
My spidey sense was tingling!
It wasn't, I'm telling fibs, but I'm glad I popped in here, I'm all glowy n shit now
Thank you, I'm picturing you as one of those little buggers that sits on the dashboard with the tiny little body and the big wobbly head
And damn straight I'll tell ya when a wobble is called for, I ain't having one of my mates all flapping over nowt or if you're being a spanner I'll tell ya you're being a spanner. I care don't I, that's why I do it.
P"
And that is what makes you, you, and such a damn fine friend - hold no punches when they're needed and offer TLC without reservation when it's called for..
...oops just realised the lamp post pissing thread is two doors down |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to be completely positive, take life in it's stride and see everything as half full - various things over the years have tempered that a little but I still try to look at things as positively as I can but every now and then a little negativity creeps in and calls for a head wobble or two
Ah the head wobble, I know it well
Fortunately I have someone that gives very good head wobbles when they're called for....she's exquisite at giving them
If I had the same then maybe I'd have a few more wobbles..lucky you
Ha ha this a purely platonic head wobbler - can definitely recommend her if ever you need it
An exquisite head wobbler sounds good to me
Oh she is and right on cue up she pops
My spidey sense was tingling!
It wasn't, I'm telling fibs, but I'm glad I popped in here, I'm all glowy n shit now
Thank you, I'm picturing you as one of those little buggers that sits on the dashboard with the tiny little body and the big wobbly head
And damn straight I'll tell ya when a wobble is called for, I ain't having one of my mates all flapping over nowt or if you're being a spanner I'll tell ya you're being a spanner. I care don't I, that's why I do it.
P
And that is what makes you, you, and such a damn fine friend - hold no punches when they're needed and offer TLC without reservation when it's called for..
...oops just realised the lamp post pissing thread is two doors down "
Nowt wrong with that my Astrological Twin-monikered chum, you wazz all over that lamp post to your heart's content!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some on here know my story of past and present dramas so I wont take them up again, of those that do I've been trusted with theirs of which I'll obviously never tell.
My guess is that most on fab have a story to tell, we've had dramas that at some point had us questioning if our very existence is worth it and had we a button to press that would finish us we'd have done it long ago...
However we didnt, we saw it though one step and one breath at a time and turned the negative into a positive.
Some still bare the scars physically or emotionally but they are our medals of honour that prove we once faced our demons and said fuck it I'm not going down.
What I'm saying is it's ok to be negative at times, but out of negativity should come positivity... whatever the drama we can turn it around  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Some on here know my story of past and present dramas so I wont take them up again, of those that do I've been trusted with theirs of which I'll obviously never tell.
My guess is that most on fab have a story to tell, we've had dramas that at some point had us questioning if our very existence is worth it and had we a button to press that would finish us we'd have done it long ago...
However we didnt, we saw it though one step and one breath at a time and turned the negative into a positive.
Some still bare the scars physically or emotionally but they are our medals of honour that prove we once faced our demons and said fuck it I'm not going down.
What I'm saying is it's ok to be negative at times, but out of negativity should come positivity... whatever the drama we can turn it around "
A very good way of looking at it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm in the middle.
B thinks I'm a negative ninnie, I'm not, I simply know that others don't always behave in a way that you'd expect.
I don't look for the good in people any more the way I used to, been stung too many times but I do search for the positives in situations
P"
I try to stay in middle but like you p been stung a few times and it takes its toll. Been told my a family member im a negative person and that I need to pull my socks off as there are people worse off than me.
Taking each day as it comes after a tough Xmas.
So im realistic life is crap with some good moments |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm in the middle.
B thinks I'm a negative ninnie, I'm not, I simply know that others don't always behave in a way that you'd expect.
I don't look for the good in people any more the way I used to, been stung too many times but I do search for the positives in situations
P
I try to stay in middle but like you p been stung a few times and it takes its toll. Been told my a family member im a negative person and that I need to pull my socks off as there are people worse off than me.
Taking each day as it comes after a tough Xmas.
So im realistic life is crap with some good moments "
And that's why I generally think of myself as a positive person; I have a feeling that life is generally good or at the very least pretty ok, with some crap moments.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im a negative nelly. Doom gloom. Miserable 80% of the time, but i’m not one of those misery loves company types. If folks are happy i dont try to upset them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I try to be positive but I am finding it more and more difficult and so I would probably say I was negative.
I feel like my life revolves around work and I am single and dateless (as usual) on Valentine's Day.
Online dating feels like a waste of time and my friends are always busy. |
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I mostly go by never expect anything, then you can't be disappointed and don't dwell on things.. especially things you have no control over; and where possible try and see the funny side of things! Otherwise i'm in bed for 3 months at a time! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve been having my hair coloured so it’s taking a while. The other hairdresser (not mine) does nothing but moan.
I’d say I’m mostly positive, glass half full.
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very positive, i enjoy life, don't always make the right decisions but i enjoy it anyway    |
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Positive. Being negative achieves absoloutely nothing except making yourself ans those in your company bloody miserable.
Life is about attitude. Try and see the positive in every situation, not always easy we know, but a positive attitude is a happier and healthier mind. |
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"I try to be positive but I am finding it more and more difficult and so I would probably say I was negative.
I feel like my life revolves around work and I am single and dateless (as usual) on Valentine's Day.
Online dating feels like a waste of time and my friends are always busy."
All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy. Spend the spare time you have doing things you enjoy. Go out and about where you can meet new people. You may find someone to date when you least expect it. Online dating I assume must be hard work, get out in the real world with real people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hmmm I think I'm positive and realistic.
I used the hate the saying 'all is well', but now I am learning the meaning of this. I, like most of us by the time we get to my age, have experienced and witnessed nessed some pretty full on life events. Although they can feel awful, I have noticed that even in (and sometimes especially) the worst times there is beauty and love and we still have access to joy and connection. Im learning to shift my judgement of difficult feelings as being bad, negative, wrong or impossible. I'm constantly in awe of this human experience. Suffering is a part of life and brings gifts if we choose to accept them. We always still have choice even with the things we did not choose.
I guess I'm pretty positive. But not in the jolly, stick a smile on and pretend everything is fine way .. in the embracing all that comes with a big breath and oodles of trust. It's not easy. It's a dance.. with both the positive and the negative. "
Absolutely this. Freya, you talk so much sense and you put it so well, this is what I would have said if I could have articulated it so beautifully. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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I’m quite the harbinger of doom. I’m used to things going tits up so tend to expect the worst. I think my anxiety is the reason for this and since having kids i worry about everything.
I admire folk with sunny, happy-go-lucky dispositions. I wish i werre more like that.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m quite the harbinger of doom. I’m used to things going tits up so tend to expect the worst. I think my anxiety is the reason for this and since having kids i worry about everything.
I admire folk with sunny, happy-go-lucky dispositions. I wish i werre more like that.
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it rubs off ya know |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ll answer this more seriously now I’m pretty balanced. I have wobbles but I process them quickly and move on. I reframe things quite easily and I am able to see multiple perspectives so it isn’t difficult to find a positive path forward when faced with difficulties. I’m usually able to help people who want my help to work through some touch shit because of this. I enjoy my life and rarely feel down more than momentarily. However I’m not as overly enthusiastic and positive as I was in my late 20s and 30s. Life’s challenges have brought a greater sense of realism and a quieter more reflective quality to my way of being. |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
Craggy Island |
"I’ve been having my hair coloured so it’s taking a while. The other hairdresser (not mine) does nothing but moan.
I’d say I’m mostly positive, glass half full.
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I try and be positive but i think I'm turning in to a right Victor Meldrew..... |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
South Wales |
"I’m quite the harbinger of doom. I’m used to things going tits up so tend to expect the worst. I think my anxiety is the reason for this and since having kids i worry about everything.
I admire folk with sunny, happy-go-lucky dispositions. I wish i werre more like that.
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I should add, i’m not a moaner. I tend to keep my doom filled thoughts to myself!
Smiles on the outside, gloomy on the inside |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im realist, however i look for the best in a situation im generally upbeat and very positive. At work when one of my lads mess up i dont get angry and let it ruin the day i look for a positive way out of it to rectify the situation.
I cant stand being around moany negative people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m quite the harbinger of doom. I’m used to things going tits up so tend to expect the worst. I think my anxiety is the reason for this and since having kids i worry about everything.
I admire folk with sunny, happy-go-lucky dispositions. I wish i werre more like that.
I should add, i’m not a moaner. I tend to keep my doom filled thoughts to myself!
Smiles on the outside, gloomy on the inside "
i love a moaner |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
Very positive and pragmatic , but also try to be authentic and when things are bad, it’s perfectly normal to feel bad, it’s part of processing it, you don’t need to put on a brave face and pretend. But if you are just grumpy because of the weather, Boris or young people - then please keep your distance |
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Ive been told on more than one occasion that I'm annoyingly positive
To be fair, I've just never found looking on the negative side of things to be productive. Things tend to work out as they will, so I try to keep upbeat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Positive gets shit done, I’m very positive most of the time.....
Moaners are fucking mood hoovers who I avoid as much as I can!
You said it more authentically - I was trying to be polite  "
Haha! That’s me - Bull in a china shop! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A mixture of both.
I think there’s something not quite right in the head with people who are ALWAYS positive, likewise with people who are ALWAYS negative. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A mixture of both.
I think there’s something not quite right in the head with people who are ALWAYS positive, likewise with people who are ALWAYS negative."
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