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Laydeez,
Approximately how many shit messages do you get in a day?
What I mean by 'shit message' is, unrepliable message. A message which is that shit that there is no scope for a reply.
Ones like "hi babe", or "slut, I'm going to do this and that to you", etc.
How many shit messages do you get, and how many actual, authentic, conversational messages do you get?
Of those good messages, how many further messages do you get before the man gets prematurely sexual?
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
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How many messages I get varies from day to day and seems to depend on how much time I spend online & how active I am on the site.
As far as how many of those messages are shit.... Probably at least 95% |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How many messages I get varies from day to day and seems to depend on how much time I spend online & how active I am on the site.
As far as how many of those messages are shit.... Probably at least 95% "
Exactly this! |
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The 'average' message I get from women and couples is actually probably worse than the 'average' message from men.
Today I've had 1 whole message that didn't get deleted instantly, it was someone asking about my status because they didn't recognise the lyrics. |
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I think my favourite one I ever had was a guy message me with a pic of his cock compared to a corona bottle with the text "do you want it"
I had to reply with
"yes but jam a lime wendg in it first" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not that many, most of mine are complimentary in their own way even if they’re a bit vulgar.
I’m guilty of sending shit messages. I literally just send “lush” but I have 100% success rate! |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
Shangri-la |
Some of the shit ones I do reply to explaining why I'm not interested/deleting, in the hope that they might learn from it, but that often leads to further messages or abuse in which case its an instant block.
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
Redhill |
I get about 50 shit messages a day.
Maybe 1-2 worth replying
Carrying on to significant conversations- 1-3 a week.
Carrying on to becoming meaningful people in my life after having messaged me on here... 5 or so. (Includes guys, ladies and a lovely couple!)
Not bad going I don’t thunk.
But yes, most messages are shit. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My last inbox as follows.
Condom or bareback
That was it. No hi or other text. Great introduction eh
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We may have had the same message... the block button was used instantly. I mean who plays bareback on here for a start and if you do.. crazy! |
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I've just had yet another generic "love your profile, I think I'm exactly what you're looking for". You're really not mate, and if you'd bothered reading my profile it would have been blatantly obvious. Ugh. |
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
Preston |
Last time I left my messaging open (with preferences) I got 85 in 24 hours. I replied to 4 of them (some of the remaining 81 were shit, some were just dull)
Of the 4 I replied to I think I met 2 people for a social. |
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"My last inbox as follows.
Condom or bareback
That was it. No hi or other text. Great introduction eh
We may have had the same message... the block button was used instantly. I mean who plays bareback on here for a start and if you do.. crazy! "
I think the location and the fact we both have female equipment was the main requirement
Maybe someone will be foolish enough to give him the reply he wants |
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By *opinovMan
over a year ago
Point Nemo, Cumbria |
I find there's often an expectation that a shit message from a man deserves summary deletion, whereas a message of similar merit from a woman is fine.
That said, I may have underestimated just how shit 'shit' actually is if this thread is any indication. |
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
Preston |
"I find there's often an expectation that a shit message from a man deserves summary deletion, whereas a message of similar merit from a woman is fine.
That said, I may have underestimated just how shit 'shit' actually is if this thread is any indication."
I once had "do you poo in the toilet at work?"
As shit messages go..... |
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"I find there's often an expectation that a shit message from a man deserves summary deletion, whereas a message of similar merit from a woman is fine.
That said, I may have underestimated just how shit 'shit' actually is if this thread is any indication."
I delete shit messages without considering the genitals of the sender. |
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"I find there's often an expectation that a shit message from a man deserves summary deletion, whereas a message of similar merit from a woman is fine.
That said, I may have underestimated just how shit 'shit' actually is if this thread is any indication.
I once had "do you poo in the toilet at work?"
As shit messages go....."
I had that last week I think  |
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
Preston |
"I find there's often an expectation that a shit message from a man deserves summary deletion, whereas a message of similar merit from a woman is fine.
That said, I may have underestimated just how shit 'shit' actually is if this thread is any indication.
I once had "do you poo in the toilet at work?"
As shit messages go.....
I had that last week I think "
Some BS about doing genuine research?
Here's my PhD in women pooing! |
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"How many messages I get varies from day to day and seems to depend on how much time I spend online & how active I am on the site.
As far as how many of those messages are shit.... Probably at least 95% "
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"How many messages I get varies from day to day and seems to depend on how much time I spend online & how active I am on the site.
As far as how many of those messages are shit.... Probably at least 95%
Exactly this!"
Thanks!!! |
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"Not that many, most of mine are complimentary in their own way even if they’re a bit vulgar.
I’m guilty of sending shit messages. I literally just send “lush” but I have 100% success rate! "
The beauty of supply and demand. |
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"Also OP it's not just men who send shit messages, from our experience couples and ladies send awful messages too."
Indeed when previously on here as part of a couple a number of couples and fems had a very lazy attitude  |
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"I get about 50 shit messages a day.
Maybe 1-2 worth replying
Carrying on to significant conversations- 1-3 a week.
Carrying on to becoming meaningful people in my life after having messaged me on here... 5 or so. (Includes guys, ladies and a lovely couple!)
Not bad going I don’t thunk.
But yes, most messages are shit. "
Excellent! Thanks! |
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"Last time I left my messaging open (with preferences) I got 85 in 24 hours. I replied to 4 of them (some of the remaining 81 were shit, some were just dull)
Of the 4 I replied to I think I met 2 people for a social."
Excellent! Thanks...
You've been on my hotlist for weeks.  |
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"On average women and couples send worse messages than men.
I'm not so sure, I've seen men's messages and they are often disgusting/abusive, etc.."
Men send both the best and the worst messages. And the most. But message for message, women and couples send more lazy/entitled messages. |
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"On average women and couples send worse messages than men.
I'm not so sure, I've seen men's messages and they are often disgusting/abusive, etc..
Men send both the best and the worst messages. And the most. But message for message, women and couples send more lazy/entitled messages."
I agree. I often get very lazy messages from women. I sometimes get very cheeky and say, "hey, I sent you a decent message and you replied with three words? Lol"... They will usually reply better after that! Ha! |
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"On average women and couples send worse messages than men.
I'm not so sure, I've seen men's messages and they are often disgusting/abusive, etc..
Men send both the best and the worst messages. And the most. But message for message, women and couples send more lazy/entitled messages.
I agree. I often get very lazy messages from women. I sometimes get very cheeky and say, "hey, I sent you a decent message and you replied with three words? Lol"... They will usually reply better after that! Ha!"
I feel I can throw stones because my messages are usually pretty good. |
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"On average women and couples send worse messages than men.
I'm not so sure, I've seen men's messages and they are often disgusting/abusive, etc..
Men send both the best and the worst messages. And the most. But message for message, women and couples send more lazy/entitled messages.
I agree. I often get very lazy messages from women. I sometimes get very cheeky and say, "hey, I sent you a decent message and you replied with three words? Lol"... They will usually reply better after that! Ha!
I feel I can throw stones because my messages are usually pretty good."
That's good to know miss Swingdress. Your profile is very good too to be fair. A lot of women have "Dunno wot 2 right ear. Msg for info"... Or something alike! Ha! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Also OP it's not just men who send shit messages, from our experience couples and ladies send awful messages too.
I get poor messages from couples, and very lazy messages from women."
Agree, my messages to men are just one word. “Lush”. That’s all it takes though to get a reply. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Also OP it's not just men who send shit messages, from our experience couples and ladies send awful messages too.
I get poor messages from couples, and very lazy messages from women.
Agree, my messages to men are just one word. “Lush”. That’s all it takes though to get a reply. "
Do you copy and paste it ? |
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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago
Deepest darkest Peru |
"Too many. My favourite today was one I'd replied saying I wasnt meeting just to be told I look like a whale in my newest picture 
Delightful."
I had one like that last week, told me to go and throw myself back in the river!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Too many. My favourite today was one I'd replied saying I wasnt meeting just to be told I look like a whale in my newest picture
Delightful."
Wtf! Jeeze there are some proper idiots |
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By *manaWoman
over a year ago
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"Too many. My favourite today was one I'd replied saying I wasnt meeting just to be told I look like a whale in my newest picture
Delightful.
I had one like that last week, told me to go and throw myself back in the river!! "
No!!! Some people are vile.... if you dont like my body dont message me that you want to meet...simple! |
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"Too many. My favourite today was one I'd replied saying I wasnt meeting just to be told I look like a whale in my newest picture
Delightful.
I had one like that last week, told me to go and throw myself back in the river!! "
Cookie and AV neither of you deserve that at all  |
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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago
Deepest darkest Peru |
"Too many. My favourite today was one I'd replied saying I wasnt meeting just to be told I look like a whale in my newest picture
Delightful.
I had one like that last week, told me to go and throw myself back in the river!!
Cookie and AV neither of you deserve that at all "
Thanks you xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Last time I left my messaging open (with preferences) I got 85 in 24 hours. I replied to 4 of them (some of the remaining 81 were shit, some were just dull)
Of the 4 I replied to I think I met 2 people for a social."
This. I'm pretty sure my messages aren't shit, but almost certainly they're dull and I often get no response back (either nothing or delete, they're pretty much the same).
It's not easy writing an opener that is interesting and relevant. And includes something (besides a keyword) to show I've read the profile. Also what tone to take. Surely not mega-horny, but not ty professor either.
But that leaves the question 'what's a good, not dull' message like?
(with apologies for sidetracking the thread) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Last time I left my messaging open (with preferences) I got 85 in 24 hours. I replied to 4 of them (some of the remaining 81 were shit, some were just dull)
Of the 4 I replied to I think I met 2 people for a social.
This. I'm pretty sure my messages aren't shit, but almost certainly they're dull and I often get no response back (either nothing or delete, they're pretty much the same).
It's not easy writing an opener that is interesting and relevant. And includes something (besides a keyword) to show I've read the profile. Also what tone to take. Surely not mega-horny, but not ty professor either.
But that leaves the question 'what's a good, not dull' message like?
(with apologies for sidetracking the thread) "
Surely its different to every recipient?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Last time I left my messaging open (with preferences) I got 85 in 24 hours. I replied to 4 of them (some of the remaining 81 were shit, some were just dull)
Of the 4 I replied to I think I met 2 people for a social.
This. I'm pretty sure my messages aren't shit, but almost certainly they're dull and I often get no response back (either nothing or delete, they're pretty much the same).
It's not easy writing an opener that is interesting and relevant. And includes something (besides a keyword) to show I've read the profile. Also what tone to take. Surely not mega-horny, but not ty professor either.
But that leaves the question 'what's a good, not dull' message like?
(with apologies for sidetracking the thread)
Surely its different to every recipient?? "
My messages or the definition of a good one?
My messages are most certainly not copy/paste.
And of course everyone has their own unique opinion but there must be some commonalities. I guess I'm just looking for feedback since no reply doesn't give much to work with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Also I want to say that those messages you get are awful and I'm sorry you have to put up with shit like that.
It really bothers me that the world is this way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But that leaves the question 'what's a good, not dull' message like?
(with apologies for sidetracking the thread)
Surely its different to every recipient??
My messages or the definition of a good one?
My messages are most certainly not copy/paste.
And of course everyone has their own unique opinion but there must be some commonalities. I guess I'm just looking for feedback since no reply doesn't give much to work with. "
Sorry i meant what is a good (interesting) message for me, probably wouldn't work for someone else and vice versa |
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"On average women and couples send worse messages than men.
I'm not so sure, I've seen men's messages and they are often disgusting/abusive, etc..
Men send both the best and the worst messages. And the most. But message for message, women and couples send more lazy/entitled messages."
True with couples local to me. I've had a few make contact then it seems to be up to me to chase. I can't be arsed if they aren't. I've found the local females either don't answer (fair enough) or are actually quite chatty as they struggle to comprehend that some tranny wants to meet girls. It confuses them something terrible |
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"Not that many, most of mine are complimentary in their own way even if they’re a bit vulgar.
I’m guilty of sending shit messages. I literally just send “lush” but I have 100% success rate! "
Looking as you do with your figure & outfits, you're gonna get 100% percent hit rate lol. It would be akin to a lottery win to anyone!  |
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"Also I want to say that those messages you get are awful and I'm sorry you have to put up with shit like that.
It really bothers me that the world is this way. "
I wouldn't let it worry you. We just have a good laugh, pick ourselves off the floor and delete/block or just ignore. |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
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I probably get an average of about 30-50 messages a day, depending on how active I am.
Most are one liners that at best are hi, how r u? I tend to reply with sarcasm or just straight delete.
Most messages from women are written in such a way I assume they are men (instantly sexual or want an instashag)
I probably have a decent conversation once a fortnight or once a month. And they are generally based off a thread on the forum.
All my 'would love to meet for social or otherwise' people are all from the forums. |
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"I probably get an average of about 30-50 messages a day, depending on how active I am.
Most are one liners that at best are hi, how r u? I tend to reply with sarcasm or just straight delete.
Most messages from women are written in such a way I assume they are men (instantly sexual or want an instashag)
I probably have a decent conversation once a fortnight or once a month. And they are generally based off a thread on the forum.
All my 'would love to meet for social or otherwise' people are all from the forums. "
Thanks for the info! |
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