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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I used to be offended at messages with my face pic attached getting deleted. I’ve now decided it’s due to me being that hot they think I’m a catfish. 
Are you a deleter or a no thanks/not for me sort? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s just that people aren’t interested it’s human nature to be upset and if the person reply’s it can end in abuse so it’s not personal it’s just easiest way block to make sure lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"From men - delete
From ladies - sorry not for me"
Same, it’s the polite thing to do. Although I blocked men after one sent a cock pic that still haunts me in my sleep. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If it's a nice message and a nice reply will be sent. If it's a valgur message it's instant delete x"
I write well thought out and relevant messages.... maybe I’m more bothered about that than my face  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As our profile says I always reply to every one no matter what thus leaving Carol to only reply to the ones she wants to and this information is on our profile not that many read it bless them.
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By *undown40Couple
over a year ago
Warwickshire |
"From men - delete
From ladies - sorry not for me
Same, it’s the polite thing to do. Although I blocked men after one sent a cock pic that still haunts me in my sleep. "
Politness and etiquite on FAB!! That's a topic to open a debate |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"From men - delete
From ladies - sorry not for me
Same, it’s the polite thing to do. Although I blocked men after one sent a cock pic that still haunts me in my sleep. Politness and etiquite on FAB!! That's a topic to open a debate "
Haha I’m not brave enough to start that thread! |
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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago
button moon |
Replying no thanks can often lead to further messages, occasionally abuse, and allows them round your filters if you change/tweek them.
So I just block and delete if I'm not interested for whatever reason(usually they've not read profile). That way they don't show up in my searches and can't message again. |
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By *undown40Couple
over a year ago
Warwickshire |
"From men - delete
From ladies - sorry not for me
Same, it’s the polite thing to do. Although I blocked men after one sent a cock pic that still haunts me in my sleep. Politness and etiquite on FAB!! That's a topic to open a debate
Haha I’m not brave enough to start that thread! "
Be hunted by some of the Forum Mafia then.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Replying no thanks can often lead to further messages, occasionally abuse, and allows them round your filters if you change/tweek them.
So I just block and delete if I'm not interested for whatever reason(usually they've not read profile). That way they don't show up in my searches and can't message again. "
Ok for example I tick all your boxes if I messaged a polite message but you didn’t like my face would you still delete? (Just purely out of interest!) |
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Its simple if if i have been told no thanks or just a delete... i just block and move on... it doesnt mean i have anything against them... it just clears up a search and filters. Lots of fish in the sea  |
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By *undown40Couple
over a year ago
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Our own personal choice on this.
All one word messages are a real turn off and just get deleted.
Other well written messages get answered even if it's a polite no.
Followed by blocking the sender if there's no attraction. As we are sure others do when they receive messages from someone they don't find attractive.
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It depends on the persons profile & message content for me.
No pics on profile or in message & not verified delete without opening.
Verified with pic included polite reply & wish them luck.
Message with a dick pic is a block |
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By *manaWoman
over a year ago
Basingstoke |
"I used to reply no thanks, but found too many people would respond again. I just delete now if I am not interested. "
Absolutely this... or they would respond with abuse. I just dont do it now. |
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"From men - delete
From ladies - sorry not for me
Same, it’s the polite thing to do. Although I blocked men after one sent a cock pic that still haunts me in my sleep. Politness and etiquite on FAB!! That's a topic to open a debate
Haha I’m not brave enough to start that thread! "
It’s been done and can get quite interesting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"From men - delete
From ladies - sorry not for me
Same, it’s the polite thing to do. Although I blocked men after one sent a cock pic that still haunts me in my sleep. Politness and etiquite on FAB!! That's a topic to open a debate
Haha I’m not brave enough to start that thread!
It’s been done and can get quite interesting "
You going to do it again? You moderate so well |
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I'm very much a delete and block kind of person. I'll occasionally reply to say no thanks if there's been obvious effort, I like their profile, they've made me laugh, etc but I'm just not attracted. It doesn't happen very often. I don't even bother opening most messages because I know they haven't looked at my profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is a bit dis heartening to see your message has been read and/or deleted. Some females have responded with a no "thank you" which I actually appreciate and have always responded with a nice reply to say "thanks for getting back to me" and left it at that.
I personally would rather have some sort of response. |
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From reading the forums over the years and my own experiences and 'rules', if someone sends me a face pic attached to their first and nicely written message and it's obvious they had a look at my short profile (not this one, this is for organised socials only), then I always reply.
Anything outside of that is a delete and block.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just received a message from someone telling me what they wanted from me & to do to me etc
my reply - did you read my profile?
I then received a reply saying ...... "yes it's short and preferences change all the time so don't be so fucking up yourself"
and that is an example of why most delete without responding |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends what the message contains. If it’s a cock pic, it gets deleted. If it’s a message that proves they’ve read my profile, it’s a polite reply. If it’s just filth, it gets a swift “thanks awfully but you’re a dipstick!”  |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"I just received a message from someone telling me what they wanted from me & to do to me etc
my reply - did you read my profile?
I then received a reply saying ...... "yes it's short and preferences change all the time so don't be so fucking up yourself"
and that is an example of why most delete without responding"
Yikes. He's sounds a keeper (not) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Guess it's different for men and women. Women get so many messages you really can't expect them to read all, but I do prefer being told "no thanks".
Men don't get as many messages so easier to read and reply |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just received a message from someone telling me what they wanted from me & to do to me etc
my reply - did you read my profile?
I then received a reply saying ...... "yes it's short and preferences change all the time so don't be so fucking up yourself"
and that is an example of why most delete without responding
Yikes. He's sounds a keeper (not) "
you can keep him then  |
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I may have to check out a few of you guys profiles and see if I'm going wrong somewhere. I do fine in clubs and following socials, but never get unsolicited messages from women or couples (rarely replies) on here. |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"I just received a message from someone telling me what they wanted from me & to do to me etc
my reply - did you read my profile?
I then received a reply saying ...... "yes it's short and preferences change all the time so don't be so fucking up yourself"
and that is an example of why most delete without responding
Yikes. He's sounds a keeper (not)
you can keep him then "
Naaaaah. But I'd like to borrow you for a while.  |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"Depends what the message contains. If it’s a cock pic, it gets deleted. If it’s a message that proves they’ve read my profile, it’s a polite reply. If it’s just filth, it gets a swift “thanks awfully but you’re a dipstick!” "
You haven't called me a 'dipstick' yet.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on the message. Some I just delete and don't dignify with a polite response.
I do find when do say not for me they keep messaging back and sometimes I cba with that so delete.
But I'm also shockingly good at accidently deleting messages. |
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"I just received a message from someone telling me what they wanted from me & to do to me etc
my reply - did you read my profile?
I then received a reply saying ...... "yes it's short and preferences change all the time so don't be so fucking up yourself"
and that is an example of why most delete without responding"
Bet that guy turns up with a thread asking why he can't get a meet & why the women on here think they are special or something 
I'd have replied to him "I'm not but then you're definitely not going to be either " |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
Whitley Bay |
If the messager has clearly read my profile and is literate and polite I'll reply 'thanks but no thanks'. Anything else gets instant delete.
I had my first block after sending a face pic the other day. He messaged, I was interested, so replied and was up for chatting. I added a face pic and then he dissapeared!!! It felt bizarre and I can see how it's disheartening.
I laughed in the end..I guess I scared him off! Oh well |
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"I used to be offended at messages with my face pic attached getting deleted. I’ve now decided it’s due to me being that hot they think I’m a catfish.
Are you a deleter or a no thanks/not for me sort? "
Polite messages will get a polite reply. Shit messages get nothing. It's not worth the finger effort even if I could burn a calorie doing it. |
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By *undown40Couple
over a year ago
Warwickshire |
"I used to be offended at messages with my face pic attached getting deleted. I’ve now decided it’s due to me being that hot they think I’m a catfish.
Are you a deleter or a no thanks/not for me sort?
Polite messages will get a polite reply. Shit messages get nothing. It's not worth the finger effort even if I could burn a calorie doing it. "
Exactly  |
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"It is a bit dis heartening to see your message has been read and/or deleted. Some females have responded with a no "thank you" which I actually appreciate and have always responded with a nice reply to say "thanks for getting back to me" and left it at that.
I personally would rather have some sort of response."
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends what the message contains. If it’s a cock pic, it gets deleted. If it’s a message that proves they’ve read my profile, it’s a polite reply. If it’s just filth, it gets a swift “thanks awfully but you’re a dipstick!”
You haven't called me a 'dipstick' yet. "
You slipped the net, sweetness!! |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"Depends what the message contains. If it’s a cock pic, it gets deleted. If it’s a message that proves they’ve read my profile, it’s a polite reply. If it’s just filth, it gets a swift “thanks awfully but you’re a dipstick!”
You haven't called me a 'dipstick' yet.
You slipped the net, sweetness!! "
Awww. You're a charmer. |
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"From men - delete
From ladies - sorry not for me
Same, it’s the polite thing to do. Although I blocked men after one sent a cock pic that still haunts me in my sleep. "
Why do people say it's the polite thing to do?!! If a couple are seeking a bi fem only and a single man messages them, why would he feel upset at being ignored? |
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By *undown40Couple
over a year ago
Warwickshire |
"From men - delete
From ladies - sorry not for me
Same, it’s the polite thing to do. Although I blocked men after one sent a cock pic that still haunts me in my sleep.
Why do people say it's the polite thing to do?!! If a couple are seeking a bi fem only and a single man messages them, why would he feel upset at being ignored?"
Manners cost absolutely nothing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am offended when they delete my messages after they've seen 148 pictures of my cock with 5 different angles !
Apparently ppl don't like creative shots ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just received a message from someone telling me what they wanted from me & to do to me etc
my reply - did you read my profile?
I then received a reply saying ...... "yes it's short and preferences change all the time so don't be so fucking up yourself"
and that is an example of why most delete without responding
Bet that guy turns up with a thread asking why he can't get a meet & why the women on here think they are special or something
I'd have replied to him "I'm not but then you're definitely not going to be either ""
he blocked me! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its simple if if i have been told no thanks or just a delete... i just block and move on... it doesnt mean i have anything against them... it just clears up a search and filters. Lots of fish in the sea "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I get a message, I read their profile first.
If their profile doesn’t fit what I’m looking for, their message gets deleted unread.
Manners do cost nothing, so men should have the manners to read profiles before messaging anyone. |
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"If I get a message, I read their profile first.
If their profile doesn’t fit what I’m looking for, their message gets deleted unread.
Manners do cost nothing, so men should have the manners to read profiles before messaging anyone."
Errrrm it goes both ways... women are not exempt from reading or possessing manners |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I get a message, I read their profile first.
If their profile doesn’t fit what I’m looking for, their message gets deleted unread.
Manners do cost nothing, so men should have the manners to read profiles before messaging anyone.
Errrrm it goes both ways... women are not exempt from reading or possessing manners "
I’m talking from a purely personal experience |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always reply back and never delete.
I tend to get the message when I'm told "no thanks" and never message again except its for one of the games on the forum and even then I stay in topic. I usually don't mind when my messages get deleted either, it's the unread ones that bug me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I delete. Unless someone has sent me face pics and they’re gorgeous. Then i lay awake at night fapping myself into a foamy frenzy of lust over their pics.
(I don’t really.......or do I?) "
"foamy frenzy of lust"!?! I need to work that into a conversation sometime |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I used to be offended at messages with my face pic attached getting deleted. I’ve now decided it’s due to me being that hot they think I’m a catfish.
Are you a deleter or a no thanks/not for me sort? "
That's a funny outlook 
I'm a bit of both hunny x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I send a message and its either deleted or read with no reply after a few days... I block the recipient.. Similarly if someone is good enough to send me a thanks but no thanks I thank them then block.
Why?
Well for a start it means I know that they aren't interested and I won't send a second message to them..
Nobody likes pushy or mithering..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I delete my entire inbox daily
If someone continues the thread the previous messages will appear, if they start a new thread then they risk me not remembering we’ve messaged before and the message being deleted unread
I hate a messy inbox |
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I used to reply to all. How bloody time consuming and pointless was that? Each polite decline would receive a response, some polite some abusive. Am I meant to reply to all of those as well in order to show I have manners? What's the end result? A feeling of harassment and a deleted profile.
I delete any message that doesn't appeal to me. If that is impolite then so be it. I'm on Fab for me not for that guy who messaged me at 3am wanting a quick wank. |
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"I used to reply to all. How bloody time consuming and pointless was that? Each polite decline would receive a response, some polite some abusive. Am I meant to reply to all of those as well in order to show I have manners? What's the end result? A feeling of harassment and a deleted profile.
I delete any message that doesn't appeal to me. If that is impolite then so be it. I'm on Fab for me not for that guy who messaged me at 3am wanting a quick wank. "
I did apologise for the 3am message tho Mac xx |
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And I delete messages daily too 