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"Depends in what way they wanted them "We went *there* early in this thread | |||
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"During a conversation with a friend today, this subject came up and it's set me thinking. I've heard this phrase quite a few times in many aspects of life and in specific; affairs of the heart, I was wondering though, what does that actually look like to you personally? If someone said that they wanted actions not words in a relationship, how would you go about doing that? " Stop doing whatever it is that's annoying her and do what will make her happy | |||
"I find a way to show them that I care. It can be as simple as kiss in the cheek "Have I read this wrong  . I’m hopeless, I promise to try harder | |||
"During a conversation with a friend today, this subject came up and it's set me thinking. I've heard this phrase quite a few times in many aspects of life and in specific; affairs of the heart, I was wondering though, what does that actually look like to you personally? If someone said that they wanted actions not words in a relationship, how would you go about doing that? " shut up and start doing. I think it means showing you love someone by deed because words mean nothing if they aren't backed up by actions. That's why I always make Mr N's breakfast and he cleans my car | |||
"During a conversation with a friend today, this subject came up and it's set me thinking. I've heard this phrase quite a few times in many aspects of life and in specific; affairs of the heart, I was wondering though, what does that actually look like to you personally? If someone said that they wanted actions not words in a relationship, how would you go about doing that? " I would make every effort to ensure that person felt loved, appreciated and desired by doing whatever was within my power to do so. Little things mean alot to me. 
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"op have you read the Guardian article "Love isn't Valentines and roses. It's holding hands in A&E" that about sums it up for me " I haven't actually! I might go and have a look at that. | |||
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"It’s a true phrase used for good and bad connotations ‘actions speak louder than words’. Just like someone who says ‘sorry’ but then goes and does the same thing again, the words are meaningless unless their actions prove them differently " This. Don't say one thing and then do another | |||
"It’s a true phrase used for good and bad connotations ‘actions speak louder than words’. Just like someone who says ‘sorry’ but then goes and does the same thing again, the words are meaningless unless their actions prove them differently " I was going to say exactly this | |||
"During a conversation with a friend today, this subject came up and it's set me thinking. I've heard this phrase quite a few times in many aspects of life and in specific; affairs of the heart, I was wondering though, what does that actually look like to you personally? If someone said that they wanted actions not words in a relationship, how would you go about doing that? " Show them if you can. I'll use an example of myself, I am after all the expert on me. I need a fair amount of reassurance, patience and kid gloves at times, resulting from baggage and toxic people. I also need straight talking at the same time. Complicated little fucker or what? Well, being in a new relationship and handing another the ability to crush my trust and heart has been difficult, even more than that with it being a swinging relationship it's opening that up a step further and allowing others who I don't know that same ability. That's fucking tough, and that's the bit I struggle with the absolute most. These other people have no loyalty to me like B does, some people are nasty, toxic and the epitome of evil, others are sent from heaven. It's taken me a long time to get to where I am arriving at, which is a place where I can accept that the swinging side is for physical pleasure. Of course there have been people I already trusted and would allow into our bed if desired, but that opportunity never arose. The some of reassurance B has given me has been in words, but in truth as much as I believed them, I didn't KNOW. You can believe something but not know it for sure. Like God, some people believe in God, but they don't categorically know. The truth has been reached in my mind by his actions, and those actions were ..... nothing! He hasn't pressured me into meets, although we've talked extensively. He hasn't turned the thumb screws into meeting alone, I've been the one applying the pressure there to be ok with it (which is the one that's gonna take the longest time to be secure about) What I'm saying is, by giving me the time to get comfortable, that alone has been what I've needed, and we're now heading to a party in less than a fortnight where unless there's a Coronavirus outbreak, sexual shenanigans with other people WILL be happening.... and I'm not only cool with it, but I'm excited about the prospect. P | |||
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"During a conversation with a friend today, this subject came up and it's set me thinking. I've heard this phrase quite a few times in many aspects of life and in specific; affairs of the heart, I was wondering though, what does that actually look like to you personally? If someone said that they wanted actions not words in a relationship, how would you go about doing that? Show them if you can. I'll use an example of myself, I am after all the expert on me. I need a fair amount of reassurance, patience and kid gloves at times, resulting from baggage and toxic people. I also need straight talking at the same time. Complicated little fucker or what? Well, being in a new relationship and handing another the ability to crush my trust and heart has been difficult, even more than that with it being a swinging relationship it's opening that up a step further and allowing others who I don't know that same ability. That's fucking tough, and that's the bit I struggle with the absolute most. These other people have no loyalty to me like B does, some people are nasty, toxic and the epitome of evil, others are sent from heaven. It's taken me a long time to get to where I am arriving at, which is a place where I can accept that the swinging side is for physical pleasure. Of course there have been people I already trusted and would allow into our bed if desired, but that opportunity never arose. The some of reassurance B has given me has been in words, but in truth as much as I believed them, I didn't KNOW. You can believe something but not know it for sure. Like God, some people believe in God, but they don't categorically know. The truth has been reached in my mind by his actions, and those actions were ..... nothing! He hasn't pressured me into meets, although we've talked extensively. He hasn't turned the thumb screws into meeting alone, I've been the one applying the pressure there to be ok with it (which is the one that's gonna take the longest time to be secure about) What I'm saying is, by giving me the time to get comfortable, that alone has been what I've needed, and we're now heading to a party in less than a fortnight where unless there's a Coronavirus outbreak, sexual shenanigans with other people WILL be happening.... and I'm not only cool with it, but I'm excited about the prospect. P" Yay!! | |||
"I already do it. So does jay we tell each other we love each other all the while but little things like him putting my coat on for me and doing the buttons up for me. " As an independant women this makes me cringe. A man putting on my coat and doing up my buttons to me is patronising as i am an adult not a child. Action speak louder than words?. Go onto youtube and listen to Show me from My Fair Lady. Just bloody kiss me instead of saying you want to kiss me | |||
"I already do it. So does jay we tell each other we love each other all the while but little things like him putting my coat on for me and doing the buttons up for me. As an independant women this makes me cringe. A man putting on my coat and doing up my buttons to me is patronising as i am an adult not a child. Action speak louder than words?. Go onto youtube and listen to Show me from My Fair Lady. Just bloody kiss me instead of saying you want to kiss me" every relationship is different and mine suits me down to the ground. I like being wrapped up in cotton wool. | |||
"I already do it. So does jay we tell each other we love each other all the while but little things like him putting my coat on for me and doing the buttons up for me. As an independant women this makes me cringe. A man putting on my coat and doing up my buttons to me is patronising as i am an adult not a child. Action speak louder than words?. Go onto youtube and listen to Show me from My Fair Lady. Just bloody kiss me instead of saying you want to kiss meevery relationship is different and mine suits me down to the ground. I like being wrapped up in cotton wool. " And i am happy for you. Maybe deep down i am envious of what i have never had in life. Maybe its turned me into a hardened, stubborn person who fends for herself. Maybe one day when i need help to put a coat on and do up buttons there will be nobody there to help me. Time will tell.x | |||
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"During a conversation with a friend today, this subject came up and it's set me thinking. I've heard this phrase quite a few times in many aspects of life and in specific; affairs of the heart, I was wondering though, what does that actually look like to you personally? If someone said that they wanted actions not words in a relationship, how would you go about doing that? " Every relationship has its own dynamic, but to me personally it would mean - loyalty, trust and respect - no amount of words could speak louder than those and in the right situation one would hope mutually reciprocated. | |||
"During a conversation with a friend today, this subject came up and it's set me thinking. I've heard this phrase quite a few times in many aspects of life and in specific; affairs of the heart, I was wondering though, what does that actually look like to you personally? If someone said that they wanted actions not words in a relationship, how would you go about doing that? Every relationship has its own dynamic, but to me personally it would mean - loyalty, trust and respect - no amount of words could speak louder than those and in the right situation one would hope mutually reciprocated. " You said it sooooo much simpler than I did 
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"During a conversation with a friend today, this subject came up and it's set me thinking. I've heard this phrase quite a few times in many aspects of life and in specific; affairs of the heart, I was wondering though, what does that actually look like to you personally? If someone said that they wanted actions not words in a relationship, how would you go about doing that? Every relationship has its own dynamic, but to me personally it would mean - loyalty, trust and respect - no amount of words could speak louder than those and in the right situation one would hope mutually reciprocated. You said it sooooo much simpler than I did
P"Means the same though P! | |||
