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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How many of you do it.
It frustrates the life out of me, I have it stamped so big across my profile yet STILL only 30% actually do this.
You are just wasting my time and yours if you have not read as I just delete without opening the message.
If you cant read what I want, I cant read what you want.
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"How many of you do it.
It frustrates the life out of me, I have it stamped so big across my profile yet STILL only 30% actually do this.
You are just wasting my time and yours if you have not read as I just delete without opening the message.
If you cant read what I want, I cant read what you want.
Rant over "
I read every single word of every woman’s profile before I message.
I can understand why some would get frustrated and not bother though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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when you look at profile an you think OK let's see. Then it as more than 100 words I'm Not interested. As usually the last part has that disclaimer. Also off putting when some one just says I'm 40 single n live some where.
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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It depends - if it's someone I am just shooting the breeze with, with no intent of anything more, then I may not read the profile - if it's with a view to meeting (or that 'shooting the breeze' develops) then I'll read it in full and check there is potential compatability |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honestly.... you will hate me but....
I took a quick look and yeah, i wouldn't read it either.
Lots of i and if.
Just another list like many other profiles...
Sorry! But being honest rather than a suck up.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I enjoy reading profiles and find it the best way to get a feel for each person before actually talking. People but a little time and effort into writing them, it's only fair that I make the effort to read them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t think reading a profile before messaging should be necessary as 95% of women on here won’t reply regardless so why should we read profiles when majority of women won’t reply even when we do I think once you start talking then read it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How many of you do it.
It frustrates the life out of me, I have it stamped so big across my profile yet STILL only 30% actually do this.
You are just wasting my time and yours if you have not read as I just delete without opening the message.
If you cant read what I want, I cant read what you want.
Rant over "
Poison ivy.
Surely if you want to penetrate someone until their skull rattles and their legs tremble that it's only fair enough to take time to get to know them first, starting by reading their profile? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Honestly.... you will hate me but....
I took a quick look and yeah, i wouldn't read it either.
Lots of i and if.
Just another list like many other profiles...
Sorry! But being honest rather than a suck up.
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I dont hate anyone for their opinion, espescially an honest one.
However, I am here to find someone I am attracted to, so no point wasting time if they are not for me.
Given the man to woman ratio on here if I did not specify what I am looking for I am sure the messages would 10fold, due to those who DO read, realise I am not for them/them for me, and move on x |
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"How many of you do it.
It frustrates the life out of me, I have it stamped so big across my profile yet STILL only 30% actually do this.
You are just wasting my time and yours if you have not read as I just delete without opening the message.
If you cant read what I want, I cant read what you want.
Rant over "
There is a big difference in reading a profile and taking it in... just because someone doesnt put your magic unlocking word in a subject heading doesnt mean it hasnt been read... perhaps they read the words... look at the photos... get distracted  ...
And then message... |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"I don’t think reading a profile before messaging should be necessary as 95% of women on here won’t reply regardless so why should we read profiles when majority of women won’t reply even when we do I think once you start talking then read it "
Your call entirely but if by reading it you either find you're not compatible (so don't waste your time sending a message) or find things to mention in your message then it's been a worthwhile exercise surely? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I tend to read most womens profiles but if it's just paragraph after paragraph of moans and gripes, I roll my eyes and come out of it."
Unfortunatley it is men that have made us do this.
In real life I am extremely laid back and friendly, it just is not practical on here as every man think you will fancy them and just hop into bed, and some get nasty when you say no. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How many of you do it.
It frustrates the life out of me, I have it stamped so big across my profile yet STILL only 30% actually do this.
You are just wasting my time and yours if you have not read as I just delete without opening the message.
If you cant read what I want, I cant read what you want.
Rant over
There is a big difference in reading a profile and taking it in... just because someone doesnt put your magic unlocking word in a subject heading doesnt mean it hasnt been read... perhaps they read the words... look at the photos... get distracted ...
And then message..."
I need something to sift through.
If i read/replied to everyone, it would be a full time job |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I tend to read most womens profiles but if it's just paragraph after paragraph of moans and gripes, I roll my eyes and come out of it.
Unfortunatley it is men that have made us do this.
In real life I am extremely laid back and friendly, it just is not practical on here as every man think you will fancy them and just hop into bed, and some get nasty when you say no."
Unfortunate...I just don't understand men who get nasty when they get met with a no...everyone has certain things they're looking for so accept you're not always it...No surprise I get a fair "no's" but me getting nasty or barraging them over and over again isn't going turn that no into a yes is it |
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And here is what differentiates the ones we want to connect with and the ones we're all happy to ignore.
If you want to know me or someone like Ivy and it's clear you've not taken the time to read a profile like either of ours then why should we jump when you send us a one sentence message?
Put the effort in and you may get somewhere.
Luckily my filters are set to filter out most of the guilty ones as they're generally men, I've yet to meet a woman who doesn't read them.
I've not got one of those words you have to use as a header and I don't need one either, you can tell without it all too easily.
Good luck Ivy, you'll need it |
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"I don’t think reading a profile before messaging should be necessary as 95% of women on here won’t reply regardless so why should we read profiles when majority of women won’t reply even when we do I think once you start talking then read it "
Not reading the profiles will help to perpetuate your 95% failure, or get it closer to 100%.
Messaging inappropriate, unmatched people, perhaps with a copy and paste type message, as you don't know them, is probably a big waste of yours and their time. Perhaps you would be better considering how your message success rate could be improved, rather than keeping it as it is? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I tend to read most womens profiles but if it's just paragraph after paragraph of moans and gripes, I roll my eyes and come out of it."
This.
Also, if it requires a specific title, pass. Or if there's only one sentence, pass. Or no photos, pass. Its actually quite easy to whittle down potentials |
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I always read profiles. Primarily, they tell me who I should leave alone because they have no use for me; additionally, when I'm not excluded by the person's requirements, they often give me something to say in a message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I first joined fab I was guilty as charged and didnt read profiles and rarely got a reply to a message not matter how polite I was now I read any and all profiles if I intend to message and ok I still dont always get a reply but at least I know who I shouldn't message if I'm not right up there street what's the point t |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I tend to read most womens profiles but if it's just paragraph after paragraph of moans and gripes, I roll my eyes and come out of it.
Unfortunatley it is men that have made us do this.
In real life I am extremely laid back and friendly, it just is not practical on here as every man think you will fancy them and just hop into bed, and some get nasty when you say no."
Yeah I get that and dont mind a code word that needs to be put in a message but when your profile turns into a novel or it's just moaning about the creeps and weirdos on here, it's a bit much and off putting. If your fab profile is nothing but moaning, it doesnt give a very good outlook to your personality. Some men come on here to get away from moaning women in their lives....they dont need it on fab too!   |
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Always read profiles, it's there for a reason. The amount of messages we get with requests that are in our "won't do" bit is unbelievable.
Drives us up the wall, how hard is it to take a couple of minutes to read it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I read every profile that takes my eye. If I like someone I will message, usually with something in regards to something on their profile. Be it a witty comment about something or taking an interest.
They reply, they reply.
They don't, they don't.
I've been on here long enough to have messaged the women around my location I find attractive. I've found a couple of friends 
Now I've found myself lurking the forums, more for stimulating than to try and pull.
It's nice.
Men, and I was the same treat this place like the women are objects. Sad truth. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well I match what you are looking for on your profile and you still turned me down so you bio means nothing!
But don't worry, I reported you for time wasting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always read profiles - mainly to see if there's a bit of humour in it. I like humour
I need to redo mine. It really doesn't convey my wicked sense of humour "
Should see mine |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well I match what you are looking for on your profile and you still turned me down so you bio means nothing!
But don't worry, I reported you for time wasting "
This is very annoying. See so many girls saying they like built guys with tats and you send them a nice message only for them to read and delete. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well I match what you are looking for on your profile and you still turned me down so you bio means nothing!
But don't worry, I reported you for time wasting
This is very annoying. See so many girls saying they like built guys with tats and you send them a nice message only for them to read and delete. "
As a guy with no tattoos or six packs can I say
They still have morals, standards and a type.
Some women like personality. |
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"I always read profiles - mainly to see if there's a bit of humour in it. I like humour
I need to redo mine. It really doesn't convey my wicked sense of humour
Should see mine "
Yeah that made be laugh. I like a reasonably average pervert |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always read profiles - mainly to see if there's a bit of humour in it. I like humour
I need to redo mine. It really doesn't convey my wicked sense of humour
Should see mine
Yeah that made be laugh. I like a reasonably average pervert "
Why thank you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well I match what you are looking for on your profile and you still turned me down so you bio means nothing!
But don't worry, I reported you for time wasting
This is very annoying. See so many girls saying they like built guys with tats and you send them a nice message only for them to read and delete. "
I have listed my "type" theres thousands that fit it, doesnt mean I find the face appealing |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well I match what you are looking for on your profile and you still turned me down so you bio means nothing!
But don't worry, I reported you for time wasting
This is very annoying. See so many girls saying they like built guys with tats and you send them a nice message only for them to read and delete.
I have listed my "type" theres thousands that fit it, doesnt mean I find the face appealing "
Oh....Ouch! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Far be it from me to point out the logic deficit OP, ....
But if you delete without reading the message how can you know the sender hasn't read your profile
Me, I read the message received, not that I get many then, if something captures my eye, I'll go and read the profile. Perhaps it saves some false judgements and the occasional rant? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well I match what you are looking for on your profile and you still turned me down so you bio means nothing!
But don't worry, I reported you for time wasting
This is very annoying. See so many girls saying they like built guys with tats and you send them a nice message only for them to read and delete.
I have listed my "type" theres thousands that fit it, doesnt mean I find the face appealing
Oh....Ouch! "
Faces are important, dont be down though, you seem to be doing alright.
I have a thing for faces, bodies never really been too fussed over.
Unfortunately I look like a potato in a hat so it's rare I attract a pretty one.
Not moaning, tis the way. |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
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I get people telling me mine is too long. I have even put a tldr; at the top but they don't even read that.
If my profile is too long to read then they don't have the attention span needed for a BDSM based scene so not someone I'd be interested in anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Far be it from me to point out the logic deficit OP, ....
But if you delete without reading the message how can you know the sender hasn't read your profile
Me, I read the message received, not that I get many then, if something captures my eye, I'll go and read the profile. Perhaps it saves some false judgements and the occasional rant?"
Read my profile....you will get your answer |
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The way I do it is I read the message, if there’s anything interesting about it I go and read the profile, then I decide whether to reply or not based on the combination of message and profile. If I click on a profile, I read the whole thing.
As for my profile, I would prefer people to read it first and then decide whether we potentially match each other’s wants before messaging, but I guess you can spam 50 people with a copy and paste one liner in the time it takes to read my profile, so why bother? I can usually tell whether they’ve bothered or not without a code word anyway.
The thing that irritates me is when they think it’s too long, then feel the need to message me to tell me it’s too long. Like mate, if you can’t put a few minutes and a little effort into reading my profile, it doesn’t make me want to jump into bed with you in case you won’t put any time or effort into that either! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Far be it from me to point out the logic deficit OP, ....
But if you delete without reading the message how can you know the sender hasn't read your profile
Me, I read the message received, not that I get many then, if something captures my eye, I'll go and read the profile. Perhaps it saves some false judgements and the occasional rant?
Read my profile....you will get your answer "
I tried but it was so long my break was over before I finished lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Far be it from me to point out the logic deficit OP, ....
But if you delete without reading the message how can you know the sender hasn't read your profile
Me, I read the message received, not that I get many then, if something captures my eye, I'll go and read the profile. Perhaps it saves some false judgements and the occasional rant?
Read my profile....you will get your answer
I tried but it was so long my break was over before I finished lol "
Then alas, we are no match, I am worth far more than a lunchtime scroll |
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"I always read profiles - mainly to see if there's a bit of humour in it. I like humour
I need to redo mine. It really doesn't convey my wicked sense of humour "
Mention your skills in the kitchen  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well I match what you are looking for on your profile and you still turned me down so you bio means nothing!
But don't worry, I reported you for time wasting
This is very annoying. See so many girls saying they like built guys with tats and you send them a nice message only for them to read and delete.
I have listed my "type" theres thousands that fit it, doesnt mean I find the face appealing
Oh....Ouch!
Faces are important, dont be down though, you seem to be doing alright.
I have a thing for faces, bodies never really been too fussed over.
Unfortunately I look like a potato in a hat so it's rare I attract a pretty one.
Not moaning, tis the way. "
No, my pride has been shattered and I'm off to carve my ugly face up with a rusty knife |
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"I always read profiles - mainly to see if there's a bit of humour in it. I like humour
I need to redo mine. It really doesn't convey my wicked sense of humour
Mention your skills in the kitchen "
I have skills in other areas of the house too you know |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well I match what you are looking for on your profile and you still turned me down so you bio means nothing!
But don't worry, I reported you for time wasting
This is very annoying. See so many girls saying they like built guys with tats and you send them a nice message only for them to read and delete.
I have listed my "type" theres thousands that fit it, doesnt mean I find the face appealing
Oh....Ouch!
Faces are important, dont be down though, you seem to be doing alright.
I have a thing for faces, bodies never really been too fussed over.
Unfortunately I look like a potato in a hat so it's rare I attract a pretty one.
Not moaning, tis the way.
No, my pride has been shattered and I'm off to carve my ugly face up with a rusty knife"
I'll break up some tissue and scrunch it up in balls, for the blood |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How many of you do it.
It frustrates the life out of me, I have it stamped so big across my profile yet STILL only 30% actually do this.
You are just wasting my time and yours if you have not read as I just delete without opening the message.
If you cant read what I want, I cant read what you want.
Rant over "
did you know 67% of all statistics are inaccurate  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Far be it from me to point out the logic deficit OP, ....
But if you delete without reading the message how can you know the sender hasn't read your profile
Me, I read the message received, not that I get many then, if something captures my eye, I'll go and read the profile. Perhaps it saves some false judgements and the occasional rant?
Read my profile....you will get your answer
I tried but it was so long my break was over before I finished lol
Then alas, we are no match, I am worth far more than a lunchtime scroll"
I don't doubt that but to be honest I stopped at "white" and "taller than me"...so wasn't any need to continue right? That's proof that reading profiles do help figure out if you're likely to match or not. |
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"How many of you do it.
It frustrates the life out of me, I have it stamped so big across my profile yet STILL only 30% actually do this.
You are just wasting my time and yours if you have not read as I just delete without opening the message.
If you cant read what I want, I cant read what you want.
Rant over did you know 67% of all statistics are inaccurate "
Actually I think you’ll find that’s on accurate to a 80% confidence margin and scientifically irrelevant |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How many of you do it.
It frustrates the life out of me, I have it stamped so big across my profile yet STILL only 30% actually do this.
You are just wasting my time and yours if you have not read as I just delete without opening the message.
If you cant read what I want, I cant read what you want.
Rant over did you know 67% of all statistics are inaccurate "
Did you know 147% of statistics are exaggerated? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well I match what you are looking for on your profile and you still turned me down so you bio means nothing!
But don't worry, I reported you for time wasting
This is very annoying. See so many girls saying they like built guys with tats and you send them a nice message only for them to read and delete.
I have listed my "type" theres thousands that fit it, doesnt mean I find the face appealing
Oh....Ouch!
Faces are important, dont be down though, you seem to be doing alright.
I have a thing for faces, bodies never really been too fussed over.
Unfortunately I look like a potato in a hat so it's rare I attract a pretty one.
Not moaning, tis the way.
No, my pride has been shattered and I'm off to carve my ugly face up with a rusty knife
I'll break up some tissue and scrunch it up in balls, for the blood"
You're the best |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well I match what you are looking for on your profile and you still turned me down so you bio means nothing!
But don't worry, I reported you for time wasting
This is very annoying. See so many girls saying they like built guys with tats and you send them a nice message only for them to read and delete.
I have listed my "type" theres thousands that fit it, doesnt mean I find the face appealing
Oh....Ouch!
Faces are important, dont be down though, you seem to be doing alright.
I have a thing for faces, bodies never really been too fussed over.
Unfortunately I look like a potato in a hat so it's rare I attract a pretty one.
Not moaning, tis the way.
No, my pride has been shattered and I'm off to carve my ugly face up with a rusty knife
I'll break up some tissue and scrunch it up in balls, for the blood
You're the best"
I do my best |
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"How many of you do it.
It frustrates the life out of me, I have it stamped so big across my profile yet STILL only 30% actually do this.
You are just wasting my time and yours if you have not read as I just delete without opening the message.
If you cant read what I want, I cant read what you want.
Rant over did you know 67% of all statistics are inaccurate
Did you know 147% of statistics are exaggerated?"
87% of statistics are made up on the spot |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How many of you do it.
It frustrates the life out of me, I have it stamped so big across my profile yet STILL only 30% actually do this.
You are just wasting my time and yours if you have not read as I just delete without opening the message.
If you cant read what I want, I cant read what you want.
Rant over "
I 100% agree with you, it takes about 40 seconds to read mine and it would save them a wasted message as my profile is so clear what Im after.  |
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"How many of you do it.
It frustrates the life out of me, I have it stamped so big across my profile yet STILL only 30% actually do this.
You are just wasting my time and yours if you have not read as I just delete without opening the message.
If you cant read what I want, I cant read what you want.
Rant over "
I add another paragraph every time someone doesn't read it.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Far be it from me to point out the logic deficit OP, ....
But if you delete without reading the message how can you know the sender hasn't read your profile
Me, I read the message received, not that I get many then, if something captures my eye, I'll go and read the profile. Perhaps it saves some false judgements and the occasional rant?
Read my profile....you will get your answer
I tried but it was so long my break was over before I finished lol
Then alas, we are no match, I am worth far more than a lunchtime scroll
I don't doubt that but to be honest I stopped at "white" and "taller than me"...so wasn't any need to continue right? That's proof that reading profiles do help figure out if you're likely to match or not."
Well then yeh, it served its purpose, no need to continue |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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Every time I come across a profile that catches my eye I always read it carefully before sending any initial message that is not off the back of a forum thread.
If I don't fit their criteria I leave well enough alone. We can't please everyone after all. |
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"How many of you do it.
It frustrates the life out of me, I have it stamped so big across my profile yet STILL only 30% actually do this.
You are just wasting my time and yours if you have not read as I just delete without opening the message.
If you cant read what I want, I cant read what you want.
Rant over "
totally with you on this |
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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago
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"It depends - if it's someone I am just shooting the breeze with, with no intent of anything more, then I may not read the profile - if it's with a view to meeting (or that 'shooting the breeze' develops) then I'll read it in full and check there is potential compatability "
hmmm can u tell all that by s profile especially the comparability sometimes ppl surprise u
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We always read the profile of people we are interested in, compatibility is super important and reading the profile is the first step to finding that out. |
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