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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What would you do if you had to choose out of 2 options.
Option 1 - Stay as you are, comfortable but bored.
Option 2 - Take a massive risk that could change your life for the better - but you could fuck up your comfortable life.
Which would you choose?
Think hard - you could lose everything  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Option 1 unless option 2 was so compelling that realising the vision outweighed the risks. Losing everything is a massive risk for anyone to take though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What would you do if you had to choose out of 2 options.
Option 1 - Stay as you are, comfortable but bored.
Option 2 - Take a massive risk that could change your life for the better - but you could fuck up your comfortable life.
Which would you choose?
Think hard - you could lose everything "
i dont have a boring life so I'd take a massive risk   |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
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"What would you do if you had to choose out of 2 options.
Option 1 - Stay as you are, comfortable but bored.
Option 2 - Take a massive risk that could change your life for the better - but you could fuck up your comfortable life.
Which would you choose?
Think hard - you could lose everything "
If you asked me this a year or 2 ago it would be option 1 but now daughter has grown up and is quite settled I'd be sorely tempted with option 2  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Comfortable can be boring and I like to take risks so option B please. Also, if it goes tits up at least I'll be anything but bored when trying to piece my life back together  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Guck it number two would be thinking for the rest of my life what if and life’s always changing and is never comfortable for ever so grasp the nettle and pull |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"OP, which would you choose?"
I don't know - I'm torn 
I recently moved house - which is what I wanted.
I love my own space but I'm still bored and lonely.
It's just another location to sit in my pyjamas on my own in 
I have to change things before I eat and drink myself to death
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"What would you do if you had to choose out of 2 options.
Option 1 - Stay as you are, comfortable but bored.
Option 2 - Take a massive risk that could change your life for the better - but you could fuck up your comfortable life.
I would choose option 2 without Hesitation and if I didn’t work out then at least I can say I have tried, But on the other hand it might work out okay, it’s good to take risks sometimes
Which would you choose?
Think hard - you could lose everything "
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
Do a risk assessment on 2 first then decide if it’s worth the risk , but it sounds like a no brainier , option sounds like, to quote Roosevelt, a place “with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.” |
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"OP, which would you choose?
I don't know - I'm torn
I recently moved house - which is what I wanted.
I love my own space but I'm still bored and lonely.
It's just another location to sit in my pyjamas on my own in
I have to change things before I eat and drink myself to death
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Very little of my life is the same that it was 2 years ago. There are other avenues to help boredom. In a crazy delusional moment I joined a women's field hockey team recently. Why? I'm not really sure but I wanted something to do that would help me connect with myself as something other than mum, co-worker, daughter etc Apart from newly discovered shin splints, it was the best thing I've done for myself in ages.
I don't have a clue what you could see yourself doing but a leap of faith can sometimes work out really well. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"OP, which would you choose?
I don't know - I'm torn
I recently moved house - which is what I wanted.
I love my own space but I'm still bored and lonely.
It's just another location to sit in my pyjamas on my own in
I have to change things before I eat and drink myself to death
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Yup - new houses and places won’t bring true happiness , just another type of shopping. I just as just reading something about mental health and challenging work/projects and a network of friends seem to be the keys to good physical and mental health , depression is a much bigger killer than drinking and smoking so you sound like you do need to change things if you are doing all 3 of them
So what is your option 2 ? |
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"What would you do if you had to choose out of 2 options.
Option 1 - Stay as you are, comfortable but bored.
Option 2 - Take a massive risk that could change your life for the better - but you could fuck up your comfortable life.
Which would you choose?
Think hard - you could lose everything "
Without a doubt 2 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Easy because I’ve already done it, Number 2, without fail, every time! Yeah things went south but not forever and I’d like to think I’m a better person for it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"OP, which would you choose?
I don't know - I'm torn
I recently moved house - which is what I wanted.
I love my own space but I'm still bored and lonely.
It's just another location to sit in my pyjamas on my own in
I have to change things before I eat and drink myself to death
Yup - new houses and places won’t bring true happiness , just another type of shopping. I just as just reading something about mental health and challenging work/projects and a network of friends seem to be the keys to good physical and mental health , depression is a much bigger killer than drinking and smoking so you sound like you do need to change things if you are doing all 3 of them
So what is your option 2 ? "
You're so right.
I have no friends locally, I have a dead end job and don't work with anyone I want to socialise with and I dont have any close family.
I travelled for years so I dont feel like strapping a backpack on at my age - I dont know what I want.
Option 2 is quitting the shit job and seeing what happens
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Why does it have to be one or the other OP. You’ve just achieved something you wanted (moving house), why can’t you make some assessments of what you might like to change for the better in your life and set about achieving them, whilst maintaining your comfort levels. That way you can experiment with what works for you and what doesn’t without compromising everything all at once. |
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By *antrelWoman
over a year ago
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"Why does it have to be one or the other OP. You’ve just achieved something you wanted (moving house), why can’t you make some assessments of what you might like to change for the better in your life and set about achieving them, whilst maintaining your comfort levels. That way you can experiment with what works for you and what doesn’t without compromising everything all at once. "
This
I’d choose option 2 but I’m lucky to have amazing family and friends that would be there for me if it all went tits up. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"OP, which would you choose?
I don't know - I'm torn
I recently moved house - which is what I wanted.
I love my own space but I'm still bored and lonely.
It's just another location to sit in my pyjamas on my own in
I have to change things before I eat and drink myself to death
Yup - new houses and places won’t bring true happiness , just another type of shopping. I just as just reading something about mental health and challenging work/projects and a network of friends seem to be the keys to good physical and mental health , depression is a much bigger killer than drinking and smoking so you sound like you do need to change things if you are doing all 3 of them
So what is your option 2 ?
You're so right.
I have no friends locally, I have a dead end job and don't work with anyone I want to socialise with and I dont have any close family.
I travelled for years so I dont feel like strapping a backpack on at my age - I dont know what I want.
Option 2 is quitting the shit job and seeing what happens
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Cutting off your only income stream and leaving it to chance doesn’t seem like a good plan.
Very few people really know what they want, but it’s the journeying, adventure and finding out that counts. If you want some good friends , then start being a good friend, there are plenty of people in need of one - open your eyes ! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why does it have to be one or the other OP. You’ve just achieved something you wanted (moving house), why can’t you make some assessments of what you might like to change for the better in your life and set about achieving them, whilst maintaining your comfort levels. That way you can experiment with what works for you and what doesn’t without compromising everything all at once. "
I know you're right - but the irrational part of my brain wants to walk into work tomorrow and tell them to go fuck themselves 
The joy would be short lived obviously - but I'm sure most people feel this at some point.
Then I would like to get on a plane to India where all my friends are and not spend every day either at work or alone.
But annoyingly we all have to make reasonable and do - able decisions.
I'm incapable.
I can only repeat the same shit over and over.
I'm a lost cause- I feel like it's all or nothing! |
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"What would you do if you had to choose out of 2 options.
Option 1 - Stay as you are, comfortable but bored.
Option 2 - Take a massive risk that could change your life for the better - but you could fuck up your comfortable life.
Which would you choose?
Think hard - you could lose everything "
2, without a doubt.
A life with no regrets is a life half-lived. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"What would you do if you had to choose out of 2 options.
Option 1 - Stay as you are, comfortable but bored.
Option 2 - Take a massive risk that could change your life for the better - but you could fuck up your comfortable life.
Which would you choose?
Think hard - you could lose everything
2, without a doubt.
A life with no regrets is a life half-lived."
Sounds like a quote from strictly ballroom ? |
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Option 2. I've done it before and I'll do it again.
Yes, you could lose everything. I have lost everything before. I've fucked up in spectacular fashion and been convinced I have ruined my life.
Turns out life is a resilient fucker - it's a lot harder to ruin than you could possibly believe.
I'm 45 now, which is a bit old to try to start from scratch again, but if I needed to I know fully damn well I could. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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If it were a risk being in full possession of the facts to enable an assessment of that risk then Option 2 every time - have regretted not taking a chance far too many times to carry on not doing so any more |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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Once we sold our house in Essex & found one here in Wales I wound down a sole trader business for six months while we concentrated on packing, schools & all the other stuff.
By the time it was done & we were here & the workshop was ready we had zero income & next to zero left in the bank however no mortgage to worry about.
A year later I’m busier than I ever was in Essex & although I’ve had to drop my hourly rate a touch I’m still earning more here. In the early days though it was still “Is this going to work?” “Is there the work for me here?” “No we can’t put £30 in the car as it’ll leave us short with a car full of petrol we don’t need”.
It was worrying for a while but still the best thing we’ve ever done!
We’d say you need a plan, a vision of what you want, the self belief so you can make some tough calls to achieve it & just a smidgeon of luck helps too..
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"Professionally speaking, I’m on the verge of option 2. The risks are massive but something needs to change.
Mr"
Often the risks of not doing it are just as big in the long run. Humans are very adaptable once you get over initial paralysis and start moving. |
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"A life with no regrets is a life half-lived.
Sounds like a quote from strictly ballroom ? "
I've been trying to find the source of it for (literally) years! I'm sure I didn't invent it, but I love it. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"A life with no regrets is a life half-lived.
Sounds like a quote from strictly ballroom ?
I've been trying to find the source of it for (literally) years! I'm sure I didn't invent it, but I love it. "
It’s not.... it’s close, but different...keep searching
https://youtu.be/46keEUbWOIA
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Could you go for a holiday ? Then make your choice"
I cant afford a holiday at the moment - moving house took every penny I had.
But maybe a holiday from work in April.
X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Professionally speaking, I’m on the verge of option 2. The risks are massive but something needs to change.
Mr"
Yes this is exactly how I feel - what will you change? |
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"Why does it have to be one or the other OP. You’ve just achieved something you wanted (moving house), why can’t you make some assessments of what you might like to change for the better in your life and set about achieving them, whilst maintaining your comfort levels. That way you can experiment with what works for you and what doesn’t without compromising everything all at once.
I know you're right - but the irrational part of my brain wants to walk into work tomorrow and tell them to go fuck themselves
The joy would be short lived obviously - but I'm sure most people feel this at some point.
Then I would like to get on a plane to India where all my friends are and not spend every day either at work or alone.
But annoyingly we all have to make reasonable and do - able decisions.
I'm incapable.
I can only repeat the same shit over and over.
I'm a lost cause- I feel like it's all or nothing!"
A few things jump out from what you said:
1. You could do, as others have said, option 1 during the week and option 2 during the weekend. There are lots of people in a similar position to you and the social side here is quite active.
You can get a group of similar people from here and go to each other’s places on weekends so you can socialise, get slightly too d*unk and laugh with other people.
2. You probably need something to aim for to choose option 2. Going to live in India is possible, especially if you know people there. Going anywhere is possible but you need to figure out what.
The reason for this is it gives you something definite to fight for; at the moment you’re just frustrated and want “anything but this”. That’s not a cause that will keep you going through the tough times.
It shows when you said you want to walk into work and tell them to fuck off. If you do that (I know it’s just a fantasy but let’s allow your brain to run with it) it forces you to do something next. Right now you don’t know what next, that’s why you need to do the thing that forces it to happen.
Life is tough so be kind to yourself. Rather than beating yourself up because you’re not doing anything, think that you have realised something needs to change and you’re already on that journey. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Why does it have to be one or the other OP. You’ve just achieved something you wanted (moving house), why can’t you make some assessments of what you might like to change for the better in your life and set about achieving them, whilst maintaining your comfort levels. That way you can experiment with what works for you and what doesn’t without compromising everything all at once.
I know you're right - but the irrational part of my brain wants to walk into work tomorrow and tell them to go fuck themselves
The joy would be short lived obviously - but I'm sure most people feel this at some point.
Then I would like to get on a plane to India where all my friends are and not spend every day either at work or alone.
But annoyingly we all have to make reasonable and do - able decisions.
I'm incapable.
I can only repeat the same shit over and over.
I'm a lost cause- I feel like it's all or nothing!
A few things jump out from what you said:
1. You could do, as others have said, option 1 during the week and option 2 during the weekend. There are lots of people in a similar position to you and the social side here is quite active.
You can get a group of similar people from here and go to each other’s places on weekends so you can socialise, get slightly too d*unk and laugh with other people.
2. You probably need something to aim for to choose option 2. Going to live in India is possible, especially if you know people there. Going anywhere is possible but you need to figure out what.
The reason for this is it gives you something definite to fight for; at the moment you’re just frustrated and want “anything but this”. That’s not a cause that will keep you going through the tough times.
It shows when you said you want to walk into work and tell them to fuck off. If you do that (I know it’s just a fantasy but let’s allow your brain to run with it) it forces you to do something next. Right now you don’t know what next, that’s why you need to do the thing that forces it to happen.
Life is tough so be kind to yourself. Rather than beating yourself up because you’re not doing anything, think that you have realised something needs to change and you’re already on that journey."
Your so sensible Adam!
Can I just come and live with you please and you can organise it all for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'd say 2 too, but you need something that's going to interest of in place of the shit job. Would you go to college/uni? Learn something new, challenge yourself, meet new people and hopefully find a new career path you care about. Good luck whatever you go for x |
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I took option 2 was best thing I've done.
I had a comfortable job good money etc and left it for less money to start with but after probation more than was on. But was hard graft and if failed would of been left with nothing but got through and now a AFO in the police.
So yes comfy is good but sometimes you need to come out that zone for bigger and better. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Have you decided ? "
I'm looking for a new job.
Hopefully I'll meet some new people and feel better in my new home.
It takes time to get used to a place I haven't even been here 2 months yet.
I think I was expecting instant happiness- I'm looking in the wrong place for it.
I'm also debating on deleting Fab once and for all and maybe go for some vanilla dating
New things and all that |
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"Have you decided ?
I'm looking for a new job.
Hopefully I'll meet some new people and feel better in my new home.
It takes time to get used to a place I haven't even been here 2 months yet.
I think I was expecting instant happiness- I'm looking in the wrong place for it.
I'm also debating on deleting Fab once and for all and maybe go for some vanilla dating
New things and all that "
Good luck with it all x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Have you decided ?
I'm looking for a new job.
Hopefully I'll meet some new people and feel better in my new home.
It takes time to get used to a place I haven't even been here 2 months yet.
I think I was expecting instant happiness- I'm looking in the wrong place for it.
I'm also debating on deleting Fab once and for all and maybe go for some vanilla dating
New things and all that
Good luck with it all x"
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"What would you do if you had to choose out of 2 options.
Option 1 - Stay as you are, comfortable but bored.
Option 2 - Take a massive risk that could change your life for the better - but you could fuck up your comfortable life.
Which would you choose?
Think hard - you could lose everything "
It's not a possible question
Risk is vastly variable
If you suggest the risk is the roulette wheel on black or of any equivalence then I'm staying
However if at any point the risk is based upon my person performance be that my judgement then I'm taking the risk
Money where mouth is I'm hoping to do just that in near future |
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"What would you do if you had to choose out of 2 options.
Option 1 - Stay as you are, comfortable but bored.
Option 2 - Take a massive risk that could change your life for the better - but you could fuck up your comfortable life.
Which would you choose?
Think hard - you could lose everything "
If I really wasn't happy with option 1 I'd definitely go with option 2.
When you say "lose everything" what do you mean? Material things or your health/sanity?
Material things can be replaced .
I think life is too short to sit on your arse whinging about something that's in your power to change.
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