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So I have a female friend (site member) who's ready to start dating. She's tried the vanilla route, and it got us thinking if there were such a thing as 'fab dating'?
With all the vanilla usual stuff, but understanding where you both come from and having the swinging as part of your lives, with no awkward conversations....
Is this foolishness or would the idea have legs? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think there’s a lot of people that would quite happily meet someone on FAB, me include. As you say it takes away the awkwardness as you’re already more open minded on here. I do think you’d get a lot of guys (and women too) saying they’d like date but really they just want to get laid! |
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Of course, I know relationships aren’t built on sex but it’s a big part. If you match up that way I think it makes for a better relationship. This is why some people end up straying away, simply because there looking for something their not getting at home. So yes I think it would be a good idea |
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"I think there’s a lot of people that would quite happily meet someone on FAB, me include. As you say it takes away the awkwardness as you’re already more open minded on here. I do think you’d get a lot of guys (and women too) saying they’d like date but really they just want to get laid!"
That's obviously understandable, but from personal experience you get people like that on a vanilla dating site anyway. At least this way you have the chance of finding someone who's at least on the same level?
You have to vet/be careful with the people you date regardless, but at least everyone would be on the similar starting point.... Wouldn't you? |
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"I would date the right person from fab
The only problem is, everyone seems to have trouble finding someone local"
Would you only date someone local? Or would you consider travelling a bit further a field for a possibility of a more honest (and open) relationship? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would date the right person from fab
The only problem is, everyone seems to have trouble finding someone local
Do they have to be local long distance works aswell "
For me personally, yes local |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would date the right person from fab
The only problem is, everyone seems to have trouble finding someone local
Would you only date someone local? Or would you consider travelling a bit further a field for a possibility of a more honest (and open) relationship? "
Within reason. I dont mean local as in on the same street as me. The same county would be nice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would date the right person from fab
The only problem is, everyone seems to have trouble finding someone local
Do they have to be local long distance works aswell
For me personally, yes local"
I work long hours, dating someone pretty much local would appeal to me too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would date the right person from fab
The only problem is, everyone seems to have trouble finding someone local
Do they have to be local long distance works aswell
For me personally, yes local
I work long hours, dating someone pretty much local would appeal to me too. "
Yes I'm the same. With the hours and travelling that I do for work. Local would work so much better for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would date the right person from fab
The only problem is, everyone seems to have trouble finding someone local
Do they have to be local long distance works aswell
For me personally, yes local"
Yes local here too. When you have children it needs to be easy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think there’s a lot of people that would quite happily meet someone on FAB, me include. As you say it takes away the awkwardness as you’re already more open minded on here. I do think you’d get a lot of guys (and women too) saying they’d like date but really they just want to get laid!
That's obviously understandable, but from personal experience you get people like that on a vanilla dating site anyway. At least this way you have the chance of finding someone who's at least on the same level?
You have to vet/be careful with the people you date regardless, but at least everyone would be on the similar starting point.... Wouldn't you? "
Yes of course you do.
I have tried dating someone on here previously who said they were open to the lifestyle but in reality they wasn’t. I think until you step into this world as a couple you don’t know how you’ll feel about it, but I’d love to find someone who’s willing to test their boundaries and be open to it. |
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"Incredibly interesting reactions.
Seems as if locality would be the biggest hurdle.... "
Yeah local is best. I’d wanna see a lady regular and not have to worry about geography and getting to work on time the next day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Been off and on fab for 7 years now and in that time only tried vanilla dating once. Had an amazing evening hit it off straight away. One thing led to another and we ended up in bed. I’m a very honest person and the after sex the talk turned to our history. I told him about fab and swinging and he promptly got out of bed got dressed and left. Never felt so used in my life.
I will not enter into a relationship with anyone hiding who I am so I’ll stick to fab and what will be will be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Been off and on fab for 7 years now and in that time only tried vanilla dating once. Had an amazing evening hit it off straight away. One thing led to another and we ended up in bed. I’m a very honest person and the after sex the talk turned to our history. I told him about fab and swinging and he promptly got out of bed got dressed and left. Never felt so used in my life.
I will not enter into a relationship with anyone hiding who I am so I’ll stick to fab and what will be will be."
I agree with you here. Many people just don’t get the openness that swinging offers. There are fixed ideas in society that we should all conform to the norm which is such a shame... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I have a female friend (site member) who's ready to start dating. She's tried the vanilla route, and it got us thinking if there were such a thing as 'fab dating'?
With all the vanilla usual stuff, but understanding where you both come from and having the swinging as part of your lives, with no awkward conversations....
Is this foolishness or would the idea have legs? "
ok this internet domain is all things to all people so a date and dating is quite possible as for vanilla ice cream not sure what thats about, the people here are the people there, its the real world here or there    |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
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I would have no problem dating a fellow fabber.For me I would prefer to meet someone within a 20 mile radius from home as I feel long distance relationships are almost impossible to maintain. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would also be open to this. My view is fab is just another platform to meet people. People more on the same wavelength. If you click with someone and want more with that person does it matter how or where you met? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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A few years ago I was previously on fab and met a girl, eventually we ended up dating for 7 months. We had a good time and the openness was already there so it was a more honest relationship.
Meeting up on fab could be viewed as a different/alternative type of date/dating site and it’s bound to have created a few relationships.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Incredibly interesting reactions.
Seems as if locality would be the biggest hurdle.... "
For a relationship, yes. If I'm going to be seriously dating someone, I want it to be someone I can get together with regularly and on the spur of the moment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's like the dream for many a fab person. I would definitely give a fab relationship a go, as long as you are both in it for same thing then it could be an amazing thing. |
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"A few years ago I was previously on fab and met a girl, eventually we ended up dating for 7 months. We had a good time and the openness was already there so it was a more honest relationship.
Meeting up on fab could be viewed as a different/alternative type of date/dating site and it’s bound to have created a few relationships.
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And you make vodka so win win |
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"Chances of finding a match mentally and physically within a reasonable distance are very slim but at least there is fun to be had in meantime.
Maybe one day..."
We found it so definitely possible  |
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"I would date the right person from fab
The only problem is, everyone seems to have trouble finding someone local"
This! It seems 'fab law' that those you like or get on with are always so far away |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The problem with vanilla dating sites (in my experience anyway) is that the men can’t fuck like the ones on here! "
This but the women on dating sites can't fuck like the women on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The problem with vanilla dating sites (in my experience anyway) is that the men can’t fuck like the ones on here! "
Oh I assure you, there are thousands of men on vanilla sites who fuck like me, and hundreds of thousands who fuck better than me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A few years ago I was previously on fab and met a girl, eventually we ended up dating for 7 months. We had a good time and the openness was already there so it was a more honest relationship.
Meeting up on fab could be viewed as a different/alternative type of date/dating site and it’s bound to have created a few relationships.
And you make vodka so win win"
Next batch is ready tomorrow, then I start the next batch of gin on Tuesday. |
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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago
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"So I have a female friend (site member) who's ready to start dating. She's tried the vanilla route, and it got us thinking if there were such a thing as 'fab dating'?
With all the vanilla usual stuff, but understanding where you both come from and having the swinging as part of your lives, with no awkward conversations....
Is this foolishness or would the idea have legs? "
Sounds good to me. Just need to be upfront about it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I met my last partner off here. He was lovely.. Till he ghosted me just over 9m later. Had some lovely special moments n lovely playtime too. X
One day my 6ft rugby player fabster will drop on my door. If not I will stay single |
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It’s the only way I’ll do things now. If I like someone enough to have sex with them then I like them as a human being and enjoy their company. I’m leaning more towards the company and intimacy than anything else. |
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I couldn't 'date' someone from here who lived miles away, as it would be no different to how it already is now. They would need to be local.
I am however open to a swinging relationship with the right person, living together and suchlike. In that case distance isn't an issue as I could move home etc.
I'm tired today and hope that makes sense |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The problem with vanilla dating sites (in my experience anyway) is that the men can’t fuck like the ones on here! This but the women on dating sites can't fuck like the women on here. "
He he! Takes one to know one  |
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"A suggestion is to have a forum Dating section,. "
Something like that would be a good idea, or maybe the swipe system on other apps and sites. Would still get abused of course, but could make a nice addition to the site. Unfortunately not a lot has changed on here in the 7 years I’ve been a member. Lots of options these days that can be added to the site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think there’s a lot of people that would quite happily meet someone on FAB, me include. As you say it takes away the awkwardness as you’re already more open minded on here. I do think you’d get a lot of guys (and women too) saying they’d like date but really they just want to get laid!"
Well this guy isnt all about getting laid!! Personally,I think it's a great idea and maybe fab should all this as an option? At least we could search for the right person to compliment our own sexual needs!! |
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I found if you're on here and dating sites most men presume you're up for swinging on the dating sites, or just a fuck.
It's a nice idea though, but i think a lot of men have different expectations from a relationship than they do from a swinging site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There’s many ppl on here that would love that, myself included and I also think there’s been many threads on this before and even a few trying to get it stated ...... count me in  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I feel like I've met my perfect match.. But he might as well be on the moon
Richard Branson will sort you out with a Flight "
I think it would be easier! |
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I thought fab looked to set it up once before, but binned it, as all people have todo is put that they're happy to meet, but ideally looking to date a like-minded fabber and there are more fabbers on fab, than if they made a separate site.
I doubt many fabbers would tick a 'long-term only' tab and repel other short term meets. |
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It's not something I'm actively looking for, but I've always had an open mind and wouldn't dismiss the idea if I met someone that I clicked with - I think it's the only way I'd have another relationship as I wouldn't want to give this lifestyle up completely |
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"It's not something I'm actively looking for, but I've always had an open mind and wouldn't dismiss the idea if I met someone that I clicked with - I think it's the only way I'd have another relationship as I wouldn't want to give this lifestyle up completely"
That's exactly the situation I was in.
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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago
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"It's not something I'm actively looking for, but I've always had an open mind and wouldn't dismiss the idea if I met someone that I clicked with - I think it's the only way I'd have another relationship as I wouldn't want to give this lifestyle up completely
That's exactly the situation I was in.
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Me too and it’s working out great |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's my ideal to have a fab partner. Cant imagine fab not being a part of my life and not sure how I'd explain the loads of friends I've got. Does seem to be a needle in a haystack
And agreed distance is a general prob but anyone near Brighton who fits my profile come say hi |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I have a female friend (site member) who's ready to start dating. She's tried the vanilla route, and it got us thinking if there were such a thing as 'fab dating'?
With all the vanilla usual stuff, but understanding where you both come from and having the swinging as part of your lives, with no awkward conversations....
Is this foolishness or would the idea have legs? "
a meet is a date and people who date because they enjoy each others company over a period of time move onto relationships, everything is possible on this web site even omg 'lurve'  |
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It’s definitely possible. But I agree with the majority has to be local.
I met a brilliant fabber last year and had the best of both with dates, night caps, the cutesy messages and the utter filthy sessions - unfortunately distance and the change in my working hours have made it virtually impossible for us to see each other so we’ve parted on good terms. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd love a fab relationship like some of the couples I've met and chatted too over the years. The thing is I'm not seeing or getting that locally at all.
With that said I'd travel any distance and if the connection was there I'd no worries in moving to her location...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely yes I would, but a number of problems namely that ol chestnut of being 'too young' and the fact my job infrequently throws me from kne end of the country to the other doesn't help either... Ah well, plus I'm enjoying being single right now but who knows in the future, I hope something like this has come along by then |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I met a lady in here and we had a fantastic relationship for two years, everything was almost perfect. Unfortunately life took us in different directions but for me that’s what I really want again in a relationship |
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I’m definitely open to a genuine LTR - provided there’s lots of holding hands, kissing, being there for each other.....oh, and giggles, long walks on the beach sharing a bag of chips together, LOTS of romance, log fires, hot chocolate after long walks through the woods kicking the autumn leaves.....and falling asleep on each other’s arms, shutting off the world for a few hours and wanting to be with the One that you want to be with.....
Any takers, as I’m looking for a One LIFE Stand x |
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Definitely genuine here - and anyway, wouldn’t a Man who was serious about being in something, really want to be the Gentleman with his Lady and actually do all the genuinely proper things in dating - and even pay for their club thingy.
Or am I being just too romantic and Officer&Gentlemanly??? I’m just Me, I guess.... |
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For a normal monogamous relationship I don’t think guys on here would consider dating a woman from here. I don’t think they can get past the fact that a potential girlfriend had pictures of her boobs or fanny out in what is essential a sex site.
Although I would and have dated someone from here so for me where I met someone isn’t important. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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I’m not a swinger. I’m just a highly sexed (when i can be bothered) goddess of lurve.
I’d not date someone from here and then have a swinging relationship. If i met someone from here they should expect their cock to be taken off the open market.
If that’s a deal breaker then fine - but they don’t get me in all my joyous glory.
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I think the words “mutual exclusivity” come to mind for the relationship I’d want.
And anyway, if you’re a romantic-type, like me, I would only ever be thinking of my Partner anyway. Why would you be thinking about anyone else anyway - isn’t wanting to BE with your Partner what it’s all about? It would be for me - I mean, why would I want to romance anyone else??? |
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"For a normal monogamous relationship I don’t think guys on here would consider dating a woman from here. I don’t think they can get past the fact that a potential girlfriend had pictures of her boobs or fanny out in what is essential a sex site.
Although I would and have dated someone from here so for me where I met someone isn’t important. "
And that is exactly why I stay 100% dignified at all times. No boob/gash pics here |
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"For a normal monogamous relationship I don’t think guys on here would consider dating a woman from here. I don’t think they can get past the fact that a potential girlfriend had pictures of her boobs or fanny out in what is essential a sex site.
Although I would and have dated someone from here so for me where I met someone isn’t important. "
I wouldnt have a problem dating a woman from here |
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"I’m not a swinger. I’m just a highly sexed (when i can be bothered) goddess of lurve.
I’d not date someone from here and then have a swinging relationship. If i met someone from here they should expect their cock to be taken off the open market.
If that’s a deal breaker then fine - but they don’t get me in all my joyous glory.
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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Ditto.
There are many happy couples who met on Fab. Some have moved on and left the site, some have split (as do many couple who met through normal routes) and some have gotten married.
Cheekychops used to do many a dating thread a while back.
But is it necessary if you're up front about the possibility in your profile? There's no doubt that on any specific thread posted specifically about people being serious about looking for relationships there'd be people saying 'pick me' just to get a shag, same as they do on many other threads.
The best route? Find a regular meet/FWB/FB and just see how things progress with no expectancy. Exactly how dating works in the 'real world'. 
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"So I have a female friend (site member) who's ready to start dating. She's tried the vanilla route, and it got us thinking if there were such a thing as 'fab dating'?
With all the vanilla usual stuff, but understanding where you both come from and having the swinging as part of your lives, with no awkward conversations....
Is this foolishness or would the idea have legs? "
I know a married couple who met on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I have a female friend (site member) who's ready to start dating. She's tried the vanilla route, and it got us thinking if there were such a thing as 'fab dating'?
With all the vanilla usual stuff, but understanding where you both come from and having the swinging as part of your lives, with no awkward conversations....
Is this foolishness or would the idea have legs? "
I have met two men on here I’ve dated one for 4.5 years for serious but didn’t work
Another for a few months but distance fucked it . I think it’s a defo possibility |
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"I’m not a swinger. I’m just a highly sexed (when i can be bothered) goddess of lurve.
I’d not date someone from here and then have a swinging relationship. If i met someone from here they should expect their cock to be taken off the open market.
If that’s a deal breaker then fine - but they don’t get me in all my joyous glory.
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well said |
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"I’m not a swinger. I’m just a highly sexed (when i can be bothered) goddess of lurve.
I’d not date someone from here and then have a swinging relationship. If i met someone from here they should expect their cock to be taken off the open market.
If that’s a deal breaker then fine - but they don’t get me in all my joyous glory.
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Indeed! |
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"Definitely genuine here - and anyway, wouldn’t a Man who was serious about being in something, really want to be the Gentleman with his Lady and actually do all the genuinely proper things in dating - and even pay for their club thingy.
Or am I being just too romantic and Officer&Gentlemanly??? I’m just Me, I guess...."
Don't change who you are you'll meet your ideal lady in time... you'd be the chap I'd wanna be with but distance would be the stumbling block. |
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"Definitely genuine here - and anyway, wouldn’t a Man who was serious about being in something, really want to be the Gentleman with his Lady and actually do all the genuinely proper things in dating - and even pay for their club thingy.
Or am I being just too romantic and Officer&Gentlemanly??? I’m just Me, I guess....
Don't change who you are you'll meet your ideal lady in time... you'd be the chap I'd wanna be with but distance would be the stumbling block."
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