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over a year ago
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no one wants to talk to us in chat, i go in, say hi... nothing, i ask how everyone is.......nothing, i try to join in convos......nothing, whats all that about, if you see us in chat dont be frightened of talking to us, we wont ignore you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can't see why, it's usually us single blokes who type in white.......
Keep at it, it does take a while to get well known, just keep your noses to the grindstone and you will end up chatting to people........
One big piece of advise is to make sure you address your comments directly (lol georgeyporgey or hello georgeyporgey) if you don't it can be realy dificult to see who you are typing to.........Also, if some one comes in and says 'hello room' say hello back. I always do and even if it;s not acknowledged, you have made the effort.....
Hope it works out for you both..........
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"no one wants to talk to us in chat, i go in, say hi... nothing, i ask how everyone is.......nothing, i try to join in convos......nothing, whats all that about, if you see us in chat dont be frightened of talking to us, we wont ignore you"
Takes a while to be initiated in the rooms, most are just posers or guys wanking. Many clicky groups and most formed by past camshows, very odd place to be, lots never meet. Stick with the site if ur looking for real meets.  |
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"no one wants to talk to us in chat, i go in, say hi... nothing, i ask how everyone is.......nothing, i try to join in convos......nothing, whats all that about, if you see us in chat dont be frightened of talking to us, we wont ignore you
Takes a while to be initiated in the rooms, most are just posers or guys wanking. Many clicky groups and most formed by past camshows, very odd place to be, lots never meet. Stick with the site if ur looking for real meets. "
I disagree, lots meet (I have had far more meets from the chat rooms than from mails or the forums) and I have been to socials where there are a lot of chat room users, though I do agree that it takes time to become known as there are a lot of wank cams (of both sexes and of couples)...... |
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"no one wants to talk to us in chat, i go in, say hi... nothing, i ask how everyone is.......nothing, i try to join in convos......nothing, whats all that about, if you see us in chat dont be frightened of talking to us, we wont ignore you
Takes a while to be initiated in the rooms, most are just posers or guys wanking. Many clicky groups and most formed by past camshows, very odd place to be, lots never meet. Stick with the site if ur looking for real meets. "
Well got to say I don't reconise those chatrooms and I go in a few. And been in adult chatrooms for a few years now so I think I know a cliquey room when I see one.
And whats wrong with people not meeting? Is it compulsory? As long as people say that and don't mislead people its cool by me.
Don't confuse people knowing each other and talking to each other for 'a clique'. And don't expect instant recognition although courtesy is expected.
I rejoined here after a bad illness some weeks ago and was immediately accepted into chat and even remembered by a few. But then I don't talk 'at' people I talk 'with' and there is a difference. I also don't do the directing crap. Just find that having a laugh (at yourself sometimes) and joining in makes chatrooms a very good way to pass the time and get to know people. For what its worth I have only ever had one meet that wasn't initiated in a chatroom and that was by a recommendation. You find out a lot about what makes people tick, the SOH and how they are with others in a chatroom if you use it right.
But good luck to the OP on the site however they use it. |
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"no one wants to talk to us in chat, i go in, say hi... nothing, i ask how everyone is.......nothing, i try to join in convos......nothing, whats all that about, if you see us in chat dont be frightened of talking to us, we wont ignore you
Takes a while to be initiated in the rooms, most are just posers or guys wanking. Many clicky groups and most formed by past camshows, very odd place to be, lots never meet. Stick with the site if ur looking for real meets.
Well got to say I don't reconise those chatrooms and I go in a few. And been in adult chatrooms for a few years now so I think I know a cliquey room when I see one.
And whats wrong with people not meeting? Is it compulsory? As long as people say that and don't mislead people its cool by me.
Don't confuse people knowing each other and talking to each other for 'a clique'. And don't expect instant recognition although courtesy is expected.
I rejoined here after a bad illness some weeks ago and was immediately accepted into chat and even remembered by a few. But then I don't talk 'at' people I talk 'with' and there is a difference. I also don't do the directing crap. Just find that having a laugh (at yourself sometimes) and joining in makes chatrooms a very good way to pass the time and get to know people. For what its worth I have only ever had one meet that wasn't initiated in a chatroom and that was by a recommendation. You find out a lot about what makes people tick, the SOH and how they are with others in a chatroom if you use it right.
But good luck to the OP on the site however they use it."
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"no one wants to talk to us in chat, i go in, say hi... nothing, i ask how everyone is.......nothing, i try to join in convos......nothing, whats all that about, if you see us in chat dont be frightened of talking to us, we wont ignore you
Takes a while to be initiated in the rooms, most are just posers or guys wanking. Many clicky groups and most formed by past camshows, very odd place to be, lots never meet. Stick with the site if ur looking for real meets.
Well got to say I don't reconise those chatrooms and I go in a few. And been in adult chatrooms for a few years now so I think I know a cliquey room when I see one.
And whats wrong with people not meeting? Is it compulsory? As long as people say that and don't mislead people its cool by me.
Don't confuse people knowing each other and talking to each other for 'a clique'. And don't expect instant recognition although courtesy is expected.
I rejoined here after a bad illness some weeks ago and was immediately accepted into chat and even remembered by a few. But then I don't talk 'at' people I talk 'with' and there is a difference. I also don't do the directing crap. Just find that having a laugh (at yourself sometimes) and joining in makes chatrooms a very good way to pass the time and get to know people. For what its worth I have only ever had one meet that wasn't initiated in a chatroom and that was by a recommendation. You find out a lot about what makes people tick, the SOH and how they are with others in a chatroom if you use it right.
But good luck to the OP on the site however they use it."
A swinging site should be kept for swinging, chatrooms for people that would rather talk or cam should be on sites like Social Me. The snag here is, many like the excitement of sex but lots wont try swinging, soft swap was derived from fem or couple issues...ie, wants bi fem fun but cant handle sharing their partner. Swinging is about liberation and sharing, not personal gain and chatting nonsense. We dont often go in the rooms, we talk to prospective meets via phone...this proves wer genuine....with chatrooms/internet you can be who you want to be....then disappear.  |
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"Well got to say I don't reconise those chatrooms and I go in a few. And been in adult chatrooms for a few years now so I think I know a cliquey room when I see one.
And whats wrong with people not meeting? Is it compulsory? As long as people say that and don't mislead people its cool by me.
Don't confuse people knowing each other and talking to each other for 'a clique'. And don't expect instant recognition although courtesy is expected.
I rejoined here after a bad illness some weeks ago and was immediately accepted into chat and even remembered by a few. But then I don't talk 'at' people I talk 'with' and there is a difference. I also don't do the directing crap. Just find that having a laugh (at yourself sometimes) and joining in makes chatrooms a very good way to pass the time and get to know people. For what its worth I have only ever had one meet that wasn't initiated in a chatroom and that was by a recommendation. You find out a lot about what makes people tick, the SOH and how they are with others in a chatroom if you use it right.
But good luck to the OP on the site however they use it.
A swinging site should be kept for swinging, chatrooms for people that would rather talk or cam should be on sites like Social Me. The snag here is, many like the excitement of sex but lots wont try swinging, soft swap was derived from fem or couple issues...ie, wants bi fem fun but cant handle sharing their partner. Swinging is about liberation and sharing, not personal gain and chatting nonsense. We dont often go in the rooms, we talk to prospective meets via phone...this proves wer genuine....with chatrooms/internet you can be who you want to be....then disappear. "
Have to say I find it a bit lame to quote me and yet not appear to read what was written?
OK sorry but I can't let that go: So if a swinging site is only for swinging where do chatrooms inhibit this? And Chatrooms have no part to play? Well I think you kill your own argument.
Chatrooms on Swing sites are not JUST for people who would rather cam or chat but cater for those who wish to chat and cam as PART of their Swinging lifestyle. Their choice!
As I said (and you quote): What is wrong with someone just wishing to chat with Swingers and not actually meet for whatever reason? Your comment smacks of the very cliqueyness the OP was complaining about of chatrooms. None at all and their choice!
I find your rather nasty dig at Soft Swap highly offensive as they have as much right to choose HOW they swing as WITH WHOM they Swing. Full swap is not compulsory (unless you take the hardened swingers view of course). Its their choice!
I do agree that Swinging is about liberation and sharing. Its also about a lot of other things as well but I fail to see the connection to 'personal gain' and why chatting is 'nonsense'. Its their choice!
And there we have it... You don't actually go into the rooms often yet you would have us believe you know enough to make some pretty nasty criticisms?
You then say you talk to prospective meets via phone. Great. But how do you get their phone number? Emails presumably? I get mine via a chatroom. Simples! And its my choice!
And finally you damn chatrooms and the whole internet (Swing sites included no doubt) because 'you...then disappear'. So that will include yourself as well as all of us then. |
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"no one wants to talk to us in chat, i go in, say hi... nothing, i ask how everyone is.......nothing, i try to join in convos......nothing, whats all that about, if you see us in chat dont be frightened of talking to us, we wont ignore you
Takes a while to be initiated in the rooms, most are just posers or guys wanking. Many clicky groups and most formed by past camshows, very odd place to be, lots never meet. Stick with the site if ur looking for real meets.
Well got to say I don't reconise those chatrooms and I go in a few. And been in adult chatrooms for a few years now so I think I know a cliquey room when I see one.
And whats wrong with people not meeting? Is it compulsory? As long as people say that and don't mislead people its cool by me.
Don't confuse people knowing each other and talking to each other for 'a clique'. And don't expect instant recognition although courtesy is expected.
I rejoined here after a bad illness some weeks ago and was immediately accepted into chat and even remembered by a few. But then I don't talk 'at' people I talk 'with' and there is a difference. I also don't do the directing crap. Just find that having a laugh (at yourself sometimes) and joining in makes chatrooms a very good way to pass the time and get to know people. For what its worth I have only ever had one meet that wasn't initiated in a chatroom and that was by a recommendation. You find out a lot about what makes people tick, the SOH and how they are with others in a chatroom if you use it right.
But good luck to the OP on the site however they use it.
A swinging site should be kept for swinging, chatrooms for people that would rather talk or cam should be on sites like Social Me. The snag here is, many like the excitement of sex but lots wont try swinging, soft swap was derived from fem or couple issues...ie, wants bi fem fun but cant handle sharing their partner. Swinging is about liberation and sharing, not personal gain and chatting nonsense. We dont often go in the rooms, we talk to prospective meets via phone...this proves wer genuine....with chatrooms/internet you can be who you want to be....then disappear. "
Ahhh so i have been doing it wrong all this time...getting meets from chat, bugger but hey thanks for letting me know.
Suppose the party i am going to this weekend is a waste of time too, and the previous ones i attended were figments of my imagination...
Thanks for letting me know that your way is the only way to swing  |
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"Well got to say I don't reconise those chatrooms and I go in a few. And been in adult chatrooms for a few years now so I think I know a cliquey room when I see one.
And whats wrong with people not meeting? Is it compulsory? As long as people say that and don't mislead people its cool by me.
Don't confuse people knowing each other and talking to each other for 'a clique'. And don't expect instant recognition although courtesy is expected.
I rejoined here after a bad illness some weeks ago and was immediately accepted into chat and even remembered by a few. But then I don't talk 'at' people I talk 'with' and there is a difference. I also don't do the directing crap. Just find that having a laugh (at yourself sometimes) and joining in makes chatrooms a very good way to pass the time and get to know people. For what its worth I have only ever had one meet that wasn't initiated in a chatroom and that was by a recommendation. You find out a lot about what makes people tick, the SOH and how they are with others in a chatroom if you use it right.
But good luck to the OP on the site however they use it.
A swinging site should be kept for swinging, chatrooms for people that would rather talk or cam should be on sites like Social Me. The snag here is, many like the excitement of sex but lots wont try swinging, soft swap was derived from fem or couple issues...ie, wants bi fem fun but cant handle sharing their partner. Swinging is about liberation and sharing, not personal gain and chatting nonsense. We dont often go in the rooms, we talk to prospective meets via phone...this proves wer genuine....with chatrooms/internet you can be who you want to be....then disappear.
Have to say I find it a bit lame to quote me and yet not appear to read what was written?
OK sorry but I can't let that go: So if a swinging site is only for swinging where do chatrooms inhibit this? And Chatrooms have no part to play? Well I think you kill your own argument.
Chatrooms on Swing sites are not JUST for people who would rather cam or chat but cater for those who wish to chat and cam as PART of their Swinging lifestyle. Their choice!
As I said (and you quote): What is wrong with someone just wishing to chat with Swingers and not actually meet for whatever reason? Your comment smacks of the very cliqueyness the OP was complaining about of chatrooms. None at all and their choice!
I find your rather nasty dig at Soft Swap highly offensive as they have as much right to choose HOW they swing as WITH WHOM they Swing. Full swap is not compulsory (unless you take the hardened swingers view of course). Its their choice!
I do agree that Swinging is about liberation and sharing. Its also about a lot of other things as well but I fail to see the connection to 'personal gain' and why chatting is 'nonsense'. Its their choice!
And there we have it... You don't actually go into the rooms often yet you would have us believe you know enough to make some pretty nasty criticisms?
You then say you talk to prospective meets via phone. Great. But how do you get their phone number? Emails presumably? I get mine via a chatroom. Simples! And its my choice!
And finally you damn chatrooms and the whole internet (Swing sites included no doubt) because 'you...then disappear'. So that will include yourself as well as all of us then."
i know which of the above comes across as open minded, intelligent and worth meeting |
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We've been on Fab a little over 3 years, and never got a meet from the forums, however we are regulars in the chatrooms and at socials where we CHAT, and I think we do quite well on the meets front!!!  |
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"it's not down to getting known in the rooms, i'v been on here since fab started in 06 and have been constantly in chat over the years"
ok, dont take this the wrong way, but i have seen u in chat, you pop in, often spam looking for a meet and leave...it doesnt encourage ppl to talk to you...
Treat chat rooms like the local pub, first find the one that suits you best, then make an effort to go in regularly at the same(ish)time of day so ppl get to know u.
Dont expect to be welcomed as a long lost friend instantly. What others call cliques are actually no different to a bunch of regulars at the bar... |
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"Treat chat rooms like the local pub, first find the one that suits you best, then make an effort to go in regularly at the same(ish)time of day so ppl get to know u.
Dont expect to be welcomed as a long lost friend instantly. What others call cliques are actually no different to a bunch of regulars at the bar..."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"believe me jemima i have tried for a long time so now i just go in say hello and punt for a meet, if nothing i go to another room"
But that might well be the problem....... Saying hello and then asking for a meet is what EVERYONE does...... As you know, there are lots of people who do that...... The comment about chat being like the local pub is exactly right, you can't expect to be well known if you go in, say hello and then piss off.......
I am not having a go here, but I know I am right because I am well known, have got meets and, frankly, I am nothing special.......
That having been said, the new chat rooms are a different kettle of fish to the old ones and, having been away for around 2 months, I am largely back to square one, but because I chatted freely in the past it's easier to get back in with people.....
my 2p, take it or leave it..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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i used to frequent the chat rooms when i fisrt came on fab ,was hard at first been accepted into the clique ,yes cliques are everywhere but once u get there you get spoken to,but been away for a few months just gone on our joint profile a few knew who i were some didnt but had to giggle was blockd by someone as soon as i said hi....was funny ,got to love fab...didnt know the profile who blocked us ,that bloody impulse didnt work well this morning |
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