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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
Sutton |
Modern kink is about making your own dynamic, there are no rules on the form of relationships or what people call it. However, Old School purists may say it is more a top and bottom situation rather than dom and sub. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Definitely they can if all are in agreement - as others have said there is no "right way" only "your way" and so long as that comes from a position of informed-ness and all are consenting then it can be whatever you (and those who agree with you) want it to be. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Definitely they can if all are in agreement - as others have said there is no "right way" only "your way" and so long as that comes from a position of informed-ness and all are consenting then it can be whatever you (and those who agree with you) want it to be."
I agree.
As with so many things in life, people will try to tell you that their way of doing things is 'the right way'. So long as everyone involved is happy, then it really doesn't matter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I personally, have no interest in another Dom. For me, it was never about seeking a Dom, but a progression, it’s the man that makes the dynamics for me.
He has other subs, I have to accept that.
I’m happily, and fully informed, about being owned by him. Have been for two years.
Prior to that, I was a Domme in a relationship. Never actually thought of myself as a sub, he made me want to be his, and I love being his xx |
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Yes, with carefully constructed rules and boundaries for all parties considered and committed communication at the forefront of each relationship.
It's similar to my poly relationship lifestyle. You can love and commit to more than one person  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is it acceptable for a sub to have more than one dom?
No, totally unacceptable. I'd dom the other dom out of existence.
I'd Dom his arse out of my dominion.."
I'm gonna cuff you round the ear soon! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ive had 2 Doms at the same time in the past, it became very difficult. Especially regarding rules, tasks etc.
Example, both may want me to wear different clothes on the dame day. One might not allow me to have prgasms whilst the other may want me to play and cum.
I really believe in only one Dom now at a time. They can also be very territorial, not wanting to share their sub.
The fantasy is having 2 Doms that are close friends and operate as one. That's the dream and exists only in my erotic D/s books I read lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it acceptable for a sub to have more than one dom? "
Depends on you, your dom, and your relationship. Everyone's different so there's never going to be one "right" answer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ive had 2 Doms at the same time in the past, it became very difficult. Especially regarding rules, tasks etc.
Example, both may want me to wear different clothes on the dame day. One might not allow me to have prgasms whilst the other may want me to play and cum.
I really believe in only one Dom now at a time. They can also be very territorial, not wanting to share their sub.
The fantasy is having 2 Doms that are close friends and operate as one. That's the dream and exists only in my erotic D/s books I read lol"
I agree, more of erotic fiction rather than reality. In fact I may have read that book... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Define what you mean by Dom/me
If that definition includes control over most aspects of your life then obviously the answer is no as pointed out above.
If your talking "Fab Dom" then absolutely"
I haven’t got a clue but I thought it was Dom man and Domme woman, but fuck knows  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Define what you mean by Dom/me
If that definition includes control over most aspects of your life then obviously the answer is no as pointed out above.
If your talking "Fab Dom" then absolutely"
The definition of the relationship and agreed dynamic for the individuals involved is the crux of it for sure - but it's not defined by one of those individuals but by both.
Doesn't matter whether it's "Fab Dom" or a committed BDSM player - it still comes down to communication and agreement of all concerned and how *they* define their roles within that relationship |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I suppose if one is merely for "playtime" and respects the rules and boundaries of the "number 1 dom"? Otherwise how would you know which one to adhere to kinda thing? Unless you ALL sat down and agreed a group dynamic that worked for everyone involved. Like group rules rather than rules defined by each "couple"
Like with us, if one of us was to meet someone else alone, our rules and boundaries would need to be adhered to. WE are our priority.
I guess if you can find people who are prepared to be equals then yeah, if not invariably i would imagine someone will feel less important than the other.
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"I suppose if one is merely for "playtime" and respects the rules and boundaries of the "number 1 dom"? Otherwise how would you know which one to adhere to kinda thing? Unless you ALL sat down and agreed a group dynamic that worked for everyone involved. Like group rules rather than rules defined by each "couple"
Like with us, if one of us was to meet someone else alone, our rules and boundaries would need to be adhered to. WE are our priority.
I guess if you can find people who are prepared to be equals then yeah, if not invariably i would imagine someone will feel less important than the other.
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If it works for all concerned then why not. Dom(me)s may focus on different areas so the sub may need/require more than one to cover different scenarios. Plus part -time dom(me)s may not be able to attend to the sub at a given time |
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