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Why do men love to spank women so much during sex these days (oh and I’m not saying it’s a bad thing, during the right moment it can be very hot) but I genuinely can’t remember the last time I was in doggy that I didn’t get spanked haha.
Literally every guy goes for a hard spank! |
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over a year ago
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"Why do men love to spank women so much during sex these days (oh and I’m not saying it’s a bad thing, during the right moment it can be very hot) but I genuinely can’t remember the last time I was in doggy that I didn’t get spanked haha.
Literally every guy goes for a hard spank!"
Porn has a lot to do with it I think ... |
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"Why do men love to spank women so much during sex these days (oh and I’m not saying it’s a bad thing, during the right moment it can be very hot) but I genuinely can’t remember the last time I was in doggy that I didn’t get spanked haha.
Literally every guy goes for a hard spank!
Porn has a lot to do with it I think ... "
Spot on...in the porn industry it seems to be the norm....it’s not for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's really not that new. There are hieroglyphs and paintings that go back thousands of years depicting it. Even the brothel in pompeii has pictures of it. |
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"Why do men love to spank women so much during sex these days (oh and I’m not saying it’s a bad thing, during the right moment it can be very hot) but I genuinely can’t remember the last time I was in doggy that I didn’t get spanked haha.
Literally every guy goes for a hard spank!"
Hate to use this term, but "not every guy". Sorry.
The idea would never occur to me. Am I weird or something? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I love it, however guidelines of things like spanking, submission and restraint would be discussed prior to sex so they would know what's allowed. If a guy spanked me without knowing it's what I like I wouldn't be impressed.
But then maybe it's because I dont have casual sex so the guys know what floats my boat before we hey to the bedroom |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Why do men love to spank women so much during sex these days (oh and I’m not saying it’s a bad thing, during the right moment it can be very hot) but I genuinely can’t remember the last time I was in doggy that I didn’t get spanked haha.
Literally every guy goes for a hard spank!
Hate to use this term, but "not every guy". Sorry.
The idea would never occur to me. Am I weird or something?"
Not at all - I wouldn't dream of doing so unless it had been discussed and agreed to beforehand or was asked for in the heat of the moment.
I enjoy spanking (both ways) but it's not something you just "do" unasked.
I think porn does play it's part, but equally *some* men sadly still have a very skewed idea of what mutual pleasure is about and I think it's heightened on sites like this where "sex site" seems to mean to some "no inhibitions - I can do what I like" |
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"Why do men love to spank women so much during sex these days (oh and I’m not saying it’s a bad thing, during the right moment it can be very hot) but I genuinely can’t remember the last time I was in doggy that I didn’t get spanked haha.
Literally every guy goes for a hard spank!
Porn has a lot to do with it I think ... "
This...
Only time I like a slap on the arse is when Mr arrives home from work and follows it with a feel of my arse and a cuddle. |
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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago
Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands |
All spanking sessions I am involved are pre-arranged and are fully consensual.
For the purpose of safety I use the traffic light system.
If the recipent says Green it means step it up a bit.
If she says amber it mean that is about the right level
If she says Red I stop immediately. Stop means Stop no ifs or buts.
Have been giving spankings to females for over 30 years with no issues. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its ass hypn*tism. You see those checks bouncing and you just have to give them a little spank.
Hopefully you control your urges and you ascertain if it's welcome first  "
Of course.  |
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
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I think this is the first time Geminiman and I have disagreed.
I think porn follows and publicises trends. However because it puts matters in the public view I think, those against porn and a few individuals who think anything on the screen is true, both mistakenly believe porn legitimizes acts.
People did not start having sex because porn films were released, they were having sex before porn.
In the same way people were spanking ass before it was in porn.
If you read social histories and the chapters in sex people don't need porn to influence them. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"I think this is the first time Geminiman and I have disagreed.
I think porn follows and publicises trends. However because it puts matters in the public view I think, those against porn and a few individuals who think anything on the screen is true, both mistakenly believe porn legitimizes acts.
People did not start having sex because porn films were released, they were having sex before porn.
In the same way people were spanking ass before it was in porn.
If you read social histories and the chapters in sex people don't need porn to influence them."
Oh we don't disagree my friend - rather look at it from slightly different angles - the influence of porn is that it brings things like spanking into a more mainstream area and as such makes it appear accepted, and to a degree expected, by all, so people think it's the "norm" because they see it happen regularly in porn and therefore feel it's ok to apply it to their own sex life without discussion.
Yes spanking and sex itself have been around for a long time before the internet or even organised pornography but it's pornography that to an extent influences trends in what is acceptable or normal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have in the past spanked an ass when bent over in front of me bit only with a woman that I know liked it I'd be more likely to grab hold of your hips and pull you towards me as I thrust in or grab hair |
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Personally when the mood is right I do love a good hard slap on my arse! My point is, it seems very common.
I guess spanking is like the exclamation point of sex. It grounds you, it declares the mans presence. It pulls me out of the pre-orgasm fog, so I find it erotic. So, occasionally, men spank out of a desire to connect with their partner mid-sex I think. Others because they’ve seen it in porn! |
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over a year ago
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I hate being spanked personally, have never done it to another person either. I always make it very clear it's not my thing and play would stop immediately if someone done it to me |
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I absolutely love it!!
For us (if we're NOT having a bdsm session) the speaking is just a way to release all of the passion.
It's hard to describe but like when you're so horny and they're so sexy and you just have to dive on them and rip their clothes off (with consent of course) and have a good hard fuck. We get like that mid sex and it just builds to spanking and hair pulling.
Never with anyone else and people definitely shouldn't be giving a full on smack. It's just meant to be a little sharp sting. |
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over a year ago
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I think some women allow men to do it by way of adding what they perceive to be excitement
I will never understand why a man wants to administer something so hard that will leave potential bruising and pass it off as giving pleasure |
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"Why do men love to spank women so much during sex these days (oh and I’m not saying it’s a bad thing, during the right moment it can be very hot) but I genuinely can’t remember the last time I was in doggy that I didn’t get spanked haha.
Literally every guy goes for a hard spank!"
Because we think women crave it. It's quite annoying actually. I'm sick of rough sex, but it's all I ever hear. "Fuck me hard", etc. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I think some women allow men to do it by way of adding what they perceive to be excitement
I will never understand why a man wants to administer something so hard that will leave potential bruising and pass it off as giving pleasure "
There's two strands to that though - spanking without prior warning or discussion/agreement or without encouragement to do so - I agree with you 100%
Spanking having discussed it beforehand and agreed it's mutually acceptable and pleasurable, or even in the heat of the moment if encouraged to do so, is completely different.
Ultimately if it's something both people enjoy and agree to do then there's nothing wrong with it at all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you have been spanked and it wasn’t pleasurable for you then it wasn’t done right.
There’s so much more to a mutually enjoyable spanking session than just walloping someone on the rump.
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"If you have been spanked and it wasn’t pleasurable for you then it wasn’t done right.
There’s so much more to a mutually enjoyable spanking session than just walloping someone on the rump.
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This actually isn't true. Not everyone is turned on by being spanked.  |
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"If you have been spanked and it wasn’t pleasurable for you then it wasn’t done right.
There’s so much more to a mutually enjoyable spanking session than just walloping someone on the rump.
This actually isn't true. Not everyone is turned on by being spanked. "
Nah usually does nothing for me. |
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"If you have been spanked and it wasn’t pleasurable for you then it wasn’t done right.
There’s so much more to a mutually enjoyable spanking session than just walloping someone on the rump.
This actually isn't true. Not everyone is turned on by being spanked. "
This! |
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I do not like being spanked - it is an instant mood killer for me and will probably put a stop to any sex. I prefer a drag of nails down my back or the prick of a pin wheel. I do, however, enjoy giving a spanking - with someone who has said they like it and gives consent  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I love being spanked during sex or anytime.
Maybe they think its a decent looking bum and want to leave a lovely hand print lol  "
Ditto... But men need to lead up to a hard spanking, not go hell for leather. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love being spanked and it has nothing to do with porn.
It adds a bit of fun in the bedroom but if I’m chained to a wall, tied to a cross or restrained on the bed, it makes me seriously horny |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I do not like being spanked - it is an instant mood killer for me and will probably put a stop to any sex. I prefer a drag of nails down my back or the prick of a pin wheel. I do, however, enjoy giving a spanking - with someone who has said they like it and gives consent "
Hi Jo
Just kidding. I have no idea if I'd get the same feelings if I were to be spanked by a woman  |
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By *ayRosesWoman
over a year ago
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It may not be new, but when I was last single (pre internet porn), not one single guy slapped my ass, pulled my hair or put his hands around my neck during sex.
This time round, not one guy hasn't done at least one of the three, all without asking. And that's guys I've met on here, as well as other places. Rough(er) sex seems to have been normalised and just what you do. |
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"I do not like being spanked - it is an instant mood killer for me and will probably put a stop to any sex. I prefer a drag of nails down my back or the prick of a pin wheel. I do, however, enjoy giving a spanking - with someone who has said they like it and gives consent
Hi Jo
Just kidding. I have no idea if I'd get the same feelings if I were to be spanked by a woman "
Want to try? |
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By *otrockWoman
over a year ago
Essex |
I do love a good spanking, especially with a belt...
It's got to be done right thou, build it up slowly getting harder and harder till I'm begging for it to stop but you just carry on because I deserve to be spanked for being a naughty girl and saying stop.. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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I'll admit that the lust can really get hold of me in the moment and the instinct is to use that palm but I won't unless the person has made it clear she enjoys it and wants it. If I don't know I don't do it. Doesn't stop me from having a handful of a nice bum though. There's just something savagely primal about doggy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'll admit that the lust can really get hold of me in the moment and the instinct is to use that palm but I won't unless the person has made it clear she enjoys it and wants it. If I don't know I don't do it. Doesn't stop me from having a handful of a nice bum though. There's just something savagely primal about doggy "
What is it about lust that makes you want to strike someone? |
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