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"You look good for your age."
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Does this sound like a backhanded compliment to you? It always has the subtext in my mind of "you're old" and "I bet you looked a lot better 20 years ago" even though it's probably meant as a compliment.
We're certainly guilty of seeing people and thinking they look amazing for their age but we wouldn't dream of actually saying that to them.
I (Luke) would say somebody looks good without referencing their age. If somebody looks good, they look good, and that's it. Only if they bring up their age disparagingly might I say something like "Somebody 20 years younger would do well to look as good as you".
Have you ever said or been told "You look good for your age"? What fo you think of the statement? |
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By *ussD1Man
over a year ago
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"Does this sound like a backhanded compliment to you? It always has the subtext in my mind of "you're old" and "I bet you looked a lot better 20 years ago" even though it's probably meant as a compliment.
We're certainly guilty of seeing people and thinking they look amazing for their age but we wouldn't dream of actually saying that to them.
I (Luke) would say somebody looks good without referencing their age. If somebody looks good, they look good, and that's it. Only if they bring up their age disparagingly might I say something like "Somebody 20 years younger would do well to look as good as you".
Have you ever said or been told "You look good for your age"? What fo you think of the statement? "
If you look good you look good. The age has nothing to do with it. TBH as I’ve got older I’ve become more secure in my skin, I also find someone who believes themselves to be sexy to be a real turn on; body shape and age doesn’t feature as much as it did when younger. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've just turned 40, I get told I look young for my age. But I dont see it as a back handed compliment, It hives me a little boost if anything, makes me smile. Doesnt make me big headed or anything but i take it as a compliment |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve been told this numerous times. Someone even popped it into a verification recently.
I take it as a compliment, don’t feel or act like a stereotypical middle aged woman. I’m extremely comfortable in my own skin  |
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Only last night we were laughing about this. Nobody tells a 30 year old they look good for their age.
Its the idea that it's a surprise that you manage to look anywhere near presentable after 50 that makes me go  . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does this sound like a backhanded compliment to you? It always has the subtext in my mind of "you're old" and "I bet you looked a lot better 20 years ago" even though it's probably meant as a compliment.
We're certainly guilty of seeing people and thinking they look amazing for their age but we wouldn't dream of actually saying that to them.
I (Luke) would say somebody looks good without referencing their age. If somebody looks good, they look good, and that's it. Only if they bring up their age disparagingly might I say something like "Somebody 20 years younger would do well to look as good as you".
Have you ever said or been told "You look good for your age"? What fo you think of the statement? "
a compliment is a compliment its meant in a positive way...... take it as such...... thats what I do   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yup. Got this a day or so ago. ‘Hats off to you - you look amazing for your age- I’d never thought of having a partner my own age before’ . The last bit is the Freudian glimpse to his psyche. |
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"I get told this! How am I supposed to look I wonder?
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I don't think you are supposed to look differently. I think you are just supposed to be a different age. I mean, come on. You're 45. Sort yourself out, girl! |
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"Does this sound like a backhanded compliment to you? It always has the subtext in my mind of "you're old" and "I bet you looked a lot better 20 years ago" even though it's probably meant as a compliment.
We're certainly guilty of seeing people and thinking they look amazing for their age but we wouldn't dream of actually saying that to them.
I (Luke) would say somebody looks good without referencing their age. If somebody looks good, they look good, and that's it. Only if they bring up their age disparagingly might I say something like "Somebody 20 years younger would do well to look as good as you".
Have you ever said or been told "You look good for your age"? What fo you think of the statement? "
Life's short and full of to many negative grumpy people so I'd happily take it as it was meant, smile and say thank you..
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
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Take it as a compliment that’s what it is, I don’t find it offensive at all, you wouldn’t be happy if they said wow your old? Thought you were much older than that, you must have had a large paper round ... just saying |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some of us over 50 look like we've been through the headge in all directions.
But how are we supposed to give a compliment to ladies.
What ever we say or do is wrong. |
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"Some of us over 50 look like we've been through the headge in all directions.
But how are we supposed to give a compliment to ladies.
What ever we say or do is wrong."
That's not true, a sincere compliment at the right time usually goes down well
It's the false ones where they know you're only trying to get in their knickers that are wrong |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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Although people mean it well, it's an empty compliment. Dismissive to the person and boringly puts the emphasis on looks.
My ego is secretly stroked by it but mostly I see it for what it is .. a shallow gesture.
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When it comes down to it I think we all know that it's intended to be complimentary but what I don't understand is why an older woman is supposed to be happy that a compliment is qualified by adding "for your age" but a larger woman can be insulted by the addition of "for your size".
If you want to compliment someone just pay the compliment, don't give with one hand and take away with the other. |
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over a year ago
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"When it comes down to it I think we all know that it's intended to be complimentary but what I don't understand is why an older woman is supposed to be happy that a compliment is qualified by adding "for your age" but a larger woman can be insulted by the addition of "for your size".
If you want to compliment someone just pay the compliment, don't give with one hand and take away with the other."
sometimes its just a slip of the tongue like when a guy says to a guy thanks young man when I'm older lol |
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"When it comes down to it I think we all know that it's intended to be complimentary but what I don't understand is why an older woman is supposed to be happy that a compliment is qualified by adding "for your age" but a larger woman can be insulted by the addition of "for your size".
If you want to compliment someone just pay the compliment, don't give with one hand and take away with the other."
I did notice that you are quite tall for your height. I hope you don't mind me saying so. |
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over a year ago
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"I get this a lot.. Along with 'that can't be you in your pics'?!
Syffice to say this approach has not worked for anyone with me lolyou just got up   "
No I'm still in bed... sticky...thinking about showering |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Although people mean it well, it's an empty compliment. Dismissive to the person and boringly puts the emphasis on looks.
My ego is secretly stroked by it but mostly I see it for what it is .. a shallow gesture.
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I tell people they look good. Most have looked after there bodys and i think there hard work deserves a compliment. |
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over a year ago
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"I get this a lot.. Along with 'that can't be you in your pics'?!
Syffice to say this approach has not worked for anyone with me lolyou just got up
No I'm still in bed... sticky...thinking about showering"
if youre sticky I'm thinking about other things |
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"I get this a lot.. Along with 'that can't be you in your pics'?!
Syffice to say this approach has not worked for anyone with me lolyou just got up
No I'm still in bed... sticky...thinking about showering"
You're quite clean for your age. |
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"Does this sound like a backhanded compliment to you? It always has the subtext in my mind of "you're old" and "I bet you looked a lot better 20 years ago" even though it's probably meant as a compliment.
We're certainly guilty of seeing people and thinking they look amazing for their age but we wouldn't dream of actually saying that to them.
I (Luke) would say somebody looks good without referencing their age. If somebody looks good, they look good, and that's it. Only if they bring up their age disparagingly might I say something like "Somebody 20 years younger would do well to look as good as you".
Have you ever said or been told "You look good for your age"? What fo you think of the statement? "
we do look good for our age ...so take it as a compliment ....flattery is always nice |
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I so rem_mber the first time my age became part of the discussion. Had a health check as I used to work offshore at times and at the end the doctor started with the usual "you're in good health" (those were the days) and then "for someone your age". Right then you realise you have started the second week of your holiday! |
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"I so rem_mber the first time my age became part of the discussion. Had a health check as I used to work offshore at times and at the end the doctor started with the usual "you're in good health" (those were the days) and then "for someone your age". Right then you realise you have started the second week of your holiday! "
Ah doctors.
I'm on too much medication for someone of my age.
Without most of it I'd drop dead, so... |
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"I so rem_mber the first time my age became part of the discussion. Had a health check as I used to work offshore at times and at the end the doctor started with the usual "you're in good health" (those were the days) and then "for someone your age". Right then you realise you have started the second week of your holiday! "
I (Luke) work in insurance. I'm starting to find that I'm too old for some of the policies my company sells.  |
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over a year ago
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Yeah, it's like when people say "you're so pretty... For a big girl!". If only I had a pound...
Once at a weight loss club meeting I was told "you have such a pretty face - you're going to get all the boys once you lose the weight!"  . Really had to fight the urge to go "bitch, I already do!". In fact I was actually heading off to a third date right after the meeting... |
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By *r laidbackMan
over a year ago
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I'll be 50 in a month and I'm told i look good for my age alot... i tell them i bath in goats milk and some of the silly fuckers actually believe me hahaha when the fact is, eat pu$sy stay looking young or it could be that black dont crack? I like to think it's the 1st personally lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You look quite pretty on the end of my cock
Please tell me you heard that said to you and aren't the one to say it "
she hasnt got the cock just a robin in her garden |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been told that before yes. It makes me laugh because I think I just look my age
It's up there with when my old boss said I didn't carry myself like a fat woman.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's a very fair comment, we're not Benjamin Buttons...it's a fact of life that things usually deteriorate with age, so if someone weathers it well then it's a really nice and quite accurate compliment. |
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I have had a few gasps n giggles at some who have taken the flattery as fact....
It's all subjective
Who is going to say ..... oh fuck me you look miles older! Or yeah I can tell you are in your fifties but it's not polite to say so. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have had a few gasps n giggles at some who have taken the flattery as fact....
It's all subjective
Who is going to say ..... oh fuck me you look miles older! Or yeah I can tell you are in your fifties but it's not polite to say so. "
exactly theirs Always method to madness |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's way better than some of the things said to me!like omg aren't you tall
Or your hands are big for a lady lol or what a deep voice you have for one so tall "
I've had a cold. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's way better than some of the things said to me!like omg aren't you tall
It's usually blokes looking a little worried that say this as you look down at them "
yep figured that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's way better than some of the things said to me!like omg aren't you tall
Or your hands are big for a lady lol or what a deep voice you have for one so tall
I've had a cold."
And I think the Kinks would have described it as a dark brown voice ! |
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"I dont mind hearing that.
What I do mind hearing is "why are you single?" Or "I cant believe you aren't married".
Those aren't compliments. "
They're questions and they get answered very directly |
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over a year ago
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"I dont mind hearing that.
What I do mind hearing is "why are you single?" Or "I cant believe you aren't married".
Those aren't compliments. "
It's just a way of them asking what's wrong with me I find |
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"I dont mind hearing that.
What I do mind hearing is "why are you single?" Or "I cant believe you aren't married".
Those aren't compliments.
It's just a way of them asking what's wrong with me I find "
It's a bit like them saying "Why haven't you lived out your life according to my ideals?" |
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"I dont mind hearing that.
What I do mind hearing is "why are you single?" Or "I cant believe you aren't married".
Those aren't compliments.
It's just a way of them asking what's wrong with me I find
It's a bit like them saying "Why haven't you lived out your life according to my ideals?" "
Look at it as a way of them complimenting you for having your own mind and not being a sheep  |
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"When it comes down to it I think we all know that it's intended to be complimentary but what I don't understand is why an older woman is supposed to be happy that a compliment is qualified by adding "for your age" but a larger woman can be insulted by the addition of "for your size".
If you want to compliment someone just pay the compliment, don't give with one hand and take away with the other.
I did notice that you are quite tall for your height. I hope you don't mind me saying so. "
Not at all I am tall considering I'm a shade over 5ft. |
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"Does this sound like a backhanded compliment to you? It always has the subtext in my mind of "you're old" and "I bet you looked a lot better 20 years ago" even though it's probably meant as a compliment.
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I don't see it as a backhanded compliment, simply a compliment.
Though when chatting I usually get "you don't look old enough to have a son that age"
At 46 if some people believe me to be mid 30s, I certainly don't mind.
I would add that, the chances are that I did look better 20 years than I do now I was certainly much slimmer. |
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"I dont mind hearing that.
What I do mind hearing is "why are you single?" Or "I cant believe you aren't married".
Those aren't compliments.
It's just a way of them asking what's wrong with me I find
It's a bit like them saying "Why haven't you lived out your life according to my ideals?" "
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"No. it's a compliment. What is more important is how you react to it...
Too many snowflakes/paranoid/delusional/negatives on the forum. "
I'd say it's more a case of too many insecure people throwing around insults when someone utters an opinion different to theirs. |
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"No. it's a compliment. What is more important is how you react to it...
Too many snowflakes/paranoid/delusional/negatives on the forum.
I'd say it's more a case of too many insecure people throwing around insults when someone utters an opinion different to theirs. "
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"When it comes down to it I think we all know that it's intended to be complimentary but what I don't understand is why an older woman is supposed to be happy that a compliment is qualified by adding "for your age" but a larger woman can be insulted by the addition of "for your size".
If you want to compliment someone just pay the compliment, don't give with one hand and take away with the other.
I did notice that you are quite tall for your height. I hope you don't mind me saying so.
Not at all I am tall considering I'm a shade over 5ft. "
so youre below average but your breasts look amazing for your age |
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"When it comes down to it I think we all know that it's intended to be complimentary but what I don't understand is why an older woman is supposed to be happy that a compliment is qualified by adding "for your age" but a larger woman can be insulted by the addition of "for your size".
If you want to compliment someone just pay the compliment, don't give with one hand and take away with the other.
I did notice that you are quite tall for your height. I hope you don't mind me saying so.
Not at all I am tall considering I'm a shade over 5ft. so youre below average but your breasts look amazing for your age "
Shall I book the ambulance now? |
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"When it comes down to it I think we all know that it's intended to be complimentary but what I don't understand is why an older woman is supposed to be happy that a compliment is qualified by adding "for your age" but a larger woman can be insulted by the addition of "for your size".
If you want to compliment someone just pay the compliment, don't give with one hand and take away with the other.
I did notice that you are quite tall for your height. I hope you don't mind me saying so.
Not at all I am tall considering I'm a shade over 5ft. so youre below average but your breasts look amazing for your age
Shall I book the ambulance now?"
omg maybe...... we'll see |
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over a year ago
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"So, is it possible to be 63, look 63 and look great? Or must I always look younger than people imagine 63 year olds to look in order to qualify for a compliment? "
you look great whatever your age |
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"So, is it possible to be 63, look 63 and look great? Or must I always look younger than people imagine 63 year olds to look in order to qualify for a compliment? you look great whatever your age "
I have actually lied about it, I'm really 36, I just reversed the figures hoping for compliments |
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"So, is it possible to be 63, look 63 and look great? Or must I always look younger than people imagine 63 year olds to look in order to qualify for a compliment? you look great whatever your age
I have actually lied about it, I'm really 36, I just reversed the figures hoping for compliments "
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"Just accept it as a compliment why does everything have to be offensive nowadays. I have not met one person that got my age right everyone says I look young do I get offended about it, no."
Nobody is bothered enough to be offended. |
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"Just accept it as a compliment why does everything have to be offensive nowadays. I have not met one person that got my age right everyone says I look young do I get offended about it, no."
agreed too many negative people see the positive ignore the negative |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is never a compliment. Quite the opposite.
If you like the way someone looks then to you they look good. There is no need to append an age reference on the end. "
You smell great, for someone that's just fallen in a cow pat
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know I'm an older lady but get told this often. I take it as a compliment, which is how its intended 90% of the time.
For goodness sake life is to short to worry if it's an insult or compliment! |
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"It is never a compliment. Quite the opposite.
If you like the way someone looks then to you they look good. There is no need to append an age reference on the end.
You smell great, for someone that's just fallen in a cow pat
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
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Look at the other way, would you take it as an insult if somebody said wow you look old for your age, the years haven’t been kind to you have they, I thought you were older. I know I would. |
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"Look at the other way, would you take it as an insult if somebody said wow you look old for your age, the years haven’t been kind to you have they, I thought you were older. I know I would."
god you look good for 26 |
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"Look at the other way, would you take it as an insult if somebody said wow you look old for your age, the years haven’t been kind to you have they, I thought you were older. I know I would."
 I wouldn't be happy |
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"I think it's worth considering how we appear to others. If you're giving a compliment, don't you want it to be a compliment, and not just taken with grace because that's the thing to do?"
It would appear that we must be grateful for what we're given |
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"I think it's worth considering how we appear to others. If you're giving a compliment, don't you want it to be a compliment, and not just taken with grace because that's the thing to do?
It would appear that we must be grateful for what we're given "
Maybe. But I'd want to know if my compliment landed as "ouch... oh, oh, I must rem_mber to say thank you" |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
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People don’t usually just say you look good for your age though so they, they normally also say that they that they had you down for much younger and knock 10 years off your age so yeah it’s a compliment so take it |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
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"People don’t usually just say you look good for your age though so they, they normally also say that they that they had you down for much younger and knock 10 years off your age so yeah it’s a compliment so take it"
Just read my own message, I’m not d*unk honestly lol just go the flu, think I best go back to bed |
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"I know I'm an older lady but get told this often. I take it as a compliment, which is how its intended 90% of the time.
For goodness sake life is to short to worry if it's an insult or compliment!"
Especially at your age |
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"I get told this! How am I supposed to look I wonder?
I don't think you are supposed to look differently. I think you are just supposed to be a different age. I mean, come on. You're 45. Sort yourself out, girl! "
Today I want to identify as a fossil |
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"I'm always getting messages telling me that I "look good for my age" or "no way are you 49".
I actually take it as a compliment, even though I know they're only trying to get in my knickers!  "
Surely nobody's trying to get into your knickers at your age!
That's a joke of course, but I think there are ways of phrasing these things. Saying there's no way you're 49 doesn't necessarily imply there is anything wrong with being or looking 49. Saying you look good for your age still has an implication to me that could look better if only you were younger.
It's like there's a compliment there and then suddenly it all tails off as you get to the "for your age" bit. It sounds like you don't actually look good but I can get an upside if I apply this criteria to my assessment. |
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