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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So got myself all done up.... been chatting a few days on a well known swipe site moved to numbers. Date 1 tonight lives in notts but has family here so staying with them to take me out.
He texts 8pm to say 15 mins away....
8.40 to say just dropping car at his brothers
8.50 was walking and 5 mins away it was cold.
21.10 no show
Not answering phone
So I said I was leaving his loss
Why state your 5 mins away if you have no intention of meeting?.
What a waste of my time.
Total cuntwaffle!!!!
On a brighter note I’m sat eating kfc in my jamas watching love island now. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hopefully he’s alright and nothing bad happened to him. That would be my first thought "
Nagh not thinking that he text to say he was 5 mins away.
I was ghosted I think it’s called. |
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"Hopefully he’s alright and nothing bad happened to him. That would be my first thought
Nagh not thinking that he text to say he was 5 mins away.
I was ghosted I think it’s called. "
If you were ghosted then that's a shitty thing to do to anyone and I'm sorry you've had to deal with it.
Like has been said above, I hope he hasn't been hurt or something but that would be his only valid excuse. |
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By *zQTWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere |
My first thought was... he’s married. (Probably because of my precious experiences - at least his wife hasn’t called you yet eek!!)
Just put it off to bad experiences and I hope you have better luck next time x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This news is of course very sad but I feel we all have to look at the bigger picture here as adults and ask what did you get from KFC??????
T"
I got a big daddy meal I hadn’t eaten all day as was supposed to be out for dinner.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So you waited an hour for him? "
Noooooo
I left home at 8.45 after I got a text to say he was dropping the car and would be a few mins.
I drove down to town and waited about 20 mins. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That's really shit, sorry  . More importantly though, what did you get from KFC?
I bet she got sticky fingers and a bone in a greasy box
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Jesus, you're a toff, ain't ya  |
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I had this done to me I didn’t leave till he said was 5 min away moment I arrived he turned off phone. Then had gall to msg me week later I was like jog on .... I really don’t get what hot they get to msg u literally up till u say there then go quite fecking juveniles . Hugs hun x |
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When you say 'chatting' was it voice or text ?
My guess is people are still putting faith in poor vetting skills.
Nothing happened to him, he isn't hurt because the times don't add up.
It was deliberate ghosting. Maybe he was scared, maybe a better offer or maybe a fantasist. Either way ..... meh  |
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
Preston |
I wouldn't even call this ghosting.
This isn't changing your mind, it's deliberately being a dick.
How really annoying OP. I'd be cheesed off too. However on the bright side, he was clearly a dick and you've dodged a bullet.
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
Preston |
"Maybe he was involved in an accident or something more important cropped up perhaps he didn’t have time to text or he knew what the reaction would be things do happen like that in life  "
Rarely in the space of 5 minutes. If someone had parked and then got a 5 minute walk the chance of something happening must be tiny. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe he was involved in an accident or something more important cropped up perhaps he didn’t have time to text or he knew what the reaction would be things do happen like that in life "
Nah not having that. My moneys on him being a fantasist who gets off on the ‘idea’ but in reality didn’t leave his home |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This news is of course very sad but I feel we all have to look at the bigger picture here as adults and ask what did you get from KFC??????
T"
I was literally about to ask this lol |
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I got accused of being a time waster I had the decency to text and say car has broke down and I’m waiting for the aa next thing I’m slagged of on here and then blocked what was I supposed to do take a pic of the car on the tow truck get the mechanic to verify what happend maybe he could of explained him self but perhaps circumstances made it impossible just saying |
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
Preston |
"I got accused of being a time waster I had the decency to text and say car has broke down and I’m waiting for the aa next thing I’m slagged of on here and then blocked what was I supposed to do take a pic of the car on the tow truck get the mechanic to verify what happend maybe he could of explained him self but perhaps circumstances made it impossible just saying "
That's totally different. This person sent a message to say I've parked, it's cold, I'll be there in 5 minutes. Then switched their phone off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So got myself all done up.... been chatting a few days on a well known swipe site moved to numbers. Date 1 tonight lives in notts but has family here so staying with them to take me out.
He texts 8pm to say 15 mins away....
8.40 to say just dropping car at his brothers
8.50 was walking and 5 mins away it was cold.
21.10 no show
Not answering phone
So I said I was leaving his loss
Why state your 5 mins away if you have no intention of meeting?.
What a waste of my time.
Total cuntwaffle!!!!
On a brighter note I’m sat eating kfc in my jamas watching love island now. "
omg not good, i really don't understand this myself |
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"I got accused of being a time waster I had the decency to text and say car has broke down and I’m waiting for the aa next thing I’m slagged of on here and then blocked what was I supposed to do take a pic of the car on the tow truck get the mechanic to verify what happend maybe he could of explained him self but perhaps circumstances made it impossible just saying
That's totally different. This person sent a message to say I've parked, it's cold, I'll be there in 5 minutes. Then switched their phone off."
he didn’t turn his phone off he just didn’t answer it all sorts of reasons why accident family emergency like I said I’m just throwing a couple of scenarios out as to why that’s all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Three scenarios here...
1.attached, couldn't get away
2.likes the thought of meeting, hasn't got the balls to fo it
3. He's behind a keyboard having a wank. "
Or possibly all 3 at once methinks ?
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"Three scenarios here...
1.attached, couldn't get away
2.likes the thought of meeting, hasn't got the balls to fo it
3. He's behind a keyboard having a wank. "
I can think of another 2 as to why he didn’t show |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So got myself all done up.... been chatting a few days on a well known swipe site moved to numbers. Date 1 tonight lives in notts but has family here so staying with them to take me out.
He texts 8pm to say 15 mins away....
8.40 to say just dropping car at his brothers
8.50 was walking and 5 mins away it was cold.
21.10 no show
Not answering phone
So I said I was leaving his loss
Why state your 5 mins away if you have no intention of meeting?.
What a waste of my time.
Total cuntwaffle!!!!
On a brighter note I’m sat eating kfc in my jamas watching love island now. "
Fuck that’s the worst op , I’m really sorry you went through that what a cunt !! His loss ! Xx |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Three scenarios here...
1.attached, couldn't get away
2.likes the thought of meeting, hasn't got the balls to fo it
3. He's behind a keyboard having a wank. I can think of another 2 as to why he didn’t show "
Feel free to share then... |
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"Three scenarios here...
1.attached, couldn't get away
2.likes the thought of meeting, hasn't got the balls to fo it
3. He's behind a keyboard having a wank. I can think of another 2 as to why he didn’t show
Feel free to share then... "
accident family emergency I could go on and is it in the rules to have to explain ourselves I did and still got slated and blocked it’s happened to me everything was fine she was turning up she didn’t show I messaged her no reply but the next day I got a message saying sorry but her mum who was in a home had fallen and she had to go to the hospital I gave her the benefit of doubt and said hope you’re mum is ok after scrolling through the messages we’d sent she did say her mum had altzheimers and was in a home I was so glad I didn’t come on here and slate her or block her number btw do we have to explain our selves |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
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"So you waited an hour for him?
Noooooo
I left home at 8.45 after I got a text to say he was dropping the car and would be a few mins.
I drove down to town and waited about 20 mins. "
. Sorry to hear your date didn’t turn up or have the decency to call or message and explain.At least you had more sense than me and only waited 20 minutes.I spent about a hour traveling on the train and underground and other hour waiting in the cold before going home. |
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"Three scenarios here...
1.attached, couldn't get away
2.likes the thought of meeting, hasn't got the balls to fo it
3. He's behind a keyboard having a wank. I can think of another 2 as to why he didn’t show
Feel free to share then... accident family emergency I could go on and is it in the rules to have to explain ourselves I did and still got slated and blocked it’s happened to me everything was fine she was turning up she didn’t show I messaged her no reply but the next day I got a message saying sorry but her mum who was in a home had fallen and she had to go to the hospital I gave her the benefit of doubt and said hope you’re mum is ok after scrolling through the messages we’d sent she did say her mum had altzheimers and was in a home I was so glad I didn’t come on here and slate her or block her number btw do we have to explain our selves "
Crikey it's not an inquisition, the OPs posted to share her justified displeasure at being stood up (for whatever reasons), thankfully if something awful befell her date and he's rolled up inside a length of carpet in the boot of his car at least he isn't aware of what's being said about him here! ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Three scenarios here...
1.attached, couldn't get away
2.likes the thought of meeting, hasn't got the balls to fo it
3. He's behind a keyboard having a wank. I can think of another 2 as to why he didn’t show
Feel free to share then... accident family emergency I could go on and is it in the rules to have to explain ourselves I did and still got slated and blocked it’s happened to me everything was fine she was turning up she didn’t show I messaged her no reply but the next day I got a message saying sorry but her mum who was in a home had fallen and she had to go to the hospital I gave her the benefit of doubt and said hope you’re mum is ok after scrolling through the messages we’d sent she did say her mum had altzheimers and was in a home I was so glad I didn’t come on here and slate her or block her number btw do we have to explain our selves "
I’m not buying it. We’ve had people over the years use bullshit excuses like family emergency, and your telling me in this day and age with everyone’s phones permanently glued to their hands that he didn’t have time to send a quick message or a call ? Common decency
And the accident thing ? The chances of that happening within the timeline the OP described ? No chance. It’s clear to everyone what’s happened here. Not sure why u are trying to suggest anything other than the obvious. It’s not the same as the situation u found yourself in. He’s clearly ghosted her and IMO never had any intention of actually meeting. So many on here talk the talk but it’s just fantasy in the end
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"When you say 'chatting' was it voice or text ?
My guess is people are still putting faith in poor vetting skills.
Nothing happened to him, he isn't hurt because the times don't add up.
It was deliberate ghosting. Maybe he was scared, maybe a better offer or maybe a fantasist. Either way ..... meh "
I kind of go with this. Deliberate ghosting, he had no intention of turning up. They feel it gives them some kind of power. Trust no one grrr. No one deserves to be treated that way. |
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"Three scenarios here...
1.attached, couldn't get away
2.likes the thought of meeting, hasn't got the balls to fo it
3. He's behind a keyboard having a wank. I can think of another 2 as to why he didn’t show
Feel free to share then... accident family emergency I could go on and is it in the rules to have to explain ourselves I did and still got slated and blocked it’s happened to me everything was fine she was turning up she didn’t show I messaged her no reply but the next day I got a message saying sorry but her mum who was in a home had fallen and she had to go to the hospital I gave her the benefit of doubt and said hope you’re mum is ok after scrolling through the messages we’d sent she did say her mum had altzheimers and was in a home I was so glad I didn’t come on here and slate her or block her number btw do we have to explain our selves
I’m not buying it. We’ve had people over the years use bullshit excuses like family emergency, and your telling me in this day and age with everyone’s phones permanently glued to their hands that he didn’t have time to send a quick message or a call ? Common decency
And the accident thing ? The chances of that happening within the timeline the OP described ? No chance. It’s clear to everyone what’s happened here. Not sure why u are trying to suggest anything other than the obvious. It’s not the same as the situation u found yourself in. He’s clearly ghosted her and IMO never had any intention of actually meeting. So many on here talk the talk but it’s just fantasy in the end
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we will never know his reasons I was simply saying things happen sometimes beyond our control and as for the decency thing perhaps op should of waited for an explanation or a reason before calling him a cock is that a decent way to go on slagging him of on a open forum any way I’ve had my say I’m out |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Three scenarios here...
1.attached, couldn't get away
2.likes the thought of meeting, hasn't got the balls to fo it
3. He's behind a keyboard having a wank. I can think of another 2 as to why he didn’t show
Feel free to share then... accident family emergency I could go on and is it in the rules to have to explain ourselves I did and still got slated and blocked it’s happened to me everything was fine she was turning up she didn’t show I messaged her no reply but the next day I got a message saying sorry but her mum who was in a home had fallen and she had to go to the hospital I gave her the benefit of doubt and said hope you’re mum is ok after scrolling through the messages we’d sent she did say her mum had altzheimers and was in a home I was so glad I didn’t come on here and slate her or block her number btw do we have to explain our selves
I’m not buying it. We’ve had people over the years use bullshit excuses like family emergency, and your telling me in this day and age with everyone’s phones permanently glued to their hands that he didn’t have time to send a quick message or a call ? Common decency
And the accident thing ? The chances of that happening within the timeline the OP described ? No chance. It’s clear to everyone what’s happened here. Not sure why u are trying to suggest anything other than the obvious. It’s not the same as the situation u found yourself in. He’s clearly ghosted her and IMO never had any intention of actually meeting. So many on here talk the talk but it’s just fantasy in the end
we will never know his reasons I was simply saying things happen sometimes beyond our control and as for the decency thing perhaps op should of waited for an explanation or a reason before calling him a cock is that a decent way to go on slagging him of on a open forum any way I’ve had my say I’m out "
I think the OP was quite entitled to say what she said. If it had been us we may well have said a lot more ! How many times in your entire life have u been in a situation where in the hours afterwards u didn’t even have the opportunity to send a quick SMS ? It’s nonsense, there’s no accident, no family emergency, just a simple case of someone wasting someone else’s time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it was a genuine reason then by now an apology and the excuse would have been given, or in the next couple of days at least.
I’ve been put off meeting people so much now that if another meet is arranged I’m not going to make any effort. I’ll be leaving the house unwashed no make up and some trackies and flip flops because I refuse to have my time wasted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Three scenarios here...
1.attached, couldn't get away
2.likes the thought of meeting, hasn't got the balls to fo it
3. He's behind a keyboard having a wank. I can think of another 2 as to why he didn’t show
Feel free to share then... accident family emergency I could go on and is it in the rules to have to explain ourselves I did and still got slated and blocked it’s happened to me everything was fine she was turning up she didn’t show I messaged her no reply but the next day I got a message saying sorry but her mum who was in a home had fallen and she had to go to the hospital I gave her the benefit of doubt and said hope you’re mum is ok after scrolling through the messages we’d sent she did say her mum had altzheimers and was in a home I was so glad I didn’t come on here and slate her or block her number btw do we have to explain our selves "
yes sometimes things come up and the opportunity to get in touch disappears a prime example being signal when youre out and about  |
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"If it was a genuine reason then by now an apology and the excuse would have been given, or in the next couple of days at least.
I’ve been put off meeting people so much now that if another meet is arranged I’m not going to make any effort. I’ll be leaving the house unwashed no make up and some trackies and flip flops because I refuse to have my time wasted. "
Exactly.
So annoying when this happens but I guess it’s just a factor you have to expect from time to time. No matter how much due diligence u undertake prior to a meeting I think a lot of us have experienced this in some form or other. We were strung along last year by someone and we were sure she was who she said she was etc but in the end we were duped. It does make u highly suspicious for a while but I hope u keep faith as the good outshine the bad on here. Great figure by the way. Hope U enjoy that funny shaped ball sport thing u seem to like today |
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By (user no longer on site)
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i went to meet a woman I'd been chatting to for a while she lived in kings Lynn which is a fair journey from me i got there about an hour early but i had absolutely no signal, so i found a Wetherspoons pub and logged onto wifi the meet time came and went no sign of her i had to stay in pub incase she messaged on here but nothing eventually about 3hours later she messaged to say she was sorry she didn't have a signal i said " but you live here you could have come into town to say hi" i had a nice day irrespective but no real reason for not turning up but although a little annoyed i still enjoyed my day out lol  |
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"Three scenarios here...
1.attached, couldn't get away
2.likes the thought of meeting, hasn't got the balls to fo it
3. He's behind a keyboard having a wank. I can think of another 2 as to why he didn’t show
Feel free to share then... accident family emergency I could go on and is it in the rules to have to explain ourselves I did and still got slated and blocked it’s happened to me everything was fine she was turning up she didn’t show I messaged her no reply but the next day I got a message saying sorry but her mum who was in a home had fallen and she had to go to the hospital I gave her the benefit of doubt and said hope you’re mum is ok after scrolling through the messages we’d sent she did say her mum had altzheimers and was in a home I was so glad I didn’t come on here and slate her or block her number btw do we have to explain our selves yes sometimes things come up and the opportunity to get in touch disappears a prime example being signal when youre out and about "
phone signal  nah that’s silly that never happens like family emergency or a accident according to some we should still send a message to say we can’t make it sorry mr ambulance man stop what you’re doing while I send a text or sorry family m_mber I’m just of to send a message or make a call as the vicar is giving the last rites to a family m_mber actually the phone signal one is a plausible one  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If it was a genuine reason then by now an apology and the excuse would have been given, or in the next couple of days at least.
I’ve been put off meeting people so much now that if another meet is arranged I’m not going to make any effort. I’ll be leaving the house unwashed no make up and some trackies and flip flops because I refuse to have my time wasted.
Exactly.
So annoying when this happens but I guess it’s just a factor you have to expect from time to time. No matter how much due diligence u undertake prior to a meeting I think a lot of us have experienced this in some form or other. We were strung along last year by someone and we were sure she was who she said she was etc but in the end we were duped. It does make u highly suspicious for a while but I hope u keep faith as the good outshine the bad on here. Great figure by the way. Hope U enjoy that funny shaped ball sport thing u seem to like today "
Haha thank you. Got my snacks ready and my drinks!
Yeah you can do all the checks in the world and it still won’t be enough to stop people messing people around.
Nature of the beast. |
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"i went to meet a woman I'd been chatting to for a while she lived in kings Lynn which is a fair journey from me i got there about an hour early but i had absolutely no signal, so i found a Wetherspoons pub and logged onto wifi the meet time came and went no sign of her i had to stay in pub incase she messaged on here but nothing eventually about 3hours later she messaged to say she was sorry she didn't have a signal i said " but you live here you could have come into town to say hi" i had a nice day irrespective but no real reason for not turning up but although a little annoyed i still enjoyed my day out lol "
Well done for turning a negative into a positive |
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"i went to meet a woman I'd been chatting to for a while she lived in kings Lynn which is a fair journey from me i got there about an hour early but i had absolutely no signal, so i found a Wetherspoons pub and logged onto wifi the meet time came and went no sign of her i had to stay in pub incase she messaged on here but nothing eventually about 3hours later she messaged to say she was sorry she didn't have a signal i said " but you live here you could have come into town to say hi" i had a nice day irrespective but no real reason for not turning up but although a little annoyed i still enjoyed my day out lol
Well done for turning a negative into a positive exactly a lot of the forums are about the negative but the reality if youve been here a while you know the pitfalls, it happens to us all at some point and its not just 'men' doing the letting down "
Agree, men, women, couples, everyone can be guilty of doing it. It’s amazing actually when u think about it just how many people experience huge life changing moments ( such as ending up in an ambulance or their dearest suddenly dropping dead) literally as they are about to walk into a pre arranged swinging meet. I mean, what are the odds ? |
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"As a bloke who has the occasional flutter I’d back the blokes had a phone call to go home @ 10/1 I’ll stick a tenner on him "
What odds he never left the house in the first place ? That’s what I’d stick my £10 on |
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"As a bloke who has the occasional flutter I’d back the blokes had a phone call to go home @ 10/1 I’ll stick a tenner on him
What odds he never left the house in the first place ? That’s what I’d stick my £10 on "
he did he was five minutes away and walking in the dark my moneys on a car accident now 20/1 seriously I hope he hasn’t come to any harm |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"i went to meet a woman I'd been chatting to for a while she lived in kings Lynn which is a fair journey from me i got there about an hour early but i had absolutely no signal, so i found a Wetherspoons pub and logged onto wifi the meet time came and went no sign of her i had to stay in pub incase she messaged on here but nothing eventually about 3hours later she messaged to say she was sorry she didn't have a signal i said " but you live here you could have come into town to say hi" i had a nice day irrespective but no real reason for not turning up but although a little annoyed i still enjoyed my day out lol
Well done for turning a negative into a positive exactly a lot of the forums are about the negative but the reality if youve been here a while you know the pitfalls, it happens to us all at some point and its not just 'men' doing the letting down
Agree, men, women, couples, everyone can be guilty of doing it. It’s amazing actually when u think about it just how many people experience huge life changing moments ( such as ending up in an ambulance or their dearest suddenly dropping dead) literally as they are about to walk into a pre arranged swinging meet. I mean, what are the odds ?"
It actually wasn’t a swingers meet it was a proper date lol.
I clicked on this morning it’s a butlins weekender here this weekend he was obviously someone on that having a laugh.
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"So got myself all done up.... been chatting a few days on a well known swipe site moved to numbers. Date 1 tonight lives in notts but has family here so staying with them to take me out.
He texts 8pm to say 15 mins away....
8.40 to say just dropping car at his brothers
8.50 was walking and 5 mins away it was cold.
21.10 no show
Not answering phone
So I said I was leaving his loss
Why state your 5 mins away if you have no intention of meeting?.
What a waste of my time.
Total cuntwaffle!!!!
On a brighter note I’m sat eating kfc in my jamas watching love island now. "
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