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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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If you have children, do you have a favourite?
Do you make it known, or try to hide it?
Do you love the favourite more, or do you love them all equally? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would necessarily say favourite but I have a stronger bond with my daughter over my twin boys. She was my longed for baby who arrived after 5 years of trying to conceive and 3 rounds of IVF. All of that makes her a little more special to me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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My mum tells us (I’m one of four) that my husband is the favourite child. 
I’m just trying to understand. As my husband isn’t the favourite (he’s one of two) and it is made very known... |
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
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I do have a favourite, yes. My oldest. I had extremely severe postnatal depression after having him, and can’t remember most of his baby/toddler years.
It’s hard to explain, but I feel he and I have a special bond. And we are the most similar in personality.
I love my 3 children equally, but my teenager is my favourite. I’ve never admitted it to them though... |
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"I would necessarily say favourite but I have a stronger bond with my daughter over my twin boys. She was my longed for baby who arrived after 5 years of trying to conceive and 3 rounds of IVF. All of that makes her a little more special to me "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, I would say my relationship is different with each of them and as with all relationships things ebb and flow, our bonds change depending on things like who needs me most, who is showing more affection or their behaviour in general. |
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By *azza80Woman
over a year ago
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I have 6 kids and none of them is my favourite, I do have a stronger bond with my eldest (she is nearly 22yrs old) we are more like sisters/best friends rather than mother and daughter. She is my mini-me, same personality and way of thinking. She even video calls me when out clothes shopping so I can help her choose All my children have different personalities and I love the fact my oldest 3 will always come to me for advice on anything from relationships/sex down to what to eat for their dinner lol..they don't live at home anymore, flew the nest so to speak xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you have children, do you have a favourite?
Do you make it known, or try to hide it?
Do you love the favourite more, or do you love them all equally?"
I have four children and when they ask who I love the best I tell them I don't like any of them. I used to make them fight for "child of the week". Whoever was best behaved got to be my profile picture. So they were the favourite. But if truth be told . The baby of the family. We have a stronger bond because another child never came along and pushed her off my lap. I tell her she's my favourite because you always like your new things the best. Haha. They all have a good sense of humour and know they are all loved for different reasons as individuals. My daughter once said to me if you die I want to die too. I said okay. If I fall off a boat and I'm drowning , I'll pull you under with me. If I ever fall off a boat I don't think she'll be the one coming to save my arse , just in case .  . |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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No. Just the thought of favouring either of my children is unpalatable  They're different and unique in their own ways and though one may have easier traits than the other to deal with and vice versa, I could never play favourites with either. Love them both in equal measure |
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By *azza80Woman
over a year ago
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"Children are great. At different ages you’ll enjoy their company in different ways. Sometimes really fucking challenging annoying ways... "
Hahaha yep I am getting this with my littluns now, ages 6, 8 and 10yrs old  They all compete with each other over everything, always in competition to be the best or no1 x |
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I find it’s more that they have different needs. What 1 sees as favouritism of the other is in reality the other needed me more at that time. There is a good age gap, the eldest is more independent.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only have one child so don’t have a favourite
My mum has 5 grandchildren and my son is her favourite.
She says it’s because she saw him regularly growing up, my brother and sister live further away, so she’s always had a close bond with my son.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My Mum will freely and frequently tell people I'm her favourite of three.
Sometimes it's nice but you do sometimes get assumption from other people with siblings |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I (her) have 2 children, a grownup daughter and a pre teen son.
My daughter claims that my son is the golden child, she compares herself to him and says I practised on her and created the perfect child in him... she doesn't realise they are both perfect to me.
I conceived naturally for her (and a bit too quickly) but went through 7 years of fertility treatment for my son. I don't think this has any bearing on my level of love for them.
I was 22 having my oldest and 32 having my youngest. My daughter sees me as a much more chilled out, easy going, fun to be around mum with my son, compared to her childhood. This is partly to do with being in an unhappy marriage, this obviously affected me as a person even though I tried to hide the problems from the children, the effects of the relationship impacted on me. My current relationship has given me my zest for fun and both of my children see that, thankfully my son will grow up with a happier mum.
I have a different relationship with each child, my daughter is an adult, like my best friend, extremely close and very open. My son still needs his mum to guide him, to set rules and boundaries. I am enjoying teaching him life skills, although he really doesn't want to learn them
So back to your question OP, no I don't favour one child more than the other. I love them both but differently because they are different people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't particularly like either of them haha!
I could never have a favorite child. They are both my dearest friends and my reason for living each and every day. I love them equally for the amazing, unique human beings they are. Even if they do drive me crazy most days
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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Our two are chalk & cheese but they are mirrors of us the eldest is H the youngest is me & we bash heads with ourselves all the time
So not favourites as such just different. Our eldest is quiet & studious, gets looked after a bit more as she was very ill when little & it will affect her whole life. The younger one is just a fearless tomboy forever getting in scrapes.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope, love my boys equally but in different ways because they are individuals
My eldest is my rock, he is the sensitive, practical independant sensible one.
My youngest is 24 and I still treat him like a child, he is academic, logical, loving and thougtful.
Saying that both are Mamma's boys.
My Mother made no secret of my Brothers being her favourites, she used to tell me I was unwanted.
There was no way I was ever going to make either of my boys feel 2nd best or favourited.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A good parent shouldn't play favourites unless they really want to fuck with their kids self worth.
By all means you may prefer one kid, but you shouldn't make it known to them or their siblings.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"A good parent shouldn't play favourites unless they really want to fuck with their kids self worth.
By all means you may prefer one kid, but you shouldn't make it known to them or their siblings.
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Yep |
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