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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone.
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By *0FrankMan
over a year ago
The South! |
"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone.
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well done for posting this, there is nothing worse than having mental health issues, and sadly often overlooked |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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#itsoktonotbeok
There's always help and support available if you feel you need it, don't be scared to reach out, if anyone needs to talk and feel you have no one, my inbox is open. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone.
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I have periods where I doubt my contribution to the world and my reason for existence. I know they say that you aren't alone and to talk to someone, the best way for me to turn things around is to lock myself away for a couple of days and get right with myself. It honestly doesnt work for me when I'm in that frame of mine to be with people. Thankfully it's not all that common these days that I think like this  |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"#itsoktonotbeok
There's always help and support available if you feel you need it, don't be scared to reach out, if anyone needs to talk and feel you have no one, my inbox is open. "
Agreed.
All this shall pass. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone.
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well said ,I’ve been there too and would also have a lot of time for anyone that wants to talk . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone.
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Nicely put OP and well done for starting a conversation on it. Mental health is definitely something we should talk about more and encourage people to open up about. I'm my own worst enemy as I will happily help anyone that needs it but never open up myself.
Hope your okay xx
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"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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just remember the things in life that give you pleasure, we all have something, even if its something stupid, the otherday i was out on town and and old guy dropped his bag, i helped him pick it up, gave me a warm glow all day |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's been a horrific start to the year, fire, war and now plague, it doesn't help when you've got your personal struggles to deal with too to see sadness all around. It has to get better xxx |
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Struggling at the moment with my own mental health, it's something that affects me often. Sometimes I'm good with dealing it and other times I'm not. Unfortunately it's the later at the moment. But I kind of know it'll pass eventually just a matter of working through it. Thanks op needed to see that today |
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"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone.
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Talk, talk then talk some more. It can be the hardest thing to do.
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By *manaWoman
over a year ago
Basingstoke |
"Also as some people cannot ask for help, as a friend make sure you are asking the are you ok question. As a lot of people just need a prompt to reply actually no I am not I need you right now."
This!!
I am not ok today, it's been a tough last week and today has beaten me. I'm going to withdraw into myself a bit now but great thread Tea and compersion is so right. Take the lead and check on those you love xx |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"Also as some people cannot ask for help, as a friend make sure you are asking the are you ok question. As a lot of people just need a prompt to reply actually no I am not I need you right now."
You know enough that you can always talk you me and confide in me.
If I can't be there for a friend, then I'm not really a friend. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone.
Talk, talk then talk some more. It can be the hardest thing to do.
Mrs TMN x"
That's the key point and what I've always found about mental health; it's so isolating and insidious in making you believe that you're on your own.
For me, talking is always the best course |
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By *manaWoman
over a year ago
Basingstoke |
"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone.
Talk, talk then talk some more. It can be the hardest thing to do.
Mrs TMN x
That's the key point and what I've always found about mental health; it's so isolating and insidious in making you believe that you're on your own.
For me, talking is always the best course"
Sometimes though someone may not want to talk about things it's a very individual thing I think xx |
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"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone.
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Well done for posting OP, I know all too well. I would rather spend time talking to someone than visiting them in A+E or worse. |
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Everyone deals with it differently, some like to talk and some don’t. What is important is finding what works for you, reaching out if you need to or immersing yourself in an interest / hobbie that helps clear your mind.
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I've been the lowest of low but have come out the other side.
What got me through was friends, not them bombarding me with messages all the time asking if I was ok, but me just knowing they were there for me if/when I needed them.
I reached out to one who drove from Leicester to see me. Who knows what would have happened if they didn't show up, I can only be forever grateful they did |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
I can't really offer much to the thread as it's not something that has touched me personally but to those struggling, I hope you find a peace, or an ear, or whatever you need to help you get past it.
And to TM for putting it put there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone.
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Very well said x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone.
Well done for posting OP, I know all too well. I would rather spend time talking to someone than visiting them in A+E or worse."
Yeah, the worse sucks. I had a friend who I tried to talk to, begged to get help and I really, really did beg and then one day got a text from his brother in law to say he'd made his second suicide attempt and this one had been successful. However hard you tried and however many people tell you that he made his own choice there'll always be part of you wondering if you could have, should have done more. I'm sure I'm not the only one who's experienced this  |
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"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone.
Talk, talk then talk some more. It can be the hardest thing to do.
Mrs TMN x
That's the key point and what I've always found about mental health; it's so isolating and insidious in making you believe that you're on your own.
For me, talking is always the best course
Sometimes though someone may not want to talk about things it's a very individual thing I think xx"
Absolutely, I don't mean talk incessantly if that's not helpful. More tell someone how you feel, don't keep it to yourself. X |
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By *manaWoman
over a year ago
Basingstoke |
"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone.
Talk, talk then talk some more. It can be the hardest thing to do.
Mrs TMN x
That's the key point and what I've always found about mental health; it's so isolating and insidious in making you believe that you're on your own.
For me, talking is always the best course
Sometimes though someone may not want to talk about things it's a very individual thing I think xx
Absolutely, I don't mean talk incessantly if that's not helpful. More tell someone how you feel, don't keep it to yourself. X"
Absolutely xx |
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"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone.
Well done for posting OP, I know all too well. I would rather spend time talking to someone than visiting them in A+E or worse.
Yeah, the worse sucks. I had a friend who I tried to talk to, begged to get help and I really, really did beg and then one day got a text from his brother in law to say he'd made his second suicide attempt and this one had been successful. However hard you tried and however many people tell you that he made his own choice there'll always be part of you wondering if you could have, should have done more. I'm sure I'm not the only one who's experienced this "
Sorry for your loss. You are definitely not the only one to experience this. I have a friend who I’ve been talking to for near on 20 years. He’s sought help many a time professional and reaching out to friends. Two days of the year are devoted to just being there and listening to him, talking to him as they are his lowest moments each year.
He tried to commit suicide for a second time in 10 months this January, thankfully he was found. However, we all missed the trigger and warning signs when we look back. It’s hard not to think could we have done more, but sometimes no matter what we do, they’ve sunk to that low and cannot see any other answers. |
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over a year ago
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"To all I'm sure I'm not the only one who's experienced this
Sorry for your loss. You are definitely not the only one to experience this. I have a friend who I’ve been talking to for near on 20 years. He’s sought help many a time professional and reaching out to friends. Two days of the year are devoted to just being there and listening to him, talking to him as they are his lowest moments each year.
He tried to commit suicide for a second time in 10 months this January, thankfully he was found. However, we all missed the trigger and warning signs when we look back. It’s hard not to think could we have done more, but sometimes no matter what we do, they’ve sunk to that low and cannot see any other answers. "
I knew I wouldn't be. After his first attempt, a giant overdose that would have killed most people he said to me "a real man would have cut his own throat". He did it with a tube from his exhaust in the end (sorry, sorry ) He'd obviously been offered help after the first one and didn't want it . I'll never forget him, he was a very unusual and very talented man. |
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Well said OP.
To anyone suffering, please talk to someone, it really does help. You are not alone, and there is light at the end of the tunnel.
If you can't bring yourself to talk about it, write it down in a letter, text or an email, and lwt someone read it.
Two little words 'help me' can make such a huge difference. Help is out there, and more and more people these days realise that it does exist, and that the words 'pull yourself together' don't help.
To anyone suffering right now, massive hugs, and go easy on yourself. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone.
Talk, talk then talk some more. It can be the hardest thing to do.
Mrs TMN x
That's the key point and what I've always found about mental health; it's so isolating and insidious in making you believe that you're on your own.
For me, talking is always the best course
Sometimes though someone may not want to talk about things it's a very individual thing I think xx"
I agree and I know it's not for everyone. It's a case of what works best for each person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes just vocalising something can stop it hurting more than you could imagine. Just saying it out loud to someone neutralises it and it's still there but it doesn't seem so overpowering. My ex husband volunteers as a samaritan and not every caller is suicidal, people call about things that sound minor but have devastated them. And that's perfectly OK, that's what they're there for, to listen. Not to advise but just to let people articulate what's hurting them. I'm very proud of him for doing it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Time to Talk Day is on 6th February this year.
I’m helping to organise events at my work on that day to get people talking like a quiz and a cake bake to raise money for Mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Keep breathing, feel body and air. When you feel there's nothing, no thing to lean into, shrink your world so small until you feel how the earth will hold you regardless.
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Yes, something as simple as 7-11 breathing has helped me so much. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Great thread, and of course everyone should be kind to themselves and others
However while we look from the perspective of the suffere how about we give a huge shout out to those behind who give that support 24/7.
I have been there and it is draining, you are invisible and have to have your own needs and feelings constantly put on hold whilst everyone is thinking about the sufferer, what about those standing behind 24/7.
We need to look for everyone, as everyone is a victim in some way shape or form ? |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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"Keep breathing, feel body and air. When you feel there's nothing, no thing to lean into, shrink your world so small until you feel how the earth will hold you regardless.
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Yes, something as simple as 7-11 breathing has helped me so much. "
Me too. When suffering ptsd episodes I would literally need to lie on the earth and breathe. Counts of 4 in, 4 hold, 4 out until my parasympathetic nervous system took over. I have lay down in some strange places!
I sacked off nearly everything in my life and spent hours next to a river, hugging a rock or amongst trees.
I know lots of people can't access nature in the same way but it's a very good balance to the heady talking. Meditation, singing, anything that gives the body a chance to move things through as well as the mind.
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"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone.
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Those days are quite hard at times |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To all I'm sure I'm not the only one who's experienced this
Sorry for your loss. You are definitely not the only one to experience this. I have a friend who I’ve been talking to for near on 20 years. He’s sought help many a time professional and reaching out to friends. Two days of the year are devoted to just being there and listening to him, talking to him as they are his lowest moments each year.
He tried to commit suicide for a second time in 10 months this January, thankfully he was found. However, we all missed the trigger and warning signs when we look back. It’s hard not to think could we have done more, but sometimes no matter what we do, they’ve sunk to that low and cannot see any other answers.
I knew I wouldn't be. After his first attempt, a giant overdose that would have killed most people he said to me "a real man would have cut his own throat". He did it with a tube from his exhaust in the end (sorry, sorry ) He'd obviously been offered help after the first one and didn't want it . I'll never forget him, he was a very unusual and very talented man. "
So sorry to read this. My Dad did exactly the same over 20 years ago. I still think that I should/could have done more.
I always try to keep an extra eye on those I know struggle sometimes, the black dog is hard to lose, he so often comes back. |
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"Great thread, and of course everyone should be kind to themselves and others
However while we look from the perspective of the suffere how about we give a huge shout out to those behind who give that support 24/7.
I have been there and it is draining, you are invisible and have to have your own needs and feelings constantly put on hold whilst everyone is thinking about the sufferer, what about those standing behind 24/7.
We need to look for everyone, as everyone is a victim in some way shape or form ?"
Oh so true, don’t forget the counsellors, it’s a draining task and not easy to switch off from |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To all I'm sure I'm not the only one who's experienced this
Sorry for your loss. You are definitely not the only one to experience this. I have a friend who I’ve been talking to for near on 20 years. He’s sought help many a time professional and reaching out to friends. Two days of the year are devoted to just being there and listening to him, talking to him as they are his lowest moments each year.
He tried to commit suicide for a second time in 10 months this January, thankfully he was found. However, we all missed the trigger and warning signs when we look back. It’s hard not to think could we have done more, but sometimes no matter what we do, they’ve sunk to that low and cannot see any other answers.
I knew I wouldn't be. After his first attempt, a giant overdose that would have killed most people he said to me "a real man would have cut his own throat". He did it with a tube from his exhaust in the end (sorry, sorry ) He'd obviously been offered help after the first one and didn't want it . I'll never forget him, he was a very unusual and very talented man.
So sorry to read this. My Dad did exactly the same over 20 years ago. I still think that I should/could have done more.
I always try to keep an extra eye on those I know struggle sometimes, the black dog is hard to lose, he so often comes back."
So many of us fall upon the thorns of life and bleed, and sometimes we bleed out. I'm so sorry you had to go through that x |
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"To all I'm sure I'm not the only one who's experienced this
Sorry for your loss. You are definitely not the only one to experience this. I have a friend who I’ve been talking to for near on 20 years. He’s sought help many a time professional and reaching out to friends. Two days of the year are devoted to just being there and listening to him, talking to him as they are his lowest moments each year.
He tried to commit suicide for a second time in 10 months this January, thankfully he was found. However, we all missed the trigger and warning signs when we look back. It’s hard not to think could we have done more, but sometimes no matter what we do, they’ve sunk to that low and cannot see any other answers.
I knew I wouldn't be. After his first attempt, a giant overdose that would have killed most people he said to me "a real man would have cut his own throat". He did it with a tube from his exhaust in the end (sorry, sorry ) He'd obviously been offered help after the first one and didn't want it . I'll never forget him, he was a very unusual and very talented man.
So sorry to read this. My Dad did exactly the same over 20 years ago. I still think that I should/could have done more.
I always try to keep an extra eye on those I know struggle sometimes, the black dog is hard to lose, he so often comes back.
So many of us fall upon the thorns of life and bleed, and sometimes we bleed out. I'm so sorry you had to go through that x"
Thank you. It’s tough for those left behind too isn’t it. It’s lovely that so many here are ready with a sympathetic ear x |
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By *ez1987Man
over a year ago
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To all whomb feel they are trapped in their head and thought are getting too much remember that it's OK to speek up and if anyone wants someone to talk to am happy to help where I can.
I work in mental health as a support worker for the NHS so I've literally seen it all and nothing will phase me in that area.
My inbox is always open and having suffered from depression and negative thoughts and feelings I know from experience there is a positive way out.
Stay strong there is always a person who will listen to you here.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Massively struggling at the moment with a huge and debilitating panic attack yesterday. Happy days"
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"To all of those people who are struggling with mental health issues, with feeling hemmed in and trapped in your head. Those that are having a black dog day. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please remember, you don't have to struggle alone.
I have periods where I doubt my contribution to the world and my reason for existence. I know they say that you aren't alone and to talk to someone, the best way for me to turn things around is to lock myself away for a couple of days and get right with myself. It honestly doesnt work for me when I'm in that frame of mine to be with people. Thankfully it's not all that common these days that I think like this "
Everyone has to find what works for them. Hopefully though if and when they are ready to talk, it's important not to feel alone.
I hope those days become a thing of the past x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thank you Annabelle and Lola. Much appreciated
Today was a better day and after tomorrow I'm not in work for a few days and away at a festival which should life my mood greatly! |
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"Thank you Annabelle and Lola. Much appreciated
Today was a better day and after tomorrow I'm not in work for a few days and away at a festival which should life my mood greatly!"
Great stuff..you can't beat getting lost in music..Dance your socks off and let off some steam.
Have a great time my lovely xx |
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By *ixen500Couple
over a year ago
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"#itsoktonotbeok
There's always help and support available if you feel you need it, don't be scared to reach out, if anyone needs to talk and feel you have no one, my inbox is open. "
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