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over a year ago
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"I have a FB and she told me she wanna be mom. And asked me to do it bareback so she can be mom and she will never tell anything about.
I don't feel like doing it but... what would you do?"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a FB and she told me she wanna be mom. And asked me to do it bareback so she can be mom and she will never tell anything about.
I don't feel like doing it but... what would you do?"
Are you really seriously considering this? 
Are you right in the mind, OP, or am I missing something? Sorry, no offence, it sounds absurd to me.
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"She wants you to get her pregnant? But not be in a long term relationship.
Absolutely not. The damage done to children by single parenting is immense."
I’m hoping you don’t mean that as it’s written as it’s a very incorrect statement. |
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"She wants you to get her pregnant? But not be in a long term relationship.
Absolutely not. The damage done to children by single parenting is immense.
I’m hoping you don’t mean that as it’s written as it’s a very incorrect statement. "
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"She wants you to get her pregnant? But not be in a long term relationship.
Absolutely not. The damage done to children by single parenting is immense."
oh wow... judgemental much... being a single parent does not make you a bad parent |
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By *hMyGawdCouple
over a year ago
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"She wants you to get her pregnant? But not be in a long term relationship.
Absolutely not. The damage done to children by single parenting is immense.
I’m hoping you don’t mean that as it’s written as it’s a very incorrect statement. "
An absent father has a huge effect on a child. Boys typically have anger issues. Girls end up being absolute trainwrecks. |
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"She wants you to get her pregnant? But not be in a long term relationship.
Absolutely not. The damage done to children by single parenting is immense.
I’m hoping you don’t mean that as it’s written as it’s a very incorrect statement.
An absent father has a huge effect on a child. Boys typically have anger issues. Girls end up being absolute trainwrecks."
With the greatest of respect bill fucking shit.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"She wants you to get her pregnant? But not be in a long term relationship.
Absolutely not. The damage done to children by single parenting is immense."
WoW!!
What a judgement, and what information are you judging this I'll informed statement on? |
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"She wants you to get her pregnant? But not be in a long term relationship.
Absolutely not. The damage done to children by single parenting is immense.
I’m hoping you don’t mean that as it’s written as it’s a very incorrect statement.
An absent father has a huge effect on a child. Boys typically have anger issues. Girls end up being absolute trainwrecks."
Thanks for your top level insight, but you’re very wrong from first hand experience. |
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By *hMyGawdCouple
over a year ago
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Just have a quick Google on the subject. Plenty of studies saying children raised by a stable couple do better emotionally, academically and financially.
ZERO studies saying single parented kids do better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"She wants you to get her pregnant? But not be in a long term relationship.
Absolutely not. The damage done to children by single parenting is immense.
I’m hoping you don’t mean that as it’s written as it’s a very incorrect statement.
An absent father has a huge effect on a child. Boys typically have anger issues. Girls end up being absolute trainwrecks."
Again what a judgmental statement!
This is so untrue. |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"She wants you to get her pregnant? But not be in a long term relationship.
Absolutely not. The damage done to children by single parenting is immense."
Where does he say she'll be a single parent, or is a single woman? |
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"Just have a quick Google on the subject. Plenty of studies saying children raised by a stable couple do better emotionally, academically and financially.
ZERO studies saying single parented kids do better."
I’m just as, if not more better off than others I know who were brought up by two parents. I don’t need a study to tell me that. |
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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago
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"She wants you to get her pregnant? But not be in a long term relationship.
Absolutely not. The damage done to children by single parenting is immense.
I’m hoping you don’t mean that as it’s written as it’s a very incorrect statement.
An absent father has a huge effect on a child. Boys typically have anger issues. Girls end up being absolute trainwrecks."
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"She wants you to get her pregnant? But not be in a long term relationship.
Absolutely not. The damage done to children by single parenting is immense.
I’m hoping you don’t mean that as it’s written as it’s a very incorrect statement.
An absent father has a huge effect on a child. Boys typically have anger issues. Girls end up being absolute trainwrecks."
Absolute rubbish |
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By *hMyGawdCouple
over a year ago
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"I’m just as, if not more better off than others I know who were brought up by two parents. I don’t need a study to tell me that. "
But you're an individual.
We're talking about trends.
Surviving a round of Russian Roulette doesn't mean Russian Roulette is safe. |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"Where does he say she'll be a single parent, or is a single woman?
He describes her as a FB
And implies she doesn't want any commitment from him."
That doesn't mean she's not already attached to someone else. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Where does he say she'll be a single parent, or is a single woman?
He describes her as a FB
And implies she doesn't want any commitment from him."
Yes from him, does not mean she will be a single parent plus it does not mean the child will be a trainwreck. |
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By *hMyGawdCouple
over a year ago
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"Absolute rubbish"
Oh of course 
Nobody with Daddy issues ever ended up on drugs, living in poverty, sleeping with endless men trying to fill a void in her soul.
Nope. Nobody's ever heard of that |
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By *hMyGawdCouple
over a year ago
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"That doesn't mean she's not already attached to someone else. "
She's either going to be a single parent, or she's cheating on a long term partner.
Neither is a recipe for a happy, successful, loved child. |
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"Absolute rubbish
Oh of course
Nobody with Daddy issues ever ended up on drugs, living in poverty, sleeping with endless men trying to fill a void in her soul.
Nope. Nobody's ever heard of that "
And plenty of children with both parents end up in the same mess |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Absolute rubbish
Oh of course
Nobody with Daddy issues ever ended up on drugs, living in poverty, sleeping with endless men trying to fill a void in her soul.
Nope. Nobody's ever heard of that "
Oh and children who have both parents together are totally clean living and never have any issues!
Your comments are offensive and you sound like Boris! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That doesn't mean she's not already attached to someone else.
She's either going to be a single parent, or she's cheating on a long term partner.
Neither is a recipe for a happy, successful, loved child."
And you know this how? |
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"Absolute rubbish
Oh of course
Nobody with Daddy issues ever ended up on drugs, living in poverty, sleeping with endless men trying to fill a void in her soul.
Nope. Nobody's ever heard of that "
And plenty have "daddy issues" because of perceived rubbish like that so women stay with abussive partners for the sake of the children. |
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"And plenty have "daddy issues" because of perceived rubbish like that so women stay with abussive partners for the sake of the children.
Nice bit of sexism there "
Fair enough take out women, point still stands |
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"And plenty of children with both parents end up in the same mess
Correct, but it's less likely."
Best not to judge tho. Never know if your child is going to go off the rails and it's a long way to fall from the top of that tower. |
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"Just have a quick Google on the subject. Plenty of studies saying children raised by a stable couple do better emotionally, academically and financially.
ZERO studies saying single parented kids do better."
How about putting the statistics where they belong in the bin and use some common sense. Admittedly I no that's far from as common as it should be but hell give it a try..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just have a quick Google on the subject. Plenty of studies saying children raised by a stable couple do better emotionally, academically and financially.
ZERO studies saying single parented kids do better."
"stable".
A single parent raises happier, more successful children than those growing up in an abusive environment.
Please don't generalise; it's really dangerous, quite ignorant and fecking insulting. |
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"She wants you to get her pregnant? But not be in a long term relationship.
Absolutely not. The damage done to children by single parenting is immense."
I'm the one who doesn't want long term. If I don't get her pregnant she will do artificial insemination |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see you have nothing left to say!
I'm gobsmacked that you find a statement of facts offensive, simply because it does not fit your narrative.
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The green arrow is a very useful tool  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I see you have nothing left to say!
I'm gobsmacked that you find a statement of facts offensive, simply because it does not fit your narrative.
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I work with children and families and have done for 17 years. I don't need statistics to tell me you are talking rubbish. |
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"I see you have nothing left to say!
I'm gobsmacked that you find a statement of facts offensive, simply because it does not fit your narrative.
The green arrow is a very useful tool "
Isn't it just |
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"She wants you to get her pregnant? But not be in a long term relationship.
Absolutely not. The damage done to children by single parenting is immense.
Where does he say she'll be a single parent, or is a single woman? "
She want to be mom and she is single and she said you or artificial insemination |
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By *hMyGawdCouple
over a year ago
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"I work with children and families and have done for 17 years. I don't need statistics to tell me you are talking rubbish. "
So which kids have more problems? Emotionally and academically?
Kids from the suburbs, raised by two loving parents?
Or inner city kids raised by a single mum in a scummy block of flats?
Which group are becoming upstanding citizens, and which group are committing knife crime?
Anyone reading this will know there's a right and wrong way of raising a family. |
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I was raised by one parent and have never sold drugs, unlike a guy from school who does sell drugs, when he's not inside for violence and... well. Selling drugs.
Statement of fact, right there. Throw it on the fire with the others and just love your child, whatever the situation innit. |
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"I work with children and families and have done for 17 years. I don't need statistics to tell me you are talking rubbish.
So which kids have more problems? Emotionally and academically?
Kids from the suburbs, raised by two loving parents?
Or inner city kids raised by a single mum in a scummy block of flats?
Which group are becoming upstanding citizens, and which group are committing knife crime?
Anyone reading this will know there's a right and wrong way of raising a family."
I so hope you haven't god kids. Fuck me gently |
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By *hMyGawdCouple
over a year ago
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"I was raised by one parent and have never sold drugs, unlike a guy from school who does sell drugs, when he's not inside for violence and... well. Selling drugs.
Statement of fact, right there. Throw it on the fire with the others and just love your child, whatever the situation innit."
Talking trends here, not individuals |
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"I work with children and families and have done for 17 years. I don't need statistics to tell me you are talking rubbish.
So which kids have more problems? Emotionally and academically?
Kids from the suburbs, raised by two loving parents?
Or inner city kids raised by a single mum in a scummy block of flats?
Which group are becoming upstanding citizens, and which group are committing knife crime?
Anyone reading this will know there's a right and wrong way of raising a family."
Well that's not much of an argument, you've mixed two different factors. Parents that are together and social background comparing inner city and the suburbs. Which one are you deciding is the biggest factor in your mass sweeping statements? |
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"I was raised by one parent and have never sold drugs, unlike a guy from school who does sell drugs, when he's not inside for violence and... well. Selling drugs.
Statement of fact, right there. Throw it on the fire with the others and just love your child, whatever the situation innit.
Talking trends here, not individuals "
Sounds more like numbers and stereotypes, but I understand your point.
I hope you understand the point others make when they may seem angry in their response. It's only because they know or have seen the unquestionably gargantuan effort a single person puts in to raising a child, only to be tarred as a statistic. There's souls behind those numbers. That's all I mean.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well that's not much of an argument, you've mixed two different factors
Two incomes = More financial stability, nicer area to raise the kids in."
Being financially stable and living in a nice house does not a good parent make. |
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By *hMyGawdCouple
over a year ago
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"Sounds more like numbers and stereotypes, but I understand your point.
I hope you understand the point others make when they may seem angry in their response. It's only because they know or have seen the unquestionably gargantuan effort a single person puts in to raising a child, only to be tarred as a statistic. There's souls behind those numbers. That's all I mean. "
I'm not questioning anyone's effort, anyone's love for a child or anything like that. Single parents do a tough job.
But there is a proven better way, that is better for the kids.
Sometimes the truth hurts |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sounds more like numbers and stereotypes, but I understand your point.
I hope you understand the point others make when they may seem angry in their response. It's only because they know or have seen the unquestionably gargantuan effort a single person puts in to raising a child, only to be tarred as a statistic. There's souls behind those numbers. That's all I mean.
I'm not questioning anyone's effort, anyone's love for a child or anything like that. Single parents do a tough job.
But there is a proven better way, that is better for the kids.
Sometimes the truth hurts "
And who's truth are you talking? |
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By *hMyGawdCouple
over a year ago
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"Being financially stable and living in a nice house does not a good parent make. "
It's a factor.
Not arguing over bills? Not having to work all the hours in the day? Living somewhere less prone to gangs, to drugs? These areas are usually linked to better schools, with kids of a similar upbringing with fewer disruptive pupils.
On what planet is that not a good thing? |
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"Sounds more like numbers and stereotypes, but I understand your point.
I hope you understand the point others make when they may seem angry in their response. It's only because they know or have seen the unquestionably gargantuan effort a single person puts in to raising a child, only to be tarred as a statistic. There's souls behind those numbers. That's all I mean.
I'm not questioning anyone's effort, anyone's love for a child or anything like that. Single parents do a tough job.
But there is a proven better way, that is better for the kids.
Sometimes the truth hurts "
It's an opinion. Or that way would work every time. Plenty of variables to make a comfortable, financially stable and happy child with two parents get off the rails.
Still, I understand your perspective. Appreciate you sharing. |
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"Being financially stable and living in a nice house does not a good parent make.
It's a factor.
Not arguing over bills? Not having to work all the hours in the day? Living somewhere less prone to gangs, to drugs? These areas are usually linked to better schools, with kids of a similar upbringing with fewer disruptive pupils.
On what planet is that not a good thing?"
So what about parents who split up and have a long term relationship with a new partner, negating the above issues with money? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"She wants you to get her pregnant? But not be in a long term relationship.
Absolutely not. The damage done to children by single parenting is immense."
While the OPs situation is ridiculous, your comment about single parenting is equally so |
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By *hMyGawdCouple
over a year ago
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"She wants you to get her pregnant? But not be in a long term relationship.
Absolutely not. The damage done to children by single parenting is immense.
While the OPs situation is ridiculous, your comment about single parenting is equally so "
Nothing ridiculous about thinking two full time people to love, guide and support a child is better than one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well that's not much of an argument, you've mixed two different factors
Two incomes = More financial stability, nicer area to raise the kids in."
I'm a single parent. We live in a lovely area and my boys are all doing well. Infact better than a number of their peers who have what you deem to be a better upbringing. Your sweeping statements aren't just insulting, they are wrong. |
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"She wants you to get her pregnant? But not be in a long term relationship.
Absolutely not. The damage done to children by single parenting is immense."
I think this initial statement and your further statements that it was based on statistics, is disingenuous to say the least.
There are many things damaging to children and being brought up by a single parent is not one of them.
In fact, in my experience the most damaging things for a child are domestic abuse and neglect as the result of parental indifference.
No, I am not a wocial worker, but I do work with many disadvantaged people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"She wants you to get her pregnant? But not be in a long term relationship.
Absolutely not. The damage done to children by single parenting is immense.
While the OPs situation is ridiculous, your comment about single parenting is equally so
Nothing ridiculous about thinking two full time people to love, guide and support a child is better than one."
depends on who the two people are. My sons would certainly disagree with you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"She wants you to get her pregnant? But not be in a long term relationship.
Absolutely not. The damage done to children by single parenting is immense."
The damage done to children by single parenting is immense?
Pretty strong and slightly offensive statement. |
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"I have a FB and she told me she wanna be mom. And asked me to do it bareback so she can be mom and she will never tell anything about.
I don't feel like doing it but... what would you do?"
If you "don't feel like doing it".
That's the right response... don't do it. |
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