FabSwingers.com > Forums > The Lounge > Outsider/cliques

Outsider/cliques

Jump to: Newest in thread

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

A few times I have tried to integrate in forum chats but I feel isolated within the forum as no one responds.

Just an observation that I find interesting. Maybe my face doesn't fit.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A few times I have tried to integrate in forum chats but I feel isolated within the forum as no one responds.

Just an observation that I find interesting. Maybe my face doesn't fit."

I feel the same quite often

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah same

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Forums take some breaking into. All forums, not just this one. It took me about a month, maybe a bit more, of observing how people posted, gradually contributing, etc, before I felt I wasn't ignored.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Like being at school again

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It just takes time to integrate with new groups of people. Keep contributing and give it some time.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Op, you've only been here a week, it can take a while to get noticed. Even the more established members get overlooked as the forums move pretty quickly at times.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve been on and off here for way too many years and even after a hiatus, it’s hard to come back in sometimes.

No matter what anyone says about cliques etc ... it happens, but not intentionally I don’t think. You naturally reply to those who you know and new posters can feel left out.

I’m sorry that you feel that way though, all I’d say is keep posting and be proactive

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It depends on if you have a different opinion on things to the regular posters

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just keep posting OP.

Some are excellent at involving everyone on a thread, and others will just respond to those they want to have sex with or class as “friends”.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Like being at school again "

Precisely, I guess where I'm coming from if there's a discussion I try not to exclude anyone intentionally unless they're a complete tool!

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"It depends on if you have a different opinion on things to the regular posters

That's nonsense. The forums lean right wing, I'm a raving leftie. You just need to pick when it's worth arguing, how much capital you have and want to spend, etc.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've literally just started checking out forums etc yesterday, have made couple contributions, wasn't really expecting many if any replies..

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very cliquey place are these forums. You could be forgiven for thinking everyone else is having a great time and constantly shagging lol

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *hrista BellendWoman over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

It took me about a month in the beginning as well, keep posting as you want to

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A few times I have tried to integrate in forum chats but I feel isolated within the forum as no one responds.

Just an observation that I find interesting. Maybe my face doesn't fit."

I felt the same when I first ventured in here

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"A few times I have tried to integrate in forum chats but I feel isolated within the forum as no one responds.

Just an observation that I find interesting. Maybe my face doesn't fit."

Everyone feels like this sometimes, I often do. I remember you from your last profile as well. Just because people don't respond all the time doesn't mean you're not noticed though

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"A few times I have tried to integrate in forum chats but I feel isolated within the forum as no one responds.

Just an observation that I find interesting. Maybe my face doesn't fit.

I feel the same quite often "

I hope it doesn't get you down x

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It is like school in that you're not going to be best friends with everyone the moment you arrive.

It's not like school in that that can change. You just have to work at it, like any relationship.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think most people feel like that from time to time.

It can be tricky sometimes especially in fast moving threads and it's really easy to miss people.

I now just post because I want to or feel I have something to say, if someone feels they want to respond then great but if not I don't take it personally.

Some threads are very inclusive.

I know I'm biased but Hot-Ash trys to respond to every poster on his threads as does Erect Jim and a few others.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *isaB45Woman over a year ago

Fabville

OP, don't forget that many 'regular' posters have met and are friends.

Just keep posting, get to organised socials, and you will be fine x

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also just because no one responds to your posts it doesn't mean they haven't been read.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"A few times I have tried to integrate in forum chats but I feel isolated within the forum as no one responds.

Just an observation that I find interesting. Maybe my face doesn't fit.

It's comforting to know I'm not the odd one with this feeling

Everyone feels like this sometimes, I often do. I remember you from your last profile as well. Just because people don't respond all the time doesn't mean you're not noticed though

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Just keep posting OP.

Some are excellent at involving everyone on a thread, and others will just respond to those they want to have sex with or class as “friends”.

or if it's me just respond to ANYTHING I connect with ......

Stop taking it personally O.P.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"OP, don't forget that many 'regular' posters have met and are friends.

Just keep posting, get to organised socials, and you will be fine x"

Thank you. I think I do need to get to more socials as I have no problem with mingling x

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It depends on if you have a different opinion on things to the regular posters

That's not true.

I often disagree with what is posted and say so.

The difference is it depends how you do it.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh and if others find you attractive you will go to the top of the forums top list

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A few times I have tried to integrate in forum chats but I feel isolated within the forum as no one responds.

Just an observation that I find interesting. Maybe my face doesn't fit.

I feel the same quite often "

Same here sometimes x

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It depends on if you have a different opinion on things to the regular posters

But I thought a difference in opinion is what makes a discussion/debate

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *moothdickMan over a year ago

stoke

"A few times I have tried to integrate in forum chats but I feel isolated within the forum as no one responds.

Just an observation that I find interesting. Maybe my face doesn't fit."

Here here ... it’s easier to break into the Bank of England... exactly like u say

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *nnocentimesMan over a year ago

over there by that tree

"Some threads are very inclusive.

I know I'm biased but Hot-Ash trys to respond to every poster on his threads as does Erect Jim and a few others.

They both do a great job tbh... my night shifts are never dull interacting with both of them.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *moothdickMan over a year ago

stoke

Jesus op, just looked at yr pics, why didn’t I live London way, we’d set our own clique up

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just keep posting OP

It takes time.

I've been on and off here for years and a lot of the time I'm talking to myself - but I enjoy it anyway

I like your pictures x

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Alot of friendships have built up. Don't stop took me ages too.

Girl power

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It depends on if you have a different opinion on things to the regular posters

But I thought a difference in opinion is what makes a discussion/debate"

It certainly is

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A few times I have tried to integrate in forum chats but I feel isolated within the forum as no one responds.

Just an observation that I find interesting. Maybe my face doesn't fit."
lol hey loads don't fit just keep plugging or maybe go to MLS social

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *nto My ArmsMan over a year ago

Herts/London

"It depends on if you have a different opinion on things to the regular posters

But I thought a difference in opinion is what makes a discussion/debate

It certainly is "

No it isn't

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A few times I have tried to integrate in forum chats but I feel isolated within the forum as no one responds.

Just an observation that I find interesting. Maybe my face doesn't fit.lol hey loads don't fit just keep plugging or maybe go to MLS social

Only about 5% of regular forum users go to the MLS.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *moothdickMan over a year ago

stoke

There we go, 2 posts and not a single response hahaha

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you all for your feedback, much appreciated, I certainly don't feel like an outsider now! I will take advice given on board. Have a Fab Saturday you sexy lot, I'm off to Eurekas later xx

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thank you all for your feedback, much appreciated, I certainly don't feel like an outsider now! I will take advice given on board. Have a Fab Saturday you sexy lot, I'm off to Eurekas later xx"

Enjoy

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In general, if there i big group of people, cliques and groups tend to naturally happen, so i am sure will be same with online groups. From what I've seen so far in forums isn't bitchy or snide, so think it'll just be regulars used to chatting with each other. I think will jus take time for new people to get responses and feel involved..

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Thank you all for your feedback, much appreciated, I certainly don't feel like an outsider now! I will take advice given on board. Have a Fab Saturday you sexy lot, I'm off to Eurekas later xx"

Have fun

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There we go, 2 posts and not a single response hahaha

just keep trying lad lol

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *moothdickMan over a year ago

stoke

"Thank you all for your feedback, much appreciated, I certainly don't feel like an outsider now! I will take advice given on board. Have a Fab Saturday you sexy lot, I'm off to Eurekas later xx"

Have a great night x

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP I will say that you haven't replied to every poster.

I'm sure that's not because you wanted to make people feel excluded or didn't think what they said was valid.

So my point it's nothing personal just impossible to reply to everyone.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There we go, 2 posts and not a single response hahaha

just keep trying lad lol"

I'm not ignoring ya! x

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *eliWoman over a year ago

"Thank you all for your feedback, much appreciated, I certainly don't feel like an outsider now! I will take advice given on board. Have a Fab Saturday you sexy lot, I'm off to Eurekas later xx"

Enjoy Eurekas OP! We all feel like that at times - even if your post isn't commented on, you are noticed. Everyone makes the fora the great (sometimes bloody peculiar) discussion place it is.

Also, as an aside, your hair is amazing (not saying this to be sycophantic but I'm trying to embrace my natural a bit more and it's nice to see more women with it).

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP, don't forget that many 'regular' posters have met and are friends.

Just keep posting, get to organised socials, and you will be fine x"

This

And you haven't been ignored this time

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've (her) been posting on and off since we joined... sometimes you get a response, sometimes not.

I most definitely felt the same as you though, and wondered if my face would ever fit...still wondering tbh, but hey ho....I'm going to keep on at it! Lol.

Ps, you're a very stunning lady. I'm pretty sure you'll be getting plenty of attention before long xx

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *ost SockMan over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

I don’t think it’s these forums really - I think it’s just the way interaction on the internet works, really.

I actually find these forums way more friendly and supportive than others online. I’m not saying that to brown-nose people. It’s genuinely my experience over nine years.

I’ve posted magnificent insights that caused tumble to blow past and complete bloomin’ drivel that people have fallen over themselves to respond to.

That’s just how things are online, I feel.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *reat me rightWoman over a year ago

Rotherham

Same

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You may think that nobody notices or even cares but on the couple of occasions when I reached out for support or help everyone was totally amazing.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Don't take any notice as you have the same importance as everyone else. It's your forum.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Same "

I'm sorry you feel like that.

I think sometimes it depends on the kind of threads you post on.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *innie The MinxWoman over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"I don’t think it’s these forums really - I think it’s just the way interaction on the internet works, really.

I actually find these forums way more friendly and supportive than others online. I’m not saying that to brown-nose people. It’s genuinely my experience over nine years.

I’ve posted magnificent insights that caused tumble to blow past and complete bloomin’ drivel that people have fallen over themselves to respond to.

That’s just how things are online, I feel.

Totally this.

Also there's an element of personal perception as there a people in this thread who say they feel overlooked but in reality are on here most days getting responses.

Go figure.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very often by the time you click post, a few others have done so and your comments can easily be lost. It's not personal.

Try creating a thread. It's far more immersive.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *moothdickMan over a year ago

stoke

"There we go, 2 posts and not a single response hahaha

just keep trying lad lol"

Lol... oh I’m a trier

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Welcome to the forum OP. I hadn’t spotted you until now but I will from now on.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *moothdickMan over a year ago

stoke

"There we go, 2 posts and not a single response hahaha

just keep trying lad lol

I'm not ignoring ya! x"

Ta babe x

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *airytaleOfNewPorkMan over a year ago

Close By

Find threads where you've got an opinion or a shared interest... Contribute to the light hearted stuff.... I personally tend to avoid the threads that are controversial... I'm too old for all that shite

But it takes time to put across your personality... Stick with it, the forums always need more people

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The forums are a funny place OP. I've been here for years but often get ignored. I don't think it's anything personal. They move fast and people will always forge connections which lead to in jokes or underlying chat. Sometimes that can feel a bit clique.

Just jump in and join in. Don't let anyone put you off x

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Like being at school again

Precisely, I guess where I'm coming from if there's a discussion I try not to exclude anyone intentionally unless they're a complete tool!"

Well, that's me out, for starters!

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A few times I have tried to integrate in forum chats but I feel isolated within the forum as no one responds.

Just an observation that I find interesting. Maybe my face doesn't fit."

I get ignored regularly and have killed a couple of threads. I wouldn't worry about it, sometimes it just happens. It depends what your commenting on etc and how quick the thread moves. I tend to just lurk and only post on certain things but I've had some amazing support in here when it's really been needed. The games are always good fun.

Have a good night

Sugar x

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Find threads where you've got an opinion or a shared interest... Contribute to the light hearted stuff.... I personally tend to avoid the threads that are controversial... I'm too old for all that shite

But it takes time to put across your personality... Stick with it, the forums always need more people"

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

I have been here a while and sometimes my posts are replied to and sometimes not.

And that's fine, not everything I say will resonate with people but that doesn't stop me having my tuppence worth.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

"A few times I have tried to integrate in forum chats but I feel isolated within the forum as no one responds.

Just an observation that I find interesting. Maybe my face doesn't fit.

Have a good night

Sugar x"

When support is needed the people here are just lovely and even if it's just to listen, they do x

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A few times I have tried to integrate in forum chats but I feel isolated within the forum as no one responds.

Just an observation that I find interesting. Maybe my face doesn't fit.

Have a good night

Sugar x

When support is needed the people here are just lovely and even if it's just to listen, they do x"

They are indeed, definitely couldn't knock anyone for that. I had amazing help on here and through PM when it was really needed and still get it now. Made some great friends who just understood what I was going through and what I needed xx

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A few times I have tried to integrate in forum chats but I feel isolated within the forum as no one responds.

Just an observation that I find interesting. Maybe my face doesn't fit.lol hey loads don't fit just keep plugging or maybe go to MLS social

Only about 5% of regular forum users go to the MLS. "
76% of all statistics are inaccurate

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

"A few times I have tried to integrate in forum chats but I feel isolated within the forum as no one responds.

Just an observation that I find interesting. Maybe my face doesn't fit.

Have a good night

Sugar x

When support is needed the people here are just lovely and even if it's just to listen, they do x

I have too. I've even had help to fix my boiler.

What a great place this can be. So much diversity, empathy, fun and sexual freedom. you express yourself any way you want...I love it xx

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A few times I have tried to integrate in forum chats but I feel isolated within the forum as no one responds.

Just an observation that I find interesting. Maybe my face doesn't fit.

Have a good night

Sugar x

When support is needed the people here are just lovely and even if it's just to listen, they do x"
can i listen to your heart go bum titty bum?

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

"A few times I have tried to integrate in forum chats but I feel isolated within the forum as no one responds.

Just an observation that I find interesting. Maybe my face doesn't fit.

Have a good night

Sugar x

When support is needed the people here are just lovely and even if it's just to listen, they do xcan i listen to your heart go bum titty bum?

It may be a bit of a bum note

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

There is behaviour on here that excludes others, not just new contributors, there are threads aimed at specific preferences and specific body types to name but two, in which many contributors express their preference quite strongly insisting that they wouldn't meet or engage with anyone who doesn't do what they do. There are in jokes, people know each other from regular socials and because they've communicated away from the fora. If you don't fit with that it can feel that you're not acknowledged.

I wonder too if noticing certain people who seem to interact with each other more rather than all the ones (the majority) who are on the periphery makes it seem that you're excluded when in fact you're not.

Lastly what kind of interaction do you want? Some use the fora to flirt, some to discuss serious subjects, some for both.

I tend to view it like a bar. There will be groups of people, some know each other and won't particularly want me interrupting, some will be looking to network but only with people they find attractive, some are interested in chatting and exchanging views with lots of different people and some will sit quietly only speaking when they feel they've got something to say. You're not going to find your space on your first few visits but go in often enough and people will get to know you.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *Man1263Man over a year ago

Stockport

"It depends on if you have a different opinion on things to the regular posters

That's nonsense. The forums lean right wing, I'm a raving leftie. You just need to pick when it's worth arguing, how much capital you have and want to spend, etc."

No, the forums are left wing.

I mean full on left wing.

But thats shows how a forum works, opposing views

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A few times I have tried to integrate in forum chats but I feel isolated within the forum as no one responds.

Just an observation that I find interesting. Maybe my face doesn't fit.

Have a good night

Sugar x

When support is needed the people here are just lovely and even if it's just to listen, they do xcan i listen to your heart go bum titty bum?

It may be a bit of a bum note

"
well your bum rates highly

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By * Sophie xTV/TS over a year ago

Derby

"There is behaviour on here that excludes others, not just new contributors, there are threads aimed at specific preferences and specific body types to name but two, in which many contributors express their preference quite strongly insisting that they wouldn't meet or engage with anyone who doesn't do what they do. There are in jokes, people know each other from regular socials and because they've communicated away from the fora. If you don't fit with that it can feel that you're not acknowledged.

Lastly what kind of interaction do you want? Some use the fora to flirt, some to discuss serious subjects, some for both.

This exactly.

I'm not on many peoples radar on here and that's find, I'm well aware of how people work but happy when some unexpectedly interact.

It takes time and as in normal life a few knock backs too and then at some point you'll see others asking if they're being ignored and you'll realise you're on that inner circle that they're referring to.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *reya73Woman over a year ago

Whitley Bay

"A few times I have tried to integrate in forum chats but I feel isolated within the forum as no one responds.

Just an observation that I find interesting. Maybe my face doesn't fit."

Hi OP. Thanks for piping up!

There are many faces in the forums (actually less faces and more bodies). I don't think there's a judgement on who 'fits in' or not. It takes all sorts to make a medley, which is what this cross section of sexy society is!

Just stay yourself and keep butting in with your contribution. I can see how it could feel like that but if you want to play.. keep playing and don't take it personally. Go for the more 'inclusive' fun threads maybe, there's lots to choose from.

I'm fairly new and I just forced my way joining in with stuff and have made a few lovely connections X

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By * Sophie xTV/TS over a year ago

Derby

As Freya has just said, keep butting in and you'll find folks to chat with.

I've been using the forums for 2 weeks now and last night met up with someone for a great and highly unexpected night out.

Keep at it

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lots of good advice... I find it easier to interact on the fun threads x

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *uxom redCouple over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I've been posting for over 4 years and I still feel I'm not included at times.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *orraine999Woman over a year ago

Somewhere

"Lots of good advice... I find it easier to interact on the fun threads x"

I agree.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I've been here for a while and I still haven't broken in to the elite inner circle.

Jokes OP....there isn't one on here, just keep popping in. Welcome to Fab btw

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A few times I have tried to integrate in forum chats but I feel isolated within the forum as no one responds.

Just an observation that I find interesting. Maybe my face doesn't fit."

I still feel like that sometimes and I post a lot now after 4 ish months of being here. Takes a while. But people have got used to me and I chat to a few regularly now.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *undown40Couple over a year ago

Warwickshire

"Don't take any notice as you have the same importance as everyone else. It's your forum. "
Exactly, could not have put it better.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A few times I have tried to integrate in forum chats but I feel isolated within the forum as no one responds.

Just an observation that I find interesting. Maybe my face doesn't fit."

I get you but think this happens on all websites that have public forums.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *wisted999Man over a year ago

North Bucks

I think we all feel that way. When I started I used to kill off threads left right and centre. I don’t let it bother me now.

I just chip in when I feel like I want to.

Welcome to the forums and my hotlist.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A few times I have tried to integrate in forum chats but I feel isolated within the forum as no one responds.

Just an observation that I find interesting. Maybe my face doesn't fit."

The same things have been going though my mind too,so i feel relieved to have read this post. Not just me

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

"A few times I have tried to integrate in forum chats but I feel isolated within the forum as no one responds.

Just an observation that I find interesting. Maybe my face doesn't fit."
. You started this thread 2 hours ago and so far there have been over 80 replies.Whilst not all off them will be reply and quote about what you have said you have started a subject that has got forum users interested.I didn’t think anyone noticed what I had to say on the forums until I met some of the people at social and a club and I was overwhelmed by some of the kind words they said about me to my face.You have started a good thing don’t beat yourself up.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *oelDorianMan over a year ago

vanaheim

Eh it’s a normal thing for me really it’s more fun being the outsiders

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *appyhumper123Man over a year ago

hull

If your not in the clique, your just not in

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *uenevereWoman over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"A few times I have tried to integrate in forum chats but I feel isolated within the forum as no one responds.

Just an observation that I find interesting. Maybe my face doesn't fit."

You have to remember that the forum doesn't work like Facebook.

There's no like option.

Just because nobody responds to a post, that doesn't mean it hasn't been read.

Only a relatively small proportion of posts will get direct responses to them.

Just enjoy reading and contributing and don't get hung up on getting replies to your posts.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dont post to gain fans, maybe try that, post because you want to and you will fit in just fine.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I dont post to gain fans, maybe try that, post because you want to and you will fit in just fine."

Hit the nail on the head

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lots of good advice... I find it easier to interact on the fun threads x"

Me too

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A few times I have tried to integrate in forum chats but I feel isolated within the forum as no one responds.

Just an observation that I find interesting. Maybe my face doesn't fit.

You have to remember that the forum doesn't work like Facebook.

There's no like option.

Just because nobody responds to a post, that doesn't mean it hasn't been read.

Only a relatively small proportion of posts will get direct responses to them.

Just enjoy reading and contributing and don't get hung up on getting replies to your posts. "

Easy to say, it's hard to persevere when you feel like you're talking to yourself.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think it's that at all I think it's more that people respond to people they have met. Keep chatting you will break through

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lots of good advice... I find it easier to interact on the fun threads x

Me too

Your thread made me giggle earlier

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *oelDorianMan over a year ago

vanaheim

"A few times I have tried to integrate in forum chats but I feel isolated within the forum as no one responds.

Just an observation that I find interesting. Maybe my face doesn't fit.

You have to remember that the forum doesn't work like Facebook.

There's no like option.

Just because nobody responds to a post, that doesn't mean it hasn't been read.

Only a relatively small proportion of posts will get direct responses to them.

Just enjoy reading and contributing and don't get hung up on getting replies to your posts.

Easy to say, it's hard to persevere when you feel like you're talking to yourself."

Great point

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just don't understand why anyone would find that a problem having read the opinions of many regular forum contributors.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just pop in and out as you please. Although no longer meeting or playing the forums and forumites have been my light in some very dark times x

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A few times I have tried to integrate in forum chats but I feel isolated within the forum as no one responds.

Just an observation that I find interesting. Maybe my face doesn't fit.

You have to remember that the forum doesn't work like Facebook.

There's no like option.

Just because nobody responds to a post, that doesn't mean it hasn't been read.

Only a relatively small proportion of posts will get direct responses to them.

Just enjoy reading and contributing and don't get hung up on getting replies to your posts.

Easy to say, it's hard to persevere when you feel like you're talking to yourself.

Great point "

Direct questions, compliments & comments helped me a tad x

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

Forum threads die after 175 posts.

If an OP or any other poster tried to reply to every comment and everyone received the same quota pf responses they'd last around five minutes and fill up before many had a chance to post something.

Would be a sad state of affairs.

If you read a random set of forum posts many are full of nothing more than a previous quote and a thumbs up. Many are ongoing references to a single reply or comment. Few are a full set of 175 unique comments.

The best way to enjoy the forums is to just post what you want, when you want to, reply to anything you feel needs/deserves a repy (that will contribute to the discussion) and simply accept that many comments will just be read by others and not responded to.

Probably like this one.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

At some first I assumed the site was hiding my posts because I hadn't unlocked a special achievement or something. It happens to us all, just keep posting

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It depends on if you have a different opinion on things to the regular posters

Doesn't cause me any problems.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Posting in forums is like trying to fit in anywhere else in life, you will get 'cliques', people who know each other and like to stick to their established group, friendly people, bullies, etc.

It's no different to being in any social situation (apart from the 'keyboard warrior'/anonimity that afflicts some to say things they wouldn't in person).

You have to put the effort in and sometimes have to know how and when to avoid the 'staff' and their friends as they will likely stick together as is normal human nature.

It's never going to be a level playing field but where in life is?

Put as much effort in as you want to get out or choose to stick to parts of the site that you like and can get on with. Chat is the same, put effort in, get to know people and you will likely become part of the 'in-crowd'. Put little effort in and you'll not get much response.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It depends on if you have a different opinion on things to the regular posters

Doesn't cause me any problems."

Same. The more I read the forum the less I want to fit

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

"It depends on if you have a different opinion on things to the regular posters

Doesn't cause me any problems.

Same. The more I read the forum the less I want to fit"

I think that's it...not to fit in but be yourself.