Not naming names or trying to be rude... disclaimer. Had a social meet on monday all went fine and had naughty chats via whatsapp after. However yesterday I recieved a message saying I'm too introvert and inexperienced for said person and for a swingers site. Obviously felt rejected but what defines experience? Anyone else feel the same or had similar feedback ? Re being introvert ?   |
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It probably means that the person you were speaking to was looking for you to be ok with a particular thing or for you to have a particular attitude (e.g. more forward) and, when they didn't find it, decided to ditch you.
My advice: DON'T CHANGE A GODDAMN THING. We know what happens when you try to please everyone... |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Not naming names or trying to be rude... disclaimer. Had a social meet on monday all went fine and had naughty chats via whatsapp after. However yesterday I recieved a message saying I'm too introvert and inexperienced for said person and for a swingers site. Obviously felt rejected but what defines experience? Anyone else feel the same or had similar feedback ? Re being introvert ? "
I suspect he's just sugar coating a lack of attraction. People often struggle to say what they really mean and look for an easy 'out' that is less likely to potentially hurt someone's feelings.
Some of the best meets I ever had (including early days with Fox) were with people who would happily confess to being inexperienced and introverted.
A far better way to be than someone who thinks they know it all.
Don't worry. The next will most likely be totally different.
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"It probably means that the person you were speaking to was looking for you to be ok with a particular thing or for you to have a particular attitude (e.g. more forward) and, when they didn't find it, decided to ditch you.
My advice: DON'T CHANGE A GODDAMN THING. We know what happens when you try to please everyone..."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not naming names or trying to be rude... disclaimer. Had a social meet on monday all went fine and had naughty chats via whatsapp after. However yesterday I recieved a message saying I'm too introvert and inexperienced for said person and for a swingers site. Obviously felt rejected but what defines experience? Anyone else feel the same or had similar feedback ? Re being introvert ? "
What guide were they using to measure your experience against? You have to consider that some people will use all kinds of excuses to let someone down rather than just saying the truth, but should that be his genuine reason I’m interested to know how he came to that conclusion.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Oh my god, she sounds so rude. I love how she is telling you you shouldn't be on fab like she makes the rules  there is absolutely nothing wrong with you being on here. You're not the first introvert to have a profile on Fab and you won't be the last. You do you matey. |
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"Not naming names or trying to be rude... disclaimer. Had a social meet on monday all went fine and had naughty chats via whatsapp after. However yesterday I recieved a message saying I'm too introvert and inexperienced for said person and for a swingers site. Obviously felt rejected but what defines experience? Anyone else feel the same or had similar feedback ? Re being introvert ? "
Who ever said that to you is insulting.
It is not being let down lightly( as suggested by some ) for someone to say you are inexperienced and especially insulting to say you are too inexperienced for a swingers site.
What they have done is tried to make themselves look too sophisticated for you. They are attempting to generate a false image of sexual sophistication.
Don't give it another thought. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Fully paid up member of the introvert club and absolutely useless at small talk. I'm such a catch
Definitely is room for us in the world of swinging 
Well you do have a very nice ball "
Not too introverted to get it out |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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I sometimes get that but people that know me well
Laugh and say they can’t shut me up!!!!
For me I like to suss people out a bit before opening up. Sometimes I get told I look like a miserable twat, it’s not but I am just being reserved.
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By *B69Woman
over a year ago
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Some say my facial pictures I look too innocent to be here and when I have a meet they say they think I’m kinkier than they thought, you can’t win sometimes, never doubt yourself over other people’s judgments. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Everyone forms an opinion on others you may not agree with it but that's their opinion not everyone's the best thing is just to leave them to it and move on. They may be right they may not but someone else may well think differently. |
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It will always be a subjective opinion, so has limited use. However, your own reasons for being here are up to you, as well as how you use fab. These are the important things here.
When people reject, it's poor form to give much other than a respectful no thanks. |
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