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Punching above my weight

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So I’ve been on and off here for 5 years, and every one of my meets have been 10/10 men, all that are way above my league, but when it comes to real life these type of men don’t bat an eyelid, is this because us bbw’s are Fantasys? Anyone else come across this girls?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope. I don’t believe in ‘leagues’ or whatever. I don’t feel I’m below, or above anyone.

However - (and this isn’t a dig at you, I haven’t looked at your profile, I don’t know what you look like etc). Some men on fab will meet anyone, because they’re desperate. Although, I do find it’s not the 10/10s who do this.

Don’t put yourself down so much

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

The simple answer is that there are about fifteen men here for every woman, which is due to the fact that there are far more men than women interested in no strings sex.

Given those ratios, it follows that less conventionally attractive women can attract more conventionally attractive men.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I’m just your average jane nothing to brag about but I get a lot of messages from men who could have anyone they want, so just wondered was it more of a bbw Fantasys that they are wanting to fulfill if u get me?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Definitely agree. Individually we don't get a 2nd glance in the street, but we've played with some beautiful couples

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

They can't get "everything they want". They want no strings sex and a comparatively small number of women are up for that, hence those women who are have the pick of the men.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So I’ve been on and off here for 5 years, and every one of my meets have been 10/10 men, all that are way above my league, but when it comes to real life these type of men don’t bat an eyelid, is this because us bbw’s are Fantasys? Anyone else come across this girls?"

Some men ( not all) will want to have sex on here nsa, and not really bother about certain things, but in real life as such they wouldn’t go there. Just life I guess.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I never get any attention in "real life"... It's always been my friends who I socialise with getting all the male attention... So found it comforting men messaging me on here. But just because I don't get any advances in real life... Doesn't make me desperate for any cock.

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By *VineMan over a year ago

The right place

In real life there aren’t 10-20 men to every woman either!

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

They can't get "everything they want". They want no strings sex and a comparatively small number of women are up for that, hence those women who are have the pick of the men. "

I duno, I've been travelling alot and meeting so many different people... And it seems women are sex NSA hungry as the men. Did shock me and backed up why men are such pigs on dating apps

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Same happens to me. I pull super models on here and I've had almost every woman in hot pics. I've had to turn lots aways until my balls recovered. Its not like that in reality though.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Did you actually meet them in person and had sex? I had loads of cam chats but noone actually committed to meeting

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

They can't get "everything they want". They want no strings sex and a comparatively small number of women are up for that, hence those women who are have the pick of the men.

I duno, I've been travelling alot and meeting so many different people... And it seems women are sex NSA hungry as the men. Did shock me and backed up why men are such pigs on dating apps

Like I say there's about fifteen men to every woman on here, hence this type of sexual behaviour is overwhelmingky a male thing and hence why women, whatever they look like, get so much attention.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

This kind of comparison of people I find personally unhelpful. I get it, and I've certainly been guilty of it, but the more time I spend on the scene - and the happier and more confident I grow in my own skin - the more I realise it can set up unhealthy dynamics. It has cost me and in 2020 I'm stepping away from it.

Person A wants to meet person B. Person B wants to meet person A. Equals.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They can't get "everything they want". They want no strings sex and a comparatively small number of women are up for that, hence those women who are have the pick of the men.

I duno, I've been travelling alot and meeting so many different people... And it seems women are sex NSA hungry as the men. Did shock me and backed up why men are such pigs on dating apps

Like I say there's about fifteen men to every woman on here, hence this type of sexual behaviour is overwhelmingky a male thing and hence why women, whatever they look like, get so much attention. "

I agree 8/10 just want sex!

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By *ex HolesMan over a year ago

Up North

They can't get "everything they want". They want no strings sex and a comparatively small number of women are up for that, hence those women who are have the pick of the men.

I duno, I've been travelling alot and meeting so many different people... And it seems women are sex NSA hungry as the men. Did shock me and backed up why men are such pigs on dating apps

Like I say there's about fifteen men to every woman on here, hence this type of sexual behaviour is overwhelmingky a male thing and hence why women, whatever they look like, get so much attention.

I agree 8/10 just want sex! "

No you’re wrong. It’s more

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They can't get "everything they want". They want no strings sex and a comparatively small number of women are up for that, hence those women who are have the pick of the men.

I duno, I've been travelling alot and meeting so many different people... And it seems women are sex NSA hungry as the men. Did shock me and backed up why men are such pigs on dating apps

Like I say there's about fifteen men to every woman on here, hence this type of sexual behaviour is overwhelmingky a male thing and hence why women, whatever they look like, get so much attention.

I agree 8/10 just want sex!

For you!

No you’re wrong. It’s more

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They can't get "everything they want". They want no strings sex and a comparatively small number of women are up for that, hence those women who are have the pick of the men.

I duno, I've been travelling alot and meeting so many different people... And it seems women are sex NSA hungry as the men. Did shock me and backed up why men are such pigs on dating apps

Like I say there's about fifteen men to every woman on here, hence this type of sexual behaviour is overwhelmingky a male thing and hence why women, whatever they look like, get so much attention.

I agree 8/10 just want sex!

No you’re wrong. It’s more

For you I’m wrong !

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

They can't get "everything they want". They want no strings sex and a comparatively small number of women are up for that, hence those women who are have the pick of the men.

I duno, I've been travelling alot and meeting so many different people... And it seems women are sex NSA hungry as the men. Did shock me and backed up why men are such pigs on dating apps

Like I say there's about fifteen men to every woman on here, hence this type of sexual behaviour is overwhelmingky a male thing and hence why women, whatever they look like, get so much attention.

I agree 8/10 just want sex! "

Indeed it's a site where women post pics of themselves with their bits out and so on and explicitly say they want sex. Of course you're going to get it filled with men who just want sex :_)

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By *ex HolesMan over a year ago

Up North

They can't get "everything they want". They want no strings sex and a comparatively small number of women are up for that, hence those women who are have the pick of the men.

I duno, I've been travelling alot and meeting so many different people... And it seems women are sex NSA hungry as the men. Did shock me and backed up why men are such pigs on dating apps

Like I say there's about fifteen men to every woman on here, hence this type of sexual behaviour is overwhelmingky a male thing and hence why women, whatever they look like, get so much attention.

I agree 8/10 just want sex!

No you’re wrong. It’s more

For you I’m wrong !"

Your wrong on both counts

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I 100% agree. I get loads of attention and offers from 10/10 but in real life lucky to pull a 3/10!! I often think I’m the novelty bang! Tall, plus size, adventurous woman good enough for amazing sex but not relationships.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's the ratio!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m sorry but I as a woman will say most men on here will have sex regardless of most things, if they find you “ok” looking or an “ ok body” that’s fine. But looking for dating or a relationship is completely different. 100% a lot of men wouldn’t date woman they’ve met on here for sex. ME INCLUDED probably

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I pull the same guys in real life as I do here. Take that however you like. But what I’m saying is I can pull obscenely handsome guys both here and the real world

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By *og-ManMan over a year ago

somewhere

Bit of a challenge to look at all profiles pics of the women and couples that posted but as we say in Ireland...would ye ever feck off and cop on ...you're all rides

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I pull the same guys in real life as I do here. Take that however you like. But what I’m saying is I can pull obscenely handsome guys both here and the real world

Yes so can I , but In general I find if men know your on here or meet on here they do look at you different.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m not saying I am looking to date off here. I enjoy my Fab life. But I’m saying that in real life men that look a particular way would not bat an eyelid at me!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Did you actually meet them in person and had sex? I had loads of cam chats but noone actually committed to meeting "

Hi Hun yes I did

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m not saying I am looking to date off here. I enjoy my Fab life. But I’m saying that in real life men that look a particular way would not bat an eyelid at me! "

I’m not disagreeing, what I’m saying is men have different standards on here (some)

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

I think women would have a much better time on here if they appreciated that for the vast majority of guys on here the women on here are pretty much interchangeable. In other words they'll fuck anyone whose up for it.

The good news is that, as the OP says, if you want hot sex with hot guys, the world is your oyster. As long as you don't have any illusions

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

They can't get "everything they want". They want no strings sex and a comparatively small number of women are up for that, hence those women who are have the pick of the men.

I duno, I've been travelling alot and meeting so many different people... And it seems women are sex NSA hungry as the men. Did shock me and backed up why men are such pigs on dating apps

Like I say there's about fifteen men to every woman on here, hence this type of sexual behaviour is overwhelmingky a male thing and hence why women, whatever they look like, get so much attention. "
m

I’m not speaking about ratio I’m saying are they only meeting me to fulfill a fantasy of being with a bbw

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I never get any attention in "real life"... It's always been my friends who I socialise with getting all the male attention... So found it comforting men messaging me on here. But just because I don't get any advances in real life... Doesn't make me desperate for any cock.

Really, no attention at all?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have had attention in real life aswell as on here, but agree it does 10fold on here.

I put this down to the sex aspect aswell as societal judgement.

A guy might love BBWs but scared his mates will rip into him in the real world if seen with them.

That is more down to keeping up an image than what they actually want x

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By *odd4funnMan over a year ago

Walthamstow Leyton

Hi all Would just like to add my ten peneth In my mind the site is for people who are looking for more than just a shXX

well would hope so, me i have to have a connection to enjoy the eve which i find difficult through emails etc Unless i feel that there is a little spark that makes me feel there is a want in the messages not just sex but a desire to meet and want a little more,friendship not relationship and the rest will hopefully follow Am i wrong Who knows it works for me

Rod

Ps you can pull me to bits now LOL

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

They can't get "everything they want". They want no strings sex and a comparatively small number of women are up for that, hence those women who are have the pick of the men.

I duno, I've been travelling alot and meeting so many different people... And it seems women are sex NSA hungry as the men. Did shock me and backed up why men are such pigs on dating apps

Like I say there's about fifteen men to every woman on here, hence this type of sexual behaviour is overwhelmingky a male thing and hence why women, whatever they look like, get so much attention. m

I’m not speaking about ratio I’m saying are they only meeting me to fulfill a fantasy of being with a bbw"

No. They are meeting you because you are a woman open to having no strings sex.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I pull the same guys in real life as I do here. Take that however you like. But what I’m saying is I can pull obscenely handsome guys both here and the real world

Yes so can I , but In general I find if men know your on here or meet on here they do look at you different. "

1 million percent this, back at the end of 2017 beginning of 2018 I was meeting a guy and he even said to me I wish I’d met you on a night out instead of here!

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By *ex HolesMan over a year ago

Up North

A shag is a shag when you’re running through a small dry spell

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is no leagues there is only zooooooool

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A guy might love BBWs but scared his mates will rip into him in the real world if seen with them.

That is more down to keeping up an image than what they actually want x

Yeah I think this is reality of it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The good news is that, as the OP says, if you want hot sex with hot guys, the world is your oyster. As long as you don't have any illusions

Yep I agree. I have no disillusiones, I am as selfish as they are when I feel like hot sex, selfish yes, .. do I care ,, no x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I pull the same guys in real life as I do here. Take that however you like. But what I’m saying is I can pull obscenely handsome guys both here and the real world

Yes so can I , but In general I find if men know your on here or meet on here they do look at you different.

1 million percent this, back at the end of 2017 beginning of 2018 I was meeting a guy and he even said to me I wish I’d met you on a night out instead of here!"

Yep,, don’t care what anyone says. Been there same as you

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

The good news is that, as the OP says, if you want hot sex with hot guys, the world is your oyster. As long as you don't have any illusions

Yep I agree. I have no disillusiones, I am as selfish as they are when I feel like hot sex, selfish yes, .. do I care ,, no x"

That's a very healthy attitude

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A shag is a shag when you’re running through a small dry spell

Small dry spell, I'm just half way across the Sahara and I'm sure I can see the Gobi at the end!

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman over a year ago

kinky land

I believe that in chatting with someone online you get to know them differently than you would in everyday life.

When you just see and 'score' someone in passing you have No idea of personality.

Don't put yourselves down

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A shag is a shag when you’re running through a small dry spell

Nah for some any hold is a goal but I can't be arsed with any goal.

If I was that way I could of met quite a few women from here.

But seriously I'm a fussy bastard so il probably never pull a 10 and I will remain fab sexless.

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By *uriousscouserWoman over a year ago

Wirral

"This kind of comparison of people I find personally unhelpful. I get it, and I've certainly been guilty of it, but the more time I spend on the scene - and the happier and more confident I grow in my own skin - the more I realise it can set up unhealthy dynamics. It has cost me and in 2020 I'm stepping away from it.

Person A wants to meet person B. Person B wants to meet person A. Equals."

this.

I've only met one man on here who thought he was better than me. Since I tend to attract the same sort of people in real life as I do online I didn't even think about it until afterwards, and then the very idea of him thinking he was slumming it with me proper made me laugh.

I am nobody's bargain basement, nobody's easy target. I love sex but I'm not desperate enough to be with anyone who doesn't want to be with me.

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By *ex HolesMan over a year ago

Up North

"A shag is a shag when you’re running through a small dry spell

Nah for some any hold is a goal but I can't be arsed with any goal.

If I was that way I could of met quite a few women from here.

But seriously I'm a fussy bastard so il probably never pull a 10 and I will remain fab sexless. "

We need to go for a pint brother

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A shag is a shag when you’re running through a small dry spell

Nah for some any hold is a goal but I can't be arsed with any goal.

If I was that way I could of met quite a few women from here.

But seriously I'm a fussy bastard so il probably never pull a 10 and I will remain fab sexless.

We need to go for a pint brother

If you come down here to have a pint with him I’ll come and have a bag of bacon fries and an appletiser, he only lives up the road from me, he’ll pick me up.

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

Why assume men aren't actually attracted to bbw's, curvier women or larger ladies?

Not every guys dream is a stick thin supermodel and not every woman gets wetter than an otters pocket at the sight of Henry Cavill.

Ok. The second bit may be bullshit .....but some guys actually like larger than average women. Everyone's boat floats differently.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Person A wants to meet person B. Person B wants to meet person A. Equals.

this.

I am nobody's bargain basement, nobody's easy target. I love sex but I'm not desperate enough to be with anyone who doesn't want to be with me."

That’s fine you meet men who you think will like you regardless, still doesn’t take away from the OP point about some men on here only being on here for sex

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By *arlo82Couple over a year ago

the gym and random places

From what I've heard men say a lot of it on here is them indulging in fantasies. Not what they go for IRL. That's a quote not my words

Hear it time and time again. I wouldnt take it to heart. People are fickle and self absorbed on the whole and like to feed their fantasies. Enjoy your 10s and smile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m not speaking about ratio I’m saying are they only meeting me to fulfill a fantasy of being with a bbw"

For some this will be true, but it's a mixture of most of the points above. People find all sorts of things sexy/attractive so if it sits well with you then carpe diem is what I'd say to yah. Enjoy yourself

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By *ex HolesMan over a year ago

Up North

"A shag is a shag when you’re running through a small dry spell

Nah for some any hold is a goal but I can't be arsed with any goal.

If I was that way I could of met quite a few women from here.

But seriously I'm a fussy bastard so il probably never pull a 10 and I will remain fab sexless.

We need to go for a pint brother

If you come down here to have a pint with him I’ll come and have a bag of bacon fries and an appletiser, he only lives up the road from me, he’ll pick me up. "

Deal. I’ll bring the strawberry twirls

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

Person A wants to meet person B. Person B wants to meet person A. Equals.

this.

I am nobody's bargain basement, nobody's easy target. I love sex but I'm not desperate enough to be with anyone who doesn't want to be with me.

That’s fine you meet men who you think will like you regardless, still doesn’t take away from the OP point about some men on here only being on here for sex "

Obviously men will try to convince women they think they are special to them as they are more likely to get a shag that way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Person A wants to meet person B. Person B wants to meet person A. Equals.

this.

I am nobody's bargain basement, nobody's easy target. I love sex but I'm not desperate enough to be with anyone who doesn't want to be with me.

That’s fine you meet men who you think will like you regardless, still doesn’t take away from the OP point about some men on here only being on here for sex

Obviously men will try to convince women they think they are special to them as they are more likely to get a shag that way. "

Yep

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By *oneytMan over a year ago

Guildford

Lets not forget that this site is about no strings uncomplicated sex and fullfilling fantasies.You need to be on the same wavelength for about 10 mins.

In a relationship this 10 min period can be done without .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some interesting replies! I myself would never see someone I didn't find attractive - it's too much like hard work. One of my patients has a VERY beautiful wife and he was telling me how hard it has been, being with a partner so gorgeous. He has always worried she will leave him for someone else. Someone 'better looking'. I've since discovered that the guy I fancied is as mad as a box of frogs and has some strange habits. So I will stick to just using chemistry, not looks, to decide.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some interesting replies! I myself would never see someone I didn't find attractive - it's too much like hard work. One of my patients has a VERY beautiful wife and he was telling me how hard it has been, being with a partner so gorgeous. He has always worried she will leave him for someone else. Someone 'better looking'. I've since discovered that the guy I fancied is as mad as a box of frogs and has some strange habits. So I will stick to just using chemistry, not looks, to decide. "

It’s different when your looking for a “partner “ or someone to date. For just sex, most men (and woman) will put aside them other things and just have sex. Different ball game when looking to date, compatibility, social skills, a lot of other extramities come into play.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A shag is a shag when you’re running through a small dry spell

Nah for some any hold is a goal but I can't be arsed with any goal.

If I was that way I could of met quite a few women from here.

But seriously I'm a fussy bastard so il probably never pull a 10 and I will remain fab sexless.

We need to go for a pint brother

If you come down here to have a pint with him I’ll come and have a bag of bacon fries and an appletiser, he only lives up the road from me, he’ll pick me up.

Deal. I’ll bring the strawberry twirls

Party on

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Person A wants to meet person B. Person B wants to meet person A. Equals.

this.

I am nobody's bargain basement, nobody's easy target. I love sex but I'm not desperate enough to be with anyone who doesn't want to be with me.

That’s fine you meet men who you think will like you regardless, still doesn’t take away from the OP point about some men on here only being on here for sex

Obviously men will try to convince women they think they are special to them as they are more likely to get a shag that way. "

I see through that.

I'm looking for sex, too. Be friendly, be respectful, don't look down on me. You do that, we're fine.

Both putting me on a pedestal and dragging me down will get (general) you nowhere.

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Its nothing to do with size. A shags a shag sorry to sound so blunt but its the way a lot of guys roll.

Happens to most of us, most of the time. You just have to except it for what it is.

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

"A shag is a shag when you’re running through a small dry spell

Nah for some any hold is a goal but I can't be arsed with any goal.

If I was that way I could of met quite a few women from here.

But seriously I'm a fussy bastard so il probably never pull a 10 and I will remain fab sexless. "

But if you're not a "10" yourself why would you only expect to meet other 10s?

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

I wouldn't over-analyse it OP. As long as you're having fun and the men you have sex with are enjoying it too then everyone is happy x

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I wouldn't over-analyse it OP. As long as you're having fun and the men you have sex with are enjoying it too then everyone is happy x "

Yes. Meet people who want to meet you, who seem to like you. Enjoy it for what it is.

Overthinking is bad (says the hypocrite in 1950s clothing

)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Its nothing to do with size. A shags a shag sorry to sound so blunt but its the way a lot of guys roll.

Happens to most of us, most of the time. You just have to except it for what it is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A shag is a shag when you’re running through a small dry spell

Nah for some any hold is a goal but I can't be arsed with any goal.

If I was that way I could of met quite a few women from here.

But seriously I'm a fussy bastard so il probably never pull a 10 and I will remain fab sexless. "

If your fussy why would you not pull a 10? Makes no sense. So you settle for less? Or are you putting yourself on a pedestal?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nobody should be above your league you should set your bar high and take nothing less xx

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By *ex HolesMan over a year ago

Up North

"A shag is a shag when you’re running through a small dry spell

Nah for some any hold is a goal but I can't be arsed with any goal.

If I was that way I could of met quite a few women from here.

But seriously I'm a fussy bastard so il probably never pull a 10 and I will remain fab sexless.

If your fussy why would you not pull a 10? Makes no sense. So you settle for less? Or are you putting yourself on a pedestal? "

10’s are a shit shag anyway. The lower the division the better the sex

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By *antsguy007Man over a year ago

Whiteley

I have managed to meet some lovely couples and single lassies that I don't think I would have been able to in real life.

Just goes to show that fab isn't all about looks

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

Can't say the men I've met on here are any more or less attractive than those I've met other ways. They've been older through here though but I've enjoyed that.

I have managed to do remarkably well for myself when it comes to women though

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

what makes you say that fab isn't real life?

We get a lot of massages from men in their 20s, I don't kid myself that these guys want anything other than sex and to fulfil a fantasy of meeting an older woman or that they would approach me in a bar. Fab is real life but for many the same rules don't apply to fab life

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

I dont get looked at on here, never mind on the street

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I dont get looked at on here, never mind on the street

Yes you do

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"I dont get looked at on here, never mind on the street

Yes you do

Kind of you to say x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I dont get looked at on here, never mind on the street

Take your two sisters with you

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"I dont get looked at on here, never mind on the street

Take your two sisters with you

That's where I've been going wrong!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A shag is a shag when you’re running through a small dry spell

Nah for some any hold is a goal but I can't be arsed with any goal.

If I was that way I could of met quite a few women from here.

But seriously I'm a fussy bastard so il probably never pull a 10 and I will remain fab sexless.

But if you're not a "10" yourself why would you only expect to meet other 10s?"

I don't expect to meet only tens. There's no harm in trying though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A shag is a shag when you’re running through a small dry spell

Nah for some any hold is a goal but I can't be arsed with any goal.

If I was that way I could of met quite a few women from here.

But seriously I'm a fussy bastard so il probably never pull a 10 and I will remain fab sexless.

If your fussy why would you not pull a 10? Makes no sense. So you settle for less? Or are you putting yourself on a pedestal? "

I didn't mean that I wouldn't pull a 10 if a had the chance.

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"A shag is a shag when you’re running through a small dry spell

Nah for some any hold is a goal but I can't be arsed with any goal.

If I was that way I could of met quite a few women from here.

But seriously I'm a fussy bastard so il probably never pull a 10 and I will remain fab sexless.

But if you're not a "10" yourself why would you only expect to meet other 10s?

I don't expect to meet only tens. There's no harm in trying though. "

I only meet after eights. Mmm minty.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I dont get looked at on here, never mind on the street

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smoking hot xx

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By *orksRockerMan over a year ago

Bradford

I think this as a rule to EVERYONE I meet. Is there why I consider every first meet a social and treat it like one. No pressure, no uncomfortable additions that may cloud a nice meet.

If something occurs it would always have to be someone else to make the first move.. Its how I am.

Made some lovely friends this way though.

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

Did you ask the gents why ? If not why not ?

Realistically, They're the only ones who can answer your question.

Everyone else is guessing.

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By *logger and Rainbow-AliceCouple over a year ago

Bridgend

I totally get what you mean OP. On here I like get 100s of likes on a photo I put up. If I put the same photo up on a BDSM site which im not allowed to name lol I get about 5 likes.

Its always baffles me x

Ive also never had men give me a 2nd glance outside but on here im inundated x

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By *heLaserGuyMan over a year ago

Coventry

I still think it all comes into play, you've got to click or it's a no go for me. For long term yes that does matter more, but even for a fb or fwb arrangement there still need to be some common ground.

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By *heLaserGuyMan over a year ago

Coventry

As many have said, fab life and real life are very different.

I'm no where near a ten, but I'm confident I'm not a low number either, in real life I don't get a second glance what so ever.

In fab I've met some incredible ladies, never the same in real life unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Punch and enjoy, don’t ask yourself too many questions

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think the NSA aspect has a lot to do with it. Everyone wants to have fun with someone they feel a connection with. I think it can get complicated when people start wanting some kind of relationship from things. It’s that point when lust turns into love which can make things go too deep too quick I guess

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A 10/10 to you op could be a 1/10 to the next women.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

Person A wants to meet person B. Person B wants to meet person A. Equals.

this.

I am nobody's bargain basement, nobody's easy target. I love sex but I'm not desperate enough to be with anyone who doesn't want to be with me.

That’s fine you meet men who you think will like you regardless, still doesn’t take away from the OP point about some men on here only being on here for sex

Obviously men will try to convince women they think they are special to them as they are more likely to get a shag that way.

I see through that.

I'm looking for sex, too. Be friendly, be respectful, don't look down on me. You do that, we're fine.

Both putting me on a pedestal and dragging me down will get (general) you nowhere."

That's what I call the Tragedy of Fabs. Because of the ratios, women and men, in general and on and the whole want different things.

Because the average man has, on average, 14 competitors for every woman, he basically has to take what he can get if he wants any sex at all, if will generally shag any woman who will have him.

On the other hand, given that a woman has, on average, 15 men competing for her affections she can afford to be choosy and pick out only a man she perceives as liking her specifically and not just seeing her in the "any hole is a goal" way.

Thus, men have in incentive to try to convince women they believe they are special, whilst women, because they know that, have an incentive to suspect men of lying in order to get a shag. Hence the Tragedy of Fabs.

Obviously, these are just broad tendencies and not everyone fits them. Some women will shag anyone and some men are choosy. However broadly and on the whole, I think they apply.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

I often felt like i was being fetishized for my tattoos.

Turns out you can't have lust without sexualising someone, and you can't have sex without lust.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You look gorgeous so don’t know why you wouldn’t get any attention when your out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To me it’s there soul of the lady not looks or size it’s about the two of us haveing that spark it the dark is there then that’s what matters

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have (fab) men telling me I’m beautiful, gorgeous, stunning etc. I don’t believe a word of it. I’m not bad looking- I’m even better looking with makeup! But I’m not beautiful and I don’t kid myself that I am.

Which is exactly why I make a point of not playing with 10/10 men - you know the sort: body of an Adonis, face of an angel. All designer stubble and hard abs. Those sort of men don’t want me; They want a hole. They want an opportunity. Such men don’t truly find me attractive. They can do much better than me. So I won’t play with them. I’m sure they are lovely people, but I respect myself a little more than to be someone else’s desperation shag.

Anna

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

15 to 1 seems to be the quoted ratio of men to women but I personally think it's more 30/40 plus to 1 ... of active profiles that are looking to meet ..

With those odds the men need to have a lot going for them and the women just need to say yes..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I feel like the women I've met on here have punched above their weight

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"15 to 1 seems to be the quoted ratio of men to women but I personally think it's more 30/40 plus to 1 ... of active profiles that are looking to meet ..

With those odds the men need to have a lot going for them and the women just need to say yes..

More like 75/1 as a lot are fake female profiles

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"I have (fab) men telling me I’m beautiful, gorgeous, stunning etc. I don’t believe a word of it. I’m not bad looking- I’m even better looking with makeup! But I’m not beautiful and I don’t kid myself that I am.

Anna "

Blimey! Do you really think that?

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By *ampant Lion34Man over a year ago

East Midlands

"Definitely agree. Individually we don't get a 2nd glance in the street, but we've played with some beautiful couples

Your kidding me right you don't get a 2nd glance in the street your gorgeous. They must be blind then.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Anna

Blimey! Do you really think that?

I used to think that, now I suss them out. If they can show - or keep up a pretence* - that they see me as a person not a hole, I proceed. If not, not.

* Ultimately I don't care that much as long as we both have a good time.

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By *ampant Lion34Man over a year ago

East Midlands

My 10 pence. I find it's the person you connect with not just the looks. All the ladies I've met from here and chat to are well punching for what I look like. I dont have a preference if i like the eyes or lips then that's enough for me on a visual attraction but it's the chat and banter that makes it really.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My 10 pence. I find it's the person you connect with not just the looks. All the ladies I've met from here and chat to are well punching for what I look like. I dont have a preference if i like the eyes or lips then that's enough for me on a visual attraction but it's the chat and banter that makes it really. "

But no matter how nice someone is...are you going to shag them because they make you laugh ? Or because you want a shag

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How is it you dont get attention in real life if I seen you out an about I would say hi, sexy as fuck

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By *ampant Lion34Man over a year ago

East Midlands

But no matter how nice someone is...are you going to shag them because they make you laugh ? Or because you want a shag"

I'm not desperate for a shag so I'd rather take the effort and time to build that little connection.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think a lot of fellas on here speak Fab language in the hope women read their comments and think..what a nice guy...he's not just looking for a bunk up..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Anna

Blimey! Do you really think that?

Yep. Do you think that’s harsh? Or cynical?

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

"I think a lot of fellas on here speak Fab language in the hope women read their comments and think..what a nice guy...he's not just looking for a bunk up.. "

The cynic in me says that if you just want a shag from a woman the best way to get one is to convince her you want more than a shag...

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

Anna

Blimey! Do you really think that?

Yep. Do you think that’s harsh? Or cynical? "

I think you're wrong insofar as you say they don't find you attractive. If they want to fuck you, it follows they do find you sexually attractive.

Does it really matter if they might find some other women more attractive?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think a lot of fellas on here speak Fab language in the hope women read their comments and think..what a nice guy...he's not just looking for a bunk up..

The cynic in me says that if you just want a shag from a woman the best way to get one is to convince her you want more than a shag... "

In general dating.. that's definitely the case.. on here its probably 50/50 as a lot of women here already have partners.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

"I think a lot of fellas on here speak Fab language in the hope women read their comments and think..what a nice guy...he's not just looking for a bunk up..

The cynic in me says that if you just want a shag from a woman the best way to get one is to convince her you want more than a shag...

In general dating.. that's definitely the case.. on here its probably 50/50 as a lot of women here already have partners."

True, but most women still don't want to feel that you essentially want them because they have a willing vagina.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think alot of men are just fulfilling a bbw fantasy on here, but hey I'm fulfilling mine to, in real life people just accept and sorry to say but bigger women I've been told by many men are more compliant and grateful, personally I think this is bollocks, I'm a picky fucker and won't accept anything less than what I want

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think a lot of fellas on here speak Fab language in the hope women read their comments and think..what a nice guy...he's not just looking for a bunk up..

The cynic in me says that if you just want a shag from a woman the best way to get one is to convince her you want more than a shag...

In general dating.. that's definitely the case.. on here its probably 50/50 as a lot of women here already have partners.

True, but most women still don't want to feel that you essentially want them because they have a willing vagina. "

Yes your right, I would think with couples profiles the lady still wants to feel desired and attractive but maybe not needing the flowers and hand holding...a lot of the single female profiles I've read seem to indicate they are looking for more than NSA but really would like a FWB or FB...which seems to be code for some sort of boyfriend....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Anna

Blimey! Do you really think that?

Yep. Do you think that’s harsh? Or cynical?

I think you're wrong insofar as you say they don't find you attractive. If they want to fuck you, it follows they do find you sexually attractive.

Does it really matter if they might find some other women more attractive? "

Some people can fuck someone that they don’t find attractive. It happens a lot. I want to fuck people who want to fuck ME. Not just those that want to fuck. It doesn’t matter if they find other women more attractive. So long as, in the moment, they desire me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It is what it is on here sex fantasys and kinks if it's a relationship what your looking for it's hard to find

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Anna

Blimey! Do you really think that?

Yep. Do you think that’s harsh? Or cynical? "

I think it's unfair on the men you find to be 10/10. I don't think it's possible to judge whether a man will find you attractive by the way he looks or to tell if he's just going to use you for sex regardless of how you look.

I'm pretty cynical myself and I've got a very sensitive bs detector but if a good looking guy wants to meet us I will at least agree to a coffee.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Anna

Blimey! Do you really think that?

I used to think that, now I suss them out. If they can show - or keep up a pretence* - that they see me as a person not a hole, I proceed. If not, not.

* Ultimately I don't care that much as long as we both have a good time."

Same. If I'm getting what I want and so are they everyone wins

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"It is what it is on here sex fantasys and kinks if it's a relationship what your looking for it's hard to find "

But what I find missing regardless we not looking for serious romantic relationship is common courtesy and basic respect. Both lacking from majority of men who write to me like I'm just some toy.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

Anna

Blimey! Do you really think that?

Yep. Do you think that’s harsh? Or cynical?

I think you're wrong insofar as you say they don't find you attractive. If they want to fuck you, it follows they do find you sexually attractive.

Does it really matter if they might find some other women more attractive?

But surely, by definition, if they want to fuck you, they must find you sexually attractive?

I, along with, I think most other men on here, would cheerfully shag some 80-90% of the women on here, given the opportunity. So, whilst we find every one of those women sexually attractive, there's nothing unique to them which means we just want them.

(though, having said that, I've found as I've got older that I'm not that bothered about chasing random fucks, and will now only bother to communicate with someone who does have something that perks my interest. However, in theory, I would still fuck most women on the site if they offered

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It is what it is on here sex fantasys and kinks if it's a relationship what your looking for it's hard to find

But what I find missing regardless we not looking for serious romantic relationship is common courtesy and basic respect. Both lacking from majority of men who write to me like I'm just some toy. "

There is no excuse for poor behaviour and manners.... but this is a sex site and a lot of women seem to send out mixed messages...I've just looked at your profile and you have great pics and write up but you want cock pics..your name suggests your looking for girth...etc etc ..it comes over as a porn profile and will attract those kind of guys...

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

Anna

Blimey! Do you really think that?

I used to think that, now I suss them out. If they can show - or keep up a pretence* - that they see me as a person not a hole, I proceed. If not, not.

* Ultimately I don't care that much as long as we both have a good time.

Same. If I'm getting what I want and so are they everyone wins

I think that's the sort of wisdom that comes with age

When you get to our times of life you essentially realise you're nothing special and you don't expect other people to think you are. So if you fancy some bloke who fancies you who cares if he would cheerfully fuck just about everyone else on the site?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Anna

Blimey! Do you really think that?

Yep. Do you think that’s harsh? Or cynical?

I think you're wrong insofar as you say they don't find you attractive. If they want to fuck you, it follows they do find you sexually attractive.

Does it really matter if they might find some other women more attractive?

But surely, by definition, if they want to fuck you, they must find you sexually attractive?

) "

I think, perhaps, I’ve not made myself clear. When I say “want to fuck ME”, I don’t mean only me. I mean someone being genuinely attracted to me and desires me as a person. I certainly don’t want someone to want only me. That would feel like a relationship. That not what I want from fab. My partners can be with as many women as they wish. It’s not my business what else they get up to.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Anna

Blimey! Do you really think that?

I used to think that, now I suss them out. If they can show - or keep up a pretence* - that they see me as a person not a hole, I proceed. If not, not.

* Ultimately I don't care that much as long as we both have a good time.

Same. If I'm getting what I want and so are they everyone wins

I think that's the sort of wisdom that comes with age

I actually expect most of the guys we meet to want to cheerfully fuck everyone else on the site.

Oh by the way I *am* something special and i *do* expect everyone else to treat me as if I am

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Good question.

It's just a shag.

It's not a date or going out for a meal or drinks.

It's just a shag.

It's not marriage or friendship or eternity

It's just release.

They just want a shag.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fab FAQ:

Q: As a happy go lucky single lady why am I suddenly the most attractive fuckable person on earth when I join fab.

A: Men outnumber women 10 to 1 on fab, most of these men use the site to try and empty their ballsack (why not?) So whilst they are browsing and seeing flesh even the plainest of Jane's will become hautement désirable. Even if you had a stubble, smoked crack on a Tuesday and aspired to being a serial killer you'll have a queue forming on here.

Fab is the reality 'you' make it.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

Anna

Blimey! Do you really think that?

Yep. Do you think that’s harsh? Or cynical?

I think you're wrong insofar as you say they don't find you attractive. If they want to fuck you, it follows they do find you sexually attractive.

Does it really matter if they might find some other women more attractive?

But surely, by definition, if they want to fuck you, they must find you sexually attractive?

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Does "desiring me as a person" mean more than finding you physically attractive?

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple over a year ago

Newcastle

Anna

Blimey! Do you really think that?

Yep. Do you think that’s harsh? Or cynical?

I think you're wrong insofar as you say they don't find you attractive. If they want to fuck you, it follows they do find you sexually attractive.

Does it really matter if they might find some other women more attractive?

I'm exactly with you on this

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By *oneyBear100Couple over a year ago

Gatwick area

Neither of us are on the slim side and aren't a 10 even if I think the Mrs is a 9.9 xx

Just started meeting singly and it's not looks or even age we're finding that matters so much. The wife coming home and saying 'I was treated like a princess and the sex was pretty damn good'. The important bit to both of us is how the gent treats her. Respectfully, as a treasure for the evening and with just the right amount of raunchy and tlc.

Who cares about punching above/below weight at that time!

I obviously attempt to be much the same but that's for my lady friend to say rather than me!

Bear

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Anna

Blimey! Do you really think that?

Yep. Do you think that’s harsh? Or cynical?

I think you're wrong insofar as you say they don't find you attractive. If they want to fuck you, it follows they do find you sexually attractive.

Does it really matter if they might find some other women more attractive?

But surely, by definition, if they want to fuck you, they must find you sexually attractive?

)

Does "desiring me as a person" mean more than finding you physically attractive? "

Hmmm.... good question. I think in the context of this question I mean finding me physically attractive. Although (other than as part of a club orgy when you might have barely been introduced to them) I don’t know how it would be possible to fuck someone you didn’t like - no matter what they looked like. But that’s just my own viewpoint. I’m sure others have a different perspective.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

Anna

Blimey! Do you really think that?

Yep. Do you think that’s harsh? Or cynical?

I think you're wrong insofar as you say they don't find you attractive. If they want to fuck you, it follows they do find you sexually attractive.

Does it really matter if they might find some other women more attractive?

But surely, by definition, if they want to fuck you, they must find you sexually attractive?

)

Does "desiring me as a person" mean more than finding you physically attractive?

Which goes back to my original point. If a guy wants to fuck you and has an erection, by definition, he finds you physically attractive. If he didn't, he couldn't get it up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Anna

Blimey! Do you really think that?

Yep. Do you think that’s harsh? Or cynical?

I think you're wrong insofar as you say they don't find you attractive. If they want to fuck you, it follows they do find you sexually attractive.

Does it really matter if they might find some other women more attractive?

But surely, by definition, if they want to fuck you, they must find you sexually attractive?

)

Does "desiring me as a person" mean more than finding you physically attractive?

Which goes back to my original point. If a guy wants to fuck you and has an erection, by definition, he finds you physically attractive. If he didn't, he couldn't get it up. "

One simple word.

Viagra

It's rife in the porn industry and I know people who take it when they're pissed.

We just keep evolving in all the wrong ways.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As a site that is about sex and meets etc it’s tough for guys to get meets generally unless you have a 8”+ cock lol

As someone else has said lots of ladies post sexual pics and then wonder why guys just want nsa fun.

Some ladies don’t have any pics yet demand men send face pics and sometimes body pics. So they get pick without being seen.

I have casual pics as I want people know me for me and if goes further great. I don’t particularly have a type so open to various sizes etc but maybe my approach is wrong as I never get meets. Maybe being the nice guy don’t work lol.

Good luck but be confident in who you are if you attract wrong type maybe change how portray self and see if demand grows or falls

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I feel completely opposite to this... I have way more attention from females on a weekly basis than I ever do from this site.

I understand females get bombarded, but my profile hardly gets looked at and even sometimes when I do message, I hardly ever get a reply back.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

from females in real life**

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest the 10/10s are the only ones that haven't messed me about or wasted my time and have actually stuck to their word. It's the more "average" ones that have led me on for ages and ghosted once they've got what they wanted (which is why I've just point blank stopped sending nudes or even talking about sex).

I'm not too bothered though because I've dated some incredibly attractive men in real life too. A lot of this bullshit about women punching above their weight on here is perpetuated by the men who they've rejected - you should never feel bad about people being attracted to you.

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

The only time anyone is above me or below me is in bed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m a plain Jane and don’t often get a second look in real life but have met guys I wouldn’t normally on here I think it’s down to the ratio of men/women being way out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve punched above my Weight with all my meets

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"I’ve punched above my Weight with all my meets

I very much doubt that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It is what it is on here sex fantasys and kinks if it's a relationship what your looking for it's hard to find

But what I find missing regardless we not looking for serious romantic relationship is common courtesy and basic respect. Both lacking from majority of men who write to me like I'm just some toy. "

I like to get to know the person make a friendship as if ever something happened a friendship is a good ground to start a relationship that's just me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I feel completely opposite to this... I have way more attention from females on a weekly basis than I ever do from this site.

I understand females get bombarded, but my profile hardly gets looked at and even sometimes when I do message, I hardly ever get a reply back. "

I can't believe your profile doesn't get looked at as much me with me dad bod understandable

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope. I disagree. I go for men I fancy. To me Beast was beautiful. I'm fat. I have a nice face. Textbook he's probably better than me. But he dated me as well as fucked me. It wasn't the size of my belly that split us up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Count yourself lucky. Most men on here don't get to meet 10/10 girls at all, either on Fab or in real life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nope. I disagree. I go for men I fancy. To me Beast was beautiful. I'm fat. I have a nice face. Textbook he's probably better than me. But he dated me as well as fucked me. It wasn't the size of my belly that split us up"

Hope your ok hun x

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"As a site that is about sex and meets etc it’s tough for guys to get meets generally unless you have a 8”+ cock lol

As someone else has said lots of ladies post sexual pics and then wonder why guys just want nsa fun.

Some ladies don’t have any pics yet demand men send face pics and sometimes body pics. So they get pick without being seen.

Good luck but be confident in who you are if you attract wrong type maybe change how portray self and see if demand grows or falls"
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Technically, site rules state no face photos. I personally need to see face and cock first as that's what I be looking at the most. Not their torso or biceps

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As a site that is about sex and meets etc it’s tough for guys to get meets generally unless you have a 8”+ cock lol

As someone else has said lots of ladies post sexual pics and then wonder why guys just want nsa fun.

Some ladies don’t have any pics yet demand men send face pics and sometimes body pics. So they get pick without being seen.

Good luck but be confident in who you are if you attract wrong type maybe change how portray self and see if demand grows or falls :

Technically, site rules state no face photos. I personally need to see face and cock first as that's what I be looking at the most. Not their torso or biceps

Site rules state no face photos???

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have had attention in real life aswell as on here, but agree it does 10fold on here.

I put this down to the sex aspect aswell as societal judgement.

A guy might love BBWs but scared his mates will rip into him in the real world if seen with them.

That is more down to keeping up an image than what they actually want x"

This is so true. From when I started my apprenticeship 36 years ago I have dated larger ladies, and I have endured shallow ignorant fools intent on trying to make me feel I was dating second best. It’s never bothered me, and in my experience bbw women are feminine, attractive and generally happy with themselves. Many of the bbw haters were married in sham relationships, to stick thin models in sexless relationships. To the OP I say aim high lovely lady, you are beautiful and will find a man who will worship you, as I am guessing it’s love not sex you are really looking for.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m just your average jane nothing to brag about but I get a lot of messages from men who could have anyone they want, so just wondered was it more of a bbw Fantasys that they are wanting to fulfill if u get me?"
they want sex its really quite simple, theyre not just chatting to you and visa versa, mind you i personally have never been into the perfect body, i go for personality and smile ability, be happy in your own skin get out of this what you want and need and as soon as that changes get out

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

What a sad comment.

I suppose how you look at life. My youngest used to tell my best friends son to go away when they were kids. She sent me a picture of her son saying my daughter wouldn't tell him to go away now.

He's very handsome, boy band handsome...in fact gorgeous to look at but my daughter wouldn't touch him with someone else's. ...why? Unemployed, no education and several kids. My daughter has a university degree, works full time and ambitious.

Looks without substance mean jack. Plus one man's meat...

I've always been fat. Of course I'm not everyone's cup of java but who is? None of us has universal appeal.

I've been married and dated great looking, financially secure and educated men. My current partner looks like a cross between Bruce Willis and Jason Statham.

I wasn't always confident and think myself worthy. The death of my son changed me. Nothing phases me, no one makes me feel inferior.

I thought of that earlier this week when I walked into a room to minute an official meeting. 32 55 plus white men all sounding like Prince Charles and little old me.

For some this is fantasy: bbc, hot wife, milf, older/younger and yes bbw.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

We're all the same and, as usual, context is all. People need and value different things, often gained via different relationships, mates, long term, casual sex etc. It's often unrealistic to expect everything from 1 person or type of relationship.

Don't ascribe your worth to what others want from you or their limitations. Culture it within yourself

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By *ovegames42Man over a year ago

london

( Never get any in real life ), find that hard to believe.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Men want sex, women here are stating that they also want, and are available for, sex without any of the nonsense that accompanies the dating scene and relationships, ergo, those men want them. You seem like an easy way to get what they want.

No need to overthink it or put yourself down, if what you also want is sex without commitment, everyone's a winner.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

( Never get any in real life ), find that hard to believe."

so true... On my mummy's life...

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By *alesfinestMan over a year ago

Pontypridd

Sorry to sound so brutal, but it's unconditional sex! They have no loyalties to you... You are there for the taking as we all are!.

In reality, most people are self centered and want a beautiful man or women hanging off there arm..

Beauty isn't just on the outside.

But unfortunately many many people don't see or care about that, they just wanna look good.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I only meet people I find atractive I certainly wouldn't meet some one I'm afraid to be seen in public with has to be some attraction.

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By *entileschiWoman over a year ago

Norwich

Since being on Fab I've noticed plenty of positive looks when out and about. All about increased body confidence I think.

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By *hamCouple30Couple over a year ago

Birmingham

Nope fat ladies are known as easy meat.

No one wants to date one, just drop their load on their faces then leave.

Truth

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No I haven't found this, I think they may have met you because you're lovely. The nsa part is also a factor. If I think any guy thinks he's doing me a favor by letting me meet him, I'd boot him one to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry to sound so brutal, but it's unconditional sex! They have no loyalties to you... You are there for the taking as we all are!.

In reality, most people are self centered and want a beautiful man or women hanging off there arm..

Beauty isn't just on the outside.

But unfortunately many many people don't see or care about that, they just wanna look good. "

Not in all instances on here ...

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By *alesfinestMan over a year ago

Pontypridd

"Sorry to sound so brutal, but it's unconditional sex! They have no loyalties to you... You are there for the taking as we all are!.

In reality, most people are self centered and want a beautiful man or women hanging off there arm..

Beauty isn't just on the outside.

But unfortunately many many people don't see or care about that, they just wanna look good.

Not in all instances on here ..."

Please elaborate on that??

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By *entleman JayMan over a year ago

Wakefield

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By *imiUKMan over a year ago

Hereford

Is she really going out with him?

Is she really going to take him home tonight?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like all types of woman it's not a issue to me,my ex wife was a blond size 6 an my resent ex is a plus size model redhead

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Nope fat ladies are known as easy meat.

No one wants to date one, just drop their load on their faces then leave.

Truth "

That's why all big women are single...... Oh, wait...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope fat ladies are known as easy meat.

No one wants to date one, just drop their load on their faces then leave.

Truth "

Wow

Funnily enough I've never had one offs and I pull away from fab no problem too. My slim friend actually said to me how do I do it the other day as we went to grab lunch together and a guy smiled and said hello to me as we were walking down the street and then a waiter was being flirty with me and practically ignored my friend so sorry your wrong.

And I can assure you I'm far from easy meat, never have been, never will be

. Would rather use my vibrator than fuck a guy who's not genuinely interested in me

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By *OXO2018Couple over a year ago

Norfolk

MrXOXO could a million times better then me, I'm just biding my time for him to realise.

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By *atex and KinkCouple over a year ago

Edinburgh

You are you..

They like you because you are you..

THey want to fuck you because you are you.

The general man in the street does not realise you are the sexual goddess of his dreams that stands before him because he is close minded.

The man in Fab. The ones who are more charming and open minded, do.

Simples.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm hardly a Ryan Reynolds lookalike, but I've had meets with plenty of stunning women and couples. Even a couple of women who have been #1 hot pic!

Just goes to show that lots of people are interested in what is between your ears as well as what is between your legs...!

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By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

Nope fat ladies are known as easy meat.

No one wants to date one, just drop their load on their faces then leave.

Truth "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope fat ladies are known as easy meat.

No one wants to date one, just drop their load on their faces then leave.

Truth

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By *averockrockMan over a year ago

swindon

This site stimulates women and men differently that in real life. It’s not a league question but more one of common interests and fantasies! In real life there are so many factors to let somebody in your life while on fab the main one is sex. I cn be wrong but that’s how I see it

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

You are you..

They like you because you are you..

THey want to fuck you because you are you.

The general man in the street does not realise you are the sexual goddess of his dreams that stands before him because he is close minded.

The man in Fab. The ones who are more charming and open minded, do.

Simples.....

It's not about being open minded though is it?

We're all here to enhance our own personal sexual experience with "like minded" people. My like minded will differ from yours, doesn’t mean either of us is narrow minded.

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman over a year ago

Hampshire

It always makes me chuckle when I get told on this site how stunning, beautiful and gorgeous I am.

Yet out in the real world I may as well be invisible to men!

So the answer is yes. It happens a lot.

Don't get me wrong.... I'm not the kind of person who craves attention all of the time, but just to be noticed would be an ego boost!

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By *urvySub87Woman over a year ago

Near Wellingborough

Some of the guys I have met are on here are definitely out of league but then again I can say that about the guys I have met on the dating apps (I take a good photo lol) but on fab I seek guys who fulfil my needs and kinks and I know tthey are doing the same. Would they date me if we met under "normal" circumstances? Definitely not, but I don't let it bother me anymore

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The lady i meet up with i put weigh out my leauge. But we clicked and see eachouther regulary

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman over a year ago

Hampshire

Anna "

This is exactly my point!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some of the guys I have met are on here are definitely out of league but then again I can say that about the guys I have met on the dating apps (I take a good photo lol) but on fab I seek guys who fulfil my needs and kinks and I know tthey are doing the same. Would they date me if we met under "normal" circumstances? Definitely not, but I don't let it bother me anymore "

Why would men not meet you. I would

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By *aughty_builder87Man over a year ago

Keston

I'm the opposite I punch well above my weight in real life but on here I'm not even swinging

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