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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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That I omit ‘likely to kill you in your sleep’ vibes. Now I’m so powerful that these can even be transmitted through text.
Every guy I’m interested in either stands me up or ghosts me whilst conversing.
My most recent one was a guy who was supposed to be coming down here from 2 hours away. Now I wasn’t full on with the messages, very light and quite blunt, one sentence replies. Communication ceased when I was asked to describe what we will do and I said I don’t like to talk about stuff because some guys just like to get off with the wank chat and I’d prefer to just do.
Now I don’t think what I said was particularly desperate or bad enough for comms to cease but that’s where I’m at this morning.
Mad to think that I can’t get a meet off here isn’t it. ***I do not want messages in my inbox, keep replies to here*** |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
It sounds very much like he did just want the wank chat and the fantasy. All he's done is filter himself out for you!
You said the other day, on another thread, just how selective you are and how few you have actually had sex with from the site. This is just another example of a guy not meeting what you want.
I do understand your frustration though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This has been my worst profile for being messed about. Had loads of ghosting and being stood up. Think as women get more confident men get more intimidated haha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just seems to be all the ones I’m attracted to are the ones that don’t come through.
I probably am too full on and it must come across cos when I find someone I fancy it’s like, yeah I have to have you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This has been my worst profile for being messed about. Had loads of ghosting and being stood up. Think as women get more confident men get more intimidated haha "
Oh absolutely. I agree with you. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"This has been my worst profile for being messed about. Had loads of ghosting and being stood up. Think as women get more confident men get more intimidated haha
Oh absolutely. I agree with you. "
Personally, I find confident women i'm attracted to irresistible  Matches my personality and wavelength. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's a case of, it's not you, it's them.
You're on here for genuine meets and unfortunately, not all are here for the same, there's pic collectors and those looking for wank chat, unfortunately, those seem to be coming your way,but that's not to say that that's always going to be the case.
Those that have ghosted you clearly aren't worth you wasting your time or thoughts on, take them as small blessings  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You need to become all twee with a reverse make over, Like Sandy from Grease before the leather look.
Tight ponytails, glasses, twinsets and knee length dresses. Once thy're through the frontdoor and its locked, release the full musical on them  |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"You need to become all twee with a reverse make over, Like Sandy from Grease before the leather look.
Tight ponytails, glasses, twinsets and knee length dresses. Once thy're through the frontdoor and its locked, release the full musical on them "
Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s a woman gotta do to get a fuck around here. Jesus H Christ. "
Feel the pain. Had all week off and not even a social. Been cancelled on 4 times though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have kind of given up meeting single gents for social as they shit out so many time. We now say if meeting it be at a local group social so it they dont turn up you still have a good time. You might meet someone at these event. |
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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago
Deepest darkest Peru |
"You need to become all twee with a reverse make over, Like Sandy from Grease before the leather look.
Tight ponytails, glasses, twinsets and knee length dresses. Once thy're through the frontdoor and its locked, release the full musical on them
Lol "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You don’t emit those vibes.
You do emit other things you are going to do in their sleep vibes though. "
Yeah that’s kind of my main kink and what I’d like to do all the time so I’ve updated my profile with the disclaimer. |
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"Just seems to be all the ones I’m attracted to are the ones that don’t come through.
I probably am too full on and it must come across cos when I find someone I fancy it’s like, yeah I have to have you. "
Try not to put all your eggs in one basket too soon. If someone is seeming promising early on that's great but that doesn't mean you have to turn all your focus to them and stop considering other possibilities as otherwise if it doesn't work out you might have bypassed other good opportunities for a non starter. I try not to get too excited about someone until I've met them and they haven't ghosted me after  . |
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"You don’t emit those vibes.
You do emit other things you are going to do in their sleep vibes though.
Yeah that’s kind of my main kink and what I’d like to do all the time so I’ve updated my profile with the disclaimer. "
I don’t think that would put anyone off.
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It's mad how someone would do a "no show" given a chance to meet you , but he's been identified as a fantasy wanker correct.
"Sex on tap " part of your profile is a good line
And the idea of a BJ alarm clock is just off the scale .
Chin up and hope you find that "tap" you can open at night when he's asleep  |
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Based on previous threads, OP, I wonder if you're letting some of your vulnerability inadvertently show.
The other answer is to watch your selection criteria, double check everything, and rem_mber that the rate of unreliability on here is very high. |
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"That I omit ‘likely to kill you in your sleep’ vibes. Now I’m so powerful that these can even be transmitted through text.
Every guy I’m interested in either stands me up or ghosts me whilst conversing.
My most recent one was a guy who was supposed to be coming down here from 2 hours away. Now I wasn’t full on with the messages, very light and quite blunt, one sentence replies. Communication ceased when I was asked to describe what we will do and I said I don’t like to talk about stuff because some guys just like to get off with the wank chat and I’d prefer to just do.
Now I don’t think what I said was particularly desperate or bad enough for comms to cease but that’s where I’m at this morning.
Mad to think that I can’t get a meet off here isn’t it. ***I do not want messages in my inbox, keep replies to here***"
Hi lovely. I went through a period of getting that crap. About 70% of potential meets turned to shit!
I could be wrong (but don’t think I am) - but I came to the conclusion that - because I was on hot photos a couple of times a week I’d become a ‘fantasy fuck’ and that certain guys got off on getting me to say yes - not actually meeting me!
I think it may well be the same with you?
That You’re a fantasy/wanking figure to many rather than someone to meet?
I (for several reasons) consciously lowered my profile, post far fewer pictures etc - and every meet I’ve arranged has happened. I think it’s because they want to meet ME now - not the fantasy wank!
I could be wrong - but maybe it’s worth pondering? X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why would it have anything to do with something you have done ? You simply say what you mean, type what you want, can’t see anything wrong with short replies as along as it says exactly what you want to say....
Ps lovely profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Every woman gets this. My profile is written specifically to eliminate it. A huge percentage of men here and anywhere else like it are just here to talk dirty and jerk off. He was almost certainly talking to other women at the same time, maybe one came through when you said no, maybe he just moved on. But it's not you, its just how some guys are. Fair play if that's what gets them off but it's not what I'm looking for so I say up front I'm not going to do it and when they inevitably try anyway I ignore it or say no and they disappear... By which time I've probably had a message from an fwb or my boyfriend and I just forget them |
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"Every woman gets this. My profile is written specifically to eliminate it. A huge percentage of men here and anywhere else like it are just here to talk dirty and jerk off. He was almost certainly talking to other women at the same time, maybe one came through when you said no, maybe he just moved on. But it's not you, its just how some guys are. Fair play if that's what gets them off but it's not what I'm looking for so I say up front I'm not going to do it and when they inevitably try anyway I ignore it or say no and they disappear... By which time I've probably had a message from an fwb or my boyfriend and I just forget them "
Yes, unfortunately it's a reality, sorting through the dreamers, wankers, etc. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"That I omit ‘likely to kill you in your sleep’ vibes. Now I’m so powerful that these can even be transmitted through text.
Every guy I’m interested in either stands me up or ghosts me whilst conversing.
My most recent one was a guy who was supposed to be coming down here from 2 hours away. Now I wasn’t full on with the messages, very light and quite blunt, one sentence replies. Communication ceased when I was asked to describe what we will do and I said I don’t like to talk about stuff because some guys just like to get off with the wank chat and I’d prefer to just do.
Now I don’t think what I said was particularly desperate or bad enough for comms to cease but that’s where I’m at this morning.
Mad to think that I can’t get a meet off here isn’t it. ***I do not want messages in my inbox, keep replies to here***
Hi lovely. I went through a period of getting that crap. About 70% of potential meets turned to shit!
I could be wrong (but don’t think I am) - but I came to the conclusion that - because I was on hot photos a couple of times a week I’d become a ‘fantasy fuck’ and that certain guys got off on getting me to say yes - not actually meeting me!
I think it may well be the same with you?
That You’re a fantasy/wanking figure to many rather than someone to meet?
I (for several reasons) consciously lowered my profile, post far fewer pictures etc - and every meet I’ve arranged has happened. I think it’s because they want to meet ME now - not the fantasy wank!
I could be wrong - but maybe it’s worth pondering? X"
I tend to agree with Peachy on this.
I think the kind of attention gained and garnered from being on hot pics leads to this kind of guy contacting you.
I've long thought that the kind of pictures a person posts attracts in kind.
Personally, I would never have contacted anyone on hot pics. I think the kind of guy you're looking for is the same. |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
hiding from cock pics. |
"Or maybe he was just looking for dirty chat to wank to so when you refused to give it he buggered off."
I think this is a likely explanation.
He might never have intended on actually meeting you so when he realised you weren't going to fulfill his needs as they didn't fill yours he lost interest.
Whatever it is I wish you all the best, I don't meet off this site just in clubs, because of these kind of situations. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"That I omit ‘likely to kill you in your sleep’ vibes. Now I’m so powerful that these can even be transmitted through text.
Every guy I’m interested in either stands me up or ghosts me whilst conversing.
My most recent one was a guy who was supposed to be coming down here from 2 hours away. Now I wasn’t full on with the messages, very light and quite blunt, one sentence replies. Communication ceased when I was asked to describe what we will do and I said I don’t like to talk about stuff because some guys just like to get off with the wank chat and I’d prefer to just do.
Now I don’t think what I said was particularly desperate or bad enough for comms to cease but that’s where I’m at this morning.
Mad to think that I can’t get a meet off here isn’t it. ***I do not want messages in my inbox, keep replies to here***
Hi lovely. I went through a period of getting that crap. About 70% of potential meets turned to shit!
I could be wrong (but don’t think I am) - but I came to the conclusion that - because I was on hot photos a couple of times a week I’d become a ‘fantasy fuck’ and that certain guys got off on getting me to say yes - not actually meeting me!
I think it may well be the same with you?
That You’re a fantasy/wanking figure to many rather than someone to meet?
I (for several reasons) consciously lowered my profile, post far fewer pictures etc - and every meet I’ve arranged has happened. I think it’s because they want to meet ME now - not the fantasy wank!
I could be wrong - but maybe it’s worth pondering? X"
I don’t want to be a fantasy fuck or a wank figure though. I do get what you mean though, I’ve had guys that I’ve been speaking to before ask me to write status’ s saying that I’m meeting them, which I’ve never done.
Just feel like a massive fool though for believing them and it is disappointing because all I want to do is get fucked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think the kind of attention gained and garnered from being on hot pics leads to this kind of guy contacting you.
I've long thought that the kind of pictures a person posts attracts in kind.
Personally, I would never have contacted anyone on hot pics. I think the kind of guy you're looking for is the same. "
Definitely this. I've used clothed pics that give an idea of my body shape, I don't list any sexual interests and only display veris that don't mention sex. I still get objectifying messages, I just delete them but I've done everything I can to discourage them so now I do get fewer. |
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"That I omit ‘likely to kill you in your sleep’ vibes. Now I’m so powerful that these can even be transmitted through text.
Every guy I’m interested in either stands me up or ghosts me whilst conversing.
My most recent one was a guy who was supposed to be coming down here from 2 hours away. Now I wasn’t full on with the messages, very light and quite blunt, one sentence replies. Communication ceased when I was asked to describe what we will do and I said I don’t like to talk about stuff because some guys just like to get off with the wank chat and I’d prefer to just do.
Now I don’t think what I said was particularly desperate or bad enough for comms to cease but that’s where I’m at this morning.
Mad to think that I can’t get a meet off here isn’t it. ***I do not want messages in my inbox, keep replies to here***
Hi lovely. I went through a period of getting that crap. About 70% of potential meets turned to shit!
I could be wrong (but don’t think I am) - but I came to the conclusion that - because I was on hot photos a couple of times a week I’d become a ‘fantasy fuck’ and that certain guys got off on getting me to say yes - not actually meeting me!
I think it may well be the same with you?
That You’re a fantasy/wanking figure to many rather than someone to meet?
I (for several reasons) consciously lowered my profile, post far fewer pictures etc - and every meet I’ve arranged has happened. I think it’s because they want to meet ME now - not the fantasy wank!
I could be wrong - but maybe it’s worth pondering? X
I don’t want to be a fantasy fuck or a wank figure though. I do get what you mean though, I’ve had guys that I’ve been speaking to before ask me to write status’ s saying that I’m meeting them, which I’ve never done.
Just feel like a massive fool though for believing them and it is disappointing because all I want to do is get fucked. "
I don’t think all you want to do is get fucked tbh. If you did you could have a virtual open house and fuck 24/7!
I’m now looking for a few friends who I can be really fond of, have amazing sex with, but not have a ‘full’ relationship with.
I’ve been very specific about what I’m looking for - and so far so good! I now find it easier and easier to spot the wank brigade. Then again - if someone starts to talk overtly about sex - I tell them straight away that I adore HAVING great sex - not endlessly discussing it.
The ones who are actually here to meet appreciate that - the rest move on to someone else. It may hurt a little to be summarily rejected - but it sure beats meeting a ‘fuck and leave’ one off who pretended he was looking for a genuine fb/fwb - which may well be the outcome if you play along. I had so many cases of being stood up that I had to sit down and decide what I’m here for. Some hot photos regulars are purely here for the attention/fantasy so get exactly what they want from it.
If you want to actually meet someone pretty regularly it can be an issue.
I won’t post here again but I’ll happily discuss further if you want to pm - as I understand more than most on here where you may be coming from! |
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"That I omit ‘likely to kill you in your sleep’ vibes. Now I’m so powerful that these can even be transmitted through text.
Every guy I’m interested in either stands me up or ghosts me whilst conversing.
My most recent one was a guy who was supposed to be coming down here from 2 hours away. Now I wasn’t full on with the messages, very light and quite blunt, one sentence replies. Communication ceased when I was asked to describe what we will do and I said I don’t like to talk about stuff because some guys just like to get off with the wank chat and I’d prefer to just do.
Now I don’t think what I said was particularly desperate or bad enough for comms to cease but that’s where I’m at this morning.
Mad to think that I can’t get a meet off here isn’t it. ***I do not want messages in my inbox, keep replies to here***
Hi lovely. I went through a period of getting that crap. About 70% of potential meets turned to shit!
I could be wrong (but don’t think I am) - but I came to the conclusion that - because I was on hot photos a couple of times a week I’d become a ‘fantasy fuck’ and that certain guys got off on getting me to say yes - not actually meeting me!
I think it may well be the same with you?
That You’re a fantasy/wanking figure to many rather than someone to meet?
I (for several reasons) consciously lowered my profile, post far fewer pictures etc - and every meet I’ve arranged has happened. I think it’s because they want to meet ME now - not the fantasy wank!
I could be wrong - but maybe it’s worth pondering? X
I don’t want to be a fantasy fuck or a wank figure though. I do get what you mean though, I’ve had guys that I’ve been speaking to before ask me to write status’ s saying that I’m meeting them, which I’ve never done.
Just feel like a massive fool though for believing them and it is disappointing because all I want to do is get fucked. "
God how cringy is it of them to ask that! Talk about just wanting their ego stroking. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I’m getting really fucked off with the place like.
Guys send 100’s of messages and get hardly any replies.
I get 100’s of messages all saying they want to fuck and I’m expected to know exactly who is genuine out of them all and who is just after wank chat.
If I block all messages and contact people myself I either get people accusing me of being fake and blocking or I’ll get people who I don’t know before hand if they’re interested and if my profile is something that appeals to them. |
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"I’m getting really fucked off with the place like.
Guys send 100’s of messages and get hardly any replies.
I get 100’s of messages all saying they want to fuck and I’m expected to know exactly who is genuine out of them all and who is just after wank chat.
If I block all messages and contact people myself I either get people accusing me of being fake and blocking or I’ll get people who I don’t know before hand if they’re interested and if my profile is something that appeals to them. "
Take a deep breath , and calm |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m getting really fucked off with the place like.
Guys send 100’s of messages and get hardly any replies.
I get 100’s of messages all saying they want to fuck and I’m expected to know exactly who is genuine out of them all and who is just after wank chat.
If I block all messages and contact people myself I either get people accusing me of being fake and blocking or I’ll get people who I don’t know before hand if they’re interested and if my profile is something that appeals to them. "
You have been here long enough to know how the site works.
Maybe change your approach if you want different results. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I’m just a bit gutted about tomorrow. The guy was stunning and he seemed so keen and nice and genuine. Plus I was stood up last Friday by a different guy, went to meet another guy Monday and he fucked me around as well. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m getting really fucked off with the place like.
Guys send 100’s of messages and get hardly any replies.
I get 100’s of messages all saying they want to fuck and I’m expected to know exactly who is genuine out of them all and who is just after wank chat.
If I block all messages and contact people myself I either get people accusing me of being fake and blocking or I’ll get people who I don’t know before hand if they’re interested and if my profile is something that appeals to them.
You have been here long enough to know how the site works.
Maybe change your approach if you want different results."
Right so what should my approach be. Dumb it down, how should I do things then? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What sad fuck would drive 2 hours just to mash pussy loooooool"
Well I’ve had guys travel 5 hours in the past to meet so 2 hours when they say they like driving and it’s supposed to be an all night meet, isn’t too bad. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What sad fuck would drive 2 hours just to mash pussy loooooool
Well I’ve had guys travel 5 hours in the past to meet so 2 hours when they say they like driving and it’s supposed to be an all night meet, isn’t too bad. "
Try dressing as Paddington I reckon that could work.
Seriously the bloke was just sat in his bedsit beans down his front pulling the head of his trouser mole . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well, I hope this doesnt make me look like a sad fuck, but I've seen your profile come up on a far few times now, so Just to put it out there....I fancy the fuck out of you!!!
I work all over the uk so I wouldn't mind driving a few hours to meet you  |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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Right so what should my approach be. Dumb it down, how should I do things then?"
Personally, I think that if you want guys to respect and value your time, that comes from you.
Men (in general) are very visual, if they see everything that they want and consider you to be 'easy' then you will get the guys who won't put the effort in.
I hasten to add that it's not your fault and you're not doing anything wrong in what you're doing at the moment, but if you're consistently getting the type of guys that mess you about, then maybe dialling back the hot pics, the 'I just want to get fucked' and play a longer game. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What sad fuck would drive 2 hours just to mash pussy loooooool
Well I’ve had guys travel 5 hours in the past to meet so 2 hours when they say they like driving and it’s supposed to be an all night meet, isn’t too bad. "
I’d drive from Manchester if we clicked for a weekend of absolutely naughty times, and you’re profile is similar to mine too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Travelling is essential unless you're lucky enough to meet someone who does it for you and lives round the corner. None of my long term fwbs are local and my bf lives 80 miles away. Something I really hate is guys who act like we might we well meet as we live so close. I meet people cos give me butterflies not because they're handy |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Right so what should my approach be. Dumb it down, how should I do things then?
Personally, I think that if you want guys to respect and value your time, that comes from you.
Men (in general) are very visual, if they see everything that they want and consider you to be 'easy' then you will get the guys who won't put the effort in.
I hasten to add that it's not your fault and you're not doing anything wrong in what you're doing at the moment, but if you're consistently getting the type of guys that mess you about, then maybe dialling back the hot pics, the 'I just want to get fucked' and play a longer game. "
Okay. Will redo my profile once I’ve made myself a coffee.
Right so not having public pics so they’re unable to get on hot pics. Not having a profile where I describe my wants and the things I’m looking for, not describing what I’m into sexually, seems like I have to sacrifice a lot just because of the actions of a few dick head guys. |
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
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OP exactly the same here.
I have come to the conclusion that it's a vanity project. If you say you'll meet them they get an ego boost. If they did then turn up there's the chance you can say 'no thanks'. They don't want to risk being rejected.
Big love xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP exactly the same here.
I have come to the conclusion that it's a vanity project. If you say you'll meet them they get an ego boost. If they did then turn up there's the chance you can say 'no thanks'. They don't want to risk being rejected.
Big love xx"
If a guy is planning to meet someone for an ego boost then that should just wrong and they are just warped in the head!
It’s cruel and just so wrong!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP exactly the same here.
I have come to the conclusion that it's a vanity project. If you say you'll meet them they get an ego boost. If they did then turn up there's the chance you can say 'no thanks'. They don't want to risk being rejected.
Big love xx
If a guy is planning to meet someone for an ego boost then that should just wrong and they are just warped in the head!
It’s cruel and just so wrong!
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Any vanity and ego boosting is wrong... Its also terminally unattractive. One of the sexiest things ever is someone who doesn't realise how attractive they are. |
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"I’m getting really fucked off with the place like.
Guys send 100’s of messages and get hardly any replies.
I get 100’s of messages all saying they want to fuck and I’m expected to know exactly who is genuine out of them all and who is just after wank chat.
If I block all messages and contact people myself I either get people accusing me of being fake and blocking or I’ll get people who I don’t know before hand if they’re interested and if my profile is something that appeals to them. "
I wouldn't say you're expected to know who is genuine and who isn't. I think when people are giving advice it's on how to filter out the non-genuine ones quicker rather than making you immune to ever interacting with them. It's clearly worked if he's decided to stop speaking just because you wouldn't talk dirty with him. Think of it as less wasted time spent speaking to someone who probably wouldn't have turned up.
I get the frustration I really do. I had no meets for over a year because of so many turning out to be idiots or wasting my time. I get that it's frustrating when all you see is men complaining they can't get meets but when you try to you just get messed about.
I can't say I'm now immune to any of that but over the past few months I have met some wonderful people. All of them I approached first (or at least I never noticed a message from them previously). Yeah I get more rejection or more commonly either ignored or someone saying they'll get back to me about when they're free and then they never do but I just take it on the chin. Its also entirely possible though that it's a complete fluke and I've just been lucky doing it this way but I'm just sharing my experience. |
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
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"OP exactly the same here.
I have come to the conclusion that it's a vanity project. If you say you'll meet them they get an ego boost. If they did then turn up there's the chance you can say 'no thanks'. They don't want to risk being rejected.
Big love xx
If a guy is planning to meet someone for an ego boost then that should just wrong and they are just warped in the head!
It’s cruel and just so wrong!
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You get ones that ask and you agree and never hear from them again.
Ones that all but then just won't arrange anything but keep chatting.
Ones that arrange a day but no plans then disappear then come back the day after with some weird story.
Ones that arrange a time and place then cancel the day before.
I think that's covered all of my experiences.
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"OP exactly the same here.
I have come to the conclusion that it's a vanity project. If you say you'll meet them they get an ego boost. If they did then turn up there's the chance you can say 'no thanks'. They don't want to risk being rejected.
Big love xx
If a guy is planning to meet someone for an ego boost then that should just wrong and they are just warped in the head!
It’s cruel and just so wrong!
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It happens though. Many people use Tinder just for an ego boost which is frustrating for people who actually want to meet people. |
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"OP exactly the same here.
I have come to the conclusion that it's a vanity project. If you say you'll meet them they get an ego boost. If they did then turn up there's the chance you can say 'no thanks'. They don't want to risk being rejected.
Big love xx
If a guy is planning to meet someone for an ego boost then that should just wrong and they are just warped in the head!
It’s cruel and just so wrong!
You get ones that ask and you agree and never hear from them again.
Ones that all but then just won't arrange anything but keep chatting.
Ones that arrange a day but no plans then disappear then come back the day after with some weird story.
Ones that arrange a time and place then cancel the day before.
I think that's covered all of my experiences.
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I’m a firm believer that we are all here (most of us) for pleasure and not playing games.
If you actually have that physical and mental connection and you both decide that you want to have some adult fun together then that’s what it should be.
Not games or excuses like you said above.
That’s what brings this site down into the gutter 
For me personally I’d love to find that elusive fwb, will it happen? Who knows.
But if I’m talking and we agree to meet then I don’t let anyone down, be it fabs or normal life |
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"It's mad how someone would do a "no show" given a chance to meet you , but he's been identified as a fantasy wanker correct.
"Sex on tap " part of your profile is a good line
And the idea of a BJ alarm clock is just off the scale .
Chin up and hope you find that "tap" you can open at night when he's asleep "
Having reread my comment it sounds a bit bad.
Just to clarify .
1. not a hit I'm in a different country .
2. Sex on tap is something I liked in a relationship too.
3. BJ alarm clock is just an ex girlfriend memory who started work way earlier than me and I got woken up this way for morning fun quite often.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That I omit ‘likely to kill you in your sleep’ vibes. Now I’m so powerful that these can even be transmitted through text.
Every guy I’m interested in either stands me up or ghosts me whilst conversing.
My most recent one was a guy who was supposed to be coming down here from 2 hours away. Now I wasn’t full on with the messages, very light and quite blunt, one sentence replies. Communication ceased when I was asked to describe what we will do and I said I don’t like to talk about stuff because some guys just like to get off with the wank chat and I’d prefer to just do.
Now I don’t think what I said was particularly desperate or bad enough for comms to cease but that’s where I’m at this morning.
Mad to think that I can’t get a meet off here isn’t it. ***I do not want messages in my inbox, keep replies to here***"
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Hi OP
You may wish to consider that guys reading your thread could be put off by your outpouring ...
It’s good to ask for advice and to share your disappointment but just rem_mber it’s a public forum and your posts can be seen. Perhaps a reassessment of how you approach fab might help you achieve greater success .... it’s just a thought |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
Work out who's serious? Once you've swapped a couple of messages ask them to call you on a fab pay as you go phone from a non withheld number.
Chat. Be upfront that it's not phone sex but just to establish verbal contact.
To make sure they look like their pics ask to see them on Skype or some other similar system - face only, fully clothed
If they pass that stage set up a meet face to face (Starbucks, Costa etc) in your neck of the woods so you're not travelling miles and put out if it goes tits up - them travelling to you. Make it social only or with the option of a hotel.
If they show and you're not keen you can walk. If they turn out to be just what you want - all good.
Same advice I'd give anyone. Don't put yourself out too much til you've done basic checks and balances. Don't expect anything and you'll never be disappointed.
The more you engage in sex chat up front the more likely you'll fall foul to Muppets and fantasists.
There's no magic wand.
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By *essie.Woman
over a year ago
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I think it’s a lot to do with the time of year. Probably lots of newbies now. Lots of fantasists too. Maybe try asking to see potential meets on cam first, see if they are real and will stick to what they say. Ever been to a large social anywhere near you? Can meet more people at once and cut out loads of messaging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a guy if you gave me the opportunity to meet you, I would do anything to make sure I was there!! 100% his loss"
Not if he didn't want to meet anyway! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Right so what should my approach be. Dumb it down, how should I do things then?
Personally, I think that if you want guys to respect and value your time, that comes from you.
Men (in general) are very visual, if they see everything that they want and consider you to be 'easy' then you will get the guys who won't put the effort in.
I hasten to add that it's not your fault and you're not doing anything wrong in what you're doing at the moment, but if you're consistently getting the type of guys that mess you about, then maybe dialling back the hot pics, the 'I just want to get fucked' and play a longer game.
Okay. Will redo my profile once I’ve made myself a coffee.
Right so not having public pics so they’re unable to get on hot pics. Not having a profile where I describe my wants and the things I’m looking for, not describing what I’m into sexually, seems like I have to sacrifice a lot just because of the actions of a few dick head guys. "
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over a year ago
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Right so what should my approach be. Dumb it down, how should I do things then?
Personally, I think that if you want guys to respect and value your time, that comes from you.
Men (in general) are very visual, if they see everything that they want and consider you to be 'easy' then you will get the guys who won't put the effort in.
I hasten to add that it's not your fault and you're not doing anything wrong in what you're doing at the moment, but if you're consistently getting the type of guys that mess you about, then maybe dialling back the hot pics, the 'I just want to get fucked' and play a longer game.
Okay. Will redo my profile once I’ve made myself a coffee.
Right so not having public pics so they’re unable to get on hot pics. Not having a profile where I describe my wants and the things I’m looking for, not describing what I’m into sexually, seems like I have to sacrifice a lot just because of the actions of a few dick head guys. "
I think you're profile is just fine as it is. I like that you've described who you are and what you're looking for.
I think you should remove mentions of failed meets or disappointments, it's no one's business and you don't want to come across as someone's reject (you aren't).
Everything is perfect the way it is, OK maybe remove "South Wales only", a lot of people have said they'd drive down to meet you. Let them, you're worth it. |
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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago
London |
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Right so what should my approach be. Dumb it down, how should I do things then?
Personally, I think that if you want guys to respect and value your time, that comes from you.
Men (in general) are very visual, if they see everything that they want and consider you to be 'easy' then you will get the guys who won't put the effort in.
I hasten to add that it's not your fault and you're not doing anything wrong in what you're doing at the moment, but if you're consistently getting the type of guys that mess you about, then maybe dialling back the hot pics, the 'I just want to get fucked' and play a longer game.
Okay. Will redo my profile once I’ve made myself a coffee.
Right so not having public pics so they’re unable to get on hot pics. Not having a profile where I describe my wants and the things I’m looking for, not describing what I’m into sexually, seems like I have to sacrifice a lot just because of the actions of a few dick head guys. "
WTF! You're not gonna have much left to say or to show. Lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Work out who's serious? Once you've swapped a couple of messages ask them to call you on a fab pay as you go phone from a non withheld number.
Chat. Be upfront that it's not phone sex but just to establish verbal contact.
To make sure they look like their pics ask to see them on Skype or some other similar system - face only, fully clothed
If they pass that stage set up a meet face to face (Starbucks, Costa etc) in your neck of the woods so you're not travelling miles and put out if it goes tits up - them travelling to you. Make it social only or with the option of a hotel.
If they show and you're not keen you can walk. If they turn out to be just what you want - all good.
Same advice I'd give anyone. Don't put yourself out too much til you've done basic checks and balances. Don't expect anything and you'll never be disappointed.
The more you engage in sex chat up front the more likely you'll fall foul to Muppets and fantasists.
There's no magic wand.
A"
Right I’m not a complete newbie or someone that doesn’t do the necessary checks when speaking to a new person.
This latest person, I put all his pics through tineye and google reverse image search and no results. He gave me his number for WhatsApp. We’ve spoken on the phone. He’s sent multiple voice notes to me specifically answering things that I’d just asked him in text. He’s sent many many pictures of himself with all the same tattoos in the pictures, and whatever I asked to see he would send. I have no doubt at all that I was speaking to the person in the pictures, he still stopped speaking to me though after I said I didn’t talk about sexual stuff before a meet. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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Right so what should my approach be. Dumb it down, how should I do things then?
Personally, I think that if you want guys to respect and value your time, that comes from you.
Men (in general) are very visual, if they see everything that they want and consider you to be 'easy' then you will get the guys who won't put the effort in.
I hasten to add that it's not your fault and you're not doing anything wrong in what you're doing at the moment, but if you're consistently getting the type of guys that mess you about, then maybe dialling back the hot pics, the 'I just want to get fucked' and play a longer game.
Okay. Will redo my profile once I’ve made myself a coffee.
Right so not having public pics so they’re unable to get on hot pics. Not having a profile where I describe my wants and the things I’m looking for, not describing what I’m into sexually, seems like I have to sacrifice a lot just because of the actions of a few dick head guys. "
I'm not saying that, I think you're slightly misunderstanding me.
Instead of thinking 'right now' or 'next week' maybe invest a bit of time in getting to know people on a personal level. Focus less on the hot pics.
In my time on fab, I've only met people in less than a month two or three times. Some I've chatted to for 6/7 months before meeting. I've been let down on meets a handful of times and been ghosted once.
If people have to invest time in getting to know you, then the people you get to know will return the effort. Just as with so much in life; anything easily won has less value in the winners eyes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Right so what should my approach be. Dumb it down, how should I do things then?
Personally, I think that if you want guys to respect and value your time, that comes from you.
Men (in general) are very visual, if they see everything that they want and consider you to be 'easy' then you will get the guys who won't put the effort in.
I hasten to add that it's not your fault and you're not doing anything wrong in what you're doing at the moment, but if you're consistently getting the type of guys that mess you about, then maybe dialling back the hot pics, the 'I just want to get fucked' and play a longer game.
Okay. Will redo my profile once I’ve made myself a coffee.
Right so not having public pics so they’re unable to get on hot pics. Not having a profile where I describe my wants and the things I’m looking for, not describing what I’m into sexually, seems like I have to sacrifice a lot just because of the actions of a few dick head guys.
I'm not saying that, I think you're slightly misunderstanding me.
Instead of thinking 'right now' or 'next week' maybe invest a bit of time in getting to know people on a personal level. Focus less on the hot pics.
In my time on fab, I've only met people in less than a month two or three times. Some I've chatted to for 6/7 months before meeting. I've been let down on meets a handful of times and been ghosted once.
If people have to invest time in getting to know you, then the people you get to know will return the effort. Just as with so much in life; anything easily won has less value in the winners eyes. "
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Work out who's serious? Once you've swapped a couple of messages ask them to call you on a fab pay as you go phone from a non withheld number.
Chat. Be upfront that it's not phone sex but just to establish verbal contact.
To make sure they look like their pics ask to see them on Skype or some other similar system - face only, fully clothed
If they pass that stage set up a meet face to face (Starbucks, Costa etc) in your neck of the woods so you're not travelling miles and put out if it goes tits up - them travelling to you. Make it social only or with the option of a hotel.
If they show and you're not keen you can walk. If they turn out to be just what you want - all good.
Same advice I'd give anyone. Don't put yourself out too much til you've done basic checks and balances. Don't expect anything and you'll never be disappointed.
The more you engage in sex chat up front the more likely you'll fall foul to Muppets and fantasists.
There's no magic wand.
A
Right I’m not a complete newbie or someone that doesn’t do the necessary checks when speaking to a new person.
This latest person, I put all his pics through tineye and google reverse image search and no results. He gave me his number for WhatsApp. We’ve spoken on the phone. He’s sent multiple voice notes to me specifically answering things that I’d just asked him in text. He’s sent many many pictures of himself with all the same tattoos in the pictures, and whatever I asked to see he would send. I have no doubt at all that I was speaking to the person in the pictures, he still stopped speaking to me though after I said I didn’t talk about sexual stuff before a meet. "
So two choices.
Bin it as a lost cause and move on.
Or bow to his request and see if the situation improves.
As you say, you're not a newbie. You've been here long enough. You know how things work and that sometimes effort comes to nothing.
As is often said - if there's a recurring issue then there's generally only one common denominator.
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over a year ago
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Now my profile just looks boring as shit. I need to see pictures of people to see if they’re worth getting to know so I can’t expect guys to know if they’re attracted to me without having any public pictures. |
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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago
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"Just seems to be all the ones I’m attracted to are the ones that don’t come through.
I probably am too full on and it must come across cos when I find someone I fancy it’s like, yeah I have to have you. "
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
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"The roughest looking birds? Why would you say that? I don't understand what you think that will achieve or who you think it will attract. "
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"The roughest looking birds? Why would you say that? I don't understand what you think that will achieve or who you think it will attract. "
To be fair on a previous thread she did refer to herself as in "the elite of women on here"  |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
Just read your rewrite. It's long, ranty, and comes across as condescending as you say 95% of men you won't fancy. A number of guys you might fancy will read that and move on. I understand the text is _ased on your frustration, but if you put out a cynical profile with a negative vibe to it you can't expect to attract much of positive. The 5% of men you state will do it for you will probably do so for a lot of other women. Given the choice between a ranty, negative profile, and a positive and cheerful one, which do you think they'll chose? |
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"The roughest looking birds? Why would you say that? I don't understand what you think that will achieve or who you think it will attract.
To be fair on a previous thread she did refer to herself as in "the elite of women on here" "
I assume that means in terms of looks? Isn't the whole point of this thread that looks aren't enough? |
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"The roughest looking birds? Why would you say that? I don't understand what you think that will achieve or who you think it will attract.
To be fair on a previous thread she did refer to herself as in "the elite of women on here"
I assume that means in terms of looks? Isn't the whole point of this thread that looks aren't enough? "
No idea what she meant but it sure came across as arrogant, in my view. |
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Well speaking from the other side of the coin, where guys also get let down (2 nights ago for me)...but also get 3% of the mail women get....there is no greener grass, either side of the fence.
So, after being ready for a time to meet text by 5pm, I wasted my evening instead. Saved a 90 minute drive though.
Some of us are honest and dependable and will meet for coffee and chat to see if we’d like it to go further...and it’s not just blokes who are the ‘bad guys’, even if I’m one of the 95% women wouldn’t look at! x |
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"Now my profile just looks boring as shit. I need to see pictures of people to see if they’re worth getting to know so I can’t expect guys to know if they’re attracted to me without having any public pictures. "
Honestly , the few lines you had before had more personality , humour and something about you than this rant version now .
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"Just read your rewrite. It's long, ranty, and comes across as condescending as you say 95% of men you won't fancy. A number of guys you might fancy will read that and move on. I understand the text is _ased on your frustration, but if you put out a cynical profile with a negative vibe to it you can't expect to attract much of positive. The 5% of men you state will do it for you will probably do so for a lot of other women. Given the choice between a ranty, negative profile, and a positive and cheerful one, which do you think they'll chose?"
Agreed.
Fab is frustrating. It is! But letting out your frustration out on your profile will just turn off people you're interested in. |
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over a year ago
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Jeez 9 years and only 4 guys.
I wouldn't waste my time on here.
Can I say, not all fems get loads of mail. I'll be lucky if I get five different guys a day messaging me.
Maybe look at your filters and search for yourself a bit more.
Its not always about sitting there and expecting them to come to you.
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
The problem is perception first and foremost.
I'll assume that in person you're in reality friendly and good fun. The image you convey in your posts and in your profile is something else. You come across as an entitled diva who: 1) thinks she's too good for most men. 2) is in an upper league as far as women are concerned and the vibe a lot of your comments gives out is tinged with an air of superiority.
If you have a weakness for bad boys who just want a fuck _ased on looks and nothing else that's fine. If you want something more from your male candidates, they'll probably opt for someone else who doesn't seem like such hard work. And I say hard work personality wise and not ease of getting into your knickers.
This is not a pop at you, but rather a brutally honest male opinion who has seen your posts and rants for sometime now but has avoided actually commenting. I do wish you the best of luck but things will not change until the perception you put out changes. |
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over a year ago
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"The problem is perception first and foremost.
I'll assume that in person you're in reality friendly and good fun. The image you convey in your posts and in your profile is something else. You come across as an entitled diva who: 1) thinks she's too good for most men. 2) is in an upper league as far as women are concerned and the vibe a lot of your comments gives out is tinged with an air of superiority.
If you have a weakness for bad boys who just want a fuck _ased on looks and nothing else that's fine. If you want something more from your male candidates, they'll probably opt for someone else who doesn't seem like such hard work. And I say hard work personality wise and not ease of getting into your knickers.
This is not a pop at you, but rather a brutally honest male opinion who has seen your posts and rants for sometime now but has avoided actually commenting. I do wish you the best of luck but things will not change until the perception you put out changes."
Easy to the guys I fancy but a rubix cube to the ones I don’t. |
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"The problem is perception first and foremost.
I'll assume that in person you're in reality friendly and good fun. The image you convey in your posts and in your profile is something else. You come across as an entitled diva who: 1) thinks she's too good for most men. 2) is in an upper league as far as women are concerned and the vibe a lot of your comments gives out is tinged with an air of superiority.
If you have a weakness for bad boys who just want a fuck _ased on looks and nothing else that's fine. If you want something more from your male candidates, they'll probably opt for someone else who doesn't seem like such hard work. And I say hard work personality wise and not ease of getting into your knickers.
This is not a pop at you, but rather a brutally honest male opinion who has seen your posts and rants for sometime now but has avoided actually commenting. I do wish you the best of luck but things will not change until the perception you put out changes.
Easy to the guys I fancy but a rubix cube to the ones I don’t. "
You say that, but just that phrase would stop a number of guys from messaging.
Not that I’d know, I’m not in the higher echelons of male specimen that would fall into the category you’re painting.
Genuinely don’t think you are what how you’re coming across, so with your profile, like with fab in general, it’s about getting the wording right.
Unless you are the type of person that comes across and then, we’ll maybe that’s an indication of how it’s just gonna be? |
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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago
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You know what, just stick to your original version but with one tasteful and one teasing (and I do mean teasing) pic.
There wasn't much wrong with it. It's just that you had a few dickheads but TBH, you're going to get that no matter what unless you put drastic filters on and do your own searching. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"The problem is perception first and foremost.
I'll assume that in person you're in reality friendly and good fun. The image you convey in your posts and in your profile is something else. You come across as an entitled diva who: 1) thinks she's too good for most men. 2) is in an upper league as far as women are concerned and the vibe a lot of your comments gives out is tinged with an air of superiority.
If you have a weakness for bad boys who just want a fuck _ased on looks and nothing else that's fine. If you want something more from your male candidates, they'll probably opt for someone else who doesn't seem like such hard work. And I say hard work personality wise and not ease of getting into your knickers.
This is not a pop at you, but rather a brutally honest male opinion who has seen your posts and rants for sometime now but has avoided actually commenting. I do wish you the best of luck but things will not change until the perception you put out changes.
Easy to the guys I fancy but a rubix cube to the ones I don’t. "
I've no way of knowing if i'd be your "type" but i'll assume i'm part of the 95% of undesirables. If I were in that 5% bracket, and _ased solely on your profile and your posts I wouldn't message you. There are many other women with sass, great looking boobs and arse that put out a much more fun and positive vibe that i'd prefer contacting. If you're a decent, friendly and fun person as I suspect you are, i'd never know as the 5% move on to someone else. |
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You need to take the good with the bad. You just do. However you use Fab, there's downsides.
But do it with outward humility, humour, and patience. I keep my "oh for fuck's sake really" 90% offline and most of that out of public. |
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over a year ago
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"You know what, just stick to your original version but with one tasteful and one teasing (and I do mean teasing) pic.
There wasn't much wrong with it. It's just that you had a few dickheads but TBH, you're going to get that no matter what unless you put drastic filters on and do your own searching."
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Chillout nails the issue you have. There's no way to turn off the bad (who probably don't read it anyway) without also turning off the good (who do).
You'll get all the downsides of Fab (crap messages, Fabmin, etc) and less of the great people and great sex we're all looking for. |
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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago
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If you're courting the attention of hot pics , status updates and forum posts you can't really complain that your inbox is overflowing and you can't pick out the decent guys.
OP you've been here long enough to know exactly how this site works , how to build an honest profile with what you want and how to snake out the time wasters. If you can't see what you're repetitively doing wrong , your results will never change!
If you're that frustrated with the site I'd perhaps advise a break so that you can figure out exactly why you're here and look for a new approach |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"The problem is perception first and foremost.
I'll assume that in person you're in reality friendly and good fun. The image you convey in your posts and in your profile is something else. You come across as an entitled diva who: 1) thinks she's too good for most men. 2) is in an upper league as far as women are concerned and the vibe a lot of your comments gives out is tinged with an air of superiority.
If you have a weakness for bad boys who just want a fuck _ased on looks and nothing else that's fine. If you want something more from your male candidates, they'll probably opt for someone else who doesn't seem like such hard work. And I say hard work personality wise and not ease of getting into your knickers.
This is not a pop at you, but rather a brutally honest male opinion who has seen your posts and rants for sometime now but has avoided actually commenting. I do wish you the best of luck but things will not change until the perception you put out changes.
Easy to the guys I fancy but a rubix cube to the ones I don’t.
I've no way of knowing if i'd be your "type" but i'll assume i'm part of the 95% of undesirables. If I were in that 5% bracket, and _ased solely on your profile and your posts I wouldn't message you. There are many other women with sass, great looking boobs and arse that put out a much more fun and positive vibe that i'd prefer contacting. If you're a decent, friendly and fun person as I suspect you are, i'd never know as the 5% move on to someone else."
I kind of agree with _hillout here.
I've chatted with you in the past and I do like you but I absolutely wouldn't message you with regards to a meet _ased on your profile.
Everything that you've written is aimed at the guys who think/know they're good looking, in my experience, they're exactly the ones who will mess you about and drop you at the whiff of a better offer.
Yes there are a lot of good looking guys around, the good ones have humility and will assume that they won't be what you're looking for. Maybe you should go looking yourself, find a guy who walks the walk and isn't the ego monster that you seem to be asking for. |
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I love a bit of a challenge but I'm not about to head to Wales instantly, and while I get your basic attractiveness criteria the mind is where its really at in terms of anything more than once and even then lots of people require some connection before meeting.
Your profile demands a lot of trust from others so you need to establish yourself as trust worthy. |
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I’ve not read every comment on here, so forgive me for just jumping in. There seems to be two common schools of thought on these forums: most men are gobshite morons, rude and abusive and not worth the time of day. And, all the men I fancy are unreliable twats who vanish or don’t turn up when I lay down the law.
Here’s a fun fact that often gets forgotten: men are human beings as well.
We like to know that the lady we’re investing our time in actually appreciates our efforts and honestly desires us in return.
If I was prepared to drive two hours to meet you OP, and I asked the same question, only to be told that you can’t really be bothered to reply because I’m probably just some guy looking for wank chat, I would likely stop responding to you as well. Why would I make the effort for someone who thinks so little of me?
As someone else further up said, this is not me having a pop at anyone. You and I, OP, have never spoken before, and I’ve not read any of your other posts. I have no opinion on the kind of person you are. But I’ve seen these threads before. I know that lots of different people do put up with a lot of crap, and I can certainly understand that over time that rubbish will grind you down and make you cynical. But for the guys you actually like, a little kindness will probably go a long way Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You didn't guarantee him what's written on your profile or feed him wanking material, it's as simple as that so he's moved on... He's an arse and not worth another thought. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Right my pessimistic self naturally assumed the worst. I sent one last message but a voice note and he responded immediately with one of his own and explained he dropped his phone and his screen has smashed, he’s only got the bottom line across the screen so hasn’t been able to read or send any texts, now we’re chatting again but via voice notes! |
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"I groan when my pictures climb into hot pics. I find it awful tbh.
You can solve that by setting them to private when you upload. You can then put them to public a few hours after"
Or don’t allow them to be fabbed |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Has everyone seen my most recent comment. All is well, we’re speaking via voice notes, he smashed his screen yesterday!
Do you believe him? "
I do because if he was wanting to ignore me why would he be having a full blown back and forth conversation now via voice notes? Like if he was ignoring my texts he’d be ignoring me period, don’t you think? |
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"Has everyone seen my most recent comment. All is well, we’re speaking via voice notes, he smashed his screen yesterday!
Do you believe him?
I do because if he was wanting to ignore me why would he be having a full blown back and forth conversation now via voice notes? Like if he was ignoring my texts he’d be ignoring me period, don’t you think?"
I'm not judging him because I don't know him but couldn't he have sent you a voice note last night too instead of just going cold on you. Personally I'd be suspicious. But that's just me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Has everyone seen my most recent comment. All is well, we’re speaking via voice notes, he smashed his screen yesterday!
Do you believe him?
I do because if he was wanting to ignore me why would he be having a full blown back and forth conversation now via voice notes? Like if he was ignoring my texts he’d be ignoring me period, don’t you think?
I'm not judging him because I don't know him but couldn't he have sent you a voice note last night too instead of just going cold on you. Personally I'd be suspicious. But that's just me. "
Yeah I’ll wait to see what happens. He did say he didn’t know the voice notes feature was working till I sent one. Said he only has a small line across the bottom of the screen. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"I groan when my pictures climb into hot pics. I find it awful tbh.
You can solve that by setting them to private when you upload. You can then put them to public a few hours after
Or don’t allow them to be fabbed "
This too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Cluster, he'll regret it one day.
When he gets to my age, and all messages and communication with the opposite sex disappear.
I would never have not met you xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Cluster, he'll regret it one day.
When he gets to my age, and all messages and communication with the opposite sex disappear.
I would never have not met you xx"
Have you read the last few comments, we’re speaking again! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Cluster, he'll regret it one day.
When he gets to my age, and all messages and communication with the opposite sex disappear.
I would never have not met you xx
Have you read the last few comments, we’re speaking again!"
Oops sorry, dived straight in there didn't I lol x |
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