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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
Preston |
"If you’ve sent a message to someone. They’ve looked at the message but not deleted.
Being new I don’t want to overstep the boundaries. "
If I've not deleted it, it means in thinking about it. |
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"If you’ve sent a message to someone. They’ve looked at the message but not deleted.
Being new I don’t want to overstep the boundaries. "
Just delete your message once you've sent it and you won't dwell on it then. Can mean different things to different people. Some will go back to it, some just don't keep up with managing messages x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you’ve sent a message to someone. They’ve looked at the message but not deleted.
Being new I don’t want to overstep the boundaries. "
means they are either two busy to reply, have too many other messages, hubby came in and read your message or theyre not interested    |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"They are either too busy to answer or too polite to immediately delete, I'd send them another 600 messages just to make sure."
On it!!! I’m sure that’ll work. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you’ve sent a message to someone. They’ve looked at the message but not deleted.
Being new I don’t want to overstep the boundaries. means they are either two busy to reply, have too many other messages, hubby came in and read your message or theyre not interested "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you’ve sent a message to someone. They’ve looked at the message but not deleted.
Being new I don’t want to overstep the boundaries.
Just delete your message once you've sent it and you won't dwell on it then. Can mean different things to different people. Some will go back to it, some just don't keep up with managing messages x"
That’s not a bad tactic but keen to see what happens.
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By *j1963Couple
over a year ago
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As the Mrs half posting... it would mean I've read it, I'm considering it but cant reply straight away due to where I am or what I'm doing. Read and deleted means your not for me but your messaged interested me enough to read, deleted and unread is I read the subject and first two lines and it's a no before I even open the message... sorry if that's brutal |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As the Mrs half posting... it would mean I've read it, I'm considering it but cant reply straight away due to where I am or what I'm doing. Read and deleted means your not for me but your messaged interested me enough to read, deleted and unread is I read the subject and first two lines and it's a no before I even open the message... sorry if that's brutal "
Wooohoooooo. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How long ago did they read it?
If they have a few messages, it may take their time to reply (if they’re going to).
If it takes them more than 40 seconds to reply, report the bitch   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I could mean they're not interested but forgot to delete it
I could mean they've lent on their phone and read the message by mistake.
I could mean they're interested but havent got chance to reply and forgot to make it unread.
This are generally reasons I leave messages as read.
But dont message again, the ball is in their court so to speak |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How long ago did they read it?
If they have a few messages, it may take their time to reply (if they’re going to).
If it takes them more than 40 seconds to reply, report the bitch "
She’s just passed the 40 second threshold. That’s it. Done |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I read and then mark as unread if they’re too polite to delete but not what I’m looking for. Extra polite messages or time permitting and I’ll send a no thanks message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How long ago did they read it?
If they have a few messages, it may take their time to reply (if they’re going to).
If it takes them more than 40 seconds to reply, report the bitch
She’s just passed the 40 second threshold. That’s it. Done "
Teach them who’s boss from the start. No jumping through hoops on here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some women get a lot of messages in a day and probably only reply to ones that stand out or are from friends.
If you are keen, send one every couple days.... it’s not always what you think.
Some days I’m in a total shitter and delete everything without reading, some days I read and respond to them all...
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I read and then mark as unread if they’re too polite to delete but not what I’m looking for. Extra polite messages or time permitting and I’ll send a no thanks message. "
That’s most likely it. I should be rude and just fly with it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They are either too busy to answer or too polite to immediately delete, I'd send them another 600 messages just to make sure."
Ahaha I think I’m in love !! Too funny |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I could mean they're not interested but forgot to delete it
I could mean they've lent on their phone and read the message by mistake.
I could mean they're interested but havent got chance to reply and forgot to make it unread.
This are generally reasons I leave messages as read.
But dont message again, the ball is in their court so to speak "
I shall wait their return - |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Some women get a lot of messages in a day and probably only reply to ones that stand out or are from friends.
If you are keen, send one every couple days.... it’s not always what you think.
Some days I’m in a total shitter and delete everything without reading, some days I read and respond to them all...
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Great advice. And finally what I was waiting for I thought it might be a little in. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you’ve sent a message to someone. They’ve looked at the message but not deleted.
Being new I don’t want to overstep the boundaries.
It means the end is nigh
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Grrrrrrr. I refuse to accept such rejection. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How long ago did they read it?
If they have a few messages, it may take their time to reply (if they’re going to).
If it takes them more than 40 seconds to reply, report the bitch
She’s just passed the 40 second threshold. That’s it. Done
Teach them who’s boss from the start. No jumping through hoops on here "
I’m totally done with her. ...... totally.
Dammit. I just sent another message. I’m so weak. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's not complicated...if someone wants to get to know you they'll reply
Without all the silly game playing "
That’s fair enough. But perhaps - just perhaps this lady is. But then if she is do you really want that? Mmmmmm. Thrill of the chase. |
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"If you’ve sent a message to someone. They’ve looked at the message but not deleted.
Being new I don’t want to overstep the boundaries.
If I've not deleted it, it means in thinking about it."
This ^ but I mark it unread again to remind me to come back to it |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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It might mean that they'll reply later, or they're not interested.
If it's the former do not send another message it comes across as pushy and that is a total turn off for a lot of women. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you’ve sent a message to someone. They’ve looked at the message but not deleted.
Being new I don’t want to overstep the boundaries.
If I've not deleted it, it means in thinking about it.
This ^ but I mark it unread again to remind me to come back to it "
Fingers crossed ?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It might mean that they'll reply later, or they're not interested.
If it's the former do not send another message it comes across as pushy and that is a total turn off for a lot of women. "
I’ll resist the urge to. It’s so damn tempting. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you to all comments. So. After 3 days of the post being there. Seen but not acted upon I took the plunge. Dropped a line saying “don’t want to be a pest but.... “
Boom. She replied. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some women get a lot of messages in a day and probably only reply to ones that stand out or are from friends.
If you are keen, send one every couple days.... it’s not always what you think.
Some days I’m in a total shitter and delete everything without reading, some days I read and respond to them all...
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just one of those mysteries "
I shall report back with reasons soon. But - I think someone mentioned it is being busy to focus.
Imagine inboxes are just chocker |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you’ve sent a message to someone. They’ve looked at the message but not deleted.
Being new I don’t want to overstep the boundaries. "
If read but not deleted they may be interested later as they could already have a busy few days or week ahead. Little point in starting to chat and get your hopes up too quickly, but if you delete you won't know what you said to them.
If deleted, then as per fab rules, they're not interested. Just delete and block, saves bothering then again and getting more deletes.
Focus on those who show an interest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ahhhh. So by all accounts all options are open. Damn this is confusing!!!! "
Not for us, it's a not interested as we rarely delete messages. We mark unread if interested and not time to reply. |
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Everything we must assume that no reply equals no interest. It's possible that some are read but left for evaluation, with a potential reply, at right point, perhaps when they have time etc. The easiest thing is to assume that you are not of interest, unless you ever hear from them.
Forget about who you have messaged. Focus on the others that you could and get active with many people.
And don't chase people up, if you don't hear. I don't look at details of what I've sent, that's passed. |
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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago
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It can mean alot of things.
Personally I know when I have read a message and not replied I'm often thinking about how to respond. If I'm thinking about how to respond I probably won't bother as there hasn't been that instant "wow" factor in either the message or the profile.
If I'm interested I am normally pretty quick to respond  |
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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago
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"If you’ve sent a message to someone. They’ve looked at the message but not deleted.
Being new I don’t want to overstep the boundaries. "
if they do that i take it as they are not interested and delete and block them so i dont bother them again, probably block after 24hrs of no reply as in my experience after that time period they are not going to reply |
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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago
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"It can mean alot of things.
Personally I know when I have read a message and not replied I'm often thinking about how to respond. If I'm thinking about how to respond I probably won't bother as there hasn't been that instant "wow" factor in either the message or the profile.
If I'm interested I am normally pretty quick to respond "
my point exactly! |
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Well usually if you speak to somebody in the flesh and they don’t reply you take the hint I don’t think fab is any different except couples and single ladies have a 100 guys trying to talk to them all at the same time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not a fake profile. Sometimes people have a life outside of fab and check in on the spare 5 minutes they have and reply at a later time. We do this. Doesnt mean no interest. |
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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago
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"It can mean alot of things.
Personally I know when I have read a message and not replied I'm often thinking about how to respond. If I'm thinking about how to respond I probably won't bother as there hasn't been that instant "wow" factor in either the message or the profile.
If I'm interested I am normally pretty quick to respond
my point exactly! "
It's a bit like "meeehhh, I might answer if I'm bored enough " |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If its not been deleted I'd say its a maybe, or they may reply later.
If it's a couple then I'd say they're waiting for the partner to see it.
But what do I know? "
This |
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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago
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"Well usually if you speak to somebody in the flesh and they don’t reply you take the hint I don’t think fab is any different except couples and single ladies have a 100 guys trying to talk to them all at the same time "
Some couples and singles. Not all. |
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"Well usually if you speak to somebody in the flesh and they don’t reply you take the hint I don’t think fab is any different except couples and single ladies have a 100 guys trying to talk to them all at the same time
Some couples and singles. Not all. "
Agreed not all  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ahhhh. So by all accounts all options are open. Damn this is confusing!!!!
Not for us, it's a not interested as we rarely delete messages. We mark unread if interested and not time to reply. "
I guess there’s no right or wrong way on process. Interestingly i got a response so let’s see where that goes. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not interested. Can't be bothered replying just yet. Interested but not sure how to reply.
It could mean a whole host of things or absolutely nothing."
Women are just so damn confusing. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It can mean alot of things.
Personally I know when I have read a message and not replied I'm often thinking about how to respond. If I'm thinking about how to respond I probably won't bother as there hasn't been that instant "wow" factor in either the message or the profile.
If I'm interested I am normally pretty quick to respond
my point exactly!
It's a bit like "meeehhh, I might answer if I'm bored enough " "
Soooo true  . I did get a response in the end so let’s see “how interested” that means. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Mostly if I don't delete it means I'm not interested but now and then I'll go back to the odd one or two and reply if it's not been days since sent "
That’s just hoarding. Hahaha |
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