"What makes a better friend, someone who sticks up for you no matter what or someone who tells you when you're in the wrong and leaves you to it? "
someone who tells you when you're in the wrong but is there for you regardless |
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"What makes a better friend, someone who sticks up for you no matter what or someone who tells you when you're in the wrong and leaves you to it? "
I'd say someone who sticks up for you, but also isn't afraid to call you out on stuff.
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"Its a blend of both.
A real friend would tell you youre making a mistake and stick around to catch you when you fall."
Sorry, that was more what I meant. Stick around but not fight your battles for you, just be there in the background. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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"The first option. That involves loyalty.
The second option is really their opinion versus your own.
But wouldn't you want to be told if you were stepping out of line though? "
But was I stepping out of line or was it just their opinion I was? And if they are just going to give me their opinion and run then they can keep it to themself.
Stick by me through the good and the bad. Don’t cut and run.
That’s what I think anyway. |
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"What makes a better friend, someone who sticks up for you no matter what or someone who tells you when you're in the wrong and leaves you to it? "
It's a bit of both in reality for me. If you think a friend is wrong then you should do all you can to stop them continuing to be so, BUT though you may not agree you still stand with them. If you abandon a friend just because they're wrong (unless it's something serious they've done obviously) then youre not really much of a friend. |
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"What makes a better friend, someone who sticks up for you no matter what or someone who tells you when you're in the wrong and leaves you to it?
someone who tells you when you're in the wrong but is there for you regardless "
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"What makes a better friend, someone who sticks up for you no matter what or someone who tells you when you're in the wrong and leaves you to it? "
Bit of both I think |
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I want friends who'll tell me what they consider to be best for me rather than what I want to hear. I don't want sycophants and hangers on but once they've told me I'm an idiot I expect them to provide me with an alibi.  |
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"I want friends who'll tell me what they consider to be best for me rather than what I want to hear. I don't want sycophants and hangers on but once they've told me I'm an idiot I expect them to provide me with an alibi. "
Honestly officer,.I swear they never left my sight  |
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"I want friends who'll tell me what they consider to be best for me rather than what I want to hear. I don't want sycophants and hangers on but once they've told me I'm an idiot I expect them to provide me with an alibi.
Honestly officer,.I swear they never left my sight "
That is exactly what you need to say to the nice policeman...after you've disposed of the evidence. |
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"I want friends who'll tell me what they consider to be best for me rather than what I want to hear. I don't want sycophants and hangers on but once they've told me I'm an idiot I expect them to provide me with an alibi.
Honestly officer,.I swear they never left my sight
That is exactly what you need to say to the nice policeman...after you've disposed of the evidence."
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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The first option. With the added extra of them feeling free and able to offer their perspective and STILL stick by me regardless of what I make of it.
I love you
I see this and think you should do that
Oh you dont and you won't
I still love you, maybe even a bit more
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"What makes a better friend, someone who sticks up for you no matter what or someone who tells you when you're in the wrong and leaves you to it? "
Is there a third option where you point out the issue but tell them not to worry about it because they're a mate? |
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"What makes a better friend, someone who sticks up for you no matter what or someone who tells you when you're in the wrong and leaves you to it?
Is there a third option where you point out the issue but tell them not to worry about it because they're a mate?"
That's kinda what the second option should've been but I worded it wrong |
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"What makes a better friend, someone who sticks up for you no matter what or someone who tells you when you're in the wrong and leaves you to it? "
a mixture of both, you need to be told sometimes youre wrong but a good friend is there for you no matter what   |
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"What makes a better friend, someone who sticks up for you no matter what or someone who tells you when you're in the wrong and leaves you to it?
Is there a third option where you point out the issue but tell them not to worry about it because they're a mate?
That's kinda what the second option should've been but I worded it wrong "
Ah, that then. Nothing good about letting your mate be a dickhead and making the world a worser place. |
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
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A true friend is someone with whom you can share your life's up's, down's, troubles and good times, but who'll not be utterly judgemental whilst giving our their viewpoint and usually allowing you a balanced view.
I have 2 really close friends who fit that category. I've also been there for them over the past 30 years. |
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"What makes a better friend, someone who sticks up for you no matter what or someone who tells you when you're in the wrong and leaves you to it? "
There are times for each. The best type of friend is one who knows when to do which and acts accordingly. |
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"Its a blend of both.
A real friend would tell you youre making a mistake and stick around to catch you when you fall."
Absolutely this
And those people who whinge about having no friends...maybe have a look at how good a friend you've been in the past.
Being a friend is about being there for the good times and the bad, not just whinging and turning up when you need support
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"It’s a mixture of both, some who sticks by you, but also someone not scared to tell you like it is rather than just support you whatever dumb thing you might be thinking "
Totally agree, you can't force friends not to make mistakes, you can only advise them and be ready to be there when it inevitably goes wrong, it's also not saying 'I told you so'. |
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"Its a blend of both.
A real friend would tell you youre making a mistake and stick around to catch you when you fall.
Absolutely this
And those people who whinge about having no friends...maybe have a look at how good a friend you've been in the past.
Being a friend is about being there for the good times and the bad, not just whinging and turning up when you need support
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Amen to that! Amazing how many times a really good friend gets used as a sponge, then has no support from those they looked out for when they need it! |
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Drains and Radiators -
Drains - Those who look to YOU for support, who whinge incessantly and pontificate abound! but are rarely there when you need it and often YOU have to maintain contact with.
Radiators - those warm, comforting friends with whom you have a ‘two way valve’ there for you whatever the circumstance, celebrate your good times, pick you up when you’re down. Those who you hug often and welcome into your life because it’s two way  |
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"Drains and Radiators -
Drains - Those who look to YOU for support, who whinge incessantly and pontificate abound! but are rarely there when you need it and often YOU have to maintain contact with.
Radiators - those warm, comforting friends with whom you have a ‘two way valve’ there for you whatever the circumstance, celebrate your good times, pick you up when you’re down. Those who you hug often and welcome into your life because it’s two way "
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Someone who’s honest and doesn’t talk about you behind your back
In the real world I’d ask if I heard gossip though ... but on here if I hear gossip I’ll just go.
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