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over a year ago
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Ladies, would you prefer a male gynecologist? Men would you be ok with you wife/partner being examined by male OBGYN without being in the room. New studies show male are fleeing this area of medicine at an alarming level. Your thoughts? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I read a reddit post the other day about a woman who saw a man. Her husband went fucking mental.
I wouldn’t prefer it. But I don’t care either way. It isn’t exactly a fun experience, man or woman. |
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over a year ago
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I'd rather a female.
I'd question a man not being comfortable with another man giving their female half an examination like that though. It is not erotic in the slightest! |
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"Ladies, would you prefer a male gynecologist? Men would you be ok with you wife/partner being examined by male OBGYN without being in the room. New studies show male are fleeing this area of medicine at an alarming level. Your thoughts?"
It wudnt make a difference 2 me... As long as they were qualified. Can't imagine doing that all day and wanting 2c ne more... Bit like working as a cleaner all day then goin home 2a shit hole... Last thing u want 2 do is clear up LMFAO  |
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I have a gynaelogical condition called endometriosis so I regularly see them. It doesn't bother me either way if it's a man or a woman but I have to say I've only ever had female doctors be overzealous with a speculum. The men seem to overcompensate for not knowing how it feels and are therefore usually incredibly gentle. |
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"Ladies, would you prefer a male gynecologist? Men would you be ok with you wife/partner being examined by male OBGYN without being in the room. New studies show male are fleeing this area of medicine at an alarming level. Your thoughts?"
Men who have a problem with it are fucking children! No offence meant to children. |
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In theory it makes no difference.
In practice the worst gynaecologists I've ever seen have been male. One of them is lucky that his mismanagement of me and contempt for my suffering didn't kill me. |
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Tbh I’ve no issue either way. It might be awkward if he was really hot - but I’ve never met a hot one yet. Then again - it might be kinda nice! 
What’s important to me is how good that man/woman is at their job - and how gentle they are! X |
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"I have a gynaelogical condition called endometriosis so I regularly see them. It doesn't bother me either way if it's a man or a woman but I have to say I've only ever had female doctors be overzealous with a speculum. The men seem to overcompensate for not knowing how it feels and are therefore usually incredibly gentle."
Hey snap me too (for the endometritis part) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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This is one of my kinks so I’m only really comfortable with a woman doing my down there stuff as I’m not attracted to women.
If I had a male gynaecologist and especially if he was fit I’d probably get excited and it would become some hand that rocks the cradle shit. |
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"I have a gynaelogical condition called endometriosis so I regularly see them. It doesn't bother me either way if it's a man or a woman but I have to say I've only ever had female doctors be overzealous with a speculum. The men seem to overcompensate for not knowing how it feels and are therefore usually incredibly gentle.
Hey snap me too (for the endometritis part) "
Ha. Mine, the female doctors tend to have compassion and the men dismiss me as being hysterical (pun intended).
And if one more male gynaecologist (I'm into double figures, it's a pattern) tells me my pain is insignificant, my fear of a grisly death irrational, and that I need to have babies because I don't know my own mind, that speculum is going up his arse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a gynaelogical condition called endometriosis so I regularly see them. It doesn't bother me either way if it's a man or a woman but I have to say I've only ever had female doctors be overzealous with a speculum. The men seem to overcompensate for not knowing how it feels and are therefore usually incredibly gentle.
Hey snap me too (for the endometritis part)
Ha. Mine, the female doctors tend to have compassion and the men dismiss me as being hysterical (pun intended).
And if one more male gynaecologist (I'm into double figures, it's a pattern) tells me my pain is insignificant, my fear of a grisly death irrational, and that I need to have babies because I don't know my own mind, that speculum is going up his arse."
I had severe period pains for years and years. Bleeding was so heavy I always leaked. I’d pass out from the pain. One doctor told me to lose weight (I was thirteen and a size six). I went to another doctor, who happened to have the same name as him. She was livid, how dare another doctor tell me to lose weight when I was clearly underweight. She checked to see who it was...her husband. She called him through and went mental |
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"I have a gynaelogical condition called endometriosis so I regularly see them. It doesn't bother me either way if it's a man or a woman but I have to say I've only ever had female doctors be overzealous with a speculum. The men seem to overcompensate for not knowing how it feels and are therefore usually incredibly gentle.
Hey snap me too (for the endometritis part)
Ha. Mine, the female doctors tend to have compassion and the men dismiss me as being hysterical (pun intended).
And if one more male gynaecologist (I'm into double figures, it's a pattern) tells me my pain is insignificant, my fear of a grisly death irrational, and that I need to have babies because I don't know my own mind, that speculum is going up his arse.
I had severe period pains for years and years. Bleeding was so heavy I always leaked. I’d pass out from the pain. One doctor told me to lose weight (I was thirteen and a size six). I went to another doctor, who happened to have the same name as him. She was livid, how dare another doctor tell me to lose weight when I was clearly underweight. She checked to see who it was...her husband. She called him through and went mental "
Yeah, my periods were similarly insane and the sympathy similarly lacking. |
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See cnn.com now. Pregnant woman claims her obgyn abused her when she was pregnant. Her story will cause countless other women to opt for the female option maybe? |
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"See cnn.com now. Pregnant woman claims her obgyn abused her when she was pregnant. Her story will cause countless other women to opt for the female option maybe?"
Maybe less men (not necessarily this man) should abuse women or hospitals should safeguard. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd rather a female.
I'd question a man not being comfortable with another man giving their female half an examination like that though. It is not erotic in the slightest!"
I'm sure that's dead right. Just like, when I was in my 20s, getting a sponge bath from a lovely young nurse while I was in hospital after a car crash. It would normally have been quite an event, but not under those circumstances. |
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"I have a gynaelogical condition called endometriosis so I regularly see them. It doesn't bother me either way if it's a man or a woman but I have to say I've only ever had female doctors be overzealous with a speculum. The men seem to overcompensate for not knowing how it feels and are therefore usually incredibly gentle.
Hey snap me too (for the endometritis part) "
It's a right pain in the uterus eh!? |
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
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Where I come from most gyns are male
I’ve had check ups throughout all my three pregnancies with my male OBGYN in Mexico. He is the most professional man I know.
With my youngest I was seen by a female OBGYN here in the UK as I had gestational diabetes. She was great too. |
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"I have a gynaelogical condition called endometriosis so I regularly see them. It doesn't bother me either way if it's a man or a woman but I have to say I've only ever had female doctors be overzealous with a speculum. The men seem to overcompensate for not knowing how it feels and are therefore usually incredibly gentle.
Hey snap me too (for the endometritis part)
Ha. Mine, the female doctors tend to have compassion and the men dismiss me as being hysterical (pun intended).
And if one more male gynaecologist (I'm into double figures, it's a pattern) tells me my pain is insignificant, my fear of a grisly death irrational, and that I need to have babies because I don't know my own mind, that speculum is going up his arse.
I had severe period pains for years and years. Bleeding was so heavy I always leaked. I’d pass out from the pain. One doctor told me to lose weight (I was thirteen and a size six). I went to another doctor, who happened to have the same name as him. She was livid, how dare another doctor tell me to lose weight when I was clearly underweight. She checked to see who it was...her husband. She called him through and went mental "
Wow I imagine that was awkward when they went home!
For the record I was talking exclusively about gnaecologists. Personally I've found GPs to be almost universally shit with these kind of things. I also had a nurse at a walk in centre insist to me I definitely didn't have endometriosis even though I've seen multiple consultants over it. I was only there over a UTI  . |
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"Ladies, would you prefer a male gynecologist? Men would you be ok with you wife/partner being examined by male OBGYN without being in the room. New studies show male are fleeing this area of medicine at an alarming level. Your thoughts?"
Why would men NOT be okay with their wife/partner not being chaperoned whilst under examination ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ladies, would you prefer a male gynecologist? Men would you be ok with you wife/partner being examined by male OBGYN without being in the room. New studies show male are fleeing this area of medicine at an alarming level. Your thoughts?"
Mine is male.
He is possibly one of the best looking men I have ever met.
He also happens to be extremely professional and a fantastic communicator.
My previous gynie had no idea how to communicate effectively hence the change.
My sister is also a gynie, and she is fantastic too, it's all about their ability to do their job rather than how they identify, surely. |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"I have a gynaelogical condition called endometriosis so I regularly see them. It doesn't bother me either way if it's a man or a woman but I have to say I've only ever had female doctors be overzealous with a speculum. The men seem to overcompensate for not knowing how it feels and are therefore usually incredibly gentle."
This is exactly what I was going to say, i was seeing gynaecologists for years and the men are always far more gentle and tend to have a nicer nature. |
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"I have a gynaelogical condition called endometriosis so I regularly see them. It doesn't bother me either way if it's a man or a woman but I have to say I've only ever had female doctors be overzealous with a speculum. The men seem to overcompensate for not knowing how it feels and are therefore usually incredibly gentle.
This is exactly what I was going to say, i was seeing gynaecologists for years and the men are always far more gentle and tend to have a nicer nature."
I've encountered, not quite in so many words, the idea that endo isn't that bad and it's just lady brain overreaction.
Although at least endo can't kill you  |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"I have a gynaelogical condition called endometriosis so I regularly see them. It doesn't bother me either way if it's a man or a woman but I have to say I've only ever had female doctors be overzealous with a speculum. The men seem to overcompensate for not knowing how it feels and are therefore usually incredibly gentle.
This is exactly what I was going to say, i was seeing gynaecologists for years and the men are always far more gentle and tend to have a nicer nature.
I've encountered, not quite in so many words, the idea that endo isn't that bad and it's just lady brain overreaction.
Although at least endo can't kill you "
From a woman or man?
Ive had some not so pleasant remarks from women gynaecologists over the years. |
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"See cnn.com now. Pregnant woman claims her obgyn abused her when she was pregnant. Her story will cause countless other women to opt for the female option maybe?"
So if someone got abused by a female gyno .... they'd only ever go to a man after that ..... right ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It used to bother me, since then I've had two kids and treatment for abnormal cells.
I've had a few men between my legs for medical reasons and really don't give a toss anymore. As long as they are qualified and do the job as painless as possible they can crack on |
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"I have a gynaelogical condition called endometriosis so I regularly see them. It doesn't bother me either way if it's a man or a woman but I have to say I've only ever had female doctors be overzealous with a speculum. The men seem to overcompensate for not knowing how it feels and are therefore usually incredibly gentle.
This is exactly what I was going to say, i was seeing gynaecologists for years and the men are always far more gentle and tend to have a nicer nature.
I've encountered, not quite in so many words, the idea that endo isn't that bad and it's just lady brain overreaction.
Although at least endo can't kill you "
It's uncommon but ruptured ovarian cysts and ovarian torsion as a result of large cysts can lead to sepsis. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"See cnn.com now. Pregnant woman claims her obgyn abused her when she was pregnant. Her story will cause countless other women to opt for the female option maybe?
So if someone got abused by a female gyno .... they'd only ever go to a man after that ..... right ?"
Well I dont know. That post was in response to someone asking if they were pregnant they wouldnt care who they saw (gender) as in their pregnant state it wouldnt matter to them (maybe they assume they wouldnt be found attractive while pregnant). I was just pointing to the cnn piece which was what spurred my curiousity on the topic in the first place. I can imagine this affecting someones choice if they had a bad experience especially something so serious as sexual abuse from a male gynie. Im just asking.. I really want to hear what you think? |
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An abuser is an abuser. Gender not relevant.
I find it HUGELY insulting to men to paint them all as salivating fanny monsters, who , despite achieving highly and gaining professional qualifications through years of dedicated training, somehow turn into sex offenders at any opportunity.
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"An abuser is an abuser. Gender not relevant.
I find it HUGELY insulting to men to paint them all as salivating fanny monsters, who , despite achieving highly and gaining professional qualifications through years of dedicated training, somehow turn into sex offenders at any opportunity.
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"An abuser is an abuser. Gender not relevant.
I find it HUGELY insulting to men to paint them all as salivating fanny monsters, who , despite achieving highly and gaining professional qualifications through years of dedicated training, somehow turn into sex offenders at any opportunity.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Unrelated but I have crohns disease and I have had 2 colonoscopies in my diagnosis, the first chap who did it was male and I had no issue with it before or afterward, but the second time a woman did it and had pain for several weeks etc. Now the point I'm making is not that the man was better or anything, but that theres a possibility that one was better with patient care and therefore I would always choose that over gender, race, age and so on, which are totally irrelevant. |
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"An abuser is an abuser. Gender not relevant.
I find it HUGELY insulting to men to paint them all as salivating fanny monsters, who , despite achieving highly and gaining professional qualifications through years of dedicated training, somehow turn into sex offenders at any opportunity.
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You are, strictly speaking, correct. However, I think that trauma is not quite that simple.
Some people would negatively react to the gender of a medical professional due to previous abuse by someone of the same gender. They are not obviously saying all men or women are the same. They are simply reacting based on their own terrible personal experience.
Yet, I fear I've just taken things off-track!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Reading with understanding is so important. No one was saying an abuser isnt abuser regardless of the sex. If you are seeking something to be offended about im sure you will find loads of things so Im not out to stop you. The article further goes on to state that most patients are even objecting to being examined by male obgyn students resulting in even fewer males opting for that speciality. Plz read to understand instead of to respond and find offense. None is meant here. |
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"An abuser is an abuser. Gender not relevant.
I find it HUGELY insulting to men to paint them all as salivating fanny monsters, who , despite achieving highly and gaining professional qualifications through years of dedicated training, somehow turn into sex offenders at any opportunity.
You are, strictly speaking, correct. However, I think that trauma is not quite that simple.
Some people would negatively react to the gender of a medical professional due to previous abuse by someone of the same gender. They are not obviously saying all men or women are the same. They are simply reacting based on their own terrible personal experience.
Yet, I fear I've just taken things off-track! "
Yes, we need to be sensitive to the needs of the patient too. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"An abuser is an abuser. Gender not relevant.
I find it HUGELY insulting to men to paint them all as salivating fanny monsters, who , despite achieving highly and gaining professional qualifications through years of dedicated training, somehow turn into sex offenders at any opportunity.
You are, strictly speaking, correct. However, I think that trauma is not quite that simple.
Some people would negatively react to the gender of a medical professional due to previous abuse by someone of the same gender. They are not obviously saying all men or women are the same. They are simply reacting based on their own terrible personal experience.
Yet, I fear I've just taken things off-track! "
Quite the oppsite. I think you have brought things back on- track. We reactly differently to different people for a wide range of reason, past experience being a big one. |
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"Reading with understanding is so important. No one was saying an abuser isnt abuser regardless of the sex. If you are seeking something to be offended about im sure you will find loads of things so Im not out to stop you. The article further goes on to state that most patients are even objecting to being examined by male obgyn students resulting in even fewer males opting for that speciality. Plz read to understand instead of to respond and find offense. None is meant here."
I'm not offended or seeking to be offended. Try putting your arguments without recourse to assumption.
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Had the same male through all my four pregnancies. He was a bit blunt but you would have a good laugh with him. never had a prob with any of his examinations. he left one of the females do a check on me when i was being induced on one of my kids and i swear to god i thought she was trying to mangle my insides. it was horrible |
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I wouldn't have wanted a male midwife but to honest after a certain point I would have accepted an alien
I've seen male and female gynaecologists, on balance I prefer women but I've no issue with men.
I didn't have a problem with a woman examining my husband and he wouldn't have a problem with a man examining me. It's not the 15th century |
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