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"would anyone else like to see a filter added were we could filter out people who haven't had a meet/verification within 6mths/12mths/2yrs etc... "
Why?
How do you prove that someone hasnt had a meet or 10?
Does the ability to sex expire?  |
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"would anyone else like to see a filter added were we could filter out people who haven't had a meet/verification within 6mths/12mths/2yrs etc... "
how do you know they haven't had a meet, some dont like the verification system?!   |
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By *ilth500 OP Man
over a year ago
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"would anyone else like to see a filter added were we could filter out people who haven't had a meet/verification within 6mths/12mths/2yrs etc...
Why?
How do you prove that someone hasnt had a meet or 10?
Does the ability to sex expire? "
they havnt got any verifications for over 2yrs tells me and some none at all for longer even |
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"Can’t you filter out non veried on search section?
yes but dont want to filter out those people who havnt had a meet in 2mths say, but some profiles say no meets and veris for over 2/3yrs! "
I think it’s only a single guy that could take up to 2/3 years to get a meet on here  |
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"would anyone else like to see a filter added were we could filter out people who haven't had a meet/verification within 6mths/12mths/2yrs etc...
Why?
How do you prove that someone hasnt had a meet or 10?
Does the ability to sex expire?
they havnt got any verifications for over 2yrs tells me and some none at all for longer even"
people leave and come back, people go to socials  |
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"Can’t you filter out non veried on search section?
yes but dont want to filter out those people who havnt had a meet in 2mths say, but some profiles say no meets and veris for over 2/3yrs! "
just because the people your on about haven't been verified doesn't mean that they havnt had meets |
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By *ilth500 OP Man
over a year ago
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"would anyone else like to see a filter added were we could filter out people who haven't had a meet/verification within 6mths/12mths/2yrs etc... how do you know they haven't had a meet, some dont like the verification system?! "
well i wouldn't meet those people, hence the filter request |
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over a year ago
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"would anyone else like to see a filter added were we could filter out people who haven't had a meet/verification within 6mths/12mths/2yrs etc... "
how do we know if youre fab straight..... we don't too many imponderables |
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"would anyone else like to see a filter added were we could filter out people who haven't had a meet/verification within 6mths/12mths/2yrs etc...
Why?
How do you prove that someone hasnt had a meet or 10?
Does the ability to sex expire?
they havnt got any verifications for over 2yrs tells me and some none at all for longer even"
They might be discreet |
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By *ilth500 OP Man
over a year ago
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"Can’t you filter out non veried on search section?
yes but dont want to filter out those people who havnt had a meet in 2mths say, but some profiles say no meets and veris for over 2/3yrs!
I think it’s only a single guy that could take up to 2/3 years to get a meet on here "
i agree, but theres womens profiles on here too like that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mine says my last meet was 5 months ago but it was actually 2 months, I've just stopped asking for verifications because I feel like I have enough and I personally don't want to go over a certain number.
On the other hand I have also seen plenty of catfish and fakes on here with loads of veris; there's no real way to prove whether someone is actively meeting. |
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By *ilth500 OP Man
over a year ago
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"Mine says my last meet was 5 months ago but it was actually 2 months, I've just stopped asking for verifications because I feel like I have enough and I personally don't want to go over a certain number.
On the other hand I have also seen plenty of catfish and fakes on here with loads of veris; there's no real way to prove whether someone is actively meeting. "
wasnt about 'proof' its about choice or a option too choose. it was just a thought anyway from my own experiences  |
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"would anyone else like to see a filter added were we could filter out people who haven't had a meet/verification within 6mths/12mths/2yrs etc... how do you know they haven't had a meet, some dont like the verification system?!
well i wouldn't meet those people, hence the filter request "
If you don't want to meet "those people", when you see how old their verifications are, don't ask them for a meet.
Not withstanding, some people meet but don't verify, so you could be disregarding someone who has a 2 year old veri, but had a meet this morning. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"would anyone else like to see a filter added were we could filter out people who haven't had a meet/verification within 6mths/12mths/2yrs etc... "
Anyone help me out and meet social or webcam so can get verified..? |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"would anyone else like to see a filter added were we could filter out people who haven't had a meet/verification within 6mths/12mths/2yrs etc... how do you know they haven't had a meet, some dont like the verification system?!
well i wouldn't meet those people, hence the filter request "
Just don't meet them then, it's not difficult. |
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"would anyone else like to see a filter added were we could filter out people who haven't had a meet/verification within 6mths/12mths/2yrs etc...
Anyone help me out and meet social or webcam so can get verified..?"
Lots of clubs near to you mate |
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"Mine says my last meet was 5 months ago but it was actually 2 months, I've just stopped asking for verifications because I feel like I have enough and I personally don't want to go over a certain number.
On the other hand I have also seen plenty of catfish and fakes on here with loads of veris; there's no real way to prove whether someone is actively meeting.
wasnt about 'proof' its about choice or a option too choose. it was just a thought anyway from my own experiences "
You have that choice now, it’s called ignoring. Maybe when you come across these profiles just block them. Just bear in mind you could be on that the hotlist of a nubile young woman who was just about to message you for a meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why u either met someone or didnt no matter when iv no intent to meet anyone new again does that mean i need to keep messaging those i have met for an upgraded contract |
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"would anyone else like to see a filter added were we could filter out people who haven't had a meet/verification within 6mths/12mths/2yrs etc...
Anyone help me out and meet social or webcam so can get verified..?
Lots of clubs near to you mate "
So don’t have be verified to go club ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"would anyone else like to see a filter added were we could filter out people who haven't had a meet/verification within 6mths/12mths/2yrs etc...
Anyone help me out and meet social or webcam so can get verified..?
Lots of clubs near to you mate
So don’t have be verified to go club ?"
No. Look on the clubs section. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"would anyone else like to see a filter added were we could filter out people who haven't had a meet/verification within 6mths/12mths/2yrs etc...
Anyone help me out and meet social or webcam so can get verified..?
Lots of clubs near to you mate
So don’t have be verified to go club ?
No. Look on the clubs section. "
Read on here you had to be so hadn’t bothered |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some guys don’t want verifications because they may be fab straight and meet guys etc 
I’m most definitely straight not Fab straight!"
I believe you.
Many wouldn’t  |
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"would anyone else like to see a filter added were we could filter out people who haven't had a meet/verification within 6mths/12mths/2yrs etc... "
we've had many meets that haven't resulted in a verification on here. Some have been groups at club where we've not exchanged details, others with people who didn't want verifications. There are also repeat meets and meets with people who are not on here at all. The verifications are just to prove that you are actually real.
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"No.
What about people who don’t show veris?
They have to show summary  "
Summary still means nothing unless you're getting verifications though. I don't ask for veris and don't give them unless asked. |
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From just reading this forum in the last 4 weeks.
Too many veris bad
No veris. Bad
Repeat veris. Clingy bad
And now no new veris every 3\6\12\24 months is bad.
Fabconfusion
And I've met with 2 men recently, admitted I met them with another single female, oddly I didn't feel I'd need veris for that though.
I'll try harder maybe |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a man is it really that difficult to keep on top of your inbox? When I requested that there should be an option to only accept messages from guys within a 50 mile radios I was sitting on 1,100 plus messages. What’s the average amount of messages a guy gets daily, 10? That’s easy enough to delete a message from someone who hasn’t met anyone for years. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No.
What about people who don’t show veris?
They have to show summary
Summary still means nothing unless you're getting verifications though. I don't ask for veris and don't give them unless asked. "
Yes but op would know the users who have had any meets recently then. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No.
What about people who don’t show veris?
They have to show summary "
You can hide your summary as well. I’ve had to do it. I didn’t want any verifications at all but two people I’d met years ago off different profiles verified me without asking first if I wanted them. |
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"No.
What about people who don’t show veris?
They have to show summary
You can hide your summary as well. I’ve had to do it. I didn’t want any verifications at all but two people I’d met years ago off different profiles verified me without asking first if I wanted them. "
I can’t. If I do that it means I’ve met guys etc to some couples and single women |
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"No.
What about people who don’t show veris?
They have to show summary
You can hide your summary as well. I’ve had to do it. I didn’t want any verifications at all but two people I’d met years ago off different profiles verified me without asking first if I wanted them.
I can’t. If I do that it means I’ve met guys etc to some couples and single women "
I know and I don’t want anyone to assume that I’ve been recently meeting people when I haven’t. The whole veri system needs to be revised. I definitely think you should be able to accept one before it’s added to your summary.
Like a guy could maliciously verify a straight guy and like you said, he’ have to hide his summary or show that he’s met a man which could fuck up his profile. Like mine is now cos I’m verified and I didn’t want to be. |
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By *ilth500 OP Man
over a year ago
Merseyside |
"would anyone else like to see a filter added were we could filter out people who haven't had a meet/verification within 6mths/12mths/2yrs etc...
Why?
How do you prove that someone hasnt had a meet or 10?
Does the ability to sex expire?
they havnt got any verifications for over 2yrs tells me and some none at all for longer even
They might be discreet "
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By *ilth500 OP Man
over a year ago
Merseyside |
"would anyone else like to see a filter added were we could filter out people who haven't had a meet/verification within 6mths/12mths/2yrs etc... how do you know they haven't had a meet, some dont like the verification system?!
well i wouldn't meet those people, hence the filter request
Just don't meet them then, it's not difficult."
i dont. i just dont want them contacting me or them appearing on my search. not difficult to understand |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seems a bit counter productive. You'd filter out people based on inaccurate information. Plenty of people are active in the scene without collecting verifications, active people are the ones you seek though |
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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago
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We dont have tonnes of verifications, but that's because the majority of our meets are repeat meets. We all verify each other on our first meet but don't see the point in verifying each other every time we meet. We would have loads from the same handful of people and that seems pointless. Just because they don't have new veris doesn't mean they haven't had a meet. Hell, we just spent a full weekend with one of our regulars but there's nothing about it on here.
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"would anyone else like to see a filter added were we could filter out people who haven't had a meet/verification within 6mths/12mths/2yrs etc... "
No, not everyone gives, or publishes verifications. Not everyone uses this site exclusively for their meets. It is not a predictor of reliability either, from my experience. |
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By *ilth500 OP Man
over a year ago
Merseyside |
"Seems a bit counter productive. You'd filter out people based on inaccurate information. Plenty of people are active in the scene without collecting verifications, active people are the ones you seek though "
like distance? people could lie about that |
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By *ilth500 OP Man
over a year ago
Merseyside |
"We dont have tonnes of verifications, but that's because the majority of our meets are repeat meets. We all verify each other on our first meet but don't see the point in verifying each other every time we meet. We would have loads from the same handful of people and that seems pointless. Just because they don't have new veris doesn't mean they haven't had a meet. Hell, we just spent a full weekend with one of our regulars but there's nothing about it on here.
Gem"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Verifications aren’t exactly a solid way to judge things. Believe me, I’ve seen a few profiles pop up recently with status updates such as ‘Veri me to enter a draw, winner gets a blowjob’
Within 10 mins of it being up there’s 10+ veris. |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
south east |
The veri system is there to help prove someone is who they say they are ..NOT a running commentary of their swinging sex life ... just because they have no upto date veris doesn't mean they haven't been meeting  |
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By *ilth500 OP Man
over a year ago
Merseyside |
"would anyone else like to see a filter added were we could filter out people who haven't had a meet/verification within 6mths/12mths/2yrs etc...
No, not everyone gives, or publishes verifications. Not everyone uses this site exclusively for their meets. It is not a predictor of reliability either, from my experience."
neither is the said distance they put, the sexual orientation/preferences etc |
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By *ilth500 OP Man
over a year ago
Merseyside |
"The veri system is there to help prove someone is who they say they are ..NOT a running commentary of their swinging sex life ... just because they have no upto date veris doesn't mean they haven't been meeting "
ok. but i personally think in my opinion and through my experiences itd be a good filther |
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"Seems a bit counter productive. You'd filter out people based on inaccurate information. Plenty of people are active in the scene without collecting verifications, active people are the ones you seek though
like distance? people could lie about that"
They could. People lie about loads of things on here, do you think adding more filters would really help in finding someone who fits? Surely you're just reducing the options then? |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
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"The veri system is there to help prove someone is who they say they are ..NOT a running commentary of their swinging sex life ... just because they have no upto date veris doesn't mean they haven't been meeting
ok. but i personally think in my opinion and through my experiences itd be a good filther"
Then the simple solution is don't meet anyone that doesn't have upto date veris |
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By *ilth500 OP Man
over a year ago
Merseyside |
"Seems a bit counter productive. You'd filter out people based on inaccurate information. Plenty of people are active in the scene without collecting verifications, active people are the ones you seek though
like distance? people could lie about that
They could. People lie about loads of things on here, do you think adding more filters would really help in finding someone who fits? Surely you're just reducing the options then? "
id be happy with that, if you or anyone else wasnt then dont add the filter |
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By *ilth500 OP Man
over a year ago
Merseyside |
"The veri system is there to help prove someone is who they say they are ..NOT a running commentary of their swinging sex life ... just because they have no upto date veris doesn't mean they haven't been meeting
ok. but i personally think in my opinion and through my experiences itd be a good filther
Then the simple solution is don't meet anyone that doesn't have upto date veris "
as iv said earlier id like to stop those people messaging me or appearing on my search |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
south east |
"The veri system is there to help prove someone is who they say they are ..NOT a running commentary of their swinging sex life ... just because they have no upto date veris doesn't mean they haven't been meeting
ok. but i personally think in my opinion and through my experiences itd be a good filther
Then the simple solution is don't meet anyone that doesn't have upto date veris
as iv said earlier id like to stop those people messaging me or appearing on my search "
Just add it to your profile ..
"Please do not contact me etc.." might reduce the volume of mail you receive from people you don't want contact from |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How can this be. What if you have had a major opp and needed to take time out. Does that make them a time waster. Also swinging isnt a licence. Use it or loose it. Anyone is alowed to take time out |
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By *ilth500 OP Man
over a year ago
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"How can this be. What if you have had a major opp and needed to take time out. Does that make them a time waster. Also swinging isnt a licence. Use it or loose it. Anyone is alowed to take time out"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"would anyone else like to see a filter added were we could filter out people who haven't had a meet/verification within 6mths/12mths/2yrs etc... "
I’ve not been on here long and not verified but I have had 3 (great) meets. I’m not bothered that I’m not verified as I know who I am and what I have to offer and obviously so do the 3 guys as keep wanting more! But I don’t think that this should be a thing as some people might just like the flirting and forums. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do people only have sex with their verifications once? Maybe some people find one or two people and are happy with just them and regularly have sex with each other. You dont verify someone everytime you meet them.
Plus what does it matter? |
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"would anyone else like to see a filter added were we could filter out people who haven't had a meet/verification within 6mths/12mths/2yrs etc...
Why?
How do you prove that someone hasnt had a meet or 10?
Does the ability to sex expire? "
Well said. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can’t you filter out non veried on search section?
yes but dont want to filter out those people who havnt had a meet in 2mths say, but some profiles say no meets and veris for over 2/3yrs! "
Well that's hardly our fault is it!!
I'm old and ugly, my circumstances and situation are not ideal, but believe me, it's not for want of trying.  |
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By *ilth500 OP Man
over a year ago
Merseyside |
"Can’t you filter out non veried on search section?
yes but dont want to filter out those people who havnt had a meet in 2mths say, but some profiles say no meets and veris for over 2/3yrs!
Well that's hardly our fault is it!!
I'm old and ugly, my circumstances and situation are not ideal, but believe me, it's not for want of trying. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seems a bit counter productive. You'd filter out people based on inaccurate information. Plenty of people are active in the scene without collecting verifications, active people are the ones you seek though
like distance? people could lie about that
They could. People lie about loads of things on here, do you think adding more filters would really help in finding someone who fits? Surely you're just reducing the options then? "
If more men did apply more stringent filters it would be a good thing for all of us... |
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Just because they aren’t advertising I had sex this month with a verification, it doesn’t mean they aren’t having meets and sex
Everyone runs their profile how they choose to, there’s a couple of words in the dictionary.... privacy and discretion ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"would anyone else like to see a filter added were we could filter out people who haven't had a meet/verification within 6mths/12mths/2yrs etc... "
Ive had 2meets in the last week. But thats my business and theirs. Up to individuals if they wana share. !!! |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"No verifications doesnt mean no meets though?"
Can't this enough.
There's absolutely feck all point in basing decisions on here by what you see written in a profile alone.
Veris just prove someone met someone else - assuming you believe it's real (which is why it's worth backchecking a bit). Assuming people leave a veri each and every time they meet is ridiculous. Assuming the last date that one shows is the last meet they had is equally pointless.
But hey. You can choose your own methods of course. Some will work better than others and if you're finding it hard then maybe it's the method that's at fault rather than other people's choice of how the run their profile and document their activities.
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By *ilth500 OP Man
over a year ago
Merseyside |
"Just because they aren’t advertising I had sex this month with a verification, it doesn’t mean they aren’t having meets and sex
Everyone runs their profile how they choose to, there’s a couple of words in the dictionary.... privacy and discretion ! "
theres also the words preference and choice |
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By *ilth500 OP Man
over a year ago
Merseyside |
"would anyone else like to see a filter added were we could filter out people who haven't had a meet/verification within 6mths/12mths/2yrs etc...
Ive had 2meets in the last week. But thats my business and theirs. Up to individuals if they wana share. !!! "
yep it is |
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By *ilth500 OP Man
over a year ago
Merseyside |
"I wouldn’t see it as that helpful really.
Nobody knows when or if I’m meeting because it’s private and I’m sure lots of people keep things private. "
but i think itd be helpful for me/some if they could filter out certain people who via there profiles are not meeting, its just my opinion anyway |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"I wouldn’t see it as that helpful really.
Nobody knows when or if I’m meeting because it’s private and I’m sure lots of people keep things private.
but i think itd be helpful for me/some if they could filter out certain people who via there profiles are not meeting, its just my opinion anyway "
Ahh you mean if they state they’re not meeting, Just here for the forums ... that type of thing? |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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It seems folk want all sorts of filters..a day or two ago it was messages blocked from x miles away, now this.
Am I the only one who doesn't seem to pay any attention to those outwith my preferences and move quickly onto one that does, or need more site tools.
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"Just because they aren’t advertising I had sex this month with a verification, it doesn’t mean they aren’t having meets and sex
Everyone runs their profile how they choose to, there’s a couple of words in the dictionary.... privacy and discretion !
theres also the words preference and choice"
Uh oh ... the P word was used ... run everyone ... save yourselves
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By *ilth500 OP Man
over a year ago
Merseyside |
"I wouldn’t see it as that helpful really.
Nobody knows when or if I’m meeting because it’s private and I’m sure lots of people keep things private.
but i think itd be helpful for me/some if they could filter out certain people who via there profiles are not meeting, its just my opinion anyway
Ahh you mean if they state they’re not meeting, Just here for the forums ... that type of thing? "
no Babs, some profiles/people on here either dont have a green MEET tick and have been on here for years, some profiles on here have a green MEET tick but havnt shown/displayed a meet in years so it shows last meet 2/3/4yrs ago etc... id like those people not to be able to contact me or appear on my search so i suggested that a 'meet' filter would be useful for me/some if you could filter out people who havnt met/displayed a meet in a certain time frame i.e last meet/displayed meet 6mths... 1yr... 2yrs etc so when i searched i could put only people who met or displayed a meet with the last 6mths... 12mths...2/3/4yrs or whatever contact me x |
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"would anyone else like to see a filter added were we could filter out people who haven't had a meet/verification within 6mths/12mths/2yrs etc... how do you know they haven't had a meet, some dont like the verification system?!
well i wouldn't meet those people, hence the filter request
Just don't meet them then, it's not difficult.
i dont. i just dont want them contacting me or them appearing on my search. not difficult to understand "
So going in to a shop you would want then to only display what you wanted to buy and hide the rest, just scrole past the ones that dont fit what you want  |
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"I wouldn’t see it as that helpful really.
Nobody knows when or if I’m meeting because it’s private and I’m sure lots of people keep things private.
but i think itd be helpful for me/some if they could filter out certain people who via there profiles are not meeting, its just my opinion anyway
Ahh you mean if they state they’re not meeting, Just here for the forums ... that type of thing?
no Babs, some profiles/people on here either dont have a green MEET tick and have been on here for years, some profiles on here have a green MEET tick but havnt shown/displayed a meet in years so it shows last meet 2/3/4yrs ago etc... id like those people not to be able to contact me or appear on my search so i suggested that a 'meet' filter would be useful for me/some if you could filter out people who havnt met/displayed a meet in a certain time frame i.e last meet/displayed meet 6mths... 1yr... 2yrs etc so when i searched i could put only people who met or displayed a meet with the last 6mths... 12mths...2/3/4yrs or whatever contact me x"
But the verification system is not designed as a 'Tally' or record of when and how often people meet.
It is purely designed as a means of confirming that people are who they say they are and that they will turn up for a meet.
As many have said, many people have friends here whom they meet on a regular basis and don't see the need to leave a verification on every occasion as it would be utterly pointless.
In the past, I have met people who, it would seem, don't leave people verifications, and trying to get one from them is often a waste of time.
I'd say that your suggestion is seriously flawed due to the fact that it would appear that you don't really understand the whole verification system. |
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I totally agree just because there is no evidence of a meet doesn’t mean they haven’t been meeting as it shows we don’t put up all verifications and some times we don’t ask for them why do people need to prove the meet.
Some people like certain fetish’s and dont disclose who they indulge with as we all have private luves |
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"Just because they aren’t advertising I had sex this month with a verification, it doesn’t mean they aren’t having meets and sex
Everyone runs their profile how they choose to, there’s a couple of words in the dictionary.... privacy and discretion !
theres also the words preference and choice"
Just as it is MY preference and choice not to show everyone when and who I have sex with, or my summary, yet I have verifications within YOUR time scale on show, all social !
Be like everyone else, glance over the profile and if it doesn’t fit your preferences, move on, simple !
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By *ilth500 OP Man
over a year ago
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"would anyone else like to see a filter added were we could filter out people who haven't had a meet/verification within 6mths/12mths/2yrs etc... how do you know they haven't had a meet, some dont like the verification system?!
well i wouldn't meet those people, hence the filter request
Just don't meet them then, it's not difficult.
i dont. i just dont want them contacting me or them appearing on my search. not difficult to understand
So going in to a shop you would want then to only display what you wanted to buy and hide the rest, just scrole past the ones that dont fit what you want "
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over a year ago
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"Just because they aren’t advertising I had sex this month with a verification, it doesn’t mean they aren’t having meets and sex
Everyone runs their profile how they choose to, there’s a couple of words in the dictionary.... privacy and discretion !
theres also the words preference and choice
Just as it is MY preference and choice not to show everyone when and who I have sex with, or my summary, yet I have verifications within YOUR time scale on show, all social !
Be like everyone else, glance over the profile and if it doesn’t fit your preferences, move on, simple !
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By *ilth500 OP Man
over a year ago
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"I totally agree just because there is no evidence of a meet doesn’t mean they haven’t been meeting as it shows we don’t put up all verifications and some times we don’t ask for them why do people need to prove the meet.
Some people like certain fetish’s and dont disclose who they indulge with as we all have private luves"
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By *ilth500 OP Man
over a year ago
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"would anyone else like to see a filter added were we could filter out people who haven't had a meet/verification within 6mths/12mths/2yrs etc... What's your issue with these people? "
i dont want them messaging me them appearing on my search. simple |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"The filter already exists - it's called the block button."
This x 1000
If you're only looking to meet and not use the site for anything else then proactively block any profile that you come across that you're not interested in.
Hey presto! They won't show in your searches anymore and they can't message you.
Simple solution and faultless.
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Genuine question OP and apologies if it's already been answered (I'm being lazy and haven't read the whole thread) why does it make a difference if someone has met in the last X months?
They may have taken a break from meeting, real life may have got in the way, or any number of other things - or as others have pointed out they may simply choose not to advertise when and who they had sex (with)
Surely what is important is that you find them attractive, are interested in meeting them (and hopefully they you) so when they last met is kind of immaterial?
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Maybe there should be some kind of a calendar on every profile and the person could put a tick on each day they've had a meet. And state exactly what happened, how long the meet lasted and give it marks out of ten.
Would that keep you happy??
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"Maybe there should be some kind of a calendar on every profile and the person could put a tick on each day they've had a meet. And state exactly what happened, how long the meet lasted and give it marks out of ten.
Would that keep you happy??
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I don't believe people should be filtered out based on how recent the veri's might be as there could be a number of reasons why as many have so far pointed out.
Is it your opinion that those without recent verifications are time wasters or less likely to meet?
Is it a case of you believing that if you can see that they are more active than others might be, that its possible you can secure a meet with them?
You've stated its your preference, but I'm curious as to why?
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"I don't believe people should be filtered out based on how recent the veri's might be as there could be a number of reasons why as many have so far pointed out.
Is it your opinion that those without recent verifications are time wasters or less likely to meet?
Is it a case of you believing that if you can see that they are more active than others might be, that its possible you can secure a meet with them?
You've stated its your preference, but I'm curious as to why?
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because its something id like. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I don't believe people should be filtered out based on how recent the veri's might be as there could be a number of reasons why as many have so far pointed out.
Is it your opinion that those without recent verifications are time wasters or less likely to meet?
Is it a case of you believing that if you can see that they are more active than others might be, that its possible you can secure a meet with them?
You've stated its your preference, but I'm curious as to why?
because its something id like. "
Yes but why would you like it? As I said in my question about 3 posts up - what difference does it make whether someone met yesterday or a year ago yesterday?
Surely it's attraction, and the fact they might want to meet in the near future that is key? |
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"I don't believe people should be filtered out based on how recent the veri's might be as there could be a number of reasons why as many have so far pointed out.
Is it your opinion that those without recent verifications are time wasters or less likely to meet?
Is it a case of you believing that if you can see that they are more active than others might be, that its possible you can secure a meet with them?
You've stated its your preference, but I'm curious as to why?
because its something id like.
Yes but why would you like it? As I said in my question about 3 posts up - what difference does it make whether someone met yesterday or a year ago yesterday?
Surely it's attraction, and the fact they might want to meet in the near future that is key?"
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"I don't believe people should be filtered out based on how recent the veri's might be as there could be a number of reasons why as many have so far pointed out.
Is it your opinion that those without recent verifications are time wasters or less likely to meet?
Is it a case of you believing that if you can see that they are more active than others might be, that its possible you can secure a meet with them?
You've stated its your preference, but I'm curious as to why?
because its something id like.
Yes but why would you like it? As I said in my question about 3 posts up - what difference does it make whether someone met yesterday or a year ago yesterday?
Surely it's attraction, and the fact they might want to meet in the near future that is key?
preference. choice."
Another reply without an answer. I'm curious to know too now. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I don't believe people should be filtered out based on how recent the veri's might be as there could be a number of reasons why as many have so far pointed out.
Is it your opinion that those without recent verifications are time wasters or less likely to meet?
Is it a case of you believing that if you can see that they are more active than others might be, that its possible you can secure a meet with them?
You've stated its your preference, but I'm curious as to why?
because its something id like.
Yes but why would you like it? As I said in my question about 3 posts up - what difference does it make whether someone met yesterday or a year ago yesterday?
Surely it's attraction, and the fact they might want to meet in the near future that is key?
preference. choice."
Yes, but what drives that preference and choice? Is it because you think someone who is active is more likely to want to meet? Because you think just because they've displayed they've recently had sex that they'll be somehow better? Some other reason?
Because as has been said numerous times on the thread just because someone doesn't advertise they've had meets doesn't mean they haven't had them.
You're entitled to preference and choice of course, but your reasons for them just don't seem to add up |
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"I don't believe people should be filtered out based on how recent the veri's might be as there could be a number of reasons why as many have so far pointed out.
Is it your opinion that those without recent verifications are time wasters or less likely to meet?
Is it a case of you believing that if you can see that they are more active than others might be, that its possible you can secure a meet with them?
You've stated its your preference, but I'm curious as to why?
because its something id like.
Yes but why would you like it? As I said in my question about 3 posts up - what difference does it make whether someone met yesterday or a year ago yesterday?
Surely it's attraction, and the fact they might want to meet in the near future that is key?
preference. choice.
Another reply without an answer. I'm curious to know too now."
just my opinion and preference. do you know what 'preference' means? its my opinion thats all, no more or less. have a fantastic day |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"I don't believe people should be filtered out based on how recent the veri's might be as there could be a number of reasons why as many have so far pointed out.
Is it your opinion that those without recent verifications are time wasters or less likely to meet?
Is it a case of you believing that if you can see that they are more active than others might be, that its possible you can secure a meet with them?
You've stated its your preference, but I'm curious as to why?
because its something id like.
Yes but why would you like it? As I said in my question about 3 posts up - what difference does it make whether someone met yesterday or a year ago yesterday?
Surely it's attraction, and the fact they might want to meet in the near future that is key?
preference. choice.
Another reply without an answer. I'm curious to know too now.
just my opinion and preference. do you know what 'preference' means? its my opinion thats all, no more or less. have a fantastic day "
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How do you know they’re not meeting? They’re just not recording it in a veri.
You’ve got some people who think too many veris is off putting and some who think that not enough are off putting.
I get the basis of what you’re saying but think “you can’t please all the people all the time” is a perfect phrase for this idea. It fits with what you want, but others use the site in a different way and it doesn’t fit with their usage.
Just my two penny worth |
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over a year ago
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"How do you know they’re not meeting? They’re just not recording it in a veri.
You’ve got some people who think too many veris is off putting and some who think that not enough are off putting.
I get the basis of what you’re saying but think “you can’t please all the people all the time” is a perfect phrase for this idea. It fits with what you want, but others use the site in a different way and it doesn’t fit with their usage.
Just my two penny worth "
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