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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I think it's fair to say that people would rate being considered beautiful to be much higher praise than being considered attractive. I disagree, i will explain why.
In the mating game attraction is what it's all about (for the less vacuous among us at least). It is possible to be beautiful and yet not attractive. I'm quite happy to acknowledge the beauty of women, specifically young ones, yet not be attracted to them. My daughters are young women and that just feels wrong.
Yet if i was to say to an older woman that i 'think you're attractive' it's certainly not going to garner the response i'd hope for. It sounds so lame when in fact what it means is that they're so beautiful that i am attracted to them.
In this modern increasingly inclusive age where beauty should not be the be all and end all isn't it time that we shifted away from this mindset? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Beautiful isn't a higher form of compliment to attractive
Beautiful is a positive comment on their physical attributes
Attractive is saying you are attracted to them
Totally different words and meanings |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Beautiful isn't a higher form of compliment to attractive
Beautiful is a positive comment on their physical attributes
Attractive is saying you are attracted to them
Totally different words and meanings "
Possibly but the definitions of attractive are: pleasing or appealing to the senses, appealing to look at; sexually alluring and as having qualities or features that arouse interest. All of which can be applied to the word beautiful, so perhaps not so different after all.
What i'm trying to say is that it's possible to be beautiful yet not attractive yet to be attractive is to be beautiful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Beautiful isn't a higher form of compliment to attractive
Beautiful is a positive comment on their physical attributes
Attractive is saying you are attracted to them
Totally different words and meanings
Possibly but the definitions of attractive are: pleasing or appealing to the senses, appealing to look at; sexually alluring and as having qualities or features that arouse interest. All of which can be applied to the word beautiful, so perhaps not so different after all.
What i'm trying to say is that it's possible to be beautiful yet not attractive yet to be attractive is to be beautiful. "
I think so, if you are attractive to a person, you could be beautiful as well, yet you could be beautiful and not be someone’s type or preference |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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There are people who are considered "beautiful" to whom I'm not in the slightest bit attracted (and in some instances actually find quite ugly in terms of personality - Naomi Campbell is a good example) but I acknowledge they have a beauty in the conventional and a more general sense.
People I am attracted to however, have a beauty of their own, which is a unique, individual and selective one to myself and I place a lot more value on that than the idea of conventional or publically accepted beauty. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"There are people who are considered "beautiful" to whom I'm not in the slightest bit attracted (and in some instances actually find quite ugly in terms of personality - Naomi Campbell is a good example) but I acknowledge they have a beauty in the conventional and a more general sense.
People I am attracted to however, have a beauty of their own, which is a unique, individual and selective one to myself and I place a lot more value on that than the idea of conventional or publically accepted beauty."
Exactly what i was getting at. What i don't get though is why attractive is such a maligned word. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"There are people who are considered "beautiful" to whom I'm not in the slightest bit attracted (and in some instances actually find quite ugly in terms of personality - Naomi Campbell is a good example) but I acknowledge they have a beauty in the conventional and a more general sense.
People I am attracted to however, have a beauty of their own, which is a unique, individual and selective one to myself and I place a lot more value on that than the idea of conventional or publically accepted beauty.
Exactly what i was getting at. What i don't get though is why attractive is such a maligned word. "
I'm not sure it is |
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I like looking at beautiful people. I won't always be attracted to them sexually or personally though.
The two words mean different things to me. But let me say that it is absolutely possible to be beautiful and attractive both inside and out. |
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"There are people who are considered "beautiful" to whom I'm not in the slightest bit attracted (and in some instances actually find quite ugly in terms of personality - Naomi Campbell is a good example) but I acknowledge they have a beauty in the conventional and a more general sense.
People I am attracted to however, have a beauty of their own, which is a unique, individual and selective one to myself and I place a lot more value on that than the idea of conventional or publically accepted beauty.
Exactly what i was getting at. What i don't get though is why attractive is such a maligned word. "
I think judging from what I read here that beautiful is the more maligned word. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"There are people who are considered "beautiful" to whom I'm not in the slightest bit attracted (and in some instances actually find quite ugly in terms of personality - Naomi Campbell is a good example) but I acknowledge they have a beauty in the conventional and a more general sense.
People I am attracted to however, have a beauty of their own, which is a unique, individual and selective one to myself and I place a lot more value on that than the idea of conventional or publically accepted beauty.
Exactly what i was getting at. What i don't get though is why attractive is such a maligned word.
I think judging from what I read here that beautiful is the more maligned word."
Yes it is. Attractive seems to be acceptable because it's seen as far more subjective and also comments on more than a person's appearance (because heaven forbid you're as shallow as that). Calling yourself beautiful or someone else is frowned upon (quite often). |
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"There are people who are considered "beautiful" to whom I'm not in the slightest bit attracted (and in some instances actually find quite ugly in terms of personality - Naomi Campbell is a good example) but I acknowledge they have a beauty in the conventional and a more general sense.
People I am attracted to however, have a beauty of their own, which is a unique, individual and selective one to myself and I place a lot more value on that than the idea of conventional or publically accepted beauty.
Exactly what i was getting at. What i don't get though is why attractive is such a maligned word.
I think judging from what I read here that beautiful is the more maligned word.
Yes it is. Attractive seems to be acceptable because it's seen as far more subjective and also comments on more than a person's appearance (because heaven forbid you're as shallow as that). Calling yourself beautiful or someone else is frowned upon (quite often)."
Yep it's as if it isn't possible to be a good person and beautiful. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"There are people who are considered "beautiful" to whom I'm not in the slightest bit attracted (and in some instances actually find quite ugly in terms of personality - Naomi Campbell is a good example) but I acknowledge they have a beauty in the conventional and a more general sense.
People I am attracted to however, have a beauty of their own, which is a unique, individual and selective one to myself and I place a lot more value on that than the idea of conventional or publically accepted beauty.
Exactly what i was getting at. What i don't get though is why attractive is such a maligned word.
I think judging from what I read here that beautiful is the more maligned word."
Not in society as a whole. Attractive is seen as beautiful's poorer cousin. |
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"There are people who are considered "beautiful" to whom I'm not in the slightest bit attracted (and in some instances actually find quite ugly in terms of personality - Naomi Campbell is a good example) but I acknowledge they have a beauty in the conventional and a more general sense.
People I am attracted to however, have a beauty of their own, which is a unique, individual and selective one to myself and I place a lot more value on that than the idea of conventional or publically accepted beauty.
Exactly what i was getting at. What i don't get though is why attractive is such a maligned word.
I think judging from what I read here that beautiful is the more maligned word.
Not in society as a whole. Attractive is seen as beautiful's poorer cousin."
Do you think so?
I quite often comment in the "outside world" that someone is beautiful and very often the reply is "but they might be ugly on the inside". If I say a view is beautiful nobody ever says "yeah but I bet it's ugly underneath that mountain"
That's just my opinion of course |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"There are people who are considered "beautiful" to whom I'm not in the slightest bit attracted (and in some instances actually find quite ugly in terms of personality - Naomi Campbell is a good example) but I acknowledge they have a beauty in the conventional and a more general sense.
People I am attracted to however, have a beauty of their own, which is a unique, individual and selective one to myself and I place a lot more value on that than the idea of conventional or publically accepted beauty.
Exactly what i was getting at. What i don't get though is why attractive is such a maligned word.
I think judging from what I read here that beautiful is the more maligned word.
Not in society as a whole. Attractive is seen as beautiful's poorer cousin.
Do you think so?
I quite often comment in the "outside world" that someone is beautiful and very often the reply is "but they might be ugly on the inside". If I say a view is beautiful nobody ever says "yeah but I bet it's ugly underneath that mountain"
That's just my opinion of course"
I understand the point you're making but i don't think society really cares what's underneath. |
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"There are people who are considered "beautiful" to whom I'm not in the slightest bit attracted (and in some instances actually find quite ugly in terms of personality - Naomi Campbell is a good example) but I acknowledge they have a beauty in the conventional and a more general sense.
People I am attracted to however, have a beauty of their own, which is a unique, individual and selective one to myself and I place a lot more value on that than the idea of conventional or publically accepted beauty.
Exactly what i was getting at. What i don't get though is why attractive is such a maligned word.
I think judging from what I read here that beautiful is the more maligned word.
Not in society as a whole. Attractive is seen as beautiful's poorer cousin.
Do you think so?
I quite often comment in the "outside world" that someone is beautiful and very often the reply is "but they might be ugly on the inside". If I say a view is beautiful nobody ever says "yeah but I bet it's ugly underneath that mountain"
That's just my opinion of course
I understand the point you're making but i don't think society really cares what's underneath."
I think you're probably right. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Attraction is a process...so if you find someone attractive you have exactly that.
Someone who is beautiful, well to me anyways, is discovering that person and finding who they are....some people will always look attractive but never have that beauty . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Beautiful isn't a higher form of compliment to attractive
Beautiful is a positive comment on their physical attributes
Attractive is saying you are attracted to them
Totally different words and meanings
Possibly but the definitions of attractive are: pleasing or appealing to the senses, appealing to look at; sexually alluring and as having qualities or features that arouse interest. All of which can be applied to the word beautiful, so perhaps not so different after all.
What i'm trying to say is that it's possible to be beautiful yet not attractive yet to be attractive is to be beautiful. "
It doesn’t really matter as each word will have different meanings to different people anyway but I think it was you who said it first and I agree, a young girl can be called beautiful but I'd never use the word attractive as I think the word attractive has some elements of a sexual nature attached to it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Beautiful isn't a higher form of compliment to attractive
Beautiful is a positive comment on their physical attributes
Attractive is saying you are attracted to them
Totally different words and meanings
Possibly but the definitions of attractive are: pleasing or appealing to the senses, appealing to look at; sexually alluring and as having qualities or features that arouse interest. All of which can be applied to the word beautiful, so perhaps not so different after all.
What i'm trying to say is that it's possible to be beautiful yet not attractive yet to be attractive is to be beautiful.
It doesn’t really matter as each word will have different meanings to different people anyway but I think it was you who said it first and I agree, a young girl can be called beautiful but I'd never use the word attractive as I think the word attractive has some elements of a sexual nature attached to it. "
I think that's a greater indication of the fact we're getting old than anything else.  |
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"I think it's fair to say that people would rate being considered beautiful to be much higher praise than being considered attractive. I disagree, i will explain why.
In the mating game attraction is what it's all about (for the less vacuous among us at least). It is possible to be beautiful and yet not attractive. I'm quite happy to acknowledge the beauty of women, specifically young ones, yet not be attracted to them. My daughters are young women and that just feels wrong.
Yet if i was to say to an older woman that i 'think you're attractive' it's certainly not going to garner the response i'd hope for. It sounds so lame when in fact what it means is that they're so beautiful that i am attracted to them.
In this modern increasingly inclusive age where beauty should not be the be all and end all isn't it time that we shifted away from this mindset?"
Beautiful is on the outside
Attractive is skin deep
I’m both
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By (user no longer on site)
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Maybe aesthetics are only one aspect of beauty. If we consider beauty as viewed by Plato, or Aristotle or in the Bhagavad Gita, then aesthetics, art, consciousness, truthfulness, sincerity both the interior and the exterior of each individual, all an be considered to encompass beauty.
Attraction therefore could be the process of recognising and being drawn towards beauty with all the subjectivity that process implies.?
Therefore to say someone is attractive would be to say you are drawn to their beauty as a person? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You can admire beauty without being mentally or physically attracted to someone.
I also think that if you're attracted to someone then you'll see them as beautiful. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder ...
In my case, that's a positive! |
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jolly well said 
