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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Someone answer me this...
Why do people read your message, look at your profile then mark your message as unread and ignore you?
I would much rather someone telling me not interested or no thanks, or is it just me?  |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"Someone answer me this...
Why do people read your message, look at your profile then mark your message as unread and ignore you?
I would much rather someone telling me not interested or no thanks, or is it just me? "
I do it quite often if I can't be arsed to start chatting right then but might be interested later on. |
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"Someone answer me this...
Why do people read your message, look at your profile then mark your message as unread and ignore you?
I would much rather someone telling me not interested or no thanks, or is it just me?
I do it quite often if I can't be arsed to start chatting right then but might be interested later on. "
Yep! If I don't have time right now then leaving it unread reminds me later.
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
Hillside desolate |
Sometimes a no thanks gets an abusive reply, so lots just won't bother to answer at all if they're not interested.
If they're marking it unread, they're maybe considering coming back to it later? Especially if it's a couple, so both get a chance to read it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never knew so many guys reply to women being nasty if told no thanks.
It does annoy me when you read a profile send a polite message and hear nothing back and if I do get the no thank you message I normally reply back saying ok but the thank the for being good enough to have replied after all it's only good manners.
Lifes short no point getting nasty to anyone |
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"Is it worth having in my profile "if not interested then reply no thanks rather than marking message as unread"
Or along those lines..."
probably not...people rarely fully read profiles and if we see people demanding we tell them we're not interested, we're even less likely to be interested or to tell them... |
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"Is it worth having in my profile "if not interested then reply no thanks rather than marking message as unread"
Or along those lines..."
Not really, it's up to you if you want to put it but quite often a reply of no thanks will be returned with 'why'd or abuse. Just delete your message when you've sent it as a poster said above x |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
Hillside desolate |
"Is it worth having in my profile "if not interested then reply no thanks rather than marking message as unread"
Or along those lines..."
No, people don't have to reply. Just take no reply as no interest. |
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"Is it worth having in my profile "if not interested then reply no thanks rather than marking message as unread"
Or along those lines..."
No. I'm not going to start replying just because it's in someone's profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it worth having in my profile "if not interested then reply no thanks rather than marking message as unread"
Or along those lines...
No, people don't have to reply. Just take no reply as no interest.
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I see your point here but from the senders point of view it can be disheartening especially if the maybe are self conscious |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
Hillside desolate |
"Is it worth having in my profile "if not interested then reply no thanks rather than marking message as unread"
Or along those lines...
No, people don't have to reply. Just take no reply as no interest.
I see your point here but from the senders point of view it can be disheartening especially if the maybe are self conscious "
That's a shame, but from the senders perspective replying is opening them up to aggro.
It is in the site faq's. No reply means no interest. Is an inbox full of "no thanks" messages going to make you less self conscious? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Someone answer me this...
Why do people read your message, look at your profile then mark your message as unread and ignore you?
I would much rather someone telling me not interested or no thanks, or is it just me?
I do it quite often if I can't be arsed to start chatting right then but might be interested later on. "
Same here. I'll mark it as unread after saving the message. |
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"Is it worth having in my profile "if not interested then reply no thanks rather than marking message as unread"
Or along those lines...
No, people don't have to reply. Just take no reply as no interest.
I see your point here but from the senders point of view it can be disheartening especially if the maybe are self conscious "
That's their problem though, not the recipient. Sounds like you're feeling pretty bitter about your lack of success? You've started a fair few threads hinting at it... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it worth having in my profile "if not interested then reply no thanks rather than marking message as unread"
Or along those lines...
No, people don't have to reply. Just take no reply as no interest.
I see your point here but from the senders point of view it can be disheartening especially if the maybe are self conscious "
Unfortunately that’s life - you won’t be everyone’s cuppa. Don’t validate yourself based on someone else’s opinion. I genuinely do not have the time to thank everyone I’m not interested in that messages me. It is appreciated but I think guys and girls have very different experiences on here. 300+ messages is standard in 24 hours for a single bi girl. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it worth having in my profile "if not interested then reply no thanks rather than marking message as unread"
Or along those lines...
No, people don't have to reply. Just take no reply as no interest.
I see your point here but from the senders point of view it can be disheartening especially if the maybe are self conscious
That's a shame, but from the senders perspective replying is opening them up to aggro.
It is in the site faq's. No reply means no interest. Is an inbox full of "no thanks" messages going to make you less self conscious? "
This also is a very good point it's a very difficult situation to be in the site does day no reply no interest your right. Amd I have as you have said asked in a nice way I must add what is it about me that people sont like and the hairy body tends to be the factor in most rejection never bothers me though life is short and I try not to let things get me down. It's nice to hear both sides of the story though thank you. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a difficult one really as everyone would like a reply either way.
If people weren't aggressive or childish when they get a no thanks then maybe more people would be willing.
However, site rules state that no reply is a no thanks, leave it at that and just accept it. You're only bothering yourself by letting it get to you |
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"Is it worth having in my profile "if not interested then reply no thanks rather than marking message as unread"
Or along those lines...
No, people don't have to reply. Just take no reply as no interest.
I see your point here but from the senders point of view it can be disheartening especially if the maybe are self conscious
That's a shame, but from the senders perspective replying is opening them up to aggro.
It is in the site faq's. No reply means no interest. Is an inbox full of "no thanks" messages going to make you less self conscious? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it worth having in my profile "if not interested then reply no thanks rather than marking message as unread"
Or along those lines...
No, people don't have to reply. Just take no reply as no interest.
I see your point here but from the senders point of view it can be disheartening especially if the maybe are self conscious
That's their problem though, not the recipient. Sounds like you're feeling pretty bitter about your lack of success? You've started a fair few threads hinting at it..."
Not at all I have had a few meets and have actually made some good friends on this site over the last couple of months I just like to hear other peoples opinions and the forums tend to get the best response for that rather than private messages |
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I have some delicious conversations on here where I spend a good chunk of time writing a message. I'll mark a message unread to come back to it when I have enough time to write a decent response, rather than just dashing off a one-liner.
I've never marked a message unread because I'm not interested; that's what the delete button is for. |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"Is it worth having in my profile "if not interested then reply no thanks rather than marking message as unread"
Or along those lines..."
Probably not, no...people have given their reasons above. Some literally have hundreds of messages a day  |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
Shangri-la |
I used to reply to all messages, often with a polite no thanks, but it was time consuming and a lot of guys saw the fact I had responded as interest & a way to prolong the conversation (even if I had said no thanks/not interested). Some would want me to explain why I wasn't interested, some would attempt to convince me, some would get abusive.
Now, sexually explicit messages or dick pics, get ignored & often blocked. Hi/how you doing? type messages generally get ignored (unless something on their profile catches my interest).
Where they have clearly put in the effort to read my profile & to write a decent introductory message I always reply, even if it's just to say that they aren't what I'm looking for.Those are the people who deserve a reply.
Out of every 100 messages there are maybe 5 that warrant a response.
I appreciate it must be disheartening for guys who feel they are constantly ignored, but it's not exactly a bundle of laughs from a single female point of view when you are treated like a piece of meat on a daily basis. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why do people monitor their sent box ?
It’s not going to prove anything other than complaining about why other fabbers manage their accounts
(Based on the gazillion forum posts bitching about what people do with their messages)
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Someone answer me this...
Why do people read your message, look at your profile then mark your message as unread and ignore you?
I would much rather someone telling me not interested or no thanks, or is it just me?
I do it quite often if I can't be arsed to start chatting right then but might be interested later on. "
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"Someone answer me this...
Why do people read your message, look at your profile then mark your message as unread and ignore you?
I would much rather someone telling me not interested or no thanks, or is it just me?
I do it quite often if I can't be arsed to start chatting right then but might be interested later on. "
Me too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Each person manages their inbox differently. Some may read your message, then mark it unread to maybe come back to it later when they have more time.
Who knows.
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
As other guys have posted; just delete what you send, going back to see the status of it is just pointless. If they want to reply, they will, if not then it's a no thanks.
Personally (as I've said many times), sending cold messages to people is the hardest and most frustrating way to try and make contact/connections with people on here. There are so many variables that it's an exercise in futility and madness all boiled into one.
My experience on here improved massively the day that I stopped. |
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"Is it worth having in my profile "if not interested then reply no thanks rather than marking message as unread"
Or along those lines..."
No. you had the choice to send a message, they have the choice what to do with it.
Your better off to worry far more about your side of things than to tell someone else what they should do.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it worth having in my profile "if not interested then reply no thanks rather than marking message as unread"
Or along those lines...
No. you had the choice to send a message, they have the choice what to do with it.
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Your better off to worry far more about your side of things than to tell someone else what they should do.
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"Someone answer me this...
Why do people read your message, look at your profile then mark your message as unread and ignore you?
I would much rather someone telling me not interested or no thanks, or is it just me? "
Engaging in dialogue, with that being the preface of it is a massive waste of everyone’s time. Accept it and move along, rejection is part and parcel of the game mate |
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