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More appealing when they have fucked more or less dabbers?,
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By *zQTWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere |
Why should the number of verifications matter? It’s the person you are meeting and if meeting someone who likes to have a lot of sex isn’t your thing, then you are in the wrong place |
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Number of veris is really not an indication of how many times people have sex. If most sex occurs in swingers clubs then many of these won't be verified. Personally it makes no difference to me about the number of veris, it's the person I'm more interested in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Makes no odds to me, personality and physical attraction are key, I'm looking to share sexy fun not marry them.
So you wouldn't marry someone with lots of verifications?  "
I'm already married  |
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By *zQTWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere |
"So it wouldn't bother you if they had more than 100 verifications? "
Why would it? I know people who are not of fab that have many one night stands after a night out and their numbers are probably in triple digits. Now if they joined fab they wouldn’t necessarily have those verifications to portray how many people they have been with. So what’s the difference? How do you know the person with no verifications hasn’t had sex with as many people as the person with 100? |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
Hillside desolate |
"Makes no odds to me, personality and physical attraction are key, I'm looking to share sexy fun not marry them.
So you wouldn't marry someone with lots of verifications?
I'm already married "
Does she have lots of verifications? Because if she does she'll be pretty mad at you right now |
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I don't think it would bother me to much, particularly if there was a mutual attraction for all involved. I'd still be game,but I think I'd have a limit unless confirmation of checks could be proven. |
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"I don't think it would bother me to much, particularly if there was a mutual attraction for all involved. I'd still be game,but I think I'd have a limit unless confirmation of checks could be proven. "
You'd only ask for checks from people with lots of veris but not from those with just a few? |
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" I think I'd have a limit unless confirmation of checks could be proven. "
How would this work ? For example, by looking at my profile you would never know that I had over 100 verifications on a previous profile. |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"I personally would want to that from anyone, we have yet to meet anyone, but the conversations we have had regarding checks, people seem to be unable to prove this. "
What exactly do you want them to prove? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don’t judge. We’re looking for likeminded people on a swingers site.
Lack of opportunity due to work commitments means we can’t meet as much as we’d like.
At least if people have got plenty of veris you know they’re genuine and unlikely to let you down.
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"I personally would want to that from anyone, we have yet to meet anyone, but the conversations we have had regarding checks, people seem to be unable to prove this. "
What proof are you asking for? What proof are you providing? |
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Yeah of course, establishing genuine, non time wasters is great and all, experience I guess, I'm personally not to fussed about someone's experience I like to lead to be fair, but again, its mixed views on it. I don't judge, I just have my preference. Partner has his.. And its not the same as mine. It really is each to their own  |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"Yeah of course, establishing genuine, non time wasters is great and all, experience I guess, I'm personally not to fussed about someone's experience I like to lead to be fair, but again, its mixed views on it. I don't judge, I just have my preference. Partner has his.. And its not the same as mine. It really is each to their own "
What proof are you asking for? |
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"Yeah of course, establishing genuine, non time wasters is great and all, experience I guess, I'm personally not to fussed about someone's experience I like to lead to be fair, but again, its mixed views on it. I don't judge, I just have my preference. Partner has his.. And its not the same as mine. It really is each to their own "
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Well we get a text message to confirm ALL CLEAR - GUMCLINIC a simple screen shot would suffice, but it doesn't seem to be the case in other regions. Not sure why I had assumed it would all be the same method of confirmation. |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
chelmsford |
"Yeah of course, establishing genuine, non time wasters is great and all, experience I guess, I'm personally not to fussed about someone's experience I like to lead to be fair, but again, its mixed views on it. I don't judge, I just have my preference. Partner has his.. And its not the same as mine. It really is each to their own "
It is each to their own, but as partners you obviously have to agree who you meet |
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"Yeah of course, establishing genuine, non time wasters is great and all, experience I guess, I'm personally not to fussed about someone's experience I like to lead to be fair, but again, its mixed views on it. I don't judge, I just have my preference. Partner has his.. And its not the same as mine. It really is each to their own
It is each to their own, but as partners you obviously have to agree who you meet "
yeah exactly, this the reason for the conversation, mixed views on who I guess. |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
chelmsford |
"Well we get a text message to confirm ALL CLEAR - GUMCLINIC a simple screen shot would suffice, but it doesn't seem to be the case in other regions. Not sure why I had assumed it would all be the same method of confirmation. "
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That's good you're checked, but only valid for the day of testing, so not failproof. |
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"Well we get a text message to confirm ALL CLEAR - GUMCLINIC a simple screen shot would suffice, but it doesn't seem to be the case in other regions. Not sure why I had assumed it would all be the same method of confirmation. "
I get these too and always send a screenshot if asked but, like everyone, we are only as good as our last sexual encounter. Clean test results are reassuring, and better than people that don't have tests at all. |
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By *urvySub87Woman
over a year ago
Near Wellingborough |
They might have 100 verifications but have been verified multiple times by the same person. I've seen that on a couple of profiles now so just means they are having lots of sex but maybe with the same people. |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
chelmsford |
"Yeah of course, establishing genuine, non time wasters is great and all, experience I guess, I'm personally not to fussed about someone's experience I like to lead to be fair, but again, its mixed views on it. I don't judge, I just have my preference. Partner has his.. And its not the same as mine. It really is each to their own
It is each to their own, but as partners you obviously have to agree who you meet yeah exactly, this the reason for the conversation, mixed views on who I guess. "
 so your partner isn't happy to meet others with lots of veries? What are his concerns? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So it wouldn't bother you if they had more than 100 verifications? "
But someone could have more than a 100 veris but only choose to show 15 of them, you would never know. |
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"So it wouldn't bother you if they had more than 100 verifications?
But someone could have more than a 100 veris but only choose to show 15 of them, you would never know. "
Another good point, we still don't have a full understanding of all the features on this platform. Thanks |
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We're much more interested in people's attitude and how we get on than how many notches they have on their bed post or how many people they have met at socials.
Verifications for us are about knowing whether somebody is genuine and likely to show up. |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
chelmsford |
"So it wouldn't bother you if they had more than 100 verifications?
But someone could have more than a 100 veris but only choose to show 15 of them, you would never know. "
You can switch on to show how many verifications you have, but a little misleading as some will be same profiles re verifying |
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"Yeah of course, establishing genuine, non time wasters is great and all, experience I guess, I'm personally not to fussed about someone's experience I like to lead to be fair, but again, its mixed views on it. I don't judge, I just have my preference. Partner has his.. And its not the same as mine. It really is each to their own
It is each to their own, but as partners you obviously have to agree who you meet yeah exactly, this the reason for the conversation, mixed views on who I guess.
so your partner isn't happy to meet others with lots of veries? What are his concerns? "
He is, I don't think he is particularly fussed about that. Just wants to make sure they are clean, hygienic, mutually compatable and can cater to our needs. |
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"So it wouldn't bother you if they had more than 100 verifications?
But someone could have more than a 100 veris but only choose to show 15 of them, you would never know.
Another good point, we still don't have a full understanding of all the features on this platform. Thanks "
If they've been verified 150 times it will say they have even if they only show one.
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"So it wouldn't bother you if they had more than 100 verifications?
But someone could have more than a 100 veris but only choose to show 15 of them, you would never know.
Another good point, we still don't have a full understanding of all the features on this platform. Thanks
If they've been verified 150 times it will say they have even if they only show one.
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Not if they hide their summary |
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"So it wouldn't bother you if they had more than 100 verifications?
But someone could have more than a 100 veris but only choose to show 15 of them, you would never know.
Another good point, we still don't have a full understanding of all the features on this platform. Thanks
If they've been verified 150 times it will say they have even if they only show one.
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Yeah your right it does, but you can also publish what the other Fabbers comments? T |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
chelmsford |
"Yeah of course, establishing genuine, non time wasters is great and all, experience I guess, I'm personally not to fussed about someone's experience I like to lead to be fair, but again, its mixed views on it. I don't judge, I just have my preference. Partner has his.. And its not the same as mine. It really is each to their own
It is each to their own, but as partners you obviously have to agree who you meet yeah exactly, this the reason for the conversation, mixed views on who I guess.
so your partner isn't happy to meet others with lots of veries? What are his concerns?
He is, I don't think he is particularly fussed about that. Just wants to make sure they are clean, hygienic, mutually compatable and can cater to our needs. "
Of course it can be a bit of a minefield, especially compatibility, all four have to be happy with each other |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So it wouldn't bother you if they had more than 100 verifications?
But someone could have more than a 100 veris but only choose to show 15 of them, you would never know.
You can switch on to show how many verifications you have, but a little misleading as some will be same profiles re verifying "
But If they've switched it off it just solely shows as 15 meets, not a 100 meets with the tally broken down below it, so doesn't matter how many veris people have. |
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"So it wouldn't bother you if they had more than 100 verifications?
But someone could have more than a 100 veris but only choose to show 15 of them, you would never know.
Another good point, we still don't have a full understanding of all the features on this platform. Thanks
If they've been verified 150 times it will say they have even if they only show one.
Yeah your right it does, but you can also publish what the other Fabbers comments? T"
Yes you can. It has also just been pointed out to me by my long suffering husband That you don't need to show number of verifications.
The best thing to do is to to your account and "manage verifications" and see what options are available. |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
chelmsford |
"So it wouldn't bother you if they had more than 100 verifications?
But someone could have more than a 100 veris but only choose to show 15 of them, you would never know.
Another good point, we still don't have a full understanding of all the features on this platform. Thanks
If they've been verified 150 times it will say they have even if they only show one.
Yeah your right it does, but you can also publish what the other Fabbers comments? T
Yes you can. It has also just been pointed out to me by my long suffering husband That you don't need to show number of verifications.
The best thing to do is to to your account and "manage verifications" and see what options are available. "
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Some people have lots of verifications from socials etc.
If someone has two hundred verifications and only bareback it might put some people off.
To be fair a couple might only have a few verifications on their profile but could have hundreds on an old one.
I don't get too hung up on the verifications but interesting that many guys calling themselves straight meet tvs. I like TVs incidentally but why not be honest. |
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I've been on a variety of sites for over a decade. You have no way of knowing how many people I've met from other sites, or offline.
If someone has no veris it doesn't mean they've never had sex.
I take it all with a good pinch of salt and am guided more by my interaction with someone than the number of people who've given veris. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"   So I was having a conversation regarding whether or not it was considered more appealing to hook up with dabbers that had more verifications or less, mixed response. What do you think? "
The number doesn't bother me, many of my verifications are from socials and club events, not just people I've had sex with - I expect lots of others are the same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well for me 'personally' I prefer LOTS of sex, with quality rather than quantity. But like I said its mixed opinions, and no ones judging... "
Why does quantity mean no quality?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I really couldn't give a fuck who they've fucked. I'll assume those with only a couple have fucked just as many they just hide the verifications. Remember fab isn't the sum of someone's sex life! |
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Veris mean nothing to me really, although if if I was to meet someone new I would be more comfortable with just one veri to say they are who they say are. There's so many reasons for numbers of veris that you can't go by them alone... some veri to say they have met in a club or on cam, they've had a chat at a bar... so if a person went to a club full of 100 people off fab, and made it there intention to get as many as possible without having any fun.. it only says about meeting and nothing much else... or a person could have one verification from yrs ago and nothing since... maybe they have been having fun with just one person... there are so many variations. X |
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"As someone else said, your test is only really valid for the moment you have it done since you could go straight out and fuck someone bareback as soon as you've had the test. "
If your having a full screening done at the clinic your tests aren't even valid for the moment you have them done unless you haven't had any sexual contact for 12weeks before having the tests |
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I don't really pay attention to the number. 
I have several times met a couple with over 200 verifications. 
thanks everyone for your opinions. Happy fabbing 
