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I tend to stubbornly see things in just black and white, my rational brain is forefront and takes over mostly on my opinions...
(Yes I am on a spectrum)
Are you black and white, with shades of grey or rocking the multi coloured rainbow on your opinions?
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Life is a broad spectrum of grey with black and white on the ends. Very rarely are things as black and white as they may first seem. I always look at the bigger picture and think about things deeper than how they appear on the surface.
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Sometimes I'll be a little stubborn and only see something one way or another. Generally though I can take a step back and view things from multiple angles and get the brunt of the picture in multicolored high definition  |
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I tend to find a very specific grey to follow. When you're being called a Nazi and a snowflake in the same conversation I reckon it's likely you're seeing a reasonable middle ground!
But when, for example, a friend is a cunt to me, things get very black and white and they can just fuck right off forever. Things can get very simple. |
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"Multi coloured. I infuriate my friends with my ability to see things from all sides.
I'm banned from siding with their partners in a conflict. "
Seeing all sides, or being a contrarian for the sake of it? |
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"Life is a broad spectrum of grey with black and white on the ends. Very rarely are things as black and white as they may first seem. I always look at the bigger picture and think about things deeper than how they appear on the surface.
Mrs"
That is a good way |
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"Eeeerrrrmmmmm.... I guess I'm a multicolored rainbow.
My opinion usually depends on my mood."
Female half very black and white, male half however is very emphatic. |
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"Sometimes I'll be a little stubborn and only see something one way or another. Generally though I can take a step back and view things from multiple angles and get the brunt of the picture in multicolored high definition "
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"I tend to find a very specific grey to follow. When you're being called a Nazi and a snowflake in the same conversation I reckon it's likely you're seeing a reasonable middle ground!
But when, for example, a friend is a cunt to me, things get very black and white and they can just fuck right off forever. Things can get very simple. "
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I see multiple perspectives but I make certain decisions very quickly based on beliefs and feelings. Others I weigh up the different pros and cons analytically. I can be seen as indifferent because I see the relativistic nature of different perspectives and inconsistent because new information can change my opinion or different circumstances means I may choose a contradictory value to guide my action or decisions.
I guess I’m a murky rainbow. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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"Life is a broad spectrum of grey with black and white on the ends. Very rarely are things as black and white as they may first seem. I always look at the bigger picture and think about things deeper than how they appear on the surface.
Mrs"
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"Nothing in life is ever black and white. But pretending it to be so makes decision-making appear easier."
I agree. Accepting that things aren’t just black and white is a good step to resolving conflict |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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On some things I'm very black and white (I'm not sure if it's the Aspie part or just me nowadays). Say for example someone says they are going to do or not do something. I take that as gospel and believe in that. I get upset when I find out that it's not quite the case which is a bit daft. I always ask for clarification about a particular aspect if I'm unsure which is a learned behaviour.
I try and remember that life is far more complex and complicated with intent muddled up with actions. Still working on remembering that. |
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I see shades of grey, same with most of my siblings to be honest. A close family friend once remarked that we hardly supported each other in conflicts. We had to explain that we didn't take sides, we just followed the better argument |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
Whitley Bay |
Kaleidescopic, multidimensional, sentience. My heart and instincts rule alot of my decision making and sensing. I see things often from the bigger picture and as a result I can be an annoying fence sitter seeing all sides.
Good for compassion levels and a bit of analytical dialogue though x |
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"I tend to stubbornly see things in just black and white, my rational brain is forefront and takes over mostly on my opinions...
(Yes I am on a spectrum)
Are you black and white, with shades of grey or rocking the multi coloured rainbow on your opinions?
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I practice 3d thinking and use a wide light spectrum inc. gamma and radio xxx |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
I think it depends on the situation and the matter at hand. In theoretical arguments I will usually endeavour to see the different aspects of a discussion, look at the shades in between, then I usually come down on one side or the other based on my own moral compass. In a practical situation, I'm usually far more pragmatic and endeavour to be less emotional.
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"I see multiple perspectives but I make certain decisions very quickly based on beliefs and feelings. Others I weigh up the different pros and cons analytically. I can be seen as indifferent because I see the relativistic nature of different perspectives and inconsistent because new information can change my opinion or different circumstances means I may choose a contradictory value to guide my action or decisions.
I guess I’m a murky rainbow. "
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"Life is a broad spectrum of grey with black and white on the ends. Very rarely are things as black and white as they may first seem. I always look at the bigger picture and think about things deeper than how they appear on the surface.
Mrs
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"On some things I'm very black and white (I'm not sure if it's the Aspie part or just me nowadays). Say for example someone says they are going to do or not do something. I take that as gospel and believe in that. I get upset when I find out that it's not quite the case which is a bit daft. I always ask for clarification about a particular aspect if I'm unsure which is a learned behaviour.
I try and remember that life is far more complex and complicated with intent muddled up with actions. Still working on remembering that."
I try to remember this as well and its why I meditate otherwise its overwhelming confusion |
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"I see shades of grey, same with most of my siblings to be honest. A close family friend once remarked that we hardly supported each other in conflicts. We had to explain that we didn't take sides, we just followed the better argument "
That makes sense and is very interesting |
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"Kaleidescopic, multidimensional, sentience. My heart and instincts rule alot of my decision making and sensing. I see things often from the bigger picture and as a result I can be an annoying fence sitter seeing all sides.
Good for compassion levels and a bit of analytical dialogue though x "
That's a good view |
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"I tend to stubbornly see things in just black and white, my rational brain is forefront and takes over mostly on my opinions...
(Yes I am on a spectrum)
Are you black and white, with shades of grey or rocking the multi coloured rainbow on your opinions?
I practice 3d thinking and use a wide light spectrum inc. gamma and radio xxx"
I'm going to Google that  x |
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"I think it depends on the situation and the matter at hand. In theoretical arguments I will usually endeavour to see the different aspects of a discussion, look at the shades in between, then I usually come down on one side or the other based on my own moral compass. In a practical situation, I'm usually far more pragmatic and endeavour to be less emotional.
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That is sensible thinking and yes emotions can cloud or enhance logical thinking |
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I try to see light and shade in all things but I'm very literal.
My father is very black and white in how he sees things and simply cannot understand how it could be different. I've spent many hours trying to persuade him that something can be achieved or that he needs to take a certain action. |
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"I try to see light and shade in all things but I'm very literal.
My father is very black and white in how he sees things and simply cannot understand how it could be different. I've spent many hours trying to persuade him that something can be achieved or that he needs to take a certain action."
Wow that must be frustrating at times |
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"Black and white.
Its right or wrong, there are no grey areas for me.
Same as me, are you stubborn with it?
Yes, very  "
Can you compromise on somethings or do you steam roller with your emotions
I do both...
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"I try to see light and shade in all things but I'm very literal.
My father is very black and white in how he sees things and simply cannot understand how it could be different. I've spent many hours trying to persuade him that something can be achieved or that he needs to take a certain action.
Wow that must be frustrating at times "
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Lol it is. Luckily we have a great relationship and we can argue in a good way. He's unable to pick up on social cues, very resistant to certain changes and often very focused on one particular thing so we have lots of "discussion"  |
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By *manaWoman
over a year ago
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"Black and white.
Its right or wrong, there are no grey areas for me.
Same as me, are you stubborn with it?
Yes, very
Can you compromise on somethings or do you steam roller with your emotions
I do both...
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I'm the same! I usually go in full speed but it used to be much mum who could make me see and compromise xx |
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It's like a 100 reflections of a black & white rainbow, but mirrors hide in different dimensions.
Coins have more than 3 sides but I much prefer to look at things the way you look a diamonds, so many facets ,from different perspectives you see different light, to truly see what's inside you need a good look around .
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"I try to see light and shade in all things but I'm very literal.
My father is very black and white in how he sees things and simply cannot understand how it could be different. I've spent many hours trying to persuade him that something can be achieved or that he needs to take a certain action.
Wow that must be frustrating at times I
Lol it is. Luckily we have a great relationship and we can argue in a good way. He's unable to pick up on social cues, very resistant to certain changes and often very focused on one particular thing so we have lots of "discussion" "
That's lovely, I have similar traits and hope that my relationship with my child will be as good as yours is with your dad x |
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"Black and white.
Its right or wrong, there are no grey areas for me.
Same as me, are you stubborn with it?
Yes, very
Can you compromise on somethings or do you steam roller with your emotions
I do both...
I'm the same! I usually go in full speed but it used to be much mum who could make me see and compromise xx"
I hope you have similar support, Chunky gent has a rare ability of calming me down when I'm hyper |
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"I try to see light and shade in all things but I'm very literal.
My father is very black and white in how he sees things and simply cannot understand how it could be different. I've spent many hours trying to persuade him that something can be achieved or that he needs to take a certain action.
Wow that must be frustrating at times I
Lol it is. Luckily we have a great relationship and we can argue in a good way. He's unable to pick up on social cues, very resistant to certain changes and often very focused on one particular thing so we have lots of "discussion"
That's lovely, I have similar traits and hope that my relationship with my child will be as good as yours is with your dad x"
Don't get me wrong. Sometimes I come home and feel like bashing my head against the wall |
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"It's like a 100 reflections of a black & white rainbow, but mirrors hide in different dimensions.
Coins have more than 3 sides but I much prefer to look at things the way you look a diamonds, so many facets ,from different perspectives you see different light, to truly see what's inside you need a good look around .
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Oh wow I'd love a mind stimulating debate with your thinking ?? |
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"I try to see light and shade in all things but I'm very literal.
My father is very black and white in how he sees things and simply cannot understand how it could be different. I've spent many hours trying to persuade him that something can be achieved or that he needs to take a certain action.
Wow that must be frustrating at times I
Lol it is. Luckily we have a great relationship and we can argue in a good way. He's unable to pick up on social cues, very resistant to certain changes and often very focused on one particular thing so we have lots of "discussion"
That's lovely, I have similar traits and hope that my relationship with my child will be as good as yours is with your dad x"
Don't get me wrong. Sometimes I come home and feel like bashing my head against the wall |
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"I try to see light and shade in all things but I'm very literal.
My father is very black and white in how he sees things and simply cannot understand how it could be different. I've spent many hours trying to persuade him that something can be achieved or that he needs to take a certain action.
Wow that must be frustrating at times I
Lol it is. Luckily we have a great relationship and we can argue in a good way. He's unable to pick up on social cues, very resistant to certain changes and often very focused on one particular thing so we have lots of "discussion"
That's lovely, I have similar traits and hope that my relationship with my child will be as good as yours is with your dad x
Don't get me wrong. Sometimes I come home and feel like bashing my head against the wall "
Alcohol can alleviate that feeling |
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"It's like a 100 reflections of a black & white rainbow, but mirrors hide in different dimensions.
Coins have more than 3 sides but I much prefer to look at things the way you look a diamonds, so many facets ,from different perspectives you see different light, to truly see what's inside you need a good look around .
Oh wow I'd love a mind stimulating debate with your thinking ??"
Feel free , inbox shields (filters) are down or debate in public posts .
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it's not a mythical creature |
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"I try to see light and shade in all things but I'm very literal.
My father is very black and white in how he sees things and simply cannot understand how it could be different. I've spent many hours trying to persuade him that something can be achieved or that he needs to take a certain action.
Wow that must be frustrating at times I
Lol it is. Luckily we have a great relationship and we can argue in a good way. He's unable to pick up on social cues, very resistant to certain changes and often very focused on one particular thing so we have lots of "discussion"
That's lovely, I have similar traits and hope that my relationship with my child will be as good as yours is with your dad x
Don't get me wrong. Sometimes I come home and feel like bashing my head against the wall
Alcohol can alleviate that feeling "
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