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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I’m a little shocked. Isn’t it funny how we have a perception of someone from their profile/ perceived attitude yet when you actually get to meet them face to face they are nothing like how they portray themselves.
In particular the keyboard warriors who actually in person are extremely shy and insecure. Does being online give people the anonymity and self confidence to be rude/ brash ? |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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It probably does but I wouldn't know as I wouldn't meet anyone who comes across as a keyboard warrior on here. If people are rude and on just to stir all the time I've no interest in meeting them. I don't mind difference of opinions but trolling is a turn off.
But ye I bet a lot are not like that in real life or you would hope they aren't anyhow. |
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I’ve met people from the forum and being surprised both positively and negatively by both attitude/personality and their physical appearance
I’m in the agreement with the lady above though, I wouldn’t choose to meet anyone who comes across troll like and are consciously mean. |
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"It probably does but I wouldn't know as I wouldn't meet anyone who comes across as a keyboard warrior on here. If people are rude and on just to stir all the time I've no interest in meeting them. I don't mind difference of opinions but trolling is a turn off.
But ye I bet a lot are not like that in real life or you would hope they aren't anyhow. "
This for me.  |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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Yes it does provide the anonymity to be offensive, rude, brash. I still believe it takes a certain personality trait to be that way though. If they were completely different in person that would make me cautious.
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It's like the old fashioned poison pen letters. They were often written by the people you'd least expect.
We're often surprised at the difference between the actual person and the on line person but I expect people say the same about us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For myself I am polite and respectful on here and in person, but maybe 10 minutes first off in person I am a little reserved then I pop out my shell but everyone is different I guess |
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"I’m a little shocked. Isn’t it funny how we have a perception of someone from their profile/ perceived attitude yet when you actually get to meet them face to face they are nothing like how they portray themselves.
In particular the keyboard warriors who actually in person are extremely shy and insecure. Does being online give people the anonymity and self confidence to be rude/ brash ? "
I did wonder why Mr Gorgeous shot off so quick last night  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a bit more reserved in person but I like to think I'm not rude or abrasive online either. Just a bit more animated.
I used to stammer as a kid so I've always expressed myself better on paper (or by keyboard).
I usually find it's the opposite for others though, they are reserved online but pretty much full on in person |
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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago
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"I’m a little shocked. Isn’t it funny how we have a perception of someone from their profile/ perceived attitude yet when you actually get to meet them face to face they are nothing like how they portray themselves.
In particular the keyboard warriors who actually in person are extremely shy and insecure. Does being online give people the anonymity and self confidence to be rude/ brash ? "
Yes! Thank you. Someone has finally said it out loud.
I've found that for many years and even at work!
The most docile and quiet ones would write the most out of character and aggressive emails.
And I've seen the shy and timid ones give some very harsh and judgemental opinions (even pre-internet when I received customer service letters in a certain job).
It's sometimes not even anonymity, simlpy the detachment from a situation is enough to bring out confidence (and sometimes the worst in people) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely the keyboard creates barrier people feel safer behind, just like people in cars can be far more aggressive to each other than if they were face to face.
To flip it a little, I’m an aspie (Aspergers) and struggle with personal communication but online the conversations happen more slowly and I can mange better, so I come across quieter in real life |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"I’m a little shocked. Isn’t it funny how we have a perception of someone from their profile/ perceived attitude yet when you actually get to meet them face to face they are nothing like how they portray themselves.
In particular the keyboard warriors who actually in person are extremely shy and insecure. Does being online give people the anonymity and self confidence to be rude/ brash ? "
Yes, this is common and i've seen this myself. The online filter can indeed embolden people who are otherwise more shy and reserved in person.
Not my case. What you see is definitely what you get |
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"I’m a little shocked. Isn’t it funny how we have a perception of someone from their profile/ perceived attitude yet when you actually get to meet them face to face they are nothing like how they portray themselves.
In particular the keyboard warriors who actually in person are extremely shy and insecure. Does being online give people the anonymity and self confidence to be rude/ brash ? "
I would not be rude but find i do say things that i maybe would not say face to face. |
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"I’m a little shocked. Isn’t it funny how we have a perception of someone from their profile/ perceived attitude yet when you actually get to meet them face to face they are nothing like how they portray themselves.
In particular the keyboard warriors who actually in person are extremely shy and insecure. Does being online give people the anonymity and self confidence to be rude/ brash ? "
I'm puzzled why you'd meet someone who was rude/brash  |
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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago
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"I’m a little shocked. Isn’t it funny how we have a perception of someone from their profile/ perceived attitude yet when you actually get to meet them face to face they are nothing like how they portray themselves.
In particular the keyboard warriors who actually in person are extremely shy and insecure. Does being online give people the anonymity and self confidence to be rude/ brash ?
I'm puzzled why you'd meet someone who was rude/brash "
She wasn't saying she would consider meeting them, she was asking a question. Does being anonymous online, help people to be more rude/brash. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think for me, the forums do allow me to be more confident. Conversely, the interactions and acceptance I have experienced in the forums have enhanced my personal confidence xx |
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"I’m a little shocked. Isn’t it funny how we have a perception of someone from their profile/ perceived attitude yet when you actually get to meet them face to face they are nothing like how they portray themselves.
In particular the keyboard warriors who actually in person are extremely shy and insecure. Does being online give people the anonymity and self confidence to be rude/ brash ? "
I (Luke) am naturally quite an introvert. The thing I find about writing is that I can consider what I say more. There's no immediate pressure to answer a question. I can drop in and out of forum threads however I want. If I have nothing to say then I don't have to say anything. I can look at my words before I post them and rephrase or delete things, or just come back later.
None of that applies in a face-to-face social setting. Hopefully I do OK but I feel more pressure to be interesting and entertaining. I get nervous that I will end up with nothing to say. |
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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago
Biddulph |
"I think for me, the forums do allow me to be more confident. Conversely, the interactions and acceptance I have experienced in the forums have enhanced my personal confidence xx"
And circle of friends  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I once met up with someone that I'd been chatting with for a while but we'd never spoke over the phone before hand, she spoke in the same manner as they do on ab fab, at the time I was walking with crutches due to an injury, walking from the pub she was banging on doors and running away  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think for me, the forums do allow me to be more confident. Conversely, the interactions and acceptance I have experienced in the forums have enhanced my personal confidence xx
And circle of friends "
A small circle. Small but perfectly formed x |
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"I’m a little shocked. Isn’t it funny how we have a perception of someone from their profile/ perceived attitude yet when you actually get to meet them face to face they are nothing like how they portray themselves.
In particular the keyboard warriors who actually in person are extremely shy and insecure. Does being online give people the anonymity and self confidence to be rude/ brash ?
I'm puzzled why you'd meet someone who was rude/brash
She wasn't saying she would consider meeting them, she was asking a question. Does being anonymous online, help people to be more rude/brash."
The thread title and indeed the first post strongly imply, almost say explicitly that OP has met such a person.
If I'm wrong, the title and thread are very misleading...
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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago
Biddulph |
"I’m a little shocked. Isn’t it funny how we have a perception of someone from their profile/ perceived attitude yet when you actually get to meet them face to face they are nothing like how they portray themselves.
In particular the keyboard warriors who actually in person are extremely shy and insecure. Does being online give people the anonymity and self confidence to be rude/ brash ?
I'm puzzled why you'd meet someone who was rude/brash
She wasn't saying she would consider meeting them, she was asking a question. Does being anonymous online, help people to be more rude/brash.
The thread title and indeed the first post strongly imply, almost say explicitly that OP has met such a person.
If I'm wrong, the title and thread are very misleading...
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Ah, it does, your right |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It probably does but I wouldn't know as I wouldn't meet anyone who comes across as a keyboard warrior on here. If people are rude and on just to stir all the time I've no interest in meeting them. I don't mind difference of opinions but trolling is a turn off.
But ye I bet a lot are not like that in real life or you would hope they aren't anyhow. "
Met at a social event. Would not have chosen to meet away from site. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’m a little shocked. Isn’t it funny how we have a perception of someone from their profile/ perceived attitude yet when you actually get to meet them face to face they are nothing like how they portray themselves.
In particular the keyboard warriors who actually in person are extremely shy and insecure. Does being online give people the anonymity and self confidence to be rude/ brash ?
I'm puzzled why you'd meet someone who was rude/brash "
Came across at a group social. Would not have met through choice that’s for certain. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its online, a lot of people think because no one is there they can be whoever they choose, an online version of themselves.
Then theres this site so everyone forgets we are human and just think they are don Juan or something and just act like sexual animals.
Plus there is a hell of a lot of ego's on here. People who want to be top fabbed pics or be the king or queen of sex.
I'm just myself, sarcastic, likes to be silly n finds the humour in most things me, no point pretending to be something you are not.
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"I’m a little shocked. Isn’t it funny how we have a perception of someone from their profile/ perceived attitude yet when you actually get to meet them face to face they are nothing like how they portray themselves.
In particular the keyboard warriors who actually in person are extremely shy and insecure. Does being online give people the anonymity and self confidence to be rude/ brash ? "
totally agree...we are happy with our life and never over promise ....unlike some lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Also, some folk appear popular and dead nice online and then.....
Really though, online you can create a persona in whatever way you choose, whether it's the real you or not is up to you but it's a bit pointless on a sex site unless you're just planning on sitting behind a phone screen the whole time innit....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm the same miserable cunt in person that I am on here, just ask anyone who's met me (assuming they can remember who I am...)
I remember meeting you. You're really not."
Hes a lucky twat then  |
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"I’m a little shocked. Isn’t it funny how we have a perception of someone from their profile/ perceived attitude yet when you actually get to meet them face to face they are nothing like how they portray themselves.
In particular the keyboard warriors who actually in person are extremely shy and insecure. Does being online give people the anonymity and self confidence to be rude/ brash ? "
I've found it to be the case both ways - people who don't give much away online are more open in person, and the opposite as you say.
It can be down to misinterpretation of the written word - it's easier to read people in person I find. Or some people use fab to create an entirely different persona, someone they want to be, or to troll. Pretty hard to tell sometimes!
Mrs TMN x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m a little shocked. Isn’t it funny how we have a perception of someone from their profile/ perceived attitude yet when you actually get to meet them face to face they are nothing like how they portray themselves.
In particular the keyboard warriors who actually in person are extremely shy and insecure. Does being online give people the anonymity and self confidence to be rude/ brash ? "
Of course. People will often say on the internet things they wouldn't dare say to your face. Arseholes.
Shy and insecure people are often more creative and apparently outgoing online, than they are in person, but a long period of chatting is better at revealing the real person. Most people realise I am a twat fairly early on..
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I've known people I've worked with who have keyboard warrior traits. I dislike it. I think it's a known issue worldwide on sites and I'll avoid them, never getting to glimpse their issues and dis-ease. My heart goes out to people with life problems, typically excepting those causing pain for others whilst reasonably knowing or wanting to do this. |
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I've only met 1 person who wasn't what I thought they'd be like (non-fab lady, do not worry people I have met )
I like it here so as for rudeness etc, my real life is busy enough without causing drama by being a cock end. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm the same miserable cunt in person that I am on here, just ask anyone who's met me (assuming they can remember who I am...)
I remember meeting you. You're really not."
You caught me on a good day. Ask anyone who's seen me at a social since. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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Sometimes the ones more chatty on WhatsApp are less chatty in real life and vice-versa, not necessarily a bad thing. Chemistry can also be very different in real life to text which can be disappointing, but I’m yet to meet someone who’s character surprised me, text is a good way to get to know what someone is like |
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I have found this with some people. I've also met some people that have a friendly online persona that really aren't that pleasant in real life.
The internet does give people the anonymity to be whoever they want to pretend to be, but I think it's a bit pointless to send out a completely different persona if you actually intend to meet people - I would walk away if someone was completely different to the person that I'd chatted to online. |
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