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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago
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I am curious..particularly single men looking for single women.
If you're not interested, whether you've met or not, do you bother to say you're done, or do you just stop responding to messages?
I always make my feelings clear, but I don't get that same courtesy!!
I'm a big girl & can take a 'no thanks' without losing the plot, but just get a bit frustrated with the silent treatment!!  |
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"I am curious..particularly single men looking for single women.
If you're not interested, whether you've met or not, do you bother to say you're done, or do you just stop responding to messages?
I always make my feelings clear, but I don't get that same courtesy!!
I'm a big girl & can take a 'no thanks' without losing the plot, but just get a bit frustrated with the silent treatment!! "
So sorry to hear. I will tell folks. But as you ladies get way more mail than us men most don’t reply they delete. The modern way is just to delete. Rejection unfortunately is part of procedure. Jesse xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Happens to us all - especially on here. Doesn’t matter if you’re big, small or whatever.
Happened to me recently, and it can mess with your self confidence.
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"I am curious..particularly single men looking for single women.
If you're not interested, whether you've met or not, do you bother to say you're done, or do you just stop responding to messages?
I always make my feelings clear, but I don't get that same courtesy!!
I'm a big girl & can take a 'no thanks' without losing the plot, but just get a bit frustrated with the silent treatment!! "
You're not alone by any means. I've had it all over time, well-written polite replies which have meant a lot, instant blocks, suddenly stopping talking, rudeness and personal insults.....the list goes on. Sadly it's very clear its becoming worse and I've got to the point where I believe only a tiny minority on here are honest and decent. Many are rude, arrogant, conceited and often look down on others from a perceived high perch. It's clear from clubs, socials etc. that most live within cliques and inner sanctum that rarely welcome others, being very closed to outsiders. It's become genuinely depressing to the point where I've stopped bothering and just come on here when I've nothing better to do. |
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"I don't like giving the silent treatment, so I always say I'm done... I use different words though obvs 
Like
‘I’m done’
Or
It’s not you it’s me. I’m too good for you "
I'm not too good for anyone  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a dubble edged sword really,
At the start we responded to all the messages we received, but it turns out to be a ratio thing! When you get loads of abuse for just saying no thank you, you do find yourself just deleting and sometimes blocking the sender, it's a sad truth I afraid. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't like giving the silent treatment, so I always say I'm done... I use different words though obvs
Like
‘I’m done’
Or
It’s not you it’s me. I’m too good for you
I'm not too good for anyone "
You’re just lovely  |
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"I don't like giving the silent treatment, so I always say I'm done... I use different words though obvs
Like
‘I’m done’
Or
It’s not you it’s me. I’m too good for you
I'm not too good for anyone
You’re just lovely "
Thanks beautiful |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
There's also the "natural fizzle" where things have just drifted naturally which has happened a few times and I think is quite commonplace here, and often happens not necessarily because of lack of interest as such, more neither person wanting to be upfront and open about things as it's not the "done" thing on here.
Trouble with that is it can lead to both people thinking the other isn't interested when quite often that couldn't be farther from the truth.
Personally I'd rather be told that someone isn't interested in meeting again (even if the reasons might be quite brutal) rather than left dangling wondering. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am curious..particularly single men looking for single women.
If you're not interested, whether you've met or not, do you bother to say you're done, or do you just stop responding to messages?
I always make my feelings clear, but I don't get that same courtesy!!
I'm a big girl & can take a 'no thanks' without losing the plot, but just get a bit frustrated with the silent treatment!! "
The stopping of messages only has happened once to me and it was a genuine mistake. All sorted now . Can you not message the person again? |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I can't say I've experienced it apart from once (as in had it done to me) but I know I tend to fade messages out for a myriad of reasons. If that sort of initial excitement isn't there it naturally means they sort of fade in intensity and frequency. I also don't like sending *that* message because unless I'm really certain the person fancies me, it's a bit assumptive. Sometimes people just like talking and seeing how things progress.
I tend to get to know people as friends firstly - anything else that happens is a bonus so yeah...
If you want clear communication, start that conversation. Find out what happened. |
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