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Do you want the guy to show interest quick or take his time?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When you watch a utube video you get this guy talking about relationship advice on the commercials have you seen him too? He said that some ladies want you to show them interest quick and others want you to take the time with them what type of ladie are you?  |
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Probably somewhere in between when it comes to dating. Interest should grow over time. If someone is too keen too early it's a bit off putting as it usually means they're really into the idea of you rather than the actual you as they don't really know you yet. It's then a lot of pressure to live up to the ideal they've created in their head. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have go say i was a very fast mover usually was offered sex or a social within the first few hours of messaging once flow has been established and rules passed  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Depends what you mean by showing interest. I don't like people to be too full on really quickly, but if they don't show any, I will move on."
Yes it was advice on dating and the beginning of a relationship with someone.
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Probably somewhere in between when it comes to dating. Interest should grow over time. If someone is too keen too early it's a bit off putting as it usually means they're really into the idea of you rather than the actual you as they don't really know you yet. It's then a lot of pressure to live up to the ideal they've created in their head."
Yes - it's like this pinnacle of daftness. I want to be treated like a human. Too little interest and I lose interest. I just like things to be relaxed and enjoyable and actually get a chance to know them. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Liverpool |
Long gone are the days that I care what I "should" be doing.
You can never knowingly get it right and be successful everytime, so now I go at my own pace either they like it or they don't. It's on them to accept it or not, I have my own reasons for doing what I do and far too many other things on my mind to worry about it. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Liverpool |
Wait... I'm confused..
Is the question a case of making sure they know you are interested initially and then the speed at which that interest grows
OR
Finding somebody and then at what point do you shown interest, sooner or drag it out?
Because if its the former fair enough.
If its the latter surely its a simple yes you let them know you are interested from the start.
Dragging that initial interest out is just a dangerous game of them thinking are they interested or not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can't be arsed with games if someone likes me I want to know. Life is too short
damn right."
Perfect answer, if you play games your only asking to lose |
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By *jangoMan
over a year ago
Plymouth |
"Probably somewhere in between when it comes to dating. Interest should grow over time. If someone is too keen too early it's a bit off putting as it usually means they're really into the idea of you rather than the actual you as they don't really know you yet. It's then a lot of pressure to live up to the ideal they've created in their head."
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
Whitley Bay |
I want people to be themselves and go with what they're feeling. I'll have my response accordingly. Love upfront, with a bit of humility and curiosity. Anything goes when met or delivered with warmth and honesty. I appreciate it when someone is intense and takes risks and I appreciate when people are slow burning too. I can go either way. Not being afraid to communicate is attractive. Presence. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone’s different
The last man I was intimate with showed interest quickly, but it soon faded.
I like interest to remain , not wane after the horizontal shenanigans |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I bet I’m a crap fuck
No hun, you're too sexy to be a crap fuck. Mwah 
I can confirm that she is NOT a crap fuck"
What is up with all the compliments ... |
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
The right place |
"I bet I’m a crap fuck
No hun, you're too sexy to be a crap fuck. Mwah
I can confirm that she is NOT a crap fuck
What is up with all the compliments ... "
Just being honest and nice! What’s up with the self deprecating defence mechanism? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I bet I’m a crap fuck
No hun, you're too sexy to be a crap fuck. Mwah
I can confirm that she is NOT a crap fuck
What is up with all the compliments ...
Just being honest and nice! What’s up with the self deprecating defence mechanism? "
Fair point
Thank you
Can you tell all the hot men in my area that I’m an ok fuck please |
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
The right place |
"I bet I’m a crap fuck
No hun, you're too sexy to be a crap fuck. Mwah
I can confirm that she is NOT a crap fuck
What is up with all the compliments ...
Just being honest and nice! What’s up with the self deprecating defence mechanism?
Fair point
Thank you
Can you tell all the hot men in my area that I’m an ok fuck please "
Better than ok!
It’s good to see you owning your sexiness! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I bet I’m a crap fuck
No hun, you're too sexy to be a crap fuck. Mwah
I can confirm that she is NOT a crap fuck
What is up with all the compliments ...
Just being honest and nice! What’s up with the self deprecating defence mechanism?
Fair point
Thank you
Can you tell all the hot men in my area that I’m an ok fuck please
Better than ok!
It’s good to see you owning your sexiness! "
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
I think it very much varies from person to person, with some I've met it's been a slow burner where mutual interest grows over time, with others it's been fairly immediate from the get go where we've just "clicked" from that first message - the only constant has been that regardless of how the interest came about we've taken some time to chat and get to know each other better before meeting |
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"When you watch a utube video you get this guy talking about relationship advice on the commercials have you seen him too? He said that some ladies want you to show them interest quick and others want you to take the time with them what type of ladie are you? "
I like both tbh it depends on the person and situation we are both in at the time |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Probably somewhere in between when it comes to dating. Interest should grow over time. If someone is too keen too early it's a bit off putting as it usually means they're really into the idea of you rather than the actual you as they don't really know you yet. It's then a lot of pressure to live up to the ideal they've created in their head.
Yes - it's like this pinnacle of daftness. I want to be treated like a human. Too little interest and I lose interest. I just like things to be relaxed and enjoyable and actually get a chance to know them."
That is good way of seeing it, as you get to know the person more by taking the time rather than to quick and not know so much about them |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"When you watch a utube video you get this guy talking about relationship advice on the commercials have you seen him too? He said that some ladies want you to show them interest quick and others want you to take the time with them what type of ladie are you?
I like both tbh it depends on the person and situation we are both in at the time"
That is right as well as it also depends on the person you meet |
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I've been burned aa few times by this, occasionally byy being too eager too quickly (as in we're getting along over many texts ut does she see me as amusing, or as aa friend, so attempting to speed it up subtley andd getting a negative, or no response), or taking the slow burner approach and they lose interest.
Honest, no fear communication from both sides is key. Too many things can be misinterpreted otherwise and then everyone's frustrated.
Grr. |
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It does seem to depend from person to person how quick it moves along, that is purely down to the connection, how the conversation naturally flows etc. But if they come on to strong, to full on, talking about the future has me running a mile |
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