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Hidden Verifications

By *hrisk75 OP Man over a year ago

Gateshead

Is it better practise to show the number of verifications you have but keep details hidden or do people prefer to see the veris as a bit of a review.......also while I'm on a topic I posted a while ago but what is an acceptable number of meets and veris to have.....I was chatting to someone recently and asked them about the number they had, turns out it wasn't everyone and they'd slept with over 900 men in the last 12 months.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It’s entirely up to you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t share mine but that’s because I personally think it’s my business who I’ve met.

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By *VineMan over a year ago

The right place

"It’s entirely up to you. "

This

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By *VineMan over a year ago

The right place

"I don’t share mine but that’s because I personally think it’s my business who I’ve met.

This too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not trip advisor...

I don't let anyone know what I've done or not done

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By *ust ClareTV/TS over a year ago

Settlewick!

900 men in a year? Is that really likely? Do the maths

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Do what you like. I keep mine hidden because it annoys nosey buggers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wish I could get away without showing them. I show a couple but almost every one I’ve chatted with wants to see all of them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do what you want, someone will always tell you you're wrong no matter what you choose.

I don't show mine, who I meet and when is my business.

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By *hrisk75 OP Man over a year ago

Gateshead

Is it possible to hide them but show them to people as they ask to show you're genuine and trustworthy (and hopefully good) without opening them to everyone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have a mix on mine. Organised socials, club meets, social only. It clears up that everything I do isn't just about sex. I don't show them all. But I do change them around sometimes.

Also profile says joined a year ago this profile is a few years old so I think it's better to show some old ones so people can see how spaced out my meets are x

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I prefer not to as people can't differentiate between sex meets and organised socials, they just see the totals and assume the worst. I have a lot as I organise and attend socials.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I hide mine and the number. What I get up to, and with whom is no one else's concern.

I've been here long enough to not need to prove "I'm real"

Quite frankly I couldn't care less if anyone thought I'm not or if they are unhappy I don't have these on show.

Do your own thing.

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Is it possible to hide them but show them to people as they ask to show you're genuine and trustworthy (and hopefully good) without opening them to everyone"

No, you would need to make them public then hide them again. Or I suppose you could screenshot a pic and send them that way

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"900 men in a year? Is that really likely? Do the maths "

17 a week on average... that's some going

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm hiding a few veris as some men got jealous.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman over a year ago

trouble most likely, or creating it :)

"900 men in a year? Is that really likely? Do the maths "
why not. It is less than 20 a week

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By *eah BabyCouple over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Your choice. We prefer to show, only ones we don’t are if it’s a saw this couple in a club type of veri, we also like to see other people’s as gives you an idea of what they look for. Also if they have verification summary on and they only have one veri and it’s hidden we probably wouldn’t take things further as it could be a made up veri.

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By *atricia ParnelWoman over a year ago

In a town full of colours

My meets are all special memories just for me, I love reading them and remembering when we played.

Quite happy to show the social ones though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

900 meets in a year is pushing it can't have had many head aches that year

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"900 men in a year? Is that really likely? Do the maths why not. It is less than 20 a week"

I wish I had the time

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman over a year ago

trouble most likely, or creating it :)

I dont show all my veries purely because some are too graphic... but mostly mine are social x

I dont know anyone thinks that how many veries someone has is relevant to how many they have actually had sexual contact with x

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By *issmorganWoman over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Totally your choice and you will never please everyone.

I show mine ,think some like to have a look and see what you're like,the type of person you meet etc.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t share mine but that’s because I personally think it’s my business who I’ve met.

I quite agree

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Too many people play the veri trail and use the people/number that you've met as a stick to beat you with.

I don't show mine now, with the exception of one that I'll post when I get it.

The simple answer is do what feels right for you, you won't please everyone, do don't try. Just remember that verifications are there to prove that you're real and you are who you say you are, everything after that is just opinion.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple over a year ago

Stockport

We sometimes show the summary and sometimes some of the veri’s. We attend quite a few veri’s so most are from socials it social events. It really shouldn’t matter what you do it’s up to you x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's like 3 a day op, if those numbers are to believe I hope she's using protection fs

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By *isaB45Woman over a year ago

Fabville

"I don’t share mine but that’s because I personally think it’s my business who I’ve met.

Exactly this.

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By *ixen13Woman over a year ago

Cowdenbeath

Question, when you get a new veri does it always show in the updates bit? As i ofter see "xyz receiverd a new verification" is there anyway to stop it appearing there?

Thanks xx

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By *luebell888Woman over a year ago

Glasgowish

Alot of my veris are hidden as they basically say the same plus its nobodys business. Most are social veris but folk just look at the number and judge wrongly. Out of sight out of mind.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

900 men? Damn I don’t even know 900 men. I’m jealous

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By *-4pleasureCouple over a year ago

Belfast

"Is it better practise to show the number of verifications you have but keep details hidden or do people prefer to see the veris as a bit of a review.......also while I'm on a topic I posted a while ago but what is an acceptable number of meets and veris to have.....I was chatting to someone recently and asked them about the number they had, turns out it wasn't everyone and they'd slept with over 900 men in the last 12 months."

900 men?

In a year??

And you believed them

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Question, when you get a new veri does it always show in the updates bit? As i ofter see "xyz receiverd a new verification" is there anyway to stop it appearing there?

Thanks xx"

Yes turn off the summary

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do what you like. I keep mine hidden because it annoys nosey buggers

Exactly this!!

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By *ixen13Woman over a year ago

Cowdenbeath

"Question, when you get a new veri does it always show in the updates bit? As i ofter see "xyz receiverd a new verification" is there anyway to stop it appearing there?

Thanks xx

Yes turn off the summary "

Does that stop it showing in the local updates page? Xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve had to hide mine cos I didn’t ask to be verified and they were from meets I’d had years ago off old profiles.

Think you should ask people if they want to be verified and not just write the verification especially if it’s a meet from years ago.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sometimes it’s easier to have them hidden, otherwise people can be arseholes about the people you met. People can be so weird

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By *urtyGentMan over a year ago

eastleigh

Personally like the veri system. Been catfished on other dating websites and it blows. That said, I’ve been on the reason some people have had grief been given to them over messages and it doesn’t feel too great. If everyone could stop being weird like that it would be great

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman over a year ago

trouble most likely, or creating it :)

900 men?

In a year??

And you believed them

"
it's not hard if your a regular group sex person x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I show veris so people know I am a real person and I can't be bothered with any other form of verifying. I don't like cam and I don't really like talking on the phone. I don't like explicit varis though. I won't show any that give any details of action and in fact any person sending me that sort of vari would be unlikely to get another meet with me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't take a lot of notice of them as I prefer to rely on my own judgement. People though will do as they wish its down to the individual neither is right or wrong.

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

All my veris are displayed, just my personal choice, but clearly not the totality of my sex life, the same as everybody else on here.

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By *Man1263Man over a year ago

Stockport

"Sometimes it’s easier to have them hidden, otherwise people can be arseholes about the people you met. People can be so weird "

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like to keep them between me and the people I meet. Less drama that way.

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By *eah BabyCouple over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Why drama over veris? Seen before people saying they get crap off people for who they meet, all seems very strange people would cause they much trouble when not in a relationship, why don’t you just block the people that give you grief about them?

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By *oney_Bee_xTV/TS over a year ago

Teesside

I would much rather see the verification details.

They usually say something nice about you (for us to see and read).

If I see a profile with 1 or 2 ‘hidden’ verifications, then I don’t trust they are genuine verifications (they could have created fake profiles and made up the verifications up themselves). Especially when they have no photos or a weak profile. So I just ignore and delete their messages/winks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We show the number but not the written verifications, no big reason for it just a personal choice I suppose.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Up to you. Personally I don’t show mine but I like to see other people’s

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"900 men in a year? Is that really likely? Do the maths

17 a week on average... that's some going "

I bet the before and after photo's of her **** are a sight!

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"900 men in a year? Is that really likely? Do the maths "

That's 2.466 guys every day

I think not

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The green tick shows I'm real. I'd rather keep the details private.

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By *sm265Woman over a year ago

Shangri-la

I do read veris, it gives a bit of insight.

I choose not to display my verifications or summary for personal reasons, some people do have an issue with that but that's their problem not mine. It's my profile and I will use it how I want to.

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By *andK78Couple over a year ago

Newport

We keep ours private, what we get upto we like to keep it between us and them.

Also we don't ask for more as we have enough to show where genuine and get us invites to the Socials.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I neither show my verifications or show the summary. Who I meet and what we do are in my view best kept between us.

I don’t generally take any notice of others’ veris.

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By *iamondCougarWoman over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I don’t display my 1:2:1 meetings - it just brings out envy and jealous claws....

They are for me to reflect on memorable times

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t display my 1:2:1 meetings - it just brings out envy and jealous claws....

They are for me to reflect on memorable times"

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By *oney_Bee_xTV/TS over a year ago

Teesside

"We keep ours private, what we get upto we like to keep it between us and them.

Also we don't ask for more as we have enough to show where genuine and get us invites to the Socials.

Fair do’s... and that’s okay.

I just come across too many single Male profiles which are a bit suspicious ...

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By *oby le roneMan over a year ago

Treorchy

Over 900 in a year? She must be sore as fuck

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS over a year ago

London&Dublin

Over 900 in a year? She must be sore as fuck

Verifications don't necessarily

mean sex.

Sometimes they meet in clubs and nothing intimate happened but still verify each other.

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By *ily WhiteWoman over a year ago

I keep my verifications and the summary hidden - until the site is free from people that can't control their jealous and bitter behaviour then it will remain that way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In the past I've had some women say they won't meet because I have a verification from someone they dislike.

I thought they were a bit silly as it would be me they meeting and not the rival so to speak.

Strange

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman over a year ago

trouble most likely, or creating it :)

"900 men in a year? Is that really likely? Do the maths

That's 2.466 guys every day

I think not

I've done more than 900 meets in a year without trying. Its more than doable when you do your meets only as group sessions. X

I'm on an exceptionally quiet year this year and 2 months in if I carry on as I have this past two months it would easily be that sort of number again.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sometimes I display my verifications summary and sometimes not. I only show a few of them at any time, if any at all.

Totally a matter of choice.

I do like to read veris on other people's profiles though, as I think it gives you an idea about them and their likes beyond what their profile shows.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never knew it was an option to hide the number of verifications..and you show a lower number than you’ve a got. I thought if you only published part of them it could mean that a few were bad and could be used to gauge reliability of a profile

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman over a year ago

trouble most likely, or creating it :)

"Never knew it was an option to hide the number of verifications..and you show a lower number than you’ve a got. I thought if you only published part of them it could mean that a few were bad and could be used to gauge reliability of a profile

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you also leave some as people leave the site... for instance ive lost 16 in the last 2 weeks off my shown verifications as people have been leaving x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dont show i dont particularly like vari's

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I keep my verifications and the summary hidden - until the site is free from people that can't control their jealous and bitter behaviour then it will remain that way. "

do you not write veri's for the same reason, or write them and ask them not to be displayed, or are you happy for those lucky enough to have your praise to show it off?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Must admit I'm a bit of a hypocrite regarding verifications. I dont show mine yet I'm weary of guys who dont show theirs.

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"I keep my verifications and the summary hidden - until the site is free from people that can't control their jealous and bitter behaviour then it will remain that way. "

That’s a real shame, we also begun to encounter it, you would think on an adult site people would behave like adults. It’s a tiny minority so for now we will continue to show almost all and people just have to get over themselves

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't want to show mine, because she's mine

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

To be honest, I think the verification is enough. I don't really need to read a trip advisor review of the hours people have spent together.

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

"Must admit I'm a bit of a hypocrite regarding verifications. I dont show mine yet I'm weary of guys who dont show theirs."

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By *ily WhiteWoman over a year ago

"I keep my verifications and the summary hidden - until the site is free from people that can't control their jealous and bitter behaviour then it will remain that way.

do you not write veri's for the same reason, or write them and ask them not to be displayed, or are you happy for those lucky enough to have your praise to show it off?"

I will always write a veri as I think they're nice to read back as a reminder of good times. I would never ask somebody not to show a verification from me, but I only meet those on the the same wavelength as me with regards to this lifestyle, so they generally wouldn't show them anyway

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I show my social veris but wouldn't show graphic sex veris. I'm more offended if I do someone a veri and they don't do one back...or show other veris but not mine

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I keep my verifications and the summary hidden - until the site is free from people that can't control their jealous and bitter behaviour then it will remain that way. "

I’ve found this lately. Been the target of a lot of malicious stirring the past couple of months, and I’ve had enough, so now hide the veris. What we do is nothing to do with anyone else but jealousy and spiteful behaviour has meant I’ve had to do this.

I shouldn’t have to worry how other people react to what I do with the guy I’ve been seeing for over two years, but now I do apparently. Trying to split us up has become unbearable, but why should I lose the man who is my everything just because people are jealous. It’s pathetic! So now I hide them.

Hopefully they will get the message- they will not win. There are plenty of people on this site for them to obsess over, and I refuse to give them more reasons to hate on us by showing the veris x

Viv x

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By *nnocentimesMan over a year ago

over there by that tree

I only show the last 6 months or so... the ones before are irrelevant to what I’m currently into or getting up to.

If anyone wants to see them I’m more than happy to share.

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By *ineMan over a year ago

In cave behind a waterfall on a hill

"I'm not trip advisor...

I don't let anyone know what I've done or not done"

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Must admit I'm a bit of a hypocrite regarding verifications. I dont show mine yet I'm weary of guys who dont show theirs."

You’re right I don’t show mine because they say I’m unprofessional, unreliable, indiscreet and a shit shag

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By *iveshowcouple2Couple over a year ago

Glasgow

Personally we prefer to see and read a persons verifications if we are looking to meet them.

Where they are hidden we get suspicious. For example many "straight" guys hide the verifications they get from meeting tv's.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t share mine but that’s because I personally think it’s my business who I’ve met.

I'm the same. Also it sounds like an end of year school report.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

3 of my verifications are from meets I had off my old profiles and were just socials anyway. The most recent one is cos I don’t want to be reminded of him cos I liked him.

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