I am often rushing about doing various activities in the evenings and at the weekend and I'm often asked why....why can't I just relax?
Well tonight I've had a rare night home and while it's been nice to have some cuddles with my cat I've spent the evening feeling more and more down.
I've ventured on to the dating apps again and have ended up feeling like the most unwanted person ever. I know I'm not beautiful, I know I'm not skinny but I am fun (I know I don't always come across like that on here!), I'm loving, I'm caring, I'm actually very active for a fatty.
I've sat here overthinking every last interaction.
I fucking hate this damn shelf! I sometimes wonder what is so terribly wrong with me.
Not sure why I'm posting this to be honest and I know there will be some smart arse replies but just needed to get it out of my head and not suitable for mainstream social media.
I just thought my life would be so very different than a single 39 year old with a cat.
Maudlin I know, sorry. |
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Well I think you’re lovely.
I’m single too having had my marriage collapse and my boyfriend get cold feet.
I’m sure there’s someone lovely as we are just around the corner xx |
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"Well I think you’re lovely.
I’m single too having had my marriage collapse and my boyfriend get cold feet.
I’m sure there’s someone lovely as we are just around the corner xx"
Awww thank you X
Sorry to hear about your marriage and boyfriend X |
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"Well I think you’re lovely.
I’m single too having had my marriage collapse and my boyfriend get cold feet.
I’m sure there’s someone lovely as we are just around the corner xx
Awww thank you X
Sorry to hear about your marriage and boyfriend X "
Thanks. I’m jumping lots of men to get over it. Doing rather well at finding very fit guys at the moment.
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"You're not alone
I live alone, never married, no kids, no meets, no messages, not even a cat!
Still have a great life though  "
Yeah, I do have a great life and do lots of things but I just get lonely. |
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So rarely get to see the word 'maudlin', it's a pretty word. Never see it in good circumstances, though.
I'm sorry you feel that way today, OP. Dating sites don't really have that option to vent and discuss like you just did... which is why I don't like 'em.
They don't have all these people to cheer you up too.  |
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"I'm 34 and single and too don't like the dating apps where no-one matches... And if they do they don't talk. But I keep plodding on in the hope that things will change someday  "
That's the thing. I bet loads of 'matches' but when I message.....nothing. Makes me wonder if it was their mates taking the piss or some pissed swiping |
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"You're not alone
I live alone, never married, no kids, no meets, no messages, not even a cat!
Still have a great life though
Yeah, I do have a great life and do lots of things but I just get lonely. "
A lot of people live alone these days, I guess it's just about being happy in your own company.
I'm very used to it and enjoy being on my own doing the things I like. |
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I am 40 and not been married. Is it really a big deal these days?
Don’t put yourself under so much pressure. If you find something like online dating apps making you unhappy then don’t put yourself through it.
Learn to enjoy the alone time by changing what you do in it. |
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"I am 40 and not been married. Is it really a big deal these days?
Don’t put yourself under so much pressure. If you find something like online dating apps making you unhappy then don’t put yourself through it.
Learn to enjoy the alone time by changing what you do in it. "
Most of the time I'm fine. Just last night was a tough one for some reason. |
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Marriage is no longer the sine qua non it used to be. A lot of married people want out anyway but find themselves to entangled to actually achieve it.
I'd say find what works for you, travel, get a lot of sex, find a job you enjoy and don't live your life to anyone's expectations (not saying you are).
We are all beautiful in our own ways. |
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"I am 40 and not been married. Is it really a big deal these days?
Don’t put yourself under so much pressure. If you find something like online dating apps making you unhappy then don’t put yourself through it.
Learn to enjoy the alone time by changing what you do in it.
Most of the time I'm fine. Just last night was a tough one for some reason. "
I have low days too. I did a thread on loneliness a few weeks ago and it keeps popping up. If anything it drags me back there.
Hope you’re feeling happier today xxx |
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I spend the majority of nights alone, hell i even spent new years eve home alone, music, quite a few beers and some top food- had a great night
I like my own space, do miss the company and conversation sometimes tho
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"Most of the time I'm fine. Just last night was a tough one for some reason. "
Maybe the thing to remember is the mental health adage - it’s ok to not be ok sometimes.
You’re a good person, hopefully you know that. Even billionaires with a dozen lovers having a party with a hundred people feel low sometimes. It comes, as long as it goes again you’re fine.
If it doesn’t go again, don’t ignore it. Happy to chat |
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"Most of the time I'm fine. Just last night was a tough one for some reason.
Maybe the thing to remember is the mental health adage - it’s ok to not be ok sometimes.
You’re a good person, hopefully you know that. Even billionaires with a dozen lovers having a party with a hundred people feel low sometimes. It comes, as long as it goes again you’re fine.
If it doesn’t go again, don’t ignore it. Happy to chat "
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I think fab can be better than dating sites it's often a much more accepting place as are fab social networking events and clubs.
I love the lifestyle and attitude of people I meet here most of the time that's all I'm seeking as everything else just occurs as it happens over time. |
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