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Can an amputee be sexy..?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi friends and fabsters heres the go...
I've had an ulcer on my left heel for quite sometime, being a type1 diabetic this can be a serious thing. This week I've been told by the Dr I see almost weekly that if I dont respond to these antibiotics now then the amputation of my leg below the knee is inevitable.
Anyone who knows me would tell you I'm not one for self pity or attention seeking, this certainly isn't one of those "look at poor me" threads. However the question remains is my fab life over? Do I cease to become attractive full stop... please no sympathy, I've a sense of humour so be as honest or funny as you like  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi friends and fabsters heres the go...
I've had an ulcer on my left heel for quite sometime, being a type1 diabetic this can be a serious thing. This week I've been told by the Dr I see almost weekly that if I dont respond to these antibiotics now then the amputation of my leg below the knee is inevitable.
Anyone who knows me would tell you I'm not one for self pity or attention seeking, this certainly isn't one of those "look at poor me" threads. However the question remains is my fab life over? Do I cease to become attractive full stop... please no sympathy, I've a sense of humour so be as honest or funny as you like "
Anyone can be sexy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi friends and fabsters heres the go...
I've had an ulcer on my left heel for quite sometime, being a type1 diabetic this can be a serious thing. This week I've been told by the Dr I see almost weekly that if I dont respond to these antibiotics now then the amputation of my leg below the knee is inevitable.
Anyone who knows me would tell you I'm not one for self pity or attention seeking, this certainly isn't one of those "look at poor me" threads. However the question remains is my fab life over? Do I cease to become attractive full stop... please no sympathy, I've a sense of humour so be as honest or funny as you like "
Why would it be? It's your leg not you cock? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi friends and fabsters heres the go...
I've had an ulcer on my left heel for quite sometime, being a type1 diabetic this can be a serious thing. This week I've been told by the Dr I see almost weekly that if I dont respond to these antibiotics now then the amputation of my leg below the knee is inevitable.
Anyone who knows me would tell you I'm not one for self pity or attention seeking, this certainly isn't one of those "look at poor me" threads. However the question remains is my fab life over? Do I cease to become attractive full stop... please no sympathy, I've a sense of humour so be as honest or funny as you like "
Omg yes they are |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Seriously get a second opinion. Google new treatments for diabetic foot ulcers."
I've had this for 2 1/2 years now and I've had pretty much all the NHS can give me treatment wise |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Anyone who judges you on your loss of a limb isn't worth your time to begin with xx but do check out alternative remedies for your ulcer there are some amazing things out there  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Put it this way - anyone that had a problem with it you wouldn't want to meet anyway but for the vast majority people appreciate that others come in all shapes and sizes and with lumps, bumps and yes missing parts - if they find you attractive they'll find you attractive regardless  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Manuka Honey strength 15, rub it on ulcer every day for two weeks and come back and thank me.
Google it in case you doubt me"
I'm afraid the infections in the bone so too late for the honey thing... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You could also come up with a really cool Lieutenant Dan story to woo the ladies with...
Seriously fella, makes no odds."
my father only has 1 eye. he loves spinning tales to kids about being a real pirate |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"PLUS. It would halve the amount you spend on socks.it doesnt work like that 
I think it was said in jest "
Indeed, and a direct response to the OP in inviting humour. |
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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago
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"Manuka Honey strength 15, rub it on ulcer every day for two weeks and come back and thank me.
Google it in case you doubt me
I'm afraid the infections in the bone so too late for the honey thing..."
Gentamicin beads ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"PLUS. It would halve the amount you spend on socks.it doesnt work like that
I think it was said in jest
Indeed, and a direct response to the OP in inviting humour."
And it dies work as the lad said up there only one sock a day fantastic thinking Jennie |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm loving the humour and support by you all thank you...
You can see where my concern is though. I can deal with most of the drama myself though not sure how I'll ride my motorcycle, but its whether I'd still be perceived as sexually attractive... if I ever sas lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"PLUS. It would halve the amount you spend on socks.it doesnt work like that
I think it was said in jest
Indeed, and a direct response to the OP in inviting humour."
haha I know but thinking about it you still buy them in pairs but only wear one at a time essentially halving your sock bill |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a stage 4 cancer survivor so I know already if we can laugh about it then it belittles it. Thanks you lot lol "
Humour is sexy and that can’t be amputated |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a stage 4 cancer survivor so I know already if we can laugh about it then it belittles it. Thanks you lot lol "
I'm sorry about Jamie friend I thought I had got rid of her on a previous thread for men only |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm a stage 4 cancer survivor so I know already if we can laugh about it then it belittles it. Thanks you lot lol
Humour is sexy and that can’t be amputated "
Yes I agree totally, but would girls see that or like my bald head would it put most off.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm a stage 4 cancer survivor so I know already if we can laugh about it then it belittles it. Thanks you lot lol
Humour is sexy and that can’t be amputated
Yes I agree totally, but would girls see that or like my bald head would it put most off.. "
Some women won’t like it. Like some women won’t like bald heads. It’s a very superficial thing to not like about someone.
Would you like a woman who was that shallow? |
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"I'm loving the humour and support by you all thank you...
You can see where my concern is though. I can deal with most of the drama myself though not sure how I'll ride my motorcycle, but its whether I'd still be perceived as sexually attractive... if I ever sas lol "
Brake foot or gear lever?
You can still ride with a few adjustments to the machine - quick shifter for gear side....move the brake to the handle bar.
There’s options fella!
Boom first story even has a truth behind it.... whilst doing a track day you high sided straight into the pace car, ladies love a bike story - you bad bad boy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"True but would the sight simply be just sickening...
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You may find short skirt and stockings are less attractive on you after amputation. But it wont hamper you much once you have relearned balance. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm a stage 4 cancer survivor so I know already if we can laugh about it then it belittles it. Thanks you lot lol
Humour is sexy and that can’t be amputated
Yes I agree totally, but would girls see that or like my bald head would it put most off..
Some women won’t like it. Like some women won’t like bald heads. It’s a very superficial thing to not like about someone.
Would you like a woman who was that shallow? "
No of course not, but I did wonder perhaps if it would be an instant turn off for most. Though I accept there would be quite a few that wouldn't like the idea.. |
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OP someone’s attractiveness isn’t their body it’s them as a person. You have a great soul and keep fighting attitude.
So many individuals have a full life as an amputee. Of course it won’t be for everyone, but that’s normal life, however so many see past the aesthetics and see the person. If they don’t, they aren’t the person for you
Good luck with the treatment, I hope it works for you xx |
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By *estivalMan
over a year ago
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tbh mate the amount of peeps you see about these days with limbs missing its not really anything out the ordinary.my mates neice was born with half an arm and she has no shortage of fellas asking her out and if anyone stares at her arm she waves it in there face and asks if they want a photo |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your fab life is in no way shape or form in danger or coming to an end. We ourselves know and swing on a regular basis with an amputee ourselves, he has lost his leg just below his knee also. Even though he admitted he had confidence problems he's still an active swinger and enjoys his life to the full!
We can't wait to go visit them again, it's not looks that draw you to a person it's personality and weather there is a spark, if he can live life to the full then do can you lovely xxxx
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm loving the humour and support by you all thank you...
You can see where my concern is though. I can deal with most of the drama myself though not sure how I'll ride my motorcycle, but its whether I'd still be perceived as sexually attractive... if I ever sas lol
Brake foot or gear lever?
You can still ride with a few adjustments to the machine - quick shifter for gear side....move the brake to the handle bar.
There’s options fella!
Boom first story even has a truth behind it.... whilst doing a track day you high sided straight into the pace car, ladies love a bike story - you bad bad boy!"
Lol its the gear side buddy |
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Best of luck with however it goes.
I don't watch it much but last episode I saw of Naked Attraction, the rather sexy female doing the choosing actually chose the guy with the below knee amputation.
They got on famously and I think are now a serious couple.
Shouldn't hinder you from genuine people at all, if it goes that way |
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I am sorry to hear you are going through that.
I used to play with a gentleman that wasn't an amputee but was born without a hand. My god when he played with my pussy using his 'stump' I have never squirted so much in my life. All hope is not lost, perhaps you will aquire skills very few people can provide.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You will find that to some women you become more attractive."
But why? Now your not just being nice because I complimented you yesterday are you lol.. |
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By *ercuryMan
over a year ago
Grantham |
I see a woman friend that's gone through the amputation process. The leg had to come off just below the knee as the infection was in and spreading.
She's got a new artificial leg, has learnt to walk again and enjoys a healthy sex life.
Dont look back, just look forward.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm loving the humour and support by you all thank you...
You can see where my concern is though. I can deal with most of the drama myself though not sure how I'll ride my motorcycle, but its whether I'd still be perceived as sexually attractive... if I ever sas lol "
I used to see a guy who lost his arm in a motorcycle crash. He had his bike adapted and still rode every day
If the antibiotics don’t work and you find you have no other choices, look up NABD. Their mission is to keep disabled riders on their bikes. They have a wealth of experience and are a great bunch of people generally. Many of their members have lost a limb and I’m sure they could help you |
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"You will find that to some women you become more attractive.
But why? Now your not just being nice because I complimented you yesterday are you lol.. "
Lol no. I don't do reciprocal complimenting unless I mean it.
To some people a sign of vulnerability physically is extremely attractive. It brings out their carimg, nurturing side. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi friends and fabsters heres the go...
I've had an ulcer on my left heel for quite sometime, being a type1 diabetic this can be a serious thing. This week I've been told by the Dr I see almost weekly that if I dont respond to these antibiotics now then the amputation of my leg below the knee is inevitable.
Anyone who knows me would tell you I'm not one for self pity or attention seeking, this certainly isn't one of those "look at poor me" threads. However the question remains is my fab life over? Do I cease to become attractive full stop... please no sympathy, I've a sense of humour so be as honest or funny as you like "
You are still alive... And also this is when third leg comes into play |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sexy is a state of mind as much as other things.
And the woman off Kingsman is sexy as hell
Have known some people with 'birth defect' who have been very sexy sensual people who if I wasn't taken I'd have loved to chat up. |
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By *outhbucksCouple
over a year ago
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The social stigma (if that is the right word) on amputees have changed dramatically over the last decade or so; I think mainly because of the success of the Paralympics.
You now regularly see prosthetic limbs on open display and frankly, some of them look really cool.
If the worse happens, embrace it, even flaunt it. Those that are worth having in your life will embrace it also.
Adam Hills (comedian) does this and I am sure plenty find him sexy.
On the positive side, you will always get a good frisking at the airport |
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"PLUS. It would halve the amount you spend on socks.it doesnt work like that
I think it was said in jest
Indeed, and a direct response to the OP in inviting humour.haha I know but thinking about it you still buy them in pairs but only wear one at a time essentially halving your sock bill "
Yeah, but you can't go wearing left handed socks on your right foot, it'd make you walk in circles... |
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"PLUS. It would halve the amount you spend on socks.it doesnt work like that
I think it was said in jest
Indeed, and a direct response to the OP in inviting humour.haha I know but thinking about it you still buy them in pairs but only wear one at a time essentially halving your sock bill
Yeah, but you can't go wearing left handed socks on your right foot, it'd make you walk in circles..."
Not if you turn them inside out |
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"PLUS. It would halve the amount you spend on socks.it doesnt work like that
I think it was said in jest
Indeed, and a direct response to the OP in inviting humour.haha I know but thinking about it you still buy them in pairs but only wear one at a time essentially halving your sock bill
Yeah, but you can't go wearing left handed socks on your right foot, it'd make you walk in circles...
Not if you turn them inside out "
No that won't work, because then you'll suffer from anti gravity and be stuck to the ceiling. Did you miss the bit of the physics lesson where they explained that it's all to do with socks? |
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"I'm loving the humour and support by you all thank you...
You can see where my concern is though. I can deal with most of the drama myself though not sure how I'll ride my motorcycle, but its whether I'd still be perceived as sexually attractive... if I ever sas lol "
There are groups out there that can help with that, they converted my friends motorcycle in to a trike and others have all the controls changed to hand control's if they can still handle a bike with a terminator leg |
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"PLUS. It would halve the amount you spend on socks.it doesnt work like that
I think it was said in jest
Indeed, and a direct response to the OP in inviting humour.haha I know but thinking about it you still buy them in pairs but only wear one at a time essentially halving your sock bill
Yeah, but you can't go wearing left handed socks on your right foot, it'd make you walk in circles...
Not if you turn them inside out
No that won't work, because then you'll suffer from anti gravity and be stuck to the ceiling. Did you miss the bit of the physics lesson where they explained that it's all to do with socks?"
I think I was off that week attending a "darn your own socks, save a fortune" course  |
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
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We once played with a guy with one arm... I didnt even notice he only had one arm until he pointed it out to us!! He more than made up for it with the other arm!!
I think it's much more about your personality and charm than looks and appearances. As long as you can win them over people probably wont even realise. I dont think people will view you as a cripple or anything like that. Mind you I've worked in care for a number of years so I never look at people as just a disability.
When I was at university I did a placement with amputees. Many of whom were diabetic. Most had a positive outlook following their surgery and were pleased to simply be alive. Theres many options on prosthetics following surgery, some look very realistic and some opt for the metal version. Whatever you decide further down the line is up to you. A below knee is much quicker recovery time and rehabilitation back to walking than a gritty stokes or an above knee.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'd like to again thank everyone who's posted messages on here. Not even some of my closest friends had I told so I appreciate their comments as it must make them feel awkward.
It's not a certainty as yet but 95% sure it's going to happen.
Over the 2 1/2 years I've had this ulcer it has totally affected my life. At work I'm reduced to working security instead of my usual welding supervisors role, I've not walked much further than a couple of hundred metres in one go, had maggot therapy twice, lost weight through ridiculously long working hours the list goes on lol...
All through this friends will know I've also had to deal with a son who's cocaine addiction has put him in icu on deaths door twice and a separation due to an abusive woman. All this since September.
I've never been one for self pity and the reason why I've asked for humour in this thread is because that's how I deal with things.
If this is to go the way my Dr expects then so be it but it wont have been the first time I've proved them wrong lol.
I'm waffling now which I'm famous for but what I'm trying to say is my fuck 'em attitude has only been strengthened by each and every post on here I've read. One love people... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm loving the humour and support by you all thank you...
You can see where my concern is though. I can deal with most of the drama myself though not sure how I'll ride my motorcycle, but its whether I'd still be perceived as sexually attractive... if I ever sas lol
There are groups out there that can help with that, they converted my friends motorcycle in to a trike and others have all the controls changed to hand control's if they can still handle a bike with a terminator leg "
You’re right NABD are fantastic . I mentioned them in my post. |
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"Hi friends and fabsters heres the go...
I've had an ulcer on my left heel for quite sometime, being a type1 diabetic this can be a serious thing. This week I've been told by the Dr I see almost weekly that if I dont respond to these antibiotics now then the amputation of my leg below the knee is inevitable.
Anyone who knows me would tell you I'm not one for self pity or attention seeking, this certainly isn't one of those "look at poor me" threads. However the question remains is my fab life over? Do I cease to become attractive full stop... please no sympathy, I've a sense of humour so be as honest or funny as you like "
If ppl cannot see you for who YOU are then they seriously need to look at themselves, it's not about looks it's about personality. Because you may lose a limb does not make you any less the person you are with it. I genuinely hope that you don't give up by thinking you look ugly... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fab life defo not over. So many more qualities looked for over physical. Best of luck, hope you respond to the antibiotics and won't need the op. S&L xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As the pirate thing has already been touched upon I direct you to Pete and Dud's brilliant "One Leg Too Few" sketch. And the immortal line "I've got nothing against your right leg.. The trouble is neither have you"
As far as I can see it wouldn't change any of the stuff that makes you as lovely as you are right now so I can't see how you'd be any less attractive  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As the pirate thing has already been touched upon I direct you to Pete and Dud's brilliant "One Leg Too Few" sketch. And the immortal line "I've got nothing against your right leg.. The trouble is neither have you"
As far as I can see it wouldn't change any of the stuff that makes you as lovely as you are right now so I can't see how you'd be any less attractive "
Ahhh Mr Spiggot lol. You gorgeous woman Lola...xx |
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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago
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"I'm loving the humour and support by you all thank you...
You can see where my concern is though. I can deal with most of the drama myself though not sure how I'll ride my motorcycle, but its whether I'd still be perceived as sexually attractive... if I ever sas lol "
just don't tell your prospective shag you're legless - they might get the wrong idea.
Seriously, though, I hope things work well for you.
In the worst case, would you get a prosthetic limb? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As the pirate thing has already been touched upon I direct you to Pete and Dud's brilliant "One Leg Too Few" sketch. And the immortal line "I've got nothing against your right leg.. The trouble is neither have you"
As far as I can see it wouldn't change any of the stuff that makes you as lovely as you are right now so I can't see how you'd be any less attractive
Ahhh Mr Spiggot lol. You gorgeous woman Lola...xx"
. Spigot by name, Spigot by nature  xxx |
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Sorry for your possible bad news - I can’t begin to understand your dilemma xx
I appreciate I’m not to your taste ... not you are mine, but not withstanding that I believe it would make no difference if you were - and would steer clear if it did!
I met a lovely lady last year, who was an amputee, she had lost a leg a few years ago (I didn’t know when we first chatted). She was a gorgeous lady, with an amazing personality and we had a wonderful time, it really made no difference to me. She loved lingerie and stockings - as do I - so even that made no difference!
To me it is the personality and the chemistry that made it for me.
I do hope it turns out for you xxx
Rachel xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi friends and fabsters heres the go...
I've had an ulcer on my left heel for quite sometime, being a type1 diabetic this can be a serious thing. This week I've been told by the Dr I see almost weekly that if I dont respond to these antibiotics now then the amputation of my leg below the knee is inevitable.
Anyone who knows me would tell you I'm not one for self pity or attention seeking, this certainly isn't one of those "look at poor me" threads. However the question remains is my fab life over? Do I cease to become attractive full stop... please no sympathy, I've a sense of humour so be as honest or funny as you like "
Shit man! I hope the anti-biotics do the job.. either way I’m sure you’ll still slay |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Been a couple of weeks since I posted so time for an update.
My antibiotics are working so far and I'm out of immediate danger. Not completely out the woods but getting there.
As usual thanks everyone and it now looks like the upper hand is on the other foot...lol |
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By *agmanMan
over a year ago
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I know i'm late to the party........but.........
What makes me angry are the epeople who haven't even really read your question properly........and then reply with a weird: Definitely! Yes! For sure!!
Hopefully they meant "For sure you'll be fine" - instead of "For sure your sex / swinging life is over". 
In 2017 i had to have that very operation on my left foot due to bone cancer.
Has it affected my 'swinging life'?
If i was completely honest i would have to say yes, slightly.
Definitely less chatters and follow ups once the profile has been looked at.
We used to, as a couple, go to clubs - but for me that's a difficult thing to overcome - the logistics of negotiating a wet area or suchlike on walking sticks might be difficult. We haven't actually ventured into a club since my op.
Is that just my own insecurity? Possibly.
I have however continued with private encounters so it hasn't all been bad - some people can see past it but not all, i'm afraid. All credit to those with a slightly more open mind.
I converted my bike via Kliktronic solenoid and actuator and handlebar pushbutton to change gear for me - works brilliantly! That kit was paid for as a grant via the NABD as mentioned above. You should get in touch with them and talk it through.
The thing is not to think about it too much.......the number of people who tell me they didn't even know i have a prosthetic when we first meet is astonishing actually - i think it jumps out and slaps everybody round the chops - but it doesn't!
As others have said as well - attitudes change, thank god - hopefully you won't meet any negative Nelly's and it'll work out ok.
Take care.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I know i'm late to the party........but.........
What makes me angry are the epeople who haven't even really read your question properly........and then reply with a weird: Definitely! Yes! For sure!!
Hopefully they meant "For sure you'll be fine" - instead of "For sure your sex / swinging life is over".
In 2017 i had to have that very operation on my left foot due to bone cancer.
Has it affected my 'swinging life'?
If i was completely honest i would have to say yes, slightly.
Definitely less chatters and follow ups once the profile has been looked at.
We used to, as a couple, go to clubs - but for me that's a difficult thing to overcome - the logistics of negotiating a wet area or suchlike on walking sticks might be difficult. We haven't actually ventured into a club since my op.
Is that just my own insecurity? Possibly.
I have however continued with private encounters so it hasn't all been bad - some people can see past it but not all, i'm afraid. All credit to those with a slightly more open mind.
I converted my bike via Kliktronic solenoid and actuator and handlebar pushbutton to change gear for me - works brilliantly! That kit was paid for as a grant via the NABD as mentioned above. You should get in touch with them and talk it through.
The thing is not to think about it too much.......the number of people who tell me they didn't even know i have a prosthetic when we first meet is astonishing actually - i think it jumps out and slaps everybody round the chops - but it doesn't!
As others have said as well - attitudes change, thank god - hopefully you won't meet any negative Nelly's and it'll work out ok.
Take care.
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Thank you for typing that, I've never herd the advice of anyone who's had to go through this trauma.
Thankfully my ulcer continued to get better but very slowly. I still have it and until it gets better I still run the risk of an infection that will put me back to square one.
I'm just over 3yrs into it now and had every conceivable treatment from maggot therapy to a pump fitted that was meant to encourage tissue growth from inside, all with varying degrees of success.
Interesting about the bike gear change, I had seen it on youtube and it looked impressive as an option.
Its inspiring to see how you've coped there buddy |
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"You could also come up with a really cool Lieutenant Dan story to woo the ladies with...
Seriously fella, makes no odds."
I love lieutenant Dan! I sooo would! Well...long as he washed his hair.
On a serious note, amputee or not doesn't make any difference to me. |
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