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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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This I know is prob gonna be a touchy subject for some . But can some one please explain to me why men physical and or mentally abuse there partners . Do they think it’s acceptable or ok to do so . What could possibly be going through there head that they do it to begin with . It just baffles me to no end . What are your thoughts |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Oh yes I know it happens both ways . A man should never lay an abusive have on a woman and a women is no better to do the same . But come on like . Are you that much of a prick you feel mighty fro beating what in most cases is a pontently weaker target . |
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It baffles me too. Having said that, I (Luke) was married to a narcissist for 13 years who verbally and emotionally abused me. I thing her abuse was related to abuse she received as a child. She replicated a lot of the behaviour of her mother. I guess she learned that that's the way to treat people. |
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"Abuse isn't gender specific. It's all about control for the abuser x"
This. Anyone that does it is an arsehole. Anyone that manages to escape from it is a hero. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Oh yes I know it happens both ways . A man should never lay an abusive have on a woman and a women is no better to do the same . But come on like . Are you that much of a prick you feel mighty fro beating what in most cases is a pontently weaker target . "
I don't think it's as straight forward as you're trying to make it. |
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"Oh yes I know it happens both ways . A man should never lay an abusive have on a woman and a women is no better to do the same . But come on like . Are you that much of a prick you feel mighty fro beating what in most cases is a pontently weaker target .
I don't think it's as straight forward as you're trying to make it. "
Agreed |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Abuse isn't gender specific. It's all about control for the abuser x
This. Anyone that does it is an arsehole. Anyone that manages to escape from it is a hero. "
but we all hear so many cases the woman or man is afraid to leave . |
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"Abuse isn't gender specific. It's all about control for the abuser x
This. Anyone that does it is an arsehole. Anyone that manages to escape from it is a hero. "
I grew up in an abusive household and then was in an abusive relationship. You'd have thought I'd recognise the signs but it was a long time before I escaped. The physical abuse I got over, the mental abuse is a work in progress to get over x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Abuse isn't gender specific. It's all about control for the abuser x
This. Anyone that does it is an arsehole. Anyone that manages to escape from it is a hero. but we all hear so many cases the woman or man is afraid to leave . "
Absolutely agree 100% that’s why I mean it when somebody finds the courage to leave it behind it takes bottle. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's not just men and its always about control.
Nearly 20 years I was married to n abusive narcissist. It's not easy to get out."
I agree and can understand how difficult it can |
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"Abuse isn't gender specific. It's all about control for the abuser x"
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I agree. I would also add that people don't always realise they've become addicted to control and that it has become unhealthy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The scars from my past are ones that have help structure my belief on how not to treat others, I'm a better person than those who inflicted them because I will never be like them.
Unfortunately, there's people out there that have a warped sense of morality, narcissists who believe they can treat others how they please to inflate thier own sense of importance. I feel for those trapped in such destructive relationships with the abusers.  |
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