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The I fancy/like you conundrum!
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I find that I have friends on here and chat regularly with people who become exactly that, friends. I find that I feel almost embarrassed about fancying people who have become friends, especially when they do not feel the same way.
Am I alone in this, do many of you have friends that you don’t fancy, would you be uncomfortable with a friend that you don’t fancy, fancying you?
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Probably not so much
Friends to me are people you get on with, spend time with
Some can be sexual friends as well, some just platonic friends
If I fancy them but it's not reciprocated doesn't make them less of a friend ... nor it's it awkward ... but we are all different |
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over a year ago
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I don’t find myself being uncomfortable if someone fancies me, and I don’t fancy them. It’s fine, I’m absolutely perfect and a total babe, so who can blame them? However I find it uncomfortable when they know I don’t fancy them, yet they make sexual comments towards me, try in engage me in flirting (that’s more than just flirty banter) etc. I’ve had to explain to a few men before that I’m just not interested, and they understand that - until they’re horny again, and they try it again  I’ve had to block a few men because of this, which sort of sucks as I enjoyed their friendship. But they clearly didn’t value the friendship enough.
Oh and I don’t feel uncomfortable if I fancy someone who doesn’t fancy me - I will just fancy from afar. If we’re friends, that’s all it’ll be. Platonic  |
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"I find that I have friends on here and chat regularly with people who become exactly that, friends. I find that I feel almost embarrassed about fancying people who have become friends, especially when they do not feel the same way.
Am I alone in this, do many of you have friends that you don’t fancy, would you be uncomfortable with a friend that you don’t fancy, fancying you?
So many questions. "
Just accepted that you are friend zoned ....if it it difficult for you to come to terms with that then sometimes it can be better to cease contact.....all down to maturity.....I have a few friend zoned people I talk to....some I keep at arms length if only to not encourage them....others have accepted the friend zoning and conversations move on to other things  |
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"I find that I have friends on here and chat regularly with people who become exactly that, friends. I find that I feel almost embarrassed about fancying people who have become friends, especially when they do not feel the same way.
Am I alone in this, do many of you have friends that you don’t fancy, would you be uncomfortable with a friend that you don’t fancy, fancying you?
So many questions.
Just accepted that you are friend zoned ....if it it difficult for you to come to terms with that then sometimes it can be better to cease contact.....all down to maturity.....I have a few friend zoned people I talk to....some I keep at arms length if only to not encourage them....others have accepted the friend zoning and conversations move on to other things "
The friend zone isn’t a thing. It’s a term used for people who can’t accept platonic relationships, and feel the deserve more |
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"I don’t find myself being uncomfortable if someone fancies me, and I don’t fancy them. It’s fine, I’m absolutely perfect and a total babe, so who can blame them? However I find it uncomfortable when they know I don’t fancy them, yet they make sexual comments towards me, try in engage me in flirting (that’s more than just flirty banter) etc. I’ve had to explain to a few men before that I’m just not interested, and they understand that - until they’re horny again, and they try it again I’ve had to block a few men because of this, which sort of sucks as I enjoyed their friendship. But they clearly didn’t value the friendship enough.
Oh and I don’t feel uncomfortable if I fancy someone who doesn’t fancy me - I will just fancy from afar. If we’re friends, that’s all it’ll be. Platonic "
This makes sense. I’ve found that sometimes I haven’t fabbed a pic as it seems pervy to do that with a friend, yet others I’m fine with.
Go figure eh. |
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Only ever feel uncomfortable if someone I dont fancy but fancies me starts being sexual or flirting. That can be awkward.
If someone I fancy doesn't fancy me then that's my tough luck but I'd never let it affect anything. I value friendships too much. |
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"I don’t find myself being uncomfortable if someone fancies me, and I don’t fancy them. It’s fine, I’m absolutely perfect and a total babe, so who can blame them? However I find it uncomfortable when they know I don’t fancy them, yet they make sexual comments towards me, try in engage me in flirting (that’s more than just flirty banter) etc. I’ve had to explain to a few men before that I’m just not interested, and they understand that - until they’re horny again, and they try it again I’ve had to block a few men because of this, which sort of sucks as I enjoyed their friendship. But they clearly didn’t value the friendship enough.
Oh and I don’t feel uncomfortable if I fancy someone who doesn’t fancy me - I will just fancy from afar. If we’re friends, that’s all it’ll be. Platonic
This makes sense. I’ve found that sometimes I haven’t fabbed a pic as it seems pervy to do that with a friend, yet others I’m fine with.
Go figure eh. "
Fab the pics!!! |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"Only ever feel uncomfortable if someone I dont fancy but fancies me starts being sexual or flirting. That can be awkward.
If someone I fancy doesn't fancy me then that's my tough luck but I'd never let it affect anything. I value friendships too much. "
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"I have plenty of friends that are just platonic.
Some are great friends that I can even flirt with and it makes for a few giggles.
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This for me too. I have lots on here I consider friends. I'll fab their pic if I like it, I'll have the occasional flirt too. Harmless fun imho x |
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"I don’t find myself being uncomfortable if someone fancies me, and I don’t fancy them. It’s fine, I’m absolutely perfect and a total babe, so who can blame them? However I find it uncomfortable when they know I don’t fancy them, yet they make sexual comments towards me, try in engage me in flirting (that’s more than just flirty banter) etc. I’ve had to explain to a few men before that I’m just not interested, and they understand that - until they’re horny again, and they try it again I’ve had to block a few men because of this, which sort of sucks as I enjoyed their friendship. But they clearly didn’t value the friendship enough.
Oh and I don’t feel uncomfortable if I fancy someone who doesn’t fancy me - I will just fancy from afar. If we’re friends, that’s all it’ll be. Platonic "
Ditto. Well said.
I mostly keep a lid on who I fancy, but I don't mind people expressing an interest in me. But there's a line of flirty/sexual talk, when I'm not interested, that goes too far. I'll tell them, and if it persists I'm afraid I have also lost friends over it. |
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