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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Met a married couple last night. Had a good (or so i thought few hours with them) they said they would give me a Verification.
Message from them this morning saying it was fun but not to message again.. lol
Rude or was i that bad..lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why was it rude?"
Well when I left they said they would love to meet up again.. so i assumed it went ok. To get the message saying dont contact again was out the blue and quite abrupt. |
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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago
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"Why was it rude?
Well when I left they said they would love to meet up again.. so i assumed it went ok. To get the message saying dont contact again was out the blue and quite abrupt."
I'll ask again seeing as you have ignored my post 
Have they blocked you ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why was it rude?
Well when I left they said they would love to meet up again.. so i assumed it went ok. To get the message saying dont contact again was out the blue and quite abrupt.
I'll ask again seeing as you have ignored my post
Have they blocked you ?"
Didn't ignore you. I was in process of answering..
They have now blocked me both on here and Whatsapp. |
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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago
Biddulph |
"Why was it rude?
Well when I left they said they would love to meet up again.. so i assumed it went ok. To get the message saying dont contact again was out the blue and quite abrupt.
I'll ask again seeing as you have ignored my post
Have they blocked you ?
Didn't ignore you. I was in process of answering..
They have now blocked me both on here and Whatsapp."
Oh heck. I can't offer the advice that first popped in my head then  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sitting on the fence, at least they messaged you...? Not sure whether you want to think of it that way but at least you know   "
Hadn't thought of it like that. Better to be told i guess than find out i am blocked.. still shame. It was fun |
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"It's not just you, we have one veri out of 5 meets from here, we must've been really dire,so don't blame yourself."
Happened to me too on a few occasions.
Personally I think it's a bit out of order as veris ain't sex review but confirmation of Your Identity, You are who You say You are and even if expectations ain't met verification (specially promised) is just a formality rather than personalised opinion. missing on that is just confirming You haven't met the right people. I wouldn't worry too much. Patience is a vertue  |
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"Met a married couple last night. Had a good (or so i thought few hours with them) they said they would give me a Verification.
Message from them this morning saying it was fun but not to message again.. lol
Rude or was i that bad..lol "
Wow that is not a nice thing to do. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I think you need to try and separate the two things in your head - they may yet still verify you, even though they don't want to meet again (although I wouldn't hold your breath).
You'll probably never know the reason but it doesn't necessarily have to be about you - as someone said earlier, perhaps they found this life wasn't for them, perhaps on reflection you weren't quite what they were looking for, perhaps any number of other things.
I'd also not take too much from them saying in person they wanted to see you again and then changing that - it can be awkward to say something to someones face, especially after just being intimate with them.
Try and take the positive from it that you had a great experience and were lucky enough to meet them in the first place and not dwell on the whys and wherefore. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why was it rude?
Well when I left they said they would love to meet up again.. so i assumed it went ok. To get the message saying dont contact again was out the blue and quite abrupt.
I'll ask again seeing as you have ignored my post
Have they blocked you ?
Didn't ignore you. I was in process of answering..
They have now blocked me both on here and Whatsapp."
Obviously didn't go as well as you thought,or as well as they first said.
People are allowed a change of heart,maybe they didn't have the nerve to say it was a crap meet,or perhaps as someone else said,swinging just isn't for them(maybe one partner more keen than the other)
No matter what the reason,you must respect their decision,no matter how much you dislike it.
You will have meets with others and hopefully a more positive result for everyone involved |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Did you meet them for a social before the actual meet itself to discuss boundaries and see the lay of the land between the 3 of you? "
Met once for drink and then we met at.pub before we moved back to theirs. X everything was discuswed and all seemed well. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why was it rude?
Well when I left they said they would love to meet up again.. so i assumed it went ok. To get the message saying dont contact again was out the blue and quite abrupt.
I'll ask again seeing as you have ignored my post
Have they blocked you ?
Didn't ignore you. I was in process of answering..
They have now blocked me both on here and Whatsapp.
Obviously didn't go as well as you thought,or as well as they first said.
People are allowed a change of heart,maybe they didn't have the nerve to say it was a crap meet,or perhaps as someone else said,swinging just isn't for them(maybe one partner more keen than the other)
No matter what the reason,you must respect their decision,no matter how much you dislike it.
You will have meets with others and hopefully a more positive result for everyone involved "
I respect decision but just thought it weird. X |
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"Met a married couple last night. Had a good (or so i thought few hours with them) they said they would give me a Verification.
Message from them this morning saying it was fun but not to message again.. lol
Rude or was i that bad..lol "
Ha ha ha ha
Suck it up buttercup..... |
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By *ustme1820Woman
over a year ago
Southcoast Gosport |
"Why was it rude?
Well when I left they said they would love to meet up again.. so i assumed it went ok. To get the message saying dont contact again was out the blue and quite abrupt.
I'll ask again seeing as you have ignored my post
Have they blocked you ?
Didn't ignore you. I was in process of answering..
They have now blocked me both on here and Whatsapp.
Obviously didn't go as well as you thought,or as well as they first said.
People are allowed a change of heart,maybe they didn't have the nerve to say it was a crap meet,or perhaps as someone else said,swinging just isn't for them(maybe one partner more keen than the other)
No matter what the reason,you must respect their decision,no matter how much you dislike it.
You will have meets with others and hopefully a more positive result for everyone involved
I respect decision but just thought it weird. X"
it’s not weird, it’s very simple, they didn’t want to see you again, chalk it up and move on op. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Did you meet them for a social before the actual meet itself to discuss boundaries and see the lay of the land between the 3 of you?
Met once for drink and then we met at.pub before we moved back to theirs. X everything was discuswed and all seemed well."
Husband felt threatened by you maybe or might have just been incompatible. It would have been helpful for some feedback rather than just block, especially after fucking you. Some people aren't like that though. Their prerogative I guess. Better luck next time OP  |
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"I think you need to try and separate the two things in your head - they may yet still verify you, even though they don't want to meet again (although I wouldn't hold your breath).
You'll probably never know the reason but it doesn't necessarily have to be about you - as someone said earlier, perhaps they found this life wasn't for them, perhaps on reflection you weren't quite what they were looking for, perhaps any number of other things.
I'd also not take too much from them saying in person they wanted to see you again and then changing that - it can be awkward to say something to someones face, especially after just being intimate with them.
Try and take the positive from it that you had a great experience and were lucky enough to meet them in the first place and not dwell on the whys and wherefore."
Absolutely this  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Its amazing how many times unverified men have met someone and still cant get verification
Was thinking the same thing; so unlucky particularly when only on the site one week. "
I had been on site previously about 6 to 8 months ago.. and had verifications then. So whether i get in 1 week or 10 |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
Whitley Bay |
"Cheers everyone. Was a bit dispondant this morning. But back in the saddle so they say."
I can totally understand why you would feel a bit despondent. But everything Gemini Man has said, I would say to you too.
You can't possibly know the exact reasons so try not to guess and dwell .. it's natural to wonder. Oh well, pack the good bits in your experience bag.
X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Cheers everyone. Was a bit dispondant this morning. But back in the saddle so they say.
I can totally understand why you would feel a bit despondent. But everything Gemini Man has said, I would say to you too.
You can't possibly know the exact reasons so try not to guess and dwell .. it's natural to wonder. Oh well, pack the good bits in your experience bag.
X "
This is have done xx thanks for kind words |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Why was it rude?
Well when I left they said they would love to meet up again.. so i assumed it went ok. To get the message saying dont contact again was out the blue and quite abrupt.
I'll ask again seeing as you have ignored my post
Have they blocked you ?
Didn't ignore you. I was in process of answering..
They have now blocked me both on here and Whatsapp.
Obviously didn't go as well as you thought,or as well as they first said.
People are allowed a change of heart,maybe they didn't have the nerve to say it was a crap meet,or perhaps as someone else said,swinging just isn't for them(maybe one partner more keen than the other)
No matter what the reason,you must respect their decision,no matter how much you dislike it.
You will have meets with others and hopefully a more positive result for everyone involved "
I agree.
I've found in the past that it can take a little time to process and think how a meet went, with a couple the dynamic can be complex and on reflection, they decided not to see you again for whatever reason.
I understand that you will feel a bit put out, as your assessment and their initial reaction was favourable. It happens. I always give people a couple of days to digest, assess and with couples; discuss.
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