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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's just another person, whome you hope likes you and will have sex with you. What's to be nervous about? Just let the nerves keep you on your toes and know that after a little while you'll settle |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's just another person, whome you hope likes you and will have sex with you. What's to be nervous about? Just let the nerves keep you on your toes and know that after a little while you'll settle "
Wish it were that easy. |
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over a year ago
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"It's just another person, whome you hope likes you and will have sex with you. What's to be nervous about? Just let the nerves keep you on your toes and know that after a little while you'll settle "
This exactly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's just another person, whome you hope likes you and will have sex with you. What's to be nervous about? Just let the nerves keep you on your toes and know that after a little while you'll settle
Wish it were that easy."
I still get nerves, use them to your advantage. Embrace them and let the other person know. |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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Dance around like a cat on a hot tin roof.
Send them a message saying 'eeeek I'm nervous'. A sweet response can help.
Laugh at myself, stay light with it all, it's part of the excitement.
Trust the situation will unfold in the way it's supposed to ie I try not to attach to a particular outcome.
If I'm really freaking out I'll speak to my bf who is also my safety buddy x
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I try and reframe it and see it as natural adrenaline which is good. If I didn't feel that way, there'd be little to no point in meeting them.
Generally I talk to a couple of good friends who remind me of my worth and that goes some way to alleviating the "oh fuck" feeling. And remembering that it's fun and how much I enjoy meeting others. Sometimes hearing that the other person is excited/nervous helps as well. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's just another person, whome you hope likes you and will have sex with you. What's to be nervous about? Just let the nerves keep you on your toes and know that after a little while you'll settle
Wish it were that easy.
I still get nerves, use them to your advantage. Embrace them and let the other person know. "
Are women not meant to be confident? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m always nervous regardless if I’ve met them before. But it’s all part of the excitement and when I see them I smile and try to relax "
I don't mind the nerves from second and third meets. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I see nerves as a good thing, to me it shows that their opinion matters and I care about the outcome. If I didn't get a nervous reaction to meeting them, I probably wouldn't meet them. "
True |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's those pre meet nerves that I enjoy; sometimes I'm shaking all over but deep down I know that the moment I see them all my nerves just go and I get on and enjoy the meet."
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"I’m always nervous regardless if I’ve met them before. But it’s all part of the excitement and when I see them I smile and try to relax
I don't mind the nerves from second and third meets."
If they are lucky to get that far, lucky them |
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"It's just another person, whome you hope likes you and will have sex with you. What's to be nervous about? Just let the nerves keep you on your toes and know that after a little while you'll settle
Wish it were that easy.
I still get nerves, use them to your advantage. Embrace them and let the other person know.
Are women not meant to be confident?"
If you are, yes! Besides, confident women still get nerves!
I remind myself that nervous and excited are the exact same physiological response--then try to convince myself I'm just excited. |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"It's just another person, whome you hope likes you and will have sex with you. What's to be nervous about? Just let the nerves keep you on your toes and know that after a little while you'll settle
Wish it were that easy.
I still get nerves, use them to your advantage. Embrace them and let the other person know.
Are women not meant to be confident?
If you are, yes! Besides, confident women still get nerves!
I remind myself that nervous and excited are the exact same physiological response--then try to convince myself I'm just excited."
You seemed very excited when we met.... All those years ago. Lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's just another person, whome you hope likes you and will have sex with you. What's to be nervous about? Just let the nerves keep you on your toes and know that after a little while you'll settle
Wish it were that easy.
I still get nerves, use them to your advantage. Embrace them and let the other person know.
Are women not meant to be confident?
If you are, yes! Besides, confident women still get nerves!
I remind myself that nervous and excited are the exact same physiological response--then try to convince myself I'm just excited."
Good point |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's just another person, whome you hope likes you and will have sex with you. What's to be nervous about? Just let the nerves keep you on your toes and know that after a little while you'll settle
Wish it were that easy.
I still get nerves, use them to your advantage. Embrace them and let the other person know.
Are women not meant to be confident?
If you are, yes! Besides, confident women still get nerves!
I remind myself that nervous and excited are the exact same physiological response--then try to convince myself I'm just excited.
You seemed very excited when we met.... All those years ago. Lol"
Hope it was fun. |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"It's just another person, whome you hope likes you and will have sex with you. What's to be nervous about? Just let the nerves keep you on your toes and know that after a little while you'll settle
Wish it were that easy.
I still get nerves, use them to your advantage. Embrace them and let the other person know.
Are women not meant to be confident?
If you are, yes! Besides, confident women still get nerves!
I remind myself that nervous and excited are the exact same physiological response--then try to convince myself I'm just excited.
You seemed very excited when we met.... All those years ago. Lol
Hope it was fun."
We are still friends now. Must be my charm and wit she likes. Lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's just another person, whome you hope likes you and will have sex with you. What's to be nervous about? Just let the nerves keep you on your toes and know that after a little while you'll settle
Wish it were that easy.
I still get nerves, use them to your advantage. Embrace them and let the other person know.
Are women not meant to be confident?
If you are, yes! Besides, confident women still get nerves!
I remind myself that nervous and excited are the exact same physiological response--then try to convince myself I'm just excited.
You seemed very excited when we met.... All those years ago. Lol
Hope it was fun.
We are still friends now. Must be my charm and wit she likes. Lol"
Charming is always good. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I try and reframe it and see it as natural adrenaline which is good. If I didn't feel that way, there'd be little to no point in meeting them.
Generally I talk to a couple of good friends who remind me of my worth and that goes some way to alleviating the "oh fuck" feeling. And remembering that it's fun and how much I enjoy meeting others. Sometimes hearing that the other person is excited/nervous helps as well."
So very true. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love those first meet nerves, the butterflies in the stomach the heart pumping, it's mostly adrenaline and perfectly normal, I would say everyone gets them. Just enjoy the excitement and expectation of it all. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I love those first meet nerves, the butterflies in the stomach the heart pumping, it's mostly adrenaline and perfectly normal, I would say everyone gets them. Just enjoy the excitement and expectation of it all."
Tingles in the clit. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just chatting first to break the ice and an understanding that you done need to go beyond that if not comfortable. "
Its getting others to understand that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’m always nervous regardless if I’ve met them before. But it’s all part of the excitement and when I see them I smile and try to relax "
A smile always helps. |
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"How do you calm yours?"
Learn to thrive off them.
I often get my man to set secret meets so I don't over stress.
I'm very honest about my nervous, but I also like them.
What the point of doing things if you don't get a buzz?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How do you calm yours?
Learn to thrive off them.
I often get my man to set secret meets so I don't over stress.
I'm very honest about my nervous, but I also like them.
What the point of doing things if you don't get a buzz??"
True. |
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We get very nervous on a meet. It feels like being on blind date or a job interview hoping you get the job lol. Even tho you have been chatting a while. Once the conversation starts to flow the nerves soon go. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We get very nervous on a meet. It feels like being on blind date or a job interview hoping you get the job lol. Even tho you have been chatting a while. Once the conversation starts to flow the nerves soon go."
I get so bad I sometimes have the shakes |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"We get very nervous on a meet. It feels like being on blind date or a job interview hoping you get the job lol. Even tho you have been chatting a while. Once the conversation starts to flow the nerves soon go.
I get so bad I sometimes have the shakes "
. If I saw you like that I'd just give you a big hug.
Hugs can heal anything. |
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"We get very nervous on a meet. It feels like being on blind date or a job interview hoping you get the job lol. Even tho you have been chatting a while. Once the conversation starts to flow the nerves soon go.
I get so bad I sometimes have the shakes
. If I saw you like that I'd just give you a big hug.
Hugs can heal anything. "
Aww bless you. I totally agree a hug heels everything, I tend to give a kiss on the cheek and a hug say nice to meet you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We get very nervous on a meet. It feels like being on blind date or a job interview hoping you get the job lol. Even tho you have been chatting a while. Once the conversation starts to flow the nerves soon go.
I get so bad I sometimes have the shakes
. If I saw you like that I'd just give you a big hug.
Hugs can heal anything. "
That they can. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Every meet is like first meet nerves.. And Usually starts with, is she going turn up? Is she going to turn out to be a he? "
I guess guys get a lot of no shows |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Every meet is like first meet nerves.. And Usually starts with, is she going turn up? Is she going to turn out to be a he?
I guess guys get a lot of no shows"
Hope 2020 changes that for me.. so frustrating |
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By *hav02Man
over a year ago
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"Every meet is like first meet nerves.. And Usually starts with, is she going turn up? Is she going to turn out to be a he?
I guess guys get a lot of no shows"
Yea, but what are my chances if I made another trip to Dublin to try the local kandi |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Every meet is like first meet nerves.. And Usually starts with, is she going turn up? Is she going to turn out to be a he?
I guess guys get a lot of no shows
Hope 2020 changes that for me.. so frustrating "
It has to be hard (no pun intended) for guys on here. Theres so many guys compared to women. It takes a lot for a guy to stand out when a female is getting tons of messages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Every meet is like first meet nerves.. And Usually starts with, is she going turn up? Is she going to turn out to be a he?
I guess guys get a lot of no shows
Hope 2020 changes that for me.. so frustrating
It has to be hard (no pun intended) for guys on here. Theres so many guys compared to women. It takes a lot for a guy to stand out when a female is getting tons of messages."
Note to self.. sort profile out x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Every meet is like first meet nerves.. And Usually starts with, is she going turn up? Is she going to turn out to be a he?
I guess guys get a lot of no shows
Hope 2020 changes that for me.. so frustrating
It has to be hard (no pun intended) for guys on here. Theres so many guys compared to women. It takes a lot for a guy to stand out when a female is getting tons of messages.
Note to self.. sort profile out x"
Yah that would be a help. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t meet anymore but when I was meeting new people it used to be part of the experience - I used to see it as a challenge to get the nerves under control and appear perfectly relaxed and confident when really you wanted to run bit like a job interview |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Every meet is like first meet nerves.. And Usually starts with, is she going turn up? Is she going to turn out to be a he?
I guess guys get a lot of no shows
Hope 2020 changes that for me.. so frustrating
It has to be hard (no pun intended) for guys on here. Theres so many guys compared to women. It takes a lot for a guy to stand out when a female is getting tons of messages.
Note to self.. sort profile out x
Yah that would be a help."
Best get to work x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Every meet is like first meet nerves.. And Usually starts with, is she going turn up? Is she going to turn out to be a he?
I guess guys get a lot of no shows
Hope 2020 changes that for me.. so frustrating
It has to be hard (no pun intended) for guys on here. Theres so many guys compared to women. It takes a lot for a guy to stand out when a female is getting tons of messages.
Note to self.. sort profile out x
Yah that would be a help.
Best get to work x"
You've hidden the profile now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Every meet is like first meet nerves.. And Usually starts with, is she going turn up? Is she going to turn out to be a he?
I guess guys get a lot of no shows
Hope 2020 changes that for me.. so frustrating
It has to be hard (no pun intended) for guys on here. Theres so many guys compared to women. It takes a lot for a guy to stand out when a female is getting tons of messages.
Note to self.. sort profile out x
Yah that would be a help.
Best get to work x
You've hidden the profile now."
Was an improvement i think - lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Every meet is like first meet nerves.. And Usually starts with, is she going turn up? Is she going to turn out to be a he?
I guess guys get a lot of no shows
Hope 2020 changes that for me.. so frustrating
It has to be hard (no pun intended) for guys on here. Theres so many guys compared to women. It takes a lot for a guy to stand out when a female is getting tons of messages.
Note to self.. sort profile out x
Yah that would be a help.
Best get to work x
You've hidden the profile now.
Was an improvement i think - lol"
Be nice |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Every meet is like first meet nerves.. And Usually starts with, is she going turn up? Is she going to turn out to be a he?
I guess guys get a lot of no shows
Hope 2020 changes that for me.. so frustrating
It has to be hard (no pun intended) for guys on here. Theres so many guys compared to women. It takes a lot for a guy to stand out when a female is getting tons of messages.
Note to self.. sort profile out x
Yah that would be a help.
Best get to work x
You've hidden the profile now.
Was an improvement i think - lol
Be nice "
I’ve got my ink and quill put as we speak x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I try and reframe it and see it as natural adrenaline which is good. If I didn't feel that way, there'd be little to no point in meeting them.
Generally I talk to a couple of good friends who remind me of my worth and that goes some way to alleviating the "oh fuck" feeling. And remembering that it's fun and how much I enjoy meeting others. Sometimes hearing that the other person is excited/nervous helps as well."
Sort of this. I’m not a naturally confident person but I get a buzz from the nerves. Same way I get nervous before I take part in a sporting event or things like that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Every meet is like first meet nerves.. And Usually starts with, is she going turn up? Is she going to turn out to be a he?
I guess guys get a lot of no shows
Hope 2020 changes that for me.. so frustrating
It has to be hard (no pun intended) for guys on here. Theres so many guys compared to women. It takes a lot for a guy to stand out when a female is getting tons of messages.
Note to self.. sort profile out x
Yah that would be a help.
Best get to work x
You've hidden the profile now.
Was an improvement i think - lol
Be nice
I’ve got my ink and quill put as we speak x"
Glad to here it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Think it’s a lot easier if your a cple as you have someone to help ease your nerves...Don’t think I could
Cope with my nerves without my husband xx"
Must be hard for a female to meet a couple on her own. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Think it’s a lot easier if your a cple as you have someone to help ease your nerves...Don’t think I could
Cope with my nerves without my husband xx"
Never thought of it that way. |
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"It's just another person, whome you hope likes you and will have sex with you. What's to be nervous about? Just let the nerves keep you on your toes and know that after a little while you'll settle
Wish it were that easy.
I still get nerves, use them to your advantage. Embrace them and let the other person know.
Are women not meant to be confident?
If you are, yes! Besides, confident women still get nerves!
I remind myself that nervous and excited are the exact same physiological response--then try to convince myself I'm just excited.
You seemed very excited when we met.... All those years ago. Lol"
I'm always excited. It's in my jeans. |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"It's just another person, whome you hope likes you and will have sex with you. What's to be nervous about? Just let the nerves keep you on your toes and know that after a little while you'll settle
Wish it were that easy.
I still get nerves, use them to your advantage. Embrace them and let the other person know.
Are women not meant to be confident?
If you are, yes! Besides, confident women still get nerves!
I remind myself that nervous and excited are the exact same physiological response--then try to convince myself I'm just excited.
You seemed very excited when we met.... All those years ago. Lol
I'm always excited. It's in my jeans. "
And o thought you'd peed your pants. |
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I wouldn't say i get nerves, I'm just me, same guy in person as in the message exchange. If they like me in my messages then it's only the look from photo to the in person look and I'm always well presented.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont really get nervous. They like me or they don't, I like them or I don't...
I'm often curious if they are like how I imagine. I'm usually very wrong though! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's just another person, whome you hope likes you and will have sex with you. What's to be nervous about? Just let the nerves keep you on your toes and know that after a little while you'll settle
Wish it were that easy.
I still get nerves, use them to your advantage. Embrace them and let the other person know.
Are women not meant to be confident?
If you are, yes! Besides, confident women still get nerves!
I remind myself that nervous and excited are the exact same physiological response--then try to convince myself I'm just excited.
You seemed very excited when we met.... All those years ago. Lol
I'm always excited. It's in my jeans. "
What's in your jeans? |
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