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By *hunky Gent OP Man
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
There's a few of these threads so I thought I'd throw in a light hearted one.
Ive chatted to a few ladies who say they're looks are only average, or a 'plain Jane' or words to that effect.
When they are absolutely stunning.
Come on ladies, we love that fact that you're fantastic.
Accept your inner and outer beauty.
Big hugs. Chunky xx
Your turn guys.....
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"Not all guys say nice things to get into women's knickers, some of us actually mean it when we give compliments. 
The getting into their knickers is the bonus 
I doubt many will fit me.  "
1 pair on each leg?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe it's how they perceive themselves, we rarely see ourselves as others do.
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All we ask is that a compliment is accepted when we give them. "
I'm no good at receiving compliments  |
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By *hunky Gent OP Man
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"Maybe it's how they perceive themselves, we rarely see ourselves as others do.
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All we ask is that a compliment is accepted when we give them.
I'm no good at receiving compliments "
I know, but I try. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m rubbish at accepting compliments, I tend to deflect them because I feel so awkward. Lack of self esteem has a lot to with it
Surely someone being nice to you is a good thing?? "
Oh absolutely! |
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"I’m rubbish at accepting compliments, I tend to deflect them because I feel so awkward. Lack of self esteem has a lot to with it
Surely someone being nice to you is a good thing?? "
It's complicated  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe it's how they perceive themselves, we rarely see ourselves as others do.
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All we ask is that a compliment is accepted when we give them.
I'm no good at receiving compliments "
You must be used to it tho as you are stunning  |
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By *hunky Gent OP Man
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"I’m rubbish at accepting compliments, I tend to deflect them because I feel so awkward. Lack of self esteem has a lot to with it
Surely someone being nice to you is a good thing??
It's complicated "
Maybe I'm just a simple guy? |
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"I’m rubbish at accepting compliments, I tend to deflect them because I feel so awkward. Lack of self esteem has a lot to with it
Surely someone being nice to you is a good thing??
Women are complicated "
FTFY |
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"I’m rubbish at accepting compliments, I tend to deflect them because I feel so awkward. Lack of self esteem has a lot to with it "
I'm exactly the same, to the point people feel hurt that I don't accept them. I tend not to deflect them now but say thank you and presume they're just being nice |
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"I’m rubbish at accepting compliments, I tend to deflect them because I feel so awkward. Lack of self esteem has a lot to with it
Surely someone being nice to you is a good thing??
It's complicated "
This! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m rubbish at accepting compliments, I tend to deflect them because I feel so awkward. Lack of self esteem has a lot to with it
Surely someone being nice to you is a good thing??
It's complicated
Maybe I'm just a simple guy?"
Doesn’t mean that they’re simple  |
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It's normal for somebody to see themselves differently to how others see them. Often women think of themselves or aspects of themselves as deeply unattractive and think that men would have to same opinion of them. That is very often a false belief. |
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I don't lie.
I'm fairly realistic about how I look etc. However on fab at least the more "modest" a woman is the better many men seem to like it.
If a woman starts a thread saying she feels ugly 174 men will dash in telling her she's gorgeous.
A woman starts a thread saying she feels gorgeous 174 men will dash in saying she's ugly on the inside.
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Maybe it's how they perceive themselves, we rarely see ourselves as others do. "
Yep. I have a particular image of myself in my head and if someone says otherwise I do stop and question it. I'm learning to get better at accepting them though. I appreciate the less generic, more tailored to me compliments. If they come from someone who doesn't dole them out frequently I'm more likely to believe them as well. |
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"I don't lie.
I'm fairly realistic about how I look etc. However on fab at least the more "modest" a woman is the better many men seem to like it.
If a woman starts a thread saying she feels ugly 174 men will dash in telling her she's gorgeous.
A woman starts a thread saying she feels gorgeous 174 men will dash in saying she's ugly on the inside.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Morning CG. I like to compliment ladies but never in a false way.
I do get the impression though that they've herd it all before which in fairness they have lol
Perhaps a new approach is required...
The new complement is not to compliment at all..?  |
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"Morning CG. I like to compliment ladies but never in a false way.
I do get the impression though that they've herd it all before which in fairness they have lol
Perhaps a new approach is required...
The new complement is not to compliment at all..? "
what
Is an "approach" required at all? Genuine compliments are appreciated from either sex but a compliment designed to achieve something not so much. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Morning CG. I like to compliment ladies but never in a false way.
I do get the impression though that they've herd it all before which in fairness they have lol
Perhaps a new approach is required...
The new complement is not to compliment at all..? what
Is an "approach" required at all? Genuine compliments are appreciated from either sex but a compliment designed to achieve something not so much."
Please dont take my comment as literal |
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I think it's two fold. Allowing people to believe in themselves, not as a competition. And examining how we as a culture expect people to feel about themselves. At the moment I think modesty through self deprecation is valued, and some people think that those who think less of themselves are more able to be manipulated (either to buy shit or fuck them or god knows) |
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"Morning CG. I like to compliment ladies but never in a false way.
I do get the impression though that they've herd it all before which in fairness they have lol
Perhaps a new approach is required...
The new complement is not to compliment at all..? what
Is an "approach" required at all? Genuine compliments are appreciated from either sex but a compliment designed to achieve something not so much.
Please dont take my comment as literal "
I
It was tongue in cheek? |
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"I think it's two fold. Allowing people to believe in themselves, not as a competition. And examining how we as a culture expect people to feel about themselves. At the moment I think modesty through self deprecation is valued, and some people think that those who think less of themselves are more able to be manipulated (either to buy shit or fuck them or god knows)"
I agree. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Morning CG. I like to compliment ladies but never in a false way.
I do get the impression though that they've herd it all before which in fairness they have lol
Perhaps a new approach is required...
The new complement is not to compliment at all..? what
Is an "approach" required at all? Genuine compliments are appreciated from either sex but a compliment designed to achieve something not so much.
Please dont take my comment as literal I
It was tongue in cheek?"
And what lovely cheeks you have, so sexy are they that ... oops |
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By *hunky Gent OP Man
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
Well. I will continue the fight to make this place a brighter one.
Even if my compliments and charm hirmts a brick wall - I'll endeavour to break through it.
Even when I have no ulterior motives.
Who's with me????
(Jerry Maguire moment) |
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By *uke OzadeMan
over a year ago
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"Well. I will continue the fight to make this place a brighter one.
Even if my compliments and charm hirmts a brick wall - I'll endeavour to break through it.
Even when I have no ulterior motives.
Who's with me????
(Jerry Maguire moment) "
Yeah, let’s do it Chunks. Nothing wrong with being nice to people whatsoever and you never know, it could make someone’s day |
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"Morning CG. I like to compliment ladies but never in a false way.
I do get the impression though that they've herd it all before which in fairness they have lol
Perhaps a new approach is required...
The new complement is not to compliment at all..? what
Is an "approach" required at all? Genuine compliments are appreciated from either sex but a compliment designed to achieve something not so much.
Please dont take my comment as literal I
It was tongue in cheek?
And what lovely cheeks you have, so sexy are they that ... oops "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well. I will continue the fight to make this place a brighter one.
Even if my compliments and charm hirmts a brick wall - I'll endeavour to break through it.
Even when I have no ulterior motives.
Who's with me????
(Jerry Maguire moment) "
I follow you my liege on this our quest for genuine complimentary acceptance... |
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"Maybe because they actually do just see themselves as being average/ ordinary
Then we shall only portray how we see you and your beauty. X"
It's hard to know whose view you can trust. Or who will knock it over. |
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By *hunky Gent OP Man
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"Maybe because they actually do just see themselves as being average/ ordinary
Then we shall only portray how we see you and your beauty. X
It's hard to know whose view you can trust. Or who will knock it over. "
Have I ever let you down??
If you trust me then great, if not then I shall continue until I've built that trust. X |
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"Maybe because they actually do just see themselves as being average/ ordinary
Then we shall only portray how we see you and your beauty. X
It's hard to know whose view you can trust. Or who will knock it over.
Have I ever let you down??
If you trust me then great, if not then I shall continue until I've built that trust. X"
I mean in general  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well. I will continue the fight to make this place a brighter one.
Even if my compliments and charm hirmts a brick wall - I'll endeavour to break through it.
Even when I have no ulterior motives.
Who's with me????
(Jerry Maguire moment) "
Yep, I am with you. But I dont want to wear womens knickers, they never feel comfy |
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By *hunky Gent OP Man
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"Well. I will continue the fight to make this place a brighter one.
Even if my compliments and charm hirmts a brick wall - I'll endeavour to break through it.
Even when I have no ulterior motives.
Who's with me????
(Jerry Maguire moment)
Yep, I am with you. But I dont want to wear womens knickers, they never feel comfy "
Tbh. I'd rather a woman not wear them, but that's for another thread. |
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"There's a few of these threads so I thought I'd throw in a light hearted one.
Ive chatted to a few ladies who say they're looks are only average, or a 'plain Jane' or words to that effect.
When they are absolutely stunning.
Come on ladies, we love that fact that you're fantastic.
Accept your inner and outer beauty.
Big hugs. Chunky xx
Your turn guys.....
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To get something
To avoid something
Because they are human... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe it's how they perceive themselves, we rarely see ourselves as others do.
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All we ask is that a compliment is accepted when we give them. "
But the Internet has made us cynical.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well. I will continue the fight to make this place a brighter one.
Even if my compliments and charm hirmts a brick wall - I'll endeavour to break through it.
Even when I have no ulterior motives.
Who's with me????
(Jerry Maguire moment)
Yep, I am with you. But I dont want to wear womens knickers, they never feel comfy
Tbh. I'd rather a woman not wear them, but that's for another thread. "
Along the lines of trees falling and no bugger listening.
If women didn't wear women's knickers would they still be womens knickers?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I actually really don't rate myself at all and dont have an ego either. I think I'm quite plain and average especially in the face and I feel that's just me being realistic.
Hard to accept compliments don't know why. Just feel awkward. A lot of guys will compliment in order to get somewhere and with that in mind it's not easy to accept that are actually being truthful.
When it comes to the genuine one's like you CG it helps a lot. So a thank you from me.
Most of the time we just think guys are saying it and it's not necessarily true. |
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"There's a few of these threads so I thought I'd throw in a light hearted one.
Ive chatted to a few ladies who say they're looks are only average, or a 'plain Jane' or words to that effect.
When they are absolutely stunning.
Come on ladies, we love that fact that you're fantastic.
Accept your inner and outer beauty.
Big hugs. Chunky xx
Your turn guys.....
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Unfortunately some of us have had stuff happen to us in the past that makes us feel that we are pain jane's/average. Personally I feel that I'm a plain Jane due to the majority of my adult life (until I met Ray) my mother and past partners have put me down telling me I'm fat, saying that I used to be pretty once etc. If you are told something often enough you believe it.
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By *hunky Gent OP Man
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"I actually really don't rate myself at all and dont have an ego either. I think I'm quite plain and average especially in the face and I feel that's just me being realistic.
Hard to accept compliments don't know why. Just feel awkward. A lot of guys will compliment in order to get somewhere and with that in mind it's not easy to accept that are actually being truthful.
When it comes to the genuine one's like you CG it helps a lot. So a thank you from me.
Most of the time we just think guys are saying it and it's not necessarily true. "
Hence the thread. To emphasise that you ladies are nicer than you think you are and we compliment you because we see you belittling yourselves. |
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By *hunky Gent OP Man
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
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Unfortunately some of us have had stuff happen to us in the past that makes us feel that we are pain jane's/average. Personally I feel that I'm a plain Jane due to the majority of my adult life (until I met Ray) my mother and past partners have put me down telling me I'm fat, saying that I used to be pretty once etc. If you are told something often enough you believe it.
Lou"
I understand that. I'm trying to live in the present and the future, only mindful of the past. |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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"There's a few of these threads so I thought I'd throw in a light hearted one.
Ive chatted to a few ladies who say they're looks are only average, or a 'plain Jane' or words to that effect.
When they are absolutely stunning.
Come on ladies, we love that fact that you're fantastic.
Accept your inner and outer beauty.
Big hugs. Chunky xx
Your turn guys.....
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The only person who can answer your question is the person you're corresponding with, have you asked them ?
My thoughts, lack of confidence, self depracating, they say it to get folk to give them compliments for and ego boost.
Your stunning may be a plain jane average to others.
Fantastic..some are ..some aren't.  |
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"I say it how I see it.
That's all I can do. "
You can do no more.
I think that women, especially on here are wary of certain compliments. If you knew how many times people have told me I have the body of a 30 year old!I don't, I know I don't so I'm suspicious of the motives behind such compliments. I'm aware that I'm in pretty good shape all things considered so if someone tells me that I accept it as genuine |
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It’s a difficult one with me because I don’t have very high self esteem at the moment but it’s to do with my emotions rather than my appearance. I’m completely happy with how I look even when I’m 9% higher body fat than I’d like, I know I still look good. But when it comes to putting up with bull shit, I’m more likely to let men walk over me because my self worth isn’t very high at the moment.
That can’t be restored by empty compliments. |
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By *hunky Gent OP Man
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"I say it how I see it.
That's all I can do.
You can do no more.
I think that women, especially on here are wary of certain compliments. If you knew how many times people have told me I have the body of a 30 year old!I don't, I know I don't so I'm suspicious of the motives behind such compliments. I'm aware that I'm in pretty good shape all things considered so if someone tells me that I accept it as genuine "
We've met (social) and you do look amazing. You don't look your age and Im pretty sure I've said it to you before. X |
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By *hunky Gent OP Man
over a year ago
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"It’s a difficult one with me because I don’t have very high self esteem at the moment but it’s to do with my emotions rather than my appearance. I’m completely happy with how I look even when I’m 9% higher body fat than I’d like, I know I still look good. But when it comes to putting up with bull shit, I’m more likely to let men walk over me because my self worth isn’t very high at the moment.
That can’t be restored by empty compliments. "
Like I've said already in this thread. My compliments are given honestly and without ulterior motives. X |
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"I say it how I see it.
That's all I can do.
You can do no more.
I think that women, especially on here are wary of certain compliments. If you knew how many times people have told me I have the body of a 30 year old!I don't, I know I don't so I'm suspicious of the motives behind such compliments. I'm aware that I'm in pretty good shape all things considered so if someone tells me that I accept it as genuine
We've met (social) and you do look amazing. You don't look your age and Im pretty sure I've said it to you before. X"
Yes, we remember you . You have said it
My comments aren't directed at you personally. You're consistent, unfortunately lots aren't and it makes women wary.
You never said I look 30 either |
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By *hunky Gent OP Man
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"I say it how I see it.
That's all I can do.
You can do no more.
I think that women, especially on here are wary of certain compliments. If you knew how many times people have told me I have the body of a 30 year old!I don't, I know I don't so I'm suspicious of the motives behind such compliments. I'm aware that I'm in pretty good shape all things considered so if someone tells me that I accept it as genuine
We've met (social) and you do look amazing. You don't look your age and Im pretty sure I've said it to you before. X
Yes, we remember you . You have said it
My comments aren't directed at you personally. You're consistent, unfortunately lots aren't and it makes women wary.
You never said I look 30 either "
None of us will. Only in our minds. Lol x |
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