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women getting fed up with this site and other like ite

By *lder A Wiser Passion OP Woman over a year ago

morecambe

I must have heard of 7 women in the last 3 months who are getting fed up with men thinking they will get a qucik fuck from them 4 of the 7 I know of have the left the site

So here go's this isn't for every man on here but can you read a woman profile in full first before you message us

We are all at diffrent levels of this some dont even swing on here

We not all going to give you a quick fuck so please home work first

So going to open this forum see what folk say

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By *UNANDNICEMan over a year ago

Basildon

I totally agree with you on that one bit

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By *uciferLingerieMan over a year ago

Leeds

"I must have heard of 7 women in the last 3 months who are getting fed up with men thinking they will get a qucik fuck from them 4 of the 7 I know of have the left the site

So here go's this isn't for every man on here but can you read a woman profile in full first before you message us

We are all at diffrent levels of this some dont even swing on here

We not all going to give you a quick fuck so please home work first

So going to open this forum see what folk say

You are not alone! Top of my profile says 'not looking for single guys' yet they still message me! I do read profiles and check interests. There are far more men to women ratio on here, I think women are generally more polite on here which means there are a higher ratio of dickheads!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ok.

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By *hampagne_Supernova_91Man over a year ago

Manchester

Well spoken OP. Shame some people feel compelled to ruin it for everyone else. Shouldn't have to come to people feeling uncomfortable on here and leaving the site.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Op its definatley not just single women, on our couples profile we get bombarded and harassed all day. Wish the same could be said for mh singles profile. I think the issue is the majority of single men dont have the swingers mindset

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes, im one of those women who think its time to quit looking now. Im genuinely wanting to meet someone who wants to meet regularly and be friends and lovers but men on here just want to fuck around it seems.

I meet someone we have fun then they think its ok to ignore me and disappear. Meaningless sex is now boring.

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By *lder A Wiser Passion OP Woman over a year ago

morecambe

There is lot of single men on here who have the wrong idea of swinging is about and down to a small number of people who will just about go with anything that moves

for the most who do this are fussy and havnt the time to just go with everything

The message need to get out yes we looking for fun but not treated as shit under your shoe

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yep op very true and my wife and I have twice in the past got fed up with the cocks who can’t read and given up!!

This time is working out much better with me batting the cocks who can’t read off and Carol just chatting to who she fancies hence the pressure is off her and she enjoys it more which means I enjoy it more!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I must have heard of 7 women in the last 3 months who are getting fed up with men thinking they will get a qucik fuck from them 4 of the 7 I know of have the left the site

So here go's this isn't for every man on here but can you read a woman profile in full first before you message us

We are all at diffrent levels of this some dont even swing on here

We not all going to give you a quick fuck so please home work first

So going to open this forum see what folk say

"
actually I do read to the full.

If it's a very long an with the disclaimer it's off putting. I don't mail them.

If it's one line I also don't mail them. I nail females that as an I interest in single men an can accommodate

But hard to find in my area due to the age restrictions they got on profile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had a fair amount of abuse/harrassment on here since I joined, especially this weekend.

A lot of the guys just can't take rejection very well. I'm always nice/polite about it but it doesn't always work.

Get it on the couples profile too which surprises me even more when it clearly states he will reading and responding to messages too!

It's really not on and definitely spoils it for the genuine ones.

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By *uciferLingerieMan over a year ago

Leeds

"I've had a fair amount of abuse/harrassment on here since I joined, especially this weekend.

A lot of the guys just can't take rejection very well. I'm always nice/polite about it but it doesn't always work.

Get it on the couples profile too which surprises me even more when it clearly states he will reading and responding to messages too!

It's really not on and definitely spoils it for the genuine ones. "

That just isn't on Sparkles, first sign of aggro you should instant block. Too many idiots on here spoil it for everyone else!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I must have heard of 7 women in the last 3 months who are getting fed up with men thinking they will get a qucik fuck from them 4 of the 7 I know of have the left the site

So here go's this isn't for every man on here but can you read a woman profile in full first before you message us

We are all at diffrent levels of this some dont even swing on here

We not all going to give you a quick fuck so please home work first

So going to open this forum see what folk say

"
omg you can't get a quick fuck here, well i never

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've had a fair amount of abuse/harrassment on here since I joined, especially this weekend.

A lot of the guys just can't take rejection very well. I'm always nice/polite about it but it doesn't always work.

Get it on the couples profile too which surprises me even more when it clearly states he will reading and responding to messages too!

It's really not on and definitely spoils it for the genuine ones. "

God you are sexy

Dont panic op im not harrassing this bombshell x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I must have heard of 7 women in the last 3 months who are getting fed up with men thinking they will get a qucik fuck from them 4 of the 7 I know of have the left the site

So here go's this isn't for every man on here but can you read a woman profile in full first before you message us

We are all at diffrent levels of this some dont even swing on here

We not all going to give you a quick fuck so please home work first

So going to open this forum see what folk say

Go on a dating site if you want men to work for it. Or you're local pub. Sure respect goes a long way. And everyone deserves it, that's fine But don't dangle the carrot because you can.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I must have heard of 7 women in the last 3 months who are getting fed up with men thinking they will get a qucik fuck from them 4 of the 7 I know of have the left the site

So here go's this isn't for every man on here but can you read a woman profile in full first before you message us

We are all at diffrent levels of this some dont even swing on here

We not all going to give you a quick fuck so please home work first

So going to open this forum see what folk say

Go on a dating site if you want men to work for it. Or you're local pub. Sure respect goes a long way. And everyone deserves it, that's fine But don't dangle the carrot because you can. "

Can you explain what you mean by "work for it"?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I must have heard of 7 women in the last 3 months who are getting fed up with men thinking they will get a qucik fuck from them 4 of the 7 I know of have the left the site

So here go's this isn't for every man on here but can you read a woman profile in full first before you message us

We are all at diffrent levels of this some dont even swing on here

We not all going to give you a quick fuck so please home work first

So going to open this forum see what folk say

Go on a dating site if you want men to work for it. Or you're local pub. Sure respect goes a long way. And everyone deserves it, that's fine But don't dangle the carrot because you can.

Can you explain what you mean by "work for it"? "

Trying too woo, court, conduct the most epic poem in her gracenessess honor. Turning you're nose up because we didn't read you're mind and had the most perfect enicial message lined up for you, I agree fucking someone then ignoreing them is uncalled for. Or calling some one a fat bitch because they didn't want too fuck you. Well hold on now boyo that fat bitch was the most beautiful thing you'd seen before she rejected you. I just think this place is sopposed to be fun, and people can over complicate a simple dynamic.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've had a fair amount of abuse/harrassment on here since I joined, especially this weekend.

A lot of the guys just can't take rejection very well. I'm always nice/polite about it but it doesn't always work.

Get it on the couples profile too which surprises me even more when it clearly states he will reading and responding to messages too!

It's really not on and definitely spoils it for the genuine ones.

That just isn't on Sparkles, first sign of aggro you should instant block. Too many idiots on here spoil it for everyone else!"

I do! My block list is huge!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I must have heard of 7 women in the last 3 months who are getting fed up with men thinking they will get a qucik fuck from them 4 of the 7 I know of have the left the site

So here go's this isn't for every man on here but can you read a woman profile in full first before you message us

We are all at diffrent levels of this some dont even swing on here

We not all going to give you a quick fuck so please home work first

So going to open this forum see what folk say

Go on a dating site if you want men to work for it. Or you're local pub. Sure respect goes a long way. And everyone deserves it, that's fine But don't dangle the carrot because you can.

Can you explain what you mean by "work for it"?

Personality is difficult to judge through text. But general attraction between two people is not from photos. If you're attracted then meet, and let you're personalities blossom if that's what you're looking for and keep you're pants on. If not take them off and fuck the shit out of that man you found attractive. But then again sex without a genrel bond, can grow very tiresome.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've had a fair amount of abuse/harrassment on here since I joined, especially this weekend.

A lot of the guys just can't take rejection very well. I'm always nice/polite about it but it doesn't always work.

Get it on the couples profile too which surprises me even more when it clearly states he will reading and responding to messages too!

It's really not on and definitely spoils it for the genuine ones.

God you are sexy

Dont panic op im not harrassing this bombshell x"

Not so bad yourself Mr

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Would people prefer it if single men profiles couldn't send the first message (like bumble)?

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By *adMerWoman over a year ago

Sandwich

"Would people prefer it if single men profiles couldn't send the first message (like bumble)?"

Actually if you use message filters then that’s exactly how this site works

More women should look for what they want instead of wading through all the dross that’s on offer!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes, im one of those women who think its time to quit looking now. Im genuinely wanting to meet someone who wants to meet regularly and be friends and lovers but men on here just want to fuck around it seems.

I meet someone we have fun then they think its ok to ignore me and disappear. Meaningless sex is now boring."

Well said! I couldn’t have said that better myself! They don’t realise that this behaviour makes us lose faith in men and even leaves us feeling shit about ourselves sometimes.....

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By *ourayloversCouple over a year ago

chesterfield

Sorry to say that some couples can be the same

we've had a few "wanna fuck" messages off the female half of the couple and there the only messages we don't reply to

We've blocked all single blokes as it's not what Lou is looking for but I can imagine you get the same sort of messages of them too.

Ray

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By *moothdickMan over a year ago

stoke

Gee this can be such an in depth subject of how the workings of the male, female brain and expectations work ... emotions than pop in for a quick, mind fuck, desires make an appearance just to had to the mind fuck... then different wants and needs show their face ... to make a lot of disgruntled people of both sexes ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Gee this can be such an in depth subject of how the workings of the male, female brain and expectations work ... emotions than pop in for a quick, mind fuck, desires make an appearance just to had to the mind fuck... then different wants and needs show their face ... to make a lot of disgruntled people of both sexes ...

Same as everywhere else then? And that's the point. This is a website, not a magical kingdom where the usual truths of life don't apply. I'm not a permanently horny lace clad nympho, I'm a dumpy, irritable middle aged woman who took some photos in black lace lingerie. The men who can grasp these facts and tailor their behaviour accordingly are the ones who end up becoming familiar with the horny lace clad nympho side of me

it's the men who assume it's my default setting that end up being ignored or rejected. If you stop treating this place like it isn't real life then you're halfway there already.

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By *AYENCouple over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Plenty of women on here do just want a fuck and not interested in becoming friends or lovers.

But you're right in as much that people should read profiles and only contact those with matching interests - unfortunately those that don't read profiles also don't read forums.

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By *moothdickMan over a year ago

stoke

it's the men who assume it's my default setting that end up being ignored or rejected. If you stop treating this place like it isn't real life then you're halfway there already. "

I forgot to say, then include escapism, which it is for many and that removes real life .. so it’s a difficult and very varied outcome ... and we’ve only scratched the surface

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I must have heard of 7 women in the last 3 months who are getting fed up with men thinking they will get a qucik fuck from them 4 of the 7 I know of have the left the site

So here go's this isn't for every man on here but can you read a woman profile in full first before you message us

We are all at diffrent levels of this some dont even swing on here

We not all going to give you a quick fuck so please home work first

So going to open this forum see what folk say

Add me into your numbers

I'm only here to chat now

Made my profile quite arsey and still men try.. But then get quite rude n verbally abusive if they don't get the answer THEY want.

Sadly I'm quite articulated for some.

I try and stay nice.. Even 2 lots of NO. After that.. Rant mode

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

it's the men who assume it's my default setting that end up being ignored or rejected. If you stop treating this place like it isn't real life then you're halfway there already.

I forgot to say, then include escapism, which it is for many and that removes real life .. so it’s a difficult and very varied outcome ... and we’ve only scratched the surface

Yes I realise its outside of people's main lives. What I meant was that interacting with people is still governed by the usual rules of life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just use your filters/block facility...Fab is what it is.

Idiocy on Fab is the nature of the beast, you ait going to get hearts and flowers here, there are respectful guys but you have to do your bit too.

I can see it from both sides tbh, it is hard for guys to get a response... Frustration does sometimes boil over.

But I have heard horror stories of badly behaved women as well so guys don't tend to have it easy here

The unlevel playing field is something I am always mindful of.

Was at Townhouse yesterday, one guy really knocked my confidence with his no manners arrogant attitude so it does happen in rl too...

At least you can choose to block and ignore on Fab. Not so easy in rl enviros.

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

I feel this applies to both genders not just men. We could all benefit from remembering our manners, being polite, and treating each other like humans. Not everything has to be a battle.

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By *ice But Very NaughtyCouple over a year ago

Swansea

"I feel this applies to both genders not just men. We could all benefit from remembering our manners, being polite, and treating each other like humans. Not everything has to be a battle. "

This ^^^

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By *ice But Very NaughtyCouple over a year ago

Swansea

"Just use your filters/block facility...Fab is what it is.

Idiocy on Fab is the nature of the beast, you ait going to get hearts and flowers here, there are respectful guys but you have to do your bit too.

And this ^^^

I can see it from both sides tbh, it is hard for guys to get a response... Frustration does sometimes boil over.

But I have heard horror stories of badly behaved women as well so guys don't tend to have it easy here

The unlevel playing field is something I am always mindful of.

Was at Townhouse yesterday, one guy really knocked my confidence with his no manners arrogant attitude so it does happen in rl too...

At least you can choose to block and ignore on Fab. Not so easy in rl enviros.

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By *moothdickMan over a year ago

stoke

it's the men who assume it's my default setting that end up being ignored or rejected. If you stop treating this place like it isn't real life then you're halfway there already.

I forgot to say, then include escapism, which it is for many and that removes real life .. so it’s a difficult and very varied outcome ... and we’ve only scratched the surface

Yes I realise its outside of people's main lives. What I meant was that interacting with people is still governed by the usual rules of life. "

And in real life, we don’t find everyone appealing and want them as friends .... we are dealing with emotions whether it’s in here or outside ... so if they are fuck wits in here then I presume they are fuck wits in real life

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By *ustBoWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Yes it can be frustrating here but at the same time it can also be great fun. I've met some fantastic people off here and have some regular fun which is always great.

I have my filters tight so don't get bombarded with mails. If you don't want mails just block guys and go look for yourself message the guys that take your fancy don't expect them to do all the work. Read their profiles if you like them send them a message.

Ignore and block the rude ones.

I always meet socially first and before I meet I chat for a while in here so you get a pretty good idea about the other person I'm upfront with what I want which is to meet hopefully regularly but not a relationsip and I don't expect anyone I meet to be exclusive and just meet me or visa versa. I find being upfront works best on here.

Yes it can be frustrating at times but it's the same for everyone on here md to be fair guys get it a lot tougher on here than women. Yes women get mails and some are just dumb rude horny ones that guys have sent when horny. But guys get rejected over and over and some women and couples are just as rude and ignorant as any of the worst guys. Some of the demands I have seen on here are crazy.

Basically I suppose just use fab whatever way you want. Try and not take it too serious be upfront in what you want from here. Yes there are twonks on here but there are also a lot of decent people to have fun with as well.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes it can be frustrating here but at the same time it can also be great fun. I've met some fantastic people off here and have some regular fun which is always great.

Ignore and block the rude ones.

Couldn't agree more.

I'm currently in a meh mood with this place so I didnt renew my supporter pass, I've reduced my profile.

I'm not overly bothered either at the moment but i hang around because i know from experience that there are some good guys around

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By *mmmMaybeCouple over a year ago

West Wales

"Would people prefer it if single men profiles couldn't send the first message (like bumble)?

Actually if you use message filters then that’s exactly how this site works

More women should look for what they want instead of wading through all the dross that’s on offer!"

But that opens them up to the world of multiple “No thanks” messages. I know that’s unlikely but for some even one or two of them would be too many. It’s probably a confidence thing? Why else would someone put themselves through the whole “Yellow page of crap messages, abuse” cycle? yet these very same women have no compunction about destroying someone else’s confidence (those in there that don’t send “meet now, faf”) with a straight read/delete etc.

The strange old unequal world of Fab..

I’ve always thought guys should not be allowed to send a first message but I also think very few on here use their filters fully too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Would people prefer it if single men profiles couldn't send the first message (like bumble)?

Actually if you use message filters then that’s exactly how this site works

More women should look for what they want instead of wading through all the dross that’s on offer!

The strange old unequal world of Fab..

I’ve always thought guys should not be allowed to send a first message but I also think very few on here use their filters fully too.

this

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"I must have heard of 7 women in the last 3 months who are getting fed up with men thinking they will get a qucik fuck from them 4 of the 7 I know of have the left the site

So here go's this isn't for every man on here but can you read a woman profile in full first before you message us

We are all at diffrent levels of this some dont even swing on here

We not all going to give you a quick fuck so please home work first

So going to open this forum see what folk say

I know its awards season ..so...

And todays have a swipe at guys thread award goes to..

I have a simple solution. Whoa 2 good really tell me how. Ok.. sit comfy heres how.

Use the tools the site provides.. really yep its available in your account settings .. block those genders who cause the problem, take control.

But then I won't get any messages..this is true.. you can Message those who do interest you ..really..yep... don't forget to read their profiles though..

Often said effort in reward out.

I did a thread called 'junk mail' a while ago, it said something like we all get 'junk mail' in our day to day lives, on here we can board up our mailbox and stop the 'junk mail'.

2good awaits the usual ..

Theres no info on guys profiles

block move on.

I might miss a diamond..

..you might anyway in the mass of mail.

Take control of the controllable.

If not the chances are those you reference op will likely not read your plea or won't heed it , afterall you saythey don't read profiles why would they read this.

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By *uenevereWoman over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Yes it can be frustrating here but at the same time it can also be great fun. I've met some fantastic people off here and have some regular fun which is always great.

This

If you are fed up of messages, block everyone from messaging you and search for yourself.

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By *esse1972Man over a year ago

Rugeley

Each to there own, but personally don’t expect anything from anyone, chat, meet for a social see if there is a connection.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

None of the blokes who don't read profiles will spend their time reading a forum thread about it.

Sorry to break it to you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Would people prefer it if single men profiles couldn't send the first message (like bumble)?

Actually if you use message filters then that’s exactly how this site works

More women should look for what they want instead of wading through all the dross that’s on offer!

The strange old unequal world of Fab..

I’ve always thought guys should not be allowed to send a first message but I also think very few on here use their filters fully too.

this"

Ahhhh, maybe it should be something that's made clearer on the profile. It would be interesting to see if women deal with rejection better than men. That said, some guys on here are dying of thirst so it wouldn't be a very good experiment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I feel this applies to both genders not just men. We could all benefit from remembering our manners, being polite, and treating each other like humans. Not everything has to be a battle. "

Totally this, also if you are fed up with messages from men, women, couples, or unicorns, simply use your filters block them all and go out and find the ones you do want to interact with.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I quite simply just dont read, respond or react to the idiot messages. Unless I'm feeling very school m'am-ish and someone needs a telling off. Just keep scrolling merrily on by. I find more people than not read my profile though, even if they seem to miss the most pertinent aspect of it

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By *AYENCouple over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Lots of people have a preference for moaning about a problem rather than dealing with it.

A full inbox is better for their ego, even if it is full of crap!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lots of people have a preference for moaning about a problem rather than dealing with it.

A full inbox is better for their ego, even if it is full of crap!"

I think there's a lot of truth to this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can absolutely guaranty that if I sent a first message out saying, meet now I want a fuck, I’d have a queue hammering down the door.

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By *vpamelaTV/TS over a year ago

kinkville

"I must have heard of 7 women in the last 3 months who are getting fed up with men thinking they will get a qucik fuck from them 4 of the 7 I know of have the left the site

So here go's this isn't for every man on here but can you read a woman profile in full first before you message us

We are all at diffrent levels of this some dont even swing on here

We not all going to give you a quick fuck so please home work first

So going to open this forum see what folk say

It's a shame they are deciding to leave. I would suggest they grow some balls and realise that any sex website will attract huge number of dickheads and just filter, block and concentrate on the nice people.

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By *ourayloversCouple over a year ago

chesterfield

"I feel this applies to both genders not just men. We could all benefit from remembering our manners, being polite, and treating each other like humans. Not everything has to be a battle. "

Perfectly put

Ray

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can absolutely guaranty that if I sent a first message out saying, meet now I want a fuck, I’d have a queue hammering down the door. "

Only the one/s you message though, possibly the best way to run a profile is to be in charge of who you interact with.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I must have heard of 7 women in the last 3 months who are getting fed up with men thinking they will get a qucik fuck from them 4 of the 7 I know of have the left the site

So here go's this isn't for every man on here but can you read a woman profile in full first before you message us

We are all at diffrent levels of this some dont even swing on here

We not all going to give you a quick fuck so please home work first

So going to open this forum see what folk say

No I cba I just don't message

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By *mmmMaybeCouple over a year ago

West Wales

"I can absolutely guaranty that if I sent a first message out saying, meet now I want a fuck, I’d have a queue hammering down the door. "

And???? You are messaging only people you like the look of, Maybe fill your message out a bit as if you sent us that we’d assume you were a guy

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By *mmmMaybeCouple over a year ago

West Wales

"Lots of people have a preference for moaning about a problem rather than dealing with it.

A full inbox is better for their ego, even if it is full of crap!"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can absolutely guaranty that if I sent a first message out saying, meet now I want a fuck, I’d have a queue hammering down the door.

And???? You are messaging only people you like the look of, Maybe fill your message out a bit as if you sent us that we’d assume you were a guy

Obviously I’d only message people I like the look of and I wouldn’t be looking for couples, I’m not anybodies cheese and cucumber in their sandwich.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lots of people have a preference for moaning about a problem rather than dealing with it.

A full inbox is better for their ego, even if it is full of crap!"

You fabbed my photo then blocked me shit head

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By *mmmMaybeCouple over a year ago

West Wales

"I can absolutely guaranty that if I sent a first message out saying, meet now I want a fuck, I’d have a queue hammering down the door.

And???? You are messaging only people you like the look of, Maybe fill your message out a bit as if you sent us that we’d assume you were a guy

Obviously I’d only message people I like the look of and I wouldn’t be looking for couples, I’m not anybodies cheese and cucumber in their sandwich. "

Hypothetical, We do read profiles

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Someone mention sandwich

Lols

Oh dear ,does it just apply to single men tho I think not

I go on the principal .be nice ,be honest ,be yourself don’t be a prick and don’t be expecting anything

I’ve got some smashing friends from fab ,it’s all about the way you approach it

Quick shag no thanks !

I think your find this is a problem generally not just on Fab ,yup the Neanderthal man will try and fuck a frog if it stops hopping it really doesn’t do us single fellas any Justice that are genuine

Most of my lady friends from here do complain about it but they are smart enough to find the diamonds in the rough and block the rest

Same could be said on the other hand for a lot of ladies on here that treat single fellas with contempt before they’ve even been given a chance ,a lot of tarring with brushes going on and it do piss me off !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can absolutely guaranty that if I sent a first message out saying, meet now I want a fuck, I’d have a queue hammering down the door. "

Obviously from me you would receive a polite "thanks, but no thanks", I would not get annoyed and start a thread about women who cant read profiles or dont understand wont travel, wont accommodate

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I must have heard of 7 women in the last 3 months who are getting fed up with men thinking they will get a qucik fuck from them 4 of the 7 I know of have the left the site

So here go's this isn't for every man on here but can you read a woman profile in full first before you message us

We are all at diffrent levels of this some dont even swing on here

We not all going to give you a quick fuck so please home work first

So going to open this forum see what folk say

Go on a dating site if you want men to work for it. Or you're local pub. Sure respect goes a long way. And everyone deserves it, that's fine But don't dangle the carrot because you can.

Can you explain what you mean by "work for it"?

The dynamic is whatever two compatible people want it to be (in theory).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can absolutely guaranty that if I sent a first message out saying, meet now I want a fuck, I’d have a queue hammering down the door.

And???? You are messaging only people you like the look of, Maybe fill your message out a bit as if you sent us that we’d assume you were a guy

Obviously I’d only message people I like the look of and I wouldn’t be looking for couples, I’m not anybodies cheese and cucumber in their sandwich. "

I don’t mind cheese n cucumber on white I don’t want what you blew out your hooter in it tho ,lols ,killer status

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can absolutely guaranty that if I sent a first message out saying, meet now I want a fuck, I’d have a queue hammering down the door.

And???? You are messaging only people you like the look of, Maybe fill your message out a bit as if you sent us that we’d assume you were a guy

Obviously I’d only message people I like the look of and I wouldn’t be looking for couples, I’m not anybodies cheese and cucumber in their sandwich.

Hypothetical, We do read profiles

I’m sure you do and plus you’re my kin, fellow taffs I’ll always have your backs if needed, but in keeping with thread.

Ops bumping her gums about women getting all butthurt and leaving cos of men being too blunt and direct.

I was highlighting how if I was to message a guy being blunt and direct they’d lap it up and be running all the way to me, dick in hand. It’s just the way things are on here.

Now what it shouldn’t do is put women off, it should serve as a tool to make the ‘better’ guys stand out more.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I must have heard of 7 women in the last 3 months who are getting fed up with men thinking they will get a qucik fuck from them 4 of the 7 I know of have the left the site

So here go's this isn't for every man on here but can you read a woman profile in full first before you message us

We are all at diffrent levels of this some dont even swing on here

We not all going to give you a quick fuck so please home work first

So going to open this forum see what folk say

Go on a dating site if you want men to work for it. Or you're local pub. Sure respect goes a long way. And everyone deserves it, that's fine But don't dangle the carrot because you can.

Can you explain what you mean by "work for it"?

The dynamic is whatever two compatible people want it to be (in theory). "

Yes or, a compatible dynamic between you. And a website designed for a simple thing

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By *lder A Wiser Passion OP Woman over a year ago

morecambe

Yes it better on here if a woman go looking then more likely to find what your looking for

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By *lder A Wiser Passion OP Woman over a year ago

morecambe

"Sorry to say that some couples can be the same

we've had a few "wanna fuck" messages off the female half of the couple and there the only messages we don't reply to

We've blocked all single blokes as it's not what Lou is looking for but I can imagine you get the same sort of messages of them too.

Ray"
but a lot a couple profiles as just single men trying their look

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By *lder A Wiser Passion OP Woman over a year ago

morecambe

For every woman there is who just wants to fuck and go I can tell you from being on here over 4 years now I spoken to a lot of women on here forever that will do that 4 to 5 wont

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's been like this for a while on here I had nearly a two yr break from this site and it's very bad these days and all the wrong ones spoil it for everyone else admin should out the rude nasty people from site but it's not that easy

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By *iamondCougarWoman over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I must have heard of 7 women in the last 3 months who are getting fed up with men thinking they will get a qucik fuck from them 4 of the 7 I know of have the left the site

So here go's this isn't for every man on here but can you read a woman profile in full first before you message us

We are all at diffrent levels of this some dont even swing on here

We not all going to give you a quick fuck so please home work first

So going to open this forum see what folk say

Well said OP!

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By *scouple07Couple over a year ago

louth, Ireland

Well said OP , why cant men read profiles fully before messaging as they might just realise profiles like ours is a Cpls profile not a single female

Mrs

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"I can absolutely guaranty that if I sent a first message out saying, meet now I want a fuck, I’d have a queue hammering down the door. "

When you say guarantee is that a lifetime guarantee?.

To save your typing fingers thanks but no thanks, I' need a bit more than that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It does make me wanna leave again at times. It's clearly ignorant lazy people who cant be bothered reading a simple profile. Then we get called ignorant lol...

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By *on a MangerMan over a year ago

somerset/Bristol

Ok... this is going to be an unpopular post...

Sticking up for the single male. Yes there are some numpty guys on here, but there are an awful lot of single women who believe they are more important and superior simply because of the relative numbers of male to female and therefore demand. And as a result are rude and dimissive and believe they have a bigger right to this site than men ...its not a very attractive trait.

Simple answer as most have said... set your filters tight. And be respectful

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bye then op

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What are the rules, lots I message don't reply, not even with a polite no thanks. I'm always civil, maybe it's because they get so many messages

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok... this is going to be an unpopular post...

Simple answer as most have said... set your filters tight. And be respectful"
Totally agree with you x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok... this is going to be an unpopular post...

Simple answer as most have said... set your filters tight. And be respectful"

Some of that may be your own perception and some of it truth.

It's a shame when you sign up for the site you don't get a welcome message with the advice to read profiles "to make yours' and others' experiences more enjoyable here".

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok... this is going to be an unpopular post...

Simple answer as most have said... set your filters tight. And be respectful"

I wanted to put similar but wasn't brave enough

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm getting fed up on some women that you meet there criteria only in return they said Im a fake. Or fat.

Why be so aggressive towards us when we read your profile. I mailed you for a reason.

If any one else send me those message again they get reported an block...

We are only human

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm getting fed up on some women that you meet there criteria only in return they said Im a fake. Or fat.

Why be so aggressive towards us when we read your profile. I mailed you for a reason.

If any one else send me those message again they get reported an block...

We are only human "
Bang out of order. Adults calling other adults fat is so childish.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm getting fed up on some women that you meet there criteria only in return they said Im a fake. Or fat.

Why be so aggressive towards us when we read your profile. I mailed you for a reason.

If any one else send me those message again they get reported an block...

We are only human Bang out of order. Adults calling other adults fat is so childish. "

It's a shame that admin allows them to stay on site

Which I think is a joke

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By *hMyGawdCouple over a year ago

Midlands

It's hard to find any sympathy for the most privileged group on this site.

Poor things being inundated by messages offering sex

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By *k82Man over a year ago

Walthamstow

What is the problem here ?? Seriously

Cant win at all on this site I've noticed.

Be nice, you are to nice

Be rude, oh how dare he

Be straightforward, he is just after one thing

Ask you out for dinner, this ain't a dating site

Approach you with manners, you will just block and delete cause you dont want to hear him being nice

Many many women will be super butt hurt by what I said, but it's the truth ladies, man can not win on this site.

I always read profiles before I send a message to get response back, I also read verifications also now here is a kicker ( many verification I read the guy says oh she is a whore she is a slut and she loves it etc and vice versa, he treated me like a slut that I am etc, then you say oh he messaging me hurtful names ? Lol

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By *arlomaleMan over a year ago

darlington

Delete and fuck off simple as that if it’s that bad on fab most are back within a day or two

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By *AYENCouple over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"Ok... this is going to be an unpopular post...

Simple answer as most have said... set your filters tight. And be respectful"

The truth is often unpopular on here because as they say 'the truth hurts' - everyone's totally in control of their own experience on here, you can stop the abusive messages if you want to and stop the tonnes of drivel if you want to, but you have to WANT to!

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By *ndefiniteSparkMan over a year ago

ignites minds to unite ...

OP thank you for the " not every man on here " comment.

Fakes,lack of respect, lack of manners and understanding hides behind a lot of profiles .

Not here to defend or accuse anyone but to point out one flaw on the website and a way to improve it.

Fab verification system is partially at fault allowing initial profile creation and making it public before it's verified.(Fab photo verified just to be clear and not

to be confusedd with personal verification later )

Not saying it would get rid of all fake profiles but at least make it harder.

Reverse the process make the verification a first step .

Sure people using Fab longer than me would have other ways to improve this issue too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is the problem here ?? Seriously

Cant win at all on this site I've noticed.

Be nice, you are to nice

Be rude, oh how dare he

Be straightforward, he is just after one thing

Ask you out for dinner, this ain't a dating site

Approach you with manners, you will just block and delete cause you dont want to hear him being nice

Many many women will be super butt hurt by what I said, but it's the truth ladies, man can not win on this site.

"
well I like to think I've been nice and honest with you lol.

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By *elshsunsWoman over a year ago

Flintshire

I meet someone we have fun then they think its ok to ignore me and disappear. Meaningless sex is now boring."

Totally Agree with this ... it’s all becoming boring and predictable ... they say they looking for a FB but they meet and then disappear or don’t want to meet again

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By *k82Man over a year ago

Walthamstow

"What is the problem here ?? Seriously

Cant win at all on this site I've noticed.

Be nice, you are to nice

Be rude, oh how dare he

Be straightforward, he is just after one thing

Ask you out for dinner, this ain't a dating site

Approach you with manners, you will just block and delete cause you dont want to hear him being nice

Many many women will be super butt hurt by what I said, but it's the truth ladies, man can not win on this site.

well I like to think I've been nice and honest with you lol. "

Absolutely you have, this was not directed to you at all.

I'm waiting counting the day I meet you lol even if I have to bribe the husband

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So many shots being fired in here lol!

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By *ndefiniteSparkMan over a year ago

ignites minds to unite ...

"So many shots being fired in here lol!"

Unfortunately in all the wrong directions instead of the real enemy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Majority are fine, even though they don't read your profiles. It's the ones who say they're gonna destroy the Mrs, I'm like... Seriously mate? You think that's the way to go?.... Block!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is the problem here ?? Seriously

Cant win at all on this site I've noticed.

Be nice, you are to nice

Be rude, oh how dare he

Be straightforward, he is just after one thing

Ask you out for dinner, this ain't a dating site

Approach you with manners, you will just block and delete cause you dont want to hear him being nice

Many many women will be super butt hurt by what I said, but it's the truth ladies, man can not win on this site.

well I like to think I've been nice and honest with you lol.

Absolutely you have, this was not directed to you at all.

I'm waiting counting the day I meet you lol even if I have to bribe the husband

"
only 24 months lol. X

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

People, including the clueless and desperate, will message if you don't take action via your filters to stop them.

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By *on a MangerMan over a year ago

somerset/Bristol

"Ok... this is going to be an unpopular post...

Simple answer as most have said... set your filters tight. And be respectful

Some of that may be your own perception and some of it truth.

It's a shame when you sign up for the site you don't get a welcome message with the advice to read profiles "to make yours' and others' experiences more enjoyable here".

Perception no. Experience yes.

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By *museBouche31Woman over a year ago

Reigate

"I must have heard of 7 women in the last 3 months who are getting fed up with men thinking they will get a qucik fuck from them 4 of the 7 I know of have the left the site

So here go's this isn't for every man on here but can you read a woman profile in full first before you message us

We are all at diffrent levels of this some dont even swing on here

We not all going to give you a quick fuck so please home work first

So going to open this forum see what folk say

I know its awards season ..so...

And todays have a swipe at guys thread award goes to..

I have a simple solution. Whoa 2 good really tell me how. Ok.. sit comfy heres how.

Use the tools the site provides.. really yep its available in your account settings .. block those genders who cause the problem, take control.

But then I won't get any messages..this is true.. you can Message those who do interest you ..really..yep... don't forget to read their profiles though..

Often said effort in reward out.

I did a thread called 'junk mail' a while ago, it said something like we all get 'junk mail' in our day to day lives, on here we can board up our mailbox and stop the 'junk mail'.

2good awaits the usual ..

Theres no info on guys profiles

block move on.

I might miss a diamond..

..you might anyway in the mass of mail.

Take control of the controllable.

If not the chances are those you reference op will likely not read your plea or won't heed it , afterall you saythey don't read profiles why would they read this.

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By *ndefiniteSparkMan over a year ago

ignites minds to unite ...

"Majority are fine, even though they don't read your profiles. It's the ones who say they're gonna destroy the Mrs, I'm like... Seriously mate? You think that's the way to go?.... Block! "

Add Name&Shame button

Unfortunately that would turn nasty and just cause more not needed abuse.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan over a year ago

Okehampton

I always find it a little ironic that threads regarding men not reading profiles exist. For to have an impact they must be aimed at the men that do not read profiles, but it is highly unlikely that men that choose not to read profiles would read a forum......

That aside there are numerous tools to manage your interactions through the site, simply put, you can make the first move, block everyone from messaging you and minimise a massive amount of the issues.

As for men that fuck once and disappear, well that is part of the nature of this site. If it were a traditional dating site, then you would be detailing likes and interests and intimating that you would like a relationship. Now you can use Fab as a dating site if you wish, but it seems a little foolhardy to expect others to be using it the same way.

If you would like a relationship style encounter, with longevity and the like, then when you do meet someone, it would probably be wise to delay the physical interaction until you are sure that the person you are meetings intentions are the same. The same as you would on a dating site.

Ultimately you have control over, who speaks to you, who you meet, what you do when you meet and articulating your expectations when you do meet.

Just as with dating websites there will be some people that lie and cheat (of all sexes) to get what they want, but you can minimise this by not just waiting for someone to message you, but by being proactive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So many shots being fired in here lol!

Unfortunately in all the wrong directions instead of the real enemy."

Who is the real enemy? I just think everyone should be responsible for their own experiences

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By *ndefiniteSparkMan over a year ago

ignites minds to unite ...

"So many shots being fired in here lol!

Unfortunately in all the wrong directions instead of the real enemy.

Who is the real enemy? I just think everyone should be responsible for their own experiences"

Read my post above yours, few posts up.

There is a start imo.

Not questioning personal responsibility we have here or genuine website users.

Just an issue with the website at initial stage of registration .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Majority are fine, even though they don't read your profiles. It's the ones who say they're gonna destroy the Mrs, I'm like... Seriously mate? You think that's the way to go?.... Block!

Add Name&Shame button

Unfortunately that would turn nasty and just cause more not needed abuse."
no as its open to abuse itself

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By *ustBoWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"Ok... this is going to be an unpopular post...

Simple answer as most have said... set your filters tight. And be respectful"

well. Said

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok... this is going to be an unpopular post...

Simple answer as most have said... set your filters tight. And be respectful"

Exactly. Take your fate in your own hands and give people the respect you think they should give you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok... this is going to be an unpopular post...

Simple answer as most have said... set your filters tight. And be respectful"

I recently had a guy msg me " I'm working in your area. Can I pop in on my way to my next job?"

Never spoken to the guy im my life. He knew nothing about me, not even what I look like.

I responded " Quite apart from the fact that asking to visit a random woman, is frankly, creepy. Even guys that hire escorts usually have some idea of what theyre getting"

Tell me, was that rude or dismissive?

Or both?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Must admit I have thought about leaving. Its only the forums that keep me here. Always bombarded with awful messages and end up hiding my profile for peace an quiet.

I want a regular lover that's a friend too. But that quickly gets turned into me wanting a relationship somehow. I don't! I want to revert back to normal life after a meet with no ties or expectations on either side. Literally want a regular who understands that it's adult fun but we both go back to real life feeling satisfied and smiling.

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By *ineMan over a year ago

In cave behind a waterfall on a hill

"Must admit I have thought about leaving. Its only the forums that keep me here. Always bombarded with awful messages and end up hiding my profile for peace an quiet.

Isnt friendship a relationship too?

And I may be a bit odd but lover doesnt that also suggest a relationship in some form?

Like you I've become disillusioned with fab and wandered away from time to time. I stay now for the forums mainly.

We are all human yet sometimes that lack of humanity is displayed by both sexes.

It's just a personal view but friend lover maybe more it's inbuilt into most of us part of our humanity and need for personal interaction at all levels not just for sex.

We can all get sex, well almost all probably, but without all the other elements of a full complete and contented life I really dont see the point..

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By *on a MangerMan over a year ago

somerset/Bristol

"Ok...

I recently had a guy msg me " I'm working in your area. Can I pop in on my way to my next job?"

Never spoken to the guy im my life. He knew nothing about me, not even what I look like.

I responded " Quite apart from the fact that asking to visit a random woman, is frankly, creepy. Even guys that hire escorts usually have some idea of what theyre getting"

Tell me, was that rude or dismissive?

Or both?"

Well why respond at all?...

im not saying you need to reply... id have blocked and moved on...

But in answer to your question yes it was dismissive - and im guessing the urge to have the last word was the reason you replied.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok...

I recently had a guy msg me " I'm working in your area. Can I pop in on my way to my next job?"

Never spoken to the guy im my life. He knew nothing about me, not even what I look like.

I responded " Quite apart from the fact that asking to visit a random woman, is frankly, creepy. Even guys that hire escorts usually have some idea of what theyre getting"

Tell me, was that rude or dismissive?

Or both?

Well why respond at all?...

im not saying you need to reply... id have blocked and moved on...

But in answer to your question yes it was dismissive - and im guessing the urge to have the last word was the reason you replied."

The last word?

No my friend, I was trying to illustrate to him that women on here are not here to be at men's beck and call

And that gents on here would probably do better if they were a tad more discerning

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Must admit I have thought about leaving. Its only the forums that keep me here. Always bombarded with awful messages and end up hiding my profile for peace an quiet.

Isnt friendship a relationship too?

And I may be a bit odd but lover doesnt that also suggest a relationship in some form?

Like you I've become disillusioned with fab and wandered away from time to time. I stay now for the forums mainly.

We are all human yet sometimes that lack of humanity is displayed by both sexes.

It's just a personal view but friend lover maybe more it's inbuilt into most of us part of our humanity and need for personal interaction at all levels not just for sex.

We can all get sex, well almost all probably, but without all the other elements of a full complete and contented life I really dont see the point..

See this is why I hate using labels. Agreed a lover or friend is a relationship but not the relationship people it label what I want with.

In other words I want someone regular for sex but not just sex. That's too cold. But I dint want full on 3 words and moving in stuff either.

How do you put that into words or labels correctly?Where you'd have respect for the other person and not just use them and treat them well and for the person they are.

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By *rCheeky44Man over a year ago

a town near you

I've given up trying to get replies on here now. There are just so many on here and so many rude people that cant take no for an answer. I totally understand why women just delete or don't reply to messages. I got so frustrated with my messages being read and never getting a reply. I'm not one for lets meet now. I like to get to know a person and click with them, then have a social. in the early days of this site it was great. 9 times or of 10 your messages got answered even if it was to say no thank you. but now I think there is just so many people on here now

I know just find out when local socials are on and go to them to meet people. you get honest people at them who will chat.

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By *r MoriartyMan over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

It's a swingers site, try and have realistic expectations. You're only setting yourself up to fail if not and you can't blame anyone else for that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I must have heard of 7 women in the last 3 months who are getting fed up with men thinking they will get a qucik fuck from them 4 of the 7 I know of have the left the site

So here go's this isn't for every man on here but can you read a woman profile in full first before you message us

We are all at diffrent levels of this some dont even swing on here

We not all going to give you a quick fuck so please home work first

So going to open this forum see what folk say

I got one read the profile many time to read I’m not suited to this lady then I block as I don’t need to look at this profile again,is this wrong